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18. The Wealth of Confidence: How One Surgeon Built a Life She Loves with Dr. Stephanie Poris · Talk Wealthy To Me

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Speaker 1: Let's welcome. Welcome, Talk Wealthy to Me. I'm Michelle Taylor,
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Speaker 1: founder of Women and Well and Wealth. From breaking money
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Speaker 1: myths to building wealth and achieving financial freedom. We're here
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Speaker 1: to empower you to create your own path path Talk Wealth. Now,
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Speaker 1: join the conversation, and let's change the way women think
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Speaker 1: and feel about money. Are you ready? Today's guest is
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Speaker 1: doctor Stephanie Porus, Orlando's only female owned and operated, double
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Speaker 1: board certified plastic surgeon. Born and raised in Satellite Beach, Florida,
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Speaker 1: Stephanie turned her love of science, artistry, and precision into
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Speaker 1: a career in plastic surgery. From interning at the Cleveland
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Speaker 1: Clinic to training at Advent Health in Summer Health, She's
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Speaker 1: built a practice known for compassionate, elevated care, and she
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Speaker 1: is on a mission to redefine what it means to
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Speaker 1: feel empowered and confident in your own skin. Hi, everybody,
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Speaker 1: welcome back to the Talk Wealthy to Me podcast. I'm
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Speaker 1: Michelle Taylor, your host, and I am thrilled to have
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Speaker 1: a very dear friend with me today, doctor Stephanie Poris.
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Speaker 1: She and I have known each other for the last
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Speaker 1: three or four years now, and I've loved hearing her story,
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Speaker 1: and I know that you will too. So welcome. Thanks
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Speaker 1: for being here.
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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me. It is an
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Speaker 2: honor to be on your podcast and sitting with you
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Speaker 2: today and having watched you grow this over the last
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Speaker 2: four years is just been so incredible. So thank you
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Speaker 2: for inviting me here.
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Speaker 1: You're so welcome. So for all of you listening, Doctor
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Speaker 1: Poris is a double board certified plastic surgeon and she
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Speaker 1: happens to be the only female owner operator in Orlando, Florida.
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Speaker 1: So we take a lot of pride in her around here.
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Speaker 1: But tell us a little bit about you, a little
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Speaker 1: bit your business. How'd you get here?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so I own Poores Plastic Surgery. I am the
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Speaker 2: only surgeon in this practice as of now. And you know,
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Speaker 2: coming out of the gate through training, I always knew
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Speaker 2: I wanted to be a plastic surgeon ever since I
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Speaker 2: was a teenager. This was sort of my dream. I
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Speaker 2: felt drawn to surgery, and then I felt drawn to
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Speaker 2: plastic surgery and it was an art mixed with the science,
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Speaker 2: and that was my mind exactly, And so you know,
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Speaker 2: I pursued it and pursued it and pursued it. And
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Speaker 2: then you know, finally at the end of training, trying
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Speaker 2: to figure out where do I go next, what I'm
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Speaker 2: going to actually get a job right and a career,
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Speaker 2: and what I want to do, I said, you know what,
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Speaker 2: I think. I just want to be in my own space.
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Speaker 2: I want to be an entrepreneur. I want to have
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Speaker 2: control of the patient experience and be able to, you know,
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Speaker 2: just practice the way I want to and go home
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Speaker 2: every day feeling like I was able to give it
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Speaker 2: my all and you know, really be involved in the experience.
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Speaker 2: And so that's poor splastic surgery was born right out
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Speaker 2: of the gate, and.
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Speaker 1: You truly are giving such an authentically you client experience
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Speaker 1: for anybody that has been listening for a while. You
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Speaker 1: know that I'm a shoe lover, and that's so much
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Speaker 1: a part of how the two of us met. I
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Speaker 1: would love for you to tell that story. But I
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Speaker 1: was going through a local publication and I see this
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Speaker 1: advertisement for Stephanie's practice, but it says the stiletto Surgeon.
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Speaker 1: So immediately I think, well, I need to know this girl.
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Speaker 1: And I have to tell you, as somebody who's gone
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Speaker 1: into your practice, you are truly in every girl's dreamiest office.
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Speaker 1: There's pink everywhere, there's beautiful art, there's your editorial magazine wall.
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Speaker 1: I mean, your staff is all female. It just feels
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Speaker 1: like home when you walk in. So you have stayed
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Speaker 1: true to that, and I love every time that I
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Speaker 1: come in there. And I know I'm not the only one.
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Speaker 1: I think we've all talked about it. But tell us
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Speaker 1: the story, because the Stiletto Surgeon isn't just because you
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Speaker 1: love shoes. It has a much cooler background to it.
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Speaker 1: So tell us how you became known as the Stiletto Surgeon.
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Speaker 2: Yees, So it actually started. So it was born actually
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Speaker 2: about ten years ago, and I was a general surgery
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Speaker 2: resident at the time actually here at Advent Health Orlando.
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Speaker 2: I was one of the only women in the program.
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Speaker 2: There was my counterpart who was also female, but we
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Speaker 2: were two out of all of us. And you know,
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Speaker 2: it's very much a man's world surgery. But that's okay,
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Speaker 2: and I expected that, and frankly, I thrive in that
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Speaker 2: and nothing scares me. And you know, I just you know,
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Speaker 2: IM proving my worth being there every day, and you
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Speaker 2: know I would. I've always loved fashion, have always loved style.
