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I Don't Like My Father - Emeka Ike's Son, Michael Releases Troubling Voice Message · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to another episode of Wanted.
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  Laurencia, how are you all doing?
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  I hope you're doing great. Merry Christmas and a happy
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  Boxing Day to everybody. I hope you had fun with family,
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  friends and loved ones. Now, for today's episode, I want
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  to give you an update based on MK's story.
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  Now, I know my last video. I was very hard on him because
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  he's the head of the family. I had to be.
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  I had to be. But there are new developments.
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  I mean, the first video we watched was the wife sharing our
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  story. Now there's a Part 2 of that
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  video where his son Michael Mikey shared his encounter with
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  him, Makiki, or his experience with his dad.
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  He shared also shared voice notes where Michael was
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  literally causing him out. But before we get to that, I
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  think nobody wins. When family feuds like there is
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  no winner or loser. We can decide to side with the
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  wife, we can decide to side with them making care, we can decide
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  to side with the son. But at the end of the day, this
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  is a family. This is a broken family.
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  This is a fractured family that we're hoping they could mend
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  fences and just be cordial like these two people.
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  They have kids. But the reason why I'm making
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  this video is because there is no justification for a child to
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  take sides to. You know, when parents feud, I
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  understand that sometimes it's impossible because maybe you
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  feel that your dad wronged your mom, so you're taking sides with
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  your mom or your mum. Wrong your dad and you're taking
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  like it doesn't end well. He doesn't end well because
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  these are two people who got married.
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  They are consenting adults. You were not there when they
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  decided to get together. You were not there when they
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  decided to bring you into this world.
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  So whatever happens for me, I think the children should not
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  get involved. I know they said Michael is 21
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  years old. How many years old?
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  He I don't know, but even at that he shouldn't get involved.
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  Before I get into this topic, let me just play the video and
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  the voice notes which Michael shared from his conversation.
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  Which should they now watch this?
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  Michael, go and drop in front of it.
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  Let's talk right now. Now, now, now.
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  Go and drop in front of drop from where you and break your
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  head and smash it. You're my stress.
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  You're my problem. You're the one I sent to school.
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  I spent all my money that I didn't have.
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  I was just taking money to save you.
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  You jump and took my children out and gave them to blackmail
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  us. And they are blackmailing me
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  using you. And you're telling me it's
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  better I die? Go, Go and do that.
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  No, no, no, no, no. Don't do it tomorrow.
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  I want to hear it, idiot. Think I'll let you blackmail me
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  and I will still get your mother.
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  I will still get your mother. Ah, yes he can.
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  Ah, damn. Don't worry, the people behind
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  this we hear from me. Don't wait for me to keep my
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  hand. Not supposed to touch you?
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  Go and kill yourself because. And then he said whether she
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  wants to kill my siblings so that it would be like it's only
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  him that is alive, let himself kill himself.
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  Everyone should just kill themselves, says they can kill
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  themselves to their children. He said he has other kids my age
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  around the world and was like guy, OK?
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  Is that supposed to freeze me? OK, the next morning I quit. 10
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  minutes feeling it's not the first time.
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  He's always sending you emails and sorting out like that.
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  You're doing music, giving them a prosper.
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  I'll see you on the side of the road and I'll spit on you.
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  Don't just will never see you blah blah.
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  Blah father said to you. Hold on.
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  He kept going, Sending movies, movies, movies.
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  My mom couldn't even listen to it.
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  She was trying to calm me down. Me that I'm trying to calm her
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  down. I was so surprised man.
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  I was like, this can't be this can't be someone I should be
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  proud of. I start thinking like what do I
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  do when I bring a woman home or kids who is going to make this
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  guy place my kids for me? Like I don't know.
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  I'm sorry. Making get scared that I'm I
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  going to have issues like this. When I go, what do you want your
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  dad to do? Stop.
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  Doing that, anything from, I don't want them from.
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  I think it's four days ago I realised I don't anything from
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  this one told me to go crush my head by a truck.
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  Right. That was the line.
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  I'm dead to this one, I don't think.
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  Nigerians are on social media, so I want to preempt that
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  question. People will say that your mother
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  has turned you against your dad and that's why we are here
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  talking. How do you respond to me?
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  With my mum 1st and I said it was I really hate my father.
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  When you meet your mom for the first time.
