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The Valentine’s Fallout: Why they ruined it (and what I'm thinking today) · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  If you're sitting there today feeling like you're going crazy
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  because yesterday was a disaster, yesterday was
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  horrible, Valentine's Day was crappy as hell, you are not
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  crazy, right? If you're feeling crazy about
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  what happened yesterday, you are not crazy.
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  That's not how it works, right? Ask God knows what narcissistic
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  personality disorder. As self aware narcissist, you
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  might say. I'm telling you, the fallout is
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  the point, right? Like we didn't just have a bad
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  day yesterday, we were reclaiming control of the
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  relationship dynamic, right? Let's talk about the solid
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  treatment that you might be getting today and yesterday.
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  Let's talk about the circular arguments that might have
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  started yesterday and bled into the day.
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  Well, not even started yesterday.
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  Some of the arguments started weeks ago, the beginning of the
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  week, right? Let's talk about that right
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  there. Why is the day after Valentine's
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  Day the mass that really hits the floor?
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  Why is that right? Like, let's talk about the
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  fallout after dealing with a toxic narcissistic person.
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  Let's chat about that today, y'all?
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  Of course, if you knew here, I'm Lee Hammock, I'm a diagnosed
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  narcissist and I'm on it, right? I'm on it today.
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  If you missed yesterday's episode about Valentine's Day is
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  LinkedIn the description on YouTube or you go to YouTube and
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  check it out right? But what's going on folks?
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  This is live. Hey, Lee, what up?
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  What up Joy? What's going on?
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  Not me trying to watch on 2. What's up y'all?
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  But y'all, we talked about the follow after Valentine's Day of
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  Dylan with a toxic narcissistic person, right?
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  How bad you can feel today. So we're going to hop right into
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  it y'all. Why?
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  So yesterday could have been horrible for you, right?
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  Yesterday could have been a very horrible day for most people.
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  On Valentine's Day, when you're dealing with a narcissistic
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  partner or whatever, it's going to be horrible, am I right?
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  Am I right? But it's not your fault.
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  I promise you it's not your fault.
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  Most times when you're dealing with a toxic, highly
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  narcissistic, abusive person, Valentine's Day is overwhelming,
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  right? Valentine's Day is an it could
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  be perceived as an attack on my ego, like because I don't feel
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  like I'm good enough, right? Just think about like that.
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  If I don't feel like I'm good enough, then Valentine's Day is
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  going to be an attack on my ego. If I don't like myself, if I
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  don't care about myself, if I struggle with self love and
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  appreciation that you can see Valentine's Day, it's going to
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  be like an attack on my ego. Everybody's posting pictures
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  online of the like the people in normal healthy relationships or
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  posting pictures online of getting gifts, roses, getting
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  their cheeks clapped, put through the mattress, whatever
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  y'all call it nowadays, right? And I ain't got nothing.
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  I can't live up to that. So you know what I'm going to
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  do. Instead of going all in, I went
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  all out the other way, right? Instead of going all in on
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  Valentine's Day trying to make you happy, I went the other way
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  and tried to make you sad on purpose.
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  Ain't that crazy as hell? Ain't that crazy as hell?
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  If you had a bad Valentine's Day, drop one of those healing
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  hearts and you know the hearts, drop a broken heart or one of
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  those healing hearts. You type, you type the word,
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  type the word healing, and it brings up the little heart with
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  the bandage on it. Drop it in the comment section,
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  right? Healing heart.
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  If you had a bad Valentine's Day, it's not the end though,
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  right? If you had a bad, bad
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  Valentine's Day, it is not a determination of your worth or
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  your and that's not how this works.
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  That's not what really works, she said.
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  Fox and beautiful flower. Good job first healing, healing
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  heart just said my those clapping.
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  Yay, good job. Good job, good job, but that's
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  how it goes though y'all? A bad Valentine's Day is not a
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  reflection on your worth or value and there are so many
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  people that take it personally when their partner or whatever
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  doesn't do anything for them for Valentine's Day.
