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Distorted Feminine Energy in Modern Dating (And How to Fix It) · Mindful Success Path

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  There is a form of feminine energy and femininity being taught online that is extremely distorted.
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  In fact, if you follow this kind of feminine energy advice, you're either going to attract very feminized men.
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  Or if you do attract more provider, healthy masculine men, they're not gonna put up with you for very long.
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  And in this video I'm gonna be explaining what this distortion actually is and how it's showing up online and what true feminine energy is in partnership.
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  So let's get into it.
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  First of all, let's talk about why this is.
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  So important.
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  I think in the last few years, especially online, we've seen a lot of things start happening in the world of relationships, particularly in the western world.
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  Relationships are a hot, stanking mess in the West.
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  I'm talking United States, Canada, Australia.
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  Western Europe, Northern Europe, a lot of people are really struggling in the relationship department.
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  There's a lot of confusion that is going on.
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  I am, for context, I'm from the United States.
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  My husband and I currently live in Mexico.
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  Um, I'm Cuban of Cuban descent and he is of Eastern European Ukrainian descent.
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  So we have this really interesting perspective where we were both born and raised in the United States, but we come from more traditional.
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  Cultures, um, very different traditional cultures, but also very similar in a lot of ways.
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  So I, we, we constantly on this channel are getting all kinds of questions from women and also men who are just completely and utterly at a.
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  Loss in terms of the modern dating game, because the modern dating game is based on a lot of transaction.
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  It's based on a lot of trauma.
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  It's based on a lot of tit for tat, and it's not very empowering at all.
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  So on the one hand, we can't go back to the 1950s housewife, which as I have said many times on this channel, was a uniquely American construct and that the 1950s housewife was actually ex.
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  Extremely masculinized.
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  In many ways, that's not feminine energy.
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  In any way, shape or form because she was, you know, basically at home managing everybody's life, including her husband's life while she was, you know, popping pills just to get through everything.
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  And then the response to that was feminism.
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  Although feminism was a long time coming, but let's say to keep it simple, the response to that was feminism.
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  And then feminism taught women to compete with men.
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  And then that started this upside down topsy-turvy kind of world, which also was not very empowering.
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  And then now in.
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  Response to modern women in modern dating.
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  You have things like the red pill movement, which is extremely dangerous for most men.
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  I've talked about this before.
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  It starts off as like helping men with their self-confidence, but it's actually very manipulative and it's, it's still very feminized men, um, teaching other men how to be more feminized or it's men who've had really like broken relationships with women and also don't know what it's like.
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  To be in a healthy relationship and then they're the ones going around yelling about 50 50 and single moms and all kinds of stuff.
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  And then in response to that, you have a lot of the feminine energy content online, uh, some of which is very useful.
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  Feminine and masculine energy and polarity.
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  These are concepts that have been around for thousands of years.
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  You can find them in every religion in the world.
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  You can find them in every spiritual tradition in the world.
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  It's universal.
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  Um, however, some of the versions that are being taught online right now are simply just another pendulum swing in response to the red appeal movement.
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  And they're telling women some very dangerous things that don't actually work out in relationships.
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  So if you hear any of this, please note that it is not healthy feminine energy.
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  What it is, is that you are co-opting feminine energy traits or characteristics to basically manipulate a man and get some sort of an outcome, which would still be putting you in your masculine energy.
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  So let's go through what some of these things are.
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  Distortion number one is teaching women to be lazy.
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  So there is this, um.
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  There's a, a, a meme that was going around, or a TikTok or a YouTube short, I think it was a YouTube short.
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  I should have saved it to like put it here and play it for you guys.
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  But the premise of the YouTube short was as follows.
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  It was a cartoon and, um, a man gets home from work.
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  He makes six figures.
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  He's paying all the bills he's providing, and he gets home from work and he gets in a fight with his girl wife.
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  I'm not sure if they were married or not in the cartoon because she spent$800.
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  On, um, takeout that month, uh, rather than cooking, and then she starts arguing with him about how he makes six figures and she, he should just provide for her just because, and that she doesn't have to do anything.
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  And basically she was an entitled brat, um, which I'm gonna get to.
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  In a second as well.
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  And the man in the video was making the argument that that wasn't actually a partnership.
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  That even if he was making six figures, her not showing any appreciation or her not, um, doing any.
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  Anything reciprocal.
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  Uh, not necessarily in terms of money, like she doesn't have to reciprocate in terms of money, but basically in just not being lazy.
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  So there's this idea going around online right now where women just sit back, do absolutely nothing, and then basically expect men.
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  Fund their lives.
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  Now there is this portion of feminine energy where yes, we are meant to rest.
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  And I think part of what's going on here is that women have been pushed into being very masculine.
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  And this happened to me, right?
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  And you burn the F out.
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  That happened to me.
