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Women’s Hidden Sins: 50 Shades of Smut, Twilight & Social Media · Goon Tavern

• 0:03
  SPEAKER_00: One thing that feminism allowed women to have was open and free reign with their sexuality, allowing them to embrace their own self-destructive behavior without any consequences.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_00: In 2025, Americans purchased approximately 44 million romance novels in a single year.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: That is a substantial market, even before accounting for ebooks and audiobooks.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: In 2020, a survey conducted by Covenant Eyes, a Christian organization in partnership with Crystal Renald Day, examined a self-selected group of female pornography users, finding that of their responses when asked, only 6.7% said that they had heard about female pornography use discussed in a sermon.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: Other questions about their personal Christian walk included 88% reporting that they attended church regularly, 81% reported praying regularly, and 72% reported reading their Bible regularly.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: Now, most of the time with pornography, it is discussed as usual towards the male struggle, because it is easy to think that they are the only ones that wrestle with this.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: But the thing is, where men's sins might be more obvious, a woman's sins when it comes to sexuality is a lot more subtle.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_00: Usually this comes in the case of romance novels, certain spicy articles, movies, or television shows like Sex in the City, or consumption of movies that seem harmless like The Twilight Series or The Notebook.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: Or the blunt and obvious Fifty Shades of Grey, that was released on February 13th, 2015, of all weekends, Valentine's Day.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_00: The first novel, when it was released in 2011, sold 15.2 million copies, and over 150 million copies worldwide.
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: Of all three books, it sold over 45 million copies in the United States during its peak.
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: Now, on top of this, the pornography demon, when it comes to women, is catching up to men.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: For example, a study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that those that consumed pornography in the past month, 91.5% were men, and 60.2% were women.
• 2:25
  SPEAKER_00: The point of all of this is to show that the destructiveness of pornography does not target just one sex, but both are being destroyed.
• 2:34
  SPEAKER_00: The sad reality is the usage of pornography is increasing among women.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: Take, for example, in 2014, the percentage of women that view pornography from ages 18 to 24 was only 16%.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: And from a study that was done in 2024, which was two years ago, this age group has increased to 44% for women.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: Now, granted, there are various studies that are on various age groups and specific types of pornography, but these numbers still should show an increase in women that are engaged in this destructive behavior.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: The question is not only should we address these issues, how can we actually fight these issues and not pretend that it doesn't affect only men?
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: Our sisters' hearts and minds are being attacked, and it's something that should be addressed and not swept under the rug or shied away from.
• 3:30
  SPEAKER_00: Because just like I know, many of my brothers wish to be free from this dragon.
• 3:35
  SPEAKER_00: So do our sisters in Christ.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: Everyone, welcome to the Goon Tavern.
• 4:18
  SPEAKER_00: I know you're probably thinking, well, what's today gonna be talking about?
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_00: Well, it's gonna be a mix of things.
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_00: As we talked about in the code opening, there is an unspoken thing that's going on right now because I think a lot of times we believed in a lot of the old things that usually take place when it comes to the use of sexuality.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of times it's addressed with men, most of the time from the pulpit.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: But currently, right now, has things been changing with that dynamic?
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: It is not the same as it used to be, unfortunately.
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: And so we're gonna dive into this topic when it comes to women and current struggles that women are having when it comes to sexuality and the different angles that this is gonna come from.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: It's not gonna be your typical, like with guys, it's usually the typical pornography use online, which there is that issue, of course, with women too, but we're gonna dig also into some things that are more subtle that are not things that are usually talked about, especially from the pulpit, unfortunately.
• 5:18
  SPEAKER_00: I think that's just because it's something that we just don't consider.
• 5:22
  SPEAKER_00: We don't look at women in this light.
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_00: And sadly, because of feminism and the rampantness of loose sexuality, it's become more and more normal among our sisters in Christ, unfortunately.
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_00: And the first thing that we're gonna dive into is that this is not just a men's issue as it used to be in the past, unfortunately.
• 5:44
  SPEAKER_00: And as we talked about, it is increased where the use of pornography among women is not as low as it used to be in comparison to men.
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_00: And some of these questions that we're gonna dive into like you have Fifty Shades of Grey, a lot of these novels and stuff, sexually explicit material comes in different forms.
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, it comes in video, you have imagery, exotic stories, and explicit romance novels.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: And some of the questions you might be asking too is why is men's pornography consumption often condemned?
• 6:15
  SPEAKER_00: Well, women's consumption is usually completely ignored.
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I think it's because we just haven't adjusted the wagons per se that we have circled in this fight against pornography.
• 6:25
  SPEAKER_00: It's always been focusing on men and not women.
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I hope that with what we're gonna discuss today, that will probably change a little bit.
• 6:33
  SPEAKER_00: Because Christians should apply the same moral principles when addressing both sex, whether it's men or women.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: This isn't about an either-or mentality, but we are gonna be focusing more today about the women's side of what is going on with all this.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_00: Obviously, we know Matthew 27, 28.
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_00: Jesus makes it explicitly clear it's not just about the physical act of things, but it's about your heart.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_00: It's about protecting your mind as well.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I think those are all important.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: And it's easy for us to think that it's not as big of a deal when it comes to women.
• 7:08
  SPEAKER_00: So I personally believe that the church is just overlooking women's sexual sin right now.
• 7:15
  SPEAKER_00: Research involving female pornography users who identify as Christians raises the questions whether churches are adequately addressing these issues.
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: Pastors usually may focus, as we mentioned, on male pornography consumption while overlooking the possibility of women struggling with sexual content as well.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_00: Churches should address sexual integrity consistently without excusing one sex or condemning just men only.
• 7:42
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that a lot of guys that it's common that when this is brought up that they are and rightfully so, we don't want to just allow it where we just ignore the use of what men consume and just brush it off.
