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Welcome to the Diva Details. Welcome to the Diva Details.
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Where bold, confident women embrace life unapologetically.
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Just fearless conversations to help you thrive. Let's dive in with Diva Mia and Diva Cat.
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Well, hello. This is Diva Mia. Today I'm going to talk to you a little bit about
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leveling up and realizing your self-worth.
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So I know that when you've gone through a tragedy, whether it's loss of a job,
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loss of a partner, loss of anything in your life, a lot of times you might feel lost.
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I'm here to tell you it's time to really go inward and focus on yourself.
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Determine how you want to level up in whatever is your life you would like to improve.
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I think life is about growth. I know a lot of people do not have a growth mindset.
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They might play the victim or constantly complaining. But if you really want
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to go somewhere in life, you really need to level up. You need to take your life to the next level.
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And by realizing your self-worth, you can begin to level up.
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It can be because of a breakup. It could be because of your career is just stuck
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and you want to find a new career.
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Or maybe you want to just grow into a new field. The first thing you got to
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do is you got to intend it.
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You have to set your intention, and you have to focus on that intention every single day.
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When you wake up, that should be the one thing you're thinking of.
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I like writing things on note cards or journaling.
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When you do that, you're actually stating your intention, but you're repeating your intention.
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One thing I think that women do a lot, and I know personally I've done this in the past,
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is that I've muted myself or I shrank myself down in order to make a partner
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feel more secure with themselves or make someone feel like they're complete.
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You should not be diminishing yourself or your light in order to make another
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person feel loved or feel worthy. You are special, and if they can't step up
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to your level, then they may not be the right person for you.
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Remember that if they're not at your level and they are trying to diminish you
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or you're diminishing yourself, maybe you need to rethink what you're doing in life.
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The next thing is I think you need to get rid of your limiting beliefs.
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I think in relationships, we have limiting beliefs.
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I think in jobs, we have limiting beliefs, whether it's from how we grew up
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or from our culture or from past relationships.
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You may have been in a relationship before and you think, oh,
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my gosh, this person is...
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So difficult. But you know what? Maybe that's a limiting belief.
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This person doesn't match my last one, so it's not going to work out.
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That's truly a limiting belief.
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Or maybe your culture says you don't have the right job because you have to
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be a certain way. It's a limiting belief.
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You do what makes you happy because this life is short.
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We need to learn to love ourselves, to appreciate all of our value.
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Don't ever undervalue yourself for anyone or any job. I think the best thing
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to do is to go look in the mirror.
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If you can look in the mirror and say to yourself, Wow, I have so many good
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qualities. And yes, no one's perfect. We all have flaws.
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But I like some of my flaws.
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Some of my flaws are endearing. I want to keep them. There are some flaws I
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want to work on, for sure.
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There are certain things I want to change about my personality.
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And there are certain things I want to change about my health and my lifestyle.
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And I'm working through that. But enjoy who you are.
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Love who you are now, because the present moment is what we have.
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The future is never promised, and the past you can't change.
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So enjoy what you have now.
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Look at all of your past mistakes as lessons.
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And writing down affirmations that will help you grow in whatever aspects and
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areas of your life you want is a great way to move forward.
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It's a way to rewire your brain. And you may not understand it from a psychological
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perspective, but stating things in the present as if they already occurred will
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help your brain refocus.
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There is the law of attraction aspect to it as well. And then you journal,
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reconnect to your inner power.
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Journaling is very powerful. I would say that not only does journaling help
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you get any pain out, it also helps you refocus on what you're moving forward
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with and what you really want to move forward with.
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Never disrespect yourself. I think respect in life is so very important.
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When you see other people disrespecting people or putting them down or trying
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to humiliate them, I think it's a red flag to walk away from that person,
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whether it's a partner or whether it's a friend.
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Self-respect is extremely, extremely important.
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Sometimes you just need to say no to people, and sometimes you just need to
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say no to things people want you to do. Don't overgive in any situation.
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I personally have been a people pleaser in my life. I've overgifted.
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I've overgiven. I have let myself become a doormat.
