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Ive lost my Ramadan vibes ✨ · After Maghrib 🌙

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Hope you enjoyed the episode. Elohim Elohim Aslam o alaikum.
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Warahmatullahi wabarakatu and Rama Varma bark to all on behalf
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of the optimum gonna be team and a little bit TV.
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Welcome back and welcome to the holy month, guys.
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We've been anticipating, we've been waiting for this blessed
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month to arrive in the Handler by the rest of lost.
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Moms are allowed. We have now made it here.
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These are the days now where we should be taking advantage of
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all, the black blessings, all the butter cut that surrounding
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us and in sha Allah will be a month of growth for us a month
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of development of learning. I'm spirituality and to be
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honest guys, that's really what we wanted to focus on today as
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we step into this month. How do we remain spiritual this
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shared Bond really looked up how we're going to try our best to
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stay away from the things that we want to stop doing in this
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holy month and start doing the things that we want to do more
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of and in order to do that we have a very special guest but
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before we get to our guest, my co-host said at least some
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illegal. How you doing for to you and to
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see how we how you feeling going to the holy month?
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A lot of holy month. We've been waiting for all year.
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Yeah, you know, so time together show us the time where everyone
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can, you know, spiritually uplift themselves closer to
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Allah. So yeah, I absolutely absolutely
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exciting time. I think everyone's gonna be
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starting to feel it the first few days, right?
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Yes, sir. And getting adaptation and that
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sort of thing. But we do want to get straight
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into that ourselves. We have a special guest with us
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as I crossed a, the colors that are somewhat and you come and
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tell them to all all my listeners and viewers salaam
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alaikum. And with this Dua that may Allah
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give us strength and to prepare ourselves for Amazon and in
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she'll learn me. Allah keep us The right part of
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holy Island beit, El es Salaam in sha Allah.
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And I really want to take this opportunity to thank all of you.
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Especially, you know, 100 B team that you invited me for talking
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about Ramadan inshallah. So it's a pleasure for me to be
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here with all. Thank you, thank you for joining
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got tuition Centre, it's the right path.
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Tutors. We want to gather everyone at
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the platform where we can learn and make progress towards our
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had afterwards aim which is to make ourselves the way Allah
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wants us to be and holy as L by Del is Salim.
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Want us to be. So yeah that's what it is and
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main thing of me working for them that we want to You know,
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make an army of soldiers of Imam, Hussain a.s.
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ER, Imam is someone alehsalaam, that's what it is because that's
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what Kerala has told us. That's what you know, the
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teaching of for Yahoo beta is salamis there.
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So yeah, that's what it is and inshallah we will make sure that
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we keep this journey with everyone and we get whatever you
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want to do. So in Shallow, wish we kick off
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those closely. This is probably something we're
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all thinking about in terms of how to make the most of this.
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Month. Yeah, you know how, when you say
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Salam to me at the very beginning, I was like, you know,
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we've all been looking forward to the month of Ramadan.
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We want to get closer to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala.
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Yeah. And you know being now we are in
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the beginning of the holy month of Ramadan.
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I think I'm gonna ask you directly sister.
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How can we maintain our spiritual connection to a lot
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throughout the entire month? Because we can all be excited
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and you know, want to, you know, be a spiritual and close all as
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wonderful as possible but sometimes just before Leo any
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further we saw you know, go downhill.
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Yeah. Welcome.
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Brings us back to where we should be, but how can we
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maintain that throughout the month?
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Okay, it's a very nice question and very good question because
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sometimes people ask this if you think that how shall we overcome
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the laziness or you know the symptoms of hunger or whatever
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we face during during a glamazon.
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So what we can do, I mean, it's the whole year process.
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It's not only one day practice because you have to Be there all
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the time and it's not difficult to be honest.
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Because when you're practicing all year and practicing means
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that you have to be at that level spiritually where you are
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preparing preparing yourself, what with your body and with
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your soul, that you are preparing yourself with, with
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the month of for, for the, for the Rams up for, for the month
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of Ramadan. So what happens now?
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I mean, it's just there. So what you can do, just first
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of all, I think that. Why are we Foster?
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Yeah. What's what is the importance of
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Ramadan? Yeah.
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Why are we doing this? So as you know that in Quran,
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Allah says that this month is a very special month where we have
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sent down Quran because it's the source of his diet and it's the
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source of guidance. We so initially, you have to
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think that okay, Ramadan is the month which is going to be
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purify us and which is going to be Keeping our energy level
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spiritual energy, which is we're talking about.
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So it's going to be boosted during Ramadan.
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Why? Because in this month
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automatically, I mean you think that whether you call it that,
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it's the mindset or whether you call that it's it's the reality
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but what happens that you think overall done is coming whatever?