• 7:57
  SPEAKER_00: But a lot of times I think men feel like it's always just one-sided on them.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_00: And today we're just gonna focus on the women more because there is a lot of stuff that is consumed among women that I think they themselves maybe haven't even questioned if it's wrong.
• 8:12
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's very easy to think that, well, if it's comes in a book form, it's not as dangerous.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_00: Or if it comes in some type of movie that we enjoy watching because it's entertainment value or it tugs at our heartstrings, we think that it is okay.
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't think that that is wise.
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: I think James 5.16, we need to confess, we need to confess.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: There's prayer, accountability needs to take place within the church.
• 8:38
  SPEAKER_00: But if we don't ever address what this looks like, it's gonna be very difficult to explore.
• 8:44
  SPEAKER_00: Exotic romance and entertainment, okay.
• 8:46
  SPEAKER_00: I think there's a double standard with this, okay?
• 8:49
  SPEAKER_00: And I want to distinguish between romance novels from sexily explicit fiction intended to stimulate sexual desire, okay?
• 8:57
  SPEAKER_00: I know there's a lot of ladies out there, Christian ladies, that love their Hallmark movies and they love the Hallmark channel.
• 9:04
  SPEAKER_00: I used to watch the Hallmark Channel a lot with my grandmother when I was a caretaker for her, and I realized one thing about the Hallmark Channel that ugly people do not fall in love.
• 9:13
  SPEAKER_00: It is only basically gorgeous people that fall in love on the Hallmark channel, that is for sure.
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I want to make a distinction too between clean romance stories as well.
• 9:22
  SPEAKER_00: I understand that there are stories out there where it's a clean romance where it's just about two falling in love and Hallmark movies, and those aren't bad per se.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_00: I would also kind of like so have you ladies just challenge you on this too.
• 9:36
  SPEAKER_00: If you are single ladies and you're consuming a lot of this material, the expectations because of these romance films, even though they're Hallmark films and they're clean, they don't really subjectify women or they're sexual in nature, but it can become a problem if you consume too much of it, I believe, because it produces this idea of a fantasy of Disney pretty much that is not based in reality.
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: It's not always going to be the idea of the small town girl going to the small town where the guy that she knew in high school, and then she finds out, like, oh, he's handsome now and ripped, and I, but I have my career in the city and I have to come back to the small town.
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_00: And there's always some old guy and a dog in the story at the end for some lame reason.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know why.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: But my point is in saying this, I don't want a dog on Hallmark.
• 10:22
  SPEAKER_00: I know that a lot of you ladies like that, but just for wisdom's sake, be careful how you exume too much of that.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: If you consume too much of it, it's very easy to have this idea that this is how it's supposed to work out.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be where he gets off the plane and he gets a taxi and he runs back into the store of where he left her when they turn around and they see each other.
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_00: And the classic line that we always hear in most homework fans, like, what are you doing here?
• 10:47
  SPEAKER_00: You know, as if she doesn't know why he's there.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_00: She knows.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_00: She knows, or he knows in that matter.
• 10:53
  SPEAKER_00: It could be.
• 10:53
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_00: But here's the thing: we'll have probably a picture in the video on this.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_00: There is a novel, this is the highest-selling novel, okay, of this last year, or I think it was this year, by C.M.
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_00: Nascosta, I think is his name.
• 11:07
  SPEAKER_00: And it's about a monitor baiting romance, uh monster bait romance, as it was called, Morning Glory Milking Farm.
• 11:15
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 11:16
  SPEAKER_00: It's about a centaur where basically a woman becomes romantically involved with a half-beast, half man.
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_00: And I got the description right here.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_00: I won't read all of it because it's just so disgusting, pretty much.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: But this is what ladies are consuming, okay?
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_00: So it's an adult monster romance, all right?
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_00: And it says it's about this lady named Violet, who's a young woman struggling financially to take a job at a specialized farm where centaurs undergo a milking process to produce reproductive fluids, including a chemical in chemical products.
• 11:55
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 11:56
  SPEAKER_00: Although she initially views the work as an unconventional way to earn money, she develops a romantic and sexual relationship with one of the montars, a gentle and reserved individual named Raruk.
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if I'm pronouncing that right, I don't really care.
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_00: The story combines fantasy, workplace drama, emotional intimacy, and explicitly sexual content exploring themes of loneliness, self-worth, attraction, and unconventional relationships.
• 12:23
  SPEAKER_00: It is erotic rather than traditional romance novel with graphic sexual scenes and premises central on sexual activity and reproductive limits.
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_00: That was the number one seller in romance novels this year or it was last year.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not sure exactly.
• 12:42
  SPEAKER_00: This is the type of garbage that ladies are consuming.
• 12:45
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 12:46
  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, can written sexual fantasies raise moral questions similar to those raised by visual pornography?
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely yes.
• 12:53
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely yes.
• 12:55
  SPEAKER_00: The the as I've heard, the mind is the largest sex organ, okay?
• 12:59
  SPEAKER_00: So when you are consuming stuff and your imagination is running wild with what this is, it not only gives unrealistic expectations, unrealisticness in terms of relationships, but it also causes damage in terms of your heart and mind.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_00: When Jesus says you lust for a woman with your it's about your heart issue, it's not any different for women as well.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_00: Just because it says lust after a woman in the context does not mean women are immune from the idea of lusting for men or lusting for this sensualized romantic relationship.
• 13:31
  SPEAKER_00: It can have the same exact effect on her heart and mind, just as it can with a man having unrealistic expectations of sexuality within marriage down the road.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_00: And both are disasters.
• 13:43
  SPEAKER_00: They are not going to be helpful at all.
• 13:46
  SPEAKER_00: And some Christians condemn explicit videos, but a lot of times I think they overlook sexual explicit material in books.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: It's very easy to kind of just like shrug it off, like, oh, those romance novels.
