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Rushing to the Comments · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning.
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  Speaker 2: Podcast, Hello Everybody.
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  Speaker 3: Are scrubbing in. I was just matching your town. We
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  Speaker 3: are scrubbing in, Hello everybody. Tonya is in Mexico.
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  Speaker 2: I am in Mexico, but her voice is here. That's right.
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  Speaker 3: We are actually pretaping this episode because Tanya and Robbie
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  Speaker 3: are on their actual one year celebration of marriage in Mexico.
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  Speaker 3: Hopey'all are having a great time over there.
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  Speaker 4: I know.
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  Speaker 2: It's so funny.
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  Speaker 4: After our anniversary, like the first day after, I was like,
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  Speaker 4: we're in our second year of marriage, Like, I hope
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  Speaker 4: the excitement and like the everybody's always everybody always tells
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  Speaker 4: me that we're still on the honeymoon phase, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: I hope that never goes way.
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  Speaker 3: It's the honeymoon phase is there as long as you
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  Speaker 3: keep it there.
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  Speaker 5: I think, so mindset you think?
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  Speaker 3: Do you know what's so interesting? I used to like,
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  Speaker 3: I think this during a time where maybe Haley and
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  Speaker 3: I were like not communicating our best or something a
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  Speaker 3: couple of years into our relationship, and I would romanticize
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  Speaker 3: the honeymoon face so much like I'd be like like
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  Speaker 3: nostalgic for it, and now like we're about to have
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  Speaker 3: our eight year anniversary and it is crazy. I am
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  Speaker 3: literally like this is my favorite stage of our relationship.
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  Speaker 3: Like I don't crave that at all because I feel
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  Speaker 3: like we're like I feel so safe and like healthy.
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  Speaker 3: And I think in that phase it was like exciting
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  Speaker 3: and like new and obviously she was the first woman
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  Speaker 3: and I'm falling in love for the first time, and
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  Speaker 3: it was like, ah, scrambled thoughts, but it was exciting.
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  Speaker 3: But I like also wasn't sleeping because it was like yeah, yeah, well,
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  Speaker 3: just like it's like the excitement. And also she was
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  Speaker 3: on tour and we were like learning how to communicate,
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  Speaker 3: and I romanticize it, but we actually were going through
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  Speaker 3: a lot because we were getting to know each other
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  Speaker 3: and learn each other. And now I'm just like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I love right now.
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  Speaker 4: I literally do the exact same thing. Like I romanticize
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  Speaker 4: the beginning. I'm like, oh, We're never gonna have that
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  Speaker 4: like that feeling when we were newly dating and like
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  Speaker 4: finding out all these things, you know, like now we
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  Speaker 4: know each other like the back of our hands, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: and you're so right in the beginning, Like I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: we broke up in the beginning, you know, I mean
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  Speaker 4: it was rough waters the first year, and I forget
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  Speaker 4: the like the navigating and like finding our footing as
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  Speaker 4: a couple, because it's true you romanticize like all those
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  Speaker 4: like butterflies, the giddiness and the like the heat of
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  Speaker 4: it all, and like, I'm so with you. I've been
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  Speaker 4: wrote like in our anniversary card, I'm like, I actually
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  Speaker 4: didn't think that I would love him more than I
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  Speaker 4: did on our wedding day, and I love him more today,
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  Speaker 4: like because when you go through life experiences and like
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  Speaker 4: you go through hard things, like seeing the way he's
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  Speaker 4: shown up for me, like it just it's like you
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  Speaker 4: can't compare to that.
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  Speaker 3: Well. I also think speaking to your situation, Uh, you
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  Speaker 3: you have these moments that are not that y'all haven't
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  Speaker 3: had hard moments, but you have like everything you marry
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  Speaker 3: someone and you're like, oh, it's the high moments. The
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  Speaker 3: good moments are so great, and I have this person
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  Speaker 3: so easy to love each other. But then you go
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  Speaker 3: through something hard and that's how you really see, like
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  Speaker 3: how is this partner I've chosen, Like where are they
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  Speaker 3: going to be for me in this because you don't
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  Speaker 3: know until you know, right, and you couldn't have known
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  Speaker 3: that was going to come within the first year of
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  Speaker 3: your marriage, but you got like a very quick like
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  Speaker 3: who Robbie is?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, And like I had so many girls message me
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  Speaker 4: saying like you're so lucky that you have someone that
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  Speaker 4: like makes it a priority to come to all your
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  Speaker 4: appointments with you. Like I didn't have that, and like
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  Speaker 4: it was never even a question, Like I didn't even
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  Speaker 4: I wasn't even asking him to come with me. It
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  Speaker 4: was just like I'll be there type of thing, you know,
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  Speaker 4: And like that's the type of stuff that like really matters.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I'm glad we've we've all found that.
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  Speaker 2: Ye yeah for us eight years, Like you're almost at
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  Speaker 2: a decade.
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  Speaker 3: I know, we're almost a decade. It's like it's so
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  Speaker 3: weird to think of the time as eight years, but
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  Speaker 3: in my mind it doesn't. It's like all blurred into
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  Speaker 3: like three.
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  Speaker 2: Like eight, Like you're combing close to a decade.
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  Speaker 3: I know. That's I think, like common law marriage, isn't
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  Speaker 3: that like seven years?
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  Speaker 5: I think it is.
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  Speaker 3: We've already that's old news.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, we speaking of are you getting asked a lot
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  Speaker 4: when you guys are getting married every day?
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  Speaker 3: Oh?
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  Speaker 4: Because I get asked a lot, and I'm like, it's
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  Speaker 4: probably what Why what.
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  Speaker 3: If I told? What? If I was like, yeah, we're
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  Speaker 3: already married, that'd be.
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  Speaker 2: Epic for you. No, it's just like in general.
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  Speaker 3: Like yeah, no, but I really do. I always tell
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  Speaker 3: people like this year, specifically up until the summer, is
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  Speaker 3: Haley's movie, because it's her baby and she's worked on
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  Speaker 3: it for so so long that I don't even want
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  Speaker 3: her to think about planning what. I'm like, you and
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  Speaker 3: I you're to get we're together forever and like I
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  Speaker 3: can't wait to marry you and have the wedding and
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  Speaker 3: plan that. But like all your attention needs to go
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  Speaker 3: on this movie because it's the year of the movie girls.
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  Speaker 3: Like girls, do you have me June nineteenth being your
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  Speaker 3: b in theaters?
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  Speaker 4: I do feel like like I because we just hit
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  Speaker 4: the year, Like I was remembering how much of Like
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  Speaker 4: my Men. It was literally all I had in my
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  Speaker 4: brain for four months. Your wedding, Yeah, yeah, like the planning,
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  Speaker 4: the details, Like it's so much in your head that
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  Speaker 4: like I couldn't imagine having a movie coming out and
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  Speaker 4: trying to do that at the same time.