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I've dated people that have used me and not treated me with the level of respect that I deserve.
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One day you're going to realize you need respect. And the more respect that
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you're given, the more respect you'll give to others. That's in love.
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That's in friendship. That's in love.
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It's at work. It's important to release any guilt that you have had in the past
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regarding love and regarding self-respect.
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And if you've gone through a tragedy or trauma, it's a great time to refocus
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and look at how amazing you are.
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Look at how beautiful you are. Your soul is amazing.
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You're a good person. Find that person and grow with that person.
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You will take yourself into new areas in the world that you will be of service
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not only to yourself, but to other people. leveling up in real life is truly
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about just having better standards.
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If you are at a standard where you watch TV every day, I mean,
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I personally don't watch TV, but maybe once a week.
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But let's say you're at a standard where you watch TV every day, maybe start there.
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Instead of watching TV, maybe go for a walk. Maybe go work out. Do your finances.
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Talk to your partners. Talk to your children.
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Talk to your friends. There's so much out there. The current digital age has
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turned us into zombies almost.
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This zombie lifestyle is not a happy lifestyle. It's a mundane,
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repetitive, depressing lifestyle.
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So get off the computer. Get off your phone. Level up.
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Raise your standards on what is acceptable to you. And if there's a show you
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just got to watch, well, maybe watch it while you're walking on the treadmill
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or watch it while you're doing stretching. Do something.
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Don't just sit on the couch anymore. Raise your standards. Raise your standards
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around every part of your life. Raise your standards around your education.
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Raise your standards around how much money you want to make.
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Raise your standards about who you let in your life. I can't say this enough.
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I know I've heard many times people say that the top five people in your life
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is who you're going to be like. I say the top five people in your life should be above you.
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Elevate. Don't bring five people into your life that are below you.
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If you have five people beneath you, there's a problem.
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You're going to gravitate to their level. If you're in a relationship and the
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relationship is going nowhere or the person in your relationship is negative
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all the time, it's probably not a good fit, especially if you're a growth-minded,
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positive type of person.
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You need to learn to attract what aligns with you with your new self-worth.
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Even when you're attracting what aligns with you, you're also going to find
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people that don't align with you.
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And I know some people say, oh, you attracted them too. I kind of feel like it's a test.
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I feel like you need to learn that you need to reject the things that don't
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align with you. Otherwise, they stick around and they stay.
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You know, when you upgrade yourself, the version of you, you're going to make
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little small wins and you need to celebrate them. Now, that doesn't mean, oh, I lost five pounds.
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Let me go pig out. But it could mean that you lost some weight.
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Let me go for a nice relaxing hike or go do yoga with some friends or get a new outfit.
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Whatever makes you feel happy. Go get a facial. Go get a haircut.
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It's challenging in life to celebrate all of our positive things.
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But we need to. If you can do one bold thing every week that satisfies you,
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that makes you feel like you're growing, it's worth it. And you need a date with standards.
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When you do that one bold thing, you will find yourself growing in many,
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many areas. It's powerful.
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It's so powerful to upgrade your standards to upgrade your life.
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When you're upgrading your physical health, you need to work on nourishing your body.
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Now, you need to determine what is good for you to physically level up.
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You You need to eat for energy when you are eating so that you glow and you
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have longevity. If you really want to level up, take it to the next level.
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There are podcasts, there are books that will teach you how to eat healthy.
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You will glow up and you will have better longevity and vitality.
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If you're a man, maybe look into testosterone therapy. If you're a woman,
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maybe look into estrogen and testosterone therapy.
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But no matter what, physically, you need to change. Everyone needs to grow physically.
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We all need self-improvement physically. And then exercise.
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It's empowering. And if you're in the worst shape of your life,
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that's okay. You got to start somewhere.
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Don't have shame around exercise. If you are out there working out,
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good on you. You'll get there. Everybody starts somewhere.
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I would say one of my favorite things in the world is sleep.
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I know it's a ritual for us to get more sleep, but sleep is so amazing.
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And don't forget to hydrate.
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Water is so important. And take your electrolytes when needed. Move. Detox.
