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#1894 More Q & A - Harps · The You Project

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Speaker 1: O get a bloody champions. Happy Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday,
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Speaker 1: whatever day, whatever day it is, I hope it's happy.
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Speaker 1: It's happy for you. I hope it's good for you.
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Speaker 1: And if it's not good, well that's okay too, because
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Speaker 1: shit days are part of the human experience. So we're
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Speaker 1: not chasing twenty seven thousand happy, amazing, beautiful days in
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Speaker 1: a row. We're just trying to survive all the days
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Speaker 1: that we do have. Nonetheless, wherever you are, whoever you are,
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Speaker 1: I hope you're going okay. Be it a good day,
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Speaker 1: a bad day at peak, or a trough, I hope
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Speaker 1: you're doing all right. So after that bloody meandering introduction
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Speaker 1: or hello, I was doing a I was going to
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Speaker 1: do like a little series, like a little group. What's
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Speaker 1: the collective now for podcasts? A herd, a swathe, a flock.
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Speaker 1: I was going to do a flock of podcasts which
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Speaker 1: will based on questions from you, the list listeners. And
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Speaker 1: so I chucked up a little thing or two on
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Speaker 1: I put one in the Facebook group and one of
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Speaker 1: my main Facebook page, and I've got somewhere around sixty
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Speaker 1: or seventy questions answered, a few of them I did
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Speaker 1: my first episode and then, like four year old in
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Speaker 1: a lolly shop, I got distracted. Nonetheless, I'm back. So,
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Speaker 1: like I said, there's lots of questions, and what I've
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Speaker 1: done is or what I'm going to do. I'm working
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Speaker 1: through them one at a time, obviously, and I'm trying
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Speaker 1: to talk about topics or questions or ideas that are
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Speaker 1: broadly relevant. Some of them are in a little bit
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Speaker 1: specific to a very small percentage of the population, and
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Speaker 1: as a listening experience for the entire population or a
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Speaker 1: big audience, a big cross section of humanity. I've, for
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Speaker 1: better or worse, I've made the decision to try and
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Speaker 1: make this as broadly elevant and engaging and helpful to
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Speaker 1: as many people as possible. I may or may not
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Speaker 1: execute that. We'll see anyway. So question one today is
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Speaker 1: from Aaron Scully. Eron says. Eron says she didn't even
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Speaker 1: say get a harps. Come on. Aeron. Eron says, maybe
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Speaker 1: talk about the subconscious mind and the importance of retraining it.
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Speaker 1: That's such a good idea. You can read. This is
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Speaker 1: from Aaron. You can read every self help book and
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Speaker 1: fail because the beliefs in your subconscious mind are running
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Speaker 1: the show. That is largely true. Our subconscious mind is
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Speaker 1: operating obviously below and behind the old subconscious kind of
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Speaker 1: realm that we tend to inhabit a lot. Eron says,
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Speaker 1: true lasting change requires reprogramming deeply ingrained beliefs and patterns
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Speaker 1: that reside in the subconscious. The question is how to
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Speaker 1: do that? That is a good question. Remember, everything I'm
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Speaker 1: sharing today is just me thinking out loud. None of
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Speaker 1: this is a personal personal prescription or recommendation or program
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Speaker 1: per se. It's just me thinking out loud. And so
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Speaker 1: then the idea with these I think is I share
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Speaker 1: my thoughts and ideas, and I guess feelings or research
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Speaker 1: on whatever the topic is, and then you figure out
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Speaker 1: what you may or may not do with that. You
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Speaker 1: may do nothing, you may do something. You might go
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Speaker 1: you know what, I'll roll the dice, I'll try that.
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Speaker 1: I'll see what happens. I'll do that for a week
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Speaker 1: or two, or you might go fuck it. Fuck, I'm
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Speaker 1: going to jump in AI and I'm going to do
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Speaker 1: a little bit more investigation and research into that idea
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Speaker 1: or that construct or that strategy, and then I might
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Speaker 1: operationalize it in my own life, But that is all
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Speaker 1: up to you. I'm not here to tell you what
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Speaker 1: to do. I'm just a conduit to ideas and thoughts
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Speaker 1: and information. But managing your life and making the decisions
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Speaker 1: is obviously up to you. Does that sound like a
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Speaker 1: big disclaimer? As it was coming out of my mouth,
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Speaker 1: I was thinking, my lawyers would be so happy if
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Speaker 1: I have lawyers. Grown ups have lawyers. I don't. All right,
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Speaker 1: So let's talk about I'm really fascinated with the subconscious mind.
