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Adam on 4D Thinking and Guest Hypnotist Carmen Sauciuc on Identity and Feelfulness · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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issues. Brought to you by the
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Hypnotherapist, Demanded by celebrities CE OS and even
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royalty Adam Cox, These recordings took place live from
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Evans Clinic in London's world famous Harley Street.
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So get yourself comfortable and enjoy today's episode of The
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Hypnotist. Hi, it's Adam here.
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You're about to listen to two different interviews.
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The 1st is where I'm being interviewed about four
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dimensional thinking and then the second is where I interview
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Carmen Salcher, who is a author and therapist who talks about
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identity and something that sounds like mindfulness but with
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a distinction. And that is it's feelfulness.
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It's the actual emotions and the feelings rather than just what
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you observe and notice. So this is two different
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interviews squeezed together. So me talking about four
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dimensions and then common talking about identity and
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regression. Enjoy.
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We are here with Adam Cox all the way from UK, London more
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specifically, and he's going to tell us all about his for the
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hypnosis, the time and the space and the subconscious mind.
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Adam, tell us all about it. Hi, Carmen.
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Nice to nice to be on your show. Yeah.
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So at the Mid America conference, I'm going to be
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talking about 4D hypnosis or 4D thinking, so 4 dimensional
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thinking. And one of the things that I
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love doing when I do hypnosis is use metaphor.
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It's one of my favorite things to do and I take a lot of
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inspiration from movies. And one of my favorite genres
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of, of movie is kind of time travel and science fiction.
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And what I found is that when I did hypnosis sessions that was
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inspired by things that, let's say play with space and time.
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It was mapping across a lot with certain principles of
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hypnotherapy. So a lot of hypnotherapists will
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use things like regression, which is kind of time travel
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going back. Most hypnotherapists will use
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things like future pacing or pseudo orientation in time,
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which is taking the client to a future that doesn't exist yet.
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If you think about PTSD, quite often one of the things that a
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client will do is relive a moment from the past, like
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they're in a first person perspective.
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And a lot of anticipatory fear is experiencing something that
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could happen that hasn't happened, as if it's happening
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in the moment. So it kind of dawned on me that
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what's happening in our imagination seems to be a
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different realm from what's happening in our reality.
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In our reality, we're in a three-dimensional world where
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time is linear. It only moves forwards, and yet
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our imagination can go backwards and forwards.
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In time, we can take on a different perspective.
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You know, for therapists that use things like association and
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disassociation, that's a first person or third person
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perspective. Hypnotists are intuitive at
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using this kind of stuff because we can in the realm of the
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imagination. But I can't teleport into your
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body and you can't teleport into mine in reality because we live
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in a three-dimensional reality. It is possible for you to do
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that within your imagination. And you know, I've, I've done a
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lot of hypnotherapy over the last kind of 12 years.
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My belief is to what hypnotherapy is, is to utilize
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our imagination for therapeutic benefits.
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And the more I looked into it and the more I thought about it,
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the more it seems like our imagination is more like a four
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dimensional realm than it is a three-dimensional realm.
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And that's that's what I'm going to be talking about.
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I, I love that and I, I love you bringing down dimensionality.
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I work with dimensions too, but we tell, tell me, tell me more
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about it it now. What other other people want to
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understand is that 4 dimensional time is the present time, moment
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to which to which you take your client, whether back and forth,
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accessing different dimensions through that imagination which
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we know the power of imagination is just the most powerful a
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human can have is imagination. Yeah.
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And, and what's fascinating is that physics can give us
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distinction. So if we think about a straight
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line, that's effectively 1 dimension.
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It has no depth, it only has forwards and backwards along the
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the line A2 dimensional shape for example, like a square or a
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triangle. Again, it has no depth, has no
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volume, but it does have the ability to go up and down on
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that two-dimensional plane. We as humans live in a
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three-dimensional reality. So we have the ability to
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perceive depth, we have the ability to assess where we are
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and interact with our environment.
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But there's certain things that we we can't do.
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In the same way that A2 dimensional character couldn't
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comprehend our three-dimensional reality, certain things would be
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invisible to A2 dimensional entity in a three-dimensional
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world, correct? Humans in a as 3 dimensional
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entities. There's so many things that we
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couldn't comprehend in A4 dimensional world, for example.
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So one of the key distinctions is about time perception and
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perspectives. They're the key things.
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So for us in our three-dimensional reality, time
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is linear and it only moves forward.
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So we can't travel back in time and our perception is limited to
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where we are and what we perceive within our senses.
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But A4 dimensional entity would be able to have multiple
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perceptions concurrently. So for example, this thought
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experiment of Schrodinger's cat where you have the cat in a
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sealed chamber. The reason why that that kind of
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mimics this idea of perception and reality is while the cat is
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in this chamber with this poisonous gas, until you open
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it, there is the possibility that the cat is alive and dead.
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So therefore, before you open the box, both realities coexist
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or both possibilities coexist. And it only becomes true when
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you can confirm what's happened with some kind of sense.
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That might be sight or it might be some kind of sense or inside,
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but you you can only know through verification and then
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that makes the reality and that maps across within physics
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what's called the double slit experiment where particles act,
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you know, depending on if they're observed or not.
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So you have this kind of very strange phenomenon in A4
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dimensional reality, it's possible to hold multiple
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perceptions simultaneously because things are in a state
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called flux. So in four dimensional shapes
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for example, like a tesseract for example would be a four
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dimensional version of a cube. It's in constant motion and we
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know that because the shadow of a cube when it's being rotated
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looks like the perception of a tesseract.
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Now we can never perceive A tesseract because we're 3
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dimensional entities. But in the same way that you can
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perceive A3 dimensional shape on A2 dimensional plane like if I
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drew a cube you would know what a cube looks like.
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Even if I put it on A2 dimensional plane like I I can
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draw a three-dimensional shape. We can have a perception of A4
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dimensional shape even in our three-dimensional realities.
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Now the reason why this is useful is that if our
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imagination acts more like a four dimensional realm and we
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have this idea of the fluidity of time and multiple realities
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coexisting, what some people would call the multiverse.
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So infinite parallel universes, these can become tools that
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hypnotherapist can use to actually give a very different
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experience for the client. So for example, one of the
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things I like to do with clients is to create the thought
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experiment of if there was infinite parallel universes,
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this kind of multiverse, what's the version of them that's
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already got through this problem that they're currently facing?
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I'd like that. And let's visit that reality.
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And then they can observe. So disassociation, how did they
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get through this particular problem?
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And it creates the idea that someone with their exact
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genetics has able to have had the problem and get through it.
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And then that creates this idea that it's also possible for
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them. There's no amount of priming.
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So you know what? What I'm keen to do is to
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emphasize that I'm not saying that the the the imagination or
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thought is A4 dimensional realm. I'm just saying it has parallels
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more with the 4th dimension than it does with the
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three-dimensional world that we live in.
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In which case hypnotherapist can interact with their clients
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differently by using 4 dimensional metaphor to create
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either perceptual differences or time differences at a new level
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of distinction that they couldn't do.
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If we try and project A3 dimensional reality into the
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imagination of a client, it's a different realm.
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It's a different, you know, the rules of physics don't apply in
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the imagination. And we know that's true because
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how many times have you had a dream of flying or a dream of
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being in a future or or a past like that can't happen in
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reality. But our dreams definitely are
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not a three-dimensional reality because there's things you can
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teleport, you can start in one environment and then suddenly be
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in another. And it all seems to make sense.
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So I would say dreams and imagination are much more like a
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four dimensional realm than a three-dimensional realm.
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As and as hypnotherapists, What if that's a useful framework so
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that we can work with clients in a different way?
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Oh, definitely, it's definitely useful.
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And especially if the client has seen has seen a sci-fi movie
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with the teleportation, it would just make it so easy for them to
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reimagine. And even if you give them the
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the image, like imagine you're here and then imagine you there
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in whatever chamber or another chamber, it's absolutely,
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definitely useful. Guest out therapy does that use
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the two chairs and then you face each other and, and, and then
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the first chair is the the one that comes to us with the
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problem. And the other chair is the
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client talking to the version of themselves in in in the
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multiverse that they need to to to resolve.