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  You take it like a you take it personally.
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  You just like, well it must be something wrong with me because
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  sometimes that narcissistic person tells you right?
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  I didn't do anything for you yesterday because I told you
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  that you are not worth it. I told you that you did
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  something to me that I'm not telling you what you did to make
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  me not want to do something for you on Valentine's Day, right?
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  Right. It's his slaw.
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  There you go. That's what it is right there.
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  I pissed. I'm pissed off internally.
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  That's what happens when you deal with a narcissistic person.
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  But after the, like I said, happy after all the happiness
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  goes away Today, what you could be facing is what a lot of
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  people refer to as selective amnesia.
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  Selective amnesia. Some narcissistic people.
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  If they ruined Valentine's Day or didn't do anything for you
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  yesterday, guess what? They're going to act like
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  nothing happened. They're going to act like
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  February the 5th, 14th was just another another day.
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  I didn't do anything, huh? Why are you so upset?
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  What was yesterday? Oh, Valentine's Day, don't you?
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  I didn't know. You expect me to remember all
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  these days? Damn, I can barely remember.
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  I can barely remember my birthday.
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  You expect me to remember for February the 14th?
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  You expect me? No.
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  All these holidays. Damn.
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  You expect too much of me. Damn.
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  I can't do. I can't win for losing Ghana.
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  Fuck him. That's how it goes to you.
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  I'm. Yeah, I'm dead serious.
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  That really is that mentality that you face when you have
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  these abusive, manipulative people.
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  Some of them are going to pretend like nothing happened at
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  all yesterday and try to get back down to business.
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  Whatever that looks right, whatever that looks like to
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  them. They're just going to get back
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  to the status quo of your relationship.
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  Whatever the status quo is, they're going to be going after
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  that. That's that mindset right there.
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  Whatever the status quo is, they're going to go after it.
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  This is how the mindset and mentality of narcissistic people
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  try to go about things, right? And because Valentine's Day fell
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  on you sound like you sound like good, but that that'd be the
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  goal right there. That'd be the goal.
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  And because Valentine's Day this year just happened to fall on a
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  weekend, happened to fall on a Saturday, Sunday could be
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  preparation for a Hoover. I didn't do nothing for you
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  yesterday, Gary or boy or person.
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  Let me make it. Let me make it up to you today.
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  I see. Since yesterday was a bad day,
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  let me make up to you today. They will go all of their way to
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  make February 14th a horrible day for you.
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  And there are some, if they don't have the selective amnesia
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  or selective amnesia doesn't work, there are some out there
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  that will try to use this opportunity to try to Hoover you
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  back in or try to suck you back into the relationship dynamic,
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  right? There are some that will try to
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  do exactly that right there, Exactly that right there, right.
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  They'll try to use that as a reason to come back into your
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  life. Yeah, I know my, my pockets were
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  a little dry this year, but you know where I can make it up till
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  you come to the bedroom for a few minutes and y'all buys you,
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  buys you old, buys you the day old roses.
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  Hey, they cheaper though, right? Those roses that were $75.00
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  yesterday, $25. And they might lie to you, they
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  might get you those day old roses and tell you that they
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  bought them yesterday and you left them in the car, left them
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  in the office. You know what I'm saying?
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  I would do that right there sometimes, like it's just
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  cheaper. Look, it's $75.00, right?
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  Damn it, I left your gift in the car.
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  Cher, What's going on, girl? Hope you had a good day.
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  Hope you'll be doing well girl. Good to see you still kicking.
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  I hope everyone is having a wonderful day today.
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  Yeah, I hope y'all are as well right?
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  But I'm just telling you. If you let them ruin yesterday,
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  do not let them make it up. Look do if they ruin yesterday,
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  do not let them make it up in the bedroom.