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  Now from social media, in laws, a lot of people they were
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  blaming, they make. Now why would you reign curses
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  on your child regardless of what's you know your child has
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  done, regardless of whether he's taking sides?
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  Telling your son to end his life is not an option.
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  Like you would never want anybody to to go through that,
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  not to talk of a child you brought into this world and in a
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  child you took care of. Now I can understand why.
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  Because at the end of the day these are two broken people, the
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  mother and the father. The mother felt, you know, she
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  was caught short. Basically, she was a model.
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  She wanted to be an actress. She got married to this famous
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  guy and all he could do was get her pregnant.
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  Yeah, pregnant she did. She she didn't feel fulfilled in
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  her life, I think from what she was saying and that could drive
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  anybody crazy. But from what Nikki saying, he
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  said that he sent out to school, bought her jam.
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  She did first degree. She did masters.
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  But at the same time, I I just think we shouldn't.
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  I know I took sides, but judging from the whole conversation now,
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  I think we should just let people deal with their issues.
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  We all have that one family or friend or relation or neighbour
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  who yeah, marriage ended and basically most times the Farrah
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  get the children, most times also they deny the woman access
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  to those children. So the woman is busy crying
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  trying to get access to the kids and then when the kids now grow
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  up become an adult, maybe 18/19/20 they will reach out to
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  their mother. And when they reach out to their
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  mother, trust me, that woman has her body.
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  Whole lot of grief, a whole lot of hatred for the father,
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  stopping her to see her children.
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  She is going to a lot like she's going to embellish the stories
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  not because she want to, but because of the way she felt
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  pained. That pain must have been, you
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  know, multiplied 100 times just because of the fact that she was
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  not able to see her kids. We are online watching that the
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  phrase complain about his children complaining about not
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  seeing his kids. These are kids that are both 20,
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  but According to him, the wife has controlled or mind
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  controlled them or something that they have refused to see
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  him. So he is bitter regardless of
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  whatever transpired when they were dating or when they had a
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  divorce or whatever transferred at that point.
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  Right now he is pained. So whatever happened, he has
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  magnified that based on his pain level, based on his anger level.
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  So I think people should just stop putting kids in the middle
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  of things. If you get married and that
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  marriage doesn't work, find a way to get both parties to see
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  children. Because most times even when the
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  dad take the kids, there's a 99% chance that he would not be able
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  to cater for those kids. So the kids will have to move to
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  a different family member and then the woman, maybe she
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  herself also is not able to cater for those kids.
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  But there has to be a battle ground where the father is able
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  to see the kids, the mother is able to see the kids or they are
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  able to speak to the children. Don't stop anybody from seeing
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  their kids, don't stop any. Because at the end of the day if
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  you do that, that person is going to harbour hatred, anger.
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  And when that child is now maybe an adult 1819 and able to
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  connect with their parents, whichever one they were not,
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  they were denied access to, it is going to create chaos.
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  This is what I think is going on in the Mexican situation.
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  He had custody of those children for about 8 years and within
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  those eight years he was able to move to Germany, get married,
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  continued a different like had two more children.
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  And I could tell that he, he, Michael, is the eldest.
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  So that will make him feel better because it's just like,
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  OK, you have started a new family, you have gotten married
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  and we were here being taken care of by strangers.
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  When we have a mother, when we have a mother that we can
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  actually stay with because at the end of the day.
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  And Mika will still be giving those family members money to
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  take care of those children, which could easily give his
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  ex-wife to cater for those children.
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  But because of when people divorce or when people when
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  marriages end, there's always that bitterness there.
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  And everybody's trying to score points.
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  Everybody's trying to hurt people the best way that they
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  can. And most times the children are
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  stuck in the middle. All I would say is MK, you
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  brought this upon yourself because you marry somebody who
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  was a teenager, regardless of whatever you may think that you
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  have done for her or her family, she did not feel fulfilled.
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  She felt like her life was cut short because she met you.
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  She felt like she could have done better.
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  Could she have done better? Probably.
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  Or that opportunity, the fact that she was not given the
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  opportunity to to go into the world and do all those things
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  that she had in her head that she wanted to do.
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  This is what is making her better.
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  And because she was having kids back-to-back, I understand she
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  went to school, she didn't masters.
