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449. She’s back...The Twin Birth Story · Do You F*cking Mind?

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  Speaker 1: Since Hello, my beautiful beans, and welcome to this very
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  Speaker 1: special podcast episode today. Now, for those of you that
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  Speaker 1: have just stumbled across my podcast, this is going to
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  Speaker 1: be a very personal life update. It's not a reflection
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  Speaker 1: of what all my other episodes are about.
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  Speaker 2: So if you're.
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  Speaker 1: Stumbling across and I'm just talking all about myself and
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  Speaker 1: my life and my episodes are not normally about that,
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  Speaker 1: this is for my audience that have.
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  Speaker 2: Come along on the journey with me.
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  Speaker 1: I want to hear all about the birth story of
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  Speaker 1: my twin boys and everything about it. Not I'm not
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  Speaker 1: just going to tell you the story of the birth
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  Speaker 1: and a bit off the life update because I haven't
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  Speaker 1: recorded for about two months now, even though episodes have
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  Speaker 1: been coming out, but I personally have not been recording.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm also going to be answering a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: the questions that you guys sent through on Instagram as well.
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  Speaker 2: Last week.
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  Speaker 1: I asked you any questions around how I'm experiencing things
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  Speaker 1: or whatever you want to hear from my angle, I
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  Speaker 1: will be answering as many of those as possible. So,
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  Speaker 1: without further ado, let's get fucking into the bird story.
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  Speaker 1: Off the twins so there's just like I don't even
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  Speaker 1: know where to begin. But what I am going to
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  Speaker 1: say is that overall, as you guys saw, especially if
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  Speaker 1: you guys watched the videos or if you follow me
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  Speaker 1: on socials, my pregnancy was.
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  Speaker 2: Very, very good.
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  Speaker 1: I had a really really healthy, normal pregnancy, considering that
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  Speaker 1: I was pregnant with identical twins, and identical twins twins
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  Speaker 1: in general, but then even more so identical twins because
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  Speaker 1: they share a placenta.
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  Speaker 2: It comes with the potential of there.
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  Speaker 1: Being a lot of risks, but mine ended up being
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  Speaker 1: quite a seamless pregnancy, and because of that, I was
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  Speaker 1: actually able to have a relatively normal life in the
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  Speaker 1: lead up. I know a lot of people don't have
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  Speaker 1: that experience, so it's really important that when I talk
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  Speaker 1: about my experience versus other people's experience, just to like
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  Speaker 1: take that with a grain of salt, because you know,
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  Speaker 1: everyone's going to have a different journey when they go
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  Speaker 1: through their pregnancy.
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  Speaker 2: But considering it was twins, it was amazing. Things. Shit
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  Speaker 2: got fucking.
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  Speaker 1: Hard in the last I want to say, four weeks,
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  Speaker 1: six to four weeks, but the last four weeks, the last.
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  Speaker 2: Two I cannot tell you how swollen.
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  Speaker 1: My legs were When I say tubes, I mean they
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  Speaker 1: were tubes. My knees had no wrinkles. Close your eyes
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  Speaker 1: and picture a wrinkleless knee, okay, stretched out like when
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  Speaker 1: the leg is straight. It was just a tube, two
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  Speaker 1: tubes of fluid. I would like push down on my
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  Speaker 1: foot or my like where the shinbone supposedly is, and
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  Speaker 1: it would just be like a divot that would be
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  Speaker 1: there for you know, you could likely fill the pocket
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  Speaker 1: up with water.
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  Speaker 2: If you wanted to.
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  Speaker 1: Like it was hardcore. I was, you know, very slow. Weirdly,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't waddle, but I was very slow. My pelvis
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  Speaker 1: started to hurt. I never got back pain. That's another
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  Speaker 1: weird thing. Considering how huge I was out in front.
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking massive these twins.
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  Speaker 2: There was over six.
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  Speaker 1: Kilo of baby in there, plus the placenta, plus all
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  Speaker 1: the fluid. It was full on in the five days
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  Speaker 1: before I get into the actual birth story. In the
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  Speaker 1: five days from when I went in just before birthing
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  Speaker 1: to when I left the hospital, I lost twenty kilos okay,
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  Speaker 1: twenty kilos, So you just imagine how much mass I
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  Speaker 1: was carrying.
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  Speaker 2: On top of the fact.
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  Speaker 1: That then you're obviously going to put on a bit
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  Speaker 1: of weight and whatever. So it was just wild what
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  Speaker 1: my body went through in the lead up to that.
