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Expectations vs. Reality - Ramadan Week 2 Check-In · Obnoxiously Pleasant

• 0:04
  SPEAKER_01: I'm Hanan.
• 0:05
  SPEAKER_01: I'm Lena.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_01: Welcome back to the Obnoxiously Pleasant Podcast.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_01: Everyone, thank you for joining us.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_01: We are just wrapping up week two of Ramadan.
• 0:13
  SPEAKER_01: How are you feeling, Lena?
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_00: Exhausted.
• 0:16
  SPEAKER_00: I'm really tired.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_01: Why are you really tired?
• 0:19
  SPEAKER_00: I don't get sleep.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: I don't sleep.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like there's zero sleep.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: And like I said last time, my day is so busy.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's non-stop.
• 0:27
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, how uh don't you feel the same?
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like if there's one thing that I'm gonna be needing after we come out of Ramadan is sleep.
• 0:38
  SPEAKER_00: Sleep.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: I want to sleep for two weeks.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_00: Like I feel like my body needs two weeks of sleep, like continuous sleep with no interruption.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: That's yeah, I've been I've been struggling with that.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I think part of it, part of it is the fact that we're doing things we said we weren't we wouldn't be doing.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_01: That is very true.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_01: That is very true.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_01: I think we both talked about this.
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_01: That we both decided that we we had but said at the top of Ramadan, oh, we're not gonna like watch shows, we're not gonna like spend time doing that.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_01: But I think both you and I got hooked, and the rest is history.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: But you know what?
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: I in it like I've been really good the last few years.
• 1:11
  SPEAKER_00: It's just this year, I think because like I said, the the pandemic, you know, we had Ramadan during the pandemic for two years, right?
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_00: So the whole atmosphere and the whole environment of that was different than what it is now.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like I had to go back to the office, like right before Ramadan.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_00: Like I have to work from the office, and then I have to come back home and I have to sit through traffic and I have to prepare food, and it's like non-stop.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: So by the time you eat, you have nothing left in the tank.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_01: You just want to sit in front of energy, yeah.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: No energy, and the only thing I can do is watch TV.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: And so on YouTube, I got suggest I got some, you know how you get suggestions, of course.
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_00: And there was this this suggestion for the Syrian Musal Sal.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: It's called Hartul Qubba.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, okay, and I watched the first two, three episodes like, yeah, whatever.
• 1:57
  SPEAKER_00: You know, it's it's historical, whatever.
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and I'm like, I didn't really get it.
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: Is it all on YouTube?
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: It's all on YouTube, and even the newer there's a new season, and they're they're doing they're like uploading them on YouTube.
• 2:07
  SPEAKER_00: But the thing is, like, I didn't get like they didn't reel me in right away.
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, Oh, whatever.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: And like two days, three days, one five night, they didn't watch.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, you know what?
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: And then another day came where I was so tired, I was like, I gotta watch something, you know, and so I'm sitting there watching, and then I've got to watch something, yeah.
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: I think it was like episode four where they just hooked me.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, damn it now, and then I kept watching and watching, and this was last season's um uh episodes.
• 2:30
  SPEAKER_00: So you're talking about 35 episodes that your friend, yours truly, watched in a week.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, and now I'm caught up.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: We're on day 14 of Rima, and I'm caught up to season two, which is what's streaming right now on YouTube.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, so season two is what's yeah.
• 2:50
  SPEAKER_00: Please tell me I'm not the only one who did this.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_01: No, you're not the only one because at the like if maybe like a day or two in Ramadan, I was like, I need something to watch.
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_01: So I just started watching Arus Birut, which has been on for a while.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_00: Is that Egyptian or Lebanese?
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_01: No, it's Lebanese.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_01: It's Lebanese.
• 3:03
  SPEAKER_01: Each season is like 85 episodes.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_01: I already finished two seasons.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: But when did you start watching?
• 3:09
  SPEAKER_00: Like the third day of Ramadan.
