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My friend got ENGAGED at my wedding… so I deleted her pictures! | Reddit Stories | EP3050 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Dakota.
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  Speaker 2: And this is Keon, your favorite OK Storytime host, and
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  Speaker 2: we've got some great stories coming right up.
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  Speaker 3: But before that, we have a quick two-minute break from
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  Speaker 4: My friend got engaged at my wedding, so I had
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  Speaker 4: her pictures deleted.
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  Speaker 1: Delete her from your existence.
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  Speaker 4: I got married last fall, where I live. Fall means
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  Speaker 4: the trees are changing colors.
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  Speaker 5: I never knew that.
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  Speaker 2: We don't really have that in LA. We don't really
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  Speaker 2: have seasons. Like, it happens, but not really, like... Very subtly.
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  Speaker 2: You go to the East Coast, and that's like a.
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  Speaker 3: The seasons in LA are like the brown season and
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  Speaker 3: the less brown season.
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  Speaker 4: And the seasons in Ohio are you can get all
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  Speaker 4: four seasons in a day, which has happened before at
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  Speaker 4: a track meet with that I was at in high school.
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  Speaker 5: So the wedding pictures are to gawk over.
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  Speaker 3: Ugh.
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  Speaker 4: We didn't have a huge budget, so a friend of
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  Speaker 4: mine asked her friend if she could do it for me.
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  Speaker 4: I had seen some of her work, and she is
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  Speaker 4: really talented. Plus, she is a total seat-art.
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  Speaker 5: There's no W.
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  Speaker 2: Seat.
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  Speaker 1: Seat-art.
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  Speaker 2: Just say it, you know.
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  Speaker 5: Plus, she is a total sweetheart.
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  Speaker 4: The only thing is, for what she charges, and since
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  Speaker 4: it's more of a hobby, you'll get your pictures when
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  Speaker 4: you'll get them.
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  Speaker 5: Well, I got them.
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  Speaker 4: And now I need to know if what I'm about
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  Speaker 4: to do falls into a whole territory.
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  Speaker 6: Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 4: A few days after my wedding, my friend announced to
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  Speaker 4: me that she was engaged. I was ecstatic and wanted
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  Speaker 4: to know everything. Turns out she got engaged at my wedding.
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  Speaker 5: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, but if you didn't know, then why is
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  Speaker 1: that a problem?
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  Speaker 3: Like, if it wasn't a thing where it was like,
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  Speaker 3: it disrupted your own wedding, does it matter?
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  Speaker 4: The whole thing is, is that she probably pulled the
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  Speaker 4: photographer away from the wedding to take pictures of the engagement.
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  Speaker 5: I think that's the issue here.
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  Speaker 1: Your free photographer?
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  Speaker 5: My brain gets out of its... Well, no, they said
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  Speaker 5: that they pay.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I thought they were.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, the only thing is for what she charges. And
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  Speaker 4: since it's more of a hobby, you'll get your pictures
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  Speaker 4: when you get them.
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  Speaker 1: You get what you get.
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  Speaker 2: You don't get upset. But... So it's reasonable. I feel
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  Speaker 2: like a lot of the photos that were supposed to
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  Speaker 2: be of the wedding, some of them of this proposal.
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  Speaker 4: My brain gets out of its vegetative state, and I
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  Speaker 4: remember her table being way too excited at some point,
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  Speaker 4: but I blamed the booze. I wasn't thrilled about it,
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  Speaker 4: realizing then that she had basically not only gotten engaged
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  Speaker 4: at my wedding, but instead of hiding it and announcing
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  Speaker 4: it later, she announced it to our friends during the party.
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  Speaker 5: It was a tough pill to swallow, but I.
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  Speaker 4: figured whatever it's not like i even realized what was happening.
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  Speaker 5: By the way this comes from.
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  Speaker 4: Throwaway wed photos and if you want to submit your
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  Speaker 4: own stories go to the r slash okay story time
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  Speaker 4: subreddit i'm.
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  Speaker 1: Savannah i'm dakota i'm keon and.
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  Speaker 4: We're here to talk about some stuff get some advice
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  Speaker 4: we don't have all of the answers we're only going
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  Speaker 4: to talk about what we know but let us know
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  Speaker 4: what you know in the comment as op says We
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  Speaker 4: did have a discussion about it, and she didn't seem
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  Speaker 4: to understand why I was upset until I put it
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  Speaker 4: into perspective for her, asking her how she would feel
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  Speaker 4: if I made a big announcement at her wedding, taking
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  Speaker 4: the attention away from her big moment. In my friend's mind,
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  Speaker 4: it's no longer the day I got married, it's now
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  Speaker 4: also the day she got engaged.
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  Speaker 5: On my dime.
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  Speaker 4: We eventually turned the page, and I thought it was over. Well,
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  Speaker 4: i've sort of been friends with my photographer since the
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  Speaker 4: wedding because of common interests at some point she point
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  Speaker 4: blank told me that now that we are closer she
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  Speaker 4: feels comfortable asking me what to do with my friend's
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  Speaker 4: pictures because it makes her really uncomfortable during the evening
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  Speaker 4: the wedding party took a break to go change and
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  Speaker 4: during that time my photographer was taking pictures of foliage
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  Speaker 4: in the venue my friend apparently asked her to take
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  Speaker 4: pictures of her and her boyfriend She didn't really see
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  Speaker 4: a problem since we weren't back yet and they were guests.
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  Speaker 4: That's until she realized they were engagement pictures. Some poses
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  Speaker 4: just don't leave place to interpretation. So when she asked
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  Speaker 4: me what to do, accidents happen, I told her to
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  Speaker 4: just put them in a separate folder. Ever since, I've
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  Speaker 4: been thinking, what am I going to do with that folder?
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  Speaker 4: My friend has been asking about my wedding pictures periodically,
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  Speaker 4: but haven't asked about her pictures specifically.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, come on. We know what she's doing. We know
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  Speaker 2: what she's doing. I'm so excited for the wedding photos.
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  Speaker 2: It was such a beautiful wedding. When are they going
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  Speaker 2: to come out?
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  Speaker 4: I want to post about them.
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  Speaker 5: I want to post you.
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  Speaker 1: I don't like any of this.
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  Speaker 2: Nah, man.
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  Speaker 3: Have a friend that gets engaged at your wedding and
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  Speaker 3: you don't even know about it until days later. I'd
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  Speaker 3: say that they did it the right way if there
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  Speaker 3: is one. Like, that's the thing about getting engaged at
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  Speaker 3: someone's wedding that's so, like, why would you do that?
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  Speaker 1: Is that takes away from their wedding.
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  Speaker 5: Well, it did to their friends. Their friends were like, oh, Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: If Opie didn't notice, I don't feel like it was
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  Speaker 1: a problem.