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And it quite magical. And I definitely like this
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modern metaphor. Teleportation, transportation
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queues, 3D4D. And there are all of them are
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very important aspects, yes, because we are in physical form
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coming to a practitioner like you to do something while
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feeling better. But it is the thoughts that been
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registered and in neuroscience that we need help to remove
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them. I think Einstein had a great
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quote and something along the lines that you can't solve a
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problem with the same thinking that got you into that
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situation. Oh, absolutely.
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Absolutely. So therefore, isn't it useful to
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have a very different way of thinking about the problem?
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And that could be from a different perception that could
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be from a different point in time.
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You know, there's, there's lots of ways.
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One of the things I like to do in a session is to take the
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client into a future version of themself.
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One year. And what would it be like?
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One year of not having that phobia and not having that
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addiction. One year of already having lost
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the weight that they want to lose.
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And then think backwards and then think, what did it take to
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make that reality real and to realize, because a lot of people
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have this idea that they have to be perfect in order, that they
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can't make one mistake. 1 relapse in order.
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So one of the things I'd like to do is to take them to that
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future version and let's say they've lost weight or they've
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gained confidence. And it's kind of like and recall
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that you didn't need to be perfect to get where you've got
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to. That you can make mistakes and
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then it primes them for mitigating relapses.
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But also that that it's consistency over time.
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That is one of the most effective ways for them to
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actually get the result. And actually a blip is no big
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deal if it's just a blip, you know, if someone lives a future
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as a non-smoker and they realize that, OK, maybe there was two or
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three times that they did take a step backwards, but it's still
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got to a point where they they quit for good.
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What's the big deal? And a lot of smokers are are,
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you know, have this sort of Damocles hanging over their head
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that if they just have one cigarette, then it means they're
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a smoker again. Well, that's a disempowering
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belief because it creates a self fulfilling prophecy.
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So playing with time and and playing with perception is
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great. I think a lot of
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hypnotherapists, particularly with certain addictions, have
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used the future pacing where they go to the inevitable
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outcome of a destructive behaviour.
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They get to see them off on a deathbed full of regret.
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It's like, well, who who wouldn't want to kind of go back
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in time? I mean, that's, that's the
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essence of some level of the, of the Dickens pattern, which is
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see the see the future that you don't want to create that point
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of threshold to create the motivation to change in the
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present. And then effectively you're
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playing with time. You know, you're playing with
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time by saying, right, knowing what I now know could be a
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future, how can I, how can I make that future not happen?
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And that's kind of the premise of almost every time travel
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movie is that they see the future, something bad happens,
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but they get to go back in time and change it.
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What a great concept for for change but.
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This is what chemotherapy does. That's what between nurses right
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after that, we go back, but also use the future like like you
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said, imagine what it would be like and what's your experience
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when you've achieved the goal and then what it's it's just
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powerful, Very, very powerful. It is and I and I think it's a
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very versatile tool because I think a lot of trainers will
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train someone on a particular technique.
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Whereas when I talk about four dimensional thinking, it's more
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of a paradigm than a technique. Because if you start thinking
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that OK, the, the imagination of the client is A4 dimensional
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realm. And therefore all of the tools
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that would only work in the 4th dimension, that wouldn't work in
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our three-dimensional reality are now possible within a
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therapeutic context. So time travel, perception
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travel, multiple realities, you know, even distorting the laws
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of physics, you know, think of the rewind technique.
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Isn't that just like doing something in reverse?
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You can't do that in physical reality, but you can do it in
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your imagination. And some of the most effective
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tools that we have in hypnotherapy and therapy in
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general are based on 4 dimensional thinking, not 3
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dimensional realities. That's not a coincidence.
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That's because these things are very kind of powerful and the
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human mind is not bound by the laws of three-dimensional
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realities. Gravity does not exist, you
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know, think of how many times the induction or deep in a
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suggestion of floating is used. You know, well, gravity exists
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in our three-dimensional reality, but in A4 dimensional
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reality is not bound by the same laws of physics.
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Therefore we can use sensory distortions that we can't use in
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reality. When you perceive them, you
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start to feel them and that gives an experience to the, to
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the client. So, you know, the, the reason I
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like talking about this kind of stuff is that it, it feels like
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it's opening up, you know, a new horizon for hypnotherapist that
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might be too stuck in certain patterns of I do this technique,
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I do this protocol. Once you start looking at the
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lens that actually there is so much more creativity and
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flexibility, I think gives us more ability to be nuanced and
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creative and and have fun, but also create profound change for
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the clients that we're working with.
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I agree 100%. I I agree.
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That's I myself, I don't particularly like a single
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technique or single modality because with you can't just use
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only one tool, the imagination. It's unlimited.
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And every client they have, they might have, let's say PTSD, but
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not all of them is the same. And often times we have post
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traumatic injury and, and we still refresh the stress and
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it's not just mental, emotional stress, it's physical, it's
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injury that has happened, trauma to your body, which is very
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different than PTSD. So the same PTSD approach will
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it's will not work the same for someone that has sustained
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significant injury to their body.
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It's, it's different. So yes, 100 a hundred IA 100%
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agree. Don't stick to just one
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technique or one modality. This is where we start.
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Of course, we start with dictating some modalities, but
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then to have a shift in in perspective using this 4D time
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and space as you bring out, it's it's it's a yes.
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It's a yes for me. Yeah, and, and it's super fun as
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well. To, to, to, to actually kind of
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do that with clients because it gives them a very different kind
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of experience. And, you know, I think there's,
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there's only really two parallels that I've found that
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we as humans living in a three-dimensional reality can
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get close to what A4 dimensional reality could be like.
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And one is things like the virtual reality in the
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metaverse, because in virtual reality in a metaverse, you
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could go back to a different time, you could take on a
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different perspective, you could wear the skin of a different
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character and kind of play their, their role.
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So that's one way that we can get close to A4 dimensional
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reality. But the only other thing is the
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imagination. And we're, we're
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hypnotherapists, we're not computer coders and gamers.
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So it's kind of like the imagination becomes the the
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canvas in which we can help clients have a 4D experience,
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but it's not just because you could have that just as like an
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experience like guided meditation to get insight and
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thought experiments. But why not do it deliberately
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to change something that the client wants that might be
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access a resource, They break a pattern, you know, do something
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useful for them that deals with the thing.
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And I think that's where the Venn diagrams overlap, is that
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you give them this wonderful experience, but you make it
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therapeutically beneficial as well.
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Correct, correct. And something we must keep in
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mind that clients come to us to change something.
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So whatever, whatever it is, they want to change and often we
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have the last resort as they, a lot of them, I have a lot of
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clients that have gone through significant amount of
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psychotherapy. So and other clients that
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hypnosis is, is the last resort and it is just it is the most
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amazing, magical, fantastic, achieving a tool that that we
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can utilize and more people need to know about it.
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I'd be glad to know about it. So what else you want to tell
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us? You have a, you have a very
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famous podcast, so. Tell us what so I I created this
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podcast at the beginning of the pandemic.
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I was working in a very prestigious location in in
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London, had high profile clients, but I could I'm fairly
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good at reading trends and I could see when the pandemic
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started that I would I was going to have less clients that I
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could physically work with in front of me.
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So I ended the lease on, on that therapy room and I wanted to
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have an outlet for, for my hypnosis creatively and, and
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just as a, as a way to kind of experiment with different types
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of, of hypnotherapy. So I created a podcast and it
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wasn't a training podcast for other hypnotherapists and it
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wasn't just doing hypnosis sessions that were quite
21:55
generic. I, I wanted to have a hypnosis
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podcast that featured real hypnosis based on real client
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issues and actually use the hypnosis that I use for the
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actual client that I was working with, but protecting the
22:10
confidentiality of that client. And that felt appealing to me
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because some of the books that I really enjoyed when I was
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learning to become a hypnotherapist were the real
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transcripts of real therapeutic sessions, not step by step
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protocols and kind of techniques.
