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Women Who Propose · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mamas, is
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  Speaker 1: it okay for a woman to propose to a man
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  Speaker 1: if he.
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  Speaker 2: Won't do it?
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  Speaker 3: Well, let's ask Marrick and mama's.
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  Speaker 4: Alma Mama, she said, And twenty years now we are American
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  Speaker 4: Mama's turn Edivilee and Kimberly bur Listen, this is not
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  Speaker 4: the Stephen Parr Hour.
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  Speaker 1: But I got some thoughts on this. But Terry and Kimberly,
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  Speaker 1: what do y'all think about? Is it okay for a
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  Speaker 1: woman to propose if the man won't.
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  Speaker 3: Have you seen the video? There's a video in this girl.
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  Speaker 3: This girl bless her heart. She's been with her boyfriend
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  Speaker 3: for fourteen years, fourteen and she tells the audience, she
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  Speaker 3: tells the people, tells all of us, Look, he does
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  Speaker 3: love me. I know what people are gonna say. I
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  Speaker 3: don't care what people say. I know how much he
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  Speaker 3: loves me. He wants to be with me forever. It's
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  Speaker 3: just tom, I just want to be married. So I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to ask him. I'm going to ask him to
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  Speaker 3: marry me. I was like, first of all, fourteen years,
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  Speaker 3: fourteen years you'd been with this guy and he hadn't,
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  Speaker 3: which is excuse.
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  Speaker 1: Baby, I don't know if I can handle that kind
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  Speaker 1: of a commitment.
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  Speaker 3: Fourteen years, buddy, eighteen years and so I said, So
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  Speaker 3: then I took it to another level. So I showed
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  Speaker 3: Kevin the video and I said, what would you do
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  Speaker 3: if this was your daughter?
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  Speaker 2: Oh?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, what would you do?
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  Speaker 3: And he said, ooh, it wouldn't have gotten that far.
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  Speaker 3: I said, you can't. You can't say that because this
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  Speaker 3: is clearly a grown woman. Maybe let's say that her
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  Speaker 3: dad did say, you know twelve years ago, you know eleven,
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  Speaker 3: twelve years ago, No, this isn't going to work. He
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  Speaker 3: needs to commit or you got to go. And she says,
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  Speaker 3: this is the man I love. I'm not I'm not
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  Speaker 3: going anywhere. Like, how would you deal with this? He said?
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  Speaker 3: I think I would do it? After three years? There
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  Speaker 3: would have been some conversations with him, like what are
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  Speaker 3: your intentions? You know, I would have talked to my
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  Speaker 3: daughter about the years of you know, birthing years, right,
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  Speaker 3: what do you want in life? Why isn't this something?
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  Speaker 3: Why isn't this part of the plan? He said? Clearly
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  Speaker 3: the guy has issues with commitment, clearly, So he's like,
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  Speaker 3: I just he gues, I just can't even imagine. Of course,
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  Speaker 3: we have a different you know, our daughter is not
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  Speaker 3: that way. So he was like, I can't imagine somewhere.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, no, no, no, you have to pretend like
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  Speaker 3: you're this girl's dad. What did you think?
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  Speaker 2: I think this is a liberal thing. This is what
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  Speaker 2: I see on social media because a lot of liberal
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  Speaker 2: women are celebrating this, and you go, girl, you propose
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  Speaker 2: what you noticed, And every one of those proposals is
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  Speaker 2: the guy recoiling. You see him absolutely embarrassed. You see
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  Speaker 2: him look around. This is almost every video that I
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  Speaker 2: have seen of this thing happening. They are so embarrassed
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  Speaker 2: by it. They say yes. Everyone I've seen they say yes.
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  Speaker 2: But that girl looks desperate, he looks in feminine, he
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  Speaker 2: looks embarrassed, And I'm like, why is it a And
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  Speaker 2: I feel like everything's a joke. Everything's a lie. You know, go, go,
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  Speaker 2: go go, you do this, You do this because they
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  Speaker 2: don't want to do it. They want to watch you
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  Speaker 2: do it to kind of fill out you know how
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  Speaker 2: everybody's going to respond to it. But it's a living joke.