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  Speaker 3: All your friends are not thinking about your wedding anniversary
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  Speaker 3: or your friend's engagement anniversary. Those dates only matter to
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  Speaker 3: you and your friend. That automatically, I'm like, that's weird.
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  Speaker 3: That's a weird way to think about that. All our
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  Speaker 3: friends are now going to also remember that day. They're
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  Speaker 3: not going to remember. It's your wedding day.
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  Speaker 1: It's not theirs. I don't know. Do you remember any
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  Speaker 1: of your friends' wedding dates?
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  Speaker 2: No, but I also, no one should be proposing at
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  Speaker 2: a wedding. That's kind of uncalled for. That's kind of uncouth.
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  Speaker 2: Unless if you ask and everyone's like, yeah, sure.
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  Speaker 1: I agree. But clearly it happened in a way where
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  Speaker 1: they didn't even know.
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  Speaker 5: Well, they didn't know.
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  Speaker 4: But the thing is, now they do know because they
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  Speaker 4: took the photographer aside, the photographer that they paid to
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  Speaker 4: take pictures at the wedding. Now they're like, oh, my God,
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  Speaker 4: like you paid for our engagement photos type of thing.
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  Speaker 3: I would have only I would only be upset about
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  Speaker 3: this if there was a moment during that wedding where
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  Speaker 3: it's like he gets down on one knee and it's
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  Speaker 3: like everything is about that moment and everyone there is like, well, huzzah.
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  Speaker 1: Not just like one table of my friends.
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  Speaker 3: And it makes sense that you wouldn't know about it
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  Speaker 3: and they wouldn't tell you because that is what would
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  Speaker 3: mess up the wedding.
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  Speaker 2: You know what it's giving me? Because like Opie didn't
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  Speaker 2: know about this. They were being very sly about it
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  Speaker 2: because they're like, if Opie knows, they're obviously going to
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  Speaker 2: be upset. So make it real subtle. Like they're probably like, yes,
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  Speaker 2: we did.
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  Speaker 1: We did.
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  Speaker 2: But like we can be excited, but don't like make
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  Speaker 2: it a huge scene because we don't want to take
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  Speaker 2: all the attention, but a little attention. And you know
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  Speaker 2: what it's giving me? It's giving me Remora. Where the
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  Speaker 2: fish are on the shark. Like they take, they just like,
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  Speaker 2: they're just hanging out there. Yeah. How are the photos?
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  Speaker 2: They're like, OP doesn't know. We got what we needed.
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  Speaker 2: There's like on the bottom of the shark. The shark
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  Speaker 2: doesn't know it's there.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess your friend should say that that happened.
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  Speaker 3: I guess they already did.
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  Speaker 2: For those who are listening and don't know what a
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  Speaker 2: remora is, it's that fish that has a little suction
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  Speaker 2: cup on its head and it hangs on like bigger things.
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  Speaker 1: You don't know what a remora is. Go back to school.
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  Speaker 5: Wait, it's not like a baby?
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  Speaker 2: Those are fish that like... That just attach to sharks?
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  Speaker 2: Or like attaches to like another host. Use it as
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  Speaker 2: a free ride.
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  Speaker 5: Dang.
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  Speaker 2: And more.
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  Speaker 7: Remore.
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  Speaker 2: Remore.
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  Speaker 4: Remore.
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  Speaker 1: Ray Remora.
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  Speaker 4: It was easy when I didn't have them, but now
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  Speaker 4: I do. I've had them since April, and I know
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  Speaker 4: she will eventually come out of hiding now that the
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  Speaker 4: vid restrictions are loosened. I want to delete the folder
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  Speaker 4: since they are my property anyways, but I don't want
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  Speaker 4: to be a major a-hole either. Before you say it,
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  Speaker 4: I do realize I haven't forgiven her at all like
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  Speaker 4: I initially thought.
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  Speaker 5: Am I the a-hole here? I don't think you're the a-hole.
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  Speaker 4: You'd be a little an a-hole to delete the photos.
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  Speaker 4: But also, I understand why you would.
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  Speaker 2: I'd be like, pay for them.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, if she pays for them, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And I also confront them. Like, why am I finding
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  Speaker 2: out about this now?
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  Speaker 4: Why did you guys do that? And also, if you
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  Speaker 4: want these photos, you pay for them. Because I paid
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  Speaker 4: for this photographer, but you're not just getting free photos
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  Speaker 4: out of it.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah. When I'm not even in them. Like, this is
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  Speaker 5: my moment.
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  Speaker 3: I guess it would be annoying to be like, all
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  Speaker 3: our friends are going to remember that you guys got
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  Speaker 3: engaged at my wedding instead of remembering anything about my wedding.
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  Speaker 2: Someone's like, hey, could you give me a ride and
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  Speaker 2: I won't pay you gas? Like, you need to drive me. Like,
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  Speaker 2: I need to go all the way to this other state.
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  Speaker 2: And you drive to the state, you know, and it
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  Speaker 2: was like a free ride. No gas. They didn't pay
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  Speaker 2: for anything. No snacks. None of that. Can you imagine that?
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  Speaker 4: I guess.
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  Speaker 1: I guess. My friend's broke.
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  Speaker 5: I guess.
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  Speaker 1: What are you doing? Just give her the photos. Nah.
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  Speaker 1: At this point, it's like, what are you going to do?
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  Speaker 3: Just start scrapping over it and get down on that level?
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  Speaker 1: Just give her the photos.
• 7:45
  Speaker 2: Announce your baby at their wedding.
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  Speaker 1: Get pregnant just to make sure to spite her.
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  Speaker 5: There's an update.
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  Speaker 4: My update isn't really exciting, I'm afraid. When I wrote
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  Speaker 4: the original post, I was at the end of my
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  Speaker 4: rope and worked up all at the same time. But
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  Speaker 4: I stepped back and listened to your ideas.
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  Speaker 3: I love how they said I was at the end
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  Speaker 3: of my rope and worked up at the same time,
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  Speaker 3: like those aren't synonyms for the exact same thing.
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  Speaker 4: Although it was tempting to Photoshop hidden objects and, hmm,
• 8:11
  Speaker 4: body parts on her pictures, we headed towards the civil path.
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  Speaker 5: So nothing dramatic, sorry.
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  Speaker 4: I talked with my photographer to see if she wanted
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  Speaker 4: to sell them the pictures. The way she sees it,
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  Speaker 4: they are my pictures to do whatever I want with
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  Speaker 4: since I paid for them. So my husband and I
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  Speaker 4: decided to leak a few of our pictures on social.
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  Speaker 5: Media and wait.
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  Speaker 4: It didn't take two days that she was asking about
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  Speaker 4: her pictures. I met with her and we talked a lot.
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  Speaker 4: Long story short, deep down, she knew I would be
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  Speaker 4: angry about the proposal, the announcement, and the photo shoot.