• 3:12
  SPEAKER_00: No, you didn't.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_01: I swear to god.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, it's all I've done like the last week and a half is watch Arus Beirut.
• 3:18
  SPEAKER_01: I haven't done anything else, I've been so not productive.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: So 85 episodes, and you started watching it.
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_00: Third day of Ramadan.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_01: Yep.
• 3:28
  SPEAKER_00: And you're caught up.
• 3:30
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, well, there is no cut up.
• 3:31
  SPEAKER_01: It's three seasons, so I'm on season three now.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_01: But um, yeah, there is like it's it's a show that it's an older show, so it's been on for a while.
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_01: So it's not it's not a newer show.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_01: No, no, it's not in production or anything like that.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, okay, okay, okay.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_00: So what's it about?
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_01: Oh my god, long it uh it's a woman, uh Arus, a bride from a woman from yeah, a woman from Beirut who meets a guy who's like wealthy and um from like a very well-known family from Jbeel, and so it's her trying to bring in her personality and you know how different she is into these like traditions almost, into this okay, yeah, set way of life.
• 4:09
  SPEAKER_00: So it's just kind of reminds me of uh yeah, it kind of reminds me of Al Hayba.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, lots of that's here in Lebanese.
• 4:15
  SPEAKER_00: I can't even remember if that was here in Lebanese.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's Lebanese or a mixture, yeah.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it is Lebanese, you're right.
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so yeah.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_00: So it was that's that's what I did.
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_00: I haven't really I mean I was just disappoint yeah, I'm just I was disappointed with my.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, you know what, it's too late now, halas.
• 4:28
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I just have to continue on.
• 4:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'm in the whole, yes, and and I'm not watching anything else, at least, you know.
• 4:35
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm like, I can't believe and like even my daughter was like, mom, you you really binge binge watch 35 episodes in like how many days?
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: What episode are you on?
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, listen, do not judge me.
• 4:44
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, do not really like what are you doing?
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_00: I thought we weren't gonna do that this Ramadan.
• 4:49
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but I'm tired, man.
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_00: I feel tired.
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: I feel I mean you look better, you look better today than I do.
• 4:55
  SPEAKER_01: Oh my god, we get better today.
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_01: Well, I also just did my makeup because we were gonna film.
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_01: I literally just did my makeup.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_01: I did not look like this an hour ago.
• 5:04
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I did my makeup and I put some anti for stuff in my hair, but I did not look like this.
• 5:08
  SPEAKER_00: It looks nice, your hair looks nice, your hair looks like your makeup looks nice, everything looks nice.
• 5:12
  SPEAKER_00: So, what are you making for iftar?
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_00: Naiman.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, no Allah.
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_01: That's the age-old question, right?
• 5:18
  SPEAKER_01: It I don't know.
• 5:19
  SPEAKER_01: I'll figure it out when I walk into the kitchen, something will speak to me and I'll make it.
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_00: Food is half of my problem this month.
• 5:26
  SPEAKER_00: Like 100%.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_00: Did I tell you the other day, like, we hadn't even had iftar yet?
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_00: And my husband's like, Oh, what are we having for iftar tomorrow?
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just like, nothing.
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, can we just eat?
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_00: Can we have iftar today first?
• 5:39
  SPEAKER_00: Because he's like, Oh, I want to go shopping.
• 5:41
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I don't know.
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_00: I do not know what we're gonna eat tomorrow.
• 5:44
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I don't know.
• 5:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it's why is that my responsibility?
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'll make food, I'll do the food, no problem.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I'm gonna get hasanat for feeding fasting people.
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I'm okay with that.
• 5:56
  SPEAKER_00: Even if it's your family, yes, alhamdulillah.
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_00: But why like give me the ideas for the food?
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_00: Just tell me what you want.
• 6:03
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I think no, that's that's where I think I think that's what really, really gets me is the fact that like nobody gives any ideas.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, nobody gives ideas, it's really frustrating.
• 6:12
  SPEAKER_00: And I wake up today and he's like, What are we making today?