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We've been doing even it's bad or you know if you've got God
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forbid, if he think that okay we're listening.
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Music. Yeah, job when the time comes
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and I was not going to be all think, oh we should stop
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everything. So whether it's the mindset or
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whether it's at you call, it's the effects of Ramadan.
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Yeah. But whatever it is.
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That's what we should be thinking about, to be honest
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answer because there's a lot of opportunities for us.
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I think in this month. Yeah, said, you know, we've
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talked and we've spoken about this before.
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I think about, you have this phrase, people praying with all
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your eat with Maria. And then the idea is, is that
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you You can't achieve growth in your comfort zone.
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Yeah, you know, these motivational speakers nowadays,
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Tony, Robbins, and all these guys, they focus on various
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things, but the Crux of it. When you come down to, it is to
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achieve growth. You have to step out of your
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comfort zone, whether it's spiritually, emotionally,
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physically, whatever it might be.
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I think for us, you know what, I'm a Vine is meant to be hard,
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it's not meant to be a walk in the park.
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Like the idea is alized, is putting yourself in a position
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where we're meant to be exactly. Were meant to be challenged.
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Were meant to be tested for us to see whether What our
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potential is and you know, once you overcome it you look back
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in. Wow, did I really just go a
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month without eating or did I really go month?
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Praying on time and spending time with family and reflection
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on, that means that then you understand your personal
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potential is greater than what you thought it might have been.
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But you know, it's this is this is kind of what I find exciting.
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Obviously stepping into month, we're recording this just before
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the holy month, Begins the main thing, which I'm worried about
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is my productivity, you know? I mean, I'd The last year, won't
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remember, we will speak in German on my line and I was
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telling you that I keep falling asleep at work, like I can't
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focus and I'm kind of struggling to get on with my database
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because of my fasting and because of my my focus on this,
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everything else is, you know? I mean struggling.
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All. Why do you feel like you're
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falling asleep? Sorry sir.
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Yeah just know. It's just like wow, I mean, in
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our kind of field, you know, we're working 8 a.m. to 6 p.m.
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here, which is the whole day. Pretty much.
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Then we come home, I'm the lab. We have this bar ready and we
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have family with us. And then I think for a lot of us
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as well, we have commitments in the evening.
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So either we have other work like filming or we have family
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commitments. We have if bars to attend and
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stuff like that. We're blessed that we have all
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these things going on. Then I think a lot of people at
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home, might relate to this, but then you feel like your body
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starts to slow down. You know, just won't.
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Yeah, for for body, what you can do you can plan ahead, for
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example, you're spiritually. There.
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Yes, you have to do it, right? So what you can do for your body
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practice, you know, that it what you're heading for.
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To be honest, you know, that you're going to be hungry, you
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know that you're going to be at work as well, right.
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So what happens that you can start preparing your body?
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For example, you need to have rest.
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Mmm, so when after a star, just have a nice nap during the day,
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if you can just have a rest drink, plenty of fluid.
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To eat food which is more fiber and nutritious.
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So and prepare your mind because sometimes when you ask me when
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you gather people and you ask them.
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Oh huh, rumbling is coming. So what do you feel?
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And they say, oh God in Ramadan, we feel so lazy.
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And yeah, it would be coming late automatically.
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They think that, okay, I'm done is coming, we are going to get
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late. We are going to be sleepy.
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Some people say, oh, because I feel thirsty during Ramadan.
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I don't feel hungry, but But that test bothers me.
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So it's the frame of mind as well because you know, when you
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feel, I mean, forget about Ramadan.
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You are at work. It's like self-discipline.
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Yeah. It's the self-discipline.
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Don't think that your, that's the thing you have talent.
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He's talking about Ramadan, for example, if if you forget what
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I've done, that I've done is coming.
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So what happens during the day you might have noticed and I do
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as well. So sometimes I was an hour past
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my and with work, I don't even remember that.
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Wendy did anything. Yeah, even previous night at
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6:00, if I've eaten my dinner. So all day, I won't even think
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even in not a drop of water, so I'm so busy and but if I think,
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oh, I'm fasting. Honestly in Siobhan at few, I
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found a couple of fast and I'm thinking oh God, I'm fasting for
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God's sakes. What shall I do?
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I shall I drink my water? Or you feel more thirsty?
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And more hungry. Strickland, I don't have love.
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Lunch during the normal days. But when there is Ramadan you
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know when you're fasting, you feel like you remember the food
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around here you know you have to test, this
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is the test. For you ask yourself.
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This is the test you do coffee cup analogy analogy.
