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The Return of Romance (And the Rise of Whimsy) · Two Broke Chicks

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  Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gaddigal Land Always was, always
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  Speaker 1: I'm out and I'm out and welcome to Broach Chicks,
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  Speaker 1: have aligned, the planets are in order, and.
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  Speaker 1: It's in the intro scene of Sailor Moon. That's what's
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  Speaker 1: happening right now morning. I was thinking more of the
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  Speaker 1: scene in like the Disney Hercules movies where the Titans
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  Speaker 1: come up from on the ground and they go.
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  Speaker 2: That is literally us.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, guys, is that way?
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  Speaker 2: And then do you know what I reckon?
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  Speaker 1: You could take every single one of those titans in
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  Speaker 1: Disney Hercules and you could appoint them to every single
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  Speaker 1: one of your phases in the menstrual cycle.
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  Speaker 2: And when you have your period you are dumb cyclops.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I love you. Just in general, in general,
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  Speaker 2: the one being like.
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  Speaker 1: I like his energy anyway, Smasha Pass pass he's got
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  Speaker 1: fuck tone ols. But the one who's like the Lava one,
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, I was gonna say the Freeze one because
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  Speaker 1: he's like a bit skinny.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and latched.
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  Speaker 1: He's like he's got a variable wasteline, doesn't he But
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  Speaker 1: he's giving, like he's giving like Arctic monkeys. Alex Turner
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  Speaker 1: fully like he's giving like a sky dumble boy. Yeah yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like the white boy David said, yeah yeah, Timmy Challamy,
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  Speaker 1: he's giving.
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  Speaker 2: All and gully.
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  Speaker 1: If anyone's not saying the Disney hercules, that's on you.
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  Speaker 2: You don't feel included in this conversation. It's not my
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  Speaker 2: fault you're not educated. Let your education begin. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 2: you're welcome anyway. Today's episode Romance is a lady no
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  Speaker 2: one I feel like you could have done? Doesn't roll
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  Speaker 2: off the no, what are you gonna do? Mess up
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  Speaker 2: my hair? That's pretty scary, all right?
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  Speaker 1: Today's episode is a very romantic episode.
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  Speaker 2: Why is it romantic? Al hit me? Because we are
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  Speaker 2: so back.
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  Speaker 1: Romance is back and I'm locked in this episode will
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  Speaker 1: actually just be sad I'm here.
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  Speaker 2: But before we get into it. What's your life lesson
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  Speaker 2: of Zavig?
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  Speaker 1: My life lesson of the week is that I saw
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  Speaker 1: on TikTok that you're going to love, and I feel
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  Speaker 1: like we need it in our saved folder to refer
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  Speaker 1: back to, because my obsession of the week is medieval
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  Speaker 1: ways to say.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not coming. Okay, are we ready?
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  Speaker 1: I fear I am not in a fit state to
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  Speaker 1: be perceived. I've had a vision and it led not
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  Speaker 1: to the outside world. I shan't rise today. The candle
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  Speaker 1: within has grown dim.
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  Speaker 2: I think you could even just ended it.
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  Speaker 1: I shan't rise today, Yeah, and I think we need
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  Speaker 1: to use I shan't a little bit more. I agree,
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  Speaker 1: And I'll put the link to the post in the
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  Speaker 1: show notes because there's a lot. But I'll finish with
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  Speaker 1: one of my faves, which is my bones creaketh and
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  Speaker 1: my soul doth sigh.
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  Speaker 2: I must not attend. And if that doesn't encapsulate how
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  Speaker 2: I feel.
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  Speaker 1: It's some message about my thirtieth birthday in your going.
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  Speaker 2: I shan't rise.
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  Speaker 1: Today, Yes, because I can't come because the stars do
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  Speaker 1: not align for such merriment tonight.
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  Speaker 2: For I am in bed, who can argue with that.
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  Speaker 2: You can't. You can't argue with that. Thou shallt not protest?
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  Speaker 1: Okay. So that's my obsession of the week. Enjoy chicks,
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  Speaker 1: You're welcome, Okay. My obsession of the week kind of
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  Speaker 1: aligned to the topic of conversation. It is a new
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  Speaker 1: smutty fantasy book that I've been reading. Oh, if you
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  Speaker 1: were also obsessed with like the Mermaids in peter Pan
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  Speaker 1: and also like Pirates of the Caribbean, then I have
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  Speaker 1: the smutty romanticy book for you. And it's called The
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  Speaker 1: Ever King, and it's very enemies to lovers. He's the
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  Speaker 1: evil see Faye and she's the evil Earth Faye, and
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  Speaker 1: he's like a pirate and then he kidnaps her to
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  Speaker 1: get back at her dad because he's their mortal enemy
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  Speaker 1: of blah blah bla because her dad killed his dad.