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  Speaker 2: If the guy doesn't propose to you, you've been together
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  Speaker 2: fourteen years and he does not propose to you, He
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  Speaker 2: does not want to marry you.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. But I'm so surprised that it's a liberal thing,
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  Speaker 3: because it's we're literally going through a phase right now
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  Speaker 3: in America where the liberal women are saying that they
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  Speaker 3: don't want to get married, and they're championing that you
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  Speaker 3: don't need to get married, you don't need to do that.
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  Speaker 3: So that's so interesting.
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  Speaker 1: They may be lying to themselves on this, they are,
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  Speaker 1: and that you know, well, I don't need this, I
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  Speaker 1: can be absolutely, But there's we were designed by the
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  Speaker 1: creator to operate in a certain way, and you can't
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  Speaker 1: really get rid of some of those factory installed instructions.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, that's that's just kind of how some things
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  Speaker 1: are supposed to work, and it works better when you
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  Speaker 1: follow the way that we're designed to work.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, Steven, let's say it was Julia, this is your daughter,
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  Speaker 3: and she's fourteen years with her. Yeah, I'm looking at
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  Speaker 3: Wendy too, what would you do?
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  Speaker 1: I like Kevin, we would not have gone two years
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  Speaker 1: without me pulling the guy aside saying Okay, what's up,
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  Speaker 1: what's up? Are you actually going to be a man?
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  Speaker 3: And it depends on the age for sure. This is it.
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  Speaker 3: We're talking twenties, you know what.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't matter. If my daughter's in her forties and
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  Speaker 1: there's a guy that's been with her for a couple
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  Speaker 1: of years, I'm going to pull him aside and say, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: are you a man or not? Because if you're a man,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna take responsibility. I don't need you know, macho
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  Speaker 1: thump in your chest, but I need you to be
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  Speaker 1: able to take responsibility for what you're doing. And there's
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  Speaker 1: a right way to do things and there's the wrong
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  Speaker 1: way to do things. You got to do the right
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  Speaker 1: thing in the right way for the right reasons or
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  Speaker 1: else you're wrong. Right now, son, you are wrong. So
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  Speaker 1: what you're going to do. I would have had that
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  Speaker 1: conversation and it would have not gone fourteen years. And
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  Speaker 1: I would have also pointed out to my daughter, you
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  Speaker 1: need to hold him to a higher account because you
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  Speaker 1: are worth more than that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you're right.
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  Speaker 2: You saying that points something out with this particular girl.
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  Speaker 2: Where are her parents in pointing out and her friends
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  Speaker 2: pointing out all these red flags that exist? Where are they?
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  Speaker 3: Clearly they did, because in the video she said I
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  Speaker 3: know what everyone's already. I'd already know what everyone's going
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  Speaker 3: to say. So you know that she's been Yeah, she's
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  Speaker 3: been here. And what I've meant by ages, you're not
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  Speaker 3: talking high school sweethearts. So that's all I was saying
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  Speaker 3: about that, But she was. You could tell she was
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  Speaker 3: almost embarrassed to tell, to tell everybody, like, I'm getting
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  Speaker 3: this out here. So if you're going to say that, don't,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to. But we don't know what happened. Did
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  Speaker 3: do you say yes?
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  Speaker 1: Did?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know, like what happened? And then what if?
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  Speaker 3: What if? Because this has happened fortune. We know people
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  Speaker 3: like this. They've dated high school and college and then
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  Speaker 3: they break up because one wants to get married when done,
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  Speaker 3: and then the next time they date someone like six
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  Speaker 3: months later and get engaged six months after that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: you know if you've wasted all those years. And I
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  Speaker 3: have a friend that wasted her twenties because the guy
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  Speaker 3: would not convenient with me, and so then she ended
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  Speaker 3: up being single for ten more years after that and
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  Speaker 3: he got married like right away. It's wild. So after
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  Speaker 3: fourteen years, if he hadn't asked you, honey, I would
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  Speaker 3: look elsewhere. If you want children, If you like t.
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  Speaker 1: Brother listen. Thank you so much, Chang