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Do you know what is it? So what happens that you think
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that whatever is in the cup? You know, if the copy coffees in
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the cup and someone bump into you, the coffee will come out of
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cup. Yeah.
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Milk is not going to come out to the cup.
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Why? Because when it's shaken,
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whatever is in the cup, it's going to come out.
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Hmm. So during the The whole year,
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whatever is in you, it's going to come out in Ramadan.
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So that's the main thing. You have to think about, you can
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put this analogy into Ramadan. So what you can do, all year, as
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I said before, now, from this Ramadan, start preparing
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yourself for the next Ramadan. So what happens, whatever you've
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been doing for past 11 months, whether you're praying, whether
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you're fasting, as Imam. Ali sallam said it, Hammered
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solenoid ever. Sell them said that during every
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month. Keep far.
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Three rows at three Ram three fast fast three times, I mean
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the monster outside of Ramadan because it purifies you.
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So what happens that when you are reading Quran every day, I
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mean, not every day. If you can't just read one Ayah
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not in a modem to, I'm not talking, I'm talking normal
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date, so prepare yourself that as if every time a lot is there
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for you and you know Madonna Allah says that I'm going to be
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your host and you're going to be my guest.
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Yeah. So it's such a privilege is
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going to be your host and he's going to give you whatever you
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want. Yeah.
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That's that's the main thing. The why?
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Because Allah wants you to come to him and how can you come?
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Because you should be purify yourself, you should be, we
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don't say that. You should be reading The Mars
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Volta to sell out all the time. It doesn't ask you to do that
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the reading of awful thousands of them off of during Ramadan.
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It's just a discipline as we should have discussed.
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It just discipline yourself and try.
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Prepare yourself to come near to Allah.
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So that's the main thing, the main reason I do, you know,
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being runs in Ramadan and that's the main thing here.
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Hmm. Solid solid, nice analogy,
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especially the coffee while I'm a very coffee addict.
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So, What happens that when you start the coffee?
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Yeah, it spins. And even if you get the spoon
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out of the coffee, it's still keep spinning.
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So, what happens that during the whole year?
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Your life is spinning like that, okay?
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So even in the month of Ramadan, it will be in the same Circle.
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So you have to break that same routine.
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So that's what you need to do. Come out of that cycle, come out
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of that. Cycle, which you you've been
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doing all your life or all those 11 months, just try to do
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something new. Start your life towards, you
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know, motivated towards the, you know, towards Allah and just try
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to do that to towards the holy activate alaysalam.
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So in sha Allah, don't forget, Imam of our time is here.
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That's important. So he's the one who's going to
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help us and he's always there to help you whenever you have a
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problem. That's what I have honestly.
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Our witness and I have tested and tried therapy.
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So what you can do when you are fasting, is before your fast,
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starts in the morning. Say, Salam to Imam you so much
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and ask him for help ask him. Hey Mom, please help me because
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you know my weaknesses you know my strengths.
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Yeah so just help me because I can't overcome hunger.
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I can't do this. I can't boost up my spirituality
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because this is how I've been I have been please forgive me and
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I promise you that I'm not going to do what I used to do before
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because obviously it's not, you know, nice what we've been doing
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so and then ask him for help and he will help you.
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Honestly, you won't feel hungry, you won't feel thirsty and all
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day, you'll feel boosted up with, with energy and
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spirituality. That's what it is.
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That's the the season of Ramadan especially for us, Sakura is
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what we're trying to focus on is two themes.
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And one of them is spirituality and one, Them is community in
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Charlotte for this month because I think at least that the holy
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month of Allah subhanaw, taala is instructing us to focus on
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these two things to build a connection with him and to
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understand that he's there to answer to and he's there to
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forgive us and the banquet like you said, the banquet of Allah's
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blessings are there and we're invited to that banquet.
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But also the community angle of things is that we have a prime
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opportunity in this month to connect with each other.
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You know? Like, there's so many
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opportunities we have with others, we have shocked.
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It's we have of course and the other we have a at the end of
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the month like there's so many things for us to build a
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relationship with each other and hence why guys it's very
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important for us to get that engagement with you as well you
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lot coming up in this holy month.
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Month, speaking of which said before if you remember but week
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or two ago, we put out a question to the viewers.
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We ask people, what do they want us to discuss on this particular
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discussion on this episode and we had two or three comments,
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which I found very interesting, which discuss the difference
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between men and women in the way they perceive Shyamalan.
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So men, I would say, obviously, I may be generalizing, but for
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many men, let's say for us as an example, we work full days, we
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come home and alarm. Ugh.
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There's not too much after our clothes time at work and then we
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come home and food is ready. Kids are relaxed.
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If you know we pray we eat and then when everything is done for
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us but for example, for some sisters it's a slightly
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different experience, says preparation.