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  Speaker 1: And it's very dramatic. Ju see good, It's good stuff.
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  Speaker 2: I like it.
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  Speaker 1: We need more horny pirate romances in our life.
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  Speaker 2: Where the fuck are all the horny pirates? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: I didn't sit here gushing over Orlando Bloom in a
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  Speaker 1: Ponytail for nothing. Also, Elizabeth'swan Gay Awakening. Yeah, like when
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  Speaker 1: she comes out dress as a pirate. Sorry, you also
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  Speaker 1: know I'm partial to Hook. Oh yeah, Captain Hawk and Hawk.
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  Speaker 1: That's a controversial crush. Is it that I don't actually
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  Speaker 1: feel any convers around that I think is objectively good looking?
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  Speaker 2: Is he a controversial crush in the nineties?
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  Speaker 1: Hook?
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  Speaker 2: Are we talking about the same other one with Robin Williams?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, smashsh I can't call it or on the same page,
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  Speaker 1: what about the cartoon smash?
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  Speaker 2: Come on, what about the pirate? Wiggle? My stile says
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  Speaker 2: it all? It does it? I love him? It didn't
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  Speaker 2: say at all.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, pirates objectively hot one thousand. We need more of this,
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  Speaker 1: like the Pirates in terms of like yehar matey, like
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  Speaker 1: not actual pirates.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't like that actual No, that's actually scary.
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  Speaker 2: They ruined it for actually scary. They're very scary.
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  Speaker 1: And also like where over here you're trying to like
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  Speaker 1: just vibe with like a guy who has a feather
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  Speaker 1: in his hat, and like you're out here actually killing people.
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  Speaker 2: Stops, that's the thing.
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  Speaker 1: Like, and you're not even wearing like a billowing white
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  Speaker 1: blouse and a hoop and really you're actually a good
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  Speaker 1: guy because like you're dismantling the Patriot and you're.
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  Speaker 2: One with the sea. Yeah, you like a treasure or two?
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  Speaker 1: What's the guy you guys just driving around his boat
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  Speaker 1: looking for a coin in the water.
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  Speaker 2: Find a penny, pick it up? Is that not saying? After?
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  Speaker 1: Seriously, pirates have your say in the commentation.
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  Speaker 2: Literally, let's get into the show. After the show, let's
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  Speaker 2: talk romance, all right? So our why is romance so back?
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  Speaker 2: Romance is so back?
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  Speaker 1: So according to the Instagram account data, but make it
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  Speaker 1: fashion searches for romance worldwide at.
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  Speaker 2: A five year high. Wow, that's wild.
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  Speaker 1: So that's twenty seven percent more popular in twenty twenty
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  Speaker 1: six so far compared to.
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  Speaker 2: The last five years on average.
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  Speaker 1: But the searchers have been climbing steadily by eight percent
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  Speaker 1: on average since twenty twenty one, so it's been on
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  Speaker 1: the up.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like why.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like there's a few different reasons, but I
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  Speaker 1: was looking into some research around it, and apparently during
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  Speaker 1: times of uncertainty, people often they go towards genres like
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  Speaker 1: romance for that fantasy and escapism element, which surely we
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  Speaker 1: can all relate to, right, And apparently sales of romance
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  Speaker 1: It's fiction have soared in Australia and internationally in the
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  Speaker 1: past five years as well. Data from Nielsen book Scan
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  Speaker 1: Australia shows that readers purchased three.
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  Speaker 2: Million romance novels in twenty twenty four. Wow. Yeah, that's wild.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think that's surprising in the slidest though, Like
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  Speaker 1: if you look at how popular BookTalk has become, especially,
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  Speaker 1: but also if you look at the I swear every
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  Speaker 1: week we get about three announcements that a book adaptation
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  Speaker 1: is coming, whether it's in a TV show format or
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  Speaker 1: a movie format.
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  Speaker 2: The girlies want the yen. We want to yearn. I
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  Speaker 2: want to yearn, I want smolder.
