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563. Integrity Under Pressure: Influencing Ethically in Crisis · Daily Influence

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  [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, everybody, Brian Smith here with the Iron Team series and your daily influence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And today I come to you from our new offices here in West Indies.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The first time I've recorded here,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I hope that this episode turns out with the same at least.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Today I've picked a theme
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, a lot of different reasons.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There's so much negativity going on in politics and the world.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I've noticed a number of colleagues and a number of clients who struggle.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I see myself having to look at the mirror and struggle with this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What I'm talking about is the theme for today, which is integrity under pressure.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it's how we're being influenced to react ethically during crisis.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And crisis doesn't have to be a global crisis or a national crisis.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: can be an internal crisis, be a company crisis, can be an individual crisis, a group crisis.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And in moments of tension, especially around work, around religion, politics, high profile news that gets forced back to us most of the time, our emotions can cloud our judgment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And they can get in the way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And they can actually challenge us in our ethics, our core values.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And they can actually become muddied.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I hear really good people say things that make me shit my head.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When they start talking about things, they're emotional about.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They begin to lose the differentiation between their core values and their emotions.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In these feelings that are being driven,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So let's explore how we can maintain our integrity, our integrity with our core values, who we want to be as individuals and maintain at the forefront and then ensure that even when the pressure is high,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that we can get centered quickly and have really good conversations.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So one of the things that I've noticed is fake-based with the killing of Charlie Kirk, there's been a lot or an increase in discussion about Christianity and differentiation between different religions and which is right and which is wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And if you're a faithful person,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: is right, and others aren't.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We see this even within Christianity itself in the different flavors of Christianity.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We get down to the nuance the difference is.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And when faith collides with...
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Other things around us, sit at law, human rights, it's tough to balance ourselves.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's tough not to have heightened emotional conversations with people who don't understand our faith, don't understand our core convictions.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In those moments, and there's a lot of people that don't really understand or agree with empathy, but it really can be,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: one of the most driving things that can get you back to center and help you to have lower tension conversations.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And if you struggle with empathy for somebody you don't understand because you can't agree with their born-up view, then switch to sympathy.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Some of these very close to empathy and it can help you
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  [SPEAKER_00]: through a sympathetic gesture to have more clarity and understanding, not literally of their side and where they come from, but through sympathy, you can let them speak, let them communicate, let them feel the way they currently watch a feel, and understand that whatever your faith is, whatever it is that you believe in.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: they could through calmness, not aggressiveness, through lack of negative emotion, be better influenced by your own feelings and your own beliefs than if you try to bully them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And yes, when we yell at people, we're bullied.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might be angry, you might be right.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But once we escalate into an aggressive communication way with others, we become a bully.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're still a bully.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're not giving people the opportunity to come to an understanding of where you are at in a way that they should.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: People shouldn't be forced in understanding.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They should be enlightened.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They should be given an opportunity to have layers of knowledge so that they can interpret and agree on terms that are comfortable to that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This also makes me think about political loyalty and how that can be amazingly contradictory to ethical accountability.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How do we hold leaders accountable?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: At this point, it seems like it's almost impossible.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Though for the rest of us, we still have to be accountable for what we're doing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And we can start with,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: calling down the rhetoric amongst ourselves, by going into conversations with that empathy or sympathy and allowing people to have and share their opinions, which isn't knowledge, it's an opinion, and having conversations to have clear understanding of how they got there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If we can do that in a calm and thoughtful way,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We can lay into, we can rest back into our core values and have real conversations.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And as our frustration amounts as people don't come to our side or agree with us, try to understand that you are back where we were talking about earlier.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You are back in a place where you are not going to get them to have good conversations.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You are not going to get them to any sort of clarity.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: in your area of influence through a aggressive persuasion, aggressive manipulation, aggressive conversation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So as we get into these crisis and I'm gonna escape and get away from the outward crisis, but back in our own world, family crisis, work crisis, disagreements between people, ask support questions.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In these times of crisis,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But words can get people of inflammatory and healing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How can we speak the truth about what it is we're talking about?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not talking about just opinion.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking about what we know for defect.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's probably not the right word.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But a lot of us lean into what we hear, not what we know.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We take for granted that if we hear it in a certain place, that it's right.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you want to fall into your core values, be ethical.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Make sure that the position you're taking is understood clearly, not just for others but for you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Make sure you know how to communicate it effectively.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Listen to yourself, talk about high stress issues.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Listen to yourself get influenced by the emotions that you have, and allow yourself to understand how those emotions can change the way you deliver a message.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And when we do that,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When we understand how we are influenced by our emotions and how it causes us to lose our integrity, to lose and forget our core values and get away from the person that we want to be, we can more quickly learn how to lean into controlling those emotions and have better conversations.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Look, integrity under pressure isn't about avoiding conflict.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's about asking better questions when beliefs, politics, any kind of crisis in your life pulls us at different directions.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: By checking our conscious, by holding ourselves accountable to our actions above loyalty to religion, politics, of workplace or an opinion.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When we choose words that respect, we influence ethically.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When we know that the stakes are high in these conversations, there is in these conversations, chances of damaging our reputation, damaging friendships, damaging family relationships, long-term relationships.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But we could understand what the consequences of aggressive, emotional conversations can have instead of getting back to balance conversations, expressing our understanding for differences, leaning into what we are at our foundation and allowing the emotions to fall off in the content and the understanding to come out.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for joining me today.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I hope you have a great day.