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My boyfriend kept a party SECRET from me… with a piñata that looked exactly like me! -r/BestofRedditorUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP3057 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 4: My boyfriend kept a party secret from me with a
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  Speaker 4: pinata that looked exactly like me.
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  Speaker 5: Dude, don't hit.
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  Speaker 4: On me like that. I, 22 female, and my boyfriend, Matt,
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  Speaker 4: 22 male, have been together for a year and eight months.
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  Speaker 4: Matt and I go to different universities in neighboring cities
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  Speaker 4: about a 45-minute drive. Matt is in a fraternity, important
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  Speaker 4: for later. It was Matt's birthday on Friday, and him
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  Speaker 4: and I went out to dinner to celebrate. After dinner,
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  Speaker 4: I went back to my university since I live on campus.
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  Speaker 4: The next evening, I was on Instagram and I clicked
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  Speaker 4: on one of our mutual friends' private story and I
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  Speaker 4: saw Matt and a bunch of his friends hitting and
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  Speaker 4: stomping on a pinata. By clicking through more of the stories,
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  Speaker 4: I figured it must have been a surprise party for
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  Speaker 4: Matt since he had told me his only birthday plans
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  Speaker 4: were dinner with me. On the last slide of the
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  Speaker 4: Instagram story, I got a close-up of the pinata and
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  Speaker 4: it looked exactly like me. From the hair color to
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  Speaker 4: the skin color, even down to my septum piercing, there
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  Speaker 4: was no doubt that it was me. I was really
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  Speaker 4: confused and I screen recorded the stories. Then I messaged
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  Speaker 4: the friend who posted the story. I asked her if
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  Speaker 4: that was me as the piñata and she left me
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  Speaker 4: on read and removed me from the close friend story.
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  Speaker 4: This just confirmed my suspicions. By the way, this comes
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  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good.
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  Speaker 6: Advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We
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  Speaker 6: you would do in the comments.
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  Speaker 4: And OP says, The next day I texted him and asked,
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  Speaker 4: How the party went? And he acted confused and said,
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  Speaker 4: You never had a party. I was confused as to
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  Speaker 4: why he was lying to me. I would just send
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  Speaker 4: the video. I would send the screen recording.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I'd be like, Oh, is this not you? Beating
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  Speaker 5: me with a bat?
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  Speaker 6: Maybe that's not me as a piñata and that's not
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  Speaker 6: you as the person. hitting the pinata i told him
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  Speaker 6: i saw it on mutual friends private story and then
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  Speaker 6: he completely stopped answering an hour later he said yeah
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  Speaker 6: the guys threw me a surprise party it's a frat
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  Speaker 6: tradition not to talk about it though oh my god
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  Speaker 6: there was a girl there the girl was the one
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  Speaker 6: who posted the story dummy no i i can't like
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  Speaker 6: i've seen some frat stuff yeah and like you know,
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  Speaker 6: you're not allowed to talk about it, whatever.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: It's messed up. Yeah, that's why people. It's like really
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  Speaker 5: not good.
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  Speaker 4: It's like they ban all the freaking hazing stuff.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: That's when I asked him about the me shaped pinata
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  Speaker 4: and I sent him the video of him and his
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  Speaker 4: friends destroying it. He told me that it was not me.
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  Speaker 4: It was just a random pinata the guys had found.
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  Speaker 1: What?
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  Speaker 4: Liar.
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  Speaker 5: They just found it.
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  Speaker 2: That's two lies now. Oh, my God.
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  Speaker 1: Break up.
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  Speaker 4: Break up.
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  Speaker 7: Easy.
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  Speaker 4: That is the worst excuse. We just found this pinata.
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  Speaker 4: On the street.
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  Speaker 6: It just happened to look like you. It's such a coincidence.
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  Speaker 6: I didn't even think that they look similar until you
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  Speaker 6: said that.
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  Speaker 5: They don't make people pinatas.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 7: Sorry.
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  Speaker 4: They're always animals. I told them to stop lying to
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  Speaker 4: me and that it was obviously me. I told him
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  Speaker 4: how hurt I was that he would allow his friends
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  Speaker 4: to do something like that. And all he could answer
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  Speaker 4: was that they would pun him out of the frat
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  Speaker 4: if he didn't accept it, coward.
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  Speaker 2: So what's more important to you, your frat or your girlfriend?
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  Speaker 7: Frat.
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  Speaker 2: Frat.
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  Speaker 4: Wow, annoying.
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  Speaker 2: He'll be like, the frat gets to be cool pinatas.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and you're going to leave college and realize that
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  Speaker 4: your frat means freaking nothing.
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  Speaker 5: Literally. Like, it's just to, like, party with people.
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  Speaker 2: I do it for the connections.
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  Speaker 4: And you're going to be single.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I also brought up how if his frat had thrown
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  Speaker 4: him a surprise party, why wasn't I invited? I was
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  Speaker 4: only like 45 minutes away.
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  Speaker 2: That's like two miles in California or LA.
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  Speaker 4: I knew it wasn't because it was only guys because
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  Speaker 4: the mutual friend who had posted on the story was
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  Speaker 4: a girl who goes to his university. And I saw
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  Speaker 4: in the story there were multiple girls there. He stopped
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  Speaker 4: answering me and hasn't since. He's literally just every time
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  Speaker 4: he stops answering, he's going to his frat bros and.
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  Speaker 1: Being like, what do I say? Guys, guys, guys.
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  Speaker 3: What do I say?
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  Speaker 2: She's on to me.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god.
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  Speaker 2: And they're like, play dumb, play dumb.
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  Speaker 4: What a literal coward.
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  Speaker 2: And they're probably saying, dude, she sucks.
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  Speaker 4: She's the worst. I'd be like, by the way, this
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  Speaker 4: was a breakup. Yeah, by the way, in case it
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  Speaker 4: wasn't clear. It's been a day with no contact. I'm
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  Speaker 4: honestly considering breaking up with him over this. Let's do
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  Speaker 4: more than consider. I've caught him in lies before.
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  Speaker 1: Curly.
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  Speaker 4: But this is just too much. What do you mean
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  Speaker 4: you caught him in lies before? Why have we been
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  Speaker 4: dating for a year and eight months?
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  Speaker 2: Why have you been dating a liar?
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  Speaker 4: The video of him and his friends stomping the pinata
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  Speaker 4: was just so disturbing. And to find out that my
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  Speaker 4: face was on it. Oh, we were planning on moving
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  Speaker 4: in together after graduation. But honestly, I don't know anymore.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 4: I know. Let's not.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Would I be the a-hole if I broke up with
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  Speaker 4: him over this? And we have an update. But what
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  Speaker 4: do you think?
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  Speaker 5: Actually, I agree with Vron. Tell his mom, lol.
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  Speaker 4: Tell his mom.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, text his mom.
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  Speaker 4: Say, oh, this is what your son did.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: For his birthday.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I wasn't there. I wasn't invited.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So you raced?
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  Speaker 5: Look what your son's doing.
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  Speaker 4: Isn't that weird?
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  Speaker 2: You raced a liar.
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  Speaker 4: They also had one of you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Lies.
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  Speaker 4: Just gotta lie in there.
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  Speaker 2: I know.
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  Speaker 6: It's the fact that he did this, then lied about it,
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  Speaker 6: and then continues to lie about it, and then just
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  Speaker 6: completely stops answering.
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  Speaker 5: Screw you, guy. I'm done. I'm out of there.
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  Speaker 4: It's like going on.
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  Speaker 6: You know what's, like, really embarrassing? This is kind of, like, off-topic,
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  Speaker 6: but still kind of on. When you go on Hinge
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  Speaker 6: and there's, like, these 30-year-old men that, like, still have
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  Speaker 6: figuring out what type of.
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  Speaker 1: Relationship I want. What?
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  Speaker 5: You're 30.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Like, you don't know what you want now? Like, still
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  Speaker 5: figuring it out. Let's just see where it goes.
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  Speaker 2: And it's like, no, you need to know what you
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  Speaker 2: want at this time.
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  Speaker 4: I completely agree.
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  Speaker 3: Like, it's so embarrassing.
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  Speaker 5: Still figuring out my relationship type.
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  Speaker 4: You're an idiot.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And in relation to UOP, let's figure it out right now.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Let's figure it out and get out of here.
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  Speaker 2: Let's save you that 45 minute drive, girl.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Break up with him.
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  Speaker 4: Update. Four days later. So Matt texted me back after
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  Speaker 4: a full day of incognito.
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  Speaker 2: Took him that long to figure it out.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: He's like, what do I, how do I lie to her?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: He's on chat GPT.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. He finally admitted that, yeah, the pinata was supposed
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  Speaker 4: to be me. He said it was just a joke
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  Speaker 4: and it was meant to be funny.
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  Speaker 2: I'm laughing. It's so funny. I wasn't even there.
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  Speaker 6: That's so funny to think of just like hitting me
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  Speaker 6: with a bat.
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  Speaker 5: And stomping on my face.
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  Speaker 4: That's so funny. I told him how disrespectful and disturbing
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  Speaker 4: that was. I ended up breaking up with him and
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  Speaker 4: told him I wasn't going to stay with a man child.
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  Speaker 4: He was going to disrespect me for the fun of
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  Speaker 4: him and his friends.
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  Speaker 5: Boyfriend's an idiot. He is a big idiot.
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  Speaker 4: He's so stupid. He's really dumb.
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  Speaker 5: And if he does not see that.
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  Speaker 1: Then he's.
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  Speaker 3: Really, really dumb. Then he's really.
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  Speaker 4: He's even more dumb than I thought.
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  Speaker 6: Like, the fact that you think that's an okay thing. Like,
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  Speaker 6: if I was dating someone for... Like, a serious someone for, like,
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  Speaker 6: almost two years. Almost two years. And then, you know, oh,
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  Speaker 6: now I'm a frat boy, blah, blah. And now my
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  Speaker 6: friends throw me a party and it's me... hitting my
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  Speaker 6: significant other. Like you're hitting an effigy of your partner.
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  Speaker 6: I would take it down and be, I'd be kissing it.
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  Speaker 6: And I'd be like, I can't do that. And then
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  Speaker 6: I would be taking pictures with it and sending it
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  Speaker 6: to my significant other.
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  Speaker 5: Be like, look, it's you.
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  Speaker 4: It's like when someone makes a really cute cake and
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  Speaker 4: you're like, I don't even want to eat it.
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: It should have been that level. Yeah. It's like he
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  Speaker 4: immediately went to Hulk smash. For real. If my friends
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  Speaker 4: made me a pinata of my boyfriend, that would be
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  Speaker 4: hanging in my room forever.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: Right.