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  And you have to basically swing the pendulum in the other direction in order to regroup and rebalance yourself.
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  But that does not mean that you sit around and do nothing, and that you're lazy and that you just extract from a man.
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  And I'm gonna get to extracting.
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  And a second.
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  And by the way, to the men who watch this channel, I need you to understand this too, because if you're dating a woman who's doing any of those, thi these things run right?
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  Because there are, there are signs, uh, that show up from the very beginning.
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  So the first one is this idea of laziness.
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  You sit around doing absolutely nothing.
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  All day long while he busts his behind basically to provide for you, and then you are entitled, uh, in terms of his provision.
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  Here's what these women don't understand.
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  The ones who, who think this, they're like, oh, a man is here to just fund my life.
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  Style.
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  That's what a lot of women out here these days think, right?
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  Like, oh, if I wanna go eat at five star restaurants, then the man needs to fund my lifestyle.
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  Um, I want an Hermes bag.
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  I want a Chanel bag.
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  First of all, y'all are focused on things that don't even matter at the end of the day.
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  I have a Chanel bag, you know, I have some designer things.
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  Like, it really does not matter.
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  It's not that important really, at the end of the day.
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  Are they nice?
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  Yes, but they, they don't matter.
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  Um, it's just materialistic.
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  Things.
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  That's all it is at the end of the day.
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  So you're already focused on the wrong things because that's totally not going to keep a relationship intact.
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  The second thing is that it's just a very immature way at looking at partnership and relationship because the truth is you're not entitled to anything a man does not have to provide for you.
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  Men provide for women that they see are valuable, um, and that they see are going to multiply their life because the role of a woman in a man's life.
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  Is actually to multiply the fruits of his efforts.
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  That's what it is.
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  Every spiritual tradition talks about this.
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  Can she do that just by her presence?
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  Yes, and I'm gonna get to presence momentarily because a lot of women are very confused about this too, but it's literally a multiplication of his efforts now, literally.
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  That may look like children, right?
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  Like there's a multiplication of the family, but it's not just children.
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  It's not just meant to be literal.
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  I've also seen this happen with finances.
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  When men get married to a good woman, he's gonna make a lot more money, right?
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  Statistically facts.
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  I know a lot of the red pill guys get told that, um, you know, it's 50% of divorces and that women just take money from men.
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  No, when you marry a good one and you marry a good woman.
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  Men end up making more money, and they also live longer, and they're shown to have less cognitive decline as they get older.
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  So marriage is actually good for men and it's also good for women just in different ways.
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  So the multiplication could also look like, you know, financially like your support, not your labor.
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  Right, but your emotional support, um, or your, the fact that you're able to get a lot of things off of his plate.
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  So for example, you know, my husband works his behind off in, um, his business and sometimes, right.
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  He needs my help to go in, right?
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  He'll be like, Hey, there's too much foot traffic at the office.
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  Can you come help me?
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  Or, Hey, there's an event this weekend.
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  Can you come help me at the event?
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  Of course I'm his wife.
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  I'm going to go help him.
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  But a lot of what's being taught in the.
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  Feminine energy spaces is that you shouldn't even be doing that.
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  And that's just called laziness.
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  It's pure laziness.
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  Now I also understand that a lot of women are afraid that if they support a man, that they are building a man.
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  Uh, you're getting it with a build a bear, so on and so forth.
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  But what happens a lot of times, and this is where nuance comes in, is women will get in relationships with men who are doing absolutely nothing.
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  And then because they were in a relationship with a man who was lazy, was doing absolutely nothing, and she was paying all the.
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  Bills.
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  Then oftentimes she swings to the other extreme.
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  So that's where that comes from.
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  The truth, as per usual, lies somewhere in the middle, especially when you are in long-term partnerships where the both of you are going to be supporting each other.
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  Okay.
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  The next thing that that video talked about was presence.
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  Like the, the woman in the video kept saying like, you should pay all my bills just because my presence is enough.
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  Okay.
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  Most women who yell about this have no idea what feminine energy presence even is.
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  So let's talk about it, because if you're going around yelling about my presence is enough and you should be paying all the bills, that's a red flag to a healthy man that you were just an immature.
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  Female.
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  That's all that means in re because you're yell, you're not giving him any peace.
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  You're just creating a lot more chaos.
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  Feminine energy presence, um, is actually quite mature and it's grounded.
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  Again, it doesn't mean that you're carrying a man.
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  Women are afraid of carrying a man and many women have carried men, uh, which they shouldn't have been doing.
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  And yeah, men need to step up too, but that is not the same as what, as just demanding that a man.
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  Fund your life again while you do absolutely nothing.
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  Another example would be resources.
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  Healthy masculine men want women who know how to be resourceful.
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  And the woman in this video, uh, or the cartoon I should say, was not being resourceful because she was taking his money and basically just spending it on a bunch of frivolous things.