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  Speaker 1: And that's just that's on carrying twins. So any of
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  Speaker 1: you guys listening who have carried twins, I'm sure maybe
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  Speaker 1: not all of you, but a bunch of you would be.
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  Speaker 2: Like, yeah, fucking yep, I hear you.
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  Speaker 1: I've been through that. So that was the lead up.
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  Speaker 1: I was definitely ready to birth these babies. I was
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  Speaker 1: so ready. I did not know what the gender would be. Also,
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  Speaker 1: if you guys want to know the whole story about
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  Speaker 1: how I found out about the twins all of that,
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  Speaker 1: there is an episode on that that I've released around
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  Speaker 1: I think it was March or April, so go check
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  Speaker 1: that one out because I won't, like, I won't retell
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  Speaker 1: that story because it exists anyway. So we wanted the
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  Speaker 1: gender to be a surprise. I really pushed for it
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  Speaker 1: to be a surprise, and then Taro and fully got
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  Speaker 1: on board with it. So when we had the cesarean booked,
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  Speaker 1: when we decided to go into the hospital, of that
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  Speaker 1: it was all going to be a surprise. We had
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  Speaker 1: no idea that there were going to be boys. So
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  Speaker 1: on the day of the birth, we had the cesareans
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  Speaker 1: scheduled for one pm on the first of September. And
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  Speaker 1: in Australia we consider spring to start on the first
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  Speaker 1: of September. I know pretty much every other country in
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  Speaker 1: the world spring starts on like the twenty second or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: But I thought it was really cool that at least
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  Speaker 1: in Australia they were born on the first day of spring.
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  Speaker 1: And I we had decided with the obstetrician that if
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  Speaker 1: we get to full term for twins, which is thirty
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  Speaker 1: seven weeks, which would be a huge feat and we
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  Speaker 1: would really hoping we could get there, but it's kind
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  Speaker 1: of not within your control, then that would be the
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  Speaker 1: day that we get them out, because any longer than
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  Speaker 1: thirty seven weeks could pose other risks as well, and
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  Speaker 1: you know, the pluc center being quite big and all
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  Speaker 1: these other things. Anyway, we decided, if they get to
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  Speaker 1: thirty seven weeks, we are cesarean caesareaning them out.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: We also did discuss that even if they did come earlier,
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  Speaker 1: we would still opt for the Cesarean route. And the
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  Speaker 1: reason for that is a lot of people ask like,
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  Speaker 1: did you want to try vaginal Did you want?
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  Speaker 2: Did you this? Did you that?
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  Speaker 1: When I first found out I was pregnant, before knowing
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  Speaker 1: they were twins, I did want to try a vaginal birth.
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  Speaker 1: I thought, you know what, if there are no complications,
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  Speaker 1: why not, let's just do it.
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  Speaker 2: Let's give it a go.
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  Speaker 1: I'm also not against needing a cesarean or wanting a cesarian.
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  Speaker 1: I just thought, look, if there's no reason why not to,
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  Speaker 1: then let's just try. Then, when I found out that
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  Speaker 1: I was pregnant with twins, I did consider it for
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  Speaker 1: a hot one point five seconds, like maybe I could still,
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  Speaker 1: you know, do it. And there are many people that
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  Speaker 1: birth their twins vaginally and you know that's you know, beautiful.
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  Speaker 2: But I had long talks.
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  Speaker 1: With my obstetrician and he said, look, there's just many
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  Speaker 1: things that can happen. A. You can birth the twins
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  Speaker 1: vaginally and they both get birth perfectly, fine, everything's great.
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  Speaker 1: B You birth one vaginally and then the other one
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  Speaker 1: is no longer head down. It kind of flips around
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  Speaker 1: while twin A is being birthed, and then it's breach,
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  Speaker 1: and then it ends up them having to try and
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  Speaker 1: pull it out, and then they can't this complications and
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  Speaker 1: then they have to cesarean the second one out, or
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  Speaker 1: there's got to be complications in general and you've got
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  Speaker 1: to emergency cesarean them both out. I didn't want. It
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  Speaker 1: didn't appeal to me to go through a vaginal birth
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  Speaker 1: and a cesarean two in one. It's not to mention
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  Speaker 1: an emergency cesarean and then have to proceed to heal
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  Speaker 1: while parenting twins.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, that's not what I want.
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  Speaker 1: What I want is to be the most sane and
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  Speaker 1: intact possible version of myself when I then have two
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  Speaker 1: newborns to look after. Not that they even have to justify.