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  Speaker 4: I'd be like, I'm like, we're not touching this. This
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  Speaker 4: is going in my room.
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  Speaker 7: I'd be like, look, and he watches me while I sleep.
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  Speaker 4: He's full of candy, because he's so sweet. We got more.
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  Speaker 4: He completely lost it and begged me to stay.
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  Speaker 5: Tough luck.
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  Speaker 4: He was apologizing, saying he didn't want to lose me, blah, blah, blah.
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  Speaker 4: After I made it clear I wasn't going to take
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  Speaker 4: him back, he literally sent me a video of him
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  Speaker 4: making out with a mutual friend.
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  Speaker 2: A guy? No, the girl. No, I know.
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  Speaker 7: I'm kidding.
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  Speaker 2: I'm kidding. It would have been really funny if it
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  Speaker 2: was a guy.
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  Speaker 4: Whatever. This guy.
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  Speaker 5: And I bet that wasn't the first time.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm going to say this. I'm not saying all
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  Speaker 2: frat guys are bad, but... usually it's always the frat guys.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 6: I know that it's a specific type of person. Some
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  Speaker 6: of them, like, are actually, like... My boyfriend was a
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  Speaker 6: frat guy. Yeah, like, some of them.
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  Speaker 5: Are in it for, like, the right reasons and whatever.
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  Speaker 4: He was in the mixed.
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  Speaker 6: He was in the co-ed frat. It was the queer
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  Speaker 6: co-ed frat, so it wasn't really.
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  Speaker 2: I mean... Well, that doesn't count, Sophia.
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  Speaker 4: My boyfriend was a frat boy.
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  Speaker 5: That's like saying I.
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  Speaker 6: Technically, I was also in, like, a co-ed frat because
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  Speaker 6: I was in APO, which is.
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  Speaker 5: I was the president, actually, of the theater one. Alpha
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  Speaker 5: Psi Omega, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: We didn't have really frats or something. I don't mean
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  Speaker 4: to flex everyone, but I was the president of.
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  Speaker 1: The theater frat.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't know they had a theater frat. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 4: it's crazy that you were not part of it.
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  Speaker 2: I was friends with some frat guys. I was friends
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  Speaker 2: with some frat guys. Some of them were really nice.
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  Speaker 2: Some of them, I was like, I'm not going to
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  Speaker 2: hang out with you. That doesn't, no.
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  Speaker 6: Exactly, because some are like, so dumb in the way
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  Speaker 6: that they just want to be accepted into a group
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  Speaker 6: of people just like this guy yeah you got a
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  Speaker 6: little bit left though.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know i would send that video to his
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  Speaker 2: mom yeah it's like at what.
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  Speaker 4: Cost i don't know what the point of that was
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  Speaker 4: maybe just a final fu but i honestly couldn't care
• 9:50
  Speaker 4: at that point i now realized how immature he was
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  Speaker 4: i just blocked him so yeah most of you are right.
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  Speaker 4: He was cheating on me. I'm thankful that I didn't
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  Speaker 4: move in with this guy and I saw him for
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  Speaker 4: what he really was, an immature man child. Yes, I
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  Speaker 4: will be sending the video to the university, though I
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  Speaker 4: doubt they'll do anything. But yes, this is the update
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  Speaker 4: and thanks again for all the support and kind words.
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  Speaker 4: They truly mean so much. And I will say my
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  Speaker 4: last thought, If this mutual friend was the girl who
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  Speaker 4: posted the story, which I think it is the same
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  Speaker 4: girl who kissed him. Yeah, it is. I think she
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  Speaker 4: did it on purpose.
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  Speaker 2: I think she posted that. Oh, so she, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I think she posted that and made sure OP was
• 10:30
  Speaker 4: on close friends so that she would see it.
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  Speaker 2: And then break up. And never replied. Yeah, never replied.
• 10:35
  Speaker 2: And went, oh, it's all going to plan.
• 10:37
  Speaker 4: She saw it, perfect. Yeah, I think she did it
• 10:39
  Speaker 4: on purpose.
• 10:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, this guy doesn't care.
• 10:40
  Speaker 4: The plot thickens. But that's the end of that story
• 10:43
  Speaker 4: and we got another one coming right up.
• 10:45
  Speaker 3: My girlfriend was convinced I was proposing, but I wasn't.
• 10:50
  Speaker 5: Ooh, awkward.
• 10:51
  Speaker 3: It's going to be our anniversary. She's a very fit
• 10:55
  Speaker 3: and tech girl. Saw some smart rings for sale in
• 10:58
  Speaker 3: Costco and decided to give her one. She saw me
• 11:01
  Speaker 3: looking at her jewelry box with the tape measure and
• 11:04
  Speaker 3: asked me what I was doing. And I told her
• 11:08
  Speaker 3: that I wanted to know her ring size and didn't
• 11:10
  Speaker 3: think much about it. She told me I'm a 6'7. Like...
• 11:15
  Speaker 3: nothing that was it this was a week ago and
• 11:18
  Speaker 3: apparently she told my in-laws about it that i'm going
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  Speaker 3: to propose so apparently now everybody thinks i'm going to propose.
• 11:28
  Speaker 4: So now you have to propose.
• 11:30
  Speaker 3: At this point i have no idea how to fix
• 11:33
  Speaker 3: the situations besides actually giving her a ring she is
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  Speaker 3: a very cool girl and would understand the situation if
• 11:40
  Speaker 3: explained however probably will make things a bit awkward at
• 11:44
  Speaker 3: least By the way, this comes from I'm in zing.
• 11:47
  Speaker 3: And if you want to see your own stories, go
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  Speaker 3: to our slash. OK, sports. I'm subreddit. I'm Riley.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 3: And we're going to read the story goofily. If you
• 11:54
  Speaker 3: have any thoughts, please put it down below. Opie says update.
• 11:58
  Speaker 3: Just followed your comments and grew a pair and told
• 12:02
  Speaker 3: her the truth. I told her that my in-laws. Yes,
• 12:04
  Speaker 3: I call them sagros. That they called me excited about.
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  Speaker 4: The proposal news explained.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm not going to lie. I saw her disappointment
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  Speaker 3: very well deep in her. She said everything's fine. Made
• 12:17
  Speaker 3: a few jokes about the ring being a GPS so
• 12:20
  Speaker 3: I could track her. And that I could still propose
• 12:23
  Speaker 3: to her with the smart ring. I told her that
• 12:26
  Speaker 3: I want to marry her as we have previously discussed,
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  Speaker 3: but just not at this time. And obviously not with
• 12:32
  Speaker 3: what is honestly a very boring and somewhat ugly ring.
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  Speaker 3: Update two.
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  Speaker 2: She said yes. To what?
• 12:39
  Speaker 4: What do you mean she said yes?
• 12:41
  Speaker 3: I will try to be brief, and I'm probably missing
• 12:44
  Speaker 3: a lot of context.
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  Speaker 7: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: We celebrated our anniversary the second Thursday of March. Just
• 12:49
  Speaker 3: give us the date at that point. God, we've been
• 12:52
  Speaker 3: dating for like four years, mostly as friends.
• 12:55
  Speaker 1: What the?
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  Speaker 4: What do you mean? None of this made sense.
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  Speaker 2: We've been dating mostly as friends. We're just friends, guys.
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  Speaker 3: Like in group settings?
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  Speaker 4: Mostly as friends. We've been dating four years. That doesn't
• 13:06
  Speaker 4: make any sense.
• 13:07
  Speaker 3: After about two years of just going out together, somebody
• 13:11
  Speaker 3: asked how long we had been dating. And we were like,
• 13:14
  Speaker 3: are we dating? I know it sounds extremely absurd, but
• 13:19
  Speaker 3: we were like best buddies, like that, and we'd go
• 13:22
  Speaker 3: out together. We met in dance classes, and here usually
• 13:25
  Speaker 3: dance days are Thursdays, is where the dance scene is
• 13:29
  Speaker 3: more strong. Okay. So when we asked, we were actually like,
• 13:34
  Speaker 3: I think we're actually dating. And decided that instead of
• 13:37
  Speaker 3: saying March 14th, we would celebrate every second Thursday of March.
• 13:42
  Speaker 7: Oh, okay.
• 13:43
  Speaker 4: So your anniversary is not March 14th. It's like Thanksgiving.
• 13:46
  Speaker 3: This is a girl I really like and, well, I
• 13:49
  Speaker 3: just discovered I really love. We talked a lot yesterday
• 13:53
  Speaker 3: and had a very good conversation about it. I told
• 13:56
  Speaker 3: her about my insecurities, about my job stability, and, well,
• 13:59
  Speaker 3: a few other things. We discussed more things that we
• 14:02
  Speaker 3: had never talked about, like kids... where we would like
• 14:06
  Speaker 3: to live, and other things. I found out how much
• 14:09
  Speaker 3: I really match with her and how much I am
• 14:11
  Speaker 3: friends with her. I found out how funny the situation
• 14:14
  Speaker 3: was in general. And as everyone pointed out, the size
• 14:18
  Speaker 3: of the aura isn't the same as the rinks. We
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: went to Costco to exchange it and buy some mimosas.
• 14:26
  Speaker 3: And here is the funny part. I returned it and
• 14:28
  Speaker 3: happy that they didn't point out the obvious and the
• 14:31
  Speaker 3: big note that says about testing the rink size before buying.
• 14:35
  Speaker 3: Love you, Costco. We were walking around and they were
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: selling jewelry and engagement rings. She jokingly pointed out, when
• 14:42
  Speaker 3: you propose, you need to get one like that. Not
• 14:45
  Speaker 3: that one or like that other one. Something cute and
• 14:48
  Speaker 3: simple like that one. I asked a rep to show
• 14:51
  Speaker 3: it and it was very pretty. I asked her to
• 14:54
  Speaker 3: try it and she said it was very, very bad
• 14:55
  Speaker 3: luck to try the engagement rings. Is that a Mexican thing?
• 14:59
  Speaker 3: I have never heard about that. Experts, is it a
• 15:02
  Speaker 3: Mexican thing? Referring to chat's.
• 15:04
  Speaker 4: We don't know.
• 15:05
  Speaker 3: Not anyone in this room.
• 15:06
  Speaker 6: We don't know.
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: We don't know everything.
• 15:08
  Speaker 4: It's so funny that Upi was like, I'm not a what?
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 15:10
  Speaker 2: Maybe you should ask her.
• 15:12
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 15:13
  Speaker 4: You'd be like, is that a Mexican thing? I don't know.
• 15:16
  Speaker 3: I mean, we have the second best thing to a Mexican. Filipino.
• 15:21
  Speaker 4: Kian, is that a Filipino thing? Kian doesn't even know.
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: What good are you?
