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The Unspoken Breakup · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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Speaker 1: Tampa Bay's best music is Magic Magagic nine.
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Speaker 2: Well, welcome back to another episode of Magic ninety four
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Speaker 2: to nine Unfiltered. Is it Magic unfiltered or Magic ninety
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Speaker 2: four nine unfiltered?
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Speaker 3: I think it should be Magic unfiltered, Like we're taking
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Speaker 3: the magic that's on the radio and we're unfiltering it.
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Speaker 1: I like it. Well, welcome, I'm Scottie. This is Abby Now.
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Speaker 2: We were just talking off the mics and I was like,
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Speaker 2: what the heck are we doing when we could just
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Speaker 2: put this actually on a mic.
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Speaker 1: Because I find these conversations so fascinating.
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Speaker 2: Because I feel like these are little adult things that
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Speaker 2: don't get talked about enough, but they're extremely awkward. And
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Speaker 2: one of the things that we're talking about is how
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Speaker 2: you've just moved to the new city of and your
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Speaker 2: old phrase.
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Speaker 3: Tampa Tampa No, I still use it. It's in my bio.
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Speaker 3: Did you see that I put Tampa Bay in my bio?
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Speaker 2: I thought it was a misspelling, and I was giving
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Speaker 2: you a second tick kind of okay, good.
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Speaker 3: Actually, sight before you get into this dentist thing. I
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Speaker 3: ordered a hat online while I was a little tipsy
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Speaker 3: this weekend, and it says Trampa are you kids. I'm
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Speaker 3: really excited to wear it. I'm gonna sell merch. I'm
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Speaker 3: gonna profit off of Trampa Bay.
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Speaker 2: I'll tell you what. I am so impressed with your
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Speaker 2: business ventures. I think that was one of the biggest
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Speaker 2: things I noticed immediately was just how you are so
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Speaker 2: good at taking something and just making it a brand.
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Speaker 2: I'm like, that is skill you could literally, Oh god,
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Speaker 2: here's another business idea. You could teach a class on
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Speaker 2: making a brand.
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Speaker 3: Should I start a masterclass and be like, listen, convince
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Speaker 3: everyone that there's a terrible city, and then prop it off,
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Speaker 3: profit off the brand that you created.
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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, if you're new to checking out the podcast,
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Speaker 2: what we've done is we've wanted to make sure that
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Speaker 2: when we talk about things, whether it's in studio or
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Speaker 2: on the show or just in general, that we get
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Speaker 2: to bring it here as a deeper dive and get
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Speaker 2: to say things that one aren't legally allowed to be
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Speaker 2: said on the radio, or two we would get in
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Speaker 2: trouble for mentioning. But now it's kind of like the
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Speaker 2: friends that's gathered around at brunch and we get to
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Speaker 2: just have a conversation. So Abby recently moved to Tampa
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Speaker 2: Bay to join me on this venture of a morning
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Speaker 2: show on Magic ninety four nine, which I'm so grateful for.
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Speaker 2: And you are part of a massive show before and
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Speaker 2: there's a whole I guess years of history that I'm
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Speaker 2: now learning about you, yes, which is fun. And I
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Speaker 2: think here's like pull the curtain back. When you usually
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Speaker 2: start a new show, what they tell you the corporate
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Speaker 2: higher ups coaches are like, don't tell people it's new.
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Speaker 2: Act like it's just been going on forever. And personally,
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Speaker 2: I think that is a weird thing to do now
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Speaker 2: because I want to I want people to be along
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Speaker 2: the journey as like I'm learning things about Abby. I
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Speaker 2: want you to jump along the journey because maybe you
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Speaker 2: already knew it and you're like, Scott, of course we
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Speaker 2: know that, Like how fun is this for you to
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Speaker 2: find out? Or we're all fighting out for the first
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Speaker 2: time and vice versa, like Abby's gonna learn things about
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Speaker 2: me that if you only know Abby and you're like, who's.
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Speaker 1: The Scott guy? You know?
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Speaker 2: The goal is that you get to watch this story
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Speaker 2: just completely be written, not like we're just jumping right
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Speaker 2: into the middle and just acting like everyone's caught up
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Speaker 2: right away. So one of the things I was talking
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Speaker 2: to Aby about off the air was if you found
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Speaker 2: a hair person yet, And the first thing you said
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Speaker 2: was that was actually the most stressful part of this move.
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Speaker 2: You said, the job isn't even stressful. It's the little
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Speaker 2: things like finding an eyebrow person.
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Speaker 3: No, like, that's the only thing that's stressing me out, hey,
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Speaker 3: because we're just kind of sitting here for an hour
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Speaker 3: or for three hours. But b that took me so
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Speaker 3: long in Atlanta. It took me like a good year
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Speaker 3: to feel comfortable going to a woman who does my eyebrows.
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Speaker 3: And I cause, I I know, I know that's very
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Speaker 3: it's very vapid. But when something feels off about my appearance,
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Speaker 3: like my eyebrows or my hair feels a little off,
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Speaker 3: it does affect my mental health. And so for a
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Speaker 3: while I was driving back to Jacksonville to get all
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Speaker 3: those beauty things done, and then it just got very
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Speaker 3: expensive and very tedious to drive.
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Speaker 2: You were driving from Atlanta to Jacksonville.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, just get my hair done, Oh.
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Speaker 2: My gosh, Okay, because doesn't getting your hair done actually
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Speaker 2: as a woman, takes hours, six hours, and so you're
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Speaker 2: driving hours to go.
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Speaker 1: That's a whole day.
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Speaker 3: It's a whole day. But we had a lot of
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Speaker 3: PTO in in uh for the Bird Show, so we
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Speaker 3: had six weeks of pto.
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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you can just use half a vacation
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Speaker 1: on hair.
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Speaker 3: No, literally, I just I'm like, I'm not going on vacation.
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Speaker 3: I can't afford to go to Barbados, so I'll just
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Speaker 3: drive down and my vacation will be getting my hair done.