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But what did Milton Ericsson do with that particular client to
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lead to the breakthrough? Or what did Richard Bandler do,
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you know, to help that particular phobic in that
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situation? So I thought like real hypnosis
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becomes the the the thing. And to begin with, it didn't do
22:44
very well. I was just sharing my weight
22:46
loss hypnosis sessions. What made it grow was I took
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inspiration from movies. So the first movie that you
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know, I, I took inspiration from was a movie called Limitless
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with Robert De Niro and Bradley Cooper, where he takes this pill
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and then suddenly his, his brain is supercharged.
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And I turned that into a hypnosis session, put it on
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social media and in the pandemic, everyone's bored,
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they've got nothing to do. And I'm like, hey, I've done
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this hypnosis session based on the movie Limitless.
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Let me know if you want that session.
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So a lot of people did. And what I didn't know at the
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time is that I was training the algorithm of the podcast to know
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who to put my stuff in front of. And then I did that again with
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the movie Inception and movies like Fight Club and all my
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favorite movies and books I turned into hypnotherapy
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sessions. But instead of just sending them
23:38
the audio, I sent them a link to my podcast that trained the
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algorithm. And then suddenly my podcast was
23:44
getting in front of other people.
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So it went from, in the early days, I was getting like 5 or 10
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downloads a day. These days I get about 15,000
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downloads a day. But it came from being a
23:58
creative outlet but also sharing real hypnosis sessions, but in
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that very confidential way. So now it's become this
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wonderful cycle where most of my clients learn about me through
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the podcast. And then that generates more
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clients, which generates more podcast sessions, which generate
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more clients. So it's, it's, it's been a
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wonderful thing. And I think now I know that
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there's two key audiences. The, the first audience is
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people that can resonate with the issue that I worked with
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someone else. It's become free therapy for
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them. They can't sleep, so they put
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sleep hypnosis on Spotify and then my face comes up and they
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listen to it. So that might be an issue.
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And then the other is hypnotherapist.
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And I think the nature of hypnotherapy is that it happens
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behind closed doors and nobody really knows what the hypnotist
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is actually doing with the client.
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So I become a way for other hypnotherapists to say, right,
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what does a hypnosis session about, you know, childhood
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trauma look like? And they can find that.
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They can have a listen the way it's just my way, but they get a
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frame of reference and they can say, well, I agree with 70% of
25:12
that, but I would have done this different.
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But that's still more helpful than having no frame of
25:16
reference. So it's it's kind of the average
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person that wants to find a solution.
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Plus other hypnotherapist that tend to listen to the the show,
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yes. It's great, it's great.
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So you're going to I'm going to see you in person in, in just a
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couple of days at at mid America, at Mid America
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conference, right? Hypnosis conference right here.
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Everybody's going to go get a ticket right here.
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That's the, that's the OK, don't do that.
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OK, just that here's the, here's the link and you, everybody's
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days, but with the next level you have additional and
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additional benefits. And if you cannot afford this,
26:13
definitely go for this because it is well, well worth it.
26:16
And we are going to be packed. We going to have pre comforts
26:22
workshops every day Friday, Saturday, Sunday we have a lunch
26:26
buffet where you are still staying in facility and get to
26:32
talk to to people and spend more time.
26:35
Oh, and the lunch hour now it's an hour and a half, which is a
26:38
fantastic opportunity because you get to talk to more people
26:42
as opposed to driving somewhere waiting for the food.
26:45
No, just right there on on the spot.
26:48
But then Friday night, if we if we just going to be packed with
26:52
fun. Friday night we're going to have
26:54
the hypno friends feud game. Let me tell you, last year we
26:58
got a little naughty. This is a place you want to be
27:03
at. Then on Saturday we get the red
27:06
carpet gala, comedy, hypnosis show and dancing and also you
27:13
will have a unique opportunity to learn from Doctor Bandler and
27:17
Shay's huge. Although I'm a huge personality.
27:20
But most important, you're going to go to the schedule right here
27:24
to the. Schedule and.
27:26
You're going to locate Adam Cox on Saturday.
27:30
See, each day has a different colour.
27:33
So on Saturday you're going to join his presentation right here
27:38
at at right after lunch. They go right after lunch after
27:43
you chat, spend some time chatting with him and other
27:46
people come in at 1:30 on Saturday to meet Adam to join
27:51
his class on 4D hypnosis time, space and a subconscious mind.
27:57
And then right here. If you click on here on this
27:59
link then you'll get his his speakers page you going to.
28:10
But you get to learn more. About his presentation, get them
28:14
a better sense in addition to what he already presented of
28:18
what he's going to present and much more about learning about
28:23
Adam. So, Adam, I look forward to, to
28:27
seeing you in just, I mean, just just a couple of more days,
28:33
yeah. It's very, very soon.
28:34
Yeah. I I fly.
28:35
Out on on Thursday. And yeah, it's going to be, I've
28:39
never been to this this conference, but I hear it's it's
28:42
very good. And Rich seems to have done an
28:43
amazing job at putting together something very fun.
28:46
So I think it's going to be great.
28:48
Oh, this is the conference. OK, this is the this is the
28:51
longest team losses conference in the United States and the
28:55
most fun. I'm going to all the
28:58
conferences. I love them all but this one and
29:01
it's just packed with fun and it's packed with camaraderie
29:04
too. So it's it's a very.
29:07
Important aspect and what what Rich Gatsi is doing he keeps
29:11
saying he's taken over the entire hotel and this is also
29:15
going to be a cruise ship on land but yeah yeah you don't
29:18
need you don't need to leave the hotel anymore don't even don't
29:21
even rent a car from if you're flying in just get an Uber or a
29:25
Lyft or or whichever mode of transportation you want and then
29:29
that's all you need because lunch is on well there is a
29:33
restaurant in the hotel so you have breakfast lunch and dinner
29:36
all in in the same place with all of these wonderful people
29:41
the the the hypnotists are so this is exciting very exciting
29:46
and I look forward to seeing you in person Adam yeah likewise
29:50
yeah it's. Going to be good, all right.
29:56
Welcome to the. Hypnotist.
29:58
I'm Adam Cox and today I'm not going to be your hypnotist.
30:02
I'm joined by a guest hypnotist and that is Carmen Salchuk.
30:06
Carmen, welcome to the show. Thank you, Adam.
30:09
Thank you for. Having me on your show.
30:11
Great to have you here. So I'm always curious how
30:14
hypnotherapists become hypnotherapists.
30:17
So what was your background? How did you get into this world
30:19
of hypnosis and hypnotherapy? That's an.
30:23
That's an. Interesting question.
30:26
I've have had stress reduction. I've experienced a lot of past
30:33
life regression. Many years ago I wasn't going to
30:35
be hypnotized. Nobody was going to get in my
30:38
head. Yeah, the mentality they.
30:41
Don't have many years ago, right.
30:43
And but then I have a lot of past life regressions, a lot of
30:46
them for about two years, like every other week for about two
30:49
years. And they were phenomenal.
30:52
And that's, it wasn't the beginning, but there was a good
30:57
at the same time. At the same time, I don't know
30:59
how to meditate with binaural beat.
31:01
And then it, it became easy. And through me practicing all of
31:07
this journey and then meditation because journeying just came
31:11
natural to me. That's how I learned what
31:14
hypnosis is all about. And when you?
31:18
Discovered hypnosis. It sounds like you're on the
31:20
receiving end of lots of past life regression.
31:23
I, I love past life regression. I tend to look at it as a
31:26
metaphor to kind of find breakthroughs rather than, you
31:30
know, we've got this kind of karmic life.
31:32
What's your belief system about past life regression and what
31:36
insights did you get you know, in these past lives?
31:41
Well, my. Past life regression I, I do, I
31:45
do all chemical regression with my clients.
31:47
So there's all kinds of regression like, you know, age
31:50
regression, chemical regression, past life regression, past life
31:58
regression as as in how people understand best life regression
32:01
is to go in the past and find out the source of your
32:05
difficulties here in life. It's not, it's not what people
32:10
think to be. If the subconscious is not ready
32:13
to trouble back, then nothing is going to happen.
32:18
It's what I'm experiencing with, with my clients.
32:21
Me, on the other hand, with a ton of curiosity and being very
32:28
assured that nobody was going to get in my head.