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like la haul in lay.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_00: Like, yes, yeah, like seriously, like this is what I'm wearing.
• 6:20
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, Mlhiya, halas mlukhiya.
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna go with mlukhiyah today.
• 6:25
  SPEAKER_00: I think so.
• 6:26
  SPEAKER_00: You don't know.
• 6:28
  SPEAKER_01: So I have lahmah.
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_01: I have I have meat, so I'm gonna do that.
• 6:31
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm probably gonna make it with like vegetables, like potatoes and vegetables, and I'll make rice, and I'll make some busa, and I'll make soup.
• 6:37
  SPEAKER_01: That's nice.
• 6:38
  SPEAKER_01: That's nice.
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_01: And I feel like that's a good uh that's a good it's good.
• 6:42
  SPEAKER_01: That's a good bunch of stuff, right?
• 6:44
  SPEAKER_00: I'm tired, yeah.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_00: That's the theme of today.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_01: That's the theme of closing out.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_01: You know how like the first uh the the theme of the first week of Ramadan is you know, like you're we're doing great.
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_01: It's per se.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_01: We're excited, alhamdulillah.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_01: Excited.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 6:59
  SPEAKER_01: Week two is I'm tired.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_01: I'm tired.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_01: I've the food, the daily food making.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_01: I'm tired of what are we gonna eat today, who's gonna do what today.
• 7:08
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 7:09
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I had laundry sitting there for like clean laundry that hadn't folded for like four days, and that never happens with me.
• 7:15
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm pretty organized.
• 7:16
  SPEAKER_00: I was gonna say that's me outside of Ramadan.
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_00: I can't even blame Ramadan for that.
• 7:20
  SPEAKER_00: And now, like by the time you finish like, damn, I have to do more laundry now.
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_00: It's just it's never ending.
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just like, I don't have the energy, and I just want to be left alone, and I just want to binge watch my TV show.
• 7:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, can I be left alone?
• 7:31
  SPEAKER_00: Which is awful because we all said we're not gonna do that during Ramadan.
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: And then I know, man.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_00: But walla, wallah, I think for me, it was like um like what's the word?
• 7:41
  SPEAKER_00: Like someone like slapped me to reality because like I'm no longer fasting at home.
• 7:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like I have to go to the office.
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_01: I think that was that's the thing that's getting you right now, by the way.
• 7:49
  SPEAKER_01: It's the fact that you had to go back to the office and we had been home for so long.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, man.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: And we were talking about I was like, dude, we I look back less than a year ago, you and I look like 10 years younger.
• 7:59
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, Susan, like what happened?
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_00: Like, what happened?
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_00: I feel so old right now, I feel so tired.
• 8:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like well rested.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, I can't, man.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just like, what the hell happened?
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_01: I think this this um this month is just been with the lack of sleep.
• 8:16
  SPEAKER_01: But I think just in general, like with you returning to work, there's a huge shift, it's a change in the way that we've been observing, yeah, observing Ramadan, you know, like that we had during the pandemic.
• 8:25
  SPEAKER_01: So, or during the last two years that we've been home.
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_01: So I think this year is what's different for everybody is that you kind of went back to life before pre-pandemic, Ramadan pre-pandemic.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_01: And we had talked about this, and I told you that was like my favorite part of the pandemic was being like Ramadan.
• 8:38
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, wallah, it was such a blessing.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_00: We didn't even realize it.
• 8:41
  SPEAKER_01: I know you know it really was.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_01: It really was no social obligations, no work, no nothing.
• 8:46
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you know how, yeah, you know how I said in the beginning, maybe I'll do some.
• 8:50
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe I'm like, you know, I'm not inviting anybody over, and I don't want to go over anyway.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: Because I got invited.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, listen, lady, I'll get back to you.
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I just can't, man.
• 8:57
  SPEAKER_00: I'm tired.
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_00: Is she watching?
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_00: Is she gonna watch and know that you're gonna be?
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_00: She doesn't know.