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  Speaker 3: And that's what I told her. I'm like, listen, I
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  Speaker 3: don't really want to. I also don't want to plan
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  Speaker 3: this alone, so like, I don't. I'm not expecting you
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  Speaker 3: to be no, no, no, like with my making partner decisions,
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  Speaker 3: my own decisions like dress and stuff, like I'll be sourcing.
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  Speaker 3: Hayley wants to go trial dresses together. I'm like, babe, no,
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  Speaker 3: we can't see each other's dress.
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  Speaker 6: She's like, but that's so fun and it's a tricky
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  Speaker 6: one though I see the desire to do.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: No, I know it's fun, but.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're putting your foot down right.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah no, I'm like, you're I'm torn about the first
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  Speaker 3: look of it all because I heard of me I'm
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  Speaker 3: down the aisle. But I'm torn on it because I
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  Speaker 3: have pros and cons for both. Like I love the
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  Speaker 3: like piece of like getting to see each other before
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  Speaker 3: and like having that moment together of like seeing each
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  Speaker 3: other for the first time and not having to be
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  Speaker 3: in front of everybody. But then I love the like
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  Speaker 3: reveal of seeing each other in a wedding. Well, I
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  Speaker 3: don't know what we're wearing wedding attire for the first time. Oh,
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  Speaker 3: I might be in a suit.
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  Speaker 2: You're not going to be in a suit of white
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  Speaker 2: tailored suit yet out of here.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah. So that's why I tell everybody. I'm just like, listen.
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  Speaker 3: If you want to know about the wedding, then you
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  Speaker 3: support the movie.
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  Speaker 4: But like, as the movie comes out, that means you
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  Speaker 4: can start playing the summer right, yeah, which is like
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  Speaker 4: tomorrow it's time is flying, flying Flying.
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  Speaker 3: Speaking of TikTok comments I posted if people just scroll
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  Speaker 3: and don't open comments, because personally, for me, I find
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  Speaker 3: the comments to be my favorite part, like TikTok yes,
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  Speaker 3: because I could see a video that I think is
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  Speaker 3: funny and then I open the comments and I am
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  Speaker 3: like cackling out loud because people are so funny and
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  Speaker 3: creative and there's people that just scroll, never open.
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  Speaker 2: To me, I don't open.
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  Speaker 5: I rushed to the.
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  Speaker 3: Comments, break an ankle, run into the comments. Really, Oh
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  Speaker 3: my gosh, roll.
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  Speaker 4: I don't think I look at comments one iota unless
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  Speaker 4: I'm prompted to.
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  Speaker 3: Well, if you are someone like Tanya who does it,
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  Speaker 3: you have to if you think of video is funny
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  Speaker 3: and it has a lot of comments. Open the comments
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  Speaker 3: and you only have to look at the top like
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  Speaker 3: five to really get a good laugh. It is the
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  Speaker 3: the humor that people possess and the quick wickness and wittiness.
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  Speaker 3: I'm inspired.
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  Speaker 6: Being able to post a photo as a comment on
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  Speaker 6: TikTok elevated the game to an unimaginable level.
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  Speaker 2: What photos are people posting on? Comments?
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  Speaker 3: Like?
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  Speaker 6: The photos are means than some screenshots from the video
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  Speaker 6: we're watching?
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  Speaker 5: Uh, it's great.
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  Speaker 3: It's just beautiful.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I love it all.
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  Speaker 3: It's art, really, I agree.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like when I'm watching like the the.
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  Speaker 4: This is the silly one, but the one that people
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  Speaker 4: were like, does anybody else watch The Love is buying
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  Speaker 4: final episode like this, and it's like fast forwarding, do.
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  Speaker 2: The whole thing. I'm like, yeah, that's good. You got
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  Speaker 2: me there, gotcha, gotcha. I'm like, wow, they know me
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  Speaker 2: so well. My algorithm knows me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, it feels good to be known. It's
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  Speaker 3: going to be seen. I also posted, uh, this was
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  Speaker 3: this is my favorite. You know how You'll always say
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  Speaker 3: like how I post questions but I don't put like
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  Speaker 3: an answer box. Yeah, I don't know. I just love
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  Speaker 3: doing it. But every time I posted something's totally random
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  Speaker 3: because it's just a thought I have and I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna post it and see opinions, and all's always
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  Speaker 3: like what what like to everyone? Just like like what
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  Speaker 3: like the water? One? I ask some people like drinking
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  Speaker 3: water or if they just do it because it's good
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  Speaker 3: for them, Like I don't like water. I drink it
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  Speaker 3: because it's good for me. Same and a source of life.
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  Speaker 3: And then people were responding and they're like, there's no
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  Speaker 3: way people like drinking water, but you'd be I would
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  Speaker 3: say fifty percent of the comments are like I love water.
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  Speaker 5: I enjoy water a lot.
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  Speaker 6: Do tastes like nothing, it tastes refreshing. I think it
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  Speaker 6: makes me feel good and it tastes refreshing. Yeah, you know,
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  Speaker 6: I like, I think different beverages serve different purposes, So like,
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  Speaker 6: I don't think i'd ever like like I guess if
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  Speaker 6: I had to choose Coca cola or water, I would
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  Speaker 6: choose water.
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  Speaker 5: But I do like how it tastes tastes really good.
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  Speaker 7: Wow.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I didn't grow like I didn't
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  Speaker 3: my source of hydration growing up was like gatorade.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't know my dad still doesn't believe in water.
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  Speaker 5: My dad doesn't believe in water.
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  Speaker 3: My brother does not drink water. He played in the NFL.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, you get water and gateorade, you get water and beer,
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  Speaker 4: you get water, and like, yeah, oh god.
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  Speaker 6: My sisters like that, Like she when she needs to
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  Speaker 6: drink more water, she does a glass of water with
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  Speaker 6: like drops of diet coke to like give her the flavor, which.
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  Speaker 5: I think Anne Hathaway does too. I heard that from somewhere.
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  Speaker 4: Wow. Yeah, I don't know, but like I'm I'm the same.
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  Speaker 4: I grew up in like a gatorade. Like we never
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  Speaker 4: had water really in our house.
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  Speaker 2: It was like I grew up with water. Yeah, So
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  Speaker 2: it's so funny.