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  Speaker 1: It's not even about justifying. But that's where my head
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  Speaker 1: was out. So I was very happy with the fact
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  Speaker 1: that we kind of were. It's almost like the decision
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  Speaker 1: was taken away from me in a good way, and
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I feel really good about this now
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  Speaker 1: I've discussed it. I don't really like the odds for me,
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  Speaker 1: so I really like the idea of a planned cesarean.
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  Speaker 1: We decided that the only way I'd be having a
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  Speaker 1: vaginal birth is if I rolled into hospital fully dilated
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  Speaker 1: well before the thirty seven week Mark, and then of
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  Speaker 1: course we would try it because then there's other complications
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  Speaker 1: if you kind of stop the process mid birth thing.
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  Speaker 2: Anyway, so that's where I was at.
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  Speaker 1: We made it to thirty seven weeks. This was a
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  Speaker 1: huge achievement. Really, I didn't really achieve it. It's not
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  Speaker 1: within your control, but it was a huge achievement. We
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  Speaker 1: were very excited and in the theater, I obviously had Tyrone,
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  Speaker 1: my partner, and I asked my sister to be at
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  Speaker 1: the birth with me.
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  Speaker 2: Stephanie has been on this podcast.
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  Speaker 1: If you guys have been to the live show, you
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  Speaker 1: would have met Stephanie at the merch stand. She is
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  Speaker 1: my fucking right or die human being on earth. And
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  Speaker 1: I just I feel like when you are giving birth,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's a cesaian, whether it's vaginal, it is one
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  Speaker 1: of the most vulnerable moments of the mother's life. Right,
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  Speaker 1: So I thought, who do I want there? That my
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  Speaker 1: two closest people, that's Tyrone and Stephanie. So she was pumped,
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  Speaker 1: she was thrilled. She came over in the morning. We
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  Speaker 1: had to beat the hospital at ten thirty. She came
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  Speaker 1: over at nine point thirty. I woke up that morning, guys,
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  Speaker 1: this was my morning.
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  Speaker 2: The day of the birth.
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  Speaker 1: I woke up, I had like an omelet very early
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  Speaker 1: on because I had to have stopped eating by six
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  Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning, so I had a very early breakfast.
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  Speaker 1: Then I crawled back into bed and I watched the
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  Speaker 1: Formula one replay that was from the night before. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm just relaxing in bed watching the Formula One. I
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  Speaker 1: felt very chilled, very relaxed, had a shower. Then my
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  Speaker 1: sister comes over. I can no longer eat or like
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  Speaker 1: have coffee or anything like that, so I'm just on
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  Speaker 1: the water at that point. And then Tyrone's dad picks
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  Speaker 1: us up, and Tyrone's dad takes Stephanie, Tyrone and I.
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  Speaker 2: To the hospital.
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  Speaker 1: Since we birthed at the Marta in Sydney, so we
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  Speaker 1: rock up to the hospital and we say bid Tarran's dad,
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  Speaker 1: and then we've got to do all this paperwork and
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  Speaker 1: then we get taken up to the room that I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to be in and we're kind of waiting for
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  Speaker 1: about two hours before the surgery. And can I tell you,
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  Speaker 1: a planned cesarian is so cool, calm and collected and relaxed.
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  Speaker 2: So a lot of people were like were you stressed.
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  Speaker 2: Were you were? I was so calm. I was the
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  Speaker 2: opposite of stress.
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  Speaker 1: They make you feel so good there, and it's obviously
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  Speaker 1: going to be a very different experience to an emergency.
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  Speaker 2: Cesarean so everything you got all the time in the world.
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  Speaker 2: They give you so much time. You're there so.
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  Speaker 1: Early that then we met the midwife Jerry. She was
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  Speaker 1: a legend. She's so cool.
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  Speaker 2: She you know.
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  Speaker 1: She even said to me afterwards that she had actually
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  Speaker 1: stayed back longer in her shift because when I went
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  Speaker 1: in for surgery, she then stayed her shift had ended,
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  Speaker 1: but she said because she wanted to find out what
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  Speaker 1: the gender was of the twins and how it all went.
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  Speaker 1: So they were just such a beautiful team of midwives
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  Speaker 1: them anyway, So we get there, they're doing all my
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  Speaker 1: tests and stuff. They put me in that weird gown
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  Speaker 1: where you know, you're naked underneath and you wearing this gown,
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  Speaker 1: and I.
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  Speaker 2: Was like, so enormous.
