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If He Says He's Divorced... · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  As a professional matchmaker and a professional dating coach,
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  here are three things you must ask these guys when they tell
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  you they're divorced. Hang on.
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  OK, so every single thing I talk about and do videos about come
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  literally off the fire from the real world, either world of
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  matchmaking or the date coaching that I do for women.
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  So I had a lady last night reach out to me and she was all upset
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  because she had been talking to this guy that she met online.
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  He said he was divorced, so she had a phone call with him like I
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  tell my ladies to do. And she said, oh, you're
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  divorced. He says yes, said yes.
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  OK Now, did he end up blatantly lying?
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  Yes. Because when they were on the
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  date and he drove 4 hours to meet her, That's because her
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  profiles that good while they were at dinner.
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  She starts to now ask him more questions about his divorce.
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  And this is where everything went South.
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  So tell me about your divorce, she says, and he, like, stops
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  and he looks. And then he admits he's just
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  separated. Well, I'll cut to the chase on
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  that story. She made him take her home, and
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  that was a good learning lesson for him.
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  I'm going to give you ladies advice because I don't think
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  you're quite digging deep enough with these men.
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  Obviously you're not. And for me, it's just second
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  nature to ask these questions. So I'm going to give them to you
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  today. OK, Let's get it into what,
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  number one, you want to ask him. I would do it either in the
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  message initial messaging phase or on the phone.
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  And again, if you want to hate on the dating apps, you can meet
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  a guy in the grocery store who would tell you he's divorced and
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  then ends up being separated. So it's not about the dating
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  app. So let's just get that off the
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  table. So first of all, when you get on
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  message or or phone call, you need to say this Hey, so how
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  long have you been legally divorced?
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  Not just, hey, are you divorced? Because that's an easy thing for
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  them to just say yes. But if you dig deeper and you
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  say how long have you been legally divorced?
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  Now he's going to have to justify his answer.
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  So this is where you're going to start to uncover the truth.
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  And then he'll tell you whatever he tells you #2.
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  Then you're going to say, well, have you dated much since your
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  divorce or did you date during your separation?
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  And how long have you been dating since your divorce?
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  You need to go on a fact finding mission so that when they give
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  you an answer, you come back with another question to dig
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  deeper. So how long have you been
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  dating? How much have you dated in this
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  whole time? And then last but not least, you
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  want to ask them and have you been in any relationships of any
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  significance in this time during your separation or divorce?
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  Now I am telling you ladies these three questions.
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  Are you legally divorced? Have you dated much since your
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  divorce or separation? How long were you separated?
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  Have you been in any relationship since this is going
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  to now uncover so much great Intel that you need to have?
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  I also would go so far as to ask what kind of relationship do you
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  have with her now? Because I've had scenarios where
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  you know the man will be like, yeah, we don't talk, which is
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  Intel you need to have. And I've had scenarios where a
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  man ended up telling me, oh, we're such best friends, she pre
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  qualifies women before I ever date them.
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  What I had to tell that guy I couldn't work with him for
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  matchmaking. So it's not for me.
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  Though, to tell you what his answer should be.
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  It's up to you to ask the right questions and then figure out
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  for yourself whether or not it's OK with you or not, right?
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  Personally, I want a guy who's legally divorced.
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  I want a guy who has had some dating experience.
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  I want a guy who's even road tested the merchandise out
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  there. He's dated quite a bit.
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  He's even dated somebody for a significant amount of time.
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  He's in a place where he's dated.
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  He knows what he wants. That's what I'd be looking for,
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  right? I hope it helps.