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  Speaker 1: And I think we've earned that. We've earned to yearn literally.
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  Speaker 1: And I also saw an article that was published by
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  Speaker 1: Maccuarie University and they said that this element of romance
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  Speaker 1: providing comfort to people, but to women especially isn't anything
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  Speaker 1: new and it's something that has been happening over time.
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  Speaker 1: And I want to read out a quote from the professor.
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  Speaker 1: I'll link the article in the show notes, but she
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  Speaker 1: was saying women still often have to carry the weight
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  Speaker 1: of emotional labor and the majority of caregiving reading romance
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  Speaker 1: is time when you can focus on meeting your own
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  Speaker 1: needs in your own space. It's regenerative in that way.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, hell yeah, how fucking hell yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And I think if we look at the first two
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  Speaker 1: months of this year and the most popular releases that
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  Speaker 1: have happened in twenty twenty six, they're all romance. I
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  Speaker 1: think also, romance has quite often been noted to be
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  Speaker 1: quite a frivolous and unimportant genre slash niche, and especially
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  Speaker 1: more than five years ago, Like you wouldn't even really
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  Speaker 1: see people talking about, you know, the romance books that
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  Speaker 1: they read or like movies, and it was like it
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  Speaker 1: was like a dumb girl hobby, right, Like it wasn't
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  Speaker 1: really treated as passion and an actual hobby, whereas like
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  Speaker 1: when you look at action movies or drama movies that
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  Speaker 1: are about war and all of those stuff, they're looked
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  Speaker 1: at with such an artistic lens that are deemed at
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  Speaker 1: a higher intellectual level.
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  Speaker 2: That kind of stuff that was catered to men, I
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  Speaker 2: would say.
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  Speaker 1: Was more highbrow and treated as more cerebral, whereas women's
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  Speaker 1: romance and passion and context like that was treated as
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  Speaker 1: very emotional, whereas it's not actually true. Yeah, exactly, Like
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  Speaker 1: so many of the popular releases that we've had this year,
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  Speaker 1: like Bridgeton Season four, Heated Rivalry, Wuthering Heights, like they
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  Speaker 1: are complex stories in a lot of cases, and yes,
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  Speaker 1: there are horny scenes that are there for the sake
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  Speaker 1: of titillating us as the viewer that was you use
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  Speaker 1: that word on purpose?
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  Speaker 2: I did, I been Audiviel titilated. Job here is now
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  Speaker 2: about the episode. But of course in today's episode is.
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  Speaker 1: Spotted love honey, shit, shit, we are but one brain cell.
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  Speaker 2: Romance.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, like, yes, there are horny scenes which are
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  Speaker 1: probably purely there so that we can kick out faith.
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  Speaker 2: I don't I don't agree with that either.
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  Speaker 1: I think as well, women's pleasure under in the lens
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  Speaker 1: of a male film is there, and it's artistic and
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  Speaker 1: it's all of these things. However, you put that in
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  Speaker 1: a female centered movie and it's then just entertainment, and
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  Speaker 1: that's why it's so exciting. And I also think this
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  Speaker 1: shift of romance being back in quote unquote has also
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  Speaker 1: bled into the way that we you know, romanticize relationships,
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  Speaker 1: but also life and life outside side of relationships. Yeah, exactly,
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  Speaker 1: that romance isn't deemed just for being with another person,
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  Speaker 1: and especially purely heterosexual relationships, like when we talk about
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  Speaker 1: romance a lot of the time. Yeah, it's about romanticizing
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  Speaker 1: our day to day lives and our time with ourselves.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And there was also that Vogue article. Yeah, is having
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  Speaker 1: a boyfriend embarrassing? Now? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: I did want to read out a quote from that
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  Speaker 1: article that said being partner doesn't affirm your womanhood anymore.
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  Speaker 1: It is no longer considered an achievement, and if anything,
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  Speaker 1: it's become more of a flex to pronounce yourself single.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, our interest from romance has shifted from purely
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  Speaker 1: being about relationships and couplings to something broader than that.
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  Speaker 1: I think independence has become romanticized significantly. We've seen multiple
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  Speaker 1: studies come out that single women are statistically happier because
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  Speaker 1: they have more independence. That ability to make your own
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  Speaker 1: choices financially, culturally, and just to your own values is
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  Speaker 1: very romantic. To be in love with yourself so much
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  Speaker 1: that you're okay being on your own and enjoy that.