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Speaker 2: That's the artsy side of who I am. And so
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Speaker 2: I would come into work with my heels on, you know,
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Speaker 2: dressed to the nines to go on rounds on the
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Speaker 2: surgery floor, and you know, I would get comments here
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Speaker 2: and there of how are you walking in those? And
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Speaker 2: you know, people would you know, say say nice things,
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Speaker 2: they would say mean things.
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Speaker 1: Who cares? Right?
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Speaker 2: I would just brush it off, and you know, finally,
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Speaker 2: one day, I'm in the operating room and scrub nurse
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Speaker 2: was kind of just you know, ragging on me about
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Speaker 2: being small compared to who I was braiding with that
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Speaker 2: day one of my attendings, and I just had had
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Speaker 2: sort of a lot and it was building up and
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Speaker 2: building up, and you know, and finally she's like, you know,
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Speaker 2: you should just wear your stilettos in here. And I said,
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Speaker 2: you know what, one day, I'm going to write a
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Speaker 2: book and I'm going to call it The Stiletto Surgeon,
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Speaker 2: and it's going to mean more to me about sort
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Speaker 2: of rising above and being confident and standing on your
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Speaker 2: own two feet and just strutting your stuff and kind
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Speaker 2: of just you know, putting everything and all the negativity
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Speaker 2: in the rear view mirror. And that's literally where the
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Speaker 2: term came from, but it was just really more out
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Speaker 2: of you know, just the little adversities, sure, and just
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Speaker 2: sort of embracing rather than sort of deflecting and converting
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Speaker 2: to penny loafers. So not a penny loafer girl. I
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Speaker 2: just tried to embrace it and turn it into a
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Speaker 2: positi And I think that I try to do that
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Speaker 2: with a lot of things in my life, and I
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Speaker 2: think it helps propel you forward and otherwise you're going
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Speaker 2: to be living in behind.
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Speaker 1: You well, and you are such a positive person and
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Speaker 1: so much fun to be around. I remember the first
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Speaker 1: so I reached out to Stephanie and said, I have
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Speaker 1: to know you. Let's go grab lunch and she was
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Speaker 1: just starting her practice. So we went to lunch and
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Speaker 1: immediately knew we were going to be friends and the
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Speaker 1: rest is history. But every time I am with you,
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Speaker 1: whether it is in your office or in casual and
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Speaker 1: settings as friends, she's always just bubbly and happy and
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Speaker 1: I love that. I think that you're the epitome of
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Speaker 1: what you set out to be and that's incredible. So
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Speaker 1: are we going to write the book?
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Speaker 2: So maybe one day. I definitely thought about it, and
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Speaker 2: I think now that I've started my practice, and I
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Speaker 2: think it's sort of a dying breed to start your
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Speaker 2: practice out of training and hang your shingle, as they
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Speaker 2: call it in the industry. But I think as we
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Speaker 2: see healthcare change and as big business becomes ever increasingly
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Speaker 2: big business, especially in healthcare, I think it's very important
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Speaker 2: for us physicians to sort of take back ownership and healthcare.
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Speaker 2: And so I thought, you know, very I've thought about
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Speaker 2: writing about this experience and how to start it. And
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Speaker 2: you know, I've had a practice consultant for since the
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Speaker 2: minute I started, and she's wonderful and we definitely talk
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Speaker 2: about it. So, yeah, maybe that we still at.
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Speaker 1: A surgeon the day. You do have a barbie.
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Speaker 2: I do have a barbie, which I do have a barbie.
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Speaker 1: We need to put a link to a picture in
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Speaker 1: the show notes or something I do. It's a great
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Speaker 1: barbe It's amazing. Yeah. So you mentioned that you were
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Speaker 1: always drawn to being a plastic surgeon, which I never
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Speaker 1: I didn't know that about you. But I also think
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Speaker 1: it's so unique how you explained it, where it is
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Speaker 1: a little bit of the art with the science and
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Speaker 1: for so many of the clients that come to you
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Speaker 1: I would imagine it's more happy endings than stressful, you
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Speaker 1: know encounters, which I know obviously you have those too.
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Speaker 1: But what was it about plastic surgery that made you
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Speaker 1: think that's my calling?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I think, first of all, it's an elective
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Speaker 2: based surgery. So you're taking healthy people and you are
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Speaker 2: putting them under anesthesia and you are doing a surgery,
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Speaker 2: right or non surgical treatment. So there is some always
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Speaker 2: fear to that. But you're not living in the trauma world.
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Speaker 2: You're you know, you're not dealing with acute situations on
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Speaker 2: a daily basis in plastic surgery. So it's very thoughtful
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Speaker 2: and it's very curated. All the tea's need to be crossed,
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Speaker 2: all the eyes need to be douted, because these are
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Speaker 2: healthy patients. And so what I loved about it is
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Speaker 2: that I think plastic surgery allows us to slow down
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Speaker 2: and be thought not that surgical field aren't thought other
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Speaker 2: surgical field aren't thoughtful, but there is really an art
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Speaker 2: to it that I think sometimes is under emphasized in training.