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  Speaker 3: And I was gonna say people in California. I literally
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  Speaker 3: gonna say, people in California grew up with it. But
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  Speaker 3: you grew up in California. But I associate. I remember
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  Speaker 3: going out to eat with people for the first time
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  Speaker 3: in California, like new friends and I every time I
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  Speaker 3: go out to eat, and we didn't. I didn't grow
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  Speaker 3: up with money. I grew up with like there was
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  Speaker 3: five kids, but we would always get SODA's, like if
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  Speaker 3: we got a meal, we got a soda.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and always water for the table.
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  Speaker 3: No, all my friends like said no to a soda
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  Speaker 3: and got went and got the free water. But they're
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  Speaker 3: Hamburger And I was like, how are you washing this
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  Speaker 3: down with water? That was like my first experiencing that,
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  Speaker 3: which I think is so crazy now because the water
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  Speaker 3: is a source of life and it is the best
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  Speaker 3: option for you.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's of our bodies.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But anyways, you know the difference between raising in a
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  Speaker 2: great water water. Yeah, they never lose that image unfortunately.
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  Speaker 3: That sticks with me. That really sticks with me. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I grew up not in a waterhousehold too. That's very funny.
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  Speaker 6: Back in like the eighties and seventies, if you were
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  Speaker 6: like at football practice, they would say, don't drink water
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  Speaker 6: because you'll cramp That was like an old wives tale
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  Speaker 6: that thankfully has gone away. But you have these high
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  Speaker 6: school students out there just huffing and puffing in the heat,
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  Speaker 6: and it's like, here to have lemonade.
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  Speaker 5: Don't don't drink water, you'll like cramp up. It's like the.
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  Speaker 3: Exact opposite, well, because it's like thinking that you need electrolytes, right, yes, exactly,
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  Speaker 3: because you're gonna cramp if you don't have the salt.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, I don't believe it.
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  Speaker 3: I think that onto something there.
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  Speaker 2: Speaking of.
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  Speaker 3: Oh it's just.
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  Speaker 2: Right now, I do get parched.
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  Speaker 3: Well. I I've grown to be like, oh, that tastes
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  Speaker 3: really good when I'm thirsty and I go to get
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  Speaker 3: my cold water. But I'm never like, ooh, you know,
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  Speaker 3: it sounds amazing cold glass of water like dico or
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  Speaker 3: dodor pepper or coke zero pepsi pepsi die pepsi and
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  Speaker 3: cherry pepsi. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. So that's a little bit
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  Speaker 3: about us.
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  Speaker 4: You went to a wedding this weekend, or you're going
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  Speaker 4: to a wedding this weekend. When you go from now on,
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  Speaker 4: when you attend weddings, are you going in a different
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  Speaker 4: like with a different lens as like research R and R.
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  Speaker 3: I'll tell you how I approach weddings when we come back.
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  Speaker 7: Oh my goodness, we're back.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm going to a wedding this weekend and we're
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  Speaker 3: going to Palm Springs, And I do think I'm this
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  Speaker 3: is actually the first wedding we'll be going to send
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  Speaker 3: engaged couple being engaged. I'm just like trying to think.
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  Speaker 3: I think so yeah, and so I think this I
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  Speaker 3: probably will approach weddings with a new lens of like,
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  Speaker 3: oh I love that. I love that they did this,
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  Speaker 3: and this is actually two men getting married, so it's
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  Speaker 3: also a gay wedding. And I also think there's certain
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  Speaker 3: things that you probably do different. You know, there's so
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  Speaker 3: much tradition around weddings and like the ceremony of it all.
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  Speaker 3: So I will be approaching it probably from a different
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  Speaker 3: lens in that regard, but thinking about like first dance moment,
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  Speaker 3: do we want to do it? Okay, Like there's just so
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  Speaker 3: many things that.
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  Speaker 4: Have always been There's so many of those, but I
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  Speaker 4: just wanted to be us.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to I have I'm gonna have to separate.
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  Speaker 3: Am I seeing this because it's what I've always heard
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  Speaker 3: you're supposed to do and is tradition? Or Am I
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  Speaker 3: seeing this because I'm like, oh, I've always dreamed of
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  Speaker 3: getting to do that. Yeah, you know.
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  Speaker 4: Because I think I tell you one thing I did
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  Speaker 4: that Everyone's like, it's tradition, it's beautiful, And I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: in hindsight, why did I do that?
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  Speaker 2: What put the veil over right head?
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  Speaker 3: Oh, you're gonna say that I.
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  Speaker 2: Got my lipstick all in it.
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  Speaker 4: I was crying and my heart like Robbie couldn't get
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  Speaker 4: it off quite right. I looked like a schmuck with
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  Speaker 4: it on. So I did it because I was like
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  Speaker 4: the peer.
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  Speaker 2: Pressure of like, that's what you're supposed to do. You
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  Speaker 2: want him to have that moment of lifting. And I'm like, you.
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  Speaker 3: Did look beautiful with the veil. But I remember being
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  Speaker 3: like walking down the aisle like I'm like, you can't
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  Speaker 3: even see me through that. I knew you were gonna
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  Speaker 3: say that, just because I have the memory of like
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  Speaker 3: that discussion.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because I didn't want it. I didn't want it.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted to have a bag.
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  Speaker 4: As I walked down the aisle and everyone's like, no,
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  Speaker 4: it's it's gonna be this beautiful moment. I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: maybe they're right. It's tradition, like it's they've done it
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  Speaker 4: like that for a reason, like it's the only time
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  Speaker 4: in my life I'm gonna have a.
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  Speaker 2: Frock over my head to be lifted by my husband.
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  Speaker 4: And I look back and I'm like, damn, i'd have
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  Speaker 4: stuck to my guns.
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  Speaker 3: But you wouldn't know until you like you could have
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  Speaker 3: done it not have done it this you could you
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  Speaker 3: could have practiced, but you could have not done it
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  Speaker 3: and then been like I kind of wish I had
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  Speaker 3: done that because it would have been really special to
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  Speaker 3: have him lifted like you could have. It would have
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  Speaker 3: gone either way.
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  Speaker 4: I think for you, I don't think so there's nothing
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  Speaker 4: I didn't do that I regret not doing.
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  Speaker 3: But I do think that could have been practiced or
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  Speaker 3: you could have like seen put it on, seen how
• 15:48
  Speaker 3: you looked or felt with it on.
• 15:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I'm like I don't know if it was
• 15:51
  Speaker 4: the wind, but I'm like it kept getting.
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: In my eye. I was like this not the magical
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: moments walking.
• 15:58
  Speaker 3: Down a different aisle, my dad like tripped.
• 16:01
  Speaker 4: And I couldn't see, like this is this could have
• 16:03
  Speaker 4: gone bad fast yeah yeah, yeah, but it was so Anyways,
• 16:08
  Speaker 4: I encourage you to really think about things that like
• 16:12
  Speaker 4: go and go with your gut on these decisions, because
• 16:15
  Speaker 4: I do think like, obviously people have been getting married
• 16:17
  Speaker 4: for centuries and so there are these things that are
• 16:20
  Speaker 4: just like what you're supposed to.