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Feel good. This is your body. You should be enjoying every aspect of your body.
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Your body should feel good. Your body should be a sense of pleasure,
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a sense of joy, a sense of happiness, a way to exhilarate yourself.
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And it's physical movement that gets you there. And don't forget your skincare.
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I know a lot of people have been pushing sunscreen, and I'm not a big believer
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in sunscreen, personally.
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I guess it's kind of up to you. I have good posture. I work on my body language.
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I communicate well with people.
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And when I talk to them, I actually focus on them because that's important.
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Don't be distracted when you're talking to someone. That's kind of rude.
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Give all your focus to another person.
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It's part of a, you know, emotional maturity as well. And you can level up emotionally.
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You need to identify triggers and traumas in your past, but don't dwell on them.
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I see too many people that go to therapy and they have things that have happened
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in their past. And then all they do is focus on the problem.
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They don't focus on the lesson that that terrible thing taught you.
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They focus on the trauma. They don't focus on the healing.
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And healing is important. But if you stay stuck in your past,
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in your triggers, and in your trauma, you're never going to grow emotionally.
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Breath work helps. Breathing does help. There's a thing called tapping and EMDR
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and different types of therapy and Reiki and energy healing.
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I've done a lot of these things. And breath work I've,
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just to recenter your nervous system. But don't get stuck.
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Focus on the now. Focus on feeling joy in the present. Focus on all the good
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things you have going for you.
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Everyone has good in their life. Everyone has good in their life.
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And you need to just focus on whatever is good in your life right now.
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Your peace is under your control. And you've got to take full emotional ownership of it.
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So if you're allowing people into your life that are disrupting your peace and
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your joy and your happiness, you need to make a decision on what you need to change.
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Because your peace and your emotional joy is so important to your soul.
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It's so important to your overall health.
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You need to learn to set boundaries with the people that just want to step all over them.
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There are people that are not very nice to their spouses. There are people that
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are not very nice to their friends.
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There are people that are insulting to other people. And that's not emotional
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maturity. That's control and manipulation.
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What you want to do is you want to have people in your life that make you feel
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better, that make you feel joy, that help you level up, that don't try to squish you down.
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Because that's not a true partner. That's not a true friend.
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That's a manipulating, control-free person. That's really what it is.
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Mentally, you should level up. I think talking down to yourself or allowing
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other people to talk down to you is not good for your mental health.
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Because what you think about on a daily basis becomes your reality.
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If you keep thinking you're a loser, you're going to be a loser.
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If you keep thinking you're poor, you're going to stay poor.
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If you keep looking for growth opportunities and a way to make more money and
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ways to educate yourself and a way to grow, that's exactly what's going to happen.
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It may take a little bit of time, but it's not going to take a lot of time.
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Upgrade your circle of friends.
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Make sure those five people closest
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to you are amazing, that they are growth-minded, that they help you grow.
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I can't say that enough. The five people around you and the people you allow in your circle matter.
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I know a lot of people, they find a person that gives them attention or a person
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that wants to be their friend or wants to be their partner, and they're negative,
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but they're just so happy that somebody wants to be their friend.
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That's not a good way to find friends.
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You should pick your friends. You should choose your friends.
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Honestly, if we were all surrounding ourselves with positive people,
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people would keep leveling up.
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Yes, there's going to be about 60 to 80 percent of the population that never will.
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You can't save everyone. You can help yourself.
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Your job is not to fix everyone. Your job is to take your life to the next level.
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That's only if you want to.
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You could stay stuck in a victimhood mindset. But if you're listening to my
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podcast, I know that's not you. Start with a vision board and draw out exactly
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who you want to be, all the things you want to have, all the ways you want to
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live, your lifestyle, your body, your mental health.
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Then follow up with affirmations on a daily basis and journaling on a daily
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basis, and you will be amazed at how quickly your life changes.
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This is an amazing world we live in. There's so much opportunity to grow.
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We are so lucky to be alive right now at this moment in time.
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There are so many good things going on.
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We are so lucky to have information at our fingertips.
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We are so lucky to have other people that support and help us grow.
