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Best of: My Go-to Mindset Hack (Backed by Science) to Create the Results You Want in Any Area of Life · All In with Allie

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Today I'm going to be sharing with you a game changing mindset hack backed by
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science, by the way, that is going to help you create the reality
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and results that you actually want to create in any area of life. Does
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that sound good? Welcome to All In with Ali podcast. I am so
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happy you are here. I mean, does it get any better than that?
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Like, come on, I'm giving you these things on a silver freaking
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platter, y'all listen. This genuinely works and it's not complicated. I actually
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have been thinking about this a lot. How I think the most profound,
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the most legit things that can move the needle in your life life are actually
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the most simple of roles and quotes and strategies. It can be so simple.
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We are the ones who look for it to be more complicated and more
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hard, which is probably a conversation for another day. But my point in
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sharing that is it works and it's not complicated, so let's go ahead and
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get into it. So, the first thing that you need to understand when
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it comes to this conversation is that your beliefs affect everything around you. Everything,
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every single thing is affected. It all comes back to your beliefs,
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all right, Your beliefs affect your perception. Have you ever heard the quote
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your perception is your reality. It's because the way you perceive something is what
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you are ultimately going to find in most situations. A perfect example of this
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is if you ever think that your partner is doing something shady, and you
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really really think this, everything your partner does is going to affirm this belief
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in you. Right if they're on their phone and they're texting and they're like
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smiling at their phone, you're gonna be like, Oh, that shady mother
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trucker. If they get home a little late from the store, you're gonna
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be like, uh huh, yep, shady. If the if all of
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a sudden, he or she wants to go out with the guys or the
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girls. Right, like, everything that this person normally does, you are
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looking through the lens of this very specific perception, which is going to shape
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your reality. So your beliefs shape your perception, which shapes your reality.
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Your beliefs are going to affect your results and what you do or don't create.
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This is how this works. Your beliefs affect your thoughts, which affect
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your mood, which affects your actions, which affects your results. Let's say
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that again, your beliefs are going to affect the thoughts that you think day
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in and day out, which are going to naturally affect your mood, right,
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which is naturally going to affect what you do in your day and the
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actions that you do or don't take, which of course will then affect the
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results that you create that hour, that day, that week, that month,
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that year, that quarter, that decade your life. Okay, your
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beliefs also affect what you attract right, like attracts like. So if you
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are believing something which is affecting your mood, which affects your energy, you're
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putting out a specific frequency that is going to what attract like frequencies. So
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everything basically step from your beliefs. This is very important to understand when we
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are going to talk about this hack, because while it is a pretty simple
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hack to conceptualize and understand and also to put into work for you, you
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do need to understand why this is so important because we're going to get into
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the science of this and then we're going to get into some action steps for
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you. So if you don't understand why your beliefs are so important, to
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get clear on one, what they are, Like a lot of people don't
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even realize how negative some of their beliefs are. So I think having the
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awareness of those beliefs and understanding the impact, like really taking a minute to
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put in perspective the impact of a negative belief system over the course of again
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not just a day, but a week, a month, a year,
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right, like we need when it comes to an area of life that you
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know well needs and can improve. We got to get clear on those beliefs
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and then we have to get to the point of reprogramming. But the hack
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is in between that. Okay, so we understand the importance of our beliefs
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now, so for the hack, the second thing that we need to do
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now that we understand the importance of our beliefs is we want to do a
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deep comparison of two different areas of our lives. Okay, so you're gonna
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take two areas of your life. Area One is gonna be an area that
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you're struggling in that you want to improve. You know, right, this
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is probably gonna instantly come to you and it's gonna be like, Okay,
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I know it's this area. It might be okay, but again, this
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is an area that you're like, I know it can be better. Cool.
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That's our area and an area number two, because we need two areas,
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right, Area number two needs to be an area that you dominate in.
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And when I say dominate, this doesn't mean like perfect all the time.
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No area of life is going to be perfect all the time. But
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what I mean by this is this is an area that you are very confident
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in that regardless of whether you're thriving or you're struggling a little bit, your
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deep core beliefs about this area are strong, right you just you know that
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regardless at the end of the day, you're gonna come out on top in
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this area at some point, right, Like you have this unshakable belief.
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That is the other area. So we want an area we're not so confident,
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you don't have that unshakable belief. And then the second area is one
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that you're confident, all right. So we're going to take those two areas
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and we are going to compare the difference of confidence and beliefs between those two.
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So let me give a you example. Here are my two areas.