• 13:59
  SPEAKER_00: And it's like, and there's always like a huge section in the thrift store that's just right there.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_00: It's like five shelves, pretty much.
• 14:07
  SPEAKER_00: And you can get any type of filth you want, but it's not like a magazine cover where it's just a simple naked lady and it looks like, oh, ooh, that's ugly.
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_00: It comes in black and white linked pages that you're not gonna think of.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_00: And so for ladies, like I mentioned in the opening, it is very subtle when it comes to sexual sins, then I think as obvious as it is for men.
• 14:31
  SPEAKER_00: It's not always the same how it comes in terms of packaging.
• 14:35
  SPEAKER_00: And ladies, you need to be careful about this.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_00: Be careful about what you're consuming.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_00: If it is sexual in nature and it's the idea of stimulating your mind sexually, it's not healthy.
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_00: It's sinful.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_00: You're allowing basically your mind, even though it might not be visual, your mind is creating the imagery for you, which I think is even more strong and more dangerous.
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_00: We need to examine fictional portrayals of men, relationship, and sexual encounters can influence expectations in real life relationships.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_00: I think the reason why there is such a high divorce rate where women file divorce is a number of things.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_00: I think it does have to do with what you're consuming in terms of your idea of an expectation of what a marriage should look like.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_00: If it's based on the romance novels that you're reading, and you're like, well, why doesn't he look like Fabio?
• 15:25
  SPEAKER_00: Why doesn't he have a six-pack?
• 15:27
  SPEAKER_00: He's not as fit as all these other guys in these books that I'm consuming.
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_00: And that's the kind of guy I want.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_00: That's the kind of guy I deserve.
• 15:34
  SPEAKER_00: And so what happens is you create this huge expectation in your mind without even probably even realizing it.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_00: And then it just consumes your marriage and your relationships with your boyfriend, fiance, or your husband.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_00: And then it becomes this idea that, like, well, he's not meeting the bar.
• 15:49
  SPEAKER_00: And my standard is basically made up of this fantasy that doesn't even exist.
• 15:53
  SPEAKER_00: There's no man, you're talking about a unicorn that doesn't exist.
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_00: And the same thing can be also for men in the sense of it has to be through this hot, sexy lady that was never going to gain weight, or she's never gonna have stretch marks after a kid, or whatever it might be.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: And then we end up having it where we are comparing our spouses to things that never should have been compared to in the first place.
• 16:14
  SPEAKER_00: I think another thing that is often not considered as well is this creating this unrealistic expectation within relationships, it comes in different forms of not just this romance reading novels.
• 16:26
  SPEAKER_00: It also has to do with social media.
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_00: It can also do with certain articles that you read of expectations that other women might have of their husbands.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_00: And then sometimes, ladies, if you're around other women that are just always speaking negatively of their husbands and you have a good husband, it could be easy where that rubs off on you, and then you start to become nitpicky about little things that really don't matter when it comes to your husband.
• 16:47
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't mean that he doesn't have his own faults, but it could be that it creates this idea in your head of like because you're around people that are always finding fault with their husband, that can be the same for you over time as well.
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_00: And that that could be huge, huge problems.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_00: So we got to consider what deserves our attention and occupies our minds.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_00: If you look at Philippians 4 8, it would be a good verse to look up.
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_00: Of course, we also have feminism, sexual autonomy, and personal accountability, which are completely out of the window now because of feminism.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_00: And so you need to examine the tension that this will cause between individuals' sexual autonomy and Christian understanding of moral responsibility.
• 17:27
  SPEAKER_00: The world is gonna tell you give into what you want, your desires, what you want, what you need.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: That is what's important.
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_00: Like, who cares what everyone else thinks?
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_00: You get it, you get what you want, you know, and when you feel you're not getting what you want, pull the ripcord.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_00: Just get out of there.
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_00: And so I think the other thing is that is something that will happen within their marriages, but the other thing as well is the moral responsibility is something that Christians are supposed to have and we're supposed to keep.
• 17:56
  SPEAKER_00: We don't dictate our Christian morality based on what the world says or what they think is acceptable because they want free reign of sexuality to be anything and all that they expect it to be.
• 18:11
  SPEAKER_00: We don't want that.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_00: And as Christians, it's easy for something that is maybe subtle or we're ashamed of because it's so small, like reading certain novels, ladies, that can creep into our mind and our thought life because it seems so easy.
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_00: I think the most dangerous sins are the most subtle sins.
• 18:30
  SPEAKER_00: And with this, I think it's something that hasn't been addressed, to my acknowledge.
• 18:34
  SPEAKER_00: As we talked about, you had it where the survey was like 6.7% of women said that they have references where they had it where pornography use among women was even addressed in sermons.
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_00: That's crazy.
• 18:48
  SPEAKER_00: And so a lot of times I think when it is addressed, if it is addressed, it's very brief.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, oh yeah, by the way, this affects women too.
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_00: And they give the number and then they move on.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_00: And then they just browbeat the men for the rest 45 minutes of the sermon.
• 19:01
  SPEAKER_00: So we need to be supporting others while accepting personal responsibility.
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_00: You got Galatians 6, 2 through 5.
• 19:08
  SPEAKER_00: The other thing is when it comes to pornography, okay, sexual fanny and marital intimacy.
• 19:15
  SPEAKER_00: Could repeat exposure, here's a question, could repeat repeated exposure to idolizing sexual imagery influence expectations about bodies, performance, and intimacy?
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, it's the same thing even for men and women.
• 19:28
  SPEAKER_00: You're not gonna tell me that.
• 19:30
  SPEAKER_00: Think of it.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_00: There's no romance novel where you have a guy with a beer belly and he's losing a few teeth and he got pimples all over his face.
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_00: You're not gonna see that in a romance novel.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: It's usually this ripped guy with these amazing pecs, and he has this flowing hair, and he's just all ripped, or he has the hair on his chest or his arms on all the right places, or is clean shaving like a naked mole rat.