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Speaker 2: You really have to be able to look at the
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Speaker 2: big picture of a patient and not only is this
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Speaker 2: a breast augmentation, but how is this breast augmentation going
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Speaker 2: to age with this particular patient. How is this specific
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Speaker 2: implant that I'm thinking about placing going to affect her
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Speaker 2: life long term? Is it going to be too heavy
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Speaker 2: for will it be too wide for her frame? There's
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Speaker 2: no one size fits all model. And so what I
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Speaker 2: think is one of the challenges of plastic surgery that
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Speaker 2: I find so fascinating is that you're constantly thinking and
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Speaker 2: morphing and changing, and not every surgery is the same.
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Speaker 2: And I think that that is really exciting, and that
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Speaker 2: is why I was drawn to it. You know, I
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Speaker 2: love anatomy and blood and guts and all of the
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Speaker 2: you know, all of that better than me. And the
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Speaker 2: feeling of being in the operating room. It's sort of
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Speaker 2: my piece, believe it or not. I mean, I'm a
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Speaker 2: very extroverted person. I'm very talkative, right but in the
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Speaker 2: operating room, I'm very quiet, I'm very reserved, I'm very
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Speaker 2: at peace. And so that's a different part of me
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Speaker 2: that I was able to unlock that keeps me very
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Speaker 2: well balanced and grounded. And so there's a huge part
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Speaker 2: of plastic surgery and being a surgeon that just fit
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Speaker 2: my personality. Aid to the tea.
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Speaker 1: Do you play any music when you're in there?
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Speaker 2: I play a lot of music, what kind of music?
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Speaker 2: So I am probably the most eclectic soundtrack. And I
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Speaker 2: think anybody who's been in the operating with me, you know,
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Speaker 2: one of the things I always get is, oh, you
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Speaker 2: have the best music, because one minute it'll be eighties classics,
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Speaker 2: and the next minute it'll be like alternative rock, eminem
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Speaker 2: will come on and then some country or then There'll
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Speaker 2: be days when I'm doing facelifts, a lot of times
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Speaker 2: I'd like to listen to like really nice classical love jazz.
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Speaker 2: So I'm all over the place and it keeps it
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Speaker 2: kind of fun and exciting. But there is always music.
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Speaker 2: And it's actually been proven in studies actually that surgeons
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Speaker 2: that operate with music tend to have more efficiency in
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Speaker 2: the operating room. So it was pretty Yeah, it's pretty interesting.
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Speaker 2: There's actually some evidence behind it.
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Speaker 1: So Little Stephanie, before she was doctor Porus, what did
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Speaker 1: you envision your life to look like when you thought
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Speaker 1: about even before medical school. I mean, you knew you
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Speaker 1: wanted to be a plastic surgeon, but what was it
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Speaker 1: that drew you to this? Did you always want to
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Speaker 1: go into medicine. Was it a lifestyle that you thought
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Speaker 1: felt glamorous or something that you were seeking? What was that?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so I think a little me looking forward, you know,
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Speaker 2: I think that there is there was always a six
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Speaker 2: sess component. What success was when I was sixteen years
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Speaker 2: old was wildly different than what I think success is now.
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Speaker 2: But I wanted to be able to stand on my
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Speaker 2: own two feet and have job security number one and
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Speaker 2: again science brain, art, brain, all of those things wrapped
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Speaker 2: into one. Most importantly, for me, I wanted to be
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Speaker 2: able to enjoy what I did every day. And so
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Speaker 2: for me, going into something that I was had zero
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Speaker 2: passion for was never going to be an option. And
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Speaker 2: I think, if you know, for me, it was always like, well,
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Speaker 2: if i want to stand on my own two feet
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Speaker 2: and I'm not passionate about it, I'm likely to pour
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Speaker 2: the least amount of effort into it and to do
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Speaker 2: poorly and become unsuccessful. So I really needed to find
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Speaker 2: and listen to what my passion was and hone in
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Speaker 2: on it. And so for me now, you know, looking back,
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Speaker 2: I think success has really been achieving my goal of
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Speaker 2: being a surgeon. Yeah, and really what took me a
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Speaker 2: minute to realize was achieving my goal of being a
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Speaker 2: mom and a wife and having that family dynamic, because
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Speaker 2: for so long, especially in medicine, really any profession that
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Speaker 2: you're working towards for so long, you know, that's all
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Speaker 2: you're thinking about. You're sort of in this rat race
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Speaker 2: going on and on and on through the years to
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Speaker 2: try to climb the ladder to get there, right, whether
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Speaker 2: it's a corporate ladder, or to become a doctor, or
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Speaker 2: to become a surgeon or become a plastic surgeon.
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Speaker 1: Or to get that first job.
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Speaker 2: You're always climbing, climbing ways, that's all you're thinking about.
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Speaker 2: You almost have like this professional tunnel vision and then
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Speaker 2: all of a sudden you're sort of sidelined by a family.
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Speaker 2: And realizing how important that is and maintaining that balance
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Speaker 2: was huge. And I can tell you that my success
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Speaker 2: in life largely depends on this family. And that is
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Speaker 2: something I did not see at sixteen years old. I
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Speaker 2: was all about the glitz, the glam, the glory of
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Speaker 2: my career and standing on my own two feed and
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Speaker 2: I was not thinking about, sure I would have a family,
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Speaker 2: but I was not thinking about how important that was
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Speaker 2: in my success. And so that took me until I
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Speaker 2: was a little bit older to sort of figure out
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Speaker 2: and really sink my teeth into And now I.