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So area number one and this actually is what gave me the idea for this
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podcast, and what kind of brought this idea to my own awareness because of
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how I feel about area number one. Okay, so for me, area
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number one, this is the area that I personally dominate, is my health
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and wellness. All right, I'm a healthy gal. I just my core
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belief when it comes to my health and wellness is that I am the most
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healthy human on the planet. I never get sick. This is what I
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tell myself. These are my beliefs. I never get sick. I'm just
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healthy. I just like I radiate health. I take really good care of
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myself. I see it reflected in my energy and my body and my you
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know, the the lack of sickness that we get, right Like, this
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is just I mean, ever since. This isn't just like something that I've
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adopted lately. This is a belief that I have been working on ever since
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I was a kid, Right like, as soon as I realize that it's
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not cool to be sick. You know, when you're little, you're like,
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oh, I want to be sick because you get attention and you get
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to stay home from school. And then you grow up a little bit and
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you're like, oh, it's actually like not a flex to be sick all
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the time, Like nobody wants to be the sick person all the time.
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And by the way, if you're dealing with something chronic, okay, we're
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not talking about you. I'm talking about like people with like you know,
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you know what I'm talking about. Okay, like you get every single little
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blug it's just like and and we're going to talk about how to like strengthen
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this. So I'm not beating anybody up over here. But you, like
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you don't want to feel that way. It's not it's not how you want
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to it's how nobody wants to feel. Like once you get past that point
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of you realize what it does for you when you're little, it's like when
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you grow up, it's like, no, it's cool to be healthy.
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So once I figure that out, it's like, I never get sick.
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And if you have ever had a conversation with me about illness, about anything,
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I will say that I'm like, no, I rarely ever get sick.
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This is just my belief. And because this is my core belief and
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my perception, this has shaped my reality. When I tell you I almost
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never get sick, I almost never get sick. I do sometimes I am
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at the end of the day a human. I also have a toddler who
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brings things home from school every single week. Right, if it's the holidays
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and we're partying a little bit more and I'm eating more crap, this is
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going to get into my my deeperted belief system and it's going to affect it.
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Thus your girl catches a cold. But this is the This is the
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area for me, Like when I think of an area that is unshakeable,
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that I have this hardcore, solid belief and you know where I'm just I'm
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so strong in this. It is my health. And the way that I
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think about this too is if somebody were to come to me and say,
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hey, you're sick, like just so you know you're you're sick. Like
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like if I went to the doctor and they're like, you're sick, I'd
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be like, you're crazy, you need a new job. I just I
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wouldn't buy it because that's how firm my belief is. But in the second
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area that I'm going to tell you, if somebody came to me and said,
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hey, this area isn't doing so great, I might believe them because
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it's not as strong. So the big thing to actually I'll get to that
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in a second this comparison, because I want to tell you the second area
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next, and then we'll compare the two. So my first area is my
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health. The second area, the one that I know that I my belief,
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my confidence and my belief could be stronger, is my business. Okay,
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can I get a name? It's my business. I'm pretty good,
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I'm getting better, I'm growing all the time. But I can't say that
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I have that same solid confidence, that same deep rooted belief about my inevitable
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success in my business in the same way that I do my health. It's
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just not as strong. It's getting there, and no doubt it can get
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better, and it's getting better all the time, and I'm working on it,
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but it's not quite there. Okay, So let's compare the two.
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So what I really want you to pay attention to when you're taking these two
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areas is I want you to pay attention to number one, like your beliefs
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about it. Right, Like if I said, hey, tell me about
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your health, what would you say about your health? Now, I hear
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people all the time say some things that drive me insane when it comes to
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their health. I just got onto a friend about this. But it's like
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I think sometimes we do this in conversation too, because nobody wants to be
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like the person who's like, I'm so healthy. You know, we do
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this weird thing with each other where we like we talk down on ourselves and
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and our accomplishments just like make each other feel comfortable. And it's like this
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weird human interaction, you know what I'm talking about, where like we get
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together, we instead of like talking about what's going well, well, we're
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talking about like the weather it's called and then next week it's really, oh,
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it's too hot, and then it's like, oh, my allergies are
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fighting up again and I'm tired, and da dah. We do this,
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we all do. I do this, like we do this, but we
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want to pay attention to this, okay, and this is gonna we'll circle
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back to that when we get to the scientific piece of this conversation. But
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I don't know why we do this. I guess just to relate to each
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other. But it's kind of messed up and weird, and it is what
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it is. But I got onto a friend about this because my friend was
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like she was sick, or like kids are sick. She was like,
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well, this happens every single season, or this happens every every other week
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without failure. You can set a clock on it. We're gonna blah blah
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blah. And I was like, WHOA, don't say that. And I
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had to speak up because when you say things like this and you and I
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could just tell by the way she was saying it like she believed it.
