Latest / Networking Unleashed: Building Profitable Connections / Networking Unleashed: S1E55 An Interview with David Greer and Michael A Forman, Public Speaker
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- 0:16Welcome back to Networking Unleashed, Building
- 0:19Profitable Connections. I'm your host, Michael
- 0:22Foreman, speaker, strategist, and firm believer
- 0:26that the right connection can change the course
- 0:29of a life or a business. Today's episode is more
- 0:32than just networking. It's about resilience.
- 0:38It's about starting over. It's about the power
- 0:41of relationships, not just to grow a business,
- 0:44but to rebuild a life. My guest today is an entrepreneur
- 0:48whose journey through addiction and into recovery
- 0:52has shaped a bold, authentic, and purpose -driven
- 0:55approach to networking. Their story is proof
- 0:59that no matter where you've been, you can always
- 1:02build forward one meaningful connection at a
- 1:05time. Whether you're in recovery yourself, supporting
- 1:08someone who is, or just looking ahead to lead
- 1:11with more authenticity and courage in your business
- 1:15relationships, this conversation will meet you
- 1:18right where you are. David, how are you today?
- 1:23And could you tell us a little bit about yourself?
- 1:27Michael, thanks for having me. I am doing fantastic
- 1:30today. And for your listeners, I'm a 40 plus
- 1:35year entrepreneur. And 10 years ago, after working
- 1:40with a brilliant coach, I decided I wanted to
- 1:42offer to entrepreneurs the things that Coach
- 1:44Kevin had offered to me. So I became an entrepreneurial
- 1:47coach and a facilitator. And I'm in recovery
- 1:52from alcoholism. And I made the decision a few
- 1:54years ago, just three or four, to become public
- 1:57about that. And so I now specialize in helping
- 2:01entrepreneurs who are challenged with alcoholism
- 2:04or addiction. Okay, that's great. And congratulations,
- 2:09because I know how difficult it is. And you've
- 2:13made it this far. So congratulations are in order.
- 2:17Thank you so much. I really appreciate that.
- 2:20You're welcome. Okay, so let's start. How has
- 2:24your journey through recovery influenced your
- 2:27approach to networking as an entrepreneur? My
- 2:32recovery is through one of the best known 12
- 2:35-step programs, which is really the fellowship
- 2:40of those programs is the essence of networking.
- 2:44although you might not realize it when you go
- 2:46in like when I walked into my first meeting I
- 2:49was scared out of my mind I was probably five
- 2:51or six years before I really admitted that and
- 2:55I was just really warmly welcomed and really
- 2:59welcomed into that group I later joined it as
- 3:04my home group and one of the things so I've heard
- 3:10you in other interviews on your podcast talk
- 3:14about how important it is to have great listening
- 3:17skills when you're networking. And 12 -step meetings,
- 3:22to me, more than almost any other experience
- 3:25I've had in my life, is honoring the person who's
- 3:30speaking. In 12 -step recovery meetings, there's
- 3:33typically, it could be going around the room,
- 3:35people are sharing, there could be an invited
- 3:36speaker. the person is speaking about their experience,
- 3:42strength, and hope and their journey before,
- 3:44during, and after recovery, you generally can
- 3:47hear a pin drop in the room. And it's just this
- 3:52respect that everyone has for the person who's
- 3:58speaking. And so that's one of the things I really
- 4:02think is super important in networking is It's
- 4:07not about getting my point of view across. It's
- 4:09really listening to someone else, listening what
- 4:11they do, finding. And then step 12 in recovery
- 4:14is about being of service. So the only way I
- 4:18get to stay sober is to share my experience,
- 4:21stroke and hope with other people who are suffering
- 4:24in the hope that they'll get something from what
- 4:27I, my experience that will help them. And my
- 4:31belief in networking is that we. We get the most
- 4:34out of networking when we're being of service
- 4:36to the other people that are there. And rather
- 4:40than it being all about me, it's all about the
- 4:42other people and asking them what they're stuck
- 4:45on and seeing if there's a way that I can help
- 4:48them, which there won't always be. But if nothing
- 4:51else, I can at least be a good listener and honor
- 4:54what they've shared, you know, by reflecting
- 4:57it back or giving perspective on it. So those
- 5:00are some of the ways that my experience in recovery
- 5:02is very overlapped with how and why and the way
- 5:06that I network. That's great. And I don't want
- 5:11to equate what you've gone through to just networking,
- 5:16because I feel that's so small in comparison.