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Speaker 3: And it got to the point where I finally had
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Speaker 3: to get somebody new because we had this big gap
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Speaker 3: between between our vacations where we had a vacation in
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Speaker 3: September and the next vacation was in December, and my
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Speaker 3: hair lady was like, yeah, I'm out of town that
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Speaker 3: whole week. I can't Yeah, I can't see you. And
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Speaker 3: so then the next vacation would have been in April,
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Speaker 3: and I thought, I literally can't wait six seven, eight
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Speaker 3: months to get my hair done. So I finally had
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Speaker 3: to start dating hairdressers in Atlanta, and.
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Speaker 1: It took a year to the right date.
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Speaker 3: Well, it sucks because you're going there and you don't
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Speaker 3: want to commit to something like getting your hair colored
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Speaker 3: because that's very expensive, and also it's a lot more
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Speaker 3: noticeable if they mess up your color. So I would
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Speaker 3: go and get haircuts by these random women and I
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Speaker 3: would suss them out and just if they could cut
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Speaker 3: my hair really well, then I knew that they could
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Speaker 3: color it well. And so I probably went to like
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Speaker 3: five different salons. Somebody butchered my bangs, a very well
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Speaker 3: known salon in Atlanta totally butchered my banks my first
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Speaker 3: month in Atlanta. So I had to wear headbands the
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Speaker 3: first month I was living there.
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Speaker 2: I feel like I saw videos online with you with
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Speaker 2: the head bands. Was that the time period?
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Speaker 3: Yeah? That probably was right when I was No, literally
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Speaker 3: right when I joined the show. I went to the
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Speaker 3: salon and I could never talk about it on the
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Speaker 3: show because somebody else on the show goes to the salon,
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Speaker 3: and I went, and no hate on the salon, like
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Speaker 3: they're so successful in there.
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Speaker 1: There's just some people that are better for other people.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, So I went to I didn't go to the
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Speaker 3: main person at the salon. I went to like number
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Speaker 3: two or three, and I remember being so excited because
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Speaker 3: I thought, oh my god, this is so cool. I'm
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Speaker 3: like one of these cool Atlanta girlies going to the
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Speaker 3: cool Girl salon, which it is. It is the cool
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Speaker 3: Girl Salon. Again. I want to make it very clear,
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Speaker 3: I'm not trying to like shit on the salon, but
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Speaker 3: I just remember I was sitting there getting my hair
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Speaker 3: cut and I was I had had like this whole
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Speaker 3: night planned, I had this outfit on. I was gonna
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Speaker 3: meet a new friend for dinner, and the person cutting
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Speaker 3: my hair just kept like whacking my bangs and I'm
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Speaker 3: looking at this person, going you need to stop, and
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Speaker 3: so anything. The guy was basically like, Okay, I think
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Speaker 3: it's just the product we use. And I was like,
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Speaker 3: I don't care what's happening, but if you chop any
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Speaker 3: more off, there's no hair. There's gonna be no hair left.
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna look like Phoebe Dinnerver from Bridgerton with those microbangs.
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Speaker 1: Oh no.
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Speaker 3: So I had to go to this dinner with this
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Speaker 3: new friend and I was like, please don't look at me.
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Speaker 1: How did you meet the new friend?
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Speaker 3: She it's actually a really interesting story. We're still friends.
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Speaker 3: She was a listener of my podcast. I have a
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Speaker 3: podcast called The Breakup Breakdown, and that was really taking
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Speaker 3: off when I first joined the show. She noticed she
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Speaker 3: was the first person to guess that I was moving
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Speaker 3: to the Burt Show because she was a listener of
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Speaker 3: The Birt Show and she noticed that my podcast had
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Speaker 3: gotten picked up on my boss's network, and she had
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Speaker 3: DMed me, oh no, wait, how did I That's so fast?
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Speaker 2: I love and again, like some people were like why
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Speaker 2: could you be so obsessed with the show or different celebrities,
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Speaker 2: And I love it. I love when somebody does a
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Speaker 2: deep dive and they're like, I'm going to figure it
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Speaker 2: out because it's so impressive.
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Speaker 3: So impressive.
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Speaker 1: I mean the fact that people figured yeah, that you
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Speaker 1: were coming here.
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Speaker 2: I was like, that is amazing because people were zooming
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Speaker 2: in on photos, they were looking at different things that
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Speaker 2: you were posting and like, Nope, I figured it out.
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Speaker 2: That's the footprint of Phoebe the big old Flamingo at TPA.
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Speaker 2: I'm like, unless you are here, do you know, and
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Speaker 2: unless you have like oh my gosh, like life is
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Speaker 2: so busy.
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Speaker 1: That you're looking at the photo and you're like, got it.
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Speaker 3: I'm impressed I figured it out and also putting it
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Speaker 3: in chat GBT trying to figure it out. It's so impressive.
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Speaker 1: I tip my hat.
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Speaker 3: So this is a story. I messed up my timeline.
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Speaker 3: So she listened to my podcast and I had just
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Speaker 3: followed The Birch Show, which is the show that I
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Speaker 3: came from, and she had reposted it. So we became
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Speaker 3: mutuals because she followed me and I was like, oh,
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Speaker 3: she is blue check mark me follower. So anyway, she
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Speaker 3: posts that her husband was featured on the show and
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Speaker 3: I had just applied for the Birch Show and I said,
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Speaker 3: oh my god, do you know anybody on the show?
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Speaker 3: Can you like hook me up with like contact, which
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Speaker 3: long story short didn't need, but she ghosted me. She
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Speaker 3: didn't say anything, and I was like, I remember being
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Speaker 3: kind of upset. I was like, oh I thought, I thought. Anyway,
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Speaker 3: so whatever, fast forward, I get the job. And I
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Speaker 3: think she figured out that I had gotten the position
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Speaker 3: because she DMed.