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Making sure the families, all fed, everyone's happy everyone
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no one's complaining, no one's hungry, how do we think?
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Say firstly from your perspective there's like a sub
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for your for yours as well but how Do you kind of navigate that
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as a husband as a father like in your home because you've got you
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live with three sisters thought of it that way in my own home,
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okay, you mentioned what the viewers sent in and I remembered
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there was someone who actually elaborated a bit further.
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Yeah. System where they said you know
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during the month of Ramadan the men normally focus on
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worshipping a long going to the mountain coming home.
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Yeah. Whereas us we are limited
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spiritually. So we're always for example,
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have to make sure we cooking the food for the entire family.
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Yeah, so I feel like they can't achieve that spiritual, you
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know, height in this way, they can get closer to Allah because
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the limited to this is that true or is the ways around it?
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Well again comes come downstairs.
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There is reward by the way when you're preparing the farm horse
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and it again come down to your comes down to your your
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thinking. Yeah.
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How do you perceive these things?
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So if if I talk about Jan in general yes women have to do
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while they're fasting. They have to cook food and that
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In you feel more hungry? Yeah, you're eating you know
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you're cooking and you know smell of the food.
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You feel God I want to eat it but yeah and this is an another
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thing on top of, you know, your extra hard work in while you're
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fasting. Yeah.
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So I think we will be rewarded for that hundred percent.
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Yeah can I can I ask if you don't mind me asking okay, I
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know obviously there's that thing a month.
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My mom and everyone used to say when I was growing up, that
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women are allowed if I'm not mistaken to smelled or even
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taste the taste of it. It with the near.
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Yes, it's not tempting being a mom, like you're fasting and you
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want to eat, is it not hard, but that's what I'm saying when
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you're, especially when I cook food for my family and because
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we they want some sort of healthy food, like, you know,
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whatever. They don't like, fried food, my
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son, he likes pakoras. I don't like this.
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And he says, whenever he doesn't have a single day without some,
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you know, that those fried. Yeah.
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And I have to cook for him as well.
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So you know, when you're you're tasting your your very favorite
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food and we tried to make nice food although we make it every
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day. But you know in Amazon if you
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make yourself more, you know, that you look at the dishes,
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what should I cook? What?
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It special effort. So when you do that, obviously,
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you feel hungry, honest. Take it from me.
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But what happens that? Again, you have to discipline
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yourself, you have to remind yourself?
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Unfold, the time that look, this is what fasting is all about.
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This is the test, so, if you're feeling more hungry, it's you're
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getting more sub. So, and actually it brings you
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more towards Allah, if I tell you, to be honest.
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So if you say it reduces spirituality, no it doesn't.
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Because after it gives you such a contentment that you are
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making people hungry. People eat their favorite food.
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You're cooking for them. You know, if you You know, if
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you help them do do to finish their fast and then we did nice
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food. So it gives you such a pleasure
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that you have done something extra for the your family and
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after that you've got plenty of time off after after a year you
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get tired. But after then you know, you've
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got plenty of time till to her. Yeah, you can do whatever you
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want to. Yeah.
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And that brings you more to enjoy.
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Yeah. Something recommended to have
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not real. I can have fast without doing
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any Circle, right over. It's a sauna and and you need to
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get up and then have something because it's there's a
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philosophy behind it as well because your body if you get
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more tired. So you know you need to have
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that energy for example, people prefer and it's enough Prophet
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Muhammad's Olson and whole yellow vital Islam as well.
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That I thought should be after mockery.
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Mm-hmm. Right after month after month.
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Put it this way but but they see that if you feel weak and you
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lose concentration in your Salah so have something to eat first
23:19
and then go for Scylla. So what happens that you know
23:23
regards to your question that try to make yourself more more?
23:29
Active and energetic and fill your, you know, appetite,
23:35
whatever you can. Yeah, get up in the morning for
23:38
Sahara, eat something. Even if you drink water, just do
23:42
that. Just have little bit of dates or
23:46
some grains. Even even not, they would help
23:49
you even Weetabix normally in our culture.
23:51
We have a lot of watermelon. Yeah.
23:59
They are so desperate because one of these ladies, you know,
24:03
our sisters. She asked me a question that she
24:06
gets panic when the time of, you know, fastest keeping fast near
24:11
future and she says, I start drinking water and Sarah, it
24:15
gives me such a tummy ache. And I said, no, this is not the
24:19
philosophy that you should be drinking water.
24:21
All of a sudden just make a habit of drinking water as much
24:25
as possible. For example, if at the time of
24:27
that, are you have Go light. Yes on on your food.