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  Speaker 1: It's not to say that you can't be with someone else,
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  Speaker 1: you can't have lots of friends, but to love your
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  Speaker 1: life independently. So much is just so beautiful and the
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  Speaker 1: fact that that's there.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree.
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  Speaker 1: So I also wanted to talk about romance and also
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  Speaker 1: the rise of romance and whimsy. So whimsy has been
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  Speaker 1: this word and whimsical and fun has just taken off.
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  Speaker 1: Like my entire feed last year was like, how to
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  Speaker 1: be more whimsy? Things I do that make my life
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  Speaker 1: more whimsical, affordable, whimsical hobbies and.
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  Speaker 2: What's eating it? So I'm going to be a whimsical
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  Speaker 2: fairy dancing in the forest. Yeah, I'm cool.
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  Speaker 1: You know. I think it's because of the rise of
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  Speaker 1: AI and obviously our addictions to our phones and everything
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  Speaker 1: existing in a digital space and feeling quite like just
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  Speaker 1: clinical and stale percent and I also think that is
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  Speaker 1: what ties into the rise of the messy girl. So
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  Speaker 1: there was an article from Style Analytics that actually called
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  Speaker 1: out a trend that will a trend forecast for this
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  Speaker 1: year was that we will see the rise of like
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  Speaker 1: anti AI, which is mess and imperfection.
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  Speaker 2: Love that and like the.
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  Speaker 1: Romance behind that, because at the beginning of the year
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  Speaker 1: she said one of my most reacted to trend predictions
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  Speaker 1: was the rise of imperfection in fashion and beauty as
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  Speaker 1: a way of signaling that something is human made rather
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  Speaker 1: than AI generated. And this has also now been reflected
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  Speaker 1: on runways. So Prata sent models down the runway at
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  Speaker 1: its men's wear show wearing visibly dirty.
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  Speaker 2: And stained sleeves. Interesting uh huh.
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  Speaker 1: Editor's runway coverage flagged an increase in crush cotton, crinkles
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  Speaker 1: and deliberately unironed textures across men's fashion.
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  Speaker 2: And then we're also.
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  Speaker 1: Just seeing this rise of like messy makeup, grunge, darkness,
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  Speaker 1: and how that also ties into whimsy and how things
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  Speaker 1: are less polished and more for the way things make
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  Speaker 1: you feel rather than for the way things look, and
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  Speaker 1: it's less about perfection.
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  Speaker 2: And I do agree with you.
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  Speaker 1: I think the rise of romanticizing your life and whimsy
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  Speaker 1: feels like a natural retaliation because whimsy and romance and
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  Speaker 1: blah blah blah is stuff that's so inherently pushed towards
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  Speaker 1: more of a women right, and it's more owned in
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  Speaker 1: that like feminine nature, And I think it's of natural
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  Speaker 1: retaliation to basically the current climate that is more of
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  Speaker 1: a man's world of you know, if you look at
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  Speaker 1: what's going on. It's fucking crazy, and there's war and
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  Speaker 1: shit and economic crisis and horrible things in the new Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's crazy, And I think this is this natural protection
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  Speaker 1: to some of those things. Like some would argue and
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  Speaker 1: complain that romanticizing your life encourages unrealistic expectations and ignores challenges,
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  Speaker 1: that you may get caught up in the fantasy and
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  Speaker 1: end up disappointed. However, I kind of think, well, aren't
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  Speaker 1: you disappointed anyway?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so let me have fun.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, couldn't you argue that we do live in
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  Speaker 1: a society where we like the grass is always greener,
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  Speaker 1: that in romanticizing your life, aren't you maybe appreciating your
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  Speaker 1: grass a little bit more.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're watering your grass.
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  Speaker 1: Rather than looking at someone else's grassy lawn. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 1: you could say that about any philosophy or trend or
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  Speaker 1: anything that if you do anything in an.
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  Speaker 2: Extreme you have too much of a good thing.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think there's any downfall in focusing and romancing
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  Speaker 1: your own life versus looking at others.
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  Speaker 2: And wanting that more.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and being like, especially when we live in a
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  Speaker 1: world where online and we watch influencers who have a
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  Speaker 1: million designer handbags, and there's always a new product to have,
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  Speaker 1: and there's always a new body trend or hair color.
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  Speaker 2: Or whatever it is.