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  Speaker 4: But her immediate wants blurred her judgment. And after that,
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  Speaker 4: she was just gasping for air, trying to manage everything
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  Speaker 4: without losing me as a friend. But she admitted that
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  Speaker 4: she did it all wrong.
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  Speaker 2: Gee, crazy to be like, yeah, we know and make
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  Speaker 2: you upset. We know you wouldn't like that. And that's
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  Speaker 2: why we hid it from you.
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  Speaker 3: I still think that's good. I still think that that
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  Speaker 3: means that that was okay.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 1: I do.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, there's a part of me that's like, I
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  Speaker 3: get it. People are going to remember that as the
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  Speaker 3: moment at your wedding.
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  Speaker 1: That's not your spotlight to take the spotlight. But she didn't.
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  Speaker 1: There was no spotlight being taken.
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  Speaker 2: They took it a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: She didn't know that this happened. Okay. So clearly the
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  Speaker 1: spotlight wasn't taken.
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  Speaker 2: Dakota, I stole your food and didn't tell you. And
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  Speaker 2: you're like, I think someone ate my food. Maybe it
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  Speaker 2: was me.
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  Speaker 3: But it's, that's not, that's, that's like saying you stole
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  Speaker 3: the ring from the wedding and proposed with that.
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  Speaker 1: That's different.
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  Speaker 2: Nah, nah, I don't know, man.
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  Speaker 3: It's like saying like, I wanted to go to Jollibee,
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  Speaker 3: but you went to Jollibee at the same time as me.
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  Speaker 1: And it was like, why are we both going to Jollibee?
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  Speaker 1: It's like, well, cause we both are, whatever. We're in
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  Speaker 1: love with Jollibee.
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  Speaker 2: Like, I paid for all my food. I got a
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  Speaker 2: bunch of food. And you ate all my food. And
• 9:47
  Speaker 2: I went, maybe I ate all my food. Maybe that
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  Speaker 2: was me. And you told me, nah, I ate some
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  Speaker 2: of your food. Thanks, though.
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  Speaker 1: I knew you'd be upset if I ate your food.
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  Speaker 1: But I didn't tell you. But now the food's gone.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, well, right?
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  Speaker 1: We're cool. Anyone who wants to get married at my
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  Speaker 1: wedding is allowed to.
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  Speaker 2: Ask your partner that.
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  Speaker 3: Though across the board your partner is gonna love that
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  Speaker 3: my wedding is gonna be everyone getting married at the
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  Speaker 3: same time i object to who everyone To who?
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  Speaker 5: Because there's multiple people getting married.
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  Speaker 1: Now you're getting married. Objection.
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  Speaker 5: Overruled.
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  Speaker 4: She seemed genuine in her regrets, but it was a
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  Speaker 4: bit comforting to know she was also struggling with this
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  Speaker 4: on her side.
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  Speaker 5: I'm a terrible person.
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  Speaker 4: She said she wished she didn't announce it at my wedding,
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  Speaker 4: that the whole night she was worried I would learn
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  Speaker 4: about it through our friends or some of my relatives
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  Speaker 4: sitting next to them and that I'd never talk to
• 10:34
  Speaker 4: her again. And then it was all done and she
• 10:37
  Speaker 4: didn't know how to navigate through all of it. When
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  Speaker 4: I confronted her the first time, she felt that if
• 10:42
  Speaker 4: she admitted her wrongs, that she'd lose me in the process,
• 10:44
  Speaker 4: so she decided it would be better to just invalidate
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  Speaker 4: my feelings. Not how she worded it, but pretty much.
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  Speaker 4: She didn't come clean about the pictures because she figured
• 10:52
  Speaker 4: that would be a problem.
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  Speaker 5: For future her. Yeah, I just don't like.
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  Speaker 4: How she's like, I knew this was gonna be an issue,
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  Speaker 4: but like, I just didn't care in the moment.
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  Speaker 5: That's awesome that I have a friend who does not care.
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  Speaker 2: That- That's what I'm saying. She's like, I regret it,
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  Speaker 2: but I did all of it already.
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  Speaker 3: Guys, she was blinded by love, you heartless monsters.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 4: I just think she could have went about it in
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  Speaker 4: a different way. It didn't have to be that day.
• 11:16
  Speaker 4: It literally could have been the next day. It could
• 11:18
  Speaker 4: have been after the wedding. But of course, it had
• 11:20
  Speaker 4: to be right there and then, and then also steal
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  Speaker 4: a photographer and take pictures.
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  Speaker 5: I'd still be like, you have to pay for the photos. Like,
• 11:25
  Speaker 5: I'm not giving them to you.
• 11:26
  Speaker 1: Call me bad friend.
• 11:27
  Speaker 5: But you're a bad friend. You did it first.
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  Speaker 3: I guess it is tacky getting engaged at someone else's wedding.
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  Speaker 1: A little.
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  Speaker 3: The most socially egregious part of it is when it
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  Speaker 3: interrupts and gets in the way of their wedding, which it.
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  Speaker 1: Did not do.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it didn't do that.
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  Speaker 3: Big red X did not happen. Normally I'm like these stories.
• 11:43
  Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, of course that was stupid.
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  Speaker 4: It didn't cause a huge scene, but it did sort
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  Speaker 4: of take away what was.
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  Speaker 5: Going on in the moment.
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  Speaker 1: It was at the dinner is at the reception.
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  Speaker 5: I have no idea when it was.
• 11:54
  Speaker 1: She said something about the tape. Like if it's post ceremony, like.
• 11:56
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm guessing it's like reception now.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, dude.
• 12:00
  Speaker 2: I don't know, man. That's not my day to announce
• 12:03
  Speaker 2: something that's overruling somebody else's day. Yeah. Truly.
• 12:06
  Speaker 1: What if I just announced that I got new shoes?
• 12:08
  Speaker 2: Then that's sick.
• 12:09
  Speaker 5: Ting, ting, ting, ting, ting, ting, ting.
• 12:10
  Speaker 1: Everybody, I've got new Jordans.
• 12:13
  Speaker 5: Thank you.
• 12:14
  Speaker 2: And everyone's going, he's got some sick Jordans, but that
• 12:15
  Speaker 2: was kind of weird.
• 12:16
  Speaker 1: Also, honey, look in your champagne glass.
• 12:18
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 12:21
  Speaker 5: I pooped in it.
• 12:21
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 12:22
  Speaker 4: I told her that I would have preferred she were
• 12:24
  Speaker 4: honest with me. That a lot of the hurt and
• 12:26
  Speaker 4: betrayal I felt came from her sneaking around and invalidating
• 12:30
  Speaker 4: my feelings by acting innocent.
• 12:32
  Speaker 3: Well, I mean, what did she propose to her partner? Like,
• 12:35
  Speaker 3: why are we upset? Did she get proposed to?