• 19:53
  SPEAKER_00: And the lady is, of course, always with this shoulder like bodice that she's wearing when just oh, he's so amazing.
• 20:01
  SPEAKER_00: And that's what you got.
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not saying that, ladies, your husbands all look like that.
• 20:06
  SPEAKER_00: I hope not.
• 20:06
  SPEAKER_00: I think guys should take care of their bodies just like women should.
• 20:10
  SPEAKER_00: But what that does is it creates an idea of imagery in your head that isn't realistic and isn't something that is gonna be the norm.
• 20:20
  SPEAKER_00: And you have to have love and sacrifice and responsibility within marriage.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: Ephesians 5, 25 through 33 is a good reference on that.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_00: To move on, we also have accountability in the church.
• 20:32
  SPEAKER_00: It must go both ways.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_00: I think what often happens a lot is we have always, as pastors, I think, and sometimes in the church, is that we always approach things the same way, thinking that and yes, sometimes there are generalities where okay, pornography use is more used among men than women.
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_00: That's true.
• 20:54
  SPEAKER_00: But we don't want to also just forget the areas of where ladies struggle in this and then just be surprised like, why are these women all divorcing their husbands?
• 21:03
  SPEAKER_00: Why is it that they're not happy with their husbands?
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_00: Why are they withholding sex from their husbands?
• 21:07
  SPEAKER_00: If that's not going to be linked to pornography, just like it would the same for a man or a husband, that's just fooling ourselves to thinking that's how it's going to be, or that's not what is happening in these situations.
• 21:19
  SPEAKER_00: We could ask the question like, why should a man be held accountable for pornography consumption?
• 21:24
  SPEAKER_00: Well, a woman might be excused for comparable sexual behavior, such as through novels or watching trashy movies.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: You got sex in the city, you got these films that are just all about the sexual gratification of these fantasies of women having sex with their bosses and all these different things that they come or that come into their head, and there's no substance behind it.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: It's just trash, it's just absolute garbage.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: Another question to ask ourselves are churches consistently addressing sexual integrity among men and women?
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_00: And I would say they're not.
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_00: I think that there is a huge problem when you Have it where 5% of all Christian married couples are both virgins on their wedding night.
• 22:06
  SPEAKER_00: And I've addressed this in the past on other episodes.
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_00: If we think that we can allow men and women to wait until they're 30s and give them this bomb, which is their sexuality that God has given them from 13, 16 on, to expect them to remain pure in their heads and thoughts for 15 more years before they get married.
• 22:28
  SPEAKER_00: You're not going to tell me that that's not going to come with baggage once everyone screws up?
• 22:33
  SPEAKER_00: When the guys have made all these mistakes of looking at pornography, when women have read all these trashy romance novels and then expect them to have good marriages and why divorce is on the rise, because we haven't encouraged young men and women to get married early rather than wait and to not have this expectation that you have to have your life altogether when you get married, which is how a lot of people think these days.
• 22:54
  SPEAKER_00: I have to focus on my career, and then if I have time, I'll get married at some point.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_00: And you have ladies that go to the nth degree where they'll freeze their eggs, they'll wait until they're 40 to get married.
• 23:06
  SPEAKER_00: And then once they get to the point of like finally settling down, they ask themselves, where have all the good guys gone?
• 23:13
  SPEAKER_00: Well, they're all married by that point.
• 23:15
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I know ladies don't like to hear this, but part of your value, ladies, is your youth.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_00: It is your youth because that is what men are looking for.
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_00: They want to create a family.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_00: The older you get, the likelihood of you becoming pregnant and having it where you're going to have a child is more difficult.
• 23:34
  SPEAKER_00: That doesn't mean I wish ill on any women that are older when they get married, but it's something of a part of reality that has to be actually talked about.
• 23:44
  SPEAKER_00: After 30 years old, ladies, your egg production goes down 50%.
• 23:49
  SPEAKER_00: That is huge and drastic.
• 23:50
  SPEAKER_00: And then every five years after that, it drops continually.
• 23:53
  SPEAKER_00: So don't take that lightly and just don't think that, like, well, I'll just wait until late later.
• 23:58
  SPEAKER_00: I think honestly, get married young.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_00: Avoid the whole sexual temptation of being run through in your college years, ladies, and have it where it ends up biting you later, where it just ruins your marriage because you have all these expectations and fancies that you filled your head with.
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_00: They're just causing huge issues.
• 24:17
  SPEAKER_00: We also have to look at there's a little bit of hypocrisy.
• 24:20
  SPEAKER_00: Selective reinforcement of moral standards can undermine trust as well.
• 24:26
  SPEAKER_00: I think when because guys aren't dumb, like a lot of times we like to always think like is with these guys.
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_00: Why, why, why do they not want to show up to church so much?
• 24:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not making an excuse that they shouldn't.
• 24:38
  SPEAKER_00: Biblically, they should, but men are losing trust with the church when it ends up that they see the inconsistencies.
• 24:45
  SPEAKER_00: And I think if we have a church that is always focused on the idea that sin is always one side of the aisle rather than the other side, and only 50% of the audience, we got a huge problem in our hands.
• 24:57
  SPEAKER_00: And men can see that because I think it's not that men don't want accountability.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_00: I think there's tons of programs out there for men to have accountability in discipleship, Bible studies, you name it.
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_00: And I think a lot of guys will admit, like, yeah, I screwed up this week, I looked at this, I didn't want to, I'm ashamed of this.
• 25:17
  SPEAKER_00: No, men know that it's not good for them and that they want to get rid of it and kill it.
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_00: But if we want to just always focus on one side of the aisle and think that women aren't struggling with this, we're doing a disservice to half of the church.
• 25:32
  SPEAKER_00: They need to be actually called out on their sin and have accountability as well, and not just pretend that this has only happened on one side of the aisle because it isn't anymore.