32:32
It was very important to. Me, I travelled and I've
32:36
travelled to 1800s, fourteen hundreds, 1200s, but two
32:41
actually, no, it wasn't anything.
32:43
Every journey that I had in the past life regression where few.
32:48
Hundreds. Years ago it was a lot of
32:52
interesting movies. And were there any kind?
32:57
Of commonalities in in those past lives that were similar in
33:02
all of them Not not. Right away it wasn't like one
33:06
from from one to another. It was no commonality.
33:08
But now when I look back 25 years later, I I see the
33:15
patterns of what my subconscious was trying to tell me and now I
33:21
understand it. And because of this experience,
33:26
because let me let me address this at that time, I want to
33:33
make a difficulty better. This past life regression didn't
33:38
help with that, right? Of course, subconscious learn a
33:42
lot and, and it processed a lot and it did what it need to what
33:46
it was a lot of fun, right? But it did not make my
33:50
difficulty better. So what what I deal with with
33:54
the clients that they ask for regression?
33:57
I explained to them the same thing here and.
34:01
Also I explained to them. That if the subconscious is not
34:04
ready to go there is not gonna is not gonna go there.
34:06
But now what I do with the clients, especially with trauma,
34:10
when I do regression, I do alchemical regression.
34:14
So in this age, aggression, past life, it doesn't matter where
34:19
the subconscious is going to arrive.
34:20
That's what it's going to arrive.
34:22
Whether it's age or whether it's past life.
34:25
Then especially with trauma, when we get there and I am, both
34:32
of us have an intention and make a commitment to the subconscious
34:36
to allow us to. As far as the subconscious, it's
34:40
ready to process. Very important to not.
34:45
Push anything and and then when we get there, whatever the
34:50
subconscious reveals reveals if it I direct, I guide the the
34:56
client, the Pentagon, what they see, what they experience, what
35:01
the colors, the whatever is there.
35:06
Well, it took a lot of training. But I hear if.
35:11
I can put it in this. Words where the subconscious
35:13
needs to go for that particular work that we're working on on
35:18
that day. And based on that, then I guide
35:22
the client to make things happen, to alchemize we are
35:27
transmuting experiences, right? So at at the time you are
35:34
transmitting experiences right there.
35:35
Neuroscience, the hippocampus, right?
35:38
So many talk about the amygdala, but it's not just the amygdala.
35:41
All of the stories, all of the events that we've gone through
35:44
life, they register in the hippocampus.
35:47
So the hippocampus is a sort of the memory, right And.
35:53
Those heavy. Layers.
35:54
If you push the subconscious too much that is going you guide it
35:59
towards a layer that's a little deeper that is not ready to to
36:04
unveil, then you're going to cause more trauma.
36:07
So. As a.
36:08
Subconscious and you get feedback from the client because
36:11
it's a conversation. You get feedback from a client
36:15
based on what they see, what they what they when.
36:20
You tell them to do. Something whether that is
36:23
happening or not happening and their body communicates and if
36:30
something is happening good, then we go.
36:32
You have to be able to pivot at at at any time with that.
36:36
But magic happens with us because, you know.
36:40
Hypnosis and. Experience experiences have
36:44
marked us through life without experiences, but not marked
36:49
which is happy go lucky. Not, not exactly.
36:54
But through this alchemical regression that the client has
36:59
an opportunity to have that memory extracted, so to speak,
37:05
from the hippocampus. So now, OK, OK.
37:11
Now we're not going to do accounting right now to see how
37:15
many times the memory needs to be extracted.
37:19
But it's it's it's magical. It's magical.
37:22
So all of these layers subconscious eventually would
37:26
let us work with with and with that.
37:30
Yeah. So to go back to your question
37:34
on past life regression, it's not for everybody.
37:37
And if you just want to go visit something, if you want to do it
37:41
for fun and go, I had clients that they just want to go see.
37:46
I said, OK, that's what we're going to do.
37:48
You look at I'm not going to, we're not going to alchemize
37:50
anything. And many of them did not go past
37:54
their childhood, right. But I like to caution every past
38:00
life regression practitioner in that experience as.
38:18
Experience. I am right here.
38:28
All right, I. Am right here I didn't go
38:30
anywhere we. We, we lost you for a second
38:34
there, I didn't think on anything.
38:37
No worries. I, I always think with, with
38:39
past life progression, how I, there's two circumstances that I
38:43
think is really useful. And that is that if the client
38:47
has some kind of issue and has no idea where it's from, then
38:51
going into a past life becomes a way to kind of bridge a theme
38:55
from a past life which feels safe into their, their real
38:59
life. Or if the cause perhaps is too
39:03
traumatic and and too emotive, they don't really want to
39:08
experience that as a memory, but they can find a parallel in a
39:12
past life. And I don't know if you ever saw
39:15
ATV show from the 1990s called Quantum Leap, but the premise,
39:20
the premise of of that is that it kind of jumps into a first
39:24
person perspective and what he does in that person's life
39:29
changes the trajectory of that life.
39:32
He kind of rights are wrong. And I think at some level that's
39:35
the kind of premise of some form of past life regression that
39:40
actually you either extract some wisdom or you change the history
39:44
or the outcome in a past life. And the connotation is that it
39:47
ripples through space and time into the reality of that
39:51
individual. And I couldn't care less if it's
39:56
just like a dreamlike experience where it's being created
39:59
generatively as they experience it, or there actually was a past
40:04
life which it would be impossible to prove.
40:06
What matters is does it help the client or not?
40:10
What kind of clients do you find past life regression is really
40:13
useful for? I particularly a lot of trauma,
40:19
definitely, but I personally would like to differentiate
40:22
between past life and regression and alchemical progression.
40:26
Not everybody will travel in in past life and subconscious it's
40:29
not ready to go there. And if a practitioner is not
40:33
careful enough to take to take a client into a past life
40:37
regression with the hopes of finding what was the cause of of
40:42
their trauma today, you it, it might backfire on you because
40:47
the subconscious is not ready to go there.
40:50
And one of the reason is that in this life, so much has happened.
40:54
The subconsciousness is like think of layers of the onion or
40:57
think of having to the the same Jack than you over and over,
41:02
like 20 jackets over. So if the client has to go to to
41:06
20 layers of onion, 20 jackets they carry, then if you want to
41:11
go straight 200 years ago, subconscious is going to say no
41:15
thank you. I already we have lots to lots
41:18
issues to identify in here to work with before I go there.
41:24
So it's not again it's not for everybody.
41:26
Yeah, I agree. I agree.
41:29
It's and and and also it requires the client to be more
41:32
open minded. Some clients aren't, aren't kind
41:35
of like willing to kind of entertain the idea of kind of
41:37
past lives and, and that kind of stuff.
41:39
But it, it's, it's a tool within the toolkit.
41:43
I can see lots of books behind you.
41:46
Clearly you're, you're an author that's kind of published lots of
41:49
ideas and, and, and kind of systems.
41:53
Tell us about fearfulness. What, what's that about?
41:56
And where did the idea come from?
41:59
Adam, thank you for asking. Fearfulness is the system that
42:03
I've been developing for the past 12 years.
42:06
It is feel fullness. The I coined the term
42:11
fearfulness. It's not in a dictionary, It's
42:13
just yet the spell check, it's not catching up, not even at my
42:16
end just yet. But if you think of mindfulness,
42:23
feel fullness, right? So in mindfulness, I've had a
42:30
lot of past life regression. I have a lot of meditation.
42:32
My, my, I, I was already expanding my, my consciousness
42:36
when I, when I was introduced, when I arrived at at
42:41
mindfulness. So in mindfulness, so many gurus
42:45
and so many teachers, they said you have to feel it in order to
42:50
have it happen. You have to feel it.
42:52
And for the longest time, I would go, yeah, yeah, that's
42:54
right, because I knew how to feel it right.
42:57
And after a while I realized that they tell you what to do,
43:02
but they didn't tell you how. And then I, I kept paying
43:05
attention to it. Specifically, I would, I would
43:08
go to this particular big names and no, they would not tell you
43:14
how. And then I got insulted.
43:17
My knowledge got insulted, my intelligence got insulted.