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: As a Filipino, I've never proposed.
• 15:29
  Speaker 3: So it took and proposed right there with the ring
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: she liked in Costco. You monster.
• 15:36
  Speaker 4: Genuinely. Genuinely. You're crazy.
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: Are you kidding me?
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: It's crazy for you to have been like, I already
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: messed up and she thought I proposed once with the
• 15:49
  Speaker 4: aura ring. And then you're in Costco at the sales
• 15:54
  Speaker 4: person's like desk or whatever, where the rings are. and
• 15:58
  Speaker 4: you propose in front of the, I don't know, the freaking, like,
• 16:02
  Speaker 4: The Costco salesman? Sample, like, samples, what?
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: The Costco salesman's like, oh, oh, congrats.
• 16:10
  Speaker 6: Oh, do you, I can't give you a discount. You
• 16:14
  Speaker 6: do have to pay. That is crazy.
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Is that worse? I mean, it just
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: depends on the couple. But, like, have you seen those
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: people who just nonchalantly get engaged? Where, like, they're eating meals, and, like,
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: Guy puts up ring. She opens it. He's eating food.
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: She looks at it and goes, yeah. And they just
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: get married.
• 16:35
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: No, no.
• 16:35
  Speaker 3: I've seen Madison Humphries.
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm talking about that girl? I love
• 16:40
  Speaker 3: her so much.
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: Those are great. Those are like so chill.
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: I think there are people in this world that like that.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: That love that.
• 16:46
  Speaker 4: And that love that. And they're like, oh, my boyfriend,
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: you know, he did this. I just wanted a simple
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: thing and he did that.
• 16:52
  Speaker 6: That's not me. And I don't know yet if that's
• 16:54
  Speaker 6: your girlfriend. And if it's not your girlfriend, then.
• 16:58
  Speaker 7: Okay.
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: So he proposed. You can imagine how weird it felt
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: at the beginning. She thought I was joking, then realized
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: I was serious. Then I felt like she was about
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: to say no because she had an uncanny expression.
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no shit, Sherlock. You proposed in Costco.
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: Oh, if I were a Costco shopper, I would love this.
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: This is OP.
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: I would be over the moon. I would leave that
• 17:24
  Speaker 4: Costco and go tell everyone here.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: OP. Oh, man.
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: If this is how you got engaged, I can only
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: imagine how you're going to get married.
• 17:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Costco.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: No, at Mickey D's. This is what the.
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: Marriage is going to look like. They're never going to
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: plan a single thing. One day they're going to go
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: by a courthouse because he needs to renew some documents
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: or something. Hey, on the fourth floor, they marry people.
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: Do we just knock it out real quick?
• 17:45
  Speaker 7: Mm-hmm.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: Just real quick.
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: That's what's going to happen. That's how they're going to
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: get married.
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: He's like, I got time.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: I don't know what you want, but if you want it,
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: we'll do it. You said you wanted it. I guess
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: I'll do it right now.
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: I want a little fanfare. I don't want it to
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: be in public, but I do want preparation.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: I just want some like... I want it to be nice.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: Okay. I want to understand why engagement has to be
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: a surprise.
• 18:09
  Speaker 4: I don't think it needs to be a surprise, but also...
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: I don't think it should be a surprise that you're
• 18:15
  Speaker 4: getting engaged, but I do think the actual engagement, like
• 18:19
  Speaker 4: what the plans and the day, you should try and surprise.
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: It's like a surprise birthday. Like, you know... That your
• 18:25
  Speaker 4: birthday is coming up and that you're probably going to celebrate,
• 18:27
  Speaker 4: but you don't know what time or what your friends
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: have planned.
• 18:32
  Speaker 6: Yes.
• 18:33
  Speaker 4: I feel like it should be like that. At least
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: for me.
• 18:35
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: Already got it planned.
• 18:37
  Speaker 4: Look at you.
• 18:38
  Speaker 7: Boom.
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: All right.
• 18:39
  Speaker 4: What happened next? What was her incanity?
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: She finally said yes.
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: We got a small congrats from the Costco rep that
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: wasn't sure if it was a practical joke or not.
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: She made a few interesting points about how convenient to
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: ask to marry her before actually buying the ring was.
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: So in case she said no, I would have to
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: spend a lot of money on a ring.
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: That's like such a good point. And if she said
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: that to you in the moment, you know she did
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: not like that proposal.
• 19:06
  Speaker 7: Oh my God.
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: That the ring is too big and we need to
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: take it to make it smaller. And I should know
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: better that you need to be sure your girl has
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: her nails done before proposing.
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: Oh, she didn't like it.
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: No, of course she didn't like it.
• 19:18
  Speaker 4: She didn't like it.
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: You proposed with.
• 19:21
  Speaker 4: You silly boy.
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: Oh my God.
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: All of that joking, obviously, and trying to diffuse the situation.
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: I just want to thank you all for your advice
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: and to the guys that took their time to send
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: me a personal message. I will upload a photo once
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: the ring is ready and nails are done. I know
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: I'm missing a lot of details, but well... It has
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: been a bit of a chaotic day. As someone pointed out,
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: this really felt like an Absurd friend sitcom episode. Please
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: see if there's an update, Keon. Dude, I, I, I, I, I, I, okay.
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: What were you thinking?
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: Yes, I love that you have this love for this person,
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: but have you never seen or been around people before? Like,
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: what is happening?
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: I'm just looking at the comments and they're pretty funny. Like,
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: Next up, OP's asking his girlfriend about baby names for
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: his D & D campaign. Only after asking her to
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: buy a house with him in Monopoly, of course.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: I'm going to see if there's any updates.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: Dear God.
• 20:21
  Speaker 7: Felix.
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: In Costco?
• 20:23
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: Top comment here is, at this point, I have no
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: idea how to fix the situation besides actually giving her
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: a ring. Are you sure that's the correct way to
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: think about it?
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 20:32
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: Just get the aura ring. Forget about the ring thing.
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: This is the type of person... That whatever's in front
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: of them, that's what they're going to think about.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: Clearly.
• 20:39
  Speaker 6: He said, oh, I got you Erring. Oh, you wanted
• 20:43
  Speaker 6: me to propose? I wasn't thinking about it, but I
• 20:46
  Speaker 6: guess so. Oh, we've been friends for two years? I
• 20:49
  Speaker 6: guess we're dating.
• 20:50
  Speaker 5: Sure.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: No real updates on.
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: No picture? How long ago was this?
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: A couple months.
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: A couple months ago?
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: Three months, yeah.
• 21:00
  Speaker 7: Oh, God.
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: Unbelievable.
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: At least she's funny.
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 21:04
  Speaker 7: Fits.
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: And smart.
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: You can live off of that.
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you should got that. Because you're dumb.
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: You should bring something to the table, though.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: Anything.
• 21:13
  Speaker 7: Anything.
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: Well, we probably know what he has.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: Money.
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: No, I don't know.
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: I mean, he was able to buy the ring. But
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: one of his insecurities was job stability.
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: Oh, was it? Yeah.
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: I don't know, man. That's their life, and that's their journey. Yeah,
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: they'll figure it out. I've had to realize that recently.
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: To make my life feel better.
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: Not my circus.
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: That is the journey that they're on, and I'm on
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: this journey. I'm not over there. I'm here.
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: It's true.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: read the next one.
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: My girlfriend's new friend gave me panic attacks and she
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: still won't cut him off.
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: Well, that's not good.
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: My girlfriend, 31 female, and I, male 32, have been
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: together for about two and a half years now. And
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: for the most part, things have been great. We survived
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: a stint where I moved overseas. I have tried to
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: help her out with her severe depression, etc., But recently,
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: things have started to get harder. She was finishing off
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: her uni degree with a part-time job, and I worked full-time.
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: She just recently quit her job and uni as she
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: was struggling to cope. Luckily, she has a lot of
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: annual leave that will be paid out, so realistically doesn't
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: need to work for another couple of months before we
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: will start to struggle. It doesn't matter too much anyway.
• 22:23
  Speaker 4: I generally pay for the majority of things, which doesn't
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: bother me too much. knowing that she'll chip in a
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: little bit more when she finishes uni. At home, I
• 22:33
  Speaker 4: feel that I do more around the house, for the
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: daily tasks, like cooking, doing the dishes, and she does
• 22:39
  Speaker 4: the washing and general tidying up. Although I still feel
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: I do a little more. Work has gotten a little
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: busier recently, which has made me a little stressed. By
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: the way, this comes from Donatello87, and if you want
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: okstorytime subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: I'm Riley.
• 22:57
  Speaker 4: And we're here to... confuse you. And if you're confused,
• 23:03
  Speaker 4: go in the comments and tell us why and what
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: thoughts you have. OP says, unfortunately, my natural coping mechanism
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: with stress is to pull back and become a little
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: more reserved. I'm not great with the lovey-dovey stuff at
• 23:16
  Speaker 4: the best of times, but my SO says that I've
• 23:19
  Speaker 4: been pulling away a lot, which has started to affect her.
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: She makes a fair point, but this is where I
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: get annoyed. About a month ago, a random guy adds
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: her on Facebook. who looks to also have severe depression,
• 23:31
  Speaker 4: saying that she looked cool and wanted to be friends
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: with her. It irritated me a little, but it doesn't
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: hurt to have another friend. Only problem is that they
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: seem to be texting a heck of a lot, to
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: the point where I feel she is concentrating more on
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: the texting than talking to me. This is emotional cheating.
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: She texted me one day that she was going to
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: help him pick up his medications and drop him off.
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: This in itself was fine, but I find out later
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: she went food shopping with him, which she told me
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: she hates doing and I generally do alone. And they
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: ended up going back to his place to have pizza
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: and connect about their depression.
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: Wait, they're fixing each other's depression. They're fixing each other's depression, guys.
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: Trauma bonding.
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: We don't, we, why pizza?
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: Stop.
• 24:15
  Speaker 6: Why?
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: Shut up.
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: Says that she felt a little happier that she was
• 24:18
  Speaker 4: able to have a laugh at their depression.
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: Oh my, dude, I will show you so many YouTube
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: comedy specials about depression.
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we don't need this guy.
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: What's this guy gonna do?
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: This, mind you, was also a night where I struggled
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: mentally as a few things weren't going my way. Since then,
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: it seems like she's made it her personal mission to
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: help him out of his slump by hanging out and
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: doing what she can. She says that he has a
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: pretty bad upbringing and feels that he needed a good
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: influence in his life. To a certain extent, I can
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: understand this. But what bothered me is that she kept
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: talking about how much people misunderstand him. how he needs
• 24:52
  Speaker 4: good people around him and wants to help him get
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: a good job and get back on his feet. By
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: this time, she realistically only knew him for two weeks
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: via text and met him twice. Yeah, this is really weird.