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Speaker 1: That I'm fascinated with the way that our subconscious mind
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Speaker 1: shapes and forms, and the role that it plays, the
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Speaker 1: influence known or unknown that it has in our choices,
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Speaker 1: our actions, our behaviors, our reactions, our relationships, our words,
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Speaker 1: our conversations, our career, the way that we manage good
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Speaker 1: things and bad things, the way that we navigate or
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Speaker 1: perhaps create stress and anxiety, all of those things. But
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Speaker 1: I guess, I guess what we know about the subconscious
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Speaker 1: is that it basically is shaped. And I guess what's
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Speaker 1: the word it learns? It gets programmed through rep Titian
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Speaker 1: not logic. So if you expose your subconscious to the
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Speaker 1: same stimulus or the same message or the same behavior
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Speaker 1: often enough, then that thing will start to embedras you
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Speaker 1: in your subconscious as truth, absolute truth, even if it
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Speaker 1: may not be the absolute truth, but if you hear
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Speaker 1: it enough and think it enough. So an example that
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Speaker 1: I've spoken about many times on this show is the
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Speaker 1: you know, growing up in a particular environment of a
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Speaker 1: thought a thought cult, where we all, you know, believe
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Speaker 1: the same things. We all Mum and dad believe X,
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Speaker 1: and why so we believe X? And why Mum and
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Speaker 1: dad eat this way? So we eat this way, And
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Speaker 1: Mum and Dad believe in this God or that god
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Speaker 1: or this ideology or philosophy or theology, and so that's
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Speaker 1: what we do. And then so I grew up in
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Speaker 1: a religious environment, and through repetition and through familiarization and programming,
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Speaker 1: I eventually had my subconscious mind program to believe certain things,
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Speaker 1: despite the fact that I never really I never really
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Speaker 1: chose those things. That hardwiring, those ingrained beliefs, those ingrained
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Speaker 1: patterns and habits and ways of thinking, that embedded ideology,
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Speaker 1: that embedded version of the truth, that happened, that happened
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Speaker 1: as a byproduct of just being exposed to certain people
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Speaker 1: and certain ideas and certain thinking over a long period
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Speaker 1: of time. Now you think about that, So what is
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Speaker 1: maybe the antidote to that, Well, the antidote to that,
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Speaker 1: or part of the antidote to that, is to think about, Okay,
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Speaker 1: is it possible that that thing that I believe, or
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Speaker 1: that idea or that belief or that value or that
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Speaker 1: whatever it is, that story that I grew up in
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Speaker 1: the middle of that is hardwired into my subconscious and
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Speaker 1: this is happening in the conscious, this is happening in
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Speaker 1: the prefrontal cortex. Is it possible that this is not
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Speaker 1: true or that part of it is not true? And
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Speaker 1: so maybe what we do is if we want to
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Speaker 1: open a new door in regarding say unwiring or reprogramming
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Speaker 1: some of that repetition and that programming, we start to
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Speaker 1: expose ourselves ourselves to new ideas, to a different information,
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Speaker 1: to a different theology or a different training methodology, or
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Speaker 1: a different political angle or whatever the thing is. But
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Speaker 1: it can't generally, or it doesn't generally happen quickly that
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Speaker 1: we reprogram our subconscious and for me personally, coming out
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Speaker 1: of an echo chamber of theology, an echo chamber of belief,
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Speaker 1: growing up in something that I didn't even realize or
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Speaker 1: recognize it took me a long time to reprogram my
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Speaker 1: subconscious or to it the very least be able to
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Speaker 1: challenge those hardwide subconscious beliefs and ideas. And so I
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Speaker 1: think part of part of it is recognizing that these
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Speaker 1: things didn't become embedded in my subconscious because I wanted
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Speaker 1: them to be there, or I chose them, or I
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Speaker 1: thought critically about them, and then over time they became
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Speaker 1: my normal cognitive, emotional, psychological, theological operating system. No, that
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Speaker 1: didn't happen. What happened was that shit just got programmed
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Speaker 1: into me without me even trying, without me even knowing.
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Speaker 1: So part of the antidote to that is being willing to.
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Speaker 1: By the way, if we can't even admit or consider
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Speaker 1: the fact that a thing that we've believed or thought
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Speaker 1: or been intertwined with as part of our identity for
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Speaker 1: a very long time, if we can't even consider that
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Speaker 1: that could be completely wrong or a little bit wrong
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Speaker 1: or somewhat flawed, then it's very difficult to unprogrammed that
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Speaker 1: subconscious programming, if you know what I mean. The other
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Speaker 1: way that this kind of subconscious programming happens is I
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Speaker 1: guess environment. You know, all of the and this kind
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Speaker 1: of reflects what I was talking about a minute ago.