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  The fact that she was having kids back-to-back, that made her
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  resent. I think she really at the end of
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  the day she just resented him. That is the the, the cooks of
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  the whole matter now. The son, Michael according to
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  Mikey he was in school in Abuja and then when he reconnected
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  with the mother he moved from Abuja to Lagos.
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  He abaddon school now he's trying to be a musician.
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  He was frustrated, could hear what he was saying in that voice
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  note he was frustrated because we have we all grew up in
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  Africa. We all know especially Nigeria.
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  Your parents especially the ones that educated and making kids
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  and engineer. He might think the basic
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  requirements he he wanted from his son was a degree and when
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  the boy was not giving it to him he he got frustrated and I think
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  it was because he met his mother.
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  His mother is like you know now she she she has reconnected with
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  her son. She would want to get in his
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  good books so whatever. He could easily manipulate her
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  and tell her, oh I I I want to be a musician that is trying to
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  make me go go to school. I just think I am born to do
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  this. I am born to do that.
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  And the mother is like, yes, you should do it.
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  And according to sources he is working in a restaurant in in
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  Lagos. Like I understand people you
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  know, humble beginnings. You struggle before you could.
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  Why not just complete your education?
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  Your father is a mega *. I think if Michael had completed
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  his education and then tell his father how he I've done what you
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  want me to do now I want to. I want to get into the
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  entertainment industry. His father will be happy to put
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  him through. I think maybe not because he did
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  not put the mother through. He ended up with the mother.
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  True. So I I don't know.
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  I don't know. I just think nobody wins when
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  family feuds. Nobody, absolutely nobody wins.
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  So MK. I think it's time to like drop
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  the boxing gloves, Just speak to your wife, apologise to your son
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  because nobody should receive such a a message, even from an
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  enemy, you know, telling you you will not amount to nothing.
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  Yeah, go and you know, end your life.
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  It is going to hurt a child. But we all grew up in, I always
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  say this, we grew up in the traumatic environment.
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  Something is going to traumatise you.
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  And also Suzanne, Susan, I think you shouldn't bring the fact
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  that you brought to your son to that interview for me.
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  I think you scored an own goal and that was what everybody was
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  saying. If you had just come out, tell
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  you one side of the story and just let everything be.
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  Maybe on his own, he's a grown man.
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  Maybe the son on his own goes to a different platform, or he
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  wants to come to that platform but on a different day to tell
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  his own side of the story. I don't think people will
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  question it the way people are questioning it now because you
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  brought him on. This is a fight between you and
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  your ex-husband. Now you're bringing the children
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  into the mix. It doesn't end well.
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  It does not end well. At the end of the day, Michael,
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  you're still going to grow up. You're still going to get
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  married. And it's it's different ball
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  game. It's it's a different ball game.
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  So people should leave the children out of whatever
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  situation that you're going through with your wife or your
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  partner. If that marriage is no longer
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  working, I think people should be mature enough to do what is
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  right or what is best for the kids.
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  Put your emotions aside. The kids need both the father
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  and the mother. Unless in a situation whereby
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  one of the parents is abusive, then I can say OK, they may not
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  have them physically but that conversation is required because
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  at the end of the the child is going to ask you why did you
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  stop me from talking to my father?
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  Why did you stop stop me from talking to my mother?
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  They are going to turn back and resent you.
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  Although for you you think you're trying to do what is best
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  for them. Sometimes it's best to just
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  allow the children to experience certain things for themselves
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  and make up their minds. Even making had allowed the the
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  ex-wife access to the children, not necessarily having them full
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  time but let's say visitation rights speaking to them.
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  It will not get to this point. He will not be on social media,
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  cried the son. Will not be on social media
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  saying that he hits the dad, the wife will not be on social
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  media, like this whole thing will not be on social media.
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  But the reality is we all know that family member, that friend,
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  that neighbour, that extended relation that their marriage
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  ended and they are weaponizing the children against one of the
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  partner. It is not going to end well, it
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  will not end well. So once you are comfortable
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  getting somebody pregnant or having a child for somebody,
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  regardless of what happens after after that point, the two of you
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  have to be involved in that child's life.
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  Whether you hate each other, whether you want your at each
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  other's throats, whether you can't stand the sight of each
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  other. This human being in the middle
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  was brought to this world by the two of you.
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  You have to put aside your emotions and actually help that
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  child be a better person. I wish I'm making here and the
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  family all the best. I just hope that they are able
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  to sit down, have a conversation and move forward in this
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