24:33
First of all, drink water drink have little bit of dances on the
24:37
prophet Muhammad saw Center and just give yourself a little bit
24:40
of time, go and read your Salah come back, and then start eating
24:46
step-by-step. But as the best way because
24:48
sometimes I find it very easier to pray Maghrib and I sure and
24:52
you for something very little. Yeah.
24:54
If you need a glass of water or small, When you're about to
25:05
press and it's nice because everyone is, I mean to be honest
25:08
this annoying because you've got dates than in your mouth and
25:10
you're about to stop praying and you can't have food in your
25:12
mouth when you pray but it's nice of course that you have
25:15
that. The other thing I wanted to ask
25:17
you was in regards to using that time between the star and so
25:21
whole purposefully, okay, so we live in a day and age where we
25:27
have Netflix and we have Like gaming and all sorts of other
25:32
stuff. Okay.
25:34
And a lot of people will use that time think well I only need
25:37
to stay awake a few hours. I'm going to stay awake till so
25:39
hurry. For example although it's not
25:41
too early this year but some people will stay up a lot of the
25:45
night and maybe not use that time.
25:47
Been officially we know. Of course these are nights which
25:50
are transformative. It can be transformative.
25:53
How do we use that time? Because obviously we've got the
25:55
energy then with our thirst is quenched and allow we have food
25:59
in our Alex, how do we then use that time?
26:01
Been officially for our own Advantage.
26:05
It's a very, very good question. I must say.
26:07
Because, because, when people ask you questions and then
26:12
there's one of I've got example of, I mean, people who ask the
26:17
sort of question. So there was one of our sister.
26:21
She has five children all grown up Masha Allah.
26:25
And what she said to me, she asked me as Anna.
26:28
There is one thing I To ask and the thing was all of them,
26:33
they're fast, they're not, they're not where they're
26:36
teenagers but they're not very, you know, they're not in their
26:39
20s but they are under 20. But if like them.
26:42
So all of them they are very they look forward to their
26:45
Amazon, okay? All of them fast but what it is
26:48
then when they come back from school.
26:50
So she says that up to that time, after reading Salah, what
26:56
they do, as you said that they said and they were Watch movies.
27:00
Yeah, until after that time and then after that they get tired,
27:05
they go to sleep and then wake up in the morning and then what
27:07
shall we do? And I mean this is something you
27:12
don't want in Ramadan. Yes, you can have a little bit
27:16
of entertainment. You can't say that.
27:18
It's 100% that you should be reading Quran and you know,
27:21
don't watch any nice programs or any documentaries or whatever
27:26
you watch but beer in your mind that Beast this time.
27:31
And these moments are not going to be back the most rewarding
27:34
time of the yes. So don't waste this time because
27:37
at this time, this is a very rare.
27:41
We are eaten. Every second counts as a bother.
27:44
Hmm. So do not do not waste this
27:48
Avada even Prophet. Muhammad saw son, says, that if
27:51
you are sleeping with your Ramadan, if it's your Rosa with
27:54
your fast. So each and every breath you
27:57
take while you're sleeping. It's a Well, I remember hearing
28:01
this was a little. Let me sleep all day.
28:07
Absolutely. So this is what it is.
28:09
You need to do just think about what you're going to do, right?
28:13
And again it comes down to your spirituality and your
28:18
understanding of your religion. That's the main thing.
28:20
I think it's small steps, isn't it?
28:22
Because people are on world on world on different paths and I
28:26
think everyone's a different stage of spirituality.
28:28
I mean, I haven't Friends who have said to me recently that I
28:32
do not know how to read the Quran.
28:34
For example, I can't read Arabic.
28:36
I've never been taught from Young or something.
28:38
I think you've got friends for example, who are Carly's and who
28:40
can recite fluently and to our martial law.
28:43
Fantastic. So I think, like, in terms of
28:45
how we utilize this holy month, maybe it's for us.
28:48
It's just Improvement if we can push ourselves to improve as
28:50
much as we can and not just in terms of quantity like I
28:54
remember a few years ago a few years ago.
28:56
It's a bit embarrassing. I was trying my hardest to this
28:59
is A long time ago, actually, I was trying my hardest to finish
29:01
the Holy Quran in the month. So I was just reading really,
29:04
really, really, really like a parrot on times ten speed.
29:07
Did I know reflecting where you're at the end?
29:09
I'm sick. And I will what on Earth have I
29:11
just done? Like I remember those one night,
29:14
I think it was like, thinking 27th or something night.
29:17
I was young. I must have read for like three
29:19
or four hours on, like, times ten speed YouTube everything.
29:24
And I'm just at the end of it, I was like oh finished, but what
29:27
was the point like I didn't? Okay fine.