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  Do not let them do that if they if they spent yesterday with
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  their affair partner or they was cheating on you yesterday, do
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  not and you know it right? Some let me let's get personal
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  real quick y'all, let me get personal.
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  There are some people and it's not me trying to pick on y'all.
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  There are some people that know that their partners cheating on
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  them, right? There are some people out here
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  that absolutely know that their partners cheating on them and
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  they know Valentine's Day was going to be horrible.
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  They know that their partner spent yesterday or Valentine's
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  Day with someone else. They know that, right?
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  Because like sometimes people are mentally broken, sometimes
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  people are mentally struggling. Sometimes the, it's a
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  manipulative relationship, right?
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  Narcissistic abuse is different. So sometimes people are
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  knowingly being cheated on and trying to compete with the
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  affair partner. So some people today will try to
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  sleep with their partner that spent yesterday with their
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  affair partner, right? You try to, you know what I'm
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  saying? You'll try to do that type of
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  stuff right there. You try to spend today trying to
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  literally make up for yesterday and guess what ends up
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  happening? You try to sleep with that
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  person. You try to outdo their affair
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  partner. That's called that could be a
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  version of what people refer to as hysterical bonding.
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  Right? Hysterical bonding.
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  Y'all need to look that up if you haven't because hysterical
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  bonding. If you Google it, it's an
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  intense emotional and physical physical connection that can
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  occur between partners following a traumatic event in a
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  relationship, typically after infidelity or severe breach of
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  trust. So if you're getting cheated on
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  and you know it, you instead of just leaving a person alone, you
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  know that they slept with somebody else, you will try to
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  fuck them too, right? You just like I got to write it
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  better. I'm a I'm a my cheeks fatter, my
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  thing bigger. I got to smash you better than
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  the other person did right, and that makes that can get you more
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  addicted to the person. Y'all like you, you, you, you
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  sleep with the person that you no slept with somebody else, and
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  now you trying to fucking better.
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  I'm just I'm a bounce. I'm a fucking bounce.
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  You going to love me and you going to compete with them and
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  then it makes you bond to them right there.
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  It ain't funny. Yeah, I made myself laugh when I
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  you know the examples, but that's how it goes.
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  Do not hysterical bond today, right?
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  Do not do that. Do not do not do that.
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  I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
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  I'm sorry. But it it do be happened.
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  I'm being serious. I know some of y'all have done
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  it before, right? You know, you got cheated on and
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  being you competing with somebody else, you try to do it
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  better. I get it.
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  I promise you. I get it.
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  I promise you. Work, work, work.
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  Just move it up in life. Yay.
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  There you go, girl. You'd be able to play daily.
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  I'm happy to hear it. Yay.
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  But that's where it goes. Y'all hysterical bonding.
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  Look it up. It might help you heal for it.
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  It's not funny, but I'm not loud.
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  Yeah, yeah. I'm just out of the examples.
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  If you go into my head, that happens.
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  Do not hysterical bond today, right?
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  Don't go out there and try to sleep with the person that you
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  know was sleeping with somebody else yesterday because that,
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  yeah, I'm just telling you that will mess you up.
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  That will put in something in your head where you're competing
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  with somebody. Don't do that because the only
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  person that wins in that situation is that narcissistic
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  person, right? You got to look at it like that.
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  When you're hysterical bonding and you're sleeping with me,
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  knowing that I'm sleeping with somebody else or knowing that
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  I'm sleeping with multiple people.
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  The only person that wins in that situation is me.
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  I'm walking around like LeBron. I'm patting my beating my chest.
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  I'm like hell, I'm a man. I'm the man, right?
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  I'm the man that don't was there, don't was there.
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  Go bond. Y'all seriously, because that's
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  what ends up happening, man. So watch out for that Hoover
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  man. Like seriously, if you missed
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  yesterday's episode about like I said, the the Valentine's Day
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  with the narcissist, make sure you go back and check it out.
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  It's on YouTube. I definitely post.
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  It's posted on YouTube. It's called why?