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Speaker 1: Me and was like she's going through the file cabinet
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Speaker 1: in the office.
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Speaker 3: She's like, I saw a lock of your hair in
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Speaker 3: the studio. So anyway, she dms me, She's like, oh,
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Speaker 3: I I think you just got casted for the show.
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Speaker 3: And I couldn't say anything. So then I had to
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Speaker 3: go to her. Oh go long story short through that,
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Speaker 3: she was like, well we should be friends at this point.
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Speaker 3: So we and we got dinner and yeah she saw
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Speaker 3: my horrible.
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Speaker 1: Bangs and so now she's actually a good friend.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, she works for she works for a TV station
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Speaker 3: in Atlanta, so she's a fellow media person, which is
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Speaker 3: why I followed her when she followed me back.
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Speaker 1: Because that's super cool. So you go out on this
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Speaker 1: that friend date.
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Speaker 2: From what I have learned, again, I'm gonna say a
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Speaker 2: majority of guys don't do this. But like, when we
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Speaker 2: get our hair done, our first thing is not going
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Speaker 2: to hit the town. But I've heard this from multiple women,
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Speaker 2: especially in the office, Like when you get your hair done,
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Speaker 2: it is a debut. You go and make sure you
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Speaker 2: have good dinner plans, you go out downtown like it
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Speaker 2: is a whole thing.
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Speaker 1: And so that was your plan.
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Speaker 3: Yes, it's so expensive to get your hair done and
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Speaker 3: you look really good.
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Speaker 1: Oh I've seen it. I'm like, it is impressive.
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Speaker 2: Which honestly, I get frustrated when I go get my
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Speaker 2: hair done because I can never recreate that.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know what kind of secret sauce they
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Speaker 3: put in the shampoo.
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Speaker 1: That's the thing.
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Speaker 2: I'm like, if you only get one day out of
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Speaker 2: this entire hair setting, that's kind of upsetting because shouldn't
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Speaker 2: you want to be able to recreate it, Like I
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Speaker 2: literally beg my barber or my salon. I've got to
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Speaker 2: get into that to like teach me. I was like,
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Speaker 2: show me your ways, because I cannot do this starting
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Speaker 2: tomorrow it will not look this good. And I still
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Speaker 2: have not mastered it. I've tried using chain, taking a
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Speaker 2: picture and like coaching me through, and so you go out.
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Speaker 2: I can only imagine the feeling you knew as soon
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Speaker 2: as the hair was done that you were like, you're.
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Speaker 1: Not happy with it.
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Speaker 3: Oh it was heinous. I mean it was like, cancel
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Speaker 3: your plans. It was so bad that I wanted to
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Speaker 3: cancel my plans. And it was so bad that they
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Speaker 3: gave me a partial refund, which in hindsight, I'm like,
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Speaker 3: you really should have given me full. Remember I have
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Speaker 3: a picture. Do I have a photo? I could find it.
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Speaker 3: I definitely have photos of me in the headband. I
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Speaker 3: mean I looked like one of those girls who played
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Speaker 3: soccer in high school every single day, you know how
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Speaker 3: they always had that skinny headband on, pushing their hair back,
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Speaker 3: and no.
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Speaker 1: I always find that look really nice. I'm like, oh
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Speaker 1: that's cool.
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Speaker 3: That's what I looked like for about three months until
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Speaker 3: it grew out. Thank God.
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Speaker 1: I wonder why it was your head of hair that
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Speaker 1: they messed up.
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Speaker 3: I don't.
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Speaker 1: That's what I always wonder with hair people.
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Speaker 2: I'm like, is it I well, I guess it would
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Speaker 2: be like as Rudio old soe. No, it does change,
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Speaker 2: but I guess. I guess all hair is not the same,
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Speaker 2: and all heads are not the same, and if you're
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Speaker 2: not used to it, But isn't it better to cut
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Speaker 2: off a little before you just go ahead and chop
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Speaker 2: a lot off because it doesn't grow quick?
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Speaker 3: I think whatever product he used, I think it made
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Speaker 3: my hair kind of sticky and dry. So I think
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Speaker 3: he thought if he just kept cutting, it would sort
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Speaker 3: of relax. I don't. I mean, I understand the thought process,
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Speaker 3: Like when I.
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Speaker 1: Said it don't.
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Speaker 2: I don't get that thought process. I'm like, what if
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Speaker 2: I keep cutting, it's gonna relax? I don't know if
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Speaker 2: that's again, this is why I didn't go into cosmetology.
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Speaker 1: Definitely not good with hair.
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Speaker 3: He's like, we just have to get the loose ends off.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, the loose ends and then he ended up
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Speaker 2: looking like a I just I need to see the photo.
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Speaker 3: I'm really trying hard. I can't remember when I got
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Speaker 3: because I have this photo where I'm like, I'm looking
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Speaker 3: at it and I'm like, that's when it started to
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Speaker 3: grow out. Oh god, I'm not much sure what they were.
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Speaker 2: Did you okay after the dinner? Did you continue the night,
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Speaker 2: did you guys have other plans? Or did you just
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Speaker 2: beam it right home?
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Speaker 3: Oh no, I took my ass home. I was like,
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Speaker 3: I'm getting out of here. Let me fine. It might
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Speaker 3: have been March twenty twenty three.
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Speaker 1: Oh man, easy, that's rough.
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Speaker 3: Easy.
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Speaker 2: I'm so curious of like, how bad could it be,
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Speaker 2: because I feel like you might have thought it was
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Speaker 2: than it was.
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Speaker 3: No, it was pretty bad.
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Speaker 1: No, it was actually as bad as I'm saying it was.
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Speaker 3: It was bad in the sense that he was like, yeah,
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Speaker 3: we'll we'll refund some of this because he gave me
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Speaker 3: a great blowout. Otherwise, I mean, it wasn't a bad haircut,
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Speaker 3: had no bangs. I just had little baby bangs and
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Speaker 3: it was heinous. Okay, I can't find this healthie. If
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Speaker 3: I ever do.