- 5:20But the one thing that I see that is the same
- 5:23is that you approach it with a servant's heart.
- 5:26And because you're looking to give, not to receive.
- 5:30So if you can take that feeling, that knowledge,
- 5:34and just bring it into your networking ordeals,
- 5:37then you should be fine. But having the servant's
- 5:41heart is the really the number one way of networking.
- 5:45And I again, I don't want to compare it to what
- 5:48you went through, because there is no comparison.
- 5:52Okay, so What strategies do you use to build
- 5:56authentic connections in business while maintaining
- 6:00your sobriety? One of the ways is being coming
- 6:05on podcasts like yours and really sharing my
- 6:08journey. For 20 years, I was a daily drinker.
- 6:12And I was in complete denial about my alcoholism.
- 6:18And I was a high -performing alcoholic. I drank
- 6:22because it was rocket fuel so I could get more
- 6:24stuff done. I drank so the lows weren't quite
- 6:27so low. I drank because to make the highs higher.
- 6:30Really, at the end of the day, I drank because
- 6:31I was an alcoholic. And so I share the story
- 6:34of coming into recovery, which actually happens
- 6:39through networking as it happens. So I went to
- 6:42an event with a guy, Vern Harnish, has a couple
- 6:45books called The Rockefeller Habits and Scaling
- 6:47Up. And he's created something called the One
- 6:49Page Strategic Plan. There's a lot of entrepreneurs
- 6:52who really find this framework very useful. And
- 6:54I'd heard about it, but I didn't really know
- 6:56the details. And I took an entrepreneur that
- 6:59I was working with and decided to learn more
- 7:01and went to an all -day session that Vern was
- 7:03giving here in Vancouver, Canada. And at the
- 7:07break, he said, hey, there are two scaling up
- 7:09coaches at the back of the room. And I went and
- 7:14started talking to them. I talked to both of
- 7:17them and one of them made me more uncomfortable
- 7:19than I'd been in four or five years. And he made
- 7:23me really realize that I was completely unfulfilled
- 7:27in this phase of my career. And I won't get into
- 7:30all the details, but I literally had tears in
- 7:33the corner of my eyes at a networking event with
- 7:35like a hundred business people, which is, and
- 7:38I'm not necessarily advocating that as a networking
- 7:41strategy in this. What I heard was what I needed
- 7:45to hear. I think that's the important thing to
- 7:48take away from that experience. And I took Kevin's
- 7:53card and I had it next to my phone. And probably
- 7:58once a week, I thought about calling him and
- 8:00reaching out. And every time I did, the phone
- 8:04weighed maybe 10 ,000 pounds. Like I wasn't ready
- 8:08to take that step. And then after about three
- 8:11weeks, Kevin called me. And said, hey, do you
- 8:15remember me from the Vern Harnish event? And
- 8:17I said, yes. I didn't say, I haven't thought
- 8:20about much else the last three weeks. And this
- 8:26is a great example of where Kevin saw something
- 8:29and then he had systems in place so that he made
- 8:32sure to eventually follow up with me. And I ended
- 8:36up hiring Kevin as my coach. And he's my kind
- 8:41of guy. It's like, I'm all in or all out. There's
- 8:44no in between. With Kevin at that time for one
- 8:47-on -one coaching, his initial coaching session
- 8:49was two eight -hour days. So that's all in. So
- 8:55we worked on my career and we worked on cleaning
- 8:57all the kind of clutter off the table until after
- 9:0118 months, I built such a strong trust relationship
- 9:04with him that he was the first person I admitted
- 9:08I had a drinking problem too. And in his personal
- 9:12life, he had encountered people who had long
- 9:14-term sobriety and were part of 12 -step recovery.
- 9:17And they'd educated him about how it works. So
- 9:20he had the tools necessary to tell me, suggest
- 9:23what to do. And I committed to, that was a Tuesday,
- 9:28January 27th, 2009. And I committed to him to
- 9:32go to a meeting by that Friday. And being the
- 9:35overachiever that I am, I looked online that
- 9:37afternoon. Saw that when I was going to be driving
- 9:40home from a networking event at 8 o 'clock, there
- 9:43was going to be a meeting a quarter of a block
- 9:44off the road I was driving down that started
- 9:47at 8 .30. And that was my first meeting. And
- 9:51the one I just mentioned was the one where I
- 9:53got really welcomed to and actually made what's
- 9:55called a home group, which is a group I commit
- 9:57to going to every week. And I was there last
- 10:01Tuesday night. So I've been going there for 16
- 10:04years. That's really great, and thank you for
- 10:07sharing that with us. How did you navigate disclosing
- 10:11your recovery in professional settings? So let's
- 10:18back up the story a little bit. After Kevin,
- 10:21he'd stopped one -on -one coaching, and I switched
- 10:24coaches to actually to his coach, a woman by
- 10:27the name of Nan O 'Connor, based in Atlanta.