• 9:02
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's a friend of our she's the mom of one of the kids' friends, and she's like, Oh, let's get together.
• 9:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just like, yeah, inshallah, inshallah.
• 9:08
  SPEAKER_00: It was one of those inshallahs.
• 9:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, I did want to originally do it, but like, I'm like, no, do I really want to put myself through that?
• 9:14
  SPEAKER_01: I just no, no, you don't.
• 9:16
  SPEAKER_01: You really don't.
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_00: I can't.
• 9:18
  SPEAKER_00: I need like a I need a year, like this year is kind of like a year where I have to adjust, readjust to of course, of course.
• 9:25
  SPEAKER_01: Like, actually, and I think like Ramadan is very telling of that.
• 9:28
  SPEAKER_01: Like this Ramadan is very telling of the change and the adjustments that we have to do to kind of return back to life the way it was before we before the pandemic.
• 9:37
  SPEAKER_01: You know, there's a lot of things that we enjoyed that we were doing, and I like that privilege is just kind of slowly going away.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, I just spit there, it just went flying.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_01: It's fine.
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, what else?
• 9:48
  SPEAKER_00: What else you got?
• 9:48
  SPEAKER_00: What else are you doing besides Ramadan?
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_00: What are you up to?
• 9:51
  SPEAKER_00: Nothing.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: Really?
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely nothing.
• 9:55
  SPEAKER_01: Nothing at all.
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, I'm seeing I'm seeing I'm seeing friends here and there, but like nothing, and my family, obviously.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_01: But nothing, um, nothing, nothing exciting.
• 10:05
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, nothing noteworthy.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_00: Nothing that like my gray hair is getting out of control again.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_00: Well, he's almost around the corner.
• 10:11
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, he's almost around the corner.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and then you're gonna you're gonna get that handled.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, inshallah.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just like, whatever.
• 10:19
  SPEAKER_00: I just want to sleep.
• 10:21
  SPEAKER_00: I just want to sleep.
• 10:22
  SPEAKER_00: I think we've talked about you sleeping for quite some time.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: I know.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_00: I'm tired, man.
• 10:27
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: This isn't very entertaining.
• 10:29
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sorry, guys, but like it is what it is.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_00: Shuamalkum.
• 10:31
  SPEAKER_00: We're checking in.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_01: We told you we do Ramadan check-in, and this is us on week two.
• 10:35
  SPEAKER_00: You're just yeah, but I still feel like mashallah, mashallah, you look better than me.
• 10:39
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like you, like you said, you know how you said in the beginning you struggled the first week, and then you kind of like you're okay.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_00: For me, no.
• 10:46
  SPEAKER_00: We switched roles, yeah.
• 10:47
  SPEAKER_00: For me, it's the last two weeks.
• 10:49
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just like, yeah, Allah, staghfar Allah.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_00: Like, when am I gonna get there?
• 10:53
  SPEAKER_00: You know, like I I can't, whatever.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, no, I I I feel you.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_01: I 100% feel you.
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_01: Well, in all fairness, last week I had my hair done, so that's that helped me a little bit.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_01: And this week, I literally, like I said, just did my makeup before I uh because I I I wasn't wearing makeup all day, but I was like, since we're recording, I might as well put something in my face.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_01: Cream products, cream products to the rescue.
• 11:16
  SPEAKER_00: Speaking of cream products, I feel like all the things you like.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_00: So I I messaged Hannah and I was like, you know, what do you recommend?
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_00: And she sent me like a list of these things, and I'm just like, I don't, I like, I feel like whatever I do, it's not working.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: That's number one.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: Number two is like when I don't even have time to do that sometimes.
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_00: Like, like I get lazy, I'm like, y'all, Allah.
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_00: There's like five or six of these things that I need to apply.
• 11:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just like, yeah, I need I need to have good consistency.