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Speaker 1: Love it well. And you have the most adorable family,
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Speaker 1: and we both have kiddos that are young, so I
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Speaker 1: imagine and I think this goes without saying. All of
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Speaker 1: us know it is a challenge every single day, but
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Speaker 1: it's also the best part of the day is trying
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Speaker 1: to figure out how do you wear all these hats
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Speaker 1: and feel like you're pouring enough into all of these
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Speaker 1: different silos of life. And I look at it as
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Speaker 1: a personal challenge and fun. You know, yeah, it's stressful,
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Speaker 1: but before you know it, one of those silos is
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Speaker 1: going to go and then the other silo goes, and
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Speaker 1: then it's just you know, it's different, and it's Italy girl,
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Speaker 1: It's yeah, we were good friends. So how is your
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Speaker 1: relationship with money? Ben? From a young girl, did you
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Speaker 1: come from a family that gave you the tools that
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Speaker 1: you felt equipped and prepared? Did you deal with student
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Speaker 1: loaned at like, what did that journey look like?
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Speaker 2: Great question. So I've given this a lot of thought,
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Speaker 2: especially after listening to your podcast. And I'll tell you
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Speaker 2: first and foremost, you and I share a lot of parallels.
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Speaker 2: Our fathers seemed to be key entities in our education
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Speaker 2: when it comes to wealth and building wealth. And I
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Speaker 2: can tell you so my dad was a pediatric dentist.
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Speaker 2: He owned a few pediatric dental practices while I was young.
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Speaker 2: So he was an entrepreneur. So there's apple Tree. And
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Speaker 2: I would watch him every night. He'd be in his
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Speaker 2: office after hours, he'd come home, he'd work at his desk,
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Speaker 2: and he he would pull me into his office seven
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Speaker 2: pm at night, even when I was like ten years old,
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Speaker 2: and he would have me start organizing receipts for tax
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Speaker 2: season on the floor and he would sit there and
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Speaker 2: he would show me the cup and handle of investments
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Speaker 2: and dividend reimbursement. And I remember he got me my
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Speaker 2: first dividend that he made me manage when I was fifteen,
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Speaker 2: but I was young, and got me a fidelity account
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Speaker 2: and I, you know, invested my first dividend and I
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Speaker 2: watched it, you know, my little return of five dollars
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Speaker 2: every month on the on the drip. And he sort
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Speaker 2: of included me in these conversations, and little did I know,
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Speaker 2: and at the time, I was like oh, this is
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Speaker 2: so boring. And you know, but all the while you're
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Speaker 2: kind of listening, you're kind of like, I'm seeing it.
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Speaker 2: It's not foreign. And he said to me, and I'll
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Speaker 2: never forget these words. He said, You're going to spend
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Speaker 2: three quarters of your adult life managing your wealth, no
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Speaker 2: matter what you do. That's what he said. Three quarters
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Speaker 2: of your time is going to be dedicated to managing
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Speaker 2: your wealth. Whatever wealth looks like. It's going to be
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Speaker 2: looking at your money and where the money is going
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Speaker 2: and where you know where, how.
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Speaker 1: To grow it, throw it, paid, doest whatever.
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Speaker 2: And so he was a really big influence in my
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Speaker 2: life and just sort of gave me some foundational knowledge
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Speaker 2: and tools. You know, I didn't really see my first
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Speaker 2: real paycheck until I was thirty seven years old. Of
18:36
Speaker 2: course I was getting paid as a resident, but it
18:38
Speaker 2: was slave labor. Yeah, and you know that money just
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Speaker 2: was money and money out, you know, just paying surviving
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Speaker 2: and surviving, right. And I was fortunate to have a
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Speaker 2: wonderful husband, you know, who has a wonderful job, and
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Speaker 2: you know he's kept me afloat until I had, you know,
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Speaker 2: started making a few a few pennies. But once I really,
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Speaker 2: you know, I saw that I was going to have
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Speaker 2: a real job. I got really nervous. I didn't feel
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Speaker 2: like I had the training. I've been so focused on
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Speaker 2: the human body and anatomy that how am I gonna,
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Speaker 2: you know, be able to manage three quarters of my
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Speaker 2: time for wealth?
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Speaker 1: Right?
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Speaker 2: So I started to get the people into place, you know,
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Speaker 2: I you know, discussed with you, and you know, we
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Speaker 2: really sat down and looked at what the projections would be,
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Speaker 2: and you know, talk to many people and with my husband,
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Speaker 2: and I really just sat down and my dad and
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Speaker 2: figure it out.
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Speaker 1: I love that so much that your dad is still
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Speaker 1: part of your financial story. The first time we started
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Speaker 1: having conversations around money, you know, you told me about
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Speaker 1: him and how he helped you. And I love that.
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Speaker 1: And I think you and your husband have done a
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Speaker 1: really good job at approaching your financials as a team.