43:20
And I said no, no, I know how to feel a feeling by choice.
43:25
So at that time I was already I, I was already in few years in,
43:32
in teaching students how to feel a feeling by choice, how to do
43:35
fearfulness. And then when I got insulted.
43:42
I it occurred. To me that I need to make this
43:45
bigger than just just a few practices within my circle and,
43:50
and with, with my students. So I writing the book and
43:56
fearfulness. It was extremely difficult.
43:58
It's, it's still 12 years in making, But what I did with the
44:01
with the books, first I, I wrote this creating is and then I
44:07
wrote this creating is itself. Then creating is at work and
44:12
then creating. This is the creating is at at
44:16
work. This is creating is at
44:18
relationships and this is a trilogy and creating is is it's
44:23
not easy is a state of being. It's it's a way of life, it's
44:27
flow and what I've done with fearfulness.
44:31
I introduce the thought filling practices in with creating these
44:35
books and I was already teaching it.
44:39
It was hard to find the words for it, but somehow this I
44:46
surprised myself. I, I found them and the feedback
44:50
I got from the people that read the books was surprisingly good.
44:56
But I it surprised me that people got it.
45:00
It surprised me that people actually did the the thought
45:03
feelings. A few people would just stop at
45:06
the breeding techniques. But then if you go in to feel
45:10
the feeling, because, yeah, there are five laws in creating
45:14
is, and each of the law takes you to feel a feeling by choice.
45:19
Not feel whatever you want, not feel good, just this is the
45:25
feeling you're going to attain right now and this is how you're
45:27
going to do it. So there was the guidance.
45:30
And then on paper, it's good enough on paper.
45:34
But then also I recorded audio 'cause I started audio, you
45:38
know, voice, the feedback I got from people it, it was just
45:42
amazing. So then I worked, I wrote the
45:46
creating use at work, which it was just, I should have wrote
45:49
that before. It was just easier because I
45:52
worked in, in a corporate at a time.
45:55
And there was a, a specific terminology for the core, which
45:58
is it just wrote itself, right. So many rapport, so many with
46:03
all of the big decision makers. And then the creating is that
46:07
relationship needed to happen. But so I did that 2014 and now
46:12
I'm at the 3rd edition. I needed to, I needed to get the
46:17
3rd edition because today we need to the way life goes today
46:23
and the way things are specifying what something is and
46:30
it's not, it's a, it's a requirement today, so.
46:35
I needed to update. This to to this to this
46:38
requirement and I actually condensed the book.
46:41
I made them a tidbit shorter so. Not to scare.
46:46
The reader. Oh my God, that three books.
46:48
Well, it's three books, but so 5 flaws from the perspective of
46:54
you, the individual itself, from the perspective of at work, you,
46:58
the individual at work and then at relationship.
47:02
Because there are three aspects and they're, they're all,
47:05
they're all part of your identity.
47:08
But then you do this aspect differently.
47:13
So I'm going to. Guess what?
47:15
I, what I think the parallel will be fulfill fullness.
47:20
And you let me know if I'm on the right track because you're,
47:22
you're the author of this system.
47:24
So how I think of mindfulness is having sensory acuity to real
47:29
things that you can experience with your senses.
47:32
So it might be a smell, it might be a taste, it might be
47:35
something you could observe and it's being fully in the present
47:38
and, and being aware of those things.
47:41
What I think, and correct me if I'm wrong here, that fearfulness
47:45
is that same level of sensory acuity but for internal emotions
47:51
and feelings. And, and I think the average
47:53
person isn't very good at being able to describe things like
47:58
anxiety compared to excitement or happiness compared to joy or
48:01
bliss. And what I think it is, is that
48:03
same level of mindfulness, sensory acuity, but with
48:07
kinesthetic feelings and then evolving that to being very
48:12
intentional about saying, right, I want to feel this way and then
48:16
being able to create that state. Have I got the right idea or am
48:19
I completely off track here? You know you, you're.
48:22
On a road you're on a right Rd. but there's more together.
48:26
I would completely take out the word saying because this is an
48:32
evolution. What and nobody knows and unless
48:36
I I present this this to them. Cognition.
48:41
You. You.
48:42
Mentioned cognition and here in in the system OK, fearfulness
48:46
fearfulness it's a meta conscious design system in
48:51
therapy with the methodologies right so it I'm going to I'm
48:56
going to get back to the well, let me let me give you this
48:58
elements it it it has a few elements in it meta cognition,
49:04
meta emotion and neural. Language.
49:10
So metacognition, thinking about it, metacognition as a increase
49:18
sense of equity, it's not doing it justice.
49:22
Yeah, it is that, but it is on steroids, right?
49:26
It's light years ahead. And then meta emotion has to do
49:31
with choosing what you feel, right?
49:34
So it's a whole lot of intention, but you need meta
49:37
cognition in order to do meta emotion.
49:39
And then to feel a feeling by choice also, you need this
49:42
neural language. And it's not linguistics, it's
49:47
neural language. One word speaks of an
49:51
experience. Right.
49:55
And I'm. Not talking about warm, hot or
49:58
cold, that's similar. One more speaks to an identity
50:04
level experience. And this is where this.
50:08
Is where the the beauty of fearfulness comes in.
50:11
It re architects and re architects your identity.
50:17
Right, but. To go back to what you just
50:21
said, a lot of people don't know what they feel.
50:23
They cannot articulate what they feel well.
50:27
I'm. Finding.
50:28
Out that even a lot of professionals they don't know
50:30
what identity is. So it surprises.
50:34
Me. So what is?
50:37
Identity. Identity is who you are and what
50:41
moves through. You would you say that's a
50:45
belief? Of who people are, because I
50:48
think sometimes with identity, who people are depends on the
50:51
context. So they might have multiple
50:53
identities to different contexts.
50:55
They might say I'm a parent, I'm a partner, it's a professional,
51:00
yeah, it's a role that's a mask. No think.
51:03
Think of think of Carl Jung. Everybody should get more
51:07
familiar with Carl Jung. Carl Jung, the process of
51:10
individuation. He defined the self as roles,
51:15
personas, masks, shadow, anima, animos and then individuate and
51:20
put them all all together coming to to your center.
51:24
So what what you were describing are personas.
51:28
So like when when I wrote the the trilogy as the identity for
51:33
yourself, the identity you present, it's you at work or at
51:38
relationship. These are your roles.
51:40
They are part of your identity. But it's not the identity, the
51:44
title. Your title is not your identity.
51:47
Your passport ID card, the the number you have is not your
51:51
identity. It you, it helps you being
51:54
identified in society, but that's not who you are.
52:00
So who are you and what moves through you?
52:06
So that's a whole. Lot that happens there so is
52:10
going to take care of it. Go ahead.
52:12
You were going to say something I was going to say at.
52:14
Some level everyone has a belief as to who they are and.
52:20
And. The great thing about beliefs
52:22
as, as we know as hypnotherapists is that beliefs
52:25
can change. So if someone has a belief that
52:28
who they are as a role or a persona, then you can change
52:32
that belief, you know, to something more, more useful.
52:37
And I would say so many people do take their profession or
52:40
their, their persona as their core identity.
52:44
The wonderful thing is if, if that isn't useful for them, you
52:48
change that one belief and it can change their entire outlook
52:51
on life. It can change so many things
52:53
because it's so it's so central. It kind of ripples out to to
52:57
everything. When you're helping people
52:59
discover their identity, how do you how do you do that?
53:04
Is that through questions? Is that through introspection
53:07
and you and you get them to kind of discover because I imagine
53:11
most people don't don't really know who they are.
53:14
Yes. But let me let me go back to
53:17
what the filthiness system is. So you understand discovering
53:20
someone's identity. Identity is a complex system and
53:26
is it's who, who you have been thus far and who you're going to
53:32
become and who you choose to be. And, and you generate your re
53:35
architect identity, beliefs and values.
53:39
They're part of it and they're easy to change and they are
53:42
going to be changed by themselves without you having an
53:46
intention to change a belief just by working with with a
53:49
neural language. But neuroscience, I'm fascinated
53:54
by neuroscience. Neuroscience now is giving us so
53:56
many answers as to what's happening with our experiences,
54:01
even with our spiritual experiences.