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  Speaker 1: That maybe realigning where that focus is going is actually
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  Speaker 1: the key to enjoying your life a little bit more.
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  Speaker 1: And also like an interest in some of the things
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  Speaker 1: that you may like that are an element of romanticizing
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  Speaker 1: your life or your day to day, whether that is
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  Speaker 1: like reading romance or reading fantasy or whatever, and adding
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of an element of escapism to your life.
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  Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that you're ignoring the realities of life either,
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  Speaker 1: Whereas I do think that people often think that, like
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  Speaker 1: they'll look at somebody who.
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  Speaker 2: It's say, you're living in a bubble exactly, Like.
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  Speaker 1: You can still have an appreciation for these things and
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  Speaker 1: also still acknowledge some of the awful things that are
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  Speaker 1: happening in the world, be a realist exactly. I was
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  Speaker 1: looking into more research as well about the rise of whimsy,
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  Speaker 1: and according to m On the brain, embracing whimsy is
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  Speaker 1: actually a pro level brain hack.
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  Speaker 3: Where ahead of the curve by level leveling up. Let's go,
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  Speaker 3: all right, so I've got a very long quote. So
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  Speaker 3: when you take everything too seriously and you stop being playful,
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  Speaker 3: your brain shifts and your brain's threat detector takes over
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  Speaker 3: the prefrontal cortex, which is the part responsible for problem
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  Speaker 3: solving and creativity, and it shuts down. So this is
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  Speaker 3: why everything starts to feel heavier and more difficult. It's
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  Speaker 3: actually biologically harder to focus and create. So yes, like
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  Speaker 3: you do need to pay attention to important things in
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  Speaker 3: the world, but by only doing that and not having
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  Speaker 3: any whimsy, romance and play in your life, you actually
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  Speaker 3: can't even deal with that information properly. Right, So this
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  Speaker 3: is why the moment you bring whimsy back allows yourself
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  Speaker 3: to play and the brain gets the signal for safety.
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  Speaker 2: When you are having more fun with things, your.
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  Speaker 1: Brain releases b DNF, which is brain derived neurotropic factor,
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  Speaker 1: which is basically fertilizer for your brain. It boosts neuroplasticity
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  Speaker 1: and allows your brain to rewire faster, learn deeper, and
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  Speaker 1: remember longer. Play also activates your dopamine system, and this
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  Speaker 1: is the part that I found the most interesting, not
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  Speaker 1: for achievement, but for curiosity, which is why it feels
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  Speaker 1: so good to explore and be weird and whimsical.
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  Speaker 2: Because your brain is rewarding you for being alive.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: I love that, right, So being whimsical doesn't just make
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: you happier, it makes you better. Studies show that play
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: puts your brain in optimal performance zones, boosts creative and
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  Speaker 1: lowess cortisol, but it also strengthens your immune system.
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: So yes, like it's it's positioned.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: Is this very like fun, floaty, flirty thing which like
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: slay Absolutely love that, But it's scientifically good for you
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: to embrace romance and whimsy in your everyday life.
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: It's just another.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: Example of the patriarchy trying to keep us down, man.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: Because it knows that it's good for us.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: It's likely keep them stressed, keep them in this weird
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: little box that will like shut down a bunch of
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: the important functions they could rise against.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: Damn the man, Miss Mulleins, use the man. Miss Mullins
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: is a man, Miss Mullets.
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  Speaker 1: I love that we can just enjoy some of these
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: things as they are, but also knowing the science behind
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: it as well. I love having those little things in
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: your pocket if like, somebody tries to give you like
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: a sassy comment about something fun that you like, and
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: be like, Actually, I also think sometimes we don't allow
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: ourselves the time to do those fun and silly things
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: that are just play and we don't make time for it.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: And hopefully that information does help people and the chicks realize.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: Like it's good for you.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: It's good for you to play and read your silly
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: book like it makes you healthier and better at, you know,
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: your everyday life, better at making hard decisions and dealing
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: with stress and literally your body's health. So and I
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: noticed that as well, Like if I don't read or
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: do my little weird hobbies or just have fun, silly,
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: goofy girl moments, yeah, I feel that in like everyday
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: life when I do need to be serious or when
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: I do need to take on important information, and you
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: can see that deficit. And I'm like, I read some smart.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: Literally the trick, got a busy week at work, read
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: some portant.