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And this is something I mean, we got to be careful what we say
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in front of our kids, right, Like if you say to your kids
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like, well we just get sick, well we just don't ever have money,
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well, like this is shaping their beliefs too. So anyway where I
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want you to pay attention is like those beliefs about that area, no matter
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what area it is. Like if I said, tell me about blank,
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like how do you feel about your business or your health, or your relationship
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or whatever area of life this is, I want you to like write this
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down, like, write down these are my beliefs about this right now in
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my life and my potential with this. Okay, that's a first piece.
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And then I want you to take that and I want you to consider when
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something goes wrong in that area. So I want you to take your two
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areas and picture something going wrong in both of these areas. This right here
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is going to bring so much insight and so much awareness and like, for
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me, this is where my brain went because it was night and day difference.
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Okay, So when I picture something going wrong in my health or I
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just think back right like perfect example, December of twenty twenty two, right
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around Christmas, I caught something. There was something going wrong around and I
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caught it. And again, what is my belief about my health? I
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never get sick? But lo and behold, I got sick. Now what
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were my thoughts when those was happening? They were not, oh god,
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I'm sick. Oh no, I was wrong along? Oh? Oh gosh?
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Am I dying? Is this? It? Is this the end?
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Oh? What is this going to turn into? Does this mean that I've
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been a fraud all along? Am I am? I an impostor? I
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say that I'm so healthy, But I just caught a cold, you know,
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like do I go into a spiral? No? What happens is I
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get sick and I'm like, huh, that's weird. I'm sick, Like
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that doesn't happen. Ew, what this is? So stupid. You know,
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it's so chill Chris, Like it's the point where like Chris and I
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compete with each other and I got sick and he didn't, and he was
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like making fun of me. It was like, ahha, it's just so
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the energy is so chill around it. It's so neutral. There's no story
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of like how long is this going to last? And no freaking out and
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no like I need to go to the doctor immediately, and and you know,
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get a bunch of scans and I mean, you get what I'm saying.
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And the reason why I'm saying that is because like with business, we
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tend to be like, oh god, do I need to upbrough everything and
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do everything over. It's like, no, you had a crappy month.
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Calm down. So, you know, with when I get sick, it's
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just it's very like, uh weird. But in my business, when something
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goes wrong, it's not it's not the same energy, not even close.
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When something goes wrong in my business, most of the time, there's gonna
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be some sort of story connected to it. Right, most of the time.
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Let's say I have a bad month in business, God forbid, too
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bad months. Okay, this was my past winter, not like like especially
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compared to summer, when I'm hitting six figures, I'm on fire, and
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then everything just came to a screeching halt. Winter was tough for my business.
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Instead of maneuvering through that and being like, Hugh, this is weird.
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Oh well I'm healthy more. You know, what goes down must come
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back up like it's all good, it was more like, oh my god,
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what are we going to do? Holy crap? How long is this
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going to last? Am I a fraud? Can I tell my clients?
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What do I need to hide that? Like? What if somebody finds out?
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What if? Does this mean that I need to do this? Or
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do I need to do that? Do I need to take away this?
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Do I need to take away that? Right? Like definitely more of a
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spiral when something goes wrong in my business than in when it comes to my
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health. Do you see that comparison? So I want you now to do
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the same thing. Picture or think of a time or something went wrong in
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either of these areas and compare the two. How And I think what we're
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looking for here is that neutrality, right, that neutral place of just like
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okay and it's all good, Like we're gonna be Okay, I'm not freaking
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out now, I'm gonna be honest with you, Like if I if something
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seriously came up about my health, I probably would be freaked out. I
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think there's definitely levels to this. So I'm not gonna sit here and pretend
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that I would be mistoic about everything health wise. That's not what I'm saying
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at all. And I'm certainly not asking the universe to test me right now
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with that. This is just an example, right, But same thing in
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business. You know, there are things and we're building these beliefs and these
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you know, points of confidence all the time. So anyway, you've gotten
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clear on your beliefs. Now you've gotten clear on the difference in the comparison
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of those two. Now here's the hack. Here's where the hack comes in
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the same level of belief that you have for area one, your good area,
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we want to start programming and building for area two. We want to
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begin to build a deep belief, like a deep belief pattern of thinking and
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behaving of your confident area of life toward your non confident area, so that
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you can create the same consistency and level of results and reality that is our
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goal there, all right, So here's how this works scientifically. This is
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where we get to the action piece. Okay, I want my area too
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to be more like Area one so that I can start creating those level of
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results. Oh and let me just tie that in real quick. So two
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things to consent with these areas as well. First thing, there's your beliefs
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and second thing, there are your actions. Right, So remember your beliefs
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eventually are going to affect your actions. Your beliefs affect your thoughts, affect
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your mood, affect your actions, so which affect your results. So we
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want to look at both of these. So when it comes to my health,
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I have really strong beliefs about them. Thus I continue to do the
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things to maintain that health. Right Like to me baseline, even without taking
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supplements, even without working out, I feel strong and I feel healthy.