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Speaker 1: And you know, we talk about that all the time,
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Speaker 1: where if you don't want to be driving the canoe,
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Speaker 1: you need to at least be in the boat. And
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Speaker 1: I feel like you're both equipped with one of the oars.
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Speaker 1: You know, you guys are really good at communicating and
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Speaker 1: tackling things head on, and you know, people may sit
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Speaker 1: here and think, well, you're a plastic surgeon, you're a doctor,
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Speaker 1: But in the beginning with starting your own practice, there
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Speaker 1: is so much that comes with that. It's even more
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Speaker 1: important that you pay attention to the pennies because you're
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Speaker 1: trying to build something and you've spent a decade longer
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Speaker 1: in school than most of the people listening or I
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Speaker 1: have ever spent in school. So it's like you, I
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Speaker 1: had imagine that there's a lot of pressure. You come
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Speaker 1: out and you're like, Okay, I've gotten this elusive title
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Speaker 1: of doctor, but now I'm in my thirties and I'm broke,
20:55
Speaker 1: and I'm trying to build this practice, and oh, I
20:57
Speaker 1: also have a husband, and I I want to have babies,
21:01
Speaker 1: and I want to buy my dream house and how
21:03
Speaker 1: do you do all the things? And that's one of
21:05
Speaker 1: the things I hope that people get from this podcast
21:08
Speaker 1: is so many of us are dealing with the same
21:12
Speaker 1: money issues, money success stories, but also just baggage and
21:18
Speaker 1: questions and thoughts, even though it may seem on the
21:21
Speaker 1: outside like somebody isn't And that's where having conversations around
21:24
Speaker 1: it is going to be helpful for all of us.
21:28
Speaker 1: What do you think, other than the one thing your
21:32
Speaker 1: dad said to you, is there a piece of advice
21:34
Speaker 1: that he ever gave you or anybody in your life
21:38
Speaker 1: around taking care of your money or what to do
21:41
Speaker 1: with it that you feel has served you well well.
21:45
Speaker 2: One tenant that I think I always live by, and
21:47
Speaker 2: this was also a plaque on his wall, was those
21:50
Speaker 2: who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those
21:52
Speaker 2: doing it. Oh.
21:53
Speaker 1: I love that and.
21:55
Speaker 2: It is something I live by, and I think it's
21:57
Speaker 2: applicable to everything if I I just approach everything right,
22:03
Speaker 2: like getting a loan from the bank to start the practice. Okay,
22:07
Speaker 2: so many banks said no, and I had a bank,
22:12
Speaker 2: you know, the head of a bank here locally say
22:14
Speaker 2: you should probably just join the hospital first and then
22:19
Speaker 2: you know, work for a couple of years and then
22:21
Speaker 2: come back to us. And I said, no, I'm going
22:26
Speaker 2: to do this. I'm going to show you. And I
22:28
Speaker 2: had the best business plan and I built out the
22:30
Speaker 2: best Finally I found a bank and they were like,
22:31
Speaker 2: this is the best business plan we've ever seen. They
22:34
Speaker 2: used my business plan now to as an example for
22:37
Speaker 2: other businesses. And so, you know, it just took somebody
22:40
Speaker 2: also to buy in but it also took me to
22:43
Speaker 2: not stop and just have the grit and you know,
22:47
Speaker 2: don't let anybody else, you know, kind of muddy muddy
22:50
Speaker 2: my your dream, my dream. And I think that that
22:54
Speaker 2: came from my dad. I think that came from that
22:57
Speaker 2: little plaque on the wall ultimately, So.
23:01
Speaker 1: I love that. And you know, isn't it wild the
23:03
Speaker 1: things that you remember that you tie in and equate
23:07
Speaker 1: to success, and even like around financial success from your
23:11
Speaker 1: parents that they weren't necessarily positioning as advice around money.
23:18
Speaker 1: My dad says things like pay attention to detail and
23:26
Speaker 1: like these little things that be true to your school.
23:31
Speaker 1: And I can take those little things, these dadisms, and
23:37
Speaker 1: tie them back into business and financials and it makes
23:41
Speaker 1: so much sense and it makes me smile because it
23:43
Speaker 1: was a big influence in my life growing up and
23:47
Speaker 1: you didn't.
23:47
Speaker 2: See it, but it was just their way of imparting wisdom.
23:49
Speaker 2: And I hope I can share the same with my
23:51
Speaker 2: kids and you know, maybe they'll take a lesson from
23:55
Speaker 2: a wall someday in my office.
23:56
Speaker 1: Right, I was just going to ask you, what have
23:59
Speaker 1: you guys done, and have you started having those conversations
24:02
Speaker 1: or exposing them to conversations that you and Dan are
24:05
Speaker 1: having so well.
24:08
Speaker 2: Kind of so Dylan, my oldest, he's seven, going to
24:12
Speaker 2: be soon. You know, he gets savings. He does a
24:16
Speaker 2: little chores around the house.
24:18
Speaker 1: He lost a tooth last night, did the tooth fairy?
24:21
Speaker 2: The tooth fairy came and the first little smiling kid
24:24
Speaker 2: I saw toothless smiling kid through the shower window this
24:27
Speaker 2: morning was mom, I got twenty bucks, which I know
24:30
Speaker 2: is a lot. It's first time on us. Was not
24:32
Speaker 2: the first tooth. It was like the eighth twoth. But
24:35
Speaker 2: we did not have any more than we didn't have
24:37
Speaker 2: any less than twenty bucks on us. So, you know
24:39
Speaker 2: the tooth fairy.