29:29
Inshallah blessings and sound for us, perhaps reflection and
29:33
quality over quantity is also beneficial.
29:37
But I mean, whatever it is, we're doing whether it's letting
29:41
small-time. Yeah.
29:42
Even if you think about others, yeah, think about, you don't
29:46
have to do physically something. Which you think that, okay, I
29:50
have to read Quran. Yes, yes.
29:52
You do not need to but I think we should because month of
29:57
ramazan is the month of called I am.
29:58
So so so A humble as so you get more benefit.
30:02
Of course, reading Quran and these days in Ramadan that any
30:06
other month of the year. So don't again, don't miss these
30:10
opportunities, read Quran. And as you said that, after I'm
30:14
done, you know, you didn't know what you did, what you read but
30:17
it's not the quality. Not the quantity, it's the
30:20
quality. Yeah.
30:21
Even if you read one verse of Quran and go into the detail.
30:26
Read. Tafseer read in detail.
30:28
Why? This this verse says, what does
30:32
this say? What how can we connect
30:34
ourselves with this scenario with this, you know, the big
30:39
background of this Ayah? So just just do that even if you
30:44
think about these things during Ramadan that's any bother.
30:47
Yeah. And that would give you more
30:50
suburb and more it will bring you more near to Allah that you
30:54
are thinking about something. Think about others.
30:57
Think about the hunger of people.
30:59
When you lie down in your bed, think about poor people, how did
31:04
they manage to, you know, break their fast.
31:07
What did they do? Where are they?
31:10
Can we help them? And even if you can't help them,
31:12
for example, your intentions have been countered.
31:16
We can pray for those, you can pray for them.
31:18
Even that prayer, it even if you talk to people and give them,
31:23
you know, they're if they are not happy or they are facing
31:26
some problems, I do. Stem try to make their, you
31:32
know, they're thinking more relaxed and during the month of
31:35
Ramadan as well as well, other months would be talking about
31:38
something. So try to do that.
31:40
So it's going to bring lift up your spirituality.
31:43
You will feel the contentment that you've done something and
31:48
and one thing I just want to elaborate on Imam Ali Salim,
31:54
someone asked Imam, Ali Salim, that molar even real is Salam
31:58
and he Said that Mala, tell us how shall we find Allah in our
32:04
heart because you say that Allah lives in your heart.
32:08
So how shall we say that he is in our heart.
32:11
So, Imam smile, Danny mom said feel the pain of others in your
32:16
heart, whoever feels the pain for we, you know, rest assured,
32:22
that Allah is in your heart because a lot loves his people.
32:27
Yeah, a lot loves his armor a lot.
32:29
Loves his people because he has created them.
32:31
Yeah, so whoever has feelings and soft corner for his people.
32:37
Allah will have soft corner for you.
32:39
Yeah, so that's in Ramadan. Just just think about people and
32:44
in sha Allah, that will help you and do with the knee at whatever
32:48
you do. And this is another piece of
32:52
advice for everyone because we do things all the time.
32:55
For example, we wake up, we have Our breakfast, we go to school
33:01
or go forward, you know, to work, and we whatever we do, we
33:06
do the most make an ear that whatever we are doing.
33:10
We are doing it for Allah. Yeah.
33:13
So what happens that, whatever you do for Allah, even you open
33:17
your eyes and use the salon. Yeah, to a moment is enough.
33:20
Say shocker to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala.
33:22
So whatever you do is an everything is written.
33:25
Yeah. We Allah has fixed the camera
33:28
and that So, prompt and so accurate that it records each
33:33
and every moment of your life. So try to capture those moments
33:39
which will bring you yourself near to Allah, and which will,
33:43
and again, it's the month of forgiveness.
33:46
So, Allah says, this is the month of my, my people, it's the
33:51
month of forgiveness, I think, at the same time, there's where
33:55
there's there are kind of times of Temptation, okay?
33:59
A so there's a lot of times where people will slip or
34:03
worried that they're going to slip.
34:04
So let's say those who have stopped a bad habit.
34:07
Zachari you mentioned music or her job saved in the past.
34:10
We've talked about interaction with the opposite gender and
34:13
things like that. So there are people who are
34:14
going to try their best inshallah, we'll all try our
34:17
best to stop doing anything bad this month.
34:19
But yeah, they'll be time to slip said, what do you think?
34:22
Because we've done some discussion on this recently.
34:24
What do you think, our tips or advice is that you could give
34:27
someone in terms of trying to I could on, you know, certain
34:31
about how they approach this and not slipping into that.
34:35
Oh, I think like my opinions, you have to challenge yourself.
34:40
For example, you can you can have like a score sheet
34:42
mentally, you know, how we have like the good Angel and the bad
34:45
Angel? You know, everything.