• 12:38
  Speaker 1: Well, I guarantee you, I don't know. Maybe it's not
• 12:40
  Speaker 1: like she would know, right?
• 12:42
  Speaker 2: And is this on the partner?
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: And what's she supposed to do?
• 12:45
  Speaker 3: You get proposed to and you're at your friend's wedding
• 12:46
  Speaker 3: and you just go, no, no, not right now. Because
• 12:50
  Speaker 3: it's because of the social context.
• 12:53
  Speaker 1: It's like you're getting proposed to. You're freaking out. You're like, oh,
• 12:55
  Speaker 1: my God.
• 12:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 12:56
  Speaker 1: And it's like, oops.
• 12:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 12:57
  Speaker 3: Now I got proposed at my friend's wedding. I got
• 13:00
  Speaker 3: engaged here. Oh, maybe a little understandable that your logic
• 13:04
  Speaker 3: brain turns off in that moment and you just go, oh,
• 13:06
  Speaker 3: my God.
• 13:06
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I'll give him that.
• 13:09
  Speaker 2: I don't know. If someone proposed to me at a wedding,
• 13:11
  Speaker 2: I'd be like, what are you doing? Why here? Out
• 13:14
  Speaker 2: of all the places.
• 13:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 13:15
  Speaker 2: Out of all the places.
• 13:16
  Speaker 5: It is a little inconsiderate.
• 13:19
  Speaker 2: Brain check it.
• 13:20
  Speaker 5: Bro, that's so funny.
• 13:21
  Speaker 4: This could have been dealt with months ago had she
• 13:24
  Speaker 4: just owned up to everything back then. I told her
• 13:26
  Speaker 4: that our friendship was definitely hurt by it and that
• 13:29
  Speaker 4: I didn't know.
• 13:29
  Speaker 5: If it would ever go back to the way it was.
• 13:32
  Speaker 4: So yeah, as far as I'm concerned, this case is
• 13:35
  Speaker 4: closed and we're building towards a better tomorrow. There's an
• 13:38
  Speaker 4: edit to add. I forgot the most important part. I
• 13:40
  Speaker 4: gave her the pictures free of charge. It was just
• 13:44
  Speaker 4: not worth all the drama. We have common friends and
• 13:46
  Speaker 4: money tends to make things cold. It would also not
• 13:50
  Speaker 4: make it okay or make me feel better. And we
• 13:52
  Speaker 4: didn't want anyone to use it against us, if that
• 13:54
  Speaker 4: makes sense. Like, why don't you go back to being
• 13:56
  Speaker 4: friends now? Right this second, she paid for them, didn't she?
• 13:59
  Speaker 4: Some people have this weird idea that money erases everything.
• 14:03
  Speaker 5: I don't know. It's a weird story. Could have just
• 14:05
  Speaker 5: been a conversation, but also, I don't know.
• 14:08
  Speaker 4: I don't know what everyone was thinking in the moment
• 14:10
  Speaker 4: and what was happening and if it just felt like
• 14:12
  Speaker 4: the right moment.
• 14:13
  Speaker 2: I don't know. My favorite part is OP's friend didn't
• 14:15
  Speaker 2: think she would get caught. It would happen or be known.
• 14:18
  Speaker 5: Yeah, that seems a little shady.
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: Like the photos, people are going to talk about it
• 14:23
  Speaker 2: down the line.
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: What's more romantic than getting married at a wedding?
• 14:27
  Speaker 5: I don't know.
• 14:28
  Speaker 4: If my boyfriend, like if say I like went to
• 14:31
  Speaker 4: a wedding, whatever, and my boyfriend's like, oh my God, like,
• 14:33
  Speaker 4: you know, will you marry me?
• 14:34
  Speaker 5: I'd be like, yes, but like not right the second. Like,
• 14:38
  Speaker 5: you know, can you do it another time? Like, I
• 14:40
  Speaker 5: don't know. I feel like this takes away from that. Like,
• 14:42
  Speaker 5: that's what I would think.
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: I'd say, no, ew, disgusting.
• 14:46
  Speaker 5: But that's the end of that story, and we got
• 14:47
  Speaker 5: another one coming right up.
• 14:49
  Speaker 3: I asked my friend an innocent question, but it made
• 14:52
  Speaker 3: her lash.
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: Out at me.
• 14:53
  Speaker 3: 40 lashes! I, 19, female, am in a group chat
• 14:58
  Speaker 3: with some high school friends where someone mentioned their future
• 15:01
  Speaker 3: career preference and their backup option. It started a whole
• 15:05
  Speaker 3: thread where everyone shared the same. One girl, I will
• 15:08
  Speaker 3: call her B, said she wanted to become an author. Now,
• 15:12
  Speaker 3: I will admit to something I have never said to
• 15:14
  Speaker 3: anyone before. Bea can't write. She butchers the grammar, doesn't
• 15:18
  Speaker 3: have a good vocabulary, has been vehemently opposed to criticism
• 15:22
  Speaker 3: from teachers all through high school, and tends to write
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: characters of an ethnicity or nationality she knows next to
• 15:28
  Speaker 3: nothing about.
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: However, I have always.
• 15:29
  Speaker 3: Believed writing is a learning process and every writer improves
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: with time. I have always supported her and even edited
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: her lit assignments. After 14 minutes, yes, I went back
• 15:39
  Speaker 3: and counted, of talking about her future as an author,
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: where no one said anything negative, I asked her what
• 15:45
  Speaker 3: her backup was simply because everyone mentioned one and she didn't,
• 15:49
  Speaker 3: and she did not respond.
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from.
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: BaboonInMyHair, and if you want to submit your own stories,
• 15:55
  Speaker 3: go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit OP Says. Later,
• 15:58
  Speaker 3: I was sent screenshots of a new group chat she created,
• 16:01
  Speaker 3: specifically excluding me, filled with.
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: Rants about how I know.
• 16:05
  Speaker 3: Nothing about writing as a serious career and will always
• 16:08
  Speaker 3: be stuck in my fanfiction world. And that I think
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: making everyone J with a G will sell books. This
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: is a dig at the fact that I've been writing
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: fanfiction since I was 13, but I mostly write LGBTQ
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: plus protagonists because I enjoy creating representation for my community.
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: She hurled a bunch of hateful, prejudiced.
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: Insults at me and said I was trying to put
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: her down when I couldn't write a decent, realistic piece
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: to save my life.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 16:30
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: Let's, uh, let's have a competition then. Did she have
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: any grammar issues in her, in her, like, grammatical, like, errors?
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: Send her, like, a you're with an apostrophe, like, with
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: an asterisk.
• 16:40
  Speaker 5: I hate when people can't get that right.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: You proofread her entire, like, just hate text about you
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: and be like, that's wrong.
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: That's incorrect. That's wrong.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: You and I.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: Never mind the fact that my articles have been published
• 16:54
  Speaker 3: in newspapers four times before. And I have won district
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: and state level poetry competitions all throughout school.
