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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Their Urgency Is Not Your Emergency · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: What's going on everyone? Emily Badi here, you're listening to
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  Speaker 1: five Minute Friday from Hurdle. I cannot believe that we
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  Speaker 1: are at the end of June. It truly is mind
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  Speaker 1: blowing to me. I feel like it came in a
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  Speaker 1: second and now summer is like a third of the
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  Speaker 1: way over, and I am just I'm not prepared. I
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  Speaker 1: will say though, that I am prepared for what I
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  Speaker 1: feel like is going to be a frustrating few weeks
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  Speaker 1: right now. I have a lot of pitches in the world.
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  Speaker 1: So basically a big part of what I do is
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  Speaker 1: I come up with fun ways to collaborate with brands
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  Speaker 1: that work on behalf of my brand, that being Hurdle
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  Speaker 1: and also their brand. So examples of this could be
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  Speaker 1: me working at Ultratrail de mont Blanc with Hoka and
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  Speaker 1: hosting a workshop for women on the ground. It could
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  Speaker 1: be me collaborating with Nike to excite Hurdle listeners both
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  Speaker 1: about their new sneaker while also giving them an opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to come together and gather. And so when I tell
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  Speaker 1: you I've been busy lately, I have been busy lately
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  Speaker 1: concepting a lot of fun collaborations ideas ways that I
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  Speaker 1: can work candidly that would exist between August and November.
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  Speaker 1: And what I am remembering right now is that although
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  Speaker 1: I would like these things to be locked in asap,
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  Speaker 1: my sense of urgency isn't someone else's problem. What I
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  Speaker 1: mean by that is just because I'm on some sort
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  Speaker 1: of a timeline, just because I would like things to
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  Speaker 1: be a certain way, it doesn't mean that I can
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  Speaker 1: expect that others are going to act accordingly. So how
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  Speaker 1: does one execute when they are anxious? Well, while I'm
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  Speaker 1: playing the waiting game. My opportunity then is to keep ideating.
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  Speaker 1: I am not the type of person that likes to
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  Speaker 1: put all my eggs in one basket. I like to
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  Speaker 1: have a lot of different pots on the stove, and
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  Speaker 1: so I could just sit here and stare at my inbox.
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  Speaker 1: But that's not the kind of lady that I am.
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  Speaker 1: This lesson that my sense of urgency is in someone
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  Speaker 1: else's responsibility. It's one that works both ways. Right, I
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  Speaker 1: have been able to execute and maintain my boundaries knowing
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  Speaker 1: that generally speaking, it's not that serious. Yes, there is
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  Speaker 1: a time and a place to be on a deadline
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  Speaker 1: and get someone answers when they really need them. But really, realistically,
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  Speaker 1: if you have to just take a deep breath before
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  Speaker 1: you get back to business, do what you need to
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  Speaker 1: do to be good. This is just something that I
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  Speaker 1: have really come into over the last handful of years
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  Speaker 1: of working for myself, and I think that sometimes as
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  Speaker 1: a contractor, as a gig worker, as a freelancer, it's
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  Speaker 1: easier said than done. I am constantly trying to figure
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  Speaker 1: out where my next paycheck is coming from, and that
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  Speaker 1: can be a little bit stressful. But I know this
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  Speaker 1: to be true. I have never been in a situation
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  Speaker 1: where I wasn't okay, and I am not the kind
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  Speaker 1: of person that would ever allow that to happen. So
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  Speaker 1: even when my stress levels are high, even when I
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  Speaker 1: have a little bit of a sense of urgency, I
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  Speaker 1: trust the process, knowing that whatever is for me won't
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  Speaker 1: pass me by and that I have the opportunity to
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  Speaker 1: take that deep breath and move forward. And so the
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  Speaker 1: waiting game it's not fun, but trust me, it'll definitely
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  Speaker 1: teach you a thing or two. My prompt for you
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  Speaker 1: this week, what's not so serious for you? What is
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  Speaker 1: something that you've been putting a lot of pressure on,
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  Speaker 1: that you've been freaking out about that. You're kind of like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my goodness, what is happening here? And how can
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  Speaker 1: you just give yourself a little bit of grace and
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  Speaker 1: ease off a little bit? What are you making an
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  Speaker 1: urgent issue that's not really an urgent issue? And now
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  Speaker 1: a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hey m Meg from Monroe here. I am looking to
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  Speaker 2: refresh my wardrobe in a capsule wardrobe sort of way,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm wondering if you have staple quality items that
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  Speaker 2: you reach for go to that you know you can
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  Speaker 2: mix and match with different things, and if you have
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  Speaker 2: any recommendations. As always, thank you for all that you do.