54:04
Now the scientists can pinpoint exactly what parts of the brain
54:09
are being engaged, which we didn't have that before.
54:14
We didn't have with William James in 1800.
54:16
We didn't have with Carly Jung in early. 1920 or.
54:24
Or so and to have the neuroscience now give us
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tangible something tangible so we can understand the that
54:32
spiritual experiences do something to the brain that this
54:36
past life regression and this hypnosis that all of these
54:39
experiences when we are whether in trans or whether meditating
54:43
or whether journey is doing something to our brain is just
54:47
it's I love and I love seeing that the science is is giving
54:52
this giving us this this tangible aspect.
54:57
But in within the neuroscience, there is a neuroscience of
54:59
thoughts, beliefs and values. Yeah, so feel freeness also goes
55:03
over the neuroscience of emotions, right.
55:06
Neuroscience of feelings. Now English language is one of
55:10
the most wonderful languages that are on on a planet.
55:14
But there are few places that the English language lacks.
55:19
And feeling is an emotion. It's where English language
55:22
lacks. It's English speaking people
55:27
have not been thought to use emotion for an emotion and
55:31
feeling for a feeling. They're always interpolated in
55:36
my language. For example, I'm Romanian, Latin
55:38
language, we have a, a word for emotion and a different word for
55:42
a feeling and an additional 3 or 4 words that can describe a
55:45
combination of that. English doesn't have that.
55:49
That's OK. I, I am, I am specifying that in
55:53
here that feelings are different than emotion, right?
55:57
And so in in a nutshell, and an emotion 30 seconds, if it lasts
56:03
60 seconds and too much 15, not even 15 seconds.
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And emotion, it's explosive comes and go, right?
56:11
It's thought provoked or or. It's thought provoked.
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Right. A feeling is not always.
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It's not an explosion. An emotion can transform into a
56:29
feeling, but a feeling has an attribute of existence.
56:35
With it. An emotion comes and go.
56:38
Feeling you generate a state of being, and a state of being has
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to do with existence, of how you exist.
56:47
See existence again, it's a word that is not used as much in in
56:52
English as I'm. I'm used to using this word in
56:56
in in Romania. So something exists, or it
56:58
doesn't exist, or you can make it exist, or you bring it into
57:02
into an existence. And I imagine this is one of.
57:06
The things you're going to be talking at at the Mid America
57:09
conference is this system that you've created elaborate more on
57:14
what we could expect for anyone that's going to be there in in
57:17
Chicago actually kind of hearing your talk what can they expect
57:20
yes so at. At this conference, I'm going to
57:22
talk about identity architecture of the self, you and your client
57:28
as at as as as therapist. OK, let let me go to this other
57:33
sentence in my all of my journeys, some of the the what
57:40
I've studied and observe, if a therapeutic intervention has not
57:45
arrived at the self, that therapeutic intervention is not
57:49
complete. It might be a technique, but
57:52
it's not that they are building an invention and arriving at a
57:56
self. It it's, it's, it's a journey,
58:01
right? So many, especially in in.
58:07
OK, I'm not going to go there. OK, so many professionals have
58:12
techniques and modalities and they work.
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They work marvels. They do something to the beliefs
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and the values that it brings cognition to to the client into
58:24
brings them into their expanded realization and they can choose
58:27
something about themselves, right?
58:29
Well, identity work is needed and it's not needed just for the
58:36
for the client, it's needed for the therapist.
58:39
So going back to Carl Jung, even Carl Jung cautioned us that if
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you as a therapist have not healed your wounds, then be
58:49
careful and what kind of therapy you administer to the client.
58:54
And he's talking about the wounded healer.
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So I would say 99% of therapists are wounded healers and it this
59:02
is, this is all unconscious. It's not intentional.
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I mean, all therapists have good intentions, right?
59:08
But we need to become aware of what sits in our identity, what
59:14
moves through through us. Because a wound that has been,
59:18
that hasn't been. Addressed that.
59:21
Hasn't been removed from the hippocampus is still going to
59:25
move through you and then pass through the client also at the
59:30
same at the same effect client's wound it's going to move through
59:35
you and if your wound is not it's not finalized, it's not
59:39
removed from the hippocampus and then there's transference and
59:42
then there's there's no coherence.
59:45
So don't get me wrong, a lot of healing happens, but.
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We need a bit. We need a good amount of
59:53
disinfectant there. Infected neural language.
1:00:00
Perfect. So, people.
1:00:01
Seeing you in in Chicago can expect to to learn some of those
1:00:05
kind of approaches. They can actually kind of help
1:00:08
people figure out how to reveal and and make changes at the
1:00:13
identity level. Yeah.
1:00:15
So what what I'm going? To do at this, at this position,
1:00:18
I'm going to, to present what the self is and all of these
1:00:23
different parts of the self. And I'm going to talk a little
1:00:27
bit about the neuroscience. And right now I'm going to take
1:00:30
more than not even 30 seconds. It's what's fascinating to me
1:00:34
that the neuroscience of emotions, like it has a
1:00:37
trajectory in a, in a brain. It's about, let's see, it's
1:00:40
about this this long, the trajectory.
1:00:43
Think about how much you're driving neuroscience of
1:00:45
feelings. It's about this long.
1:00:48
So that tells. Us that when you have a feeling,
1:00:55
the brain lights up in more areas, including the prefrontal
1:00:58
cortex into the evolved brain. So the evolved brain, the
1:01:02
prefrontal cortex, it's where you have the executive function.
1:01:05
We have choice. So we we want to be aware of it
1:01:10
and, and, and continue to, to be cognizant of emotion being
1:01:16
different than a feeling. And so after.
1:01:20
After I'll do I'll do this go over the neural language.
1:01:25
Neural language is very important.
1:01:26
If we know that words are the the heavy words can destroy or
1:01:33
or build a person, right? So carefully chosen words, it's
1:01:40
what it's, it's one of the the basis of of of fearfulness.
1:01:46
When, when you do fearfulness, when you practice fearfulness,
1:01:49
when you have the minister fearfulness for the client to to
1:01:53
feel differently. But then the scope of this is to
1:02:00
generate a state of being. We generate states of being
1:02:03
throughout the all the time, but we don't, it's unconscious and
1:02:07
they're not the right kind, right?
1:02:10
So like you have a plant and then you don't water the plant
1:02:13
and it dies or you water too much or too little, or you give
1:02:17
it milk instead of water. It's very, it's very important
1:02:21
what kind of states of being regenerate.
1:02:23
So then you as a, as a practitioner will learn how to
1:02:29
generate a state of being. Well, first for you, you, you
1:02:34
can't just OK, let me learn how to generate a state of being for
1:02:37
my client. OK, hold on a second.
1:02:39
Because we need to go to high school first, right?
1:02:42
So you learn how to generate a state of being.
1:02:45
I'm going to walk you through it in in a little bit.
1:02:47
And once you have multiple experiences to generating
1:02:52
multiple states of being there, there's so there is a subtle
1:02:56
difference between them and the same state of being a generating
1:03:00
today that you need to generate a similar state of being for
1:03:03
tomorrow with the exact same neural words.
1:03:05
There's going to be some subtle differences between them, and
1:03:08
that's all right. And so once.
1:03:12
We generated a state of being. We learn to then generate the
1:03:17
therapeutic state of being. Now that's complex.
1:03:22
That's, that's an advanced skill.
1:03:24
Well, metacognition, it's an advanced skill, but you can get
1:03:27
to it, which I don't know, not even 4 hours of my training.
1:03:32
Metacognition is that you'll get to it.
1:03:34
This, that's an exercise that you will repeat and, and you
1:03:38
will get into what I call simultaneous time.
1:03:42
And, and you can, you earlier talked about time travel and you
1:03:46
can not just equate it, but you'll get into, into a
1:03:50
simultaneous time where everything exists at the same
1:03:52
place. It's, it's, this is five fifth
1:03:55
dimension for me. But the where you, how you
1:03:58
allocate your attention is to what's needed for you in that
1:04:03
moment, but having the wisdom of everything that surrounds you
1:04:07
and what is the need in that particular moment, right?