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Speaker 1: I will show you them, okay.
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Speaker 3: Or I'll show you videos of me on the show
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Speaker 3: and you'll see my hair pulled back and you'll be like, ah, yes,
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Speaker 3: she is hiding.
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Speaker 1: Something, and something's being hidden out.
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Speaker 3: Something's amiss.
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Speaker 2: You never went back to that same person, no, is
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Speaker 2: that when you started going to jackson.
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Speaker 3: So then I went back to Jacksonville because I was like, yeah,
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Speaker 3: I can't. I can't do this again, can't do this
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Speaker 3: around you because again now I'm in a very front
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Speaker 3: facing job, and I was like, I can't now fuck
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Speaker 3: up my color and my haircut.
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Speaker 1: What are you gonna do now?
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Speaker 3: Though?
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Speaker 2: Now that you're in Tampa to find somebody so that
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Speaker 2: doesn't happen again, because there are some like you live
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Speaker 2: kind of close to a place called Hyde Park, which
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Speaker 2: ye I know from what I hear, the hair people
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Speaker 2: over there are amazing. Like I have a buddy that's
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Speaker 2: telling me to go there and spend one hundred dollars
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Speaker 2: on my haircut, and I'm like, bro, I used to
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Speaker 2: spend twenty just to get my hair done.
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Speaker 1: Now you want me to just find out one hundred.
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Speaker 3: And guys have to get their hair done more than.
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Speaker 1: Women, correct, which is been more expensive for y'all.
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Speaker 3: Well, but we do it every I get my hair
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Speaker 3: done every like three months. You get yours done like
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Speaker 3: once a month.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Right now they're kind of pushing it like six weeks,
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Speaker 2: which I'm probably gonna push back and be like, let's go.
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Speaker 1: To like five or four. Yeah, because it's starting to
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Speaker 1: grow out a little bit.
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Speaker 2: And now I have the opposite where my bangs are
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Speaker 2: extremely long, and I'm like, all right now I literally
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Speaker 2: look like Jimmy Neutron. It's you don't well right now,
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Speaker 2: I've kind of tried to calm it down a little bit,
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Speaker 2: but if I wanted to, it could.
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Speaker 3: I'm trying, like somebody, but it's not Jimmy Neutron.
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Speaker 2: I either get to it's Jimmy Neutron or Johnny Bravo.
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Speaker 3: Johnny Bravo, that's what you look like there.
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Speaker 1: It is Okay, see that's not what I'm trying to
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Speaker 1: go for.
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Speaker 3: But not in a bad way. Johnny Bravo's like, you know,
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Speaker 3: little hyper mask it like the whole thing.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that hair is massive.
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Speaker 2: He's like, but I did have a moment because I
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Speaker 2: was trying to elevate. This is the problem with AI
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Speaker 2: see me and my roommate. We go back and forth
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Speaker 2: all the time. We're trying to like this is whatever
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Speaker 2: elevator looks as much as possible.
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Speaker 3: Listen, I get it. I know you're speaking to the
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Speaker 3: girl who spent a lot of money on plastic surgery.
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Speaker 2: Well, now because of it, he convinced me I need
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Speaker 2: to start going to the salon. I've had the same
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Speaker 2: barber for twenty twenty six, for seven years, but.
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Speaker 3: Your heart doesn't look bad. I don't think you need
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Speaker 3: to change it.
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Speaker 2: Well, that's because I started going to the salon. I
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Speaker 2: had to break up with my barber. No, but here's
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Speaker 2: the thing. I never told him. And I don't know
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Speaker 2: if you're supposed to tell your hair person that you're
14:27
Speaker 2: no longer going to go see them.
14:29
Speaker 3: No, you don't vocalize that.
14:30
Speaker 2: But you should, though, because they kind of they're a friend,
14:33
Speaker 2: and they're probably gonna listen to this. And so I'm
14:35
Speaker 2: sorry because I feel like I should send the message.
14:38
Speaker 2: I feel like I should explain myself. I feel like
14:40
Speaker 2: you deserve an explanation for why.
14:42
Speaker 1: I just ghosted you.
14:43
Speaker 2: I literally ghosted you after a seven year relationship. We
14:46
Speaker 2: sat there and talked about life. We've shared extremely difficult stories.
14:50
Speaker 3: I will say it is a very intimate relationship to
14:53
Speaker 3: where it's kind of nice in a way that you
14:56
Speaker 3: get to try somebody new when you move because once
14:59
Speaker 3: you go a cup times like I can't We're locked
15:01
Speaker 3: in now, That's what I'm saying.
15:03
Speaker 1: And he's literally been to.
15:04
Speaker 2: My house yea, So I feel like I owe it
15:07
Speaker 2: to him, but I have not had the courage to
15:09
Speaker 2: just send a message and say hey, it's not you,
15:12
Speaker 2: it's me. And it sounds like a breakup because it
15:14
Speaker 2: literally feels like it where I'm like, I'm just seeing
15:16
Speaker 2: someone else.
15:17
Speaker 3: Now, do you like the salon more? Though? Like? Was
15:19
Speaker 3: it worth it? Was it worth cheating on your barber?
15:23
Speaker 2: I think so, because what I wanted to do is
15:26
Speaker 2: have a little bit longer hair. I used to go
15:28
Speaker 2: so short on the sides and on the back and
15:30
Speaker 2: up top, and it was very barber sk of like
15:32
Speaker 2: have a fade.
15:33
Speaker 3: Yeah.
15:34
Speaker 2: And then what I've learned through thanks Goodness the AI,
15:37
Speaker 2: like if I keep it a little bit longer and
15:39
Speaker 2: have a little more texture to it, it actually elevates
15:43
Speaker 2: what I'm trying to look like, Oh okay, So instead
15:46
Speaker 2: of going so short like a barber wood. I'm using
15:48
Speaker 2: more of like a salon scissor, and they're kind of sissory.