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There is such a good, positive movement out there of growth-minded people.
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Come join us and then learn something new every day. When you have a growth
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mindset, every day I look for something that teaches me a lesson or I grow and learn from.
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And work is a great way to grow and learn. You know, I couldn't stop the podcast
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without talking about your sexuality.
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You got to embrace your pleasure because your sexual health is important. It's not shameful.
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Your body you can explore, can communicate with it and talk to it and enjoy
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it. Any past sexual trauma you do need to heal, though.
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Repression from sexual trauma is tough.
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And sometimes it's baby steps. And sometimes it's just getting a massage or
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letting someone touch you the way that you haven't been touched for a while.
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And I understand. But you can get there.
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Creating an intimate relationship with yourself first, I think,
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is a good way to start, especially if you've had sexual trauma.
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And don't forget the spiritual side to your life. I think spiritual leveling
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up is very important. There's places you can go.
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I went to a place called Meraval, which is a place where you can reconnect with yourself spiritually.
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You can connect with the universe. You can connect with God.
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You can connect with your divine feminine or your divine masculine and level up.
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It's all about leveling up and taking yourself to the next level.
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If you never in your life stop leveling up, you're going to have a full life.
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You're going to have a life filled with passion, a life filled with growth, a life filled with love.
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And not everyone is going to work out. But give things a shot.
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And if things feel like they're not working out, then you can just move on.
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But at least you tried, and you don't live a life of regrets.
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So when you're leveling up spiritually, it's a good time to look at all aspects of your life.
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Meditation helps. Prayer is amazing.
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I pray nightly with my children. There's times during the middle of the day
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I pray just to recenter myself. But get still.
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Meditate. Yoga. All these types of things will help you. You do not need to
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surrender any longer to things that don't serve you.
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You need to empower yourself to grow.
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You need to love yourself into growth. You need to spiritually level up.
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Whatever that means to you. Maybe get into a church.
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Maybe find spiritual friends. I'm not a huge believer.
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Of organized religion, I will say. I do enjoy organized religion.
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I do think it's a grounding place to teach children good morals and ethics and values.
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And I do think it's good to go to church on Sundays and have religion in your heart and in your soul.
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I'm not a person that preaches the Bible to people. I think people should have
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a choice, but I do believe heavily in spirituality. I do believe there is a God.
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I feel Him every single day in my life. You need to determine and what that is for you.
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I think a great place to start is with gratitude.
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Thank God for all the great things you have in your life. And yes, it may not be perfect.
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No one's life is perfect. Even those on the big screen that look perfect to
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us or fake social media profiles that try to act like their life is perfect, it's not.
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No one's life is perfect. So be grateful for what you do have.
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Be grateful for the people in your life.
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Even if you don't have a lot, be grateful for the quality of people you do have.
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The ones that make you feel better.
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Be present in this moment, because this is really all you have.
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You're not promised the next 10 minutes. You're not promised tomorrow.
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But you are promised right now and enjoy it.
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I hope that you get something from this. I hope that you realize how important
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you are and how you have amazing gifts that you need to own and take advantage
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of, and how special life and precious life is.
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You only have one. You only have one life as you are now. Now,
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some people believe in other lives, whatever your belief system is, there's no judgment.
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If this is the only life you have, this is actually the only life you have as this person.
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So don't waste it. Don't feel afraid.
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Love the people around you. Don't let other people's judgments or opinions of
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who you want to love destroy your decision-making process.
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You get to love and feel and enjoy whomever you choose to.
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In the end, I think love is really what it's all about. Love for yourself,
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love for others, and love for God. And get a pure soul.
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Ethics and morals matter. Don't lie to other people because that's a sign of
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insecurity. Don't cheat on your spouse because that's another sign of insecurity.
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Love yourself, respect other people, and treat other people well.
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If the world followed this podcast, this one episode, can you imagine how amazing
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life would be on this planet? So let's love each other.
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Let's love ourselves. Let's stop judging.
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Let's stop being dishonest and deceitful and come from a pure heart and a pure
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soul. I am love and so are you.
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This is Diva Mia. Have a wonderful week.
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