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  Speaker 1: No.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: I love that.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: And you did touch on this when you were talking
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: about Whimsy. But romance isn't just dominating, Yeah, what we
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: read and what we watch, but also what we're wearing
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: and in fashion. And I think, yeah, like you were saying,
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: definitely this focus on AI and digital spaces, but also
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: you know, in the last few years we had seen
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: things like the clean girl or quiet luxury trade wife, tradwife,
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: preppy culture, and some of those more like conservative pencil
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: skirts are apparently coming back. Put that back where it
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: came from. Also helped me.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: Bomb bomb bombs will help me, so help me.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: No no, no, no no no no no no no
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: no no no no, no corporate casual in the club.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: According to l the pencil skirt is this year's sheakest
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: revival trend. That's all right, that's why we don't have
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: to jump on every trend. Yeah, exactly, we have free will.
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: So it makes sense though that in the you know,
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: last five to ten years, we've seen some of those
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: trends really dominate it. But then as the pendulum swings,
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: we want to reject some of those things, and that's
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: why we are embracing things in fashion that do feel
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: more romantic and whimsical, which I do think that we
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: do aligned to more naturally anyway, which I do love.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: I don't know. If you want to wear a pencil skirt,
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: by the way, that's your PROTI of course, no tin,
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: no shade, but just be warned it will take you
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: about double the time to get anywhere because you can't
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: take long strides in those things.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: You can't take long strides anyway.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: Your five foot exactly another thing I learned this way.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: No, anyway, we won't dive into that.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: But in the Pinterest Predicts report that was released at
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: the end of last year, there were a couple of
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: romantic esthetics included which I wanted to highlight.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: So one of them was lace, arguably.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: The most romantic fabric of all time, truly, like and
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: I'm here for it.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: Love lace.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: So populouses include lace. Nails were up two hundred and
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: fifty percent. Yeah, I think it's like lace prints on nails.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: Lace belt up fifty five percent, lace bandana up one
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: hundred and fifty percent.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: Lace doily doily. A doily is like you.
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: Know what your grandma's house or you're known in his
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: house in instance, and it's kind of like, yeah, a napkin,
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: but often they would be under like a pop plant.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: But I've seen a mat yeah yeah, and it's like
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: a beautiful lacy material. But I've seen a lot of
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: people actually up cycling doileys and making them into like
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: skirts and stuff.
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: They're actually really really cute.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: Well, that Kma lace skirt went like viral, and that
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: was essentially a massive doily and lace makeup up one
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: hundred and twenty percent.
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: Salt you doily. It was such a doily. Oh my god,
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: I want other day with this guy massive doily. Sorry
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: having been a doily day. Oh my god. Miss Malins,
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: she's a Missiles is a doily.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: But also as well as lace, dark romance, it's esthetics
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: also on the right, which we love because it's kind
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: of giving, like white versus black.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: Swan's sexy.
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: But searchers for vampire haircut are up forty percent. I
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: don't really know what that is, but I mean, I
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: feel like we should search it.
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: The odds. I'm imagining a micro bang. Vampire haircuts are
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: so gorgeous.
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: It's very you know, choppy wispy bangs as well as
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: quite like staggered layers throughout the hair and it looks
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: so beautiful.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: Look at this. I love that.
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: Chicks very vampire haircut on Pinterest and you will be please.
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll get a haircut after this.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: It's up forty percent, so this yeah the numbers right.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: Dark romantic makeup is up one hundred and sixty percent.
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: Come a lot.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: Aesthetic is up sixty percent, vampire beauty is up ninety percent,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: and Gothic coffin nails are up one hundred and eighty percent.
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: Wow, are we gonna have coffin shape nails by the
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: end of the year. I've been rocking the armand for
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: a while. Okay, So to wrap up the episode, we
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: want to do a quick fire cheat sheet of how
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: to add more romance in your life. I have five
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: recommendations for what to watch.
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  Speaker 2: Yep.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: Number one is Everything I Know About Love. That show
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: wrecked me and enabled me underrated. I don't about it,
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: Ted Lasso Yep.
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: About Time cried so much. I was nearly sick, but
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: I loved every second of it.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: Eternal Sunshine of a spelllest mind, my God, had sex
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: and the City. And the reason why I selected these
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: is because these are the movies that make.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: You fall back in love with your life.
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: They're not necessary romantic movies about relationships and about love,
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: but they're movies that make you literally love the feeling
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: of like a cool wind on your face in the morning,
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: or like the first nip of your morning coffee. I'm
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: really hot right now and the thought of a cool
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: wind on my face.