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Speaker 1: But there I was really just talking about the stuff
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Speaker 1: that's just programmed into me, the thoughts and ideas, but
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Speaker 1: the environment that I'm in and the other stimuli that
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Speaker 1: I'm exposed to, different people, different cultures, stories, media, social media, work, environment,
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Speaker 1: social environment, relationships. All of these things shape, influence, and
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Speaker 1: form in part our subconscious operating system as well, which
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Speaker 1: is why sometimes we'll see kids who are raised in
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Speaker 1: chaotic homes develop subconscious patterns of anxiety, mistrust, and overfunctioning,
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Speaker 1: even if their conscious mind knows better later on. If
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Speaker 1: you work in an environment where you feel or you
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Speaker 1: live in an environment where you feel threatened or intimidated
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Speaker 1: or perhaps at risk, even down the track, when you're
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Speaker 1: in an environment, situation, circumstance, house, job, whatever, where you
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Speaker 1: are not at and you intellectually know that you're not
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Speaker 1: at risk, undoing that subconscious programming just takes It just
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Speaker 1: takes time. It takes time, and while there there there
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Speaker 1: are no quick fixes to this stuff for me, And
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Speaker 1: again these are just my thoughts. I believe that reprogramming
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Speaker 1: our subconscious is about consistently, methodically intentionally exposing ourselves to
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Speaker 1: new ideas, new people, perhaps new even new cultures, different
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Speaker 1: operating systems, different information, trying different things, doing different things,
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Speaker 1: being in different places, and once we recognize, once we
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Speaker 1: recognize what it is that we need to change. Like,
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Speaker 1: for example, my relationship with food was very unhealthy for
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Speaker 1: a very long time. I've spoken about it, and I
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Speaker 1: had a subconscious and sometimes conscious obsession with making myself
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Speaker 1: feel good through food. I didn't smoke, I didn't drink,
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Speaker 1: I didn't do drugs. I didn't do a lot of
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Speaker 1: things that people do to get that dopamine hit, that
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Speaker 1: quick fix that ends to gratification. And so I was
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Speaker 1: always pushing the food button as my gateway to dopamine.
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Speaker 1: And there was just a lot of subconscious habits, thinking
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Speaker 1: rituals that I never chose around food, but nonetheless they
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Speaker 1: ended up becoming part of my day to day reality.
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Speaker 1: And so I think that for many people, for me, anyway,
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Speaker 1: trying to unprogram something, initially it takes one. We've got
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Speaker 1: to recognize that that is an unconscious program that's not
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Speaker 1: doing us any good, that that's an unconscious mindset or
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Speaker 1: kind of operating system that happens automatically, unthinkingly, that is
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Speaker 1: on some level a form of self sabotage or self destruction.
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Speaker 1: And so then it's recognizing, well, what is better? What
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Speaker 1: is a better operating system? What is a better way
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Speaker 1: to do this? And then how do I over time
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Speaker 1: embed that so that and this is the key, so
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Speaker 1: that becomes my new normal, my new normal. How do
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Speaker 1: how do I embed that in my subconscious And so
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Speaker 1: you know, it's like when people say to me, how
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Speaker 1: do you stay so disciplined, so focused, so committed? You know,
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Speaker 1: how do you have so much willpower and fucking strength
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Speaker 1: and all of these things to train every day? And
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Speaker 1: the truth is I don't have all that stuff. I don't,
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Speaker 1: but what I sometimes I do. But that's not why
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Speaker 1: I train every day. Why I train every day, why
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Speaker 1: I work out every day, why I walk my kind
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Speaker 1: of ten kilometers a day, give or take, and go
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Speaker 1: to the gym and lift shit, is because I've created
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Speaker 1: a new normal. I've created a normal operating system that
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Speaker 1: reflects who I want to be and how I want
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Speaker 1: to be. I've created a normal operating system that aligns
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Speaker 1: with my goals and my values and my standards around
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Speaker 1: health and wellness and human behavior and human optimization. And
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Speaker 1: because I've created that operating system which took discipline and
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Speaker 1: structure and organization and accountability in the beginning, but done
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Speaker 1: long enough, right, done long enough, it eventually becomes our
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Speaker 1: new normal. In other words, it becomes our new subconscious programming.
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Speaker 1: And now we don't need to, in inverted commas, try hard.
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Speaker 1: We don't need to white knuckle it. We don't need
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Speaker 1: to find the will power and the strength and the
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Speaker 1: courage because over time I've created a new normal. And
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Speaker 1: I guess the question is, you know how long does
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Speaker 1: that take? And my experience, there's no number, there's no
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Speaker 1: set number. It's different. It depends on what's the thing
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to change. How much control does it have
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Speaker 1: of my mind and my actions and choices and behaviors
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Speaker 1: and outcomes. Is it a fucking nine out of ten
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Speaker 1: debilitating all controlling thing or is it a one or
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Speaker 1: two out of ten? And I do it, but it's
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Speaker 1: not destroying my life. But I recognize that I need
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Speaker 1: to change it. So I think some things we can
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Speaker 1: reprogram and rewife one a better term quite quickly. Other
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Speaker 1: things are going to take a while. But on a
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Speaker 1: really practical level, and I'm taken fuck and way too
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Speaker 1: long to answer this. One question on a practical level
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Speaker 1: is recognize the thing that you want to change, the
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Speaker 1: thing that you want to make your new normal. So,
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Speaker 1: what's the current normal or the current subconscious programming or
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Speaker 1: unconscious programming that's not working? What do you want to
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Speaker 1: replace it with? Right? What is a better version? What
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Speaker 1: is a better mindset? What is a better protocol? What
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Speaker 1: is a better habit? Right? And then create Once we recognize,
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Speaker 1: for example, I want to I want to create a
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Speaker 1: habit of exercise, or I want to create a habit
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Speaker 1: of for me more specifically stretching, or I want to
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Speaker 1: create a habit of one hour of study a day.