15:54
Speaker 1: Sissory. Me and my salon lady are scissoring.
15:57
Speaker 3: Why can't you just do the scissor cut at the barber.
16:00
Speaker 1: I don't know, because I'm scared it won't be the same.
16:04
Speaker 3: You didn't even give your barber the chance.
16:05
Speaker 2: I know, And that's the part of the breakup that
16:07
Speaker 2: feels hard. It's like I didn't express how I truly felt,
16:11
Speaker 2: and I just left without an explanation.
16:13
Speaker 3: That's on you.
16:13
Speaker 2: But now it's super easy to just go to salon
16:15
Speaker 2: place because it is kind of nice. I feel treated.
16:17
Speaker 2: I go in there, I literally get a whole wash out.
16:21
Speaker 2: It's beautiful. She styles my hair, and it's also what
16:25
Speaker 2: you said, it's nice to have something new, change.
16:27
Speaker 1: It up a little bit.
16:28
Speaker 3: It is nice because I do think sometimes your beauty
16:33
Speaker 3: people can get comfortable with you to where an it's
16:38
Speaker 3: any career is like this, but once you get a
16:40
Speaker 3: little bit comfortable, you're not as hungry for optimal results.
16:46
Speaker 3: Does that make sense?
16:47
Speaker 1: Yeah?
16:47
Speaker 2: Absolutely, You're like, I've kind of got this in the bag.
16:49
Speaker 2: They're not going to leave me.
16:50
Speaker 1: Yeah, I only do.
16:51
Speaker 3: But it is kind of nice to go somewhere new
16:53
Speaker 3: and they want to try really hard to make your
16:55
Speaker 3: hair like the best has ever looked.
16:57
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's what I'm going for.
16:58
Speaker 2: I want to see the picture that chatchis created of
17:01
Speaker 2: what I could look like. I'm like, I want that, Like,
17:04
Speaker 2: give me that. And we're so close, and that's why
17:07
Speaker 2: I don't want to give up on my salon.
17:08
Speaker 3: Lady, Now, what do you want to change about your hair?
17:10
Speaker 1: I don't know. There's just a look to it.
17:12
Speaker 2: It's like a little bit longer on the side, but
17:13
Speaker 2: it's a little bit shorter on the top, which like
17:15
Speaker 2: a little bit of poof, because if you don't know
17:17
Speaker 2: what I look like, I don't know. I'm a basic
17:19
Speaker 2: white dude, has kind of short hair. But I spike
17:21
Speaker 2: it up in the front, kind of give it a
17:22
Speaker 2: little puff, yeah, a.
17:24
Speaker 3: Little poof, a little Johnny Bravo moment.
17:26
Speaker 1: Little Johnny Bravo.
17:27
Speaker 2: But it hasn't yet exactly gotten to there, and when
17:30
Speaker 2: it did again, I wasn't able to recreate it. And
17:33
Speaker 2: it's also right down the street, so it made it
17:35
Speaker 2: really convenient. So it was actually really hard because I'm like, well,
17:38
Speaker 2: now I need to give her enough of a chance
17:39
Speaker 2: because I can't switch again. Yeah, and the only other
17:41
Speaker 2: person i'd switch to is now we have two.
17:43
Speaker 3: Options, but this is the perfect time to switch. You
17:46
Speaker 3: haven't gone back to her yet. I feel like when
17:48
Speaker 3: you go back to them is when it's awkward, and then.
17:49
Speaker 1: It might have gone there twice now because it is like.
17:52
Speaker 3: A second date. After the second date, I feel like
17:53
Speaker 3: you owe them an explanation.
17:54
Speaker 2: Well, I better make a decision because this haircut is
17:56
Speaker 2: supposed to happen either tomorrow or Thursday.
17:58
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
17:58
Speaker 2: So it's either I go to some or new and
18:00
Speaker 2: try to see or I stick with her and see
18:02
Speaker 2: if she could do I think I'm gonna stick with
18:04
Speaker 2: her and see if she can do it one time perfect,
18:07
Speaker 2: coach me through it, and I will say, it's a
18:09
Speaker 2: lot more expensive than I was doing at the barber.
18:11
Speaker 3: How much is it?
18:12
Speaker 1: I think?
18:13
Speaker 2: I walk out the door like eighty okay, which is
18:15
Speaker 2: not I guess if you know you're a woman listening,
18:17
Speaker 2: you're like, that's nothing.
18:18
Speaker 1: I pay three hundred. I'm like, I know, I get.
18:20
Speaker 3: It, but you do have to do it more frequent.
18:22
Speaker 2: Yeah, So before I was paying like thirty Yeah, so
18:25
Speaker 2: it's a big jump, but if I can get the
18:28
Speaker 2: look right, then it's worth it.
18:29
Speaker 3: I completely agree. I'm willing to pay for me to
18:32
Speaker 3: look good. So here's my suggestion for you, and let
18:36
Speaker 3: me know if you would be open to this. Although
18:38
Speaker 3: I don't know if it will be able to make
18:39
Speaker 3: it happen, just based off of this person's popularity, I
18:42
Speaker 3: kind of want you to get your hair done where
18:44
Speaker 3: I'm about to go, and I want you to sell
18:45
Speaker 3: them out. Really, I need you to do like some
18:48
Speaker 3: lady until i'm so.
18:51
Speaker 1: I don't they would do my hair.
18:53
Speaker 3: I think. So I could look it up. Let's find out.
18:55
Speaker 1: Where's this place.
18:56
Speaker 3: It's in South Tampa, although there's another place that my
19:00
Speaker 3: sister in law goes to. I might try.
19:03
Speaker 2: That's really I was like, you might be able to say.
19:04
Speaker 2: I don't think it's nothing here as offensive. We've never been.
19:07
Speaker 3: Because I don't want to say it in case like
19:09
Speaker 3: I have a horrible experience. I don't think I will.