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: Do, right, Yeah, but like no, I mean I think
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: I think we're already passed at what we're supposed to
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: do part.
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: But is there a dress code for this wedding? You're
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: going to like a theme?
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: Well, I think it. I don't know if I'm saying it,
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: like if this is real, but I think it's no
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: black like I think it's because it's palm spring. So
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: I think they wanted everyone in like color. So I'm
• 16:45
  Speaker 3: excited to see what everyone wears, because that's the other thing.
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: It's like, do you want it to be super dressy?
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: Do you want it to just be like people to
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: come in with they? I don't know. I don't know.
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: I really don't. So I'm going to be going with
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: a secret notepad, are you? Actually no? But I will
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: be observing from that lens. I think it's gonna be
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: very beautiful and chic too, So I'm excited. I'm excited.
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: I've never been to a m l M Man loving
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: man wedding.
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: I don't think I have either.
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: Actually, I'm so excited. Did you know did you not
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: know Brad and Gary? They've been married for like you
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: didn't know them? Then?
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: No? I knew them.
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: I I started to become friends with him as a
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: married man. Oh yeah, and they got married like not
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: they eloped, but it wasn't like a big wedding.
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I'm excited for my first one.
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: What an honor, A lot of decisions. Happy to be
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: by your side.
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, so Ali and Carson didn't do a first
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: dance because she didn't. She was like, I do not
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: want everyone like standing around watching us dance by ourselves.
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: But did they do dances with their parents?
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: No, they didn't do any Like oh wait, did she
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: do it? I don't think she did it any with
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: like a bunch of people watching, but I do. I
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: love music, and like I have, I associate so many
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: songs with Haley that like, I'm like, we have to
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: and in that moment, I don't think I'm going to
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: be thinking about everyone watching us, you know all. Yeah,
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: and so that's something I would love to do. The cake,
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: I'm very like, if Haley wants to do the cake,
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: I'm down for the cake, but it's not something that
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: I have to do. Yeah.
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: The cake cutting, Yeah, when you get the price tag
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: on the cakes, you're kind of like, do you ever
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: the pictures?
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: I mean, just like cutting through this thing for three
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: thousand dollars?
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: I don't think so. Yeah. Yeah, Like, and I don't
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: really feel like I woll cute eating so now my
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: phone wasn't me getting it like put in my mouth?
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah, like that was where my head was that Like
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: I saw how much they were and I was.
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: Like, I don't think we need a cake. And then
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: we also were like how cool would it be if
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: we rented like a huge house or like hassle and
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: like Europe and everyone stayed there and we just like
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: had a small, like intimate ceremony and then we just
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: like got to party and like hang out all week
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: with our favorite people. I don't know, there's so many
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: things to do.
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: I know, I went down that path too. I know
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: it's a really great path.
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: It's something to consider.
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: It's something to consider.
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: The only the only caveat with that is because I
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: feel like you and Haley have different types of jobs
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: where like you can be gone for two weeks, you
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: know what I mean, it's just like easy.
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: You're warnything about people being able to go, and we'd
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: have to give them a huge time to plan. Yes,
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: bad amount of time, correct, because even going to Europe
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: is such a far trip that you don't want to
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: go for two days?
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: No, and you can't. Yeah you's yeah, so.
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: That's something to think about. I don't know, you guys,
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: there's so many options shifting gears. I was doing a
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: treadmill walk and I was like, I just need something
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: with beats that I know. So I looked up Taylor
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: Swift walking playlist and I'm like, back in like a
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: Taylor Swift. Not that she ever left, like she's always
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: on a rotating like radio or something, but I've just
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: been like, Wow, the bangers, And so I did my
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: top my Taylor Swift songs of the day for the
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: day that I was. They change, they change, you know,
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: but consistently You're losing me is so good, it's so sad.
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: The fact that it almost never saw the light of
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: day is caraziness.
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: Out of the woods. It's just incredible.
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: And is It over Now?
• 20:44
  Speaker 7: Yeah?
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: Is that that one too?
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: Is it over? Like that almost never saw light of
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: day too?
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: And their breakup songs? Yes, they're all breakup songs.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: My favorite.
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: One of my favorite memories from my wedding was singing
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: is It Over Now at the top of my lungs
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: on the dancefloorts a breakup song and everybody's kind of like,
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: what's going on here?
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: But I'm like, I just have.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: To get it, like it's I don't think they were
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: what's going on here because of the lyrics as much
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: as me, You and Sophia just like acting like it
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: was like a stage planned performat, like yeah, yeah, I
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: And then you know what one I've really been enjoying
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: that's like not ever talked about is I look in
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: People's Windows?
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: I don't think I even heard note that is there's not.
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: Uh tord your post department?
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: But she look in People's Windows? Is the name of
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: the song? Are you sure?
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: Look in People's Windows? But there's a line where she says,
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: does it feel alright to not know me? I'm addicted
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: to the if only and like the lyricism, yeah, and
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: again it's sad, but I'm when I'm really happy and good,
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: why not listen to sad music? Yeah, it's free them.
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: It's so funny that you say that, because I feel like,
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: to me, This Life of a Showgirl was like such
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: a standout album because it's very much like she's in
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: love and she's happy, and that's kind of like where
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: I'm at in life. So I'm like really resonating with
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: it that I have a hard time, like listening to
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: All Too Well right now interesting?
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, well All Too is a fall album. Yes, sunny
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: bright weather clauses for I forgot you that you existed
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: and yeah, it's like lover and uh yeah lover and
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: reputation reputations.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: Giving winter No reputation is giving.
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: I'm in a revenge yeah yeah, yeah, I think Halloween.
• 22:47
  Speaker 5: It didn't it come out like in October November or something?
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah? I think yeah.
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: Oh. Also, I'm going to a themed two thousands party
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: on Friday.
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: What for what?
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: Well, you know, it's Taylor Bank's birthday and it's themed
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: two thousands themed, And I feel like I'm gonna have
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: to try out my outfit today because I ordered it
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: all very quickly.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: What are you going to be?
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: There's this specific picture of Britney spears that I found.
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: And oh, that's a great one for you.
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: I'm kind of panicking. I got my bangs that I
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: clip in. Bangs I ordered are not the right shade.
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: But it's this picture.
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, what was that from?
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: I don't know is it two thousands or is it nineties?
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: Because now I'm like overthinking about it.
• 23:30
  Speaker 5: That's early.
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: It's early, which could be nineties ninety nine.
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: I think it's okay.