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Speaker 1: I want to create a habit of Oh what do
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Speaker 1: I want to create a habit of working in the
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Speaker 1: garden thirty minutes, three times a week, whatever it is.
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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, it doesn't matter, It only matters
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Speaker 1: to you. But recognize the thing that you want to
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Speaker 1: be hardwired. Want to be hardwired into your normal operating system,
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Speaker 1: to be just part of who you are and how
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Speaker 1: you are, not what you're doing when you're in the zone,
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Speaker 1: or focused or pumped. And this is the thing about
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Speaker 1: recognizing what our subconscious programming is and how it derails
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Speaker 1: us and limits us, and then rewiring and reprogramming over time,
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Speaker 1: because what we really want to do in this space.
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Speaker 1: I don't know if this is helpful or not anyway,
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Speaker 1: you know when you second guess yourself. Anyway, what you
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Speaker 1: want to do, is, I think, or what we want
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Speaker 1: to do is we want to own a time, create,
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Speaker 1: like I said, a default setting, a new normal operating system,
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Speaker 1: a new programming in that subconscious that is a healthy
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Speaker 1: version of normal. So this is me on autopilot. This
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Speaker 1: is my subconscious programming which happens to be aligned with
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Speaker 1: my values and goals and who and how I want
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Speaker 1: to be. And it's not destructive. It's not ruining my life,
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Speaker 1: it's not giving me anxiety, it's not making me feel guilty.
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Speaker 1: It's actually producing good results. And initially the way that
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Speaker 1: we do that is we get clear about that. Then
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Speaker 1: we create some rules about that structure process accountability, and
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Speaker 1: we just dig in and we do it. We roll
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Speaker 1: up our sleeves, and we do it when we don't
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Speaker 1: want in inverted commas. We do it when it's not comfortable,
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Speaker 1: it's not fun, it's not quick, it's not easy, it's
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Speaker 1: not all those things I always talk about. But if
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Speaker 1: we can initially, and yes, initially there you are going
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Speaker 1: to need discipline, self control, focus, commitment, all of that initially.
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Speaker 1: But when we do it for long enough, when we
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Speaker 1: can get through the resistance, when we can get through
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Speaker 1: the emotional and psychological and physiological resistance of wanting to
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Speaker 1: give up because it's hard, when we can come out
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Speaker 1: the other side of that, we can build some habits
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Speaker 1: that are fucking life changing in a great way. That
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Speaker 1: was way too long. I apologize. Next question is from Tanya.
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Speaker 1: Go o U d I E. I'm going to go
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Speaker 1: is it? I don't know, I don't you know. You
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Speaker 1: know when you know, you're going to fuck it up?
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Speaker 1: So and then people are going to roll their eyes
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Speaker 1: and go is if it's pronounced like that. So I'm
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Speaker 1: just going to go. Tanya, You're welcome. Kenya says, why
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Speaker 1: do I always overthink everything? Emoji hand up to the face,
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Speaker 1: blonde lady emoji. I'm guessing tenure. So this will be
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Speaker 1: much quicker than the last one. Thank god. There's a
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Speaker 1: range of reasons we overthink things. But generally in my experiences,
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Speaker 1: it comes down to fear that we know that we
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Speaker 1: need to do something, or we think that we probably
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Speaker 1: need to do something, but we don't do it, or
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Speaker 1: we don't want it. We kind of want to do it,
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Speaker 1: but in the moment we don't want to do it
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Speaker 1: because we think we could get embarrassed, or it could
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Speaker 1: be hard, or there's some kind of perceived emotional, psychological, physiological,
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Speaker 1: or physical risk. We don't want people to judge us,
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Speaker 1: we don't want to be kicked out of the group,
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Speaker 1: and so on and so on. So overthinking in my
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Speaker 1: experience personally with me, I overthink things people, I overthink
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Speaker 1: things or I have overthought things in the past because
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Speaker 1: I was worried about what people would think or do
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Speaker 1: or say. So there's that insect security thing that's part
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Speaker 1: of it. And I guess also the self protection thing
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Speaker 1: where we we want to protect ourselves, look after ourselves.