24:40
Speaker 1: Don't you love that when you're like the tooth fairy.
24:45
Speaker 1: She was not prepared.
24:46
Speaker 2: She was not prepared. She almost forgot. The tooth Fairy
24:49
Speaker 2: may have comm at five forty five in the morning,
24:52
Speaker 2: because so, yeah, you do what you gotta do, though,
24:55
Speaker 2: right yeah, and so and now and this, you know
24:58
Speaker 2: what he said to me this morning was Okay, now,
24:59
Speaker 2: I I think I have a knof for the next lego. Right,
25:02
Speaker 2: So I think you're starting to get it, and I
25:04
Speaker 2: think we're you know, they're starting to understand what it
25:07
Speaker 2: means to work for things, and whether it's candy or money,
25:11
Speaker 2: it's all the same, right, it's work for something.
25:13
Speaker 1: I love what your dad did, though, because I think
25:16
Speaker 1: so many of us do the typical Okay, you have
25:22
Speaker 1: done something for our family. Now I'm going to pay
25:25
Speaker 1: you for your efforts, but with that, you should save
25:29
Speaker 1: some of it towards this big thing. I think a
25:31
Speaker 1: lot of people do that. But what your dad did,
25:33
Speaker 1: and I'm trying to do something a little similar, is
25:37
Speaker 1: showing them the power of what money does when you
25:40
Speaker 1: put it to work for you. You know, I think
25:43
Speaker 1: a lot of us may inadvertently expose them to the
25:47
Speaker 1: negative side of compounding numbers when we're talking about being
25:51
Speaker 1: in debt or don't take on debt, credit cards are bad,
25:54
Speaker 1: or whatever you may be saying. But when you take
25:58
Speaker 1: that same dollar and sift it to what it can
26:01
Speaker 1: do when it grows for you, I think that's what
26:03
Speaker 1: makes it fun like it did for you. Both of
26:06
Speaker 1: my kids I buy I have been buying them a
26:10
Speaker 1: share of stock in something that interests them, and they're
26:14
Speaker 1: still young. My son is ten, my daughter six, so
26:19
Speaker 1: they are starting to get it, especially Beckett but I
26:24
Speaker 1: want to do more. Just listening to that now it's like, okay,
26:26
Speaker 1: what how else can I get him logged in and
26:29
Speaker 1: to see everything? Because that's when it's fun.
26:32
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and it's great. I mean, and to this day,
26:34
Speaker 2: I have one of the drip accounts still, you know,
26:38
Speaker 2: I still see the money go little money go out
26:40
Speaker 2: and I forget about the account and you know, so
26:42
Speaker 2: it's it's.
26:43
Speaker 1: Just it was nice.
26:44
Speaker 2: And you know, I remember when I bought my first stock.
26:47
Speaker 2: I bought a medical stock, a biotech, risky, risky business,
26:52
Speaker 2: and I watched your rise. It was rising like crazy
26:55
Speaker 2: and I had made so much money and I was like,
26:58
Speaker 2: should I hold it? Should I not? Oh, a whole
27:00
Speaker 2: day because I thought it would, and then it fell
27:02
Speaker 2: because biotech stops, that's what they do. So Hi, and
27:05
Speaker 2: I learned a lesson. Didn't make that mistake twice. But
27:08
Speaker 2: I remember, and this was when I was like thirty
27:11
Speaker 2: years old. I did this and it was so fun.
27:13
Speaker 2: You know, it's like it's like going to Vegas. It is,
27:17
Speaker 2: you know, the losses stink, but but a good loss.
27:20
Speaker 1: Life is full of losses. Life right full of losses.
27:22
Speaker 2: But it was fun to be able to do that
27:24
Speaker 2: and to understand it and and you know, with a
27:27
Speaker 2: little risk. And I'm thankful that I you know, I
27:31
Speaker 2: have a little bit of knowledge now, not enough. I'm
27:33
Speaker 2: still learning every single day, all of us are. But
27:37
Speaker 2: and you know how to grow more and manage the growth,
27:42
Speaker 2: which is a huge deal.
27:43
Speaker 1: So so, did you make any big money faux pas
27:48
Speaker 1: or anything that you will impart on any of the
27:52
Speaker 1: listeners that maybe will prevent them from making the same
27:55
Speaker 1: mistake that you can think of growing up? Or do
27:57
Speaker 1: you think you were a good stud didn't.
28:02
Speaker 2: I think I was a lucky student. I think that
28:04
Speaker 2: I was so my The one thing that I will
28:09
Speaker 2: say that I was given when I was in college,
28:13
Speaker 2: I was given sort of a weekly allowance right of
28:16
Speaker 2: spending food, water, shelter, et cetera. And so I had that,
28:20
Speaker 2: but anything extra, trips, clothes, you know, fun staff, the fun,
28:25
Speaker 2: Friday night, Friday night fun. You know.
28:28
Speaker 1: I got myself a job.