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: Your girlfriend's dating another dude.
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: She really is.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: Or she has like a, what is it, an angel
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: complex or like a savior?
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she needs to help people.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: She's like, but she's also one with like depression. It's like, oh,
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: I can't do that for myself, but I can do
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: that for him. Which, nice, but come on, not good.
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: I started to get annoyed about the situation, but tried
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: to downplay it. Unfortunately, I developed panic attacks to the
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: point I couldn't stop shaking because I felt she was
• 25:31
  Speaker 4: putting more effort into him than our relationship. I eventually
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: tell her that the thought of her hanging out and
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: talking to him all the time triggered this. To me,
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: this was crossing a line and felt like emotional cheating.
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: She keeps downplaying it, saying that he's just a friend.
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: I'm very skeptical of this, mainly because the origin of
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: this relationship was based on her thinking she looked cool.
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: I ask her if he said anything inappropriate or could
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: be misinterpreted as flirting. The first time, she took ageist
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: answer and said that he doesn't think of her that way,
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: as she isn't his type.
• 26:05
  Speaker 7: Liar.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: He's a liar.
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: The next time I asked her if he has ever
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: commented on her looks... like saying she looks pretty, etc.
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: She said he hadn't said anything inappropriate. She says that
• 26:16
  Speaker 4: he says stuff as a joke. Now, every time she
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: mentions him or I see his face pop up or
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: even hear his name, I start shaking.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: Oh, you need to go to therapy.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: That's really bad, actually.
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: Knowing how much this situation is bothering me and affecting
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: my mental and physical health, I would have thought she
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: would do anything.
• 26:32
  Speaker 6: To help me.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: Have you straight up told her this?
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: I also.
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: Like, you need therapy. You need individual therapy. To a
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: certain extent, your girlfriend is causing this. But also, it's not,
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: you know.
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: You should break up with your girlfriend.
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and go to therapy.
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: I have thoughts on this.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: Opie, have you... I know you said, oh, this bothers me.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: But have you told her, like, this is giving you
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: panic attacks?
• 26:56
  Speaker 4: I would have thought that she would cut ties with him.
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: But her option was to reluctantly hide their friendship from me.
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: I don't know if I feel worse or better about
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: that situation. On one hand, I don't have to hear
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: about him. On the other hand, I'm not comfortable about
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: her hiding a friendship with another guy from me. I
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: want so hard for this relationship to work, but I
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: don't think I can with this guy around. So my
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: question is, am I being unreasonable for wanting her to
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: cut him from our lives? And we do have an update,
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: but what do you think?
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: I'm just going to get real.
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah, get real.
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: I once had a panic attack over a girl. It
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: was because of the thought of me breaking up with her.
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: I didn't know it was a panic attack, but that's
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: what it was. The thought of breaking up with her
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: was so foreign to me and I didn't think that
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: that was what was right with me. We later did
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: break up and that weight off of my shoulders came off.
• 27:44
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: And I no longer, if I'm with someone, I don't
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: idolize them to the point of, oh, this is supposed
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: to be the perfect thing forever and it's supposed to like,
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: I'm never supposed to break up.
• 27:54
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: And I think you kind of have that, there's that
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: complex here where he cannot let go of OP or of, oh,
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: you got the spider? He cannot let go of his girlfriend,
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: and it's causing these kind of relationships, and they're so
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: intertwined that he needs to go out and have his
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: own life.
• 28:12
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: And not be with someone that can pull these strings.
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: I agree, because if you are in a relationship, and
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: your partner does something, and that causes you to have
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: panic attacks, this is not a healthy relationship.
• 28:27
  Speaker 6: You're also just not in a healthy place. Yeah, and
• 28:30
  Speaker 6: she's not equipped to handle.
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: That, clearly.
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: I feel like you can have panic attacks when you're married,
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: not boyfriend-girlfriend.
• 28:37
  Speaker 7: Damn.
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: Or fiance. You can have one when you're a fiance.
• 28:40
  Speaker 7: Okay.
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: But not boyfriend-girlfriend.
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: But we got an update. So since then, quite a
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: few things have happened. We've started going to counseling, good,
• 28:47
  Speaker 4: where she got us to read the five love languages.
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: Oh, interesting.
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: I'm not a reader, but it was a pretty easy
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: book to read and helped a lot. We were speaking
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: completely different love languages and explained why we were getting
• 28:59
  Speaker 4: frustrated with each other. Things on that front were so
• 29:02
  Speaker 4: much better. We also addressed the issue around her friend,
• 29:05
  Speaker 4: and she challenged us both on why we were feeling
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: the way we were feeling. She said that I gave
• 29:10
  Speaker 4: him too much power and credit, which, looking back, I
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: completely agree with. The therapist told my SO that he
• 29:15
  Speaker 4: was basically using and taking advantage of her good nature
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: and asked what she was getting out of the friendship.
• 29:21
  Speaker 4: She said it was purely friendship, as they liked very
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: similar things, and that he felt the same way. This
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: is where I got annoyed and where I may have
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: crossed a line. Prior to the session, I had asked
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: her a few times if he was flirty or said
• 29:33
  Speaker 4: anything really inappropriate. She kept denying it, saying that they
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: were just friends and that if anything was inappropriate, it
• 29:39
  Speaker 4: was a joke. I also admitted to her that saying
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: directly that I wanted him out of our lives was
• 29:44
  Speaker 4: wrong and I shouldn't have gone about it that way.
• 29:47
  Speaker 4: But even with this, I didn't quite believe her, and
• 29:50
  Speaker 4: I looked into their messenger history without her knowing. I
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: still feel sick that I had to go behind her
• 29:56
  Speaker 4: back and look, but felt that I wasn't getting the
• 29:58
  Speaker 4: truth and needed to really know. The unfortunate thing was
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: that I was right. And there you go. You found it.
• 30:05
  Speaker 4: He had sent continuous messages and screenshots of her saying
• 30:08
  Speaker 4: how pretty and cute she was, but it was all true.
• 30:11
  Speaker 4: That in itself is bad, but he had also said
• 30:14
  Speaker 4: that he wished she was single... And joked about making
• 30:17
  Speaker 4: out with her.
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: It's just a joke.
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: These are bad jokes. After knowing that I had been
• 30:22
  Speaker 4: having panic attacks about him hitting on her.
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: Okay, so whenever you do a joke, you need to
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: have like a really good idea.
• 30:29
  Speaker 7: Yes.
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: Premise and a punchline.
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: It just looks like you're trying to lick her. So
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: that's not a punchline.
• 30:34
  Speaker 4: Sounds like you don't have any of that. So in
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: the second counseling session, I was initially told that all
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: the faults in the relationship were on me and I
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: had a lot to work on.
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: Ooh, don't like that.
• 30:45
  Speaker 4: Who found that therapist?
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: Who found this therapist? Is your therapist your girlfriend?
• 30:50
  Speaker 4: And OP went, this is.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: Where I said, actually, I disagreed.
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: And said I looked at her messages and found the
• 30:55
  Speaker 4: content I was worried about. The counselor then changed her tone.
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: And this is where you get a new counselor.
• 31:00
  Speaker 4: It's like, actually, my girlfriend has been cheating on me, so.
• 31:04
  Speaker 3: Isn't this enough?
• 31:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah, break up.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: Bye.
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: Marta says, I mean, they need to break up anyways,
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: but if going through the phone gives him the kick
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: to break up, then go for it.
• 31:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah, my thought is just, like, you're breaking the trust
• 31:21
  Speaker 4: for a... It's a gamble. It's a gamble.
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: Stormkin says, at this point, she's already been hiding the friendship,
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: knowing it'll upset you, so you might as well get proof.
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: Agreed.
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: I think definitive proof at this point.
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, you explained that you're getting panic attacks
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: and you are not comfortable with this, and she said...
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: All right, I won't talk to you about it. I'll
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: keep doing it. I just won't talk to you about it.
• 31:42
  Speaker 4: For realsies, but we got a little bit left.
• 31:45
  Speaker 7: Yay.
• 31:46
  Speaker 4: I said that even when he said inappropriate things, my
• 31:48
  Speaker 4: SO either ignored the comment or laughed about it. She
• 31:51
  Speaker 4: says she couldn't remember any of those messages, and I
• 31:54
  Speaker 4: said I took pictures of them and would send them later.
• 31:57
  Speaker 4: So I did and didn't get quite the reaction I
• 31:59
  Speaker 4: was thinking I'd get. She admitted that saying she should
• 32:02
  Speaker 4: be single and making out was inappropriate. But all the
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: other times he said something flirty, she said it was
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: taken out of context. Now she's annoyed that I looked
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: at her messages, but glad that I admitted it. She
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: then admitted there was a time where he was interested
• 32:17
  Speaker 4: in her when she previously told me he wasn't. So
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: I'm just trying to make sense of that situation. I
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: know two wrongs don't make a right, and I apologize
• 32:26
  Speaker 4: for looking into her messages. I know that it will
• 32:29
  Speaker 4: be hard for her to trust me again. But having
• 32:31
  Speaker 4: said that, she had lied or concealed information also. I
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: just don't know what to do now. Why does it
• 32:37
  Speaker 4: sound like you're not breaking up with your girlfriend?
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: Fun fact, he's 31.
• 32:44
  Speaker 7: 32?
• 32:44
  Speaker 4: She's 31.
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: Oh, my God.
• 32:46
  Speaker 4: Even worse.
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: His frontal cortex is still together. I'm just going to
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: be real here. And hopefully people in the chat can
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: agree with me. Dude, you need to grow up a
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: little bit more and be more of a man. Because
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: there were some things in this. That you were kind
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: of he was hedging away from or not fully confronting
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: when it was like absolutely wrong.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 33:08
  Speaker 4: Well, he just feels like everyone in his life is
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: telling that he is in the wrong when she's like clearly,
• 33:15
  Speaker 4: you know, breaking the trust in the relationship and stepping
• 33:20
  Speaker 4: past boundaries. And you're just like, well, I did this thing.
• 33:23
  Speaker 4: So it's like.
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: We got to get out of here.
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: This isn't a good relationship, nor is it healthy.
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely not. And being a grown adult, you need
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: to be able to confront those things and know your truth.
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: Be like, I'm not going to stand around and take
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: this crap. I'm not going to let my girlfriend have
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: another boyfriend.
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: Exactly.
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: Don't be doing that. Don't be doing that. And you're
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: better than that. And that's the end of this story.
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: We're going to read the next one. Hey, this is Riley,
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: the new Californian here. We're going to get back to
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: these stories, but here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.
• 33:53
  Speaker 3: My partner agreed to open our relationship until I finally
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: took my turn.