- 10:30And then after we worked together, I told her
- 10:33about my recovery. that from the get -go. But
- 10:36as we worked together over the years, she kept
- 10:39reflecting back to me how every time we talked
- 10:42about my recovery and my experiences in 12 -step
- 10:45recovery, how pure my energy was, and also any
- 10:49questions she asked me, I had answers for. And
- 10:53she just kept prodding me a little bit to go
- 10:58public. That took a little while. It probably
- 11:01took a couple years. And it's not like she brought
- 11:04it up every coaching call. It's just from time
- 11:06to time, something would come up around my recovery.
- 11:09I'd talk about it. She said, wow, like, it's
- 11:12just your energy is so pure around this. And
- 11:14then again, all in or all out. So once I made
- 11:17the decision to out myself publicly and let people
- 11:22know, I shot some videos. I put them on YouTube.
- 11:25I promoted them on social media. And I just,
- 11:28if I'm in a networking event and I introduce
- 11:30myself, I say, hi, I'm David Greer. I'm just
- 11:33like I did at the start of this interview today.
- 11:36Hi, I'm coach David Greer. I'm a 40 plus year
- 11:39entrepreneur, business coach and facilitator.
- 11:42And I work. with entrepreneurs who generally
- 11:46own or founders who have businesses with 10 to
- 11:49200 employees. And I specialize in working with
- 11:51entrepreneurs who are challenged one way or another
- 11:54with alcoholism and or addiction. And it's that
- 11:57simple. It's part of that very quick summary
- 12:03of who and what I am and who I try to help. You
- 12:06had to go through what you went through for you
- 12:09to have that clarity so you can actually go out
- 12:13and talk to people, but everything relies on
- 12:17something else. And you always, but you got to
- 12:21the point where you are clear. We had that clarity
- 12:24when you spoke, when you speak, because you are
- 12:28so well in tune with what you went through and
- 12:31that you're trying to help somebody else from
- 12:34going through. It's nothing but a great thing.
- 12:37That's all. Thank you. Let's go to challenges.
- 12:41What unique challenges do entrepreneurs in recovery
- 12:44face when networking and how do you overcome
- 12:48them? I do a fair amount of coaching around this
- 12:52particular area, especially because like CEOs,
- 12:56business owners, generally when get invited to
- 12:59anything in the business community, there's always
- 13:02sponsors who want to sponsor the bar because
- 13:04they want to get access to these people. So booze
- 13:07is usually free. And I coach around things like
- 13:12always have a drink in your hand. Like a glass
- 13:16of water is fine, but you don't want someone
- 13:19else like offering to get you a drink. Because
- 13:22especially someone who's not comfortable in being
- 13:24public about their sobriety, which you don't
- 13:28owe an explanation to anyone. But you also don't
- 13:31want to get into a big, no, I really don't want
- 13:33a beer. And so you can head off at the pass.
- 13:38Some of those questions by always having a drink
- 13:40in your hand. Another thing that is critically
- 13:43important, I believe, is that you need to have
- 13:46an exit strategy before you get there. So if
- 13:50you get triggered, and I have had this happen
- 13:52at networking events where, like, you don't know
- 13:54when you'll be triggered. I can go to 10 networking
- 13:57events and it's perfectly fine. And then one,
- 13:59like something that triggers my subconscious
- 14:04brain. And I'm feeling really uncomfortable.
- 14:07So I have to have an exit strategy. And I particularly
- 14:10have to work out with my spouse if we're going
- 14:12to a networking or some kind of social event
- 14:14or a charity gala or something like, okay, dear,
- 14:19I'm going to let you know if I get triggered,
- 14:21I'm going to leave. Now, are you coming with
- 14:24me? Because if not, we need to have separate
- 14:27transportation. Like you need to talk this through
- 14:30and have a plan ahead of time. Because maybe
- 14:34she'll stay and you'll leave. And then you also
- 14:37have to have the little story that she's going
- 14:39to tell people. But you need to do this for your
- 14:42protection. So this is really important that
- 14:45you, if you know there's drinking going to be
- 14:47involved, and many networking events, especially
- 14:51in the afternoon and the evening, there is, how
- 14:54are you going to protect yourself? Okay, you
- 14:58answered my next question. So I'm going to just...