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: But anyways, I feel like I got kneepat gardening kneepads
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: that are metallic pink because I thought that's what she
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: had on. But they're just patches, so stay tuned.
• 23:50
  Speaker 5: So that was I'm sorry, I'm.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: To scrap in get a new outfit.
• 23:59
  Speaker 5: Where ran from June September ninety nine.
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: Well that's what we're in. It's Brittany from that time,
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: right before the two thousands. It's a fun Why do
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: k though? You know?
• 24:09
  Speaker 5: And we're still talking about that moment.
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, well I'm bringing it back. But yeah,
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: I got clipping bangs and they're like orange. I was like, Haley,
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: how bad are they? And She's like, I mean it's
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: it's kind of funny if they look bad, right, And
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, no, that's not I'm not trying to
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: look before. No, I'm trying to look legit.
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: Speaking of bangs, I'm thinking about getting some whispy bangs.
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: Okay, that a bad idea, Like what I just I
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: love a very thin wisp.
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: Wow, I'm not a blunt bang, like a thin whisp.
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: Here's the thing. Show you a photo you hate your
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: hair bang in your face? Yes, but even how mine
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: is right now, Tanya is like I could never like,
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: how do you just let your hair in your hair?
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: Your hairs are never not in your face?
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: Yes, I understand that, Yes, that that will be.
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: And you like styling your hair, yes, but do you have.
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: To style it when you have these wispy bangs?
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: I don't know how? Like what do we? Yeah? Oh
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: my god, Donya, you would hate that? Gorgeous?
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: But like I hate that.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: I think when they were styled and they'd look amazing,
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: I think they'd look amazing on you. I just think
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: that you would.
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: Why does everybody have to style everything.
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: In her eyes? Like you would be able to handle that,
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: you'd be freaking out. I go through the bank face.
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: Too, Okay, So you're saying it's not a goin through.
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: The chop face, like I'm two. I'm one bad hair
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: day away from a chop. But you know what someone
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: said that really resonated with me. I'll tell you when
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: we come back.
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: We're back.
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: Great job. So I was debating on if I wanted
• 26:08
  Speaker 3: to cut my hair into bob which last time I
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: tortured everyone because I hated it, and I had so
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: much regret. But I looked back on photos and I'm like,
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: but it was so cute. Why did I Why was
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: I so anti so chic?
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: And you do your hair so it's.
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: Like I saw my hair. It's not a burden. And
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: so anyways, someone was like, back of your hair was
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: so cute. Short, But just remember you will like your
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: hair cut for like a week, and then you'll it'll
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: get old. The newness of it being cut will get old,
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: and you'll just be upset that you cut it. And
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: for some reason it really stuck with me because that's
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: what happens. You have the first week and you're like
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: doing all these new styles. Oh, it's so cute and fresh,
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: and then the newss dice and you're like, but now
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: it's short.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: You know, I've never changed my hair up, Like, yes
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: you have.
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: Wow, you've like cut your hair and had it long
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: and got extensions.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: Okay, that's like not really, I mean the length of it.
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: I've maybe shed two inches off here and there, but like,
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: for the most part, the continuity of my hair has
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: stayed intact for the last like fifteen years.
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: I would says, do.
• 27:16
  Speaker 5: Ye, as long as I've known.
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: You, Yeah, like relatively the same.
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: Some blonde was better than the others. Yes, yes, I
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: did have a change.
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: Yes I have a Bleachhella moment that was just bad.
• 27:29
  Speaker 4: But I haven't really changed my hair. And I'm like
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: kind of in this phase of like I'm a low
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: maintenance girl trapped in a high maintenance spot, you know, like, oh,
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: I hate doing my.
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: Hair, but I need to do it otherwise it looks like.
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: This, what are you talking about? Like getting it done?
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: Or I'm like, do I need a change? Like should
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: I change it up?
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: You're so here's my opinion on your hair. I feel like, okay,
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: so if you are you watching Love Story the JFK
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: Junior show yet, Okay? The actress and that Sarah Pigeon,
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: she is originally brunette. She's gorgeous, Like she's got one
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: of those she's got one of those faces and personalities
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: that you're like cool, magnetic, but you can't, You're just
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: like she's cool. She has blonde hair for the show
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: and it is so made for her. And I feel
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: like you're that way, like you're dark, You're naturally dark, right, yeah,
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: but you look yeah whoa so night and day and everyone.
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: Normally people say you look best with your natural hair
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: color because it's obviously it's like made to compliment your features, right,
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: But she's an example of blonde looks better on y.
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: It like brightens her face. Yeah, I feel like you
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: have the same thing. But I haven't known you, brunette,
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: but you look so good blonde. However, Kelsey Ballerini just
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: went like light brown, and I was thinking, I feel
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: like it could look so good on you because it's
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: not dark. It's like a like a light brown. Tony's
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: gonna kill me, But like, did you tell.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: Tommy, like Becka told me light brown would look good
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: on me.
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: Because I think your eyes would pop. But it's so
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: pretty and it looks so good on her. It does.
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: But see, this is the problem.
• 29:24
  Speaker 4: And like people do like these inspo pics you like
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: bring them to your hair estylished and like I want
• 29:27
  Speaker 4: to look like this, like that photo has like teza
• 29:31
  Speaker 4: and it's like.
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: Blurry and like do you know what I mean? Like
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: who knows if it looks like that in real life?
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I don't know what it looks like in
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: real life. I'm just going off of off of the an.
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: Image that's been filtered. This is what's wrong with society.
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: But look, that's like high, like it's like brown with Yeah, it's.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: More brown, it's more rooty. Then it's a brown.
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: Darker like yeah. Yeah, I'm just saying it wouldn't be
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: like a you don't if you're craving a change.
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm craving it, like a craving a bit of
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: a change.
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: What was that?
• 30:04
  Speaker 5: Yeah, sound the sound of a crave, like a thirst.
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, okay, I do think that would be like
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: something I feel like. And I don't think it would
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: be hard to come back from. Like what if I
• 30:19
  Speaker 3: was like, you should go red?
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: That would be so that was like my my inkling
• 30:23
  Speaker 4: was strawberry blonde.
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: It's just hard, Yeah, if you if you want to
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: be more low maintenance, doing red is not.
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a little bit about me right now.
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: I think the bangs are bad choice just because you'd
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: hate the hair in your face. Okay, if you wanted
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: to darken a little bit, I do think that would
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: be a nice change for you. But it wouldn't be
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: like you couldn't get back to your blonde if you
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: needed to.
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: Okay, noted, And I do think your hair is so cute. Short,
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: m something to think about.
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: You know, like every time people like get married or
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: have a big like life moment, they're like, I'm just
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: gonna chop my hair or new change.