34:46
Every time we do something that pleases Allah subhanahu
34:48
wa'ta'ala mentally, you can take off and every time, like you've
34:52
not listen to The Whispers of Satan shape, on line of to lie,
34:55
a lie, you can sort of, you know, particular off as well.
34:58
And you know, for example, Apple where you are as a Muslim?
35:01
Because I ultimately we all have the goal where we want gender.
35:03
Yeah, that's like our ultimate goal to make.
35:05
That's the nation. Is a story.
35:07
Is it? Maybe can confirm this.
35:09
But is it, you know, this thing, we've been propped to know, Shep
35:13
and is locked away. We mentioned at the beginning of
35:15
the discussion as well. I heard that really.
35:16
Is it true? And if, for example, someone is
35:19
still sinning during shot on my bond.
35:21
Does it mean they are a representative or
35:24
personification of shaytans Desire there?
35:27
And then I am I being my Chiffon or for example, does it mean
35:32
Chef ostler? Actually, like looked way but I
35:34
have access to a mini has access to me.
35:35
Am I allowed to blame it on him? Say no, it's not my fault.
35:38
He's still here. Well, how do we kind of approach
35:40
that well? Again, this is, I don't know.
35:44
Where did you get these questions from?
35:45
Because they're so people are focused on this question.
35:49
Yeah, that's what it is. And it's very good thing that
35:51
you're elaborating on these questions.
35:53
So this is another question because I work with children and
35:57
you know what, Young Generation as well because I Platoon Center
36:00
so they ask questions as well. So this is one of the question
36:05
that when, when the shaitan is locked up.
36:09
So but still, we feel like going out and this is, yeah, we still
36:14
have temptations. What shall we do?
36:16
So, first of all, just and they also asked that, is that an
36:20
imaginary figure shaitan? So what shall we do for that?
36:24
Yeah. Well first of all shaitaan is
36:27
not an imaginary figure or it's Not metaphoric thing, right?
36:32
Shaitaan has a body and Allah says that he was he was created
36:37
by fire, you know. So and we have got, I don't
36:43
know. We don't have enough time that I
36:45
would go at the back that we're what happened in the history
36:49
when Allah created Prophet Adam alayhis-salam and then he asked
36:55
all the Malaika and angels to do prostrations.
36:59
Ian and I, please don't do that. So Allah said, then why didn't
37:03
you do it? And he said, they're sorry, you
37:06
have created with fire and you have created him with Clay.
37:11
So that means that shaitaan is there, right?
37:15
So he's there, it's a figure right now.
37:19
Being him locked up. That's another thing it's not
37:23
the case. As like a method to die in
37:27
Brahim. Yeah, it's sorry for him. his
37:29
very clearly Allah says that when the time will come and
37:32
shaitaan will say to people o people Allah has given you his
37:37
promise and I did my promise as well, but I did not fulfill my
37:41
promise. Allah has promised was the
37:43
truthful promise. So, now, don't believe me for
37:47
your bad Deeds because I didn't make you do that, I just invited
37:52
you to do that. He whispered.
37:54
So he whispered, but he didn't really hold our hands and didn't
37:58
know for solar Choice was the choice, and that's what he said.
38:02
And that's what the law says in Quran, that shaitaan would say,
38:05
do I blame you for anything I just called you and you said,
38:08
labaik on my call. So I didn't force you.
38:12
You just came to me because you liked it so because of your
38:15
nafs. So now shaitaan is there and
38:19
locked up you the chain. Is your Rosa?
38:22
Yeah. You when you're fasting your
38:25
fast is your about the, your Namaz, your Salah, your your,
38:32
because of nail art? Yeah, your good deeds, are the I
38:35
mean for him to look so it's us to metaphorically.
38:38
Locking him up. Yeah.
38:39
You as long as he's locked up. Yes, Darkness opportunity.
38:44
Allah says, if you lock up shit on, if you control your nerves
38:48
nerves nerves, is something which invokes you towards the
38:53
bad Deeds, right? And Imam says that if you
38:56
control your nafs, we sometimes is, oh, he's, uh, he's so nice.
39:02
He's like Angel, mmm-mmm-mmm series Angel, is not your
39:05
destiny. No, you're better than Angels.
39:08
You are a shovel. Must look at your the best
39:11
creation of Allah. So don't don't make your goal
39:14
that you want to be like Angels, you're not.
39:17
You're better than you can be. If you control your nafs, you
39:21
can be better than Angels at Angel would say Salam to you.