• 33:58
  Speaker 4: Okay, time out, time out. We're closing it.
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: Me and my current boyfriend, we'll call him Jerry of
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: six years, opened up our relationship about three and a
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: half years ago. We opened our relationship because our spastic
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: sleep life was very lacking. Mind you, during this time,
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: I was having a lot of female health issues, as
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: well as being on birth control that destroyed my libido,
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: which is part of the reason I was willing to
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: consider opening up the relationship. So when we opened the relationship,
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: we set up all the rules, but one of Jerry's
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: biggest hang-ups was that he did not want me to
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: be with men.
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: Oh, wait, wait, wait.
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: Full disclosure. I'm bi. But I am more attracted to
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: men than I am to women. So I told him no.
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: That if he wanted to open the relationship, he would
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: need to be fair and okay with me experimenting with
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: men and women. Which he did accept. Three years or
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: so have passed. And Jerry has had spicy related encounters
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: with a couple of women. During that time, I was
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: dealing with the same health issues and didn't pursue anything
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: outside of just Jerry. If anything, I was quite celibate.
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: That is, until recently, when I went completely off of
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: birth control and all antidepressants and just made some adjustments
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: to my health via my doctor's suggestions. Months later, I
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: feel like a brand new woman.
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: Yes, queen.
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: Out of the town.
• 35:40
  Speaker 3: I'm spicy again. feeling spicy and confident. Jerry and I
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: started getting our spicy life back together, but I also
• 35:50
  Speaker 3: grew curious and adventurous. So I decided it was time
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: for me to venture out, still following the rules of
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: an open relationship. By the way, this comes from BooSpook89.
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: And if you want to spread your own stories, you
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: know where to go.
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: I'm Riley.
• 36:06
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia. And I'm Savannah.
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: We're going to read this goofily, and we don't have
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: all the answers, but if you have anything you would
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: like to add, Please add it down below. Hope he says,
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: I told Jerry that I was talking to a man
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: and a woman via a dating app, which he didn't
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: have much reaction to except to acknowledge that I was
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: starting to venture out. Time goes by, and the women
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: I was talking to fell out of the picture, but
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: I was still talking with the guy. We'll call him Jake.
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: Jake was also looking for beneficial spicy sleep, but... We
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: both agreed on waiting to form a friendship before talking
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: about benefits, as we were both dealing with outside relationships
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: and wanted to take it slow. During this time, every
• 36:50
  Speaker 3: time I would go to hang out with Jake, I
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: would tell Jerry, who at first seemed fine with it,
• 36:55
  Speaker 3: at least until I came home. Jerry would be pissed
• 36:59
  Speaker 3: and tell me that this was moving too fast and
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: that he wasn't sure if he liked me venturing out
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: with men. Which, of course, I reminded him that this
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: is what he agreed to when we opened up our relationship.
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: But he gave me every reasoning and excuse in the book.
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: You're choosing him over me. You want to hang out
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: with him more than me, etc., etc. To which I
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: told him straight out, I may have a spicy related
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: attraction to Jake, but nothing has progressed past friendship, and
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: that remains true.
• 37:37
  Speaker 4: Ah, dude. Like, why did y'all think this was a
• 37:40
  Speaker 4: good idea? Why did we think, oh, I'm going through
• 37:43
  Speaker 4: this medical thing right now where I can't, you know,
• 37:47
  Speaker 4: even think about spicy stuff. And instead of my partner
• 37:51
  Speaker 4: helping me through that, we're going to open the relationship
• 37:54
  Speaker 4: when our relationship is already fraught. And then three years
• 37:57
  Speaker 4: down the line, oh, I'm realizing, let me explore the
• 38:00
  Speaker 4: open relationship. And he's like, oh, I liked it because
• 38:02
  Speaker 4: you never did anything. Oh, let's break up. That's it.
• 38:06
  Speaker 4: Relationship was over three years ago. I was surviving because
• 38:09
  Speaker 4: you hadn't gotten, you know, to the open relationship part
• 38:13
  Speaker 4: yet until now.
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: Dude, man. I mean, help wife with health issues or
• 38:20
  Speaker 3: do other chicks.
• 38:23
  Speaker 7: God.
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: Easy. Come on. If you've given those two options, what
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: are you going to pick? We know what Savannah's thinking.
• 38:31
  Speaker 7: That sucks.
• 38:31
  Speaker 4: What am I going to pick?
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: Helping your significant other with health issues, and then doing
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: other guys.
• 38:36
  Speaker 5: I'm a loyal girl.
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: Everything came to a head in April when Jerry and
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: I got into a huge argument, like breakup level.
• 38:45
  Speaker 7: Uh-oh.
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: He argued that our relationship was falling apart, that he
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: was feeling insecure about the idea of me being with
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: another man, and that I no longer was in love
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: with him. I admit it. We have a lot of issues.
• 38:58
  Speaker 7: Really.
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: Really. But I thought we were doing better, or at
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: least working on things. I also had to work through
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: my own insecurities while he was out with other women.
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: He said he wanted to close the relationship in order
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: to help us focus on our relationship and the fixes
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: we need to make without outside influence.
• 39:18
  Speaker 4: Hello, stupid. Should have done that three years ago.
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: And although he said this, I felt like the rug
• 39:25
  Speaker 3: got ripped out from underneath me. I finally got to
• 39:29
  Speaker 3: a good point with myself, my confidence, being social again,
• 39:32
  Speaker 3: and I wasn't even having spicy sleep yet. Like, he
• 39:36
  Speaker 3: got to venture out, and as soon as I do,
• 39:38
  Speaker 3: it's a big problem. The hypocrisy of it all was overwhelming.
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: I do love him. And I was willing to at
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: least give it another try To see if we could
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: find our way back to each other.
• 39:52
  Speaker 6: No.
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: So I agreed to close the relationship.
• 39:55
  Speaker 4: Let's just break off the relationship, please.
• 40:00
  Speaker 3: Mind you, this is with the promise of opening up
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: again when we get to a better spot with our relationship.
• 40:07
  Speaker 4: You guys are dum-dums. Why are we being dum-dums?
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: This is literally make or break time.
• 40:13
  Speaker 4: Let's break.
• 40:14
  Speaker 3: As of today, I am still very good friends with
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: Jake and do hang out with him occasionally. I talk
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: to him nearly every day. What? We got a little
• 40:25
  Speaker 3: bit left.
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: What?
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: This is a mess.
• 40:29
  Speaker 4: This is a mess. Messy, messy, messy. What do you
• 40:31
  Speaker 4: mean you are still good friends with the guy that
• 40:34
  Speaker 4: was your open relationship hookup person when you closed your
• 40:39
  Speaker 4: relationship and are trying to work on your closed relationship?
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: You got to have your prospects ready.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: That's great.
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: It's called monkey branching. I don't know what you call
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: it in the open relationship world. Yeah, this is a
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: little wild. I feel like our open relationships pros disagree
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: with this.
• 40:56
  Speaker 4: Disagree with what? Oh, yeah, people who actually know how
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: to do open relationships and realize that you have to
• 41:00
  Speaker 4: be stable in your relationship first. Yeah, I think they
• 41:03
  Speaker 4: would disagree with this approach.
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: Jake is fully aware of the closed relationship, and we
• 41:09
  Speaker 3: are both respecting it. But Jerry is still very put
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: off by Jake. Every time I bring up his name
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: and tell Jerry I'm going to hang out with him,
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: he gets this very obvious negative reaction. I asked him
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: straight out what his problem was. He merely said he
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: feels off about Jake and does not trust him. To
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: which I responded, we closed our relationship to work on
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: our issues, but I'm not losing my friendship due to it,
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: especially when we are both being respectful. Dude. So am
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: I the a-hole for wanting to keep my relationship with
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: a man I feel spicily attracted to?
• 41:43
  Speaker 7: Yes.
• 41:43
  Speaker 4: But your husband's also, or your partner's also the a-hole.
• 41:47
  Speaker 4: for wanting to open up the relationship when you guys
• 41:50
  Speaker 4: were already going through issues. So you're both the a-hole
• 41:53
  Speaker 4: and everyone sucks here.
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: This feels like an eye for an eye with this relationship.
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: And when in a relationship, you can't have that kind
• 42:00
  Speaker 3: of mindset. You cannot keep score in relationships.
• 42:02
  Speaker 4: Like, do I think he sucks for closing the relationship
• 42:05
  Speaker 4: just when you were, you know, exploring other partnerships, even
• 42:09
  Speaker 4: though he had been doing it for three years? Absolutely,
• 42:11
  Speaker 4: I think he's a-hole. But I also think you're the a-hole.
• 42:14
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 42:14
  Speaker 4: For being like, well, it's not an issue that I'm
• 42:17
  Speaker 4: going to keep the friendship with the guy that I,
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: by the sounds of that last sentence, am still attracted to.
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: Oh, you did this. I'm going to do this. Oh,
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: you did this petty thing. I'm going to do this
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: petty thing. Over time, it's just going to. crumble on
• 42:31
  Speaker 3: top of itself.
• 42:32
  Speaker 4: And everyone sucks.
• 42:33
  Speaker 3: Here and if you got a lot of issues and
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: it's been three years and you guys haven't you finally
• 42:38
  Speaker 3: got your self-confidence back yeah yeah it's a rap dog.
• 42:42
  Speaker 7: My dad always said that he said there's no such
• 42:45
  Speaker 7: thing as a 50 50 in a relationship it's always
• 42:48
  Speaker 7: like moving like it's never ever gonna be completely 50
• 42:52
  Speaker 7: 50 and.
• 42:53
  Speaker 6: He's like and usually with your mom it's 90 10 Him.
• 42:59
  Speaker 5: He's doing all of it.
• 43:00
  Speaker 3: He's doing the 90.
• 43:01
  Speaker 4: He's doing the 90. He knows her too well.
• 43:04
  Speaker 3: I'm a big component of each person brings 100% and 100%
• 43:08
  Speaker 3: looks different.
• 43:09
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: Like if you put it as scoreboard, I have 10 points.
• 43:12
  Speaker 3: Angie has five points. Angie's bringing five points to the table.
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: I'm bringing 10 points.
• 43:16
  Speaker 7: Great.
• 43:16
  Speaker 3: I bring three points. She brings 15. I'm bringing my 100%.
• 43:19
  Speaker 3: I'm bringing my three points to the table. She's bringing
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: her 15 points. As long as we're... People show up
• 43:24
  Speaker 3: in different ways. They show up in different ways and
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: you're choosing love every day.
• 43:28
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 43:28
  Speaker 3: It doesn't come naturally sometimes. Sometimes you got to wake
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: up and be like, all right, here we go.