• 31:02
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 31:02
  Speaker 4: So well it is interesting because you kind of I mean,
• 31:05
  Speaker 4: I think I'm past that phase now, but like you,
• 31:07
  Speaker 4: you come off such a high that you're like, I
• 31:09
  Speaker 4: just need like another hand, another adrenaline rush. But I'm
• 31:13
  Speaker 4: definitely far past that. I think mine's more of just
• 31:15
  Speaker 4: like wanting to be a little bit more low maintenance.
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: Speaking of adrenaline rush, I went to Atlanta a couple
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: of weeks ago. Oh no, oh, yeah, yeah, and I
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: went to do this podcast for this woman, Lisa Easton.
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: I don't know in the podcast it might it might
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: be out yet already, so go listen if it is.
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: But I flew in to just do her podcast, and
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: then I flew out the next day.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: It's baller, by the way, when you're Lisa Easton is goals.
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah. So I flew out and then they booked me
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: for a six twenty pm flight And did I already
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: say I was in Atlanta? Atlanta? Yeah, so she where
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: we did the podcast was about an like a forty
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: minute drive from airport when I landed, because I landed
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: the night before and it was pretty late, so it
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: was pretty no traffic or anything. So the next day
• 32:06
  Speaker 3: my flights at six twenty. We were recording the podcast
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: at twelve thirty. So I was like, okay, we're gonna finish,
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: like I'm thinking most we do is two hours, right.
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: So I go on my little Delta app and see
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: that there's a four to fifty flight, and I go,
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: I don't want to be sitting around, you know me,
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: I have my carry on, I have clear I'm just
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: gonna switch it all over. No no fee to change it.
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: So I switched it to four fifty. I get a
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: text and they're like, hey, they're having some technical issues
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: with the studio, so like we're having to push the podcast.
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, no big deal. So I go,
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: we do the podcast.
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: What time do you start doing it.
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: I think we started the podcast probably at one.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: Okay, it's an hour behind.
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so do the pod three. Yeah. They're like, we're
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: gonna have some light bite, some champagne, and I'm like cool,
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: I'm acting chill, not even rushed. We do the podcast
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: and then We're like chit chatting, and I'm like, oh,
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: so I actually moved. They go what times your flight?
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: And I go, well, I had the six twenty that
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: y'all booked me on, but I saw there was a
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: four fifty, so I just switched it because I don't
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: like sitting around. I like to just like go and
• 33:12
  Speaker 3: get on the board. And she goes, oh my gosh,
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: like you have to go that the traffic. It's not
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: gonna be the traffic like when you got here, like
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: it could take two hours to get to the airport.
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: So I'm like okay. So I get in the car
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: with the driver and it's the My flight starts boarding
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: at four ten, and you know, I see the arrival
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: times for twenty, so I'm like, okay, we're gonna be
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: cutting it close. He goes, do you have clear and
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: I go yeah. He goes, I'm gonna drop you off
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: at the International security because it's right by your gate.
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: This guy was so legit. He dropped me off at
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: he knew, Yeah, he knew. He goes, I don't know
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: if you're gonna make it, but i'm excited to know
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: if you do. He goes, I'm going to drop you
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: off at International, You're gonna go through security there and
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: you're gonna just run your gate. So I do it
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: three minutes too late. And honestly, if I had just
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: been a little emboldened and asked, there was like a
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: little bit of line.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: For clearty chat. No.
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: No, I could have eliminated. I could light bite, yeah,
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: I could have could have eliminated a.
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: Light bike, or one glass of champagne.
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: I only had one. Couldn't have that, yeah, but I
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: wish I had.
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: Well.
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: I have mixed feelings about this because I choose my
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: path of being late and tardy, So I never want
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: to inconvene or asked to inconvenience someone else because of
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: my choice. Like if I had not changed my flight
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: and I was just late because of traffic and it
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: was just timing, and then I had to ask someone
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: like can I please go in front of you? Like
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: they're boarding my flight? And I'm so sorry. That's one thing,
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: but knowing that it was my choice, I just can't
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: ask someone if I could go in front of them.
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: But if I had asked, I would have made it. Yeah,
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: So I like I'm renting, Like I'm like gasping for
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: air and I'm like, how how far I'm like laughing,
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: I'm like, how far did I miss it? He goes
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: three minutes and.
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: I was like the flight, like the plane took off.
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: No, the plane's still there. They want to let you
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: shut the gates. Yeah. Yeah, once they shut the door,
• 35:16
  Speaker 3: you're screwed.
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: So I was like, so you watched the plane fly off.
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: I didn't even watch it. I went and change my
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: flight back to the original, and uh got home fine.
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: It was totally great. But everyone I posted about her,
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: I was like, I it's why we love you. But
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: I don't know how you do this life.
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: It's so interesting because like maybe it's because your cortisol
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: levels are just so low that like you don't hit
• 35:41
  Speaker 4: you because like the thought of doing that makes me
• 35:45
  Speaker 4: so anxious. Like I'm just like I'm in this stage
• 35:48
  Speaker 4: of my life where I just want to keep things
• 35:49
  Speaker 4: like as least anxiety inducing as humanly possible, so for
• 35:55
  Speaker 4: me to like even embark on such a but I
• 35:58
  Speaker 4: just did not enjoy that.
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: So what happened was I checked the original flight to
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: make sure there were seats still available. So I kind
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: of was in a place of being like if I
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: missed this flight.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: I'm good, I will be able to get on the
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: original flight.
• 36:13
  Speaker 4: What if you didn't, though, What if your original flight
• 36:15
  Speaker 4: was booked, would you have lazily gotten into your new
• 36:20
  Speaker 4: flight or would you've gone a little faster ask people
• 36:23
  Speaker 4: to cut Wait?
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: What if if there.
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: Was no seats left on your flight? You're six twenty yeah,
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: and you.
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: Had to make this four feat No, there was an
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: eight ten, So I probably would have said, if be
• 36:32
  Speaker 3: in the airport, I'll go to the Atlanta Aquarium day
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: good aquarium. So but here's the thing. I didn't have
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: anything to get home. Like Obviously I was excited to
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: get home and see Haley and Phoebe. But I knew
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: Hailey had an event that night, so I wasn't like
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: rushing home to see her, right. And I also was like,
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: I'm not trying to if I was, let's say I
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: was going to the podcast and I had a responsibility,
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to be irresponsible and switch my flight
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: like that. I mean, get where I need to go.
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: But when I didn't have anything, I thought, why not?
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: Why why not? Why not take it? Yeah, So it's
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: just a lesson for all of you. Try things. I
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: will never try that the a risk taker live a
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: little because what if? How cool if I but you
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: know what I and then I go, okay, it's okay
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: because now I'm gonna land at eight forty in LA
• 37:28
  Speaker 3: and I'm not gonna have traffic going home, whereas if
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: I had landed at six, I would have been stuck
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: in the traffic that I was sitting in the airport.