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: I have never.
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: Compared my work with hers, never said anything to put
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: her down, ever. I don't know why she got so angry,
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: but seeing that crap she sent about me pissed me off,
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: and I messaged her, quote, Bigotry is only going to
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: be as helpful in life as your atrocious writing skills.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: Golf claps.
• 17:21
  Speaker 5: Golf claps.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: Most of our friends were on my side when she
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: sent them screenshots, but two texted me, saying she's been
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: crying and that she's feeling betrayed, that I won't stand
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: by her.
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: What do you mean?
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: You made a group chat without her and talked crap
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: on her, and now she's like, why would she do
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: this to me?
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: I feel like it was the first time anyone's ever been, like,
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: questioned her career. I mean, she's still in high school, right?
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: I don't know, they're probably 19.
• 17:43
  Speaker 5: I don't know, they're 19, so they.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: Almost freshman year.
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: This person is reacting this way because they know OP's right. Exactly.
• 17:49
  Speaker 5: Exactly.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: They know OP's got a point. It's not about you're
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: not supporting me. It's that you're making me realize that
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: I might need a different plan.
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: Maybe this is the, you know, the light under her
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: butt to fuel the fire of like, maybe I can
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: do it. Maybe I'll prove her wrong.
• 18:05
  Speaker 5: Or it's her villain arc.
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: And she just starts writing smut.
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: She just starts writing anti-LGBTQ.
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: Aw.
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: Oh, no.
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: That's not what I meant when I said use the hate.
• 18:15
  Speaker 4: She writes fanfic, but it's so straight.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: Let the hate flow through you.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: Hyper straight fanfiction.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: Apparently, her family tried to talk her out of pursuing
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: a future as an author, and she is very sensitive.
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: She thought I was suggesting she would need to have
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: a strong backup because I thought she had no future
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: in literature.
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: She was dead on the money.
• 18:35
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: She was right on the money with that, right? That
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: is what you think.
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: They also told me I should know she isn't a
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: bigot in any sense, and that she was angry, and
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: I didn't have to hurt her worse over something that
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: basically didn't count as her opinion because it was given
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: in a rage.
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: She has been really quiet on social media.
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: Her sister called me an hour ago saying I should
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: talk to her because she felt like I disrespected her
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: and gave up on our friendship. I'm starting to think
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: my second text to her went out of line, and
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: I'm basically looking for a neutral party to tell me
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: if I was wrong.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: And there is an update.
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: Friends can tell friends straight up. That's true. If you
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: can't take the criticism from your friends, that means you
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: can't take criticism from anyone else.
• 19:12
  Speaker 5: That's true.
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: You're not going to be able to take it from like,
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: you know, a professor or and also with writing. The
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: whole thing is you have to like any form of art.
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: You go in front of people, you share your work
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: and you get feedback.
• 19:26
  Speaker 5: That's how you learn.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: You're supposed to be criticized. That is part of the experience.
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: Is supposed to be like, well, I didn't really understand this.
• 19:33
  Speaker 4: Or I don't know, I liked this, but I didn't
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: like this. You know, so the whole point of that,
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: it's all subjective.
• 19:39
  Speaker 5: It's art. People are going to like it. People aren't.
• 19:41
  Speaker 5: That's just the way it is.
• 19:42
  Speaker 4: But you need to take the criticism because that's part
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: of like, not everyone's gonna like what you I haven't
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: liked every single thing I've read ever there are books
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: where I'm like god I hate this book but I
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: had to read it you know for school or something
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: but it's like you know and other people liked it
• 19:56
  Speaker 4: that's just how it is yeah but you have to
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: take the criticism you have to take the feedback that's
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: just what comes with the.
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: Job I think without the context of her going and
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: making a separate group chat to talk bad about Ewan,
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: you would be the a-hole for sending that. She started
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: the real hostilities.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: She wanted to play ball. You played ball. All you
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: did was ask her.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: Maybe there were undertones to the question, obviously, because you
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: let's be real. You're better at writing and she isn't
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: that great.
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: And like if it is true, like if.
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: If one person being like you're an atrocious writer is
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: going to make you spiral and like not right you're
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: you can't write.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: It wasn't even that though the question genuinely that we
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: got from op what if that fails which.
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: They were asking everyone else they're like oh this is
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: what i want but just in case that doesn't work
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: out you know this it was just a normal conversation
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: and b took it out of context for some reason.
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: It wasn't a reality check it wasn't like you're the
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: worst writer of all time it was what if that
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: doesn't work out.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: For you homelessness What do you mean it's not going
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: to work out for me?
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: It's going to work out for me perfectly.
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: Every day that goes by, I'm like, that's the dream.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: What's the dream? I'm just kidding. Being the trophy wife. Oh.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: I just want an old tycoon to sweep me off
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: my tired feet.
• 21:03
  Speaker 5: Rub my tired feet.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: At least pay somebody to rub them.
• 21:05
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: There is an update.
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: Holy guacamole macaroni. Was there more to this issue than
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: I knew?
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: Oh, no.
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: First of all, thanks to all of you who took
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: the time to read and help me out. Double thanks
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: to those of you who supported the fanfic writer bit.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: I was very hurt by her comments. But call me
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: a pushover. I didn't feel right ending years-long friendships like that.
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: I reached out to her, and whatever I'm putting on
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: here is the gist of that conversation. I explained how
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: my first message wasn't meant to insult or belittle her
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: at all, and that I only asked because everyone else
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: stated they're back up, and I thought she merely forgot.
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: I told her that while I did not enjoy her writing,
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: it was no reason for her to continue or discontinue writing,
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: and that I never meant otherwise. She simply apologized for
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: her hurtful messages. She didn't give a single justification.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: I asked her, what happened there?
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: And here's where I clarify that since some of you
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: assumed I have behaved condescendingly, I wanted to make sure
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: I didn't and asked some common friends.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: They said I had not.
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: The only reason I stated my stuff has been published
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: or awarded was so people don't assume I had no
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: idea what I was saying or was jealous of her.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: I guess that backfired. I don't run around lording it over.
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: Anyone's head, especially since I'm not looking at a career
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: in literature. She says she has, and I quote, idolized
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: me ever since middle school. Now that I look back,
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: I can see a pattern of her copying everything I do.
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: She picked up the same languages as me, watched the
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: same shows, wore the same sort of outfits.
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: Blah blah blah.
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: It's called being friends.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: No, I don't copy my friends. We're all wearing the
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: same outfit right now.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're all wearing blue.
• 22:33
  Speaker 5: We were told.
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: And guess what? You didn't have to do it.
• 22:36
  Speaker 5: Dakota didn't do it.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: Not true. I'm wearing blue right now.
• 22:39
  Speaker 5: More of a purple.
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: She was obsessing over my social media posts and singling
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: me out as her partner in every.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: Project throughout the years.