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_00: Consistency, consistency is key.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: And I have to have good skin and I have to have good hair, and the grace shouldn't be showing, and I shouldn't be fat, and then I shouldn't look tired, and I have to cook dinner, and I have to clean, and I have to take care of kids, and I have to look sexy, and I have to work, and I have to do all these things, and I'm just like, oh my god.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_00: And on top of that night, I have to do a freaking uh facial uh uh routine or whatever the honeycast routine.
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_00: God, I'm tired, I don't want to do this.
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_01: What do you want to do?
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_01: Nothing, folks who are watching.
• 12:12
  SPEAKER_01: Lena is having a tough week too.
• 12:14
  SPEAKER_01: Let's uh let's show her some support.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_01: We're she's gonna get through this by next week.
• 12:18
  SPEAKER_01: She'll be in a better place.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe inshallah.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_00: I'm hopeful.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_01: She'll be she'll be more adjusted.
• 12:23
  SPEAKER_01: It's I really think what threw a monkey wrench in your plans is the fact that you had to go back to the office.
• 12:27
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I think that that really I was so good.
• 12:30
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I was so good.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: Like the past couple years, I was fine.
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_00: I I think it's just that.
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_00: I think you're right.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_00: Anything else about your experiences?
• 12:37
  SPEAKER_00: How are the kids doing?
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_01: They're doing fine.
• 12:39
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I think they're they're kids are kids always amaze me.
• 12:43
  SPEAKER_01: Umhanallah.
• 12:44
  SPEAKER_01: They take everything in stride, they're very like they're just very adaptable.
• 12:50
  SPEAKER_01: Like they don't, they're not like us, they're way better than us.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_01: Way better.
• 12:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but I think you know, the the kids the first couple of days when they because they were on spring break, so when they went back, it was a little uh a bit of a struggle for a time.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, of course, of course.
• 13:02
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, but I still but I do feel like they're still way more adaptable, way more.
• 13:06
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
• 13:06
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, I mean they're younger too, or just old, but whatever.
• 13:11
  SPEAKER_01: I don't think it's that.
• 13:12
  SPEAKER_01: I think it's also their mindset.
• 13:13
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it really is their mindset, they're way better than us.
• 13:16
  SPEAKER_01: They they don't they don't really like I barely ever hear them complain.
• 13:19
  SPEAKER_00: Well, Raya the other day was saying how she, you know, her throat hurts, so she's not feeling I'm like, you know, just break your fast before you go.
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, just don't don't fast.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_00: She's like, Oh, yes, she was so offended.
• 13:28
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just like, well, what do you want me to do?
• 13:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like, she would like, I'm like, break your fast.
• 13:32
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, she's like, Oh my god, no, I'm just gonna go out of school.
• 13:35
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, okay, I'm like, I got enough problems to deal with, okay.
• 13:40
  SPEAKER_00: I have to do my skincare routine or whatever the hell it is, whatever.
• 13:44
  SPEAKER_00: Exactly.
• 13:45
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I I knew that she would be like, Oh, what?
• 13:48
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah.
• 13:50
  SPEAKER_01: She was the first one to complain.
• 13:53
  SPEAKER_01: Not when I was running on three hours of sleep.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, she probably just needed to vent or something, you know what I mean?
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, maybe.
• 13:59
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but I'm like, it was she was she was I'm like, if you're not feeling well, just break your fast.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, it's fine.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like she was like, This is blasphemy.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not doing that, but I'm like, it's it really is fun.
• 14:08
  SPEAKER_00: I try to explain to them, it's not a big deal.
• 14:09
  SPEAKER_00: Like, if you're not feeling well, you get to break your fast, you know.
• 14:12
  SPEAKER_01: But I mean, she's she's she's doing her best.
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_01: She's like, there's only so much that I can do here, okay?
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and and she probably just needed a day to just vent and say, Okay, I I I'm having a tough day today.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_01: But you're right, I think we also need to do a better job of just absorbing and listening because they really don't do that.
• 14:29
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I don't really think any kid complains, like, I'm so tired, I'm so oh no, no, no, not at all.