19:12
Speaker 3: It looks like a very I mean, it's taken me
19:14
Speaker 3: months to get into this place because they only have
19:15
Speaker 3: like two girls.
19:16
Speaker 1: That's insane.
19:17
Speaker 3: I know it's kind of annoying. But that's how you
19:18
Speaker 3: know that they're good if it's hard for you to
19:20
Speaker 3: get an appointment with them.
19:22
Speaker 2: So I go to a really popular it's like a
19:23
Speaker 2: chain place right down the street, like Supercuts. No, not
19:26
Speaker 2: super Cuts, but I would haircuts are like ten bucks.
19:30
Speaker 2: I'd be saving a lot of money. I don't know
19:31
Speaker 2: if I would look at the way i'd want, but
19:33
Speaker 2: I wouldn't mind saving that dough.
19:35
Speaker 3: So I don't see it's not even on the map.
19:39
Speaker 2: Mail.
19:41
Speaker 3: I mean, it doesn't mean that you couldn't go.
19:43
Speaker 2: No, I mean that's why I wanted to go to
19:44
Speaker 2: a salon, because they were just better with the shaping
19:46
Speaker 2: than the scissors.
19:47
Speaker 3: Yeah.
19:47
Speaker 2: Like that's why I didn't want to have the barber
19:49
Speaker 2: edge that I used to have, because it just it
19:52
Speaker 2: thinned out my head too much.
19:53
Speaker 3: Women historically are better at scissoring.
19:55
Speaker 1: That's exactly what I'm going for.
19:57
Speaker 2: Wait, we also got on a topic because I also
19:59
Speaker 2: said I wanted break up with my dentist. Yeah, and
20:01
Speaker 2: I think that's not that doesn't feel as awkward to me.
20:05
Speaker 3: Oh, that's not awkward at all.
20:06
Speaker 1: Well, unless you have a relationship with your dentist.
20:08
Speaker 3: Yeah, but who does that's valid unless you're dating a dentist. Well, no,
20:13
Speaker 3: my best friend's a dentist. If we ever broke up,
20:15
Speaker 3: then yeah, I would break up with a dentists.
20:18
Speaker 1: Have you decided that? Do you have an area here
20:20
Speaker 1: for that?
20:20
Speaker 3: So that's when I told you that I haven't been
20:22
Speaker 3: to the dentist since I got my Veneers?
20:24
Speaker 1: When did you get Veneers?
20:25
Speaker 3: I got Veneers three years ago. I got them right
20:28
Speaker 3: before I moved to it.
20:29
Speaker 1: Let me close my mouth, I was.
20:31
Speaker 3: I love that You're shocked, though, because everybody I tell
20:34
Speaker 3: there's only one person that's ever asked me if I
20:35
Speaker 3: had Veneers, And I don't know how they picked up
20:37
Speaker 3: on it, because I feel like I'm very natural looking Veneers.
20:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't even I don't know why I would
20:44
Speaker 2: have assumed. Yeah, I don't know, but hmm, what made
20:49
Speaker 2: you want to get Veneers?
20:50
Speaker 3: I hated my teeth. My teeth were always my biggest
20:53
Speaker 3: insecurity growth. Oh really hated hated my teeth. I have
20:56
Speaker 3: like a weird jaw situation to where like my palette
20:59
Speaker 3: didn't really all the way, so my teeth kind of
21:01
Speaker 3: crowded at the top of my mouth and they're still
21:03
Speaker 3: kind of angled it that way, but the veneers conceal
21:08
Speaker 3: it better than my natural teeth did. They were also
21:10
Speaker 3: really sharp, so it was sort of vampirey. There was
21:16
Speaker 3: just a lot of things I didn't like about them
21:18
Speaker 3: that I was like, honestly, even if they looked five
21:21
Speaker 3: percent better with veneers, it would be worth the cost
21:23
Speaker 3: because they're really fucking expensive. Wow.
21:25
Speaker 2: I was gonna say, yeah, do you mind saying how
21:27
Speaker 2: much like ballpark it?
21:28
Speaker 3: It was more than my nose job? Wow, my nose
21:31
Speaker 3: shop was actually very cheap. In hindsight, I could have
21:34
Speaker 3: gotten like four nose jobs for the price of my veniers.
21:37
Speaker 1: Really, but you're talking like twenty No, it wasn't that much.
21:41
Speaker 1: I don't know how much anything is.
21:43
Speaker 3: I lived at home for like almost almost nine months
21:49
Speaker 3: when I graduated college. H and I specifically lived at
21:53
Speaker 3: home because I knew it was I was willing to
21:57
Speaker 3: go through whatever in order to get those veneers. Wow.
22:00
Speaker 3: So I didn't really have bills for like nine months
22:03
Speaker 3: and then I was gonna get them.
22:04
Speaker 2: But that was something you always you were like, you
22:06
Speaker 2: knew probably for years leading up that you wanted to
22:08
Speaker 2: do that.
22:09
Speaker 3: Always. I had braces and Honestly, in hindsight, my teeth
22:12
Speaker 3: really were fine. It is funny what facial dysmorphia will do. Honestly,
22:16
Speaker 3: they were fine, but I just really hated my teeth
22:19
Speaker 3: for some reason. And then I got braces again right
22:22
Speaker 3: before college, but they were lingual braces, so they went
22:24
Speaker 3: behind my teeth. Oh wow, yeah, I've seen those, and
22:26
Speaker 3: so I had those all through college, and then I
22:29
Speaker 3: got them off with the intention of like, I'm never
22:32
Speaker 3: gonna be happy with my teeth. I just need to
22:33
Speaker 3: get veneers. Yep. So I got them off with the
22:36
Speaker 3: intention of getting veneers on. Then the pandemic hit and
22:41
Speaker 3: then I thought, well, ay, I'm like, I can't go
22:43
Speaker 3: to a doctor because it's a pandemic. But I was
22:45
Speaker 3: also like, why am I gonna get veneers when I'm
22:48
Speaker 3: not going to see anybody for like another year.