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: Okay, that's different.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: She has been fangirling.
• 22:49
  Speaker 5: That's where I get a little weirded out.
• 22:51
  Speaker 4: If my friend is obsessed with me and wants to
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: do every single thing. This happens to my younger sister
• 22:55
  Speaker 4: a lot. Like all of her friends idolize her and
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: want to like be here. And she's always like dealt with.
• 23:01
  Speaker 4: with that and i think it's because like she has
• 23:03
  Speaker 4: such like big personality whatever has a social media presence
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: whatever it's just like like she seems like a really
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: cool person whatever not that she isn't but it's just
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: like people like take that and are like i want
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: to be that and so then it's like the jealousy
• 23:16
  Speaker 4: the envy the resentment the you know whatever but they're
• 23:19
  Speaker 4: still like her friends it's kind of.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: Weird you don't know what it takes to be me yeah.
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: It's just i don't know no one knows what it's
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: like should have started better but that yeah to make
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: the man's kiss there you go To be right.
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: To be right and slightly gay.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: She said she was aware she wasn't a good writer.
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: Long story short, she admitted she was so worked up
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: over getting my approval that she took my reply the
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: wrong way and had a mini crying fit even. I
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: encouraged her to follow her heart. I didn't even touch
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: this issue of backup careers. And that I was sorry
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: I made her cry. but it didn't excuse the hurtful
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: things she said. She agreed that she was completely out
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: of line, but also swore those aren't her real views
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: and that she intentionally said all that because she knows
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: I've worked in an NGO for four years now and.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: Am a bit of a social activist.
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: I'm sad it had to end like this, but I
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: can't call someone who's like that a friend and mean it.
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: She said she wasn't going to force a friendship on me.
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: We wished each other good luck. I have something of
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: a sway over our batch, and clearly told them all
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: I won't ever ask them to pick between either of us.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: So that's how it ended. Thank you all again. Good day,
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: and stay safe wherever you are.
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: What if that's to a bad guy?
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: If it's a bad guy, don't stay safe, you know?
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: Have a good day, unless you're a bad guy, in
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: which case, have the day you deserve.
• 24:38
  Speaker 5: Have the day you deserve.
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: That's a good way to, you can bypass that by
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: just telling everyone, have the day you deserve.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: If she can't take critique, it wasn't like Gordon Ramsay
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: level of like cursing at you, yelling at you that
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: you're the worst chef ever.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: It was, what if that doesn't work out?
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: Look, guys, in all seriousness, not joking at all, okay?
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: With 100%, I mean this from the bottom of my soul,
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: all right? Like, some people are just talentless and, like,
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: they just bring you down, you know? So you got
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: to cut them out of your life so that you
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: can shine as bright as possible.
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: And that's what you need to do here. No, I'm
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: just kidding. Of course, I'm also... Just kidding.
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: It's just the people who are like who have that
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: like obsessive, addictive, you know, personality of like trying to
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: be someone who they aren't. You just feel bad for
• 25:25
  Speaker 4: them because they've never been comfortable with who they are.
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: They've never had that confidence and you have to sit
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: here and feel bad for them.
• 25:31
  Speaker 5: Just be you, girl. Yeah, just be you.
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: You'll be so much happier trying to like fulfill what
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: you want and how you feel. You don't need anyone
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: else's like approval or, you know, whatever.
• 25:42
  Speaker 5: Just be who you are. That's all you can be.
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: You don't want to be me, girl. Be you.
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: You know, it's one thing to try like idolizing, like
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: it's another thing to do like celebrities, like idolizing celebrities
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: and stuff like that.
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: There's one thing to be inspired.
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: Yes, it's one thing to be inspired. Another thing to
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: be like, I want to be this person. I want
• 25:57
  Speaker 4: to have their life.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: I want their life. I want to be in their skin.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: I want their skin. I want their face.
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: I want them.
• 26:03
  Speaker 5: That's where it gets weird.
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:06
  Speaker 5: Too much. Creepy even. Live your life. Try to do
• 26:09
  Speaker 5: what's best for you.
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: As the wise words of an artist named Rihanna said,
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: so live your life.
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: I declined my friend's wedding invite after how her fiancé
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: started treating me.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: Was he treating you like his fiancée?
• 26:25
  Speaker 5: So, like the.
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: Title suggests, my 32-male friend Jesse, 34 female, is getting
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: married next year over the summer to her fiancée, James,
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: 38 male.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's Jesse and James.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: Where's Meowth?
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: It's OP.
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: Jesse and I met back in 2018 at a previous
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: job and became friends rather quickly. We remained co-workers until
• 26:49
  Speaker 4: the vid in 2020, where we both found other jobs
• 26:53
  Speaker 4: and kept our friendship going. Fast forward to last year, 2024,
• 26:56
  Speaker 4: we started working together again at a construction company, which
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: is where she met her fiancé, James. My friend and
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: I work in the company office while James is in
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: the field, but we'll occasionally peep into the office to
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: chat with Jessie, since she and I share the office.
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: Slowly but surely, James started to chat with me, realizing
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: we have a very similar dark humor, and we hit
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: it off. The three of us got close, and James
• 27:20
  Speaker 4: would chat with us in the office multiple days a week.
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: We would all go out to eat, and they met.
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: My boyfriend forgot to mention I'm attracted to the same gender.
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: Oops, LOL.
• 27:30
  Speaker 5: That's not an oops, that's a hooray!
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: Meowth, that's right.
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: We're all happy about that.
• 27:36
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I like that better than the other one.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: You could say we're J with a G.
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: At one of these dinners, they even would ask my
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: opinion on wedding details. All that to say, I thought
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: I had made another friend in my friend's fiancé. By
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: the way, this comes from afred42, and if you want
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: to spend your own stories, go to the r slash
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: ok story time subreddit. As Opie says, Independence Day weekend
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: was approaching, and Jesse and James were going to Texas.
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: We are in SoCal for vacation. While talking about the vacation,
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: James says to Jesse, you're taking your work phone, right?
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: And before Jesse could answer, I responded, no, lol, she's
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: on vacation. Why would she do that? It got awkwardly
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: quiet in the office. I look up from my work
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: to see the two of them whispering to each other
• 28:19
  Speaker 4: and Jesse says, yeah, I'll check it once a day.
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: For context, when Jesse and I met at our previous employer,
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: we could not for any reason ignore work calls, even
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: on PTO vacation days. Then what's the point? PTO stands
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: for paid time off. So you're getting paid while you
• 28:36
  Speaker 4: have time off. So I'm not answering any phone calls.
• 28:39
  Speaker 5: Hate that.
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: So now having a job where we don't need to
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: answer calls once we are off, his question may be
• 28:45
  Speaker 4: defensively answered. Jesse and I will jokingly scold each other
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: for using our work phones after hours. And James knows this.