• 14:35
  SPEAKER_00: Like my son was telling me, he's like Betty, he was like, It's so easy.
• 14:38
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, the no food is so easy, and I'm like, that's great.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_00: But then when does he struggle?
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_00: When he went back to school and he was playing and running around, being very active.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_00: Then he's just like, you know, he does he's really well with water, like he tries to get his water the night before, yeah.
• 14:52
  SPEAKER_01: But like, still, no matter what, it's gonna be uh no, no, it's not the same, it's really, really not the same.
• 14:56
  SPEAKER_00: It's not the same, and then um, I wanted to ask you because last time we mentioned how where we were with our goals, okay.
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_00: So we failed on our plans for not watching TV.
• 15:05
  SPEAKER_00: Uh yeah, yeah.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so my question did you did you do any tarawih?
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_00: Did you pray any tarawih?
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'm trying, not all, but I'm you're like, why'd you gonna put me on the spot like that?
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_01: Seriously, seriously.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_01: So you're trying.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_01: I tried.
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_01: No, the answer is no, I didn't.
• 15:21
  SPEAKER_01: I did not.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, well, you know that I've not made an effort.
• 15:24
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I've not, I've I've not been good.
• 15:26
  SPEAKER_01: I I like plan for it and I never do, which is terrible.
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_01: But at least my my my my intentions are there.
• 15:34
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, yes, yeah.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_00: Day by day.
• 15:37
  SPEAKER_00: What are you gonna do?
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, for me, I'm I'm caught up.
• 15:39
  SPEAKER_00: I'm caught up for the Quran so far.
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_00: That's good, that's amazing.
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_00: So so yeah, at least I'm like, yeah, I need a halishwa.
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_00: Instead of watching TV for four hours, I can at least take one hour out of the food.
• 15:49
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna have to check out your show and see if I like it.
• 15:52
  SPEAKER_00: I'm telling you, it doesn't get you in from the beginning, and that's why I didn't care.
• 15:55
  SPEAKER_00: Like a few days went by, and I'm like, oh, whatever, who cares?
• 15:57
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm not gonna go back and watch it.
• 15:58
  SPEAKER_00: And then, like, I was desperate for something.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I'm tired, I don't want to do anything, I don't want to do anything besides sit in front of the TV.
• 16:04
  SPEAKER_00: You should watch it.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_00: I think you'll like it.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: I can't, man.
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_00: I can't.
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I just I'm like, I already did this to myself with one.
• 16:11
  SPEAKER_00: I have to prevent myself from doing it that's true with others.
• 16:14
  SPEAKER_01: That's true.
• 16:14
  SPEAKER_01: That's why I haven't watched anything else.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_01: I was like, this is good.
• 16:17
  SPEAKER_01: I already did damage here, it's done.
• 16:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 16:19
  SPEAKER_00: We mashallah, we do.
• 16:21
  SPEAKER_01: But I also think it's like honestly, yeah.
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_01: I also think like the the lack of sleep honestly comes from the fact that like you get this whole second win after iftar.
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_01: Like, you do have a point where you're a little bit more than a few.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_00: And after the coffee, after the coffee, yeah.
• 16:33
  SPEAKER_01: After after you eat, after you have coffee, and like you pick up and everything, and you sit down for a little bit, then all of a sudden it's like yeah.
• 16:40
  SPEAKER_00: Well, that's the thing.
• 16:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um, like with Rai, like after we eftar, we have we watch like an episode of Babel Hara, like the old classic Babel Hara, not like the newer ones, but so that's what we do, and then like they go to sleep, they they shower, they go to sleep, whatever.
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I feel better like I'm like, you need to sit after you eat, like you can't you can't send them to bed right away.
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_00: Like they need to kind of like you know, they need to digest their food and stuff.
• 17:00
  SPEAKER_01: The problem is too, like, so we try to do that, but like Amar has school really early, school starts at 7 30.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_01: So yeah, yeah.
• 17:08
  SPEAKER_00: So it's literally less than 12 hours between you when you eat and when you have to go back to school.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: That's horrible.