• 43:32
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: Time to love.
• 43:36
  Speaker 3: Got my loving face.
• 43:37
  Speaker 4: I'll help my boyfriend clean his house and stuff. And
• 43:39
  Speaker 4: then he'll bring me dinner.
• 43:40
  Speaker 3: You do really have a dream scenario, by the way.
• 43:43
  Speaker 3: I will say.
• 43:46
  Speaker 4: That makes me happy that you say that.
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: You do. I was thinking about the other day. I
• 43:49
  Speaker 3: was like, wow, she really does cut it all, don't you?
• 43:51
  Speaker 4: She really hit the lottery with that one.
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: She did. It's pretty cool. I'm a little jealous sometimes.
• 43:56
  Speaker 4: I mean, and she's incredible.
• 43:57
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 43:57
  Speaker 4: But that's the end of this story.
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: My girlfriend's best friend refused to leave our apartment.
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: So I packed her bags. You're out of here.
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: So for some context, I, male 24, have my girlfriend
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: who we're going to call Kelly, female 23. I've been
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: renting our first apartment together for about eight months and
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: she has moved in already.
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: And I know some people think we should be.
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: Married first, but I've known her for years and I
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: trust her enough, or at least I kind of have
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: until now.
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: Things were great.
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: Until recently, but in my opinion, the biggest problem in
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: our relationship has occasionally been her childhood best friend, Jude.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: Male 23. Hey.
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: Hey.
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: Hey, Jude.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: Her and Jude have a small history of not respecting boundaries.
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: At least that's what I've heard from one of their
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: mutual friends, as well as noticed at times personally. Though
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: it has never been as bad as it is right now,
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: because Jude had a girlfriend who kept him busy for
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: the longest time. Around three weeks ago or so... Jude
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: and his girlfriend had a breakup. Since then, my life
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: has been a nightmare. Jude can't handle being alone, so
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: he uses our apartment as his little hangout spot.
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: That's weird.
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: He comes over every day at 2 and then stays
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: through dinner and doesn't leave until late at night. By
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: the way, this comes from just an advice seeker. And
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: the r slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: I'm Sabiba. And we are going to read this story, Sabiba,
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: and we are going to have our thoughts and we're
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: going to say them. And you can let us know
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: your thoughts in the comments where they might just be
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: featured in a future video. And OP says, our routine
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: is ruined. If I want to watch Netflix with my girlfriend,
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: Jude is already on the couch. If I try to
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: cook dinner for her, then bro's at the table eating
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: our food. I haven't had any alone time with Kelly
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: since he broke up with his girlfriend. I've tried to
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: be patient because I know Jude is heartbroken and I've
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: been through an ex who dumped me, but it's really
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: getting out of hand. I feel like a guest in
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: my own home. Last night, he was still on our
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: couch at 11 p.m., scrolling through his ex's Insta. I go, hey, bro,
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: what you doing?
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: What you doing? Go home, bro. First, block her. Second,
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: go home, bro. It's not your place. What are you doing?
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: I hinted to Kelly that it was time for him
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: to go. She ignored me. So I told Jude it
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: was late and I had an early morning. Jude looked
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: hurt and left. The second he was gone, Kelly turned
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: on me and lost her freaking mind. She said I
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: was not being nice or empathetic and didn't care about
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: Jude's feelings. I told her there's a difference between supporting
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: a friend and letting him take over our relationship and space.
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: I pay half the rent to live with her, not
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: to have a third roommate. The argument got worse. I
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: finally told her she needs to set boundaries with Jude
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: or I won't let him come over at all. Kelly
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: then decided she was going to call me toxic. This morning...
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: I was added to her group chat. Her friends are
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: roasting me, saying I'm both a horrible partner and cold-hearted. Honestly, bro,
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: I break up.
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: Breaking up.
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: No, I agree.
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: This is easy breakup.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: You throw me in the group chat just to get
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: dogged on by all your friends? Over something that's like
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: objectively like you're in the wrong and there does need
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: to be a boundary placed with him. To prove a point. Yeah,
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: I say they're right. I am cold. Pack up your
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: stuff and get out. Or, you know, you can go
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: live with Jude.
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: Truly.
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: Nobody except my parents and my friends that I don't
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: share with her are on my side. But I feel
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: like I'm justified because who wants someone butting into their
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: life for almost a full month the way he has been?
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm going crazy. I don't think I'm
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: asking for much. Just some days where my home feels
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: like my home. I can be alone with my girlfriend.
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: Talk to me, guys. Am I overreacting? I gotta know.
• 47:44
  Speaker 3: No.
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: Easy no. You said, you know, these are boundaries. You
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: understand it. You've been broken up with. It sucks. And
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: she went ahead and roasted you to have all her
• 47:57
  Speaker 2: friends point and be like, you're cold-hearted and you're an a-hole. Okay,
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: how about all of you just have Jude stay at
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: your place? Or go hang out with Jude at his place?
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: It's different.
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: Why is he in my apartment 24-7?
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: If he was, like, a better guest... it'd be a
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: totally different story. But he just imposes himself and stays
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: all day. And then like you literally cook him dinner.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: Like it's like, like, like what? He's at the, he's
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: at the Ritz Carlton or something.
• 48:26
  Speaker 2: I get supporting your friends and being there for your friends,
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: but why is he being here?
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: And yeah, if he's on the couch scrolling his ex's Instagram,
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: Kelly is not supporting him because no one should be
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: supporting that behavior. We have an update. Hey guys, honestly,
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: I didn't expect to be posting an update this soon,
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: but it's been roughly 12 hours since my last post.
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: And crap has effing exploded.
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: I've spent the majority of today out of the apartment
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: and I honestly just needed you guys to tell me
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: that Jude wasn't a third wheel to our relationship. but
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: a replacement partner in Kelly's life to feel secure enough
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: about herself.
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: Ooh, real talk.
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: I mean, I didn't clock that, but sure. You guys
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: were a thousand percent right. So last night after I
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: walked out of the apartment, Kelly blew up my phone.
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: It was a cycle of her crying and then yelling,
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: telling me I abandoned her in the middle of a
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: very important conversation. I didn't respond to any of her
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: texts and just gave myself some space to How do
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: you think he sounds?
• 49:36
  Speaker 3: Oh, look, man.
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah. We both clock that.
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: He's like one of the guys from the Californians.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: He's like Bill and Ted.
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: He says, oh, look, man. I know you're upset, but
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: walking out on Kelly is low. She's been crying her
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: eyes out over your toxic ultimatum. I am only staying
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: on her couch for her safety because she's a mess
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: right now. You need to grow up, head back to
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: the apartment, and apologize to her for upsetting her over
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: how she's supporting me. If you can't support your partner
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: when times get tough, then you're not ready for an
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: adult relationship.
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: Hey, what happened to your girlfriend?
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: You know how I would reply to that?
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: Jude. Hey, Jude. You are the tough time. You are
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: the tough time. You are the catalyst for all of this. Nah,
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: you know what? You know what, Jude? You're right. Kelly's
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: your problem now. I broke. I'm breaking up with her.
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: She's yours. Date each other. You seem good for each other. Goodbye. Yeah.
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: You guys can support each other forever. So for starters, obviously,
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: that shows that Kelly immediately called Jude and spilled every
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: detail of our personal fight. And for another, the sheer
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: audacity for this man who pays absolutely nothing for our
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: apartment to tell me that I need to apologize to
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: my girlfriend for not wanting to be treated like a
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: fool was the straw that broke my patience. I didn't
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: even waste time responding to him. I took a screenshot
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: of his text, sent it to Kelly, and wrote, the
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: fact that your idiot friend feels like he has the
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: right to tell me anything about our relationship, our home,
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: or my boundaries has completely solidified this decision for me.
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: I told you Jude was becoming a part of our relationship,
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: and your response was to have him come back to
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: console you after I left. I need you to understand
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: that this lease is in my name alone, and I'm
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: not leaving my home for you. I expect you to
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: pack up your belongings and make whatever plans to get
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: your and Jude's things out of my apartment immediately. He
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: seems to love your space so much. I'm sure he'll
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: enjoy helping you move into his place.
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: Do you hear that?
• 51:51
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: That's a truth bomb.
• 51:52
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: Hey, Jude.
• 51:54
  Speaker 3: Judy, Judy.
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: Don't be afraid. Take my girlfriend and make her better.
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: Crab hit the fan instantly. Kelly started calling me repeatedly,
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: and when I finally picked up, she was sobbing. She
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: insisted she didn't know Jude would text me, and that
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: she was only venting to him because she was lonely
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: and had told him to leave the second she saw
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: the text. She was begging me and saying she would
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: tell him he could never set foot in the apartment
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: again if that's what it took to fix things.
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: Too late. That's not gonna.
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: You wanna fix things? already broken that's just going to
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: start a brand new problem which is the seething resentment
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: that will inevitably build up over time i.
• 52:32
  Speaker 2: Can't wait for that group chat with all your friends
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: to just flame me more.
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: The fact that she's only backpedaling because she's about to
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: be forced to sleep on the couch with jude however
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: shows she still doesn't truly grasp why what happened was
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: wrong even if jude leaves the apartment her complete inability
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: to keep our relationship sacred is and our private business
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: between the two of us is something that will never change.
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: I'm heading back to the apartment now, and my buddy
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: is coming with me just to witness everything and make
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: sure no drama goes down when I officially move Kelly out.
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: It breaks my heart because I truly loved her, but
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: I can't spend my life competing with her childhood best
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: friend for the right to sit on my own couch,
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: a couch I pay for, in my own apartment. Thank
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: you everyone for validating my sanity last night. I am
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: taking back my space. And there, uh, are some comments
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: by OP. Running like gump right now, he says.
• 53:27
  Speaker 2: I was running.
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: I just kept on running. I think you've done it.
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: I think you're moving entirely correct in every way here.
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: You didn't go overboard. You said clearly what was going on.
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: You're getting your friend to be a witness.
• 53:40
  Speaker 2: It was nothing but truths. You said nothing but truths.
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: She couldn't handle it.
• 53:45
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: I'm going to wait to get back out there. I'm 100%
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: feeling like I rushed into this relationship and I'm regretting
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: it now. Somebody commented that he should have tried again
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: with her to see if she brings Jude back around.
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, let's waste our time.
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: Opie says, the thing is, she doesn't truly want that
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: because I tried setting those boundaries and telling her I
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: need him out. She just plain refused until I told
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: her I'm breaking up with her and wanted her out too.
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: There's another update three days later. Were the police involved?
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: Every little thing she does is magic. Yeah, probably.
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: I'm going to say that Jude tells the cops that
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: something is being withheld from them. Something is stolen. I
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: don't know. That's just my gut.