• 25:42
  SPEAKER_00: As we talked about in the opening, we've gone from 14% to now 60% women view pornography regularly.
• 25:51
  SPEAKER_00: So this is a huge problem.
• 25:53
  SPEAKER_00: And that's not even counting the novels as well, reading that's trash.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and we need to challenge Christian to confront wrongdoing with honesty and consistency rather than favoritism or brow beating just because it's easier to pick on the guys because they can take it.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_00: I get it.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_00: Guys can take the criticism easier, but I don't think if we're gonna act like women don't have any strengths, they have to also hear the hard truth sometimes, just like men have to hear the hard truth sometimes.
• 26:23
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying that the church always has to be like, hey, who's the canon being point out today?
• 26:27
  SPEAKER_00: You know, who's gonna get blown away by the scriptures?
• 26:30
  SPEAKER_00: But if we love our congregation, we're going to approach both sides and not just one.
• 26:36
  SPEAKER_00: Accountability has to be encourage and repentance and restoration.
• 26:41
  SPEAKER_00: You got Matthew 7, 3 through 5 and Galatians 6, 1, examine your own conduct, restore others and gentleness.
• 26:48
  SPEAKER_00: That's huge.
• 26:49
  SPEAKER_00: It's not easy.
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's not easy to confess these things.
• 26:52
  SPEAKER_00: The other thing is, what does biblical sexual faithfulness require?
• 26:56
  SPEAKER_00: You have Christian sexual integrity.
• 26:58
  SPEAKER_00: I think this is something that is huge.
• 27:01
  SPEAKER_00: It requires examining your own behavior, not merely criticizing others as well.
• 27:06
  SPEAKER_00: Just like it talks about, you know, like you might have the log in your own line, you're pointing out the speck in your brother's eye.
• 27:13
  SPEAKER_00: I can't talk on this issue if I haven't dealt with my own sin when it comes to this.
• 27:18
  SPEAKER_00: I've been there, okay?
• 27:20
  SPEAKER_00: I have not read trashy romance novels, but I have my own problems that I've had to deal with with sin and overcoming those obstacles.
• 27:27
  SPEAKER_00: And I wouldn't talk about this issue if I didn't feel there was some hope to overcome these obstacles because I believe you can.
• 27:34
  SPEAKER_00: The biggest thing for me, if I can give my own personal testimony to this, I think a lot of times, you know, men or women, you know, we either put filters on our computer, we have an accountability partner.
• 27:45
  SPEAKER_00: Well, the problem with that is you can get around them.
• 27:46
  SPEAKER_00: You can get around the filters, you can lie to your accountability partner.
• 27:50
  SPEAKER_00: You have to get to a point in your life spiritually where you are convicted because God sees what you're doing.
• 28:01
  SPEAKER_00: If you go through your Christian life with the attitude of, I feel bad because my pastor's gonna know, my good friend's gonna know, and you don't give a second thought that God sees what you're doing, that's not gonna help you.
• 28:16
  SPEAKER_00: That's not gonna help you overcome pornography.
• 28:19
  SPEAKER_00: You have to get so intimate with God that you love him so much that you want to do what's right because he's the one that sees your sin.
• 28:28
  SPEAKER_00: You don't want to disappoint him, you want to glorify him in your mind, body, and spirit.
• 28:34
  SPEAKER_00: And ladies, you gotta do this.
• 28:36
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta have it where you focus on that.
• 28:39
  SPEAKER_00: Don't focus on the idea of what man thinks of you.
• 28:42
  SPEAKER_00: Focus on how God sees you and what he wants for you.
• 28:45
  SPEAKER_00: It grieves God and the Holy Spirit when we fall into this type of lust when it comes through these novels or these trashy movies that we watch, and we just consume like a bad candy, and it just rots our teeth away to the point of where you look like you have one tooth and you look like an old hag.
• 29:04
  SPEAKER_00: The goal should be holiness, repentance, and mutual accountability and faithfulness to God, all right.
• 29:12
  SPEAKER_00: And it's the idea of just being consistent on this issue, as we've talked about, this idea of these novels that are out there.
• 29:20
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, granted, you gotta hide a physical book, whereas like guys delete their history or whatever, or women delete their history or whatever it is.
• 29:29
  SPEAKER_00: And so it's one of those things that it's easy to have it where you can pick it up at a thrift store or whatever, and you're just like, oh, it's just you know, once you start to have this idea that it's harmless and it's not doing you any damage, that's already where Satan has already had a foot in the door.
• 29:46
  SPEAKER_00: And when we end up having it where we put our guard down and we start to make excuses for things because it's not as ugly, it's not as obvious of a sin or as ugly looking as other sins, like going to a trashy bookstore or looking up something online, you know.
• 30:06
  SPEAKER_00: It's easy for us to justify it as it not being as big of a problem or an issue because of what it looks like, or because of how the content is how we receive the content is easy to justify.
• 30:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's just a romance novel.
• 30:22
  SPEAKER_00: It's just romance, you know.
• 30:24
  SPEAKER_00: And we all know it's not.
• 30:27
  SPEAKER_00: It's not at all.
• 30:28
  SPEAKER_00: And so it has to be where we're honest with ourselves and what we're struggling with.
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_00: And I think sometimes what happens is we want to think that, you know, because it comes in a different form or becomes maybe it's just not as obvious, you know.
• 30:46
  SPEAKER_00: Like obviously looking at things on the internet are not as obvious as maybe looking at it in a book.
• 30:51
  SPEAKER_00: I can't comprehend that, honestly.
• 30:53
  SPEAKER_00: I think everybody knows, like, a good way to judge yourself is this.
• 30:57
  SPEAKER_00: If just like a guy who switched the screen off real quick because someone enters the room, if you hide your book or you put another book in front of it so it looks like you're reading something else, you're obviously showing that you know you are doing something that you shouldn't be.