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we were talking about.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: It the other day, and we really want April long
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: weekend weather where.
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: It's like that little bit cool. That's maybe my favorite
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: long weekend of the whole year.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: Well, I don't concur it's so pretty good word, but anyway,
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: these movies and shows really make you realize the beauty
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: that is and the fun that's in everyday life and
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: how to appreciate it. I've always said, I love something
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: that makes me realize that a three pm marketing email
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: is not that important, yeah, and that life does not
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: revolve around that. And that's where I do think we're
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: seeing as well that we probably could do even more
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: into it. But how more people aren't working corporate work
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: loads and they're not doing nine to five and quite
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: quitting quiet quitting, and they're freelancing. And there's people that
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: are quitting their jobs as lawyers to just go work
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: as a barista because they're like, do you know what,
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: I just need enough money to live?
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the whole Like, you work to live, not live
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: to work. What about you? What are some ways to
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: add romance in your life?
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: I wanted to add some more on the what to
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: watch list. Obviously practical Magic. Oh now, and then very important.
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: I've never seen that.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: You would love it because the entire movie is about
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: female friendship and the importance of female friendship, but it
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: also speeches Yeah, yeah, I do my feelings. Yeah, I'd
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: give you my daughter if I died. I don't even
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: want kids, but that's okay. It would be very like
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: saving Helen.
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: Love that movie too, The Secret Garden, Sally. That one's sad.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: Okay, eternals blah blah, spotless wine.
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: I'm having a mini brain malfunction. It that's exact. That's
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: the exact title. I don't think I'm staying The Secretgarden.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: Little movie truly good. That movie Little Princesses. Is that
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: on your fucking list?
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: You're sick, You're sick. You actually so magical. That is
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: actually fucking crazy.
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: Right now.
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: That movie is so fucking sad. It's so beautiful though,
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: and that's happy ending, does it? Yeah? She remembered that
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: because I threw up from crying.
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: Anyway, and then some books to read.
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: I love that movie.
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: Oh my god. My dad apologized forgetting it from the
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: movie saw to me.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: That's how upset I was.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: I was like nine years old or something, and I
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: was like hyperventilating crying that.
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: My dad was like, I'm so sorry because he would
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: have seen the title and yeah, it'll be great. And
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: my little princess, my little princess, no no.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: Dead Dad at war Alert and then comes back and
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: is blind and like doesn't remember his own daughter Alert.
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: It came out in the nineties. If you haven't watched it,
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: Do you know what's fucked? You can't watch the Spice
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: Girls movie, but you can watch that. Yeah, that's what's crazy, honestly.
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: Also bridge to Terry at the art let's just throw
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: that in there.
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: Are you okay?
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: All right? Should we talk about some I'm going home
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: books to read to add romance back into your life.
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: Women Living Deliciously by Florence Given Yep. I would also
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: say this is actually a book that you gifted me.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: The Night Circus loved that and also The Last Week
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: of Scotland.
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue story follows a young French
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: woman in seventeen fourteen who makes a bargain with the
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: dark to make her immortal, but curses her to be
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: forgotten by everyone she meets.
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: Ooh, I have read that.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: Should we read it for a book club. Yeah, okay, done,
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: done well.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: We would love for you cheeks to tell us how
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: you add more romance and whimsy back into your life
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: and let us know if you want to part two
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: as well, because I feel like there's a lot more
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: we could do in even just like things to add
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: more whimsy back in in terms of habits and hobbies. Yeah.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: So yeah, if you want a part two to how
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: to add more whimsy to your life on a budget,
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: let us know, because we are all over that shit.
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but thank you so much for having us in
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: your ear holes.
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: Were la la la lovevera Yeah, we love.
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: So the other one I was thinking of, Oh is
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: it those lyrics word for word? Can I just say
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: that is an amazing album?
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: And my mum bought me that after I won my
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: very first netball game and it was just really added
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: romance into my life and I recommend it's importants And
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: can I just say I'm happy to hear it. We're
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: so different because when I did a really good job
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: in basketball, my mum will take.
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: Me to KFC. Sometimes I get macas. Yeah.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: Anyway, on that note, thanks to your chicks for having
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: us in earls I love to be here and we'll.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: See you next time.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: Chicks, kisses, smooches, Fine, love you,