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  Speaker 1: They're like checking for the heart rate of both the twins,
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  Speaker 1: They're monitoring my blood pressure, They're doing all of that,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm just kind of chilling there and then Tyrone and.
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  Speaker 2: Tyrone was like, does anyone want to eat something. Does
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  Speaker 2: anyone want to eat? Stephanie shortly? You want to eat? Surely, surely?
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  Speaker 2: And she's like, oh no, I'm fine and fine. He's like,
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  Speaker 2: you'll eat, You'll eat surely, and he was pacing like
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  Speaker 2: he was so much more stressed than I was.
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  Speaker 1: Anyway, he leaves and then he comes back with like
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  Speaker 1: a full meal for Stephanie, and she was like, well,
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  Speaker 1: what about your meal.
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  Speaker 2: He's like, na, na, na, I can't eat. I'm too stressed.
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  Speaker 2: She's like, I didn't want to eat anyway.
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  Speaker 1: Anyway, So then they get dressed up in the green
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  Speaker 1: scrubs and finally we're ready to get wheeled in. So
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  Speaker 1: from my room, I stay in this bed and we
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  Speaker 1: get wheeled into like the pre theater room, and honestly,
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  Speaker 1: I was in the best mood. I was on a high.
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  Speaker 1: I'm waving to all the nurses. I'm like, oh, I'll
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  Speaker 1: see you with my two kids, like I was. And
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't drugged yet, by the way. I was just
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  Speaker 1: very much in the best mood of my life. We
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  Speaker 1: get willed into the pre theater room and we're they're
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  Speaker 1: the anethetist was a legend. We're just bantering with the
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  Speaker 1: nurse the anethetist. That's when he went in and did
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  Speaker 1: the spinal block. Now, the spinal block is different to
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  Speaker 1: a an epidural, and I've done a brain fact on
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  Speaker 1: the difference between a spinal block and an epidural, and
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  Speaker 1: it's really interesting because it's you actually inject into a
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  Speaker 1: different space. One is in the epidural space and one
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  Speaker 1: is in the subarachnoid space. An epidural they leave the
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  Speaker 1: canula in your back and they're able, which is like
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  Speaker 1: not a hard needle, it's a soft thing, and they're
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  Speaker 1: able to administer more of the drug than when they
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  Speaker 1: need a spinal block. They just go in bang once
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  Speaker 1: and it lasts for about two hours and then it
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  Speaker 1: starts to wear off. There's different strengths. The spinal block
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  Speaker 1: is a lot stronger. It's definite like you're losing all
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  Speaker 1: your temperature and pain sensation, but you do feel pressure,
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  Speaker 1: whereas an epidural, depending on how much they administer, you
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  Speaker 1: might still actually feel certain things. And some people report
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  Speaker 1: that they get the epidural but they still feel, you know,
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  Speaker 1: their legs, or they still feel certain things. Anyway, So
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  Speaker 1: I got the spinal block the most painful thing of
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  Speaker 1: the entire experience pre birth, because obviously healing was very painful,
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  Speaker 1: but pre birth was the local injection. And he got
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  Speaker 1: Tyrone to stand in front of me. Tyrone's like a
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  Speaker 1: bit squamish, so he's like, I'm not watching that. Meanwhile, Stephanie,
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  Speaker 1: my sister's like filming the whole thing, filming the needle
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  Speaker 1: go into my back. She loves that shit anyway. So
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  Speaker 1: Tyrone was in front of me. I'm squeezing his hands
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  Speaker 1: so hard. As the local goes in, it stings for
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  Speaker 1: about three seconds, and then that was it. And then
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  Speaker 1: very soon after he's like, okay, yep, now I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to go in like that local is very fast, acting,
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  Speaker 1: very strong, and then he's going in with the spinal block.
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  Speaker 2: I did not feel a thing, and Stephanie was like,
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  Speaker 2: holy shit, that's such a big needle. I'm just like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm glad I didn't see it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty good with the needles and stuff, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: just and Tyrone's like.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, Steph stopped, don't all stop talking about it, because anyway,
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  Speaker 2: apparently it was hectic. Glad I didn't see it.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't feel a thing that went in and It
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  Speaker 1: was so fast because he puts it in and he says,
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  Speaker 1: you know, you're going to start to feel this kind
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  Speaker 1: of rush from your toes all the way up your legs,
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  Speaker 1: and then it's going to be tingling.
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  Speaker 2: And as he's saying it, it's happening.