39:26
It's probably hard enough. It's the we always hear about
39:28
it. That's Jihadi akber, that's the
39:30
Jihadi adverb. Someone asks a mother who, what
39:33
is Jihadi aquarium? Mom said, oh, you're Not the
39:36
Jihad of your nafs is job and that Jihad is the Navy Yard with
39:41
nerves the fight with your nerves all the time.
39:44
So what happens if Mom says that when you control your nerves,
39:48
you'll be back to that angels and if you don't control, you'll
39:51
be as bad, you know, worse than animals.
39:56
So it's a big thing if you control it.
39:59
So this month, use this month to control yourself because your
40:03
mind is there. You know, that we are going to
40:06
do this. We're going to read the mouse.
40:08
We sell out, we are going to be fasting.
40:10
So Allah has given you this opportunity that when you start
40:14
thinking about it all will help you.
40:16
Allah says that. I'll be your man.
40:17
I'll be your host. Just help yourself.
40:20
Yeah, come to me, I would bring you forward.
40:23
So this is how you think about things.
40:25
Don't give excuses to yourself or shaitaan is there?
40:29
That's why it's, your time is locked.
40:30
That's what no. Yeah, even during the other
40:33
months, other day, As of, you know, of other months, just
40:37
think about Siobhan. It's such a beautiful month.
40:39
Yeah, it's month of prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhe
40:42
wassallam. It's such a beautiful that
40:45
beautiful month. That so many about dot are
40:48
accepted in the month of Shaban before.
40:51
Then it was Raja. So Roger was the month of Allah.
40:55
He said that this is my month so just tried to take the blessing
41:00
of absolutely and try to focus whatever you want to do.
41:04
That's the main thing. I'll just wrap up maybe on a
41:07
slightly more lighthearted note throughout the conversation up.
41:11
Of course, we have to remember look this is a holy month where
41:14
there's so much to be grateful for every every breath we take
41:18
and every opportunity we have to do about that.
41:21
But beyond that as well, even the food on our plates is very
41:23
easy for us to like we're going to be doing this across the
41:26
month and we're going to be talking about food a lot.
41:28
I'm already I can tell and you know, before we even mention as
41:32
a disclaimer that, you know, we don't want to Look boastful or
41:36
gleeful or whatever the word is for food in particular because
41:40
you know, we're conscious of the blessings, we have and happened
41:42
along that little bit TV. This month, we're doing a lot of
41:45
appeals. We're raising the lungs.
41:46
We're trying our best to support those who don't have the
41:49
blessings we do. But on that note on the
41:53
light-hearted that what is your favorite bar?
41:56
What's my favorite Shadow tells you?
41:59
Yeah it's none over. You know, the hopes or not.
42:05
Bakura got em, got em, got em, got a hot one, so I love it.
42:09
If you don't give me anything else, 23 pakoras with fresh non,
42:13
which I make very nice when you come next time.
42:15
I'll make sure I will hold you to host you and your team.
42:22
Is it whenever your time in India?
42:26
Not - any other words for everyone?
42:29
So if you come and then you will see inshallah, we will host you
42:34
and will make you nice. Ice your favorite foods because
42:36
I took myself. So whatever Nails is they are
42:39
cooked it myself. I don't want to give any other
42:41
person this opportunity to quickly ask for it, you know,
42:44
for as a dollar for every day cello and you can say it how are
42:49
you? You're gonna be surprised last
42:52
year, I found I was content in just bread and cheese with all
42:56
know. Oh well, this is very
42:57
surprising. But I found the very hours of
43:00
like I would have said, handle our sugar was literally bread
43:03
cheese and woman. That's a nice.
43:05
Frenchy's. Although I could have had this
43:07
before crave other stuff but like is the one thing I have
43:09
this is why I look forward to likewise in like a white.
43:12
It's celebrities pita bread like the white, she's like, but yeah,
43:27
I've heard that before. It's very simple.
43:47
Yeah, but as in lentils and rice for, they should timid March
43:51
basically, it's him in marshes as well, similar to the marsh.
43:55
But yeah, it's very nice food. Is it just takes the box for me.
44:00
Absolutely. And it's a bit of salad bit of
44:03
yoga. Salads up the flavor.
44:06
Yeah. Some some HR or some kitumba, or
44:11
something like that, pickle or something, perfect.
44:15
So to have a child. But sometimes, you know, when
44:18
you're giving lecture or, you know, use for your speeches,
44:22
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44:32
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44:36
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44:38
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44:42
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44:47
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44:52
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course as the holy month progresses to climb that list.
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We're very high and the land on the rankings for Islamic
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podcasts in around the world actually so it's it's always
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great but we want to be number one.
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We're not far so with your help we will get there and yes stay
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tuned. We have a lot of stuff coming up
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this whole you month and guys stay tuned and we'll see you
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soon. Door slam.
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What I did come to life.