22:50
Speaker 1: Oh, that's a good point.
22:51
Speaker 3: So then I was I don't know what I was
22:53
Speaker 3: waiting on for a while because then I was still
22:55
Speaker 3: at in Jacksonville. And finally one day I was like,
22:58
Speaker 3: I just need to do it. I just need to
23:00
Speaker 3: pull the trigger. And then it kind of coincided with
23:03
Speaker 3: me moving to Atlanta, so it was sort of perfect
23:05
Speaker 3: that I didn't have to like explain to anybody, like
23:08
Speaker 3: why my teeth looked different. I could just like leave.
23:10
Speaker 1: You just have a whole new you. Yeah, so do
23:13
Speaker 1: you have You're happy with it?
23:15
Speaker 3: Yeah? I love my new teeth.
23:16
Speaker 1: That's amazing.
23:16
Speaker 2: I think that's the best part. I think a lot
23:18
Speaker 2: of people get questioned on why they do certain things.
23:20
Speaker 2: It's like, first off, it's my body. I can do
23:22
Speaker 2: whatever I want. This is what I've been thinking of
23:23
Speaker 2: for a while. And that's why I asked, like, you've
23:25
Speaker 2: thought about it for so long? Yeah, that It's like,
23:27
Speaker 2: of course it makes sense if it's continuously running through
23:30
Speaker 2: your mind of what's something you want to do, what's
23:32
Speaker 2: your decision to make.
23:33
Speaker 3: It's the gift of not having to think about my face.
23:37
Speaker 3: I think that's what I really really like. And when
23:39
Speaker 3: people ask me about cosmetic surgery, they're like, how do
23:41
Speaker 3: I know if I should get it versus not get it?
23:43
Speaker 3: I'm like, does it take up enough space in your
23:46
Speaker 3: brain that if, at the bare minimum, even if you
23:49
Speaker 3: didn't like the way that they looked, would it take
23:51
Speaker 3: it off your mind? Like would you stop thinking about
23:54
Speaker 3: your teeth or your nose or your eyebrows or whatever.
23:57
Speaker 3: So much like that for me, I was pain to
24:00
Speaker 3: get rid of that.
24:01
Speaker 1: Yeah.
24:02
Speaker 2: No, I mean I could when I was growing up,
24:04
Speaker 2: probably for a majority of my childhood, I just had horriblehackney,
24:07
Speaker 2: and so it literally took so much space in my
24:09
Speaker 2: mind because you think about it. Every time you go out,
24:11
Speaker 2: is somebody looking at me?
24:12
Speaker 3: Every time you take a photo.
24:14
Speaker 2: Every single moment is just oh my god, I hate
24:17
Speaker 2: the way I look. And so I understand that feeling completely.
24:20
Speaker 2: And so when there's an option to do something about it,
24:23
Speaker 2: and you think about it enough and you're like, oh,
24:24
Speaker 2: I'm continuously thinking about this, and then you finally decide
24:27
Speaker 2: to make the move, Well, sounds like it's the right move.
24:29
Speaker 3: Yeah, which I mean some people should say, why don't
24:31
Speaker 3: you just pay ten thousand dollars for therapy? But you know,
24:35
Speaker 3: this one's more fun. This was quicker. I didn't have
24:39
Speaker 3: to do any mental leg work.
24:41
Speaker 2: Well yeah, and therapy, it's it's still you have to
24:44
Speaker 2: learn to love yourself in different phases, but it's also
24:47
Speaker 2: I think there's a moment too, like I was so close.
24:49
Speaker 2: I was like in sixth grade and I wanted to
24:51
Speaker 2: get like I acutane, which is I guess, a very
24:54
Speaker 2: powerful drug that kind of dries out all your skin
24:56
Speaker 2: and all your pores and helps you get rid of acne.
24:58
Speaker 2: And I was willing to do anything at that age
25:01
Speaker 2: because everywhere I went, I was like, well, I am
25:03
Speaker 2: the ugliest person here, and this sucks.
25:05
Speaker 1: I would like beg not to go to school.
25:07
Speaker 2: I would cry in my room and just throw the
25:09
Speaker 2: biggest fit because I felt so ugly, and so I
25:13
Speaker 2: would have absolutely I'm glad my parents were like, broh,
25:16
Speaker 2: you're twelve, and then you're thirteen, like, give it some
25:20
Speaker 2: time now. It didn't ever go away until I was
25:22
Speaker 2: like out of high school, which cool. When it's the
25:26
Speaker 2: most important to look really good, that's fine, but I'm
25:30
Speaker 2: glad they gave me a second to kind of go through.
25:32
Speaker 2: That sucked, but I think it also built me some character.
25:35
Speaker 3: It's it, Yeah, Accutane's really hard on your body.
25:38
Speaker 1: That's why they didn't want me doing it.
25:39
Speaker 3: And you know, they probably knew you were gonna be
25:42
Speaker 3: woo woo one day and we're worried about your gut
25:44
Speaker 3: health or whatever.
25:45
Speaker 2: That's true. I got very into health after that moment.
25:48
Speaker 2: But that was also the moment. We were trying everything,
25:50
Speaker 2: all the natural sources to fix it, Andoja girl everything.
25:55
Speaker 2: I was putting honey on my face at night. Oh,
25:57
Speaker 2: it was horrible. Nothing worked. But I do also underst
26:00
Speaker 2: It's like, that is a personal choice. If you want
26:01
Speaker 2: to do something that makes you feel like you could
26:04
Speaker 2: walk into a room and feel fully confident in it,
26:08
Speaker 2: get it a hundred.
26:10
Speaker 1: But that's really cool though. So now, because you have veneers,
26:14
Speaker 1: do you need a dentist?
26:16
Speaker 3: So I think that's what I was curious because I'm
26:19
Speaker 3: now I'm very protective of them because they're very expensive.