1:04:11
So it takes a while to arrive there.
1:04:14
OK. So once you learn to generate a
1:04:17
therapeutic state of being, then then you as a therapist learn
1:04:22
how to transfer this therapeutic consciousness pure.
1:04:28
Creation. And nothing physical.
1:04:31
We have so many created a physical, but before physical,
1:04:34
before physic, there was metaphysic.
1:04:37
So there was an intention and a feeling and and and attention to
1:04:42
create something. So now we go to create this
1:04:46
therapeutic consciousness not only reaches us as a as a
1:04:50
clients, but we transferred this to the client by the simple.
1:04:57
Simple element. Of the, the mirror neurons,
1:05:01
well, we transfer mirror neurons, they pick always pick
1:05:04
up something from the other person.
1:05:06
It's a mechanism. But when you make that
1:05:08
intentional and Oh my God, and then that's magic, it's magical.
1:05:14
But also when you when you transfer therapeutic
1:05:18
consciousness, and only by the sheer fact that you generate
1:05:22
therapeutic state of being. The.
1:05:27
Collective unconscious gets populated with this therapy
1:05:31
would take yumminess and humanity evolves.
1:05:39
Amazing. It sounds fascinating.
1:05:41
I'm I'm excited to kind of learn more about it for, for the
1:05:45
audience listening right now. Is there a demonstration or some
1:05:50
kind of hypnosis experience that they could get a taste of, of
1:05:54
what this is all about? Absolutely.
1:05:56
I I love. I love doing this.
1:05:58
So we're going to, we're going to do a little bit of, of
1:06:01
metacognition and, and meta emotion.
1:06:04
And although this may be big words, I'm going to take you
1:06:07
through some very simple words, but I want everybody to
1:06:10
understand that this simplicity is highly significant.
1:06:15
Nobody ever learned to work by sitting down.
1:06:20
So. When we walk, we have to put the
1:06:22
foot in front of the other and it's significant right now it's
1:06:26
it's no big deal with walking, but at some point we need to do
1:06:29
that. So I would invite your.
1:06:34
Audience to. Just find a comfortable seat.
1:06:38
This is not going to be a trans. I don't have to close their
1:06:41
eyes. Actually, I would invite
1:06:43
everybody to have their sit up straight just exactly like you
1:06:47
did. Just be aware of what's
1:06:50
happening. We're not going in trans, just
1:06:52
not hypnosis. And if you wanna the the, if you
1:06:57
have a tendency to slip into trans, you can do that later.
1:07:01
But right now you just be aware of, of being aware.
1:07:05
You're right here in the present time.
1:07:07
You're you're sitting in a chair, You have the, the air
1:07:11
around you, anything that's this tangible, you're just aware of
1:07:16
where we're at. And you're probably describing
1:07:21
quietly in your mind, at the back of your mind, what's going
1:07:26
on. There are conversations we have
1:07:28
in our head very often. Most of the time, you know, 99%
1:07:33
of the time we have conversation in our hand.
1:07:35
But if I tell you that there are 7 layers of thought and then and
1:07:41
then if I invite you to go into the 4th, 5th and 6th layer where
1:07:46
you begin to think with no words.
1:07:49
Let's just be a better concept. Quite interesting and curious to
1:07:54
just going to the 6th level of of thought.
1:07:57
And in that layer of thought, what do you think without words?
1:08:02
And I'm going to do this perfect.
1:08:04
And nobody's asking for perfection.
1:08:08
If you were to. Have your attention, not.
1:08:12
To the sound. The sound is going to be there.
1:08:15
Let the sound of my voice be where it's at without you having
1:08:19
to go through it. So just the sound of my voice is
1:08:23
there. You are in your body and your
1:08:26
attention. Bring your attention close to
1:08:29
your eyes. And as you bring your attention
1:08:32
back to your eyes, it's a big deal because we process
1:08:36
everything with our eyes and we think through our eyes and we go
1:08:40
there to what we think and what's happening.
1:08:43
So right now, we're just going to be in here and you're going
1:08:46
to bring your attention back to your eyes.
1:08:49
Just like that and. You're going to feel something
1:08:52
that's going to be a sensation. A lot of people feel something
1:08:55
on their chest first, the eyes. You're going to feel something
1:08:59
that's all right, That's that's a there's a validation that you
1:09:03
are bringing your attention point to around your eyes.
1:09:09
And there's the. Shift very good.
1:09:12
And then from behind you, from your eyes, I want you to bring
1:09:15
your attention behind your eyes. Eyes open, just take your
1:09:19
attention behind your eyes is going to be a little bit of
1:09:21
pressure and maybe a a longer pressure on the chest and then a
1:09:26
little bit pressure behind the eyes.
1:09:28
That's all right. It's something we knew how to do
1:09:31
this as children all the time. Somebody just took us off of it.
1:09:36
So we need to come back. So just hold your attention
1:09:38
right behind your eyes and then right there in in this having
1:09:44
your attention behind your eyes. I might ask you to find a
1:09:49
feeling of capable. And I say, oh, Corman, you don't
1:09:52
know. I say, well, I do know.
1:09:53
So are you are you breathing? Yeah, I'm breathing.
1:09:56
Well, then you're capable. Oh, well, it's very significant
1:09:59
breeding. It's a very significant aspect
1:10:03
of existence without you. Not if you don't breathe and you
1:10:06
don't exist. And what kind of capable would
1:10:08
there be there? So let's be capable right now.
1:10:14
But it's a little simple, OK. Well, OK, Well, what if you are
1:10:18
to open and close the door? You open a door and close the
1:10:21
door. Are you capable?
1:10:23
Yeah. Yeah, I am capable.
1:10:24
OK, then let's stay with that. Pretend, Right?
1:10:27
But just pretending. It's not trans.
1:10:29
It's just pretending. Pretending you open and close
1:10:31
the door. Sure.
1:10:33
I can do that. Very good.
1:10:34
Very good. All right, so there is a there
1:10:37
is a sensation that is a first there is a thought and then the
1:10:41
feeling is like, well, I've been doing it all my life.
1:10:43
You know what it is to feel about it.
1:10:45
But there is something to feel about it because when you do it,
1:10:47
there is a bit off of feeling. So let's just open and close.
1:10:51
Are you capable? Sure, I'm capable, Right.
1:10:54
And then I'm going to ask you to feel certain.
1:10:58
I said, well, I'm certain. I said, well, yeah, certain.
1:11:01
And I said, well, how do I do that?
1:11:03
Well, if I'm going to ask you how many fingers you have on
1:11:05
your on your hand, you're going to say 5.
1:11:07
And I say, you sure? So you're 5.
1:11:09
And I say you're sure, sure. yo-yo, look at this.
1:11:11
They're five. There's certainty.
1:11:15
So this feeling. Of certainty is a language that
1:11:19
you going to automatically bring in when you are experiencing
1:11:25
yourself throughout life. That feeling of capable.
1:11:29
I can open or close the door. I've been doing it hundreds of
1:11:33
times. There is a feeling to it.
1:11:37
It is important. After a while you're going to
1:11:41
bring it in intentionally as a feeling, not as a thought.
1:11:45
You're going to inhabit that any moment and the circumstance you
1:11:50
find yourself throughout the day.
1:11:52
So have your attention behind your eyes again because as I
1:11:57
talk about attention is so easy for the attention to just go to
1:12:02
where the sound is. You think very good, very good.
1:12:05
So just have your attention again behind your eyes.
1:12:09
But a little bit of pressure, it's all right.
1:12:12
And again, now you already know what the spill is.
1:12:16
Find the feeling of capable much easier now, isn't it?
1:12:21
Yeah. And then let's add the feeling
1:12:24
of certain sure you have 5 fingers.
1:12:26
Let's pretend we're not solving any problems right now.
1:12:30
You cannot do this wrong. It is impossible to do it wrong.
1:12:35
Unless you don't do. It I just fall asleep.
1:12:39
Right, so no trans. No holding asleep.
1:12:41
Just pretend. Have fun.
1:12:43
You're going to feel it and then you're going to drop it.