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  Why I had to ruin your Valentine's Day.
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  What I'll do is I'll drop it in the chat right now so y'all can
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  check that video out if you haven't.
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  It's a YouTube link. It looks like this right here.
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  It's not spam. It's a YouTube link right here.
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  I don't need to catch something. Yeah, absolutely not because you
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  will. You will catch something.
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  You will catch feelings and maybe an STD, but you will catch
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  some feelings and maybe an STD as well.
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  Love the haircut, appreciate it, appreciate it.
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  I don't even miss my dress. I thought I would miss my hair.
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  I missing something every once in a while but I I'm definitely
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  I like this better. Right.
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  He ruined every special day. That's what ends up happening
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  y'all it really is seriously is what ends up happening
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  happening. That's what happened.
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  That's what ends up happening happening.
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  I said sorry y'all happened can't talk straight today.
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  I'll pass on the STD hard pass. Yes absolutely absolutely.
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  That's where it goes. I'm getting serious you know
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  what I mean? But this is how the mentality of
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  narcissistic people work. If y'all just join the live on
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  YouTube make sure you hit that thumbs up button or just drop a
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  heart in the comment section. That way it just so more people
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  can see it. We help more people.
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  The more people we reach, the more people we help, right?
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  It kills me because my ex narc and Lee look identical.
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  Well, you well lady, you have good taste.
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  He said I was a narcissist on Valentine's Day.
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  Why? Because you Because you want a
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  gift. Appreciate the heart.
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  Because you wanted a gift. You know what?
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  You're the narcissist. Only a narcissist will want a
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  gift on Valentine's. Matter of fact, I'm gonna do a
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  skit. Y'all make sure you check it.
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  I'm gonna do a skit on my TikTok and Instagram and stuff like
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  that. I got this shirt on.
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  I'm strong. I'm gonna do a skit.
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  I'm gonna put. I'm gonna put that line in
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  there. Watch, I'm put that line in
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  there. You just inspired a line right
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  there about you. You know what?
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  Only a narcissist would want a gift on Valentine's Day.
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  Narcissist want the best of everything, right?
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  Right. Do you want a gift that makes
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  you a narcissist? Yeah, I cheated.
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  Yeah, I beat it on you. But you want a gift?
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  You want a gift. How dare you?
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  How dare you. That sound.
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  Doesn't that sound crazy? Doesn't that sound crazy as
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  hell? But I'm don't that sound insane?
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  No, Dorothy, that sounds crazy. When he's mad at me, I'm a
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  narcissist. But when he's not mad at me, I'm
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  not a narcissist. Yeah, of course you.
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  You're the narcissist when it benefits them right, we
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  appreciate you riding on the day with us.
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  Appreciate you appreciate you for right coming in here hopping
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  in here y'all y'all know say y'all think about me.
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  I care. I want y'all to win I really do
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  and when y'all don't win, I feel like I failed right.
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  I be feeling like I failed. I I I feel like I failed y'all
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  and I just that that sucks for me sometimes I'm like damn it, I
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  failed this person. What can I do to help them
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  breakthrough. You know what I mean?
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  That's me that people in my support group.
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  They know joy's in my joy's in my support group.
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  We got to this is what we do. You see what I'm saying I, I, I,
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  we go live we do a live zoom meeting every single Sunday
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  evening, most Sunday evenings because sometimes they have
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  stuff going on. But like tonight we have a live
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  private well it's a private Sunday night group meeting on
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  for my support group. If you join a support group, you
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  can check you can check all my all all my stuff.
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  Y'all is available at mentalillness.net.
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  I'll drop the link in the comment section.
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  Y'all can see it. Everything is a mental
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  illness.net. Make sure to check out, like I
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  said, my courses, my one-on-one coaching.
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  I've been able to help so many people out my one-on-one zoom
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  calls, my phone calls or whatever.