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Speaker 1: So that you know why we while we love the
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Speaker 1: idea of vulnerability, being vulnerable being the real you, and
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Speaker 1: we love the idea of building resilience, but the thing is,
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Speaker 1: we can only be vulnerable and we can only build
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Speaker 1: resilience at the coal face of all of this emotional
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Speaker 1: and psychological stuff which fucking terrifies us. And so overthinking
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Speaker 1: doesn't make you weak or bad or flawed tenure. Overthinking
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Speaker 1: makes you very human. A way to perhaps overcome that,
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Speaker 1: or at least begin to overcome that is by breaking
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Speaker 1: it down and going and trying to figure out the
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Speaker 1: source of the fear or the source of that apprehension
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Speaker 1: or the source of the avoidance. Why am I avoiding this?
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Speaker 1: Why do I need to do this? Why am I
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Speaker 1: not doing it? What is that about? Is it a fear?
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Speaker 1: It might not be, it might be something else. For
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Speaker 1: me and for many people I've worked with, it's a
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Speaker 1: fear of something. Identify the fear. I spoke about this
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Speaker 1: the other day. A thing that I've asked myself lots
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Speaker 1: of times over the years with this stuff is what's
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Speaker 1: the worst that can happen? And this is a common
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Speaker 1: kind of strategy used in different forms of psychotherapy, is
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Speaker 1: to ask yourself, what's the worst that can happen? And
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Speaker 1: if I can deal with the worst, then I'm going
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Speaker 1: to jump in. I'm going to jump in if I
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Speaker 1: want to do it that much, if it's important enough
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Speaker 1: to me all right, next one, Kevin Murphy. Good keV.
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Speaker 1: I'm going to say your whole name, because I'm pretty
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Speaker 1: sure I'm not fucking up Kevin or Murphy. Kevin Murphy said,
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Speaker 1: you mentioned you don't like dumbell bench press. Why do
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Speaker 1: you use pin mites in your workouts at all? Or
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Speaker 1: only free weights? I did not say that, kid. What
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Speaker 1: I said was and if I did, I may have.
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Speaker 1: But if I did, then I fucked up because what
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Speaker 1: I don't what I don't love is barbell bench press.
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Speaker 1: So let me just clarify that. And I may have
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Speaker 1: misspoken or you may have misheard me. It doesn't matter
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Speaker 1: either way. Let me tell you exactly where I'm at
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Speaker 1: with that. So I can't bench press anymore properly. I
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Speaker 1: have to bench press very light, if at all, because
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Speaker 1: I've got fuck shoulders. So personally I don't love it.
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Speaker 1: I love, you know, the idea of like my training
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Speaker 1: partner Marquis Son Lucky, who's like fucking twenty five and
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Speaker 1: bulletproof benching nearly four hundred pounds. I love watching that,
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Speaker 1: and I love, you know, seeing young, big, strong fucking
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Speaker 1: blokes lifting things and young strong women lifting things. I
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Speaker 1: love all of that shit. But at the same time,
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Speaker 1: because I'm old and I've seen a lot of injuries.
22:58
Speaker 1: I mean a lot of injuries. I've had a lot
23:00
Speaker 1: of injuries. I've torn both rotato cuffs, I've ruptured my
23:03
Speaker 1: right peck, I've torn all the muscles, and you know,
23:09
Speaker 1: disk issues and being you know, injected with bloody cortizon
23:14
Speaker 1: a million times, and all of those things. So I'm
23:17
Speaker 1: older and more wary, and also I have a better
23:20
Speaker 1: understanding of injuries and recovery, and you know, I essentially
23:26
Speaker 1: do a cost benefit analysis some things. I go, what's
23:29
Speaker 1: the potential benefit, what's the potential cost risk and reward,
23:32
Speaker 1: all of that kind of shit. I actually like. I
23:37
Speaker 1: like dumb bells better because you get a better range
23:41
Speaker 1: of movement than with a barbell. So I'm not anti barbell.