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  Speaker 1: It was so fast that I'm like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: I need to lie back down, and they're like lifting
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  Speaker 1: my legs up and swinging back onto the bed because
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  Speaker 1: I was like, if it's now or ever otherwise, they're
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  Speaker 1: going to have to do it for me because I
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  Speaker 1: could not. My legs already were like just going dead.
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  Speaker 2: Anyway.
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  Speaker 1: Then our obstrition comes in and he's like linking the
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  Speaker 1: speaker to our playlist because I've got that you should
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  Speaker 1: hear the playlist that I had. I had Spice Gulls
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  Speaker 1: on there, I had Gypsy Kings, I had a Savage Garden,
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  Speaker 1: I had you know, deep house music, and it's just
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  Speaker 1: honestly the best playlist. So I feel like I need
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  Speaker 1: to share it with you guys, if you guys are
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  Speaker 1: intrigued in my birth playlist anyway. So then the obstration
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  Speaker 1: comes in, we link up the speaker. He chats to
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  Speaker 1: us about what's going to happen. He has a moment
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  Speaker 1: with Tyrone and I being like, all right, this is
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  Speaker 1: like the most mind blowing moment of your life, so
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  Speaker 1: just like take it all in, be really present, you know,
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  Speaker 1: just milk it, milk this moment. And then we get
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  Speaker 1: wheeled into the theater and that's when they transferred me
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  Speaker 1: onto like the operating table. So they move me from
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  Speaker 1: the bed that I was in onto the operating table
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  Speaker 1: and then they start like prepping me, so I get
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  Speaker 1: like a catheter put in, then the obstriction goes off,
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  Speaker 1: gets fully scrubbed up, comes back. They're putting up that
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  Speaker 1: curtain in between, and they're painting me with like better den.
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  Speaker 1: They've linked me up to all these monitors. And my
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  Speaker 1: sister was laughing so much because she her whoop was
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  Speaker 1: going off, and it was like, are you working out?
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  Speaker 1: Do you need to track this workout? And Stephanie is like,
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  Speaker 1: my heart rate is at like one oh nine and
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  Speaker 1: it's normally her resting heart rate's like fifty and so
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  Speaker 1: it was just going crazy. So she's like, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to track your birth as my workout.
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  Speaker 2: So she was doing that and we could see my
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  Speaker 2: heart rate.
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  Speaker 1: It was just fifty five. I was so calm the
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  Speaker 1: whole time. My heart rate was really chilled. And then
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  Speaker 1: before we knew it, oh no, then before that, my
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: obstraitric He's such a legend. He's like everything had to
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: be perfect, and he's like, I'm very vain.
• 15:05
  Speaker 2: Your scar's gonna look great, don't worry about it.
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: And I was wearing those like ugly shower cap things
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: that you have to weigh in like the theater, and
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: he comes and he looks at me and he's trying
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: to like fix the shower cap on my head, and
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: then he grabs it and he pulls it off and
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: he tosses it.
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: He's like, she won't be wearing that.
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: And then he fixes the cap on tyrone and step
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: and he's like, great, now we're ready for the photos.
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: And he started the surgery because they were taking photos
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: as well off the whole event. They take photos of
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: the baby, of me, everything, and then it's you know,
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: they edit it and then they send it to us
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: after the birth. So we got these like epic photos
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: of the birth.
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: That he got his staff to take.
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: Anyway, so we then, yeah, he starts the whole procedure
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: and Stephanie is giving me a full play by play
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: off the surgery. She's looking back around the curtain being like,
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: now they're cutting this, now they're cutting that, now they're
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: cutting this lag and and Tyro's like, oh my god,
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: I don't want to hear it.
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, tell me more, tell me all the details.
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: I'm so into all of that.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: I love surgery, as you guys know, like all this shit,
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: so I was really into it. And then Stephanie kept
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: wrapping her head around the curtain and they're like, oh,
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: if you want to be on this side, just let
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: us know. We'll give you a mask. So they gave
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: her a proper mask, and then she was on the
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: other side where they were doing the surgery.
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: And then all of a sudden, like it felt so fast,
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: all of a sudden.
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: They're like, all right, all right, the baby's coming out.
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: The baby's coming out. We didn't know the gender, mind you.
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: So they dropped the curtain down the uneath the test
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: is lifting my head and shoulder because obviously I can't
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: lift myself up. I'm like completely numb from like the
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: rib cage down and where I'm watching the baby twin
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: a get like pulled out, pulled out, pulled out, pulled out,
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: and then yeah, at the same time, Tyrone, Justin and
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: Stephanie they're like, it's a boy. It's a boy, and
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: they lift him up and it was just, oh my god.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: It was so unbelievable. But given that they were twins,
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: given that they're born premier thirty seven weeks, I didn't
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: have the chance to have the baby straight up onto
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: my chest.