• 54:26
  Speaker 2: I hope not. Message in a bottle.
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: Wouldn't it be great if Jude does a false police
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: report and then they investigate it, find out it's false,
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: and then he gets prosecuted?
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: That's life. And that's life.
• 54:37
  Speaker 3: That's life.
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: Don't know the rest of the words. Maybe I do,
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: but it's late. Three days later. One last update on
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: the situation with my ex and I. Having my friend
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: with me when I went back to the apartment was
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: the best advice I could have taken because things got a.
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: Little bit crazy, as you probably expected.
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: When we walked into the apartment, Jude was gone, thankfully,
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: because I don't really know what I would have done
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: if he wasn't. I would probably be in jail right
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: now if I saw his stupid face. While Kelly was
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: also not there, she walked in not too long after.
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: The second she saw my friend with me, she knew
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: that I meant effing business. and she was not going
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: to be able to talk her way out of this
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: or start crying to try to manipulate me. So, she
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: didn't scream or yell. She just asked my buddy if
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: he could give us ten minutes to talk alone, and
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: I nodded to let him know it was cool. Once,
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: the two of us were alone. She asked me if
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: there was really no way to get past this. She
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: felt like this was a stupid argument, and it wasn't
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: a reason for us to break up.
• 55:34
  Speaker 7: Oh!
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: Now she feels like it's a stupid argument. It wasn't
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: stupid when you flamed me to your entire group text though, right?
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: It wasn't stupid when you had Jude text me that
• 55:44
  Speaker 2: very inspiring text.
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: She had already obviously shown and made it very clear
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: how she felt and that she didn't take it seriously
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: or truly understand where I was coming from. Even though
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: I did know her feelings about all of this, hearing
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: her say it like that just further showed the lack
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: of respect she had for me and how far apart
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: we were in our relationship now. I really wanted to
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: crash out and go wild, but in the end, I
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: really just didn't have the energy, and I didn't want
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: this to go on forever. I calmly listed out all
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: my issues again, which was her having her best friend,
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: who I did call her pet, because he basically is,
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: take over our house and ignore every single complaint I
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: had about it. I also let her know that it
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: was wrong of her to add me to her dumb
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: little group chat. and have her friends jump me. Honestly,
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: it was none of their business in the first place
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: what was going on in our life. Last, but not least,
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: in our argument, she once again disrespected me by both
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: having Jude over and having him text me and talk
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: down to me. She apologized for everything, but it doesn't
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: matter to me anymore because I'm not going to cave
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: just so she can keep disrespecting me. After that, it
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: was just us packing all her stuff in the most
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: awkward silence ever. My friend was still there, and after
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: he came back inside, he helped us move all her
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: stuff to her car and And we were done pretty quickly.
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: No more arguments.
• 57:01
  Speaker 6: No more drama.
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: And when she finally gave me her spare key, she
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: told me her brother was letting her crash in his
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: spare bedroom for a couple of weeks and that Jude
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: had offered his couch, but she told him she needed
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: space from him. I hope for her sake that she
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: actually sticks to that because that friendship is pretty toxic
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: in my opinion. But regardless of what she's doing, it's
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: no longer my problem. This guy is like the Buddha.
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: And then by the way.
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: Rub his belly.
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: I'm tired now because that hit me delayed. I think
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: Kelly and Jude are going to end up in a
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: very nice toxic situation ship together.
• 57:37
  Speaker 2: I hope not. I hope this is the eye opener
• 57:40
  Speaker 2: for Kelly that, hey, maybe you got to learn that
• 57:42
  Speaker 2: Jude is a friend and not part of your whole life.
• 57:45
  Speaker 2: You know, not like in every single dynamic. Like I
• 57:49
  Speaker 2: get it. You try to be a good person, but
• 57:50
  Speaker 2: a month of him just coming over nonstop. What are
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: we doing?
• 57:55
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: And it's not like he's just like, it's not like
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: he's a fun hang either.
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, he broke up. He should be depressed.
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: He should be sad. He needs his distraction. But this
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: is not the distraction he needs, nor that you need, Opie.
• 58:06
  Speaker 2: So I think what you did was right. You stood
• 58:07
  Speaker 2: your ground. Yeah.
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: Now I can finally say that chapter of my life
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: is over, and it is a total relief. One of
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: the few mutual friends that Kelly and I share let
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: me know Jude was taking digs at me on social media,
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: but I really don't care about him anymore.
• 58:25
  Speaker 6: Okay.
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, whatever. Yap your yap, dog. I don't hear it.
• 58:30
  Speaker 2: I'm in your head.
• 58:30
  Speaker 3: I'm in your head. I'm in your head.
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: He is nothing but a stupid tumor who tried to
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: ruin my life and failed. I no longer have to
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: think about him and I won't. I'd be lying if
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: I said I haven't been thinking about her or that
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: I don't miss the girl she was when we first
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: started dating. But the feeling I have right now is
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: just peace. I can walk into my kitchen without bumping
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: into a third wheel. I can watch a movie without
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: hearing someone complain about their ex. I have my home back.
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: I hope you all take care of yourselves. If you
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: need to, do what I did and cut your toxic
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: partner out of your life. Don't let anybody walk over
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: you and put yourself first.
• 59:09
  Speaker 2: OP.
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story.
• 59:11
  Speaker 2: Get yourself a pet.
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, get a cat.
• 59:14
  Speaker 2: Cat, dog, bird.
• 59:15
  Speaker 1: You'd be good with a cat.
• 59:16
  Speaker 7: Fish.
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: You'd like a cat.
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: Get yourself a pet.
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: But that is the end of that.
• 59:20
  Speaker 2: Yes, it is. Hey, Keon here. We're going to get
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: back to the stories, but here's three minutes of ads
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: from our sponsors. My partner refused to work and she
• 59:28
  Speaker 2: still couldn't be honest with me?
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: When will the lies stop?
• 59:32
  Speaker 2: Allie and I have been together for almost seven years.
• 59:34
  Speaker 2: We have had our share of rough patches and managed
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: to work through them. Last October, Allie lost her job
• 59:40
  Speaker 2: due to some issues with her manager. She was assistant manager.
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: There were a few accusations thrown around about Allie and
• 59:46
  Speaker 2: also her manager as to what had happened. Naturally, I
• 59:50
  Speaker 2: backed my partner in the situation. I'm working a decent
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: paying job, and I told her, it's okay, you can
• 59:55
  Speaker 2: find another one. It's now been almost eight months. Eight months,
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 2: no job.
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: It's hard out there. Hoagie down.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 2: And she has lost between four and six smaller jobs.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: Most of them, she tells me, get her through training,
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 2: but then never schedule her. I have found some inconsistencies
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 2: in her claims. One job, she said a pipe had
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 2: burst in a brand new building. I found that strange
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: since the building was just finished, but things, things can happen.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: That they can.
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 2: I was talking to my coworker about the struggle of
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 2: finding a job right now and mentioned this pipe incident.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: Turns out his son also works for that company and
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 2: was sent over that same weekend when other employees no call,
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 2: no showed. My partner had told me that the building
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 2: was shut down for repairs, so why would my co-worker's
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: son be sent to cover missing employees? I brought this up,
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 2: and Allie just shrugged and said, I don't know, it
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: must have been a different building. That was the only
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: one that had just been built, and the only one
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: by the interstate. By the way, this comes from user ObjectiveRoutine82,
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: and if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 2: to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Sleepy Keon.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: I am Dakota.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 4: Worm.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 2: And I'm Sophia.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 7: Help.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 2: Sophia, introduce yourself to our guest. And that's Sleepy Sophia.
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 2: And we're really tired because it's really late and we
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: don't know much because it's really late. So we only
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: know what we do at this hour. Let us know
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 2: what you do at this hour in the comments down below.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 2: As OP says, a few other times she has said
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: she went to an interview, yet her car never moved.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 2: I have cameras on my house, so I checked and
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 2: she hadn't left the house that day. I ask her
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 2: about them and she states they were phone calls, not
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 2: in person. Yet she told me it was an in-person interview. Now,
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 2: my job pays decent, but not great. We have shutdowns,
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 2: which we have to get unemployment for. That cuts my
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: monthly income a decent chunk each time. So now bills
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 2: are slipping and I've been struggling to get them covered.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 2: Not to mention, we have a vacation in July that
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 2: my father is paying mostly for. It's a cruise, and
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 2: my father has paid for flights, hotel, cruise, and buffet
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 2: slash drinks on the cruise, as well as several excursions.
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: The only money we would be spending is fun money,
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 2: which we agreed to a year ago, around $ 2, 000 to
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 2: $ 3, 000 just to have fun with or do whatever with.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 2: I have expressed my concerns to Allie multiple times, and
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 2: she still hasn't gotten a job.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: I think it's time to maybe cut back on the
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 1: fun money. It's time to come back on the fun funds.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 7: Maybe.
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 2: All she does is tell me the job market is
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 2: hard and that I don't understand how she's feeling. Depression, anxiety, stress, etc.
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 2: I have snapped a few times about it, just telling her,
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 2: go get a fast food job or even a pizza
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 2: delivery job, just anything. She sleeps until I get off work,
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 2: then plays on her PC or lays in bed until
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 2: she has plans for the rest of the day. Her
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 2: plans consist of going out to watch shows, for free.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 2: anywhere for 30 minutes to over an hour's drive away. No,
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 2: I'm not paying for her gas and she takes her
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 2: own car. I don't know where she's getting gas money from.
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 2: The other issue between us is the house. I asked
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 2: her to clean more since she's home all day. We
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 2: have a lot of pets and yes, I've been thinking
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 2: of rehoming a decent amount of them because of the expenses.
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 2: I love them, but I can't afford them anymore. She
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 2: fights me on cleaning, saying it's not that bad and
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: that she does clean. But her idea of cleaning is
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: throwing dirty laundry down the chute, doing dishes maybe once
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 2: a week, and tossing out the bottles she leaves on
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 2: her desk. Meanwhile, our dog has been marking in the house.
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 2: The training for this is to let him out more often.
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 2: And when I'm home, I let him out every two
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 2: to three hours, which has helped. When my partner is home,
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: she lets him out once and then tells me she
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 2: let him out for about an hour. He also has
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 2: a sensitive stomach and a weak bladder. So when she's
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 2: glued to her PC and not supervising him, I'm the
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 2: one who comes home to dog puke embedded in the
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 2: carpet and trails of pee around the house. Because she
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 2: walks right over it and doesn't think it's an issue. Yo,
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 2: we need to... This is not good. If I'm coming
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 2: home to doo-doo and mark stains and that stink, and
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 2: you're home all day for free?
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 1: How do you just let that.
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 2: I'm upset-y.