23:44
Speaker 1: The only thing I don't like. The reason I don't
23:46
Speaker 1: love barbell bench press purely just from a as a movement,
23:51
Speaker 1: I love it, But as a potential health risk for shoulders,
23:55
Speaker 1: I don't love it because what happens when you do that,
24:00
Speaker 1: when you do that bench press movement, if you're sitting up,
24:02
Speaker 1: even in a chair now, and you put your hands
24:05
Speaker 1: out in front of you, straight out in front of you. Everyone,
24:07
Speaker 1: If you're going to do that with me, join along,
24:10
Speaker 1: Join in. And then you bring your hands down to
24:13
Speaker 1: your chest and your elbows go back past your ribs
24:16
Speaker 1: in a bench press movement. When you do that, your
24:19
Speaker 1: shoulder blades or scapuli they come together, they retract towards
24:25
Speaker 1: the spines, so they don't just sit there. They move
24:28
Speaker 1: in towards the spine, and then when you push the weight,
24:31
Speaker 1: they go back out away from the spine, so they
24:36
Speaker 1: move in on the downward or the eccentric phase of
24:39
Speaker 1: the bench press, and then they move away from the
24:41
Speaker 1: spine back into their normal position on the concentric or
24:45
Speaker 1: the pushing part of the bench press. Right. That's all cool,
24:49
Speaker 1: But here's the problem. Here's the problem. We are lying
24:52
Speaker 1: on a bench which doesn't allow your shoulder blades to
24:57
Speaker 1: track that way properly because the bench is somewhere between
25:02
Speaker 1: quite hard and pretty hard. And what happens is, even
25:06
Speaker 1: though you bring your elbows down and your hands down
25:09
Speaker 1: towards your chest and that heavy weight down towards your chest,
25:12
Speaker 1: your shoulder blades quite often get jammed, so they can't
25:17
Speaker 1: move along that plane. Towards the spine smoothly and then
25:21
Speaker 1: back away from the spine smoothly because they get jammed
25:24
Speaker 1: up in the bench. Now, this is people don't talk
25:27
Speaker 1: about this much, but it's actually not great for your
25:29
Speaker 1: shoulders at all. It's kind of shit. What is much better,
25:37
Speaker 1: what is much better from a shoulder health point of view,
25:40
Speaker 1: is using a fitball or whatever you want to call them,
25:42
Speaker 1: exercise ball, because you are lying on something which is
25:47
Speaker 1: much softer, so it allows for more shoulder mobility and movement.
25:52
Speaker 1: And also because of the shape of the ball being convex,
25:56
Speaker 1: that is, it's round, and if you are lying in
26:00
Speaker 1: the right kind of position, it actually almost fully allows
26:05
Speaker 1: or allows that shoulder movement to be fully functional and operational.
26:10
Speaker 1: There might be a little bit of inhibition, but not
26:12
Speaker 1: too much. So those are my thoughts. By the way,
26:16
Speaker 1: I use free weights, cav I use dumbells, bar bells,
26:20
Speaker 1: I use pinloaded equipment, I use cable crossovers, I use
26:24
Speaker 1: kettle bells, I use all of that shit. Anything heavy.
26:28
Speaker 1: But it's just working around injuries. And even you know,
26:31
Speaker 1: young dudes that are in the bench, in the bench
26:34
Speaker 1: in the gym lifting heavy heavyweights, there is zero chance
26:39
Speaker 1: that a twenty year old today who's training hard and
26:42
Speaker 1: heavy and keeps training hard and heavy, there's zero chance
26:45
Speaker 1: that he or she will not have injuries. So whether
26:49
Speaker 1: or not we will ever get injured training is not
26:51
Speaker 1: a question. The question is how often, how much, how bad?
26:56
Speaker 1: And even people who train perfectly no such thing. But
27:01
Speaker 1: even people who train really fucking well, they're going to
27:04
Speaker 1: get engined. They're going to get engined. You know, there
27:08
Speaker 1: are anyway, for a range of reasons, but I hope
27:12
Speaker 1: that at least addresses that question. Low gainer, Is it
27:21
Speaker 1: a joke? No, it's not a joke. I thought it
27:23
Speaker 1: meant like gainer, you know how a person in a
27:26
Speaker 1: gym is a hard gainer or an easy But it's
27:29
Speaker 1: not that it's g A Y N O R. Low
27:32
Speaker 1: So apologies low cool name. Though Lowe's question is crea
27:38
Speaker 1: team yes or no? For women? Fifty seven year old
27:42
Speaker 1: menopausal woman. Thanks, This is timely so again this is
27:51
Speaker 1: just me sharing what's come across my desk, so to speak.