28:30
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was like a cocktail waitress. I you know, tutored,
28:34
Speaker 2: I hustled parking, I did all kinds of I went
28:37
Speaker 2: home for the summer and I worked at White House
28:39
Speaker 2: black Market, you know. And do you want this in
28:43
Speaker 2: a smaller medium, right, And so I learned to hustle
28:47
Speaker 2: for my money, that.
28:49
Speaker 1: Which is fun money. That's a great skill.
28:51
Speaker 2: Yeah, and so not necessarily any faux pause. I think
28:56
Speaker 2: I was lucky because I wasn't give been the extra,
29:01
Speaker 2: but more so, I just learned how to fight for
29:04
Speaker 2: it and anything that I wanted, you know, I had
29:08
Speaker 2: to figure out how to get it. And I'm not somebody.
29:11
Speaker 1: That takes no lightly. No, You're going to figure it out,
29:14
Speaker 1: figure it out. I had a job at the West
29:17
Speaker 1: Oaks Mall very briefly, yep, one summer. But the same
29:21
Speaker 1: thing I mean, if I was if I could babysit,
29:25
Speaker 1: if I could, you know, help somebody. I mean I
29:28
Speaker 1: remember being fifteen or sixteen years old and mowing my
29:31
Speaker 1: neighbor's lawn to get twenty bucks. And I think that
29:35
Speaker 1: that is such an important skill to teach the young
29:38
Speaker 1: kiddos that are looking at us to pave the way.
29:42
Speaker 2: Is.
29:42
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a lot of luck that comes into this.
29:46
Speaker 1: But the hustle, don't ever not hustle, don't ver let
29:50
Speaker 1: anyone outwork you. And I know that to be true
29:55
Speaker 1: about you. You are going to be the hardest worker
29:57
Speaker 1: in the room and you have so much to show
29:59
Speaker 1: for it.
30:00
Speaker 2: It's awesome, so fun.
30:01
Speaker 1: And so One of the other great things I love
30:03
Speaker 1: about your practice is it's all women in there. Was
30:07
Speaker 1: that intentional or is it just kind of a happenstance.
30:10
Speaker 2: I think it was intentional. I mean, we ninety eight
30:13
Speaker 2: percent of my patients are female in the aesthetic industry.
30:17
Speaker 2: It's not that they don't see male patients, because we do.
30:19
Speaker 2: We see male patients all the time. But certainly I
30:22
Speaker 2: think that.
30:24
Speaker 1: Just by.
30:26
Speaker 2: Circumstance, by request. I think a lot of our patients
30:31
Speaker 2: I always ask how did you hear about us? And
30:33
Speaker 2: they'll say, you know, I saw you on a billboard somewhere,
30:37
Speaker 2: and you know, I loved that you are a woman,
30:39
Speaker 2: and I loved that you had a female staff, and
30:41
Speaker 2: I loved that you seemed relatable. You seem to sort
30:44
Speaker 2: of understand and.
30:45
Speaker 1: You spend a lot of time with your patients when
30:48
Speaker 1: they come in.
30:49
Speaker 2: Yeah, we do. We try to all spend as much
30:51
Speaker 2: time as we can. You know, my staff will go in,
30:54
Speaker 2: then I go in, and usually by the time you
30:57
Speaker 2: have surgery, I mean I've seen you three times at least,
31:01
Speaker 2: we've answered all your questions, you know, any email, It's
31:05
Speaker 2: just easy. That's the way it should be. It should
31:07
Speaker 2: just be easy. Anytime you're undergoing any kind of operation,
31:11
Speaker 2: you know, or really doing anything in life, it just
31:13
Speaker 2: should be easy. I just am a I'm an efficiency person.
31:16
Speaker 2: I love that nothing should be hard. No, you know,
31:19
Speaker 2: I mean life is hard, right, but we don't need
31:23
Speaker 2: to make it harder. Yes, exactly.
31:26
Speaker 1: So one of the really interesting things in conversations that
31:30
Speaker 1: I'm sure you have been a part of is the
31:33
Speaker 1: industry of plastic surgery. And this goes back to women
31:37
Speaker 1: and self care and how we put out the best
31:40
Speaker 1: version of ourselves. There is so much of a taboo
31:45
Speaker 1: for some people around admitting or aging gracefully if they
31:51
Speaker 1: don't believe in going to get a little botox or
31:53
Speaker 1: filler or whatever it is. But I think what you
31:58
Speaker 1: do is how are women to show up truly comfortable
32:03
Speaker 1: in their skin, whatever that means, if it's like the botox,
32:06
Speaker 1: or if it's a tummy tuck or getting a breast
32:08
Speaker 1: augmentation or whatever it is, showing up as the best
32:12
Speaker 1: version of themselves to go out and write their success
32:16
Speaker 1: story and whatever that looks like. And I'm sure that
32:21
Speaker 1: you hear all the time. It's elective, and it's just
32:25
Speaker 1: it seems like it may be frivolous or an extra
32:29
Speaker 1: but in my opinion, what you do is empowering people
32:33
Speaker 1: and should be a priority if it's going to be
32:35
Speaker 1: making you feel good about who you are and what
32:38
Speaker 1: you're out building. So hopefully that narrative starts to change
32:42
Speaker 1: a little bit.
32:43
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so. I mean, I think much like
32:45
Speaker 2: a hot pair of stilettos, right, it gives you confidence.