1:12:44
You're going to feel it and then you're going to drop it.
1:12:45
You feel it and then you're going to drop it.
1:12:47
You feel it and you're going to drop it.
1:12:48
Your attention is going to be behind your eyes and then it's
1:12:51
going to drop. And then it's going to be behind
1:12:53
your eyes and it's it's going to keep moving.
1:12:55
That's all right. We're just learning how to put
1:12:58
the foot. In front of the other and look
1:13:00
how wonderfully now as adults we we're walking just fine.
1:13:05
So if I am going to ask you to find the feeling of happy, Oh
1:13:12
well, just pretend at some point you're happy.
1:13:16
Just you, you're happy to learn something new.
1:13:19
Oh, OK, I'm happy about that. Good.
1:13:21
So then pretend you're happy it has a different flavour.
1:13:26
And maybe you're happy that you have a roof of your head.
1:13:32
Oh, I'm happy about that. Well, let's just be happy you
1:13:35
have a roof over your head, right?
1:13:37
You're happy you have clean water.
1:13:39
Oh, I forgot about it. Yeah, I'm happy you have clean
1:13:41
water. And let's be happy over that and
1:13:44
pretend you're happy. Right.
1:13:47
So you have a feeling of being happy.
1:13:49
This very simple but significant.
1:13:53
Exercises, right? Here your attention is behind
1:13:56
your eyes. You have a feeling of being
1:13:59
happy. You feel that you've it's going
1:14:02
to feel it and drop it, feel it doesn't matter again.
1:14:05
You pick it up, you feel it, and then you bring back the feeling
1:14:09
of capable. Very good you.
1:14:14
See, you see the shift. I could even hear the shift, but
1:14:20
you felt the shift and I'll bring the feeling of certain.
1:14:26
Bigger shift, right? There so as you are capable,
1:14:30
certain and happy continue to play with these feelings to
1:14:35
intentionally feel these feelings as I'm going to say the
1:14:39
couple of the next few sentences.
1:14:41
So capable, certain, happy this create a triangle and this
1:14:45
creates the platform. Have your attention behind your
1:14:49
eyes, right. My words are still going to be
1:14:51
there not going anywhere. Attention behind your eyes,
1:14:54
capable, certain, happy. So as you are feeling this
1:14:58
feelings, pretending or not pretending, it really doesn't
1:15:02
matter. Every self, every identity has a
1:15:09
very basics of of basic platform for their identity.
1:15:15
Think of it as a house. A house has a platform that sits
1:15:19
that the platform sits on the planet, and then that platform
1:15:23
has pillars. Capable, certain and happy is
1:15:27
the very basic platform. Attention behind eyes.
1:15:33
Happy to be learning something new.
1:15:36
Certain you have 5 fingers. Capable to open and close the
1:15:40
door. Certain, little bit more
1:15:48
certain. I'm doing this when you come on.
1:15:51
A little bit certain and capable.
1:15:55
You're definitely capable. Of being certain that you can
1:15:57
pretend to be happy so as you feel doesn't capable again
1:16:07
intentionally just pretend it will register something in the
1:16:11
neuroscience it's at the the limbic system is going to love
1:16:16
it because the limbic systems has been taken off the capable
1:16:20
of certainly happy for how many years and the prefrontal court
1:16:23
is going to say yes I love this give me more give me more
1:16:27
absolutely somewhat capable certain happy prefrontal cortex
1:16:32
loves it and it insular completely inhabited and basil
1:16:39
ganglia will register at cognitive reinforcements happy
1:16:45
Oh I like the certain 5 fingers oh sure I'm certain capable I'm
1:16:50
capable you should not Carmen you should see you should see my
1:16:55
capable show to me let me see you're capable right now I want
1:17:00
to see you're capable feel. It I will.
1:17:03
See. You're capable.
1:17:05
I will feel it. This is a language.
1:17:08
This is who you are. You are capable, you are certain
1:17:14
you are happy. This is the very basic, the the
1:17:21
first platform of who you are, who your identity, who you are
1:17:26
in your identity. Everything else is just
1:17:30
molecules around this. That's a beautiful shift.
1:17:39
That's a beautiful shift. So it takes a little.
1:17:42
Practice so we we need a little more than than tell for or 20
1:17:46
minutes, but takes a little practice.
1:17:48
So the idea, the basic idea is to see how I said the
1:17:53
metacognition meta emotion there might be like fancy words.
1:17:57
OK, so the basic idea is that you have your attention instead
1:18:01
of having your attention over there to where the sound is or
1:18:04
sometimes our thoughts are over there and we have our attention
1:18:08
there. Just have your bring your
1:18:10
attention back around your eyes. And there's always going to be
1:18:13
some sort of sensation in in eyes.
1:18:16
And all that is, is the focal length of the eyes.
1:18:19
The muscles of your eyes adjust just like if, if if you are to
1:18:24
take your finger there and then bring your finger here and look
1:18:26
at it. You will feel that in the muscle
1:18:29
of the eyes. The similar sensation with the
1:18:32
muscle of your eyes you will have when you allocate your
1:18:36
attention, attention point. So you bring it back and of
1:18:40
course going to be that in present time, like that quake,
1:18:45
which this happens by, it's a side effect.
1:18:49
It's a good side effect, right? And then as you have your
1:18:53
attention there at the beginning, going to drop in and
1:18:55
then bring it back and then drop in and bring it.
1:18:57
That's all right. We all learn how to walk.
1:19:00
We walked and that we walked and that's a natural flow of
1:19:06
learning how to how to do something different, right.
1:19:10
And then with well, certain and happy you pretend there.
1:19:15
Are moments drop? They when you really don't feel
1:19:18
capable because you're so overwhelmed.
1:19:21
You so have something to an issue you want to resolve and
1:19:26
it's like I need stuff to resolve it.
1:19:30
Yes, but you are capable of having the intention of of
1:19:36
having you are willful. You are capable of having the
1:19:39
willingness to change something so you nobody can ever run off.
1:19:46
You can never have enough capable.
1:19:49
Never run. Out of it.
1:19:50
There was always something to be capable of technology.
1:19:53
Or don't you get me started with technology.
1:19:57
No, that's that's a really. Interesting kind of insight and
1:20:00
obviously like you're saying, it's not trance, but.
1:20:03
You know, just the the suggestions kind of get people
1:20:05
into a very kind of suggestible kind of state for those people
1:20:11
that want to see the talk. Obviously you're going to be mid
1:20:14
America conference, as am I. We're going to put a link in the
1:20:18
show notes. I think it's hypnosis
1:20:20
conference.org is the address to go to.
1:20:22
So check that out if you want to get last minute tickets for
1:20:26
that. And where's the best website for
1:20:28
people to learn more about you, Carmen?
1:20:31
The best? Website for people to learn more
1:20:33
about me would be feelfulness.org right there.
1:20:36
This let me let me show you right over here Feelfulness.
1:20:42
Dot org. Yeah, I'll show it to you.
1:20:44
I'll check for that. We'll put that in the.
1:20:45
Show notes as well. Yes, we're going to.
1:20:50
Go right here at feelfulness.org and you you will learn a little
1:20:55
bit about feelfulness is and what is and and what is not.
1:21:00
And also this will address also filmness over here in our first
1:21:05
page addresses the skepticism. There's every with anything new
1:21:12
that comes in, especially the fifth one is being a system.
1:21:15
It is being met with skepticism and that's all right.
1:21:20
So this first page will address all of this.
1:21:22
So give it give it the read. And then when you click on
1:21:26
training, the training button will take you into a more
1:21:30
precise an understanding of what feelfulness does.
1:21:35
Brilliant So. Feelfulness.org and we'll make
1:21:37
sure there's a link in the description so check that out.
1:21:41
Carmen, it's been great to have you on the show today.
1:21:43
Thank you for that experience and yeah, I will see you in
1:21:47
Chicago in a few days time. And for you listening check out
1:21:50
comments website. Carmen, thank you very much for
1:21:54
joining me on the show today. Thank you, Adam, this.
1:21:56
Was great and I look forward to seeing you in just a couple of
1:21:59
days. Thank you so much.
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