27:58
Speaker 1: Metaphorically speaking. So, I've read more about creatine in the
28:02
Speaker 1: last few months, in the last three months than I
28:04
Speaker 1: have in the last three decades. I reckon. So the
28:09
Speaker 1: research seems to say that creatine is great for recovery,
28:19
Speaker 1: for building some muscle, for some tissue repair. But more recently,
28:29
Speaker 1: and most of you know what I'm going to say,
28:32
Speaker 1: but for those of you who don't, more recently the
28:35
Speaker 1: research is telling us that apart from the physiological benefits
28:38
Speaker 1: of helping you train better and recover better and maybe
28:41
Speaker 1: build a bit of muscle, that creatine is an amazing
28:46
Speaker 1: cognitive enhancer, that it has some real what the biohackers
28:51
Speaker 1: called nootropic no trop I see nootropic or kind of
28:57
Speaker 1: cognitive performance benefit. So the recommended dose, and again I'm
29:05
Speaker 1: not recommending anything, I'm just saying what the recommendations are
29:09
Speaker 1: somewhere between three and five grams. That's like a teaspoon
29:12
Speaker 1: ish per day for guys and girls, I think typically
29:20
Speaker 1: around five. The problem I have with that is, you know,
29:24
Speaker 1: different people respond differently to the same stimulus. So if
29:29
Speaker 1: ten people have five grams of CREA ten a day,
29:32
Speaker 1: you know one person weighs forty seven kilos, one person
29:35
Speaker 1: wis one hundred and twenty. Well, I don't know that
29:39
Speaker 1: that's going to have I don't know how that's going
29:41
Speaker 1: to impact the person with nearly two and a half
29:44
Speaker 1: times the body weight of the other one, or two
29:47
Speaker 1: and a half times less or whatever it is, right,
29:49
Speaker 1: So I think that these are variables and factors that
29:54
Speaker 1: are somewhat unknown, but definitely so anecdotally experientially. For me,
30:04
Speaker 1: I take about I'm going to say, I take about
30:07
Speaker 1: fifteen grams a day of creatam and I do not
30:14
Speaker 1: take many things at all. I take two or three subponments.
30:16
Speaker 1: That's it. And as you know, I've spoken many times
30:21
Speaker 1: about how important it is to keep your brain working,
30:24
Speaker 1: to keep your mind working, and to do the work
30:27
Speaker 1: to train your brain to learn, to research, to study,
30:30
Speaker 1: to solve problems, to consciously and intentionally do things. Where
30:34
Speaker 1: you are stressing in a good way, you are putting
30:39
Speaker 1: some pressure and stress on your brain to work, to train,
30:43
Speaker 1: to solve problems, to figure shit out, to be creative,
30:48
Speaker 1: because just like the rest of your body, your brain
30:51
Speaker 1: needs to be trained for it to stay somewhere close
30:55
Speaker 1: to operationally optimal. So the answer low is yeah. In
31:04
Speaker 1: my opinion, that's all. It is not personal advice. I
31:10
Speaker 1: think creatine for many people can be men and women.
31:15
Speaker 1: And I did read something yesterday or the other day,
31:17
Speaker 1: not yesterday, the other day in the last week. That said,
31:20
Speaker 1: it's actually has more benefits for women than men, So
31:25
Speaker 1: that's a good thing. So noel Ce Blundell or Blundell
31:30
Speaker 1: will go with Blundell right, impost syndrome? What drives it?
31:34
Speaker 1: How to control it? Impost syndrome is I think anyone
31:38
Speaker 1: who's ambitious or in people not so ambitious, but anyone
31:42
Speaker 1: who wants to achieve something, change something, be something, do something.
31:48
Speaker 1: I think most of us have a degree of imposter syndrome,
31:53
Speaker 1: you know, self doubt, not good enough itis. And I
31:58
Speaker 1: think what drives it, like a lot of things, is fear.
32:03
Speaker 1: And while I like the how how do I control it? Question,
32:08
Speaker 1: I think a better question, at the risk of being
32:12
Speaker 1: Jeeki Nole, A better question is how do I not
32:15
Speaker 1: let it control me? Not how do I control it?
32:19
Speaker 1: How do I not let it hijack my brain? How
32:22
Speaker 1: do I not let imposter syndrome hijack my nervous system,
32:26
Speaker 1: hijack my mind, hijack my choices and my behaviors. How
32:31
Speaker 1: do I not let impost syndrome hijack my potential, my power,
32:36
Speaker 1: and my possibilities And I think the only way well
32:41
Speaker 1: for me anyway. So this is speaking personally because imposter
32:44
Speaker 1: syndrome and me analogous peas in a pod. I admit
32:50
Speaker 1: it is me at times, at least so for me
32:53
Speaker 1: coexisting with it, Like the moment that I went, oh,
32:57
Speaker 1: I don't feel good enough. Oh, I feel like fraud.
33:00
Speaker 1: I feel like an impostor. But nonetheless, and generally that's emotional,
33:05
Speaker 1: like I feel this, but it's not often we go
33:09
Speaker 1: I am a fraud. We say I feel like, Oh, fuck,
33:12
Speaker 1: I feel like a fraud. I feel like an impostor. Notice,
33:15
Speaker 1: we always have that emotional kind of attachment. I feel,
33:18
Speaker 1: I feel, I feel, and I think that doesn't go
33:21
Speaker 1: away for many people, most people perhaps, and I don't
33:24
Speaker 1: know that you know, we're ever gonna live a life
33:29
Speaker 1: free of that for most of us. But I think
33:33
Speaker 1: I think being able to over time recognize it for
33:36
Speaker 1: what it is, so I can simultaneously think I'm a
33:40
Speaker 1: fraud while knowing that I'm not. I know, it depends
33:43
Speaker 1: what we're talking about. If I was talking to telling
33:45
Speaker 1: people that I've just won or I won three Olympic
33:47
Speaker 1: gold metals, well fuck, I'm a fraud and I know it.