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: They had to take it straight away to that.
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: Little like cot thing with the pediatrician to check that
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: they were, you know, they were getting adequate oxygen, that
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: they were breathing properly.
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: That all of that.
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: So it was a little bit of a pause before
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: I was actually able to grab them. So what they
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: had done is they'd set up a screen right next
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: to my face so I'm able to look at the
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: baby being taken to that like cot thing, whether pediatrician
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: is with them. So it was really that they really
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: thought of everything so that way I feel really comfortable
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: and secure.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: With everything that was happening.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: And they needed to check if the babies needed to
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: go to special care nursery or not, because there was
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: a big chance that they would need to go to
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: special care because a lot of twins do end up
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: in special care, not the NICKU, because that's normally the
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: nickus when they're even like way more PREMI but they
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: might need like oxygen and things like that, but they didn't,
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: so they took the twin A. We hadn't named him yet.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: This ended up being Santiago, but they took Twin A.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: And then they're already starting to birth twin B and
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: kind of I can't explain to you how hard the
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: nurses and the other like obstetrician had to push on
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: my tummy. I could feel the pushing so hard. You
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: feel pressure, but you don't feel pain, you don't feel
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: any temperature.
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: They pushed so hard. And then there's a video off it.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: I would share it, but I'd probably get like banned
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: on Instagram for like sharing like graphic videos.
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: But it was unbelievable.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: They're pushing so hard to push twin Bee further down,
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: and it's just crazy, like I think we think that, oh,
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: it's so fright, just like the body's quite resilient and babies,
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: newborns are actually really resilient as well then their birthing,
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: like they're pushing out twin Bee. They were born six
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: minutes apart, and a lot of people are like, wow,
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: that's a really long time. I feel like it's not
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: that long, and also I think that it's you know,
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: they get the head out, then they wait a bit,
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: they're wiping the baby's face, they're trying to get the
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: baby to start breathing, and then they pull the baby out.
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: So I don't know, I just feel like six minutes
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: isn't that long. But other people were like, wow, that's
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: so long. Anyway, so they pulled twin be out again.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: There was like sixteen people in this room. There were
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: so many people. There was like two of everything, two midwives,
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: two this to that too, pediatricians because they needed.
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: A team for each baby in case something went wrong.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: Anyway, Then they check both babies, Tyrone goes over Tyrone's
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: cutting the umbilical call, and then finally they wrap the
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: babies up and they bring them and they put both
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: the babies on my chest and for the first time,
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: I like, that's when I started crying and my heart
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: rate went up, and Stephanie was like, the first like
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: the time when your heart rate went up was when
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: you like were lifted up and you saw the babies,
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: and then when they were put on your chest and
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: you know, like I was just looking at them, it
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: was this unbelievable moment. I can't I cannot explain it.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: I had this feeling from sixteen weeks that I would
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: be having boys. I always wanted girls, and then at
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: sixteen weeks, I was like, I think I'm having boys.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: So I had this moment of like, I need to
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: really just picture my life with both genders, because why
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: is it that I see myself with girls?
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: Why do I prefer girls?
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: And then when I had this moment of really asking
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: myself those questions, I'm like, I actually don't have a preference.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: Now now that I've really pictured my life with two
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: boys or two girls, I don't have a preference. But
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: I really felt that they were boys after sixteen weeks,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: and they were and it was just incredible. So they
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: put them on my chest. It was just unbelievable. And
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: then they had to.
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: I'm just trying to think.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: I feel like there's like patches of my memory that's
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: a bit foggy. But then they took the twins again
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: to do a few more further checks, and that's when
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: they started stitching me back up. Then now I put
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: the twins back on. They finished stitching me back up.
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: There was like it's a full on thing. They've got
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: to stitch like seven layers. But he was very like
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: swift and quick. The fastest thing was birthing the babies.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: The thing that takes the longest is the sewing back up.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: And he's a bit of a perfectionist, but he did
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: a really swift, quick job.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: Then they're like, wipe you down. Mind you.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: You can't feel a fucking thing. You're still numb. You're
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: lying horizontal. So they've got to kind of like roll
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: you to the side, wipe you, roll you to the
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: sidewipe you. Get rid of my compression stockings because they
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: were covered in blood.
