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412 Qué hago que mi esposo consiente más a la mascota que a mi · Reflexiones cristianas con José Ordóñez

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Podcast number four hundred and twelve. In this new episode we will address a
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theme that can resonate with many of our listeners. What happens when your partner
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seems to pay more attention to the pet than to you I received an email
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from a worried listener. And let us deepen this problem from a Christian perspective,
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offering first a historical perspective by analyzing the benefits and prejudices of pets and,
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finally, I will provide practical advice to handle this situation. But,
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in light of God’ s word, it will also be a topic that
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we will discuss in our fourth marriage workshop, which begins on 19 August.
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I hope that you are separating those dates so that we can not only talk
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about these kinds of problems, but also base so many others. Our regular
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listener' s email says she listens every day. The podcast says hi my
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name is me, I' m going to change her name and I'
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m going to put Laura on it. I have a problem with my marriage
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and I need your advice. I feel like my husband pays more attention to
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our bitch than he does to me. It puts no limits on her and
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seems to take refuge in her relationship with the bitch. This makes me feel
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relegated and in a lower rank in our relationship. Sometimes we argue and I
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have to send him to the couch because it makes me so angry that even
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when I' m talking to him, he' s caressing the bitch.
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I tell you that sometimes it seems to me that the bitch is more important
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in your life than what I am a pastor. Please help me what I
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can do very well to better understand Laura' s situation. First, let
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' s look at how pets have played a role in human life throughout history.
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The relationship between humans and dogs began a long time ago, when wolves
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began to associate with groups of humans, obtaining food in exchange for protection.
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The human being fed them and they took care of him. In ancient civilizations,
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such as Egypt and Mesopotamia, dogs were not only companions, but also
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symbols of protection and loyalty. In Egypt, for example, they were associated
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with the god Anubis and were given ceremonial burials. In ancient Greece and Rome,
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dogs were valued as guardians and hunters. The Romans even had laws that
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protected dogs and recognized their value for home safety. In China, dogs were
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seen as spiritual protectors and had an important place in ritual practices. Now,
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in the modern era, especially in recent decades, pets have evolved from being
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simple working animals or loved family members to becoming an essential part of the family
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nucleus. This transition has been driven by the growth of the middle class and
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the increase in disposable income, allowing more people to have the mascotics. The
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dog' s the cat. Pets offer numerous benefits that they can explain.
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Why Laura' s husband feels so attached to his bitch. Number one.
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Pets provide companionship and emotional support. Pets provide a constant company and emotional support
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that is sometimes much needed in the stress of modern life. Caring a pet
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can release oxytocin, the hormone of love, which reduces stress and improves emotional
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well- being. Second, physical health. Having a pet, especially a
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dog, encourages regular exercise through daily walks, small walks, trots, games
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with a stick, with a freesby, and that can improve cardiovascular health and
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reduce obesity. Third, reduction of stress and anxiety. Studies have shown that
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interacting with pets may decrease cortisol levels. Cortisol is a stress- related hormone.
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But they can also increase the production of zero, tonin and dopamine that
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promote the feeling of happiness and relaxation. Well, we all know that.
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I have here at home three dogs, the Great Dogo, which is a
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rot way that we like to caress because it is big hairy black. There
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' s the skinny nala that Camilo Medina gave me, who' s my
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company bitch, and a few months ago we got a bitch that we gave
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to our granddaughter and the net already left for the United States and left us
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the dog. But let' s also talk about the potential damage of an
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excessive relationship with the pet. Despite the numerous benefits, there are also possible
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harms when the relationship with the pet is not well balanced. For example,
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social isolation, and from this will be a subject that we will go a
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lot deeper into our fourth workshop for marriages, because there are very many men
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who are in continuous isolation with their partner from the marriage relationship, have emotionally
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independent from their wives and some women from their husbands. Sometimes it' s
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not just the pets, but it' s the touch screen, your cell
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phone, your iPad, sometimes it' s the overwork. And then there,
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on the third day we' ll be talking at the marriage workshop about
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how to avoid that isolation. For example, in this case, excessive attachment
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to a pet can lead to a person being an island socially, decreasing their
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interaction with other humans, including the couple. Second, relationship issues. When
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a pet receives more attention than the couple, this can generate feelings of jealousy
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and rejection. In Laura' s case, her feeling of being relegated,
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which is a clear indication that there is an imbalance in the relationship clear and
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I can already imagine Laura talking to her while her husband only caresses the bitch.