33:50
Speaker 1: But if I feel like when you know, I'll give
33:53
Speaker 1: you an example. This is real life, real world. I
33:56
Speaker 1: can't give you all the details, but I can give
33:58
Speaker 1: you eighty percent of it. So I'm recalling this Sunday.
34:01
Speaker 1: Last week, I had three or four conversations with companies
34:05
Speaker 1: and potential employees I guess of me. In other words,
34:11
Speaker 1: people who wanted to employ me or use my skills
34:14
Speaker 1: to talk at their conference. And in nearly every conversation
34:19
Speaker 1: where we've got to talk about Okay, so what's that
34:22
Speaker 1: going to cost? Craig, Even though I've been doing this
34:25
Speaker 1: for a long time, and even though I have a
34:27
Speaker 1: track record that says, Craig, You're not terrible at this.
34:31
Speaker 1: So I have the knowledge. Now this is not an
34:32
Speaker 1: idea or an opinion or an emotion, but I actually
34:36
Speaker 1: have evidence and data and knowledge. I have historical evidence
34:39
Speaker 1: that says, Craig, you've spoken I don't know how many,
34:43
Speaker 1: but more than a thousand times, maybe two or three
34:46
Speaker 1: thousand times to different organizations, companies, teams, in lots of
34:49
Speaker 1: different environments, in different countries around the world. You've been
34:53
Speaker 1: paid somewhere between a bit and a lot, and you've
34:55
Speaker 1: been doing it for a long time, So you're not shit.
34:59
Speaker 1: So that's my evidence you're not shit, because here's all
35:02
Speaker 1: the data. At the same time, I can feel shit,
35:08
Speaker 1: like I can know that I'm good enough while simultaneously
35:12
Speaker 1: not feeling good enough. And so when I see it,
35:18
Speaker 1: when I recognize the feeling or the emotion or that
35:22
Speaker 1: the that the idea I guess that I'm not good enough,
35:27
Speaker 1: I recognize it for what it is, which is just
35:29
Speaker 1: a fear based kind of thing that's you know, temporarily
35:33
Speaker 1: invading my awareness or my space or my psychology or physiology.
35:38
Speaker 1: I see it for what it is. I don't try
35:41
Speaker 1: to control it. I just almost say like, I see you,
35:46
Speaker 1: thanks for dropping in, thanks for keeping me grounded, and
35:50
Speaker 1: I these days I almost have a like a friendship
35:55
Speaker 1: with it. It's like I for me anyway, a bit
35:59
Speaker 1: of self doubt, a bit of an pasta syndrome keeps
36:01
Speaker 1: me from having a fat head. And so over time,
36:06
Speaker 1: I think Noel. For a lot of people, the volume
36:09
Speaker 1: goes down. The impact reduces that capacity that at once
36:15
Speaker 1: had to almost emotionally, mentally and physiologically cripple me or
36:21
Speaker 1: stop me from doing something that's long gone in the
36:26
Speaker 1: context of my day to day work. Anyway, Having said that,
36:29
Speaker 1: there are other scenarios, there are other scenarios and environments
36:34
Speaker 1: where my imposter syndrome is alive. And well, you know,
36:41
Speaker 1: when I started my PhD, and even up until today,
36:46
Speaker 1: and I'm probably three or four months from finishing. But
36:51
Speaker 1: when I'm in that space, when I'm at university, when
36:53
Speaker 1: I'm talking with a bunch of academics, when I'm standing
36:55
Speaker 1: in front of three or four professors doing one of
36:59
Speaker 1: my milestone so an academic review of which I had
37:02
Speaker 1: to do for over the course of my PhD, When
37:04
Speaker 1: I'm in that space, I feel overwhelmingly like an impostor,
37:08
Speaker 1: like a fraud. But even then I know that I'm not.
37:12
Speaker 1: I just recognize that in this environment, they're better than me,
37:16
Speaker 1: they're smarter than me, they know more than me. That
37:18
Speaker 1: doesn't mean I'm bad, that doesn't mean I'm a fraud,
37:20
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean I'm an impostor. It means I'm human.
37:24
Speaker 1: But even in that environment, I'm okay with it because
37:29
Speaker 1: even though it can almost hijack my emotional system, it's
37:36
Speaker 1: still not going to control what I do and what
37:38
Speaker 1: I don't do. Alrighty so that'll do for the moment. Sorry.
37:45
Speaker 1: Some of those were brief, some are very long. You know,
37:49
Speaker 1: I'll do my best. Hopefully got some value from that.
37:52
Speaker 1: I'll do another one in the next day or two.
37:54
Speaker 1: That is my current plan. Anyway, Take care kids, enjoy
37:57
Speaker 1: your day.