• 31:13
  SPEAKER_00: The Holy Spirit is convicting you in that moment to actually take hold of it and say, like, what are you doing?
• 31:18
  SPEAKER_00: This is not helping you at all in your relationships.
• 31:21
  SPEAKER_00: And another thing that was kind of like not talked about either is I don't know the data on this.
• 31:27
  SPEAKER_00: And this is just like a shot from the hip with this.
• 31:31
  SPEAKER_00: But I don't know how many of the young ladies that are in the church that are a part of OnlyFans as well.
• 31:36
  SPEAKER_00: That's a very subtle thing that you can have it where you don't see your face or you sell pictures of certain things.
• 31:41
  SPEAKER_00: And it breaks my heart that this is a possibility.
• 31:44
  SPEAKER_00: I think we tend to think that every lady in the pew is a Proverbs 31 woman, and that's not always the case.
• 31:51
  SPEAKER_00: It's not that you can't become that and there's not redemption, but I think sometimes like there's things that are there's a lot of doors that are opening that can be private very easily and you can hide very easily.
• 32:04
  SPEAKER_00: And it didn't used to be the case like that.
• 32:06
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, think of it.
• 32:07
  SPEAKER_00: If you went back in time, it's like if a guy wanted sexuality, he had to go down to the worst part of town, he had to go to the brothel house, he had to pay someone, do the deed, pray that nobody saw him coming out of the building, you know, and that nobody could see what he did.
• 32:24
  SPEAKER_00: And it wasn't as easy back then.
• 32:26
  SPEAKER_00: Plus, it was also frowned upon in a lot of society.
• 32:29
  SPEAKER_00: It wasn't like, you know, like, oh, like, well, everyone just goes to the brothel house, you know, that's what everybody does.
• 32:34
  SPEAKER_00: They were there, they existed.
• 32:35
  SPEAKER_00: It's not like they didn't exist.
• 32:37
  SPEAKER_00: But it's not like today where it's like you have this, okay?
• 32:43
  SPEAKER_00: Anything you want for your sexual, disgusting, filthy self is right in here.
• 32:47
  SPEAKER_00: Anything you want.
• 32:49
  SPEAKER_00: And some of it could also send you to jail, even though I think all pornography should be illegal, period.
• 32:54
  SPEAKER_00: I don't think it should be legal at all.
• 32:55
  SPEAKER_00: I see it basically as digital prostitution.
• 32:58
  SPEAKER_00: I don't see it any different, like pornography itself, it's like, well, what are you doing?
• 33:03
  SPEAKER_00: You're okay, you're with the studio and you're getting paid money to have sex with someone.
• 33:09
  SPEAKER_00: So, how is that any different than prostitution?
• 33:11
  SPEAKER_00: It is no different.
• 33:12
  SPEAKER_00: But because the Supreme Court, however many years ago, decided to say that, well, you know, it's considered artistic expression.
• 33:21
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's artistic expression.
• 33:24
  SPEAKER_00: No, it has nothing to do with artistic expression, it has to do with being a sick pervert, which is what you are.
• 33:30
  SPEAKER_00: And the truth is, Republicans and Democrats, they love their pornography and they're not going to touch it because they're all perverts too.
• 33:38
  SPEAKER_00: And so what we have done is we have removed the obstacles.
• 33:42
  SPEAKER_00: So now it's just become this bomb in our hands of enticing sexuality that is just uncontrollable, and it's all subtle now.
• 33:53
  SPEAKER_00: So now, like, you know, ladies can, you know, a book I would say is even subtle in that like, but now it's obviously twisted now into internet pornography as well.
• 34:03
  SPEAKER_00: Long gone are the days where it's like, you know, you had to go to that specific store down the street in the CD area, you know, that was adult content.
• 34:13
  SPEAKER_00: Go in, buy some movies or pornography that you wanted to watch, pop it into your VCR and watch it.
• 34:19
  SPEAKER_00: Those things are gone these days.
• 34:21
  SPEAKER_00: It's now where it's like unlimited access to anything you want, anything you desire in terms of your flesh and carnal heart wants.
• 34:30
  SPEAKER_00: And it's it's dangerous.
• 34:32
  SPEAKER_00: I think that when we start to make justification for a sin is when we start to distrust the gospel that God has actually saved us from our own former self.
• 34:45
  SPEAKER_00: It's like the scripture says, it is like a dog returning to his own vomit.
• 34:50
  SPEAKER_00: It throws it up, and then it's like, hmm, that tastes pretty good.
• 34:54
  SPEAKER_00: I like that.
• 34:55
  SPEAKER_00: It tastes pretty good.
• 34:56
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I mean, you ever seen dogs do that?
• 34:58
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I love dogs, but some things they do are so stupid.
• 35:02
  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, like, I don't know what it is with like, you know, sniffing each other's rears and all this stuff.
• 35:08
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure leave it in the comments if you want.
• 35:10
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care.
• 35:11
  SPEAKER_00: It's something that they do, but it's interesting that God gives that example, though.
• 35:17
  SPEAKER_00: It's like dogs at times can be kind of oblivious to their own grossness a lot of times.
• 35:24
  SPEAKER_00: They don't realize that like there is a filth of their own sin, and we tend to forget, like, yeah, we might be saved, but it doesn't mean that we don't have our own tendencies to go back to our former self or our former bad habits.
• 35:39
  SPEAKER_00: That's what that passage is talking about.
• 35:41
  SPEAKER_00: It's gross, it's disgusting.
• 35:42
  SPEAKER_00: You vomit the junk out of your mouth, which is sin, and it's good that you have vomited up.
• 35:49
  SPEAKER_00: It's almost like that kind of maybe look at it that way in terms of extreme of getting it out of your life, you know, that you have to just puke it out.
• 35:56
  SPEAKER_00: It's like I never thought about this until now, and I'll do this an analogy.
