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Stop Chasing Fruit- Start Checking the Root · High Level Wife Podcast with Chelsey Holm

• 0:34
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: These are called espresso shots.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: High level wife espresso shots because I have been working on a massive project.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not going to get into that, but I'm going to fire off, and these are going to be about five-minute episodes.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: So get ready.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_00: Stop chasing fruit and start checking the root.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: This is going to be a quick one.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that the one of the biggest mistakes that we make in marriage, and honestly, in our walk with Christ, is we become obsessed with fruit while ignoring the root.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_00: I love a good rhyme, don't you?
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: We don't like that we're impatient and we don't like that we keep snapping at our husband.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: We don't like that we feel distant, anxious, anxious, not anxious.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: I hope we don't feel anxious.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anxious, controlling, critical, or easily offended.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: So what do we do?
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: We try harder.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: We white knuckle better behavior.
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_00: But better behavior management has never been God's primary concern.
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: So because throughout scripture, God is always after the heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jesus said in Luke 6.45, out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
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  SPEAKER_00: Notice what he didn't say.
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  SPEAKER_00: He didn't say your mouth is the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: He said your mouth is revealing the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your words are fruit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your reactions are fruit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your attitudes are fruit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your habits are fruit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fruit always grows from a root.
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  SPEAKER_00: But is that fresh fruit or rotting fruit?
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  SPEAKER_00: So instead of asking, how do I stop yelling?
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead ask, what belief or what thought is producing my anger, right?
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_00: Driving it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of asking, how do I stop controlling everything?
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: Ask, what am I afraid will happen if I let go?
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_00: Instead of asking, why am I so critical?
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: Ask, what is my heart believing right now?
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: I was just doing some coaching with a client and she said, This is so hard.
• 2:18
  SPEAKER_00: And I said, Tell me, are you rehearsing that thought every day?
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: This is so hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you're training your brain to look for and validate and confirm that belief.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you are intentionally telling your brain to look for the hard.
• 2:34
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, because every unhealthy fruit has a deeper root.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's what we're telling ourselves or we're what we're consuming.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's fear, sometimes it's pride, sometimes it's unbelief or an idol, or it's simply forgetting who God is and who we are in him.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: But here's the beautiful part that God isn't intimidated by your roots.
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  SPEAKER_00: He doesn't shame you for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: He actually wants you and invites you to bring them into his light so that he can transform them.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_00: The Pharisees focused on outward appearances, and we so easily do as well.
• 3:03
  SPEAKER_00: But Jesus always addressed the inside first.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when God changes the root, the fruit eventually changes too.
• 3:12
  SPEAKER_00: So here's my challenge for you today.
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  SPEAKER_00: The next time you notice a reaction in yourself that you don't like, don't just ask, how do I stop this, right?
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_00: And then just try harder.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead, ask, Lord, what is this revealing about my heart?
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: And that question alone has the power to change your marriage, your parenting, your friendships, every relationship.
• 3:31
  SPEAKER_00: Before we go, I want to leave you with a passage to study on your own.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go read Luke chapter 6, verses 43 through 45.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't just skim it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Actually, sit with it, read it, consume it word by word, and ask the Holy Spirit to show you what fruit he's exposing in your life and what root he wants to heal.
• 3:50
  SPEAKER_00: Remember, we're not chasing better behavior.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're pursuing heart transformation.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: This was an espresso shot for high level wife.
• 3:59
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you on the next episode.