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 1: How do you just let that linger?
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 2: How do you let that cranberry?
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 4: Does it linger? Does it linger?
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 2: Opie continues saying the laundry is the same story. Allie
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: has a lot of clothes and can go nearly a
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 2: month without doing laundry. So it piles up.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 3: Gross.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 2: We have cats and cats love to pee on laundry,
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 2: which they do a lot. I used to do her
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 2: laundry with mine, but now I refuse. And I recently
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 2: had to resort to throwing her massive pile of clothes
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 2: into two large outdoor garbage bags in the hope that
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: the cats would leave them alone. I've snapped about it
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 2: more than once, but she just punts it around the
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: floor and leaves it scattered through nearly every room of
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 2: the house. That's disgusting. With the other cleaning, my partner
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 2: sister is now living with us.
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 4: Oh no.
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 2: She does help where she can, but she works part-time
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 2: right now and is not able to get full-time hours.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 2: The sister and I have talked about her living situation,
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: that she's not able to pay rent, and therefore contributes
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: in a way that she and I have agreed works
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 2: for now until she can get more hours. That being said,
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 2: the sister vacuums, cleans one of the bathrooms, does dishes
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 2: multiple times a week, buys food for the house, and
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 2: does her best to cook. I appreciate her immensely for
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 2: what she does. Allie has stated that she helps her
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 2: sister clean while I'm at work. I brought this up
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 2: to the sister. The sister states that Allie will talk
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 2: and play on her phone. But that's it.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 1: That's helping. She's providing, you know, entertainment while her sister cleans.
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 2: She's just monitoring it.
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 2: The only time Allie is cleaned was after I snapped
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 2: at her about how she could at least be helping
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 2: with the house while she's finding a job. I'm told
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 2: I need to not treat Allie like crap and that
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 2: she's doing the best she can. No, she's not.
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 1: She's just factually not.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: Oops. And Obi continues saying... and that I am ungrateful
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 2: for what she has done. Allie is still managing to
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 2: go out two to three nights a week, even more
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 2: on weekends sometimes, and comes home with junk food, energy drinks,
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 2: and even takeout containers of food. I know I'm not
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 2: paying for anything she's doing. She claims it's her friends
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 2: paying for her. The majority of this started happening in December.
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 2: Allie had told me she would have a job at
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 2: the beginning of the year and that it was fine
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 2: to put my family's Christmas presents on my credit card
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 2: and that she would be able to help pay it
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 2: off before the trip in July. We also have plans
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 2: every year to go to a convention for three days.
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 2: I used my income tax and borrowed money from my
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 2: family to make sure we could go. Don't do that, OP.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 1: This is becoming... This is sad. You're going on almost
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 1: a year of this.
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 2: A year of nothing.
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 1: And it's like, is it hard to maybe get a
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 1: job in your field? You know, it can be.
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 2: But you can go get something. And Opie said, I
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 2: get it. But just even like delivery. Just something to
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 2: help out. Because what she's doing is net negative. She's
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 2: going out, driving.
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, dude.
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: Paying taxes. buying energy drinks or doing whatever, you should
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 2: be spending that time looking for a job.
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 1: She's just treating this like she's living on your dime,
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: which is a crazy way to be.
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 1: It's a crazy way to be.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, O.T.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: You're not worth, like, seven figures. That's a crazy way
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: to be.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 2: You need to have that full-on conversation with her and
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 2: give her, like, a wake-up call or you can't live
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 2: with her anymore. This is insane.
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 2: It would be good to use saying, She was throwing
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 2: a fit about the entire thing, not having money and
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 2: not having outfits. So I ordered her two outfits on
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 2: another credit card. She said she'd have a job when
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 2: we got back and all the bills would get caught
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 2: up soon. I was dumb and I believed her.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 1: Well, at least you've got hindsight.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 2: So now... I have maxed cards, bills slipping, a messy house,
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 2: and a job that can randomly just cut off at work.
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 2: Side note about my job, I have this job because
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 2: it makes it easier, with my health issues, to have
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 2: the extra days off. My boss and close co-workers help
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 2: me just like I'm family. And if I'm really having
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 2: a hard day, they take some of the workload for me.
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 2: They even went so far when I was in the
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 2: ER as to call and text asking if I was
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 2: okay to make sure I took care of myself and
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 2: took as much time as I needed to come back.
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 2: Am I overreacting or is breaking up the best thing
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 2: for me at this point? Thank you in advance. We
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 2: have an update.
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 7: Snazzed.
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it is. I think at this point.
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 2: I mean, she's living off your dime, your max credit cards.
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: She's just saying things like big, blatant lies to you.
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 1: She's gone. You're maxing out credit cards to buy her
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 1: outfits to go out while she's unemployed for eight, ten months.
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 2: It's crazy. OP, I think you need to tell her, hey,
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 2: if this doesn't change, it's over.
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 1: I don't even know if that would... It might wake
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 1: her up. The last eight months have really changed the
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 1: way that I look at our relationship.
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 2: Truly, it's an ultimatum.
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 1: I don't even know if you did fix everything overnight,
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 1: if it would make me go back to the way
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 1: things were.
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 2: It does suck, but if OP just says, I'm calm...
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 2: it quits the last eight months or however long, truly
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 2: max credit cards, everything, all the stress would be for
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 2: absolutely nothing.
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 1: Lesson learned.
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 3: So, yeah.
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 2: But I feel like if you have this full conversation
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 2: and give her that ultimatum, maybe we have an update.
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 2: Thanks for everyone's honest thoughts. I'll answer a few of
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 2: the questions some have asked. Sadly, this is not rage bait.
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 2: I wish I could say, ha, gotcha, and that my
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 2: life is great. It's not. I've lived with this woman
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 2: being a mess for years and made up excuses because
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 2: I thought that's what you do with people you love.
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 2: The time she held a job and we went and
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 2: did a lot of things with the excess funds made
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 2: it seem like this was just some bad luck at first.
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 2: Someone had mentioned trying to date her little sister. Hard pass.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 1: Oh, my God.
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 2: Don't get me wrong. She is small, cute, and a
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 2: lot better mentally than her older sister. But I don't
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 2: view her as a dating candidate. Yeah.
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 1: That's how far. Get me away. Get me away from
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 1: that idea.
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 2: She's more of a little sister to me, and she's
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 2: trying to get her feet on the ground with life.
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 2: She was horribly coddled by her parents until now, and
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 2: she's in her mid-twenties. That being said, I really don't
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 2: think I'm in a place, even if things were different,
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 2: where I should go right to dating. I'm in debt. Stressed.
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 2: And struggling. And that doesn't scream, come date me. Another
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 2: person asked if I am a renter.
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 1: Yes, I am.
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 2: Thankfully, I'm lucky enough to be renting from family. My
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 2: rent is cheaper than the rest of the houses in
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 2: the area. Even though I rent from family, I still
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 2: have to pay on time. I can get leeway, and
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 2: I definitely am right now. I have not been able
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 2: to pay full rent in almost four months.
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 1: Dude, that's brutal.
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 2: I keep bringing this up to Allie, and Allie just
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 2: brushes it off. Yeah. Saying my family... We'll understand.
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 1: Hard, hard lesson that you've learned. Don't ruin yourself financially
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 1: for anyone. Yeah, this was a case of she was
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 1: a gremlin disguised as a functioning member of society. And
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 1: it wasn't until she lost her job that you could
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 1: see it.
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 2: OP continues saying, yeah, my family will, and they do,
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 2: but that's not the point. It's a bill. It has
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 2: a due date. I will still owe what I can't
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 2: pay currently. Just because it's family does not mean I
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 2: can't just not pay them. The side piece, honestly, I'm
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 2: hoping she has one. I'm already so far branched away
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 2: from her emotionally that if she has a side piece,
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 2: she can just move in with them and be out
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 2: of my hair even faster. Once I saw her bringing
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 2: in all these things and saying, oh, My friends got
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 2: it for me. I was skeptical. I questioned her more,
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 2: and she got irritated, so I dropped it. Wow.
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 3: Oof.
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 1: Wow. She might be doing a little, uh.
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 2: Doing a little dance.
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 1: A little Sally on the side.
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's doing a little dance. Get down tonight. Everyone
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 2: is right. I do know the answer. It's over. I'm
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 2: almost 30, with only debt climbing and a partner who
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 2: has just dragged me around as a wallet. Everyone around
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 2: me that I have reached out to has said what
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 2: all of you have said in the comments. I think
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 2: I just needed a guaranteed unbiased source to fully punt
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 2: me in the butt and just do it. Being alone
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 2: is not fun and living on one income is rough. Yeah,
• 1:12:25
  Speaker 2: living on one income is rough, but living on one
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 2: income with somebody else leeching off of you is rougher.
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 2: Like a dog.
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 1: You're living on one income and there's a malignancy sapping
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 1: all of the vitality out of you.
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 7: Oh.
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: And guess what OP says? Living on one income while
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 2: the other party does nothing all day is even worse.
• 1:12:46
  Speaker 2: I should have not let it get this bad. And
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 2: I am promising myself that if a future relationship gives
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 2: me even a small, tiny inkling like this one, I
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 2: will question and straight up confront my partner. Good.
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 1: You have learned the way. This is the way.
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 2: We have an update. Should I just get into it?
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, she's gone. It's done. We're done. We're out.
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 1: I'm sure it was very smooth.
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 2: Do you think she was cheating? Or at least a
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 2: side piece?
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 1: I don't think we'll ever find out. And if she was.
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 2: And honestly, it doesn't matter. She should have been out
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 2: of your life a long time ago. Update. I will
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 2: be breaking up with her this week. Everyone is right.
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 2: And the thought process I was obviously already on is
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 2: right too. This is not a partnership. It's not even
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 2: a relationship. I absolutely hate arguing and yelling, but it's
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 2: inevitable at this point. I predict she will explode and
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 2: immediately start gaslighting me about everything she has done for me.
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 2: Mainly the fact that she has helped me through a
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 2: lot of health scares and sat for hours with me
• 1:13:45
  Speaker 2: in hospitals waiting on diagnoses or test results. I need
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 2: a day to fully solidify my mentality. And then I
• 1:13:51
  Speaker 2: will be sitting her down and telling her what's what.
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story.
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 1: And it went so smooth for this guy. I hope
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 1: Smooth like you'd had three spoonfuls of Metamucil.
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 2: Opie, I hope your pillow is always cold for the
• 1:14:07
  Speaker 2: rest of your life.
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 1: Unless you want it to be hot, and then you
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 1: get a hot pillow. You get whatever you want.
• 1:14:13
  Speaker 3: True.
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 1: You gonna get whatever you want from now on.
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 3: And that's the end of this story.