• 36:01
  SPEAKER_00: Like, everyone's been sick, okay?
• 36:03
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm sure you've had those moments where it's like, where you're like kind of like you're in that stage where you're just like, I don't want to throw up, I don't want to throw up, I don't want to throw up.
• 36:12
  SPEAKER_00: And you're fighting your body of what it's telling you it wants to do because you don't like the feeling of before you throw up.
• 36:20
  SPEAKER_00: That's probably the worst.
• 36:22
  SPEAKER_00: But as we all know, I'll never forget it.
• 36:25
  SPEAKER_00: One time I had like some stomach bug, and I think I counted.
• 36:29
  SPEAKER_00: I threw up 13 times in one night.
• 36:32
  SPEAKER_00: It was to the point where, like, I know this is gross, forgive me.
• 36:35
  SPEAKER_00: But I got to the point where it's like, you know, you throw up so much where you just kind of feel your stomach is sucking against your spine, and like it's just dry heaving, and there's nothing, all the stomach acid is out.
• 36:45
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, okay, there's nothing left.
• 36:48
  SPEAKER_00: Please let this stop.
• 36:49
  SPEAKER_00: Why does this keep on going?
• 36:51
  SPEAKER_00: But at the same time, we all know this.
• 36:55
  SPEAKER_00: Once you throw up whatever that is inside your stomach, the relief that comes over your body is amazing.
• 37:04
  SPEAKER_00: It really is amazing.
• 37:06
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that's a gross way of looking at it, but I think that's how we need to look at our own lives when that happens to us, when it comes to our addictions and our tendencies to abuse the beauty of sexuality that God has intended it to be, and not to adopt what the world says it should be.
• 37:26
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm telling you this right now, ladies, when you throw that away, get accountability, you talk to older women in your life that can encourage you in the proper way and how you should remove this evil demonicness out of your life for good.
• 37:42
  SPEAKER_00: It is like that.
• 37:43
  SPEAKER_00: Right now, you're probably feeling that that feeling of anxiety because you know you should be dealing with this and not hiding it and not throwing it away and just pretending it's not taking place because it is taking place.
• 37:56
  SPEAKER_00: You can't keep on denying the fact of what God's Holy Spirit is telling your conscience in your life.
• 38:04
  SPEAKER_00: You cannot suppress it anymore.
• 38:06
  SPEAKER_00: That's what Satan wants you to do.
• 38:07
  SPEAKER_00: That's what he wants you to do.
• 38:08
  SPEAKER_00: He wants you to get to a point of where you feel guilty, you feel shameful, you don't want to talk to anyone, you don't want anyone to know about your bad deeds that you've done.
• 38:17
  SPEAKER_00: But here's the thing: like, guilt and shame are not a part of the Holy Spirit.
• 38:22
  SPEAKER_00: Conviction is a part of the Holy Spirit.
• 38:25
  SPEAKER_00: That is a good thing.
• 38:27
  SPEAKER_00: And I think what Satan does is he takes guilt and shame and uses that to make us stagnant and not move forward because we don't want others to know where we struggle in our sin.
• 38:39
  SPEAKER_00: And so I think what needs to happen is just like I gave that analogy, is like, you need to throw it up.
• 38:45
  SPEAKER_00: If there's something in your life that God is telling you to get rid of it, it's gonna be unpleasant when that all, you know, it all comes out.
• 38:54
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be disgusting, the acids on your throat and that uh the aftertaste afterwards.
• 38:59
  SPEAKER_00: But your soul is gonna thank you in the end because it's gonna have that ability to move forward and run back to Christ to make things right.
• 39:12
  SPEAKER_00: And so I think when it talks about the idea of like a dog returning to its own vomit, don't be the dog that returns to his own vomit.
• 39:21
  SPEAKER_00: Throw it up, get it out of your life, remove it.
• 39:25
  SPEAKER_00: Don't allow it to consume your thoughts, mind, and heart anymore.
• 39:29
  SPEAKER_00: And ladies, go to war on this.
• 39:32
  SPEAKER_00: If you've had struggle with this and you've overcome this and you know other women that are struggling with this as well, encourage them and give them hope of where you are now and where you used to be.
• 39:43
  SPEAKER_00: It could be that you were very promiscuous, it could be that God has turned your life around to actually become a vessel of honor rather than a vessel for dishonor in God's eyes.
• 39:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I think if we have it where there's more accountability and not just pretend blindly that this isn't happening within the church and within our own sisters in Christ, we're just lying to ourselves.
• 40:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because the truth is, it is happening among our sisters in Christ.
• 40:10
  SPEAKER_00: And just like our young men and men in families and husbands are being attacked in the same way, even though it comes packaged differently, does not mean it's less deadly.
• 40:21
  SPEAKER_00: Does not mean that it's not going to be less effective in our marriage and relationships and also just our spiritual walk.
• 40:28
  SPEAKER_00: So it has to be addressed with the same strength and it has to be addressed with the same vigorousness to remove it from our lives.
• 40:38
  SPEAKER_00: There's a reason why the passage talks about, you know, you know, if your right eye calls you to stumble, or it might be your left eye, if your eye calls you to stumble, pluck it out.
• 40:46
  SPEAKER_00: If, you know, obviously, yes.
• 40:47
  SPEAKER_00: If we all took that to the nth degree, we all be eyeless and handless.
• 40:51
  SPEAKER_00: And I get that.
• 40:52
  SPEAKER_00: But what it's implying, though, is that it gives an extreme analogy.
• 40:56
  SPEAKER_00: It gives an extreme analogy so that it ingrains in our mind the seriousness of our sin.
• 41:02
  SPEAKER_00: If we don't kill this dragon, it is going to consume the rest of your life.
• 41:07
  SPEAKER_00: It's not going to be just something that is a blip on your radar.