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But I know it can be better. I know I'm increasing the odds and
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I'm optimizing the better that I take care of myself. So i still take
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exceptionally good care of myself and I'm working on that all the time. This
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isn't something that I'm just like, ah, it just is. Now we
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could have a whole other conversation on this too, because you want to be
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careful. You don't want to set yourself up. You don't want to build
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a belief that for something to be good you have to take a crap ton
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of action. That's that's not my goal here. My goal here is not
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to be like, Okay, the only way that you're going to be good
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and strong in this area is if you say so many affirmations and you take
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so many somelements, and you do so many things, and da da da
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da dah. You truly could be so strong, so solid in any area
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just from your beliefs period like baseline, you could just be good. But
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for me and everybody is different. I already have built in beliefs around the
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action that I take in life in every area. So for example, I
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just feel better, I feel more confident, I feel stronger physically mentally in
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all areas the more that I'm taking care of myself, and when I'm not,
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when that dips a little bit, then my confidence dips a little bit
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too. And to me, this is where room for these things can sneak
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in. This is the room for error. Right, So I believe that
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I get the high level optimal results in my health because of my beliefs,
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and because I take action to continue building that belief. I still take care
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of myself, I still take vitamins, I still do the things. I'm
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not eating a bunch of trash. I pay attention to what I put in
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my body. Thus I'm even more It's like boosting my confidence in that area.
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So same thing in that second area too. You want to pay attention
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to those beliefs. And then also like are you taking actions? Because I
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know people who have maybe a lower level of belief in their business, for
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example, like me, If our beliefs ultimately affect our actions, your problem
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may be because you're not taking action because of that belief. Right, So
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you may not have the belief and you may not be taking those actions.
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So we kind of want to do both. Like both are in my eyes,
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very very important. There are some people out there who will say that
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you can just think your way to success in any area if your belief is
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that strong. But I'm not there. I need to take some form of
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action. So action is very important as well, and you want to pay
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attention to that as well. Now let's get to the hack. So again,
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we want to build the same level of deep belief and confidence for our
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second area, the struggle area, as we want the strong area. So
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what we want to do is we want to reprogram or start programming these beliefs
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into our mind. All right, we want to put these into our subconscious.
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How do we do that? I'm sure you have heard many many examples
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and podcasts possibly of how to do this, But to me this we're going
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to keep it simple. Okay, I'm not going to give you some really
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complicated thing. This is how I do it, and this just makes sense
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to me, and I don't think it needs to be very complicated. But
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you do need to know the scientific background. So, like I said,
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you create your reality first in your mind. Why is this so? What
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does that even mean? Well, I'm sure you've probably heard of the reticular
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activating system. We're going to call it RAS, so I don't continue tripping
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over that phrase. But the reticular to see, see, the reticular activating
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system is a bundle of nerves on our brain stem that filters out unnecessary information
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so that the important information gets through. Here's why you don't realize this because
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you have this RAS, but there are there is so much stimulus around you.