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  Actually, I have a zoom phone call here in the next few
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  minutes. I got to do but every Sunday
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  evening we go live. I got to send those emails out
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  here in a little bit. So join the support group.
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  Yeah, it's super cheap to the support group is not it's not
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  expensive and I'm I'm in the support group every single day
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  answering questions responding to comments and stuff like that
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  as well. If y'all have any comments, drop
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  them in the comment section. Now I got a few minutes for AQ
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  and a we do AQ and a I watch all your videos appreciate you Luke
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  Fox. So true. self-care is the best
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  care. Once you start telling the
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  narcissist no they don't like the word no, hell no.
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  You you onto something right there.
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  Absolutely narcissist hate the word no no feels like getting
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  stabbed right? You tell a narcissistic person,
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  no, it feels like you stabbed them with something like you,
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  you hit them with a weapon of some sorts and they cannot stand
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  that they hate it. So that's why he's a lot of
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  times when you tell like narcissist no or you reject them
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  or whatever. This is why a lot of times they
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  get angry as hell, right? They get angry as hell.
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  Myself love he calls selfish. Yeah.
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  And yeah, that's one of my saying right there.
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  Self love is not selfish, right? They'll can.
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  If you were trying to put yourself first for for once,
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  they'll call you selfish. You got to do something for
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  yourself one time. Now you're selfish.
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  Does that make sense? Yeah.
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  You do one thing for yourself. Now you selfish.
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  That makes sense, Huh? Like you've been selfish for 27
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  years. You've never done anything for
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  me. The second I do something for
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  myself, I'm the narcissist. I'm selfish.
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  I only care about me. That makes sense.
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  Yeah, right there. That's crazy.
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  Narcissistic people. They it's like they want to
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  infiltrate your mind and try to convince you that self love is
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  selfishness. So you don't do anything for
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  yourself. And when you start to neglect
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  yourself, you do They benefit from yourself Neglect, right?
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  Oh, my ego is too big. Ever heard that for speaking up
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  for myself? Yeah, they'll tell you that as
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  well. You got a big old ego.
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  And not that, not that Beyoncé's song ego.
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  You got a big ego and you're a narcissist.
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  You, you got such a big ego. I know y'all know that.
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  So I'm too wacky type. Yo.
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  Make sure if you haven't already, if you're on Facebook,
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  go to YouTube. Check out my YouTube video about
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  Valentine's Day and why narcissist ruined it.
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  This right here is about the the fallout, right?
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  They love that. Yeah, they love it when you
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  neglect yourself because when you neglect yourself, they
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  benefit from it. When you're not giving to
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  yourself, that means you're giving to them and they love it
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  when you give to them. You see what I'm saying?
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  Bridget says I'm doing self love.
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  After 17 years, I reconciled twice, moved to a new city.
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  They did it all over to me again.
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  Going back to my city, standing on business, not taking him
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  back. No, no, no.
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  That is not working well with him.
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  I was called selfish. I forgive, but I'm not taking
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  him back. There you go, girl.
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  Shout out to you. I was counting how many times
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  I've here. Oh, you're turning gay.
• 19:28
  What? That's just that he he pulled it
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  out. Yo, he pulled it out of his ass
• 19:36
  right there. You're turning gay because you
• 19:38
  don't agree with him. He pulled that out of that.
• 19:40
  He just ran out of shit right there and just started saying
• 19:42
  that he just ran out of shit. You turning gay because you
• 19:50
  don't agree with me? What?
• 19:51
  How crazy? That sounds crazy as hell.
• 19:54
  That sounds crazy. That's insane.
• 19:59
  I told mine to get a brain transplant 20 years ago.
• 20:03
  Good for you. I let my narc husband who
• 20:05
  discarded me on 127 get me a Valentine Now.
• 20:08
  You think I should talk? Yeah.
• 20:09
  You think you, you you accepted my gift.
• 20:12
  Everything with a narcissist or toxic person, whoever right, is
• 20:15
  transactional. I don't do anything just from
• 20:19
  the kindness of my own heart. I'm expecting something, right?