• 37:36
  Speaker 4: You know what I think about often actually, which is
• 37:39
  Speaker 4: like so crazy. When we flew back from Jared and
• 37:42
  Speaker 4: Ashley's wedding, we literally got to the airport in just
• 37:48
  Speaker 4: enough time to walk onto our gate and walk onto
• 37:52
  Speaker 4: the plane like I've never done that, where like I like,
• 37:55
  Speaker 4: I'm just like walking, like no stopping for the bathroom
• 37:57
  Speaker 4: like Pete in a hydro flask, Like we're just straight
• 38:00
  Speaker 4: going and like walking onto a flight.
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: That was so stressful.
• 38:06
  Speaker 6: Oh, I missed one flight in my life, and I
• 38:09
  Speaker 6: was recording at a prison in northern California with Governor
• 38:12
  Speaker 6: Gavin Newsom, and it went long and we were getting
• 38:16
  Speaker 6: to the airport and it was like we're going to
• 38:17
  Speaker 6: get there, I think ten minutes before it left or something.
• 38:22
  Speaker 6: And I had to checkle my equipment and Daniel Romo
• 38:24
  Speaker 6: who works with us. She was with me and she
• 38:26
  Speaker 6: just made a sprint for the gate and I checked
• 38:29
  Speaker 6: my gear and I started sprinting too, and they were
• 38:32
  Speaker 6: closing the door and I was like, hold it there,
• 38:34
  Speaker 6: and they like, once they start closing it, I think
• 38:36
  Speaker 6: they can't stop it. And she told them that we
• 38:39
  Speaker 6: were married. She's like, my husband's out there, and they
• 38:41
  Speaker 6: wouldn't let me on.
• 38:42
  Speaker 7: No.
• 38:42
  Speaker 5: I flamed my face and I had to take a
• 38:44
  Speaker 5: later flight home.
• 38:46
  Speaker 6: The funny thing is my equipment made it onto that flight,
• 38:47
  Speaker 6: so it did make the plane, which is crazy.
• 38:50
  Speaker 5: But I hated it. I hated.
• 38:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I've only missed one fight in my life as well.
• 38:56
  Speaker 4: But I didn't even make it to the airport, Like
• 38:58
  Speaker 4: I was so hungover that it was like one of
• 39:00
  Speaker 4: the iHeart Ready music festivals. My flight was at like
• 39:02
  Speaker 4: six am, Like I'm always like get me out first
• 39:05
  Speaker 4: thing Sunday morning, so I take like the earliest flight
• 39:07
  Speaker 4: out and I didn't even wake up until like eleven am.
• 39:10
  Speaker 4: So I like far missed it and I had to
• 39:13
  Speaker 4: drive back to LA with Amy Sugar because all the
• 39:17
  Speaker 4: flights were booked.
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never missed another flight.
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah, well it's life is life.
• 39:27
  Speaker 4: In life is life in and pressure and pressure and
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: to night.
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, yeah, that part the part.
• 39:42
  Speaker 3: So it's just about like living and stuff and like
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: what's the worst that can happen?
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: You know, I just could never be married to you,
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: is what I realized.
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: And that's that works, yeah for us.
• 39:54
  Speaker 4: But like I give props to Haley because if Robbie
• 39:58
  Speaker 4: were like you, it would be a really bad situation
• 40:01
  Speaker 4: for our relationship.
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: But I'm like, like, even with the Bahamas thing, when
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: when they had our flight fight or ride scheduled super
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: early and you wanted to go and then I didn't
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: want to go that early. We met in the middle.
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: Like I do believe in compromise. If I'm flying with someone,
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: I only really do that stuff if I'm like by myself.
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: And the Boston thing after Jared and Ashley's wedding, we
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: did not realize that was not even me being irresponsible.
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: We were so tired you had to pee in your
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: hydroflask like we were sitting in traffic.
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: It was very stressful. It was very stressful.
• 40:32
  Speaker 6: So I'm sorry if you consider it, how is it
• 40:35
  Speaker 6: does Haley want to get to the airport early what's
• 40:37
  Speaker 6: her attitude.
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: She's a little bit on the same page as me,
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: but she might run a little more stressed, Like I'm
• 40:43
  Speaker 3: a little more relaxed and she's a little more stressed
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: about it, but we kind of run in the same
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: I do.
• 40:47
  Speaker 6: I remember going to Tanya's wedding last year because you
• 40:50
  Speaker 6: were already there and we were in the airport and
• 40:53
  Speaker 6: Haley was on our flight going out and we hung
• 40:55
  Speaker 6: out with her and she was there same time as me,
• 40:57
  Speaker 6: which is pretty damn early love that.
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think probably when she's by herself, she's
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: a little more responsible. I held her back.
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: What do you think about?
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: It's something to think about, and thank you for bringing
• 41:09
  Speaker 3: that to my attention. I'll be more considerate moving forward.
• 41:16
  Speaker 3: We have a we have one like kind of miniature
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: dear Bonia question, because it's something we should talk talk
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: about and help her out with, and we'll do it
• 41:26
  Speaker 3: when we come back. We're back, We're back. Okay. So
• 41:49
  Speaker 3: this is from a tired and touched out scrubber. It
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: seems that this scrubber has a different love language than
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: their partner that you want to read these.
• 41:57
  Speaker 6: I'd love to thank you for the invitation Hello with
• 42:01
  Speaker 6: six o's to my favorite people. I'm a stay at
• 42:04
  Speaker 6: home mom to a two year old in five month
• 42:06
  Speaker 6: old twins. I feel incredibly blessed and truly love being
• 42:09
  Speaker 6: in this role, but caring for a toddler while also nursing, holding,
• 42:12
  Speaker 6: and caring for two infants all day is exhausting.
• 42:15
  Speaker 5: By the end of the day, I.
• 42:16
  Speaker 6: Am completely spent. I also grew up in a non
• 42:19
  Speaker 6: touchy feely home. There's lots of love, but not much
• 42:21
  Speaker 6: physical affection, so physical touch has not been a big
• 42:25
  Speaker 6: need for me. My husband, on the other hand, thrives
• 42:27
  Speaker 6: on it. It is his number one love language and
• 42:29
  Speaker 6: I've worked hard to meet him there. He is honestly
• 42:31
  Speaker 6: an angel. After working all day, he jumps right in
• 42:34
  Speaker 6: with helping with the kids, cooking, cleaning, baths, bedtime, house projects,
• 42:38
  Speaker 6: and even make sure I get breaks to see friends
• 42:40
  Speaker 6: or get out of the house. My love language is
• 42:42
  Speaker 6: acts of service, and he shows up for me constantly.