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Third, emotional dependence. Excessive emotional dependence on a pet can prevent the
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person from developing emotional skills to deal with complex human problems, which can impair
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communication and intimacy in the marriage relationship. We' ll be talking about that
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in the workshop about that in marriage we have to constantly be developing emotional skills.
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I mean, marriage itself is dynamic. It has continued growth, so
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let me now give you some advice for Laura. Laura, we understand how
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hard you must feel seeing your husband prefer the bitch' s company over yours.
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Here are some suggestions from a Bible perspective, which could help you improve
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this situation. Number one open communication always all the problems of marriage and on
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the second day of the workshop we will talk about communication is resolved and begin
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to resolve with n s communication, that is, not lose the ability to
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speak frankly and honestly to see I say it again frankly, honestly and respectfully
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talk to your husband about how you feel. Honest and open communication is key
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in any relationship. Epheos chapter number four verse number fifteen. You are not
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exhorted to speak the truth in love by expressing your feelings without accusations. Use
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a language that describes how you feel, instead of trying it, because he
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' s probably tired of you blaming him all the time. Second, set
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limits together propose husband and wife clear rules on interaction with pets, in this
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case, with the bitch. Establish closed areas, specific times to be with
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the pet and spending limit that can help balance the attention that both give to
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each other and to the pet. Proverbs chapter number twenty- five. Verse
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twenty- eight says as a city without defense and without walls it is the
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one who does not know how to dominate. Setting limits is a way to
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practice self- control. Third quality time as a couple. Schedule activities that
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you enjoy together without the pet, go out for dinner, watch a movie
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or just stroll around the park. It is important that you reserve exclusive time
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to strengthen your ecclesiaste relationship. Chapter number four verses nine and ten reminds us
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of the importance of companionship more than one is worth two because they derive more
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fruit from their effort. If they fall one, lift the other. Number
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four get involved in mascot care, laura get more involved in care and activities
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with the bitch. This will not only allow you to share more time with
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your husband, but can also help you better understand why your husband is attached
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to the pet. Maybe, like I told you before, you only talk
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about the bitch to accuse him, to prosecute him. And maybe this isn
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' t helping the Union between you two. The opposite is polarizing the relationship.
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Now. Number five. If the situation does not improve, consider going
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to partner therapy with a Christian counselor. A therapist can help you mediate the
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situation and provide strategies to improve the dynamics of your proverbic relationship. Number eleven,
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verse fourteen. It says where there is no good counsel, the people
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fall, but in the abundance of the Councillors. There' s victory very
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well. In conclusion, and I begin to finish. While pets can offer
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numerous benefits and be an invaluable source of love and support, it is crucial
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to maintain a balance in human relationships. Laura, I hope these Tips will
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help you address the problem and find a solution that works for you, for
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your husband. Remember that, at the end of the day, the key
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is mutual love and communication, based especially on the principles God created for marriage.
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Finally, topics like these, we' ll be dealing with in the
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fourth workshop for marriages. We will talk about aspects that sometimes seem not to
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be as important as if the relevance was not much. But believe me in
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these little details are based on marriages that become strong when they start to solve
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small differences, and that takes them. He leads them to dialogue, negotiation,
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because just as Laura can solve the problem with the bitch, he can
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also solve other problems, because he creates a working mechanics with the couple.
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Go to José Ordoña right now. He is a Christian, as you can
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find all the information in the fourth workshop for marriages. But also in the
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description of this video of this podcast you find the link, the link that
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takes you, where tickets are sold and where all the information is. Remember
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that before the 2nd of August of the year two thousand twenty- four there
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is a count of twenty- seven dollars, that is, you only get
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it for fifty dollars, because from the 3rd of August it will be at
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its normal price of seventy- seven dollars. For now I want you to
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have a nice day and God give you the ability to manage relationships very well
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with all the living things around you so that you learn to live and have
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a family, as God commands. God bless you.