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There's so much going on that if you didn't have an RAS to filter
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what you want to see through, your head would probably explode. There are
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so many sounds, there are so many things to look at, there are
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so many patterns. There's so much going on around you at any given moment
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that if your brain took it all in, it would not be a good
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thing. So we have developed this RAS that's helped us be able to focus
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on the things that are important that are going to help us to continue to
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evolve in all things. Okay, so what this does is it is a
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filter. So you can tell this system what to focus on. It says
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yes, ma'am, and it goes and wherever you go in life, it's
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going to filter your experience through this specific thing that you want to find,
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or this specific belief that you have. Right. It also works with your
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perception as well. So I'm sure you've heard the example of when you're car
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shopping and you're looking for a very specific car, all of a sudden you
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see that car everywhere around you. It's because you've thought about this car so
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much, you have it on your vision board, you're shopping for it,
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you're talking about it and you have successfully programmed it into your RAS, or
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your RAS says yes, ma'am, and it goes and it finds this car,
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and that stands out to you. It's not that the car hadn't been
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there all along. The car had been there all along, it's just now
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you're actually noticing it. That is the difference. Okay. So, in
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the same way that the RAS seeks information that validates your beliefs, it also
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filters the world through specific parameters that you give it, and your beliefs shape
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those parameters. So if you believe that your success is inevitable and that everything
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you do eventually is going to equal success, then you're going to start paying
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attention to things that are working in your life versus what are not working.
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Right. You can look at any area of your life right now, whether
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we're talking about your relationship or any relationship, your business, your health,
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wellness, fitness, anything. You can find ten examples of how it's working
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for you and ten examples how it's not working for you. Do it right
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now. You can make a list for anything in your life. Both are
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there. But what comes to you first and what is natural like what comes
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at you first, are the things that you typically focus on and think about.
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So the things where you have a perception of like, oh, my
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health is just good. It just is what it is. It's because I'm
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focusing on the areas where I'm thriving. I'm sure there are plenty of areas
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where like if I really start paying attention, I'm like, oh, well
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that mood though, you know, like I could totally find examples of where
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like I don't know, wait, should we take another look. Same thing
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for my business. So with my business, I just have a little bit
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more of a pattern. I have a little bit heavier filter on the parts
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that aren't quite going the way that I want versus the parts that are going
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exactly the way that I want. Both are there. So your ris it's
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gonna just it's your filter, and you get to set the filter. What
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do you want to see? What do you want to experience? Now,
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again, that's going to start highlighting and making things stand out, like on
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a physical way. Also it's going to shape your perception. But then also
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this because we're starting to program, and you know, when we talk about
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your beliefs, specifically, when you start really thinking something and really working to
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believe something about a specific area. This now is going to shift your frequency
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around that specific thing. So not only are we on a scientific level shifting
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your belief and your point of attraction, but on a biological level and on
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a frequency level as well, we are shifting it all like, on all
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fronts, you are now shifting. You cannot tell me when you do all
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of that on some specific area that it's not going to be night and day
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difference in just a matter of time. How much time is this going to
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take? Around twenty one days? So if you want to practice doing the
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things that I'm about to outline for you, just some some steps again,
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super super simple, just to test out and have fun with. Give yourself
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twenty one solid days of doing this and watch your whole reality shift. It
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is going to be so fun, so exciting. But this is the freaking
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secret. We have the answers in us all the time. We have the
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power to do this. It's just can you believe that it can be this
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simple? And are you going to do the work to back it up to
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reprogram an outdated system that you might have? All right, I also found
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a Bible verse that box that backs us up Matthew seven to seven ask and
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it shall be given. Seek and you shall find, Knock and it shall
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be opened unto you. And I just felt like this really backs up our
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conversation as well, especially the seek and you shall find. What you look
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for, you're gonna find. It's there, the positive and the negative.
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People who have a more optimistic worldview. It's not because they're just luckier.
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It's because they're more trained and looking for the good versus the bad. It's
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not that nothing bad happens in their life. It's that they have a more
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sunny disposition in what happens in their life and vice versa. So I just
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wanted to throw that in there. Too. Many many things point to this.
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All right, here's what we're going to do. So that's the hack,
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Right, the hack is this comparison, that is that's the hack.
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Now, how do we put this into action and begin to flip the script
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on this area of our life that needs to be reprogrammed. We need to
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get to those beliefs. So how do we reprogram those beliefs in our rias?
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So the first thing that I want you to do is I want you
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to become obsessed with saying and speaking what you actually want to happen in any
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area of your life. It don't don't limit this to one area. This
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could be any area of your life. I want you to become obsessed.
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I want you to pay attention to how much you fix your mouth to say
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something negative just to be relatable. Pay attention to that, okay, And
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then I want you to practice being that girl who just says the thing that
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she wants, who actually says how she wants to feel, who actually says
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what she wants to create. Become obsessed with that again. Just test it
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out for twenty one days. What this is going to start doing is this
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is going the more that you say this this like you are, you're literally
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giving commands to your ris. You are giving commands to your brain this is
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what I want, and it's going to say yes, ma'am, and it's
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going to find it in the same way that when you are for a vehicle
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and you're looking at it and you're feeling the feelings and you're getting all excited.