26:23
Speaker 3: Yeah that I'm like, do I need to go to
26:25
Speaker 3: a cosmetic dentist to get my stuff done? You know,
26:30
Speaker 3: I just I don't really know what the protocol is.
26:32
Speaker 3: I think you're just supposed to go to a normal
26:34
Speaker 3: dentist and my bottom teeth are still normal. Nice, But
26:39
Speaker 3: then also that needs a dentist. Yeah, But I really
26:41
Speaker 3: liked my dentist in Jacksonville, like they were so good
26:44
Speaker 3: at their job, which I know is so dumb to say,
26:46
Speaker 3: but a lot of dentists are big scam artists, and
26:49
Speaker 3: I had a pretty traumatizing experience with a dentist right
26:52
Speaker 3: before I got my Veneers. So again, moving to moving
26:56
Speaker 3: to Atlanta, I had a really great dentist in Jacksonville
26:59
Speaker 3: that was really difficult to get into, and so I
27:01
Speaker 3: needed to get scans to get my Veneers for whatever reason,
27:04
Speaker 3: like you just had to get an X ray or whatever.
27:06
Speaker 3: So I go to this dentist to get an X
27:08
Speaker 3: ray done because they're like, we can get you in tomorrow.
27:10
Speaker 3: Red flag again, just like the hair lady, if you
27:12
Speaker 3: can get into tomorrow too eager.
27:13
Speaker 2: It's even like you said with dating, Yeah, like if
27:15
Speaker 2: you're too eager, well.
27:16
Speaker 3: It's not an eagerness thing, just like why do you
27:18
Speaker 3: have availability all day tomorrow? Whereas my dentist in Jacksonville's
27:22
Speaker 3: booked out six months in advance, so they're like we
27:25
Speaker 3: can get you in tomorrow. It's like perfect. So anyway,
27:27
Speaker 3: get the scans done and they're like, by the way,
27:29
Speaker 3: you have a cavity, and I was like whatever, I'll
27:31
Speaker 3: get it done because a cavity is literally the most
27:33
Speaker 3: basic of all dental procedures. So I get this cavity
27:37
Speaker 3: filled at the same place right before I get my Veneers,
27:40
Speaker 3: and about a week later, I start having this debilitating
27:44
Speaker 3: tooth pain.
27:44
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I can't get to you.
27:47
Speaker 3: I'm like, what's going on? So coincidentally, I'd had a
27:51
Speaker 3: dentist appointment lined up with my regular dentist for just
27:53
Speaker 3: like a normal cleaning, like a month later. So a
27:56
Speaker 3: month later, I go in and I don't don't say
27:58
Speaker 3: anything about the toothpain, but my dental hygienis not even
28:01
Speaker 3: the dentist. The dental hygienis goes, your tooth is like
28:06
Speaker 3: really cracked, and I go what And she's like, yeah,
28:09
Speaker 3: it's like fucked up. And I go, that's crazy. I
28:11
Speaker 3: just got a cavity filled. I guess I need to
28:14
Speaker 3: go tell this dentist. So I go to the dentist
28:16
Speaker 3: and I go, hey, I don't say anything. I just go,
28:19
Speaker 3: I'm having a lot of tooth pain on that cavity.
28:21
Speaker 3: Can you just like check it out? And here's the
28:23
Speaker 3: thing about mistakes. People are human. Not every cavity is
28:30
Speaker 3: gonna be the perfect cavity. But I do expect you
28:32
Speaker 3: to fix your mistake.
28:33
Speaker 1: Yeah, like own up.
28:34
Speaker 3: If something goes wrong, because I can't fix it myself.
28:39
Speaker 3: So I go So this is just so classic women
28:41
Speaker 3: going to the doctor. So I go to the dentist,
28:44
Speaker 3: and I go, something's wrong, and he takes a look
28:47
Speaker 3: at it. He taps around, he gets a mirror, boom
28:49
Speaker 3: boom boom boom boom, and he goes, I think it's
28:52
Speaker 3: just a sensitive tooth.
28:54
Speaker 1: Mother.
28:54
Speaker 3: He's like, I think some you know, some water is
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Speaker 3: getting in it and maybe it's a little sensitive.
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Speaker 1: And I literally water.
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Speaker 3: I was so livid because then I was like, well,
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Speaker 3: who's lying to me? Is my dentist lying to me?
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Speaker 3: Is this Rando cavity dentist lying to me? So I
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Speaker 3: go to a third party dentist that doesn't take insurance.
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Speaker 3: You are determined, Well, I spent so much money on
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Speaker 3: this fucking dentist. So I go to this third party
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Speaker 3: dentist that got really good reviews. They don't take insurance sell,
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Speaker 3: which I found out the hard way anyway. So I
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Speaker 3: go and I said, hey, can you just tell me
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Speaker 3: what's going on with this tooth? And you're the tiebreaker.
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Speaker 3: Is it cracked? Is it not cracked? And he goes, oh, yeah,
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Speaker 3: it's like super cracked.
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Speaker 1: Its like I said, it should be pretty easy to
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Speaker 1: see crack.
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Speaker 3: So I go back to my my dentist and I go, yeah,
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Speaker 3: jury's out. She cracked. So then that's why I now
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Speaker 3: have a crown on my bottom right tooth, all because
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Speaker 3: of a cavity, All because of a cavity that I
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Speaker 3: honestly probably didn't even need filled. Probably not because dentists
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Speaker 3: are scam artists and they're like, oh, yeah, you have
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Speaker 3: the small little cavity. Well that one was now My
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Speaker 3: dentist probably would have been like, you're fine, gosh, this is.
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Speaker 2: I'm just every time we sit and have one of
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Speaker 2: these conversations that was blown away, there's so many things
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Speaker 2: to uncover.
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Speaker 1: We gotta go run to a breakfast. Oh we do, yeah,
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Speaker 1: we got a breakfast to go hit.
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