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  Think it was like 800 bucks on takeout.
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  And he said, well, I mean, if you're home all day long, like why don't you just make meals and then we don't have to spend so much money on takeout.
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  The man in the video was understandably very frustrated because he's working his butt off and she's just wasting his money.
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  And healthy, masculine men don't like it when women waste their money.
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  They don't.
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  Now, there is a difference right between being responsible and being wasteful.
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  And one of the things that's interesting is, for example, my husband pays mo all the bills, right?
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  I don't pay any of the survival bills at all.
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  In fact, I don't think I pay for anything, um, at this point.
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  He pays for it and he manages the money.
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  And then of course he sends me money every month for like, for example, I have to pay the grocery delivery guy or, you know, to put in my own savings and investments and things like that.
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  So whatever money's made from the businesses, I get a piece of that.
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  Of course.
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  Um, that being said, I'm not going around taking his business card or his credit card or, um.
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  His, his bank accounts, and then just being completely frivolous and wasting all the money.
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  And again, this is just immature energy, healthy masculine men, like women who are resourceful and responsible.
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  And honestly, at the end of the day, this all just comes down to maturity.
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  A lot of the feminine energy stuff that's being taught online right now is actually very immature.
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  Very juvenile, very tit for tat, very, um, it, it is just a ano, the pendulum swinging in the other direction again.
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  And then they're using feminine energy to be like, this is what feminine energy is.
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  And most of them are just not even.
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  Understanding it.
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  Uh, and they're just teaching women how to extract from a man.
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  So here's the other thing that was interesting about this video and something that a lot of women get wrong.
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  There is a difference between receiving from a man and extracting from a man.
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  Men love to give and they love women who receive, they do not like women who extract their resources.
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  Let me explain the difference.
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  Uh, my husband, very masculine provider man, gives to me all the time.
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  I recently did a story about how he bought me a purse, that he saw me looking at it and I really liked it.
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  I said nothing.
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  I didn't go out here and be like, I demanding that he buy me a purse, or that if he really loved me or was a real man, or if he was a provider, that he would buy me a purse.
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  I was just like, that's a really pretty purse.
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  That's it.
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  And I left it alone.
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  I forgot about the purse.
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  Three days later.
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  Um, he had the purse waiting for me.
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  He had bought it for me.
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  Because he noticed that I had like it and then I go into receivership of it.
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  Oh my gosh.
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  Thank you so much.
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  I think I cried a little bit, um, actually, and I really received it.
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  I love receiving from my husband.
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  That's not the same as what a lot of women are being taught, which is the ex what, what?
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  I was just.
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  Doing what I was just playing out, which is, if you were a real man, you would be buying me this.
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  If you were a real man, you would be taking me out to five star restaurants if you were a real provider, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  Again, it's very immature energy.
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  True feminine energy is rooted in maturity, and it's rooted in regulating your nervous system and regulating your emotions because women.
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  I'm just gonna say it.
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  We tend to be very emotional and we tend to make decisions, uh, with our emotions until we are able to mature.
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  Now, our emotions are a beautiful thing.
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  Our sensitivity is a beautiful thing.
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  Uh, it's, it's a wonderful thing that we have, but if women don't know how to regulate themselves, then that gift can turn into a weapon, and that's where most women are these days in terms of being able to regulate themselves or use.
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  Their emotions.
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  So those emotions turn into entitlement.
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  Those emotions turn into drama.
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  Those emotions turn into chaos.
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  Those emotions turn into telling a man that if he really loves you, he would be buying you X, Y, and Z.
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  Which to a healthy man sounds like, let me run for the hills, let me run for the hills and get away from this woman as soon as I possibly can.
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  That's what that sounds like, because again, right, you're not mature, you are not regulating your emotions.
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  You're coming into it from a very entitled space.
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  Um, healthy men don't like entitlement.
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  You're trying to extract from him rather than receive.
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  From him.
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  And these are very important concepts for women to understand.
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  So I'm gonna be talking more about it on this YouTube channel as things, uh, progress.
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  One place where if you wanna go deeper is you can get our Magnetic Woman transformation bundle.
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  I talk a lot about nervous system regulation in there I talk a lot about healthy feminine energy in there and what it looks like.
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  I talk about healthy masculine energy and what that looks like in men.
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  And there's a lot more goodies in there so you can get the Magnetic Woman Transformation bundle, and it's a really good place to get started and understanding the differences between like the immature stuff that a lot of men and women are being taught on the internet these days, which is actually extremely dangerous versus the stuff that's been rooted in thousands of years of philosophy and spiritual teaching and maturity.
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  There's a huge difference between the two so you can find the information for that below.
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  Thank you so much for giving me your time today.
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  I hope this helped to clear up any confusion.
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  If you have any other questions, let me know in the comment section and I'll be more than happy to make a video about it.