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: So his question was odd to me. To rebuttal, Jessie's
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: saying she'll check it once a day. I jokingly scolded her, saying, friend,
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: you're on vacation.
• 28:59
  Speaker 5: Relax.
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: Why would you? Before I could finish, James, in a
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: very stern and serious tone, goes, she's taking her phone
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: and working if she's needed.
• 29:08
  Speaker 5: Okay, high and mighty.
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: So... I just thought you'd want to relax. Is he
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: the boss or something?
• 29:14
  Speaker 5: No.
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: Then what is.
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: Why is this a conversation at... Why is this even
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: happening at work?
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: Where you look at James and you go... I'm not
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: gonna say anything, but here's the intro to Malcolm in
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: the Middle.
• 29:23
  Speaker 5: You're not the boss of me now. You're not the
• 29:26
  Speaker 5: one that we know. And you're not so big.
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: Life is unfair.
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: I recoiled in shock and went back to my work,
• 29:34
  Speaker 4: essentially ending the conversation. The weekend came and went, and
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: I thought the same of the two of them.
• 29:39
  Speaker 5: Monday.
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: Rolls around and Jessie is telling me about her weekend
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: and how she surprisingly didn't get any work calls. And
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: we laughed and all was good. Or so I thought.
• 29:48
  Speaker 4: I started to notice when James would come in the office,
• 29:51
  Speaker 4: he would act like my office chair was empty. I
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: would ask him questions and I would be met with silence.
• 29:56
  Speaker 4: When I would look at Jessie to see what the
• 29:58
  Speaker 4: deal is... She would fill the silence with the same
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: question I asked, but he would respond.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: So freaking annoying.
• 30:05
  Speaker 5: Oh my God. I'd be like, dude, I'm right here.
• 30:07
  Speaker 5: Let's be adults. You're about to be 40.
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: Hey, say nothing if you smell like rancid beef. Hey,
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: say nothing if you picked your butt this morning.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: Weirdo says nothing.
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: Hey, say nothing if you don't wash your hands.
• 30:20
  Speaker 5: Hey, James.
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: James. James. James.
• 30:23
  Speaker 5: James.
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: James.
• 30:24
  Speaker 5: James.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: Maybe the problem is he just watched Dune 2. Ha ha.
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: And he's now going by Jammies.
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 30:31
  Speaker 5: I finally asked my friend what the deal was, and
• 30:33
  Speaker 5: she said.
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: She goes, oh, I think he's on his period.
• 30:37
  Speaker 5: Oh, I think he just didn't.
• 30:38
  Speaker 4: Like how sassy you got with me about taking my
• 30:40
  Speaker 4: phone on vacation.
• 30:42
  Speaker 5: Sassy? I needed a deeper explanation, and I got.
• 30:46
  Speaker 7: Well, you're the first attracted to the same gender person
• 30:48
  Speaker 7: James got to meet. That wasn't stereotypical, and I think
• 30:52
  Speaker 7: you being sassy made him see a side of you
• 30:54
  Speaker 7: he wasn't ready for.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: What? So, OK, so that gives him every reason to
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: be even sassier than me. And I wasn't even being sassy.
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: Imagine applying that also to any other demographic. Imagine applying
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: that to race for like one second. Be like, yeah, well,
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: you're the first black guy you met who didn't act
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: like a stereotypical.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: And it's like, yeah, you're so what the what is
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: wrong with you?
• 31:19
  Speaker 5: He's just not used to you acting so un-stereotypical.
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: He's like, everything was fine until you watched that Tyler
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: Perry movie on your break and he realized, oh no.
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: Oh no, I've seen a side of you I didn't
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: think I'd see.
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: Shut up.
• 31:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: Throw him in the river.
• 31:34
  Speaker 4: But then she followed up with, friend, I'm sorry, I'm
• 31:37
  Speaker 4: putting my foot in my mouth with this explanation. I
• 31:39
  Speaker 4: was flabbergasted. My humor is very dark and my wit
• 31:44
  Speaker 4: is quick.
• 31:44
  Speaker 5: I will admit that.
• 31:45
  Speaker 4: However, when James and I chat, I have said worst
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: things with more sass.
• 31:51
  Speaker 5: He had reciprocated.
• 31:52
  Speaker 4: So I don't think Jesse's response was genuine. It's almost
• 31:55
  Speaker 4: been a month. James has not changed his attitude towards
• 31:58
  Speaker 4: me and is now making me feel unwelcome in my
• 32:00
  Speaker 4: own office at Jesse's demeanor shifts.
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: A whole month of this? I swear to God, if
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: it's June, he's.
• 32:07
  Speaker 5: Going to be talking to his and hers.
• 32:09
  Speaker 4: And it's now making me feel unwelcome in my own
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: office as Jesse's demeanor shifts with me while he is there.
• 32:15
  Speaker 4: I don't want to claim anti-queer because I don't think
• 32:18
  Speaker 4: that's what's happening, but I honestly don't know at this
• 32:21
  Speaker 4: point because asking him if he's okay is still met
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: with silence.
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: Jesus.
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: Making me not want to RSVP to the wedding when
• 32:28
  Speaker 4: invites go out.
• 32:29
  Speaker 5: So would I be the a-hole?
• 32:31
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• 32:35
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• 32:39
  Speaker 5: Um, and there's an update.
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: I'm confronting him. Why haven't we confronted this guy that
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: works with you for a month and giving you the
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: silent treatment and sass in return? This is insane.
• 32:50
  Speaker 4: He was cool before and then because you just wanted
• 32:55
  Speaker 4: your friend to relax on 4th of July.
• 32:57
  Speaker 5: It's like, I don't understand why that was such a
• 33:00
  Speaker 5: big deal.
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: I go, you know, I'll just start saying it loudly.
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: I'm like, hey, Jesse, you know who's really sassy lately?
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: James.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: You know who's really sassy?
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: James. Yeah, does James ever give you the silent treatment, Jesse?
• 33:13
  Speaker 5: Have you ever gotten the silent treatment from this guy?
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: Can you imagine giving someone the silent treatment when they're
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: a full grown adult?
• 33:18
  Speaker 5: When they're about to be 40?
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: In the workplace? That sounds kind of sassy, doesn't it? Yeah,
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: There'd be direct confrontation about this much earlier for me.
• 33:29
  Speaker 6: I yeah i just feel like imagine if like riley
• 33:32
  Speaker 6: just started like they just stopped talking to one of
• 33:35
  Speaker 6: us oh my god yeah no it's a silent treatment
• 33:38
  Speaker 6: and it was just like i asked riley something and
• 33:40
  Speaker 6: then it's like you guys would have to ask him
• 33:42
  Speaker 6: something before he responds it's like i think.
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: All of us would be like hey what the what
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: are you doing all of us would be like what
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: the hell's going on against riley he'd be like what
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: there's been no like direct confrontation about this for a
• 33:53
  Speaker 3: month no i.