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I feel so bad for them.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: That'll be them next year.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: I know, I know.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_00: They'll but they'll come back and they can nap.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: Does he nap when he comes home?
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_01: That's what he does now.
• 17:22
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 17:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, what are you gonna do?
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_01: But today we're recording Friday, so today's the only day he hasn't come straight home from work.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_01: My neighbor is awesome.
• 17:31
  SPEAKER_01: He decided to pick up uh my son and his son and take them to Friday prayer.
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_00: You said work, you met school.
• 17:39
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: Ramadan, it's okay.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_00: So they went to Friday prayer.
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_00: That's nice.
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, which I think is really it's it's sweet, it's a nice thing for them to do, you know.
• 17:49
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm I'm not I'm not a masjid person.
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_00: Stafullah been.
• 17:53
  SPEAKER_00: That is a whole other conversation for a later time, okay?
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_01: It's a whole other conversation for a later time.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_00: That's not my scene.
• 18:03
  SPEAKER_00: Let's just say that.
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_00: It happens for for obvious reasons, but anyway, um again, whole discussion for a whole different time.
• 18:11
  SPEAKER_01: Uh anything else you want to add?
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_01: No, that's it.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_01: I we're we're we're like, I'm just see, I can't even talk normal.
• 18:18
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like Yeah.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_01: Um, no, I'm really glad that we've been staying consistent.
• 18:23
  SPEAKER_01: We just said it's gonna be a check-in, so this is a check-in.
• 18:25
  SPEAKER_01: I think this is a check-in, guys.
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_00: We got no.
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_01: I hope you guys are doing better than I hope you guys are doing better than we are.
• 18:30
  SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_00: But you know what?
• 18:32
  SPEAKER_00: The ones that are doing better are probably getting more sleep than you and I.
• 18:36
  SPEAKER_00: Alhamdulillah.
• 18:37
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I hope so.
• 18:37
  SPEAKER_01: I pray for that for us in the next couple of weeks.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, inshallah.
• 18:40
  SPEAKER_00: And then I think Anna, I feel like I talked way too much in this episode, and you kind of just sat there.
• 18:45
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like I did.
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_00: It's a nice change.
• 18:48
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I guess.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_00: It's a nice change.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I had a lot of things to say about how like, you know, tired I'm gonna say that.
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_01: No, which is great.
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_01: No, I'm I'm I'm actually, and that's the whole point of this.
• 18:55
  SPEAKER_01: It's a check-in.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_01: So you just checked in and you told us how you feel.
• 18:59
  SPEAKER_01: I'm kind of on the same, sort of in the same space as you, but I think I'm just um I'm again, my mindset is like, you're gonna make it through.
• 19:10
  SPEAKER_01: You're gonna make it through, inshallah.
• 19:11
  SPEAKER_01: Just power through, power through.
• 19:13
  SPEAKER_01: So it'll be okay.
• 19:14
  SPEAKER_01: So we'll be back next week.
• 19:15
  SPEAKER_01: We'll do a week three check-in.
• 19:16
  SPEAKER_01: Hopefully, by week three, we'll have maybe gotten more sleep.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_01: We'll be in a in a different groove and we'll be doing better with our goals.
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_01: Sound good?
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah.
• 19:26
  SPEAKER_01: All right.
• 19:26
  SPEAKER_01: Well, um, thank you for stopping by.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_01: We just wanted to utilize this as a check-in.
• 19:32
  SPEAKER_01: Um, hopefully by next week, we'll have a different groove.
• 19:35
  SPEAKER_01: Last week we had so much more, it was a lot of excitement.
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_01: This week was much more um exhaustion.
• 19:41
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_01: I'm hoping by week three the curve kind of comes back up again and we're in a we're in a different place.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_01: But um, thank you folks for joining us, and we'll see you guys next week.
• 19:51
  SPEAKER_01: Inshallah, take care, everyone.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_01: Bye.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_01: All right, bye.