• 42:44
  Speaker 6: The issue is he wants to cuddle all night long,
• 42:48
  Speaker 6: and I literally cannot sleep while being touched. In fact,
• 42:51
  Speaker 6: I'm literally writing this in the middle of the night
• 42:53
  Speaker 6: while he's cuddling me because I cannot sleep.
• 42:55
  Speaker 5: Oh Wow.
• 42:57
  Speaker 6: I'm happy to cuddle before bed, and I try to
• 42:59
  Speaker 6: fill his cup in the day with hugs, holding hands,
• 43:02
  Speaker 6: sitting close with the kids, all of that. But when
• 43:04
  Speaker 6: it's time to actually sleep, I just can't do it.
• 43:06
  Speaker 6: I brought it up before, and it makes him really sad.
• 43:09
  Speaker 6: This is truly the one thing he asks for while
• 43:11
  Speaker 6: meeting so maybe my needs every day. But I'm also
• 43:13
  Speaker 6: running on themes between the babies waking up and not
• 43:15
  Speaker 6: being able to sleep when I get back into bed.
• 43:17
  Speaker 6: How can I meet his need for physical touch without
• 43:19
  Speaker 6: hurting him while also getting the rest I need to
• 43:21
  Speaker 6: show up as the mom I want to be ps
• 43:24
  Speaker 6: in this season, it's really hard to take all my
• 43:25
  Speaker 6: kids out to do things because I simply don't have
• 43:27
  Speaker 6: enough hands. So we take a lot of drives and
• 43:29
  Speaker 6: I listen to the pod gets me through many difficult days.
• 43:32
  Speaker 6: And I appreciate you for.
• 43:33
  Speaker 5: More than you know. Thank you for what you do.
• 43:35
  Speaker 4: Wow, I mean I am her husband in this situation,
• 43:39
  Speaker 4: So all right.
• 43:40
  Speaker 3: I love like I love cuddling, and Haley and I
• 43:43
  Speaker 3: are both like physical touches one of our top love languages,
• 43:46
  Speaker 3: so that works for us. But I do feel like
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: when we go to bed, it's like we cuddle and
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: then like when we are both like going to sleep,
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: we like just naturally separate and I could not do
• 43:57
  Speaker 3: if like I like because I like to have my
• 44:01
  Speaker 3: legs I turn and toss and like I just want
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: to have like the freedom and space to do it.
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: So I feel like it's well, how would you handle
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: it for Robbie said, hey, I.
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: Think we lived through this. Oh oh so yeah, this
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: is no, no, no, I'll be this. Yeah.
• 44:17
  Speaker 4: I like I would like to cuddle all night long,
• 44:19
  Speaker 4: Like I would just love to like be on top
• 44:20
  Speaker 4: of each other the whole night.
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: He is at hard.
• 44:24
  Speaker 4: He doesn't he doesn't sleep so great, so it's like
• 44:27
  Speaker 4: important for him. He needs like his space to sleep,
• 44:29
  Speaker 4: and I too. When he told me that, I'm like,
• 44:32
  Speaker 4: you know, I did my like pouty thing, and then
• 44:34
  Speaker 4: I was like, you know what, Obviously sleep is important.
• 44:36
  Speaker 4: So we have a compromise. And it's not really compromise
• 44:39
  Speaker 4: because he wants to do it too. But we cuddle
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: when we like watch TV or whatever in bed. Then
• 44:44
  Speaker 4: when its time of sleep, we like separate. We're on
• 44:46
  Speaker 4: our different sides of the bed. And then on the
• 44:48
  Speaker 4: weekends when we wake up, we cuddle when we wake
• 44:52
  Speaker 4: up before getting out of bed, so we still have
• 44:53
  Speaker 4: like morning cuddles.
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: Oh. I don't know if they have this option because
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: they have small kids and babies, but I do like that.
• 45:01
  Speaker 4: Like we obviously can't do it during the week because
• 45:03
  Speaker 4: we're getting up at different times, but whenever we can,
• 45:07
  Speaker 4: we cut on bed. But when we sleep time is
• 45:10
  Speaker 4: sleep time. He's just gonna have to get over it.
• 45:12
  Speaker 3: Like I understand because.
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: I was like poudy about it too, but like he'll
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: get over it.
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: I also think it's like the way you communicate it,
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: which is like, hey, I'm I'm already not getting a
• 45:21
  Speaker 3: lot of sleep and taking care of the kids. I'm
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: very touched. I have multiple hands on me wanting me
• 45:27
  Speaker 3: at all times, and when I sleep, that's like my
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: only time where I'm not having to think about that.
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: So and maybe ask him, like what is the compromise,
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: because like, I want to be able to you fill
• 45:37
  Speaker 3: my cup so much.
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: I really lead with that.
• 45:40
  Speaker 4: Praise him for he shows up for you, and you
• 45:43
  Speaker 4: want to show up the way that way back.
• 45:44
  Speaker 3: But this is just really IMPORTANTEP, and it's important for
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: you to have sleep, so you have the energy and
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: capacity to give to him and the kids. But I
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: would just say, what, what is a way that I
• 45:55
  Speaker 3: can still have my space when I so I'm able
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: to sleep, but also that you feel love didn't seen
• 46:00
  Speaker 3: and have your love language fulfilled because you do that
• 46:04
  Speaker 3: for me and he if he's like it's cuddling all
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: night or.
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: Else, no, he's not going to this guy sounds I know.
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: I'm just saying. I think you just need to like
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: lean into how wonderful he is to you and fills
• 46:15
  Speaker 3: your cup, but you also need to be able to sleep,
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: and you can't sleep if you're being touched.
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: He's one of the good ones.
• 46:24
  Speaker 3: You have this issue on the same page.
• 46:28
  Speaker 6: I mean, uh yeah, like not to this extent, but
• 46:32
  Speaker 6: you know, I mean so I can tell him she
• 46:33
  Speaker 6: doesn't want to be touched and I respect it, and.
• 46:36
  Speaker 5: That's you know, I move on.
• 46:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, he's just gotta he's just gotta. No,
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: it's not personal for sure. Yeah yeah yeah. Just remember
• 46:48
  Speaker 3: you guys. If you ever want some just advice, excellent advice,
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: excellent advice, just dm this on Instagram at scrubbing in
• 46:55
  Speaker 3: pod or email us at scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot
• 46:57
  Speaker 3: com Tanya. I hope you're having the best time in
• 46:59
  Speaker 3: Mexico so much.
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: Hope you enjoying your weekend as well.
• 47:02
  Speaker 3: Thank you, We love you all, Love you Bye.