• 20:24
  I'm expecting something. Y'all here?
• 20:25
  Y'all think that Denzel thing? That Denzel mean?
• 20:27
  He's like, I'm leaving here with something.
• 20:30
  I'm leaving here with something. They are not doing anything from
• 20:34
  the kindness of their own heart. That's not how a narcissist
• 20:36
  works, right? They're doing things because it
• 20:39
  benefits them in some way, shape or form.
• 20:42
  It's nothing from the it's nothing from the kindness of my
• 20:44
  own heart. It's because I'm getting
• 20:46
  something out of this or I expect something out of this,
• 20:50
  right? I'm not doing anything for no
• 20:53
  reason. If I buy you a gift, I give you
• 20:56
  something. I'm expecting some ass, a kiss,
• 20:59
  a hug, unblock me. I'm expecting something from
• 21:02
  that. I'm not just doing it from the
• 21:04
  kind of my own heart and just be like, you're so amazing.
• 21:08
  Just for the though, I don't expect anything back from you.
• 21:13
  No, it's not how it works. Boundaries are a flashpoint for
• 21:17
  a fight. Yeah, yeah, say stay safe,
• 21:19
  though. You said that sometimes,
• 21:20
  sometimes the boundaries making more like make them want to
• 21:22
  square up and not try to literally physically fight you,
• 21:26
  right. I'm feeling good about me and my
• 21:28
  fur baby. Good for you.
• 21:29
  Good for you, girl. I told him God didn't give him
• 21:33
  porn. Oh, goodness gracious.
• 21:35
  He found that amusing. Oh, lordy, Oh, lordy.
• 21:37
  I just did a video about narcissist and corn on my on my
• 21:44
  YouTube channel. Actually, I actually just did
• 21:46
  it. Michael said I told her to do
• 21:48
  therapy a long time ago and she snapped at me.
• 21:50
  Oh, hell yeah. Yeah, that's look, if they
• 21:54
  because telling somebody to go to therapy, it is an insult.
• 21:57
  It's just like I'm insulting. You're insulting me by saying I
• 22:00
  need therapy, that I can't handle it myself.
• 22:03
  They give you money and inspect the cheeks.
• 22:05
  Yes. It's like, it's kind of like
• 22:06
  like literally like an escort or something like that, like
• 22:08
  prostitution. Like I gave you some money.
• 22:11
  I expect some honey, Right. Money, honey, money for honey.
• 22:15
  Ain't nothing free here. They thought I never took him
• 22:19
  back. So how many times it happens?
• 22:22
  But now that you understand, now that you know, it's like you,
• 22:25
  you understand it. So now you keep power forward.
• 22:27
  Now you can empower yourself and whatnot, right?
• 22:32
  Yeah. I got time for a couple more
• 22:33
  questions. And like I said, I, I got to hop
• 22:35
  off to do, I got a phone call session here in a few minutes.
• 22:38
  He's not from God. Who me or your ex?
• 22:43
  I don't know that. I've never claimed to be from
• 22:45
  God. I got, no, I got, I got God with
• 22:48
  me. I got, I got him with me, right?
• 22:52
  I got him with me, but I don't claim to be of him.
• 22:56
  I don't claim to be. I got he with me.
• 22:59
  I don't claim to be of God, right?
• 23:06
  That's the part. That's the part of it right
• 23:07
  there though, y'all? I got him to marital counseling
• 23:14
  by telling him it was for me. There you go.
• 23:16
  I hope you made it out safely though, and they can lose their
• 23:18
  minds. How can I get my power back?
• 23:20
  It just depends really, right? Because I don't know the whole
• 23:22
  story. It really just depends.
• 23:23
  The first way, if you're not, if you're not no contact, you have
• 23:26
  to go no contact or low contact, right?
• 23:29
  As low contact as possible. Like seriously.
• 23:32
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