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: Like it's full it's full on. It's pretty gory. And
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: then from.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: There they wheel us into the recovery room and that's
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: where they gave so they gave the twins a vitamin
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: K injection immediately after they're born, and then they give
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: the twins an injection for hep B. I'm pretty sure
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: it is. When we're going to the recovery room, and
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: that's where they're doing all like the little tags they
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: take in their feed, they're doing this, they're doing that,
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: and for the first time, that's when I put each
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: of them on the boobs, so I'm doing like a
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: tandem feed and they're like trying to get the colostrum,
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: and that's when we facetimed.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: Oh, so we FaceTime my parents. My parents are in Sydney.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: They were just like down the road, but we FaceTime
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: then when they were like on the chest, and then
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: we facetimed live. Of course, when I was in the
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: recovery room and she was in South Africa like for
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: a wedding, and I think it was like five am
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: in the morning and we woke her up and.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: She was like, oh my god, oh my god, screaming.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: Crying, and her partner Patria, was like, what the fuck
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: is going on at five o'clock in the morning.
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: She's like the babess. I'm on the babes of one.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: So yeah, it was just incredible and we were there
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: for about an hour.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: They were like checking all my vitals and everything, and
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: then from there we were wheeled into the room that
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: I was at with the twins and they didn't need
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: special care. They were on my chest the whole time
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: for ages and then then the whole family started coming
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: to visit. When I tell you there was at one
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: point there was probably twenty p people.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: I'm not exaggerating.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: I think maybe eighteen or twenty people in the room
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: at one time this small room. Tyrone's parents, sister, her kids,
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: my cousins, my parents obviously were already there.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: Like it was just unbelievable.
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: It was the best day of my life, to the
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: extent that like the surge of hormones that you get
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: when that happens, Like it was so emotional, so emotional
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: meeting the twins that that night, I was like looking
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: at the twins, I was like giving them a feed.
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: Tyrone had fallen asleep. Everything had gone quiet, and I
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: remember just looking at these two babies like crying, but
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: just purely happiness. Like it was just like so much emotion.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, I can't believe I'm looking
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: at them. I can't believe in And it was a
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: lot of gratitude as well for feeling like how well
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: everything went, that you know, that they were healthy, that
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: our whole family had been there, that we had all
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: this support. I don't know, like it was just the
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: biggest wave of positive emotion I think I've ever felt.
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: Was very very intense, and also like there's the oxytocin
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: that gets really so you're feeling very mushy emotionally. Well
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: I did, at least I felt like a bag of emotions,
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: and it was positive emotions. But you know, you would
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: touch me and I would be like, oh, like I'd
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: want to cry, but I felt really good and I
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: felt happy. But it's something that I really have an
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: experience to that extent. It's like that level of emotion. Anyway.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: Then we were there in the hospital for five days,
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: and every day we would have you know, my sister,
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: my parents, you know, Tyrone's family, friends would come and visit,
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: and it was just such a beautiful time in the
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: hospital that by the time the fifth day rolled around,
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: I was getting a little bit like I really didn't
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: want that fifth day to roll around.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: I didn't. It was so weird because I was so
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: ready to be home.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: I was so ready to get the kids home, to
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: be in our own space, to not be woken up
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: like every hour to get your vitals, like, you know,
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: your blood pressure, all that done. But I just felt
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: so protected in that bubble. It was like the end
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: of the first era of the kids' lives. That makes sense.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: I don't know how to explain it. And I was
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: really sad for that era to end. It was a bittersweet.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: And you know, you have all this support from the midwives.
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: The midwives were unbelievable.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: Can I just say, also, what is it about Irish midwives?
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: They're so amazing. There's something about Irish women who are
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: nurses that it's like this next level of care and
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: they're just so warm and amazing.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: I just shout out to Irish.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: All the nurses were amazing, mind you at the Marta,
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: but the Irish nurses were just are just obsessed anyway,
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: And yeah, you just feel so so like cared for.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: And Tyrone, we opted for a bigger room. You paid
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: a little bit extra and we've got a bigger room,
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: so we had like a double bed. So Tyrone was
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: there the whole time. We slept in the same bed.
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: He didn't leave the hospital other than to get us food.