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Do that for this belief, whatever belief it is, like, get
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in that same energy. Now, if you want to take this a step
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further and you want to do affirmations around this, do some journaling around this,
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they say that your subconscious is more accessible when you're about to fall asleep
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or like in a near sleep state. I think it's because your brain waves
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are is it data data waves, it's one of those. Obviously, when
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your brain waves are in a specific state, you're more easily able to access
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your subconscious, which essentially is your ries or it's part of it. So
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if you want to go deeper and do that, by all means, do
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your extra credit. But I truly think like just just paying attention what you're
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saying and what you're thinking about this is going to help a lot. The
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second thing that I want you to do with this is start taking those actions.
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Okay, that's a big piece of this. A big piece is like
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what actions do you need to take to continue to build the belief? If
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I just sat on my butt all day and ate crap and drank every single
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night, no shade, no shame, trust me. I usually your girl
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likes a glass of wine. But you know what I'm saying, Like,
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if I was like doing all of these negative things health wise, I wouldn't
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be able to look you and I'd be like, I'm so healthy. I'd
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never get sick, it wouldn't be the same, right, Like, Like,
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I feel as strongly as I do because I also take those actions that
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help me build that unshakeable belief. So if you're I'm not sure what those
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are, I want you to imagine if you were the person with the health,
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with the thriving business, whatever, what actions would you, let's say,
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like in the future, if this was happening a year from now,
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what actions would you be taking if you had a certain level of business,
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right, what actions would you be taking if you had a certain level of
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relationship, if your relationship was beautiful and healthy. What would be some of
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the things that you and your partner would do on a daily or weekly or
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monthly basis with each other with a healthy relationship. Write that down. Start
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doing those things now, Start acting as if now all of this is going
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to continue to cement and build that belief. The third thing that I want
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you to do is I want you to start celebrating signs that your work is
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paying off, that this is working. There will be signs. They might
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be the tiniest, tiniest at first, but a sign is a sign is
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a sign. Okay, I call this a sign of an the signs of
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an avalanche. And what I mean by that is when there is an avalanche,
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it doesn't just start as like, all of a sudden, this massive
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amount of snow on the ground. It doesn't happen like that. It happens
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with one little snowflake, and then two little snowflakes, and then a little
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bit more and then a little dusting here, and then we have a big
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event happening. So I have found when it comes to areas that I am
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working on myself, this is kind of how it works too. And also,
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again you're programming. You're getting used to noticing something that previously you weren't
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noticing as much, so it might be slower to stand out to you.
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But whatever it is, no matter how big, the sign is that it
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is working. The positive is happening in this area. I want you to
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celebrate it. I want you to talk about it. I want you to
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post it, I want you to tag me, message me. Celebrate that
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it's working. Because this is going to continue to affirm and reiterate to your
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ras. Yes, this is what I want to pay attention to. You're
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going to get excited in the same way that you would get excited to see
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that g wagon down the road or the Angel number on the license plate,
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and you get that little butterfly feeling. I want you to train yourself to
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feel the same way whenever you start seeing signs that whatever you want, whatever
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reality you're trying to shift, has started to shift. This is going to
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speed up the process. Okay, and that's it. Because I floped two
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of these. That was it. And what you're going to see is the
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more that you do this, do this for twenty one days, blow your
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mind. I dare you. I dare you. It's not complicated, it's
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not rocket science. Every single person can do this, no matter what,
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no matter what area of life we're talking about. If you if you cannot
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do this for yourself, then your problem is that you're just lazy, I'm
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sorry. Or you don't you don't believe this, and that's fine. If
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you don't believe this, that's okay. If you if you don't believe something
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is going to work, why would you do it? And this is why
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we want to get to the root of your beliefs, because if you don't
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believe that your success is inevitable, why would you take the steps? If
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you don't believe that your business can be successful. Why would you take the
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steps if you don't believe that you could be healthy? Why would you take
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the steps? You just wouldn't. You wouldn't. You're a sane human being.
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Why would you do something if you don't ultimately believe that you can have
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something? On the other side, you wouldn't. So we got to reprogram
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those beliefs. Okay, that is all that I have for you today.
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If you enjoyed this, please let me know. I would love if you
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I hope you have a beautiful rest of your day and week and I
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will see you here next week. Bye.