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  Speaker 1: Oh we love a capsule wardrobe, a staple wardrobe. I
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  Speaker 1: was literally just having a conversation with a couple of
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  Speaker 1: girl friends about spending a decent amount of money on
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  Speaker 1: items that are extremely unique. I feel as though the
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  Speaker 1: things that I want to invest in are going to
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  Speaker 1: be things that if I had to bring eight items
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  Speaker 1: on a trip, those are probably going to be the
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  Speaker 1: most expensive items in my closet. So this means for me,
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  Speaker 1: things like a great pair of jeans right now, my
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  Speaker 1: favorite jeans are actually not all that expensive. They're from
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  Speaker 1: a company called Bershka, which you can likento a European Zara.
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  Speaker 1: Also on the denim front, really into Levi's classic and
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  Speaker 1: also page lately other things that I do invest in
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  Speaker 1: a really great staple designer bag. I bought my first
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  Speaker 1: Saint Laurent perse a couple of years ago. It was
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  Speaker 1: something that I saved up to buy for years and
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  Speaker 1: years and debated that purchase forever, and it is truly
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  Speaker 1: one of the most used and prized possessions that I
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  Speaker 1: own now. It's a simple black crossbody that can also
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  Speaker 1: be a handheld moment and oh, I just love her.
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  Speaker 1: Other wardrobe items outside of accessories in Denham, if you're
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  Speaker 1: looking for a great Oxford, I recently have been obsessed
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  Speaker 1: with this oversized two tone Oxford from Anthropology, and then
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  Speaker 1: even simple basics that are a little bit more elevated.
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  Speaker 1: So right now I look down, I'm wearing a crop
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  Speaker 1: black high neck tank top from Lululemon. Now, of course
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  Speaker 1: I could buy a tank top like this at a
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  Speaker 1: place like gu which is the sister store to Uniclo,
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  Speaker 1: and I have before, but I know that this Lululemon
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  Speaker 1: quality tank top is going to hold up as I
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  Speaker 1: wear it again. And again something like a great pair
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  Speaker 1: of sandals. Yes, I have bought many a sandal at Target,
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  Speaker 1: but and I'm not just saying this because of my
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  Speaker 1: recent partnership. I have owned a pair of Birkenstocks for
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  Speaker 1: at least six years now and they're still awesome. So
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  Speaker 1: this is what I'm talking about when it comes to
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  Speaker 1: investing in your wardrobe and the pieces that make you
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  Speaker 1: feel comfy and good and you know are going to
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  Speaker 1: hold up regardless of what you've got on the calendar,
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  Speaker 1: and then otherwise, if you are looking to have fun
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  Speaker 1: with your wardrobe. I am super big on renting so lately,
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  Speaker 1: not sponsored at all, I've been experimenting with Newly and
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  Speaker 1: it's fun to have a few different options in my
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  Speaker 1: closet that are a little bit outside the box that
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  Speaker 1: I'll wear for this month and then they'll go back
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  Speaker 1: to where they came from. But rent the runway another option.
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  Speaker 1: So many different ways to feel out your individual style.
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  Speaker 1: Hope this was helpful. Make sure you are following along
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  Speaker 1: I am over at Emily a Body and with that
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  Speaker 1: another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys, next time.