- 15:02skip over it and can you share an example of
- 15:05a pivotal connection that significantly impacted
- 15:09your business or recovery i that's why i shared
- 15:15meeting coach kevin right i getting sober is
- 15:19the single biggest achievement in my life and
- 15:22my belief is that the universe put coach kevin
- 15:25in my path so i could get sober and right And
- 15:31I go to this event with no notion at all of Kevin
- 15:35and the other coach were just networking, meeting
- 15:39entrepreneurs, talking to them, being of same
- 15:42thing, being of service. And obviously looking
- 15:45for business, but they were doing a lot of coaching
- 15:47in the back of the room. And it was a pivotal
- 15:51encounter that led to the single biggest achievement
- 15:55of my life. So it's unquestionably. My most important
- 16:00person that I've met through networking. Okay,
- 16:03okay. How has networking contributed to your
- 16:08personal growth in recovery? So, you know, I
- 16:16network for a number of reasons. I was thinking
- 16:18about this before I came on the podcast today.
- 16:21Like, for one thing, I only now I'm at a stage
- 16:24where I generally only go to networking events
- 16:27if I think they're going to be fun. or they're
- 16:30going to have a piece of learning. And there's
- 16:34something in addition to the networking forms
- 16:36part of a bigger event. And sorry, I've lost
- 16:41the question. I know where I am in the answer,
- 16:44but you have to remind me of the question. How
- 16:46has networking contributed to your personal growth
- 16:49in recovery? Yeah, and I look for those things
- 16:53that are going to challenge my personal or professional
- 16:56growth. I also, like on the personal side, I
- 17:00found a conference that happens every January
- 17:02in Mexico, which is run by people from AA and
- 17:07Al -Anon. It's called Sobriety Under the Sun.
- 17:09Tracks about 800 people. And the speakers that
- 17:13they have, it's not exactly a networking event,
- 17:16but it is because you're there with... The thing
- 17:19is, my tribe is recovering people and especially
- 17:22recovering people who use 12 -step recovery as
- 17:25their... for getting and staying sober and living
- 17:29life on life's terms. And I've learned a tremendous
- 17:33amount by the leadership and by the speakers
- 17:35there, not just in recovery, but their example
- 17:39in life and like what they have done in life
- 17:42subsequent to getting sober and how they have
- 17:45served their communities in different ways. So
- 17:48it inspires me not just in my personal life,
- 17:53but also in my business life. And then a lot
- 17:58of this personal growth that I've needed to do
- 18:00in order to grow in recovery has then let me
- 18:05show up much better as a coach. So this personal
- 18:10growth work, while it's not directly learning
- 18:14a new technical skill or what AI is useful for,
- 18:18those can be useful too. getting to know myself
- 18:22better because now I can get myself out of the
- 18:25way more when I'm on coaching calls. Granted
- 18:29that your personal growth can help you while
- 18:32you're coaching so you can help other people,
- 18:35but your personal growth with just about everything
- 18:38else that you have a new appreciation for because
- 18:42you know that you're sober, but you can contribute
- 18:46so much more. And that's what a big thing is.
- 18:51Yeah, and I'm a lot more empathetic. I've been
- 18:53to probably 2 ,500 12 -step meetings now. And
- 18:57the number of stories I've heard and the inspiration
- 19:01of what people have managed to overcome and being
- 19:05able to hear those stories and be inspired by
- 19:09them has also then formed my own ability to inspire
- 19:13others, to help others to inspire others. So
- 19:17again, when people hire me as a coach, they often
- 19:20say, we're only going to talk about business
- 19:22issues. And I go, I'll never talk to you about
- 19:25anything you don't want to talk about. Now, six
- 19:29months in, almost guaranteed there'll be some
- 19:32personal or life issue that enters into our coaching
- 19:36discussion. Because this notion that we can compartmentalize
- 19:42ourselves into these finite rooms, there's my
- 19:47career room, there's my... personal resiliency
- 19:50room there's my relationship room is just completely
- 19:54bogus so my my belief very deeply uh especially
- 19:59as a coach is that and as an entrepreneur is
- 20:01whenever we grow in business personally relationships
- 20:06that growth spills over into every other aspect
- 20:10of our life i agree a hundred percent there's
- 20:15no way that you can compartment You can't separate
- 20:19all the different things of your life, of your
- 20:23business life, because it's so intertwined. There's
- 20:26a saying, an entrepreneur, but there's another,
- 20:30there's a solopreneur. I'm a solopreneur because
- 20:33I'm by myself and I go out and I speak and everything
- 20:36else. There's a work -life balance that I have
- 20:40to keep with my wife, with my family, with my
- 20:43job. They all have to work together. Otherwise,
- 20:47they don't work at all. And that's what I think
- 20:50you tried to explain. Let me go on advice. What
- 20:54advice would you give to other entrepreneurs
- 20:57in recovery who are looking to expand their network?