32:49
Speaker 2: You know, might be shiny, it might be frivolous, might
32:51
Speaker 2: be really expensive, but it gives you confidence. You're strutting
32:55
Speaker 2: your stuff. You're walking into that boardroom ready to command
32:58
Speaker 2: the room and take control. And I think a lot
33:00
Speaker 2: of plastic surgery, when done well and when done ethically,
33:06
Speaker 2: really can set our patients up for this life that
33:11
Speaker 2: they either had and lost or have always dreamed of.
33:15
Speaker 2: You know, I constantly hear, especially my weight lost patients,
33:18
Speaker 2: I have never seen my vagina. I mean, yes, show
33:24
Speaker 2: stop her. I've never seen my vagina until now, you
33:26
Speaker 2: don't understand this is like the most confidence boosting moment.
33:34
Speaker 2: It's unbelievable or I've never realized that, like I could
33:40
Speaker 2: feel so beautiful in my clothes or for my daughter's wedding.
33:43
Speaker 2: And a patient recently she bless her, should love her
33:46
Speaker 2: to pieces. She's like sixty seven years old. She had
33:49
Speaker 2: a tummy tuck. She was getting ready for her daughter
33:52
Speaker 2: to get married, her only daughter and mother of the bride. Right,
33:56
Speaker 2: she's nervous, she wants to look her best. Know, lost
34:01
Speaker 2: some weight. We took off, you know, her tummy skin.
34:05
Speaker 2: And she sent me pictures from her daughter's wedding and
34:08
Speaker 2: I mean she was just glowing and you could just
34:11
Speaker 2: see her confidence. And she told us, right, I mean,
34:14
Speaker 2: she told us, I have never felt more beautiful. Thank you.
34:18
Speaker 2: And that's why we do it. That's why we love it. Right,
34:20
Speaker 2: Like this is seeing women just complete and men completely
34:25
Speaker 2: transform their entire butterfly point like a butterfly just and
34:31
Speaker 2: fly away unhappy, and you know, makes me, gives me,
34:36
Speaker 2: gives me. That's my success, right, that's my why.
34:40
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean to get to see people every day
34:44
Speaker 1: be emotional and the best way possible because you give
34:47
Speaker 1: them a piece of something that they never thought they
34:49
Speaker 1: could have back or ever have. In general, it's got
34:52
Speaker 1: to be amazing.
34:53
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's awesome.
34:54
Speaker 1: So what's next for the practice?
34:58
Speaker 2: Well, I think, you know, the biggest thing is growth
35:01
Speaker 2: and expansion. I think we're always growing in every single way,
35:06
Speaker 2: learning to, you know, do what we're doing better and
35:12
Speaker 2: building on the wonderful foundation that I think our office
35:15
Speaker 2: is set. So stay tuned because there is going to
35:19
Speaker 2: be some wonderful things.
35:20
Speaker 1: At I am not at all surprised by that. So
35:25
Speaker 1: for anybody listening, where can they find you and follow
35:29
Speaker 1: along on this journey that you're on.
35:31
Speaker 2: Yes, so I am doctor Stephanie Pores at PORS Plastic Surgery.
35:36
Speaker 2: Our office is located right off of the par Street
35:40
Speaker 2: exit in Orlando Winter Park, Florida. You can go to
35:43
Speaker 2: our website Pores Plastic Surgery p O r I S
35:47
Speaker 2: Plastic Surgery dot com. You can follow me at Stiletto
35:51
Speaker 2: Underscore Surgeon on Instagram, and I also have a podcast,
35:56
Speaker 2: so you can follow along at the podcast the Stiletto
35:59
Speaker 2: surch as well.
36:01
Speaker 1: And yeah, I love it. We'll put all of that
36:04
Speaker 1: in the show notes. And for anybody that's local, keep
36:07
Speaker 1: an eye out. I've seen you on quite a few
36:09
Speaker 1: billboards and I totally have a fangirl moment and try
36:12
Speaker 1: not to take my phone out and take a picture
36:14
Speaker 1: while I'm driving. I love it. It's so great.
36:18
Speaker 2: Thank you.
36:18
Speaker 1: Do you when you see those pod when you see
36:20
Speaker 1: the billboards, is there a little moment of like, holy cow.
36:26
Speaker 2: I think it is a little bit real. And it's
36:28
Speaker 2: funny because my kids will be Yeah, they're like, why
36:32
Speaker 2: are you on podcasts, mommy? Or not podcasts? Why are
36:35
Speaker 2: you on billboards? Mommy? Are any other mommies on billboards?
36:39
Speaker 1: All of these women maybe?
36:41
Speaker 2: And I just, you know, I just laugh and I
36:44
Speaker 2: just chuckle and I said, yeah, mommy is big. She's
36:46
Speaker 2: you know, finally twenty feet tall.
36:48
Speaker 1: I'm doing big things. I love that. Awesome. Well, thank
36:53
Speaker 1: you so much, thank you for joining. This was so
36:57
Speaker 1: much fun for any of you. Thank you listening. I
37:00
Speaker 1: would encourage you to find doctor Porous follow along. She
37:06
Speaker 1: is a breath of fresh air in any room that
37:08
Speaker 1: she is in. And of course, when it comes to
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37:42
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