• 41:11
  SPEAKER_00: Because as I know and I've been there, the longer you allow it to go, the monster gets bigger and bigger and bigger.
• 41:19
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 41:19
  SPEAKER_00: Because you feed it.
• 41:20
  SPEAKER_00: And then at the same time, what we tend to do, even though we might be a believer in Christ, is we tend to then justify it more and more.
• 41:28
  SPEAKER_00: And then the monster just gets bigger and bigger because our justification feeds our sin and numbs our conscience from actually addressing the issue head on as we should be doing.
• 41:40
  SPEAKER_00: And those are some of the things that you know, a final takeaway.
• 41:45
  SPEAKER_00: This church should not excuse sexual wrongdoing because of someone's sex, social status, or a preferred form of entertainment.
• 41:55
  SPEAKER_00: Biblical accountability should be consistent, truthful, and directed towards repentance and restoration, first and foremost.
• 42:04
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care who you are.
• 42:06
  SPEAKER_00: But I will tell you this if you are in a church where they are subtle about this, if they're complacent about it, get out of there and go somewhere that is really going to actually help you fight your sin and not make excuses for it.
• 42:18
  SPEAKER_00: Because that's not a church that's looking out for your well-being at all.
• 42:21
  SPEAKER_00: It really isn't.
• 42:22
  SPEAKER_00: And the last thing I just want to say is, ladies, another thing that can be a reason that triggers these elements of this type of gratification of sexuality coming in these different forms is because of loneliness as well.
• 42:37
  SPEAKER_00: I think with some ladies, because there is this desire to want to get married, and it's the same for men too.
• 42:41
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people think like men don't have emotions for some reason.
• 42:44
  SPEAKER_00: We do.
• 42:45
  SPEAKER_00: It's different how we're wired, and Satan knows this.
• 42:49
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, why do you think it is men are visual?
• 42:52
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 42:52
  SPEAKER_00: So, like, as we've talked about in the past, ladies, when you're dressing in modesty, that's a problem for young men in the church.
• 42:59
  SPEAKER_00: They do not need to see items of your body that are intended for your husband only.
• 43:05
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 43:06
  SPEAKER_00: If your outfit isn't designed to show off your facial features, and I'm not saying you got to be dressed like a nun per se, but that is gonna be problematic for guys to focus on who you are as a person.
• 43:18
  SPEAKER_00: And it doesn't mean that you can't dress in a nice, fashionable way, but you don't have to look like a ho, all right, at the same time.
• 43:26
  SPEAKER_00: And so men are wired visually.
• 43:29
  SPEAKER_00: Well, what does Satan do?
• 43:30
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, well, okay, women are emotional.
• 43:34
  SPEAKER_00: Huh.
• 43:35
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I'll know what I'll do.
• 43:36
  SPEAKER_00: Instead of having it where it's the obvious, like visually, no, that that doesn't work.
• 43:40
  SPEAKER_00: That works with men.
• 43:42
  SPEAKER_00: I will put it in a written form that tugs on their heartstrings.
• 43:47
  SPEAKER_00: I will put it in a written form that when they read it, it's like a love letter with toxic sexuality that's perverted and twisted and becomes disgusting and like a dead corpse rotting in a grave.
• 43:59
  SPEAKER_00: They won't know it that way at first.
• 44:01
  SPEAKER_00: They'll read it and it will sound good to the voice as they read it in their head, and it will look more innocent and not as ugly.
• 44:10
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 44:12
  SPEAKER_00: Satan knows how to get us because he understands how women work and he understands how men work.
• 44:18
  SPEAKER_00: And he's been around a long time.
• 44:19
  SPEAKER_00: He's studied humans for a long period of time, he knows what he's doing.
• 44:24
  SPEAKER_00: And so I hope that some of these points, I know some of this was like strong, but I think we need to have it where this is war.
• 44:34
  SPEAKER_00: This is a war for your soul, this is a war for also your heart and your mind, ladies.
• 44:39
  SPEAKER_00: And you want to protect that as much as your physical self as well for your husband.
• 44:46
  SPEAKER_00: And don't allow, especially if you're married, don't allow the enemy to whisper, well, you could have this.
• 44:52
  SPEAKER_00: I bet it's greener on the other side, ladies.
• 44:55
  SPEAKER_00: That's right.
• 44:56
  SPEAKER_00: He's not doing enough for you.
• 44:57
  SPEAKER_00: He's not look, he's not even taking care of himself.
• 45:00
  SPEAKER_00: He doesn't he doesn't eat the things that you suggest to him.
• 45:03
  SPEAKER_00: And like, but but you know, at the same time, ladies, it's easy to ignore everything else that are good things about your husband.
• 45:10
  SPEAKER_00: The enemy wants us to think negatively about the good things in our lives because he knows that if it grows and the fruit that's going to come with it is it is actually causing him to worry about Satan's kingdom being torn down because you're building up the kingdom of Christ.
• 45:27
  SPEAKER_00: And so if we don't surrender our minds, especially, that is why, like, yes, we can talk about physical sexuality, but our minds are where most of the battle takes place.
• 45:40
  SPEAKER_00: Once you can control your mind, everything else becomes a lot easier.
• 45:44
  SPEAKER_00: And you can't do that without having accountability, reading the scriptures, and having it where you put Christ center and foremost of your life.
• 45:55
  SPEAKER_00: Overall, I hope this has been encouraging for you.
• 45:59
  SPEAKER_00: Know that I love you guys, and as always, I'm gonna have a simple place that talks about hard topics and not being scared about.
• 46:08
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care what my map things, I care about my gun things, and so should you.
• 46:14
  SPEAKER_00: And be sure to subscribe.
• 46:20
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna be awesome at the conference crisis king coming up.
• 46:23
  SPEAKER_00: Hope you guys can be there.
• 46:25
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever you do, keep on finding the enemy and don't back down.