- 21:04If 12 -step recovery works for you, I'd highly
- 21:07recommend that. That obviously expands your sober
- 21:10community. And people in recovery tend to help
- 21:13other people in recovery. So I've had some career
- 21:15opportunities that were a result of networking
- 21:17through 12 -step recovery. There's that aspect.
- 21:23And then my general advice is you need to know
- 21:27your tribe. So whether that's other recovering
- 21:31entrepreneurs or it's like other entrepreneurs
- 21:34at your level, like there's some peer networking
- 21:38groups here in Vancouver, but, and some of them,
- 21:41I think do a great job of matching entrepreneurs.
- 21:44So they get entrepreneurs to meet monthly who
- 21:48are roughly at the same stage status, like not
- 21:52way bigger or further or way. lower I think whether
- 21:58you're in recovery or not and you're an entrepreneur
- 22:01it's who is your tribe I really encourage entrepreneurs
- 22:05to not do it alone to find others whether it's
- 22:09a mentor whether it's a coach but also to find
- 22:12your peers in your community who you can network
- 22:15and spend some time with And it's not necessarily
- 22:19you listen to another entrepreneur and do what
- 22:22they did. Oftentimes it's listening to another
- 22:25entrepreneur and realizing the struggles you
- 22:27have, others have. And then it's not, yeah, it's
- 22:31not just me. And it's true. The people that I
- 22:36coach are entrepreneurs, entrepreneurs that are
- 22:40up to a certain level. But I have a coach, I
- 22:45have a mentor. And because... I need to go further.
- 22:49So regardless of where you are on that ladder,
- 22:52you need somebody, yet you can help people. So
- 22:55that's the way that I see it. So let's bring
- 22:58this whole thing full circle. And how do you
- 23:02see the intersection of entrepreneurship and
- 23:05recovery shaping future network practices? Wow.
- 23:13I'm not certain I have an answer to that. I've
- 23:17really struggled to find other coaches like me,
- 23:20business coaches who specialize in recovery.
- 23:24So if you're one of those and you're listening,
- 23:27I'd love for you to get in touch. And there's
- 23:30also, I know of one sober recovering entrepreneur
- 23:34community that I found, but I think that's a
- 23:37really interesting idea because I think that
- 23:39as recovering alcoholics, I talked about like
- 23:42some of these networking problems. There's also
- 23:44problems in closing big deals where alcohol is
- 23:47usually involved and now you don't drink. So
- 23:50that because of the role of an entrepreneur,
- 23:53I think it's very helpful if you're working,
- 23:56if and can network with other entrepreneurs who
- 23:59are also in recovery. So I encourage you to find
- 24:03those, but again, not many people are being public.
- 24:05So it's a challenge. To figure out most people
- 24:09just don't want to be public about their recovery.
- 24:12So it's, I don't really have an answer to that,
- 24:14but I'd like to see more of it. That's okay.
- 24:17Listen, David, how can somebody get hold of you?
- 24:21If somebody wanted to be coached by you or just
- 24:24sit down and talk to you about anything, how
- 24:28can they get hold of you? So I had two part answers.
- 24:32So the first part is I want all your listeners
- 24:34to know that I have an offer. I offer one hour
- 24:37free coaching to anyone who wants it. If you're
- 24:41stuck on something, business, alcohol related,
- 24:45it doesn't matter. Reach out to me and I'm happy
- 24:48to spend an hour with you. Now, how do you reach
- 24:50out to me? CoachDJGreer .com. That's Coach D
- 24:54as in David, J as in James, Greer .com. Top left
- 24:59corner of every single webpage on my website
- 25:01has my phone number and my email address. use
- 25:05one of those and reach out to me or use the contact
- 25:09form if that feels better for you. Perfect. David,
- 25:13I can tell you're a great guest and you give
- 25:18information. I hope all my listeners got just
- 25:22as much information and I really appreciated
- 25:25you coming on. Thanks, Michael. I really appreciated
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