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: So it was really nice for us to be there
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: for the five days, just like the four of us there. Habib,
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: mind you, our dog, Habib was with my parents. And
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: then yeah, when I was at the hospital. You could
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: do all these classes as well at the Marta. So
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: one was you know, like bringing the children home, one
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: was a breastfeeding class. One was the physio class. And
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: I did the physio class. And they do an assessment
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: on all the all the moms there on your separation
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: and they give you so they gave me like a
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: belly band to kind of help like bring your abs
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: a little bit closer together and to support your back
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: of course, and when she tested, like she had me
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: lying down and doing a few things, and my separation
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: at the hospital was ten centimeters.
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: This is extreme.
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: All the other moms were like two centimeters, three centimeters,
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: three and a half, two centimeters. And then I was
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: last and she was like, yeah, yours is ten and
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: the other moms were like ah.
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: She was like yes.
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: She carried twins and one of them was horizontal. Is
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: literally my abs were so stretched out, they were so
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: like loose and floppy, and I felt like jelly like
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: the next morning, because mind you, when you have the cesarean,
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: you don't walk until the next morning.
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: I didn't get out.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: Of bed until five o'clock, five point thirty in the
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: morn the next day, and I was I stood up,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: they removed the catheter. I stood up, and I was like,
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: oh my god, I've got no abs, no structural integrity.
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: I feel like jelly.
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: And it's different to when you're pregnant because you've got
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: something pushing against your belly, so it's kind of like
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: you've got this firmness in there that you're stable. This
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: was like there's no stability, and I needed help from
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: Tyrone to like walk into the bathroom in Tyrone had
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: to shower me good times, good times, and you're like
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: sitting in this chair in this weird shower. Anyway, so
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: that was a journey from there to now, and that
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: was like six weeks ago now. So it's crazy how
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: how fast the body starts to like heal if you
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: give it space and time to heal.
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: Anyway.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: So ten Centimatoes was a separation actually by the time
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: that you guys listen to this episode, which so I'm
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: recording this on Friday, it's going to come out on Monday.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: I will be at my physio appointment because I cannot wait.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: I cannot wait to get back into training. And it's
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: not about it's not about oh my god, I've got
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: to get my body, back, whatever, it's how it makes
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: me feel. You guys know that, like exercise is such
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: a big part of my.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: Life, Like it is therapy. It is therapy for the
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: brain and for the body and for it's everything. I
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: love it. I love running, I love wait. I just
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: can't wait. But I've had to ease into it.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: So you should see, Like the workouts that I do
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: at the moment, it's not it's rehab. It's just breathing
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: exercises that I'm doing, like particular breathing exercises where it's
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: like bracing, it's lying flat and then extending one leg
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: out at a time and bringing it back and extending
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: it's like standing and lifting one leg up at a time.
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: It's like, it's not a workout. I'm just rehabbing, and
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: I'm happy. I'm okay with that.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: It's just that I'm just really excited to get to training,
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: and i just feel like my separation will still be
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: quite big, So I've got a bit of a.
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: Journey ahead of me.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: But you know what, I'm happy to If I have
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: to take longer doing these rehab exercises, it's fine. I
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: think in the long run, that's the best way to
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: do it. Rushing into exercise is just going to prolong
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: my actual healing overall, so I've just got to do
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: the right thing.
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: But anyway, yeah, ten centimeters, fun times ahead.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: Who Anyway, I think I'm ready to kind of start
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: answering all your questions.
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: There's like so much more like ins and outs.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: Of like the birth story, but that was like the
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: birth and since then it's just been unbelievable. But I
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: feel like I'll be answering a lot of the questions
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: about the twins while I answer your questions. Okay, now,
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: given that this episode's going to go quite long the questions,
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: I'm going to be answering all your questions now. But
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: that episode is going to come on Friday, So instead
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: of a head noise episode, the Friday will be all
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: your questions around birth, pregnancy, all the above, So stay
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: tuned for that. There's a whole bunch of questions that
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: I'm going to be getting through, which is very exciting.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: But guys, thank you so much for being interested in
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: the pregnancy journey. There's a lot more to come. I'll
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: be explaining where my head is at in the next
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: episode on Friday about you know how much I'm going
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: to be sharing on the podcast because I've had a
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: lot of people ask me if I'm going to be
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: doing more stuff around parenting, and I've been like really
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: torn because I don't want to change my podcast, but
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: I do want to be catering to that audience as well,
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: so I'll be sharing what where my head is at
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  Speaker 1: with that as well. Guys, thank you so much for
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: tuning in and for wanting to be like invested emotionally
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: in my journey.
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  Speaker 2: I love you guys so much.
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: As always, remember becond to yourself, becon't to your brain,
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: don't take shit from anyone, and especially don't take shit
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: from yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Don't care