• 33:54
  Speaker 4: Feel like you need to sit down and have a
• 33:56
  Speaker 4: conversation with either both of them or just with james
• 34:00
  Speaker 4: because it doesn't seem like jesse's the problem here i.
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: Will say no i will say jesse's not helping the
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: situation by yeah she's not helping it changing her demeanor
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: changing how she acts and then goes back to being
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: like okay now that he's gone i can act normal.
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah i guess i think you should go to james
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: and be like james are you in love with me
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: I would be like.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: And he's like, no. And he's like, well, then why
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: are you acting so nervous around me?
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: Why are you so quiet?
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: Why are you so quiet? Why are you so skittish?
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: Do I make you nervous?
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: Let's play the nervous game.
• 34:27
  Speaker 5: Oh, my God. That happened to me with a guy
• 34:30
  Speaker 5: on our first date. He said, let's play the nervous game.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: I said, are we 12?
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 34:34
  Speaker 4: No, it was literally the dumbest thing. I was like,
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: no way he just asked me to do that. No,
• 34:38
  Speaker 4: and I acted like I didn't know what it was
• 34:40
  Speaker 4: because I wanted him to not.
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: You were like, also, yeah, you're like, this can't be,
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: this can't, he can't be playing the game. He can't
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: be playing the actual game.
• 34:46
  Speaker 5: And then he actually like took the time to explain it.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: And I was like, I just.
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: Got the ick.
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: Everyone in this room and everyone watching this video has
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: just lost the game. You're welcome.
• 34:54
  Speaker 4: There is an update four days later. Thank you everyone
• 34:57
  Speaker 4: for giving me advice and helping me clear my head
• 34:59
  Speaker 4: to better understand where my emotions lie. And I've decided
• 35:02
  Speaker 4: I don't like James. We were really effing cool and
• 35:06
  Speaker 4: for someone to give the cold shoulder the way he
• 35:08
  Speaker 4: has turned me off to the idea of keeping up
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: the friendship. So I have no plan of putting effort
• 35:13
  Speaker 4: into trying anymore. James still only says hi by saying
• 35:16
  Speaker 4: my name and like most of you suggested, I have
• 35:19
  Speaker 4: ignored him. It seems the only person to notice is
• 35:21
  Speaker 4: my friend Jesse. He's asked me a few times, hey,
• 35:24
  Speaker 4: James said bye to you.
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: So now, yeah, now we're playing this fun game. Now
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: we're like, quiet game.
• 35:29
  Speaker 5: God, it's just like.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: Man, if he wasn't sassy before, put me in this
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: gay man's body, I'd be the sassiest man on the planet.
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: He said bye to you. Oh, did he? That's funny.
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: I didn't hear it because he doesn't talk to me.
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: Why doesn't he do that anymore? What's going on?
• 35:44
  Speaker 4: I've been saying hi to him for months and he
• 35:46
  Speaker 4: ignores me. But the one time I don't say, oh, bye, James.
• 35:50
  Speaker 4: Now I'm the bad guy.
• 35:51
  Speaker 5: Like, shut up.
• 35:52
  Speaker 4: And I respond, oh, sorry, I'm locked in. I have
• 35:55
  Speaker 4: music playing loud. And she kind of left it at that.
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: In my mind, I told myself I would give it
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: a certain time frame till Jessie's birthday, which is not
• 36:02
  Speaker 4: that far away. And I plan to gauge how important
• 36:05
  Speaker 4: I am to her based on how I'm involved with
• 36:07
  Speaker 4: her birthday. That may be petty, but it makes sense
• 36:09
  Speaker 4: in my brain. Hope to report good news in my update.
• 36:12
  Speaker 5: Thanks, guys. And there's an update, too.
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: You seem a little difficult, OP, I'm not gonna lie. Yeah.
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: Well, I'm gonna base how much she, like, cares about
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: me as a friend on how involved I am in
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: her birthday.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: It's like, that's a stupid metric.
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: That's really dumb.
• 36:26
  Speaker 4: I have never measured my friends on how much I
• 36:30
  Speaker 4: was involved in their birthday.
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: And like you also said earlier about it's like yeah
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: i heard everything you said and i'm not i'm not
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: friends with this guy anymore i'm done trying it's like
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: dude it doesn't sound like you actually tried at all
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: sounds like you were just like.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: Oh he's not talking to me i guess i'm not
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: gonna do anything is.
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: Op just giving you energy that's being received well.
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah if you have a direct confrontation with him and
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: then it's like he's still doing this it's like okay
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: yeah we're not cool yeah but like i feel like
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: you just kind of did nothing about it literally i
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: Except just being like, OK, I guess it'll stop.
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: And then a month went by and you're like, yeah,
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: I don't I don't like that guy. Just fine.
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: I wouldn't like a guy who would give me a
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: weird cold shoulder for a month either.
• 37:05
  Speaker 5: But like, why was there no conversation?
• 37:07
  Speaker 4: It just you just like let that happen instead of
• 37:10
  Speaker 4: like calling that out.
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I wouldn't let it happen for a freaking month, dude.
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: It would happen for like three days. And I'd be like,
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: all right, let's stop this.
• 37:17
  Speaker 5: Right.
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: Or we got to figure out what's happening because you
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: can hate me or not like me or think I'm
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: the worst.
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: Whatever.
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: Let's just be clear.
• 37:25
  Speaker 4: Update two, after three months, four days. For a few weeks,
• 37:29
  Speaker 4: Jesse really seemed to want to advocate for me and
• 37:32
  Speaker 4: try to get James to tell us, or at least her,
• 37:35
  Speaker 4: why he was so upset with me, but that never happened.
• 37:37
  Speaker 4: Then one day, Jesse stopped bringing it up, and when
• 37:40
  Speaker 4: I would ask, she would say, I told you already, friend.
• 37:43
  Speaker 4: You were just sassy to him.
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: Shut up.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: That's so stupid.
• 37:47
  Speaker 5: Just dumb.
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: He's being sassy.
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: You're back. Sassy, sassy.
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: Again, you like swap the context of this to like race.
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: It's like, oh yeah, sorry. It's just things changed when
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: you were speaking so urban around him.
• 37:58
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: That's unacceptable. What are you talking about?
• 38:02
  Speaker 4: From that day forward, James would come in and just
• 38:05
  Speaker 4: greet me by saying hi, plainly, and that was all.
• 38:08
  Speaker 4: August came and went, September rolled around, and so did
• 38:11
  Speaker 4: Jesse's birthday. Celebrated at work, with the office, and over
• 38:14
  Speaker 4: the weekend, James had a party for her, one I
• 38:16
  Speaker 4: was not invited to, but.
• 38:18
  Speaker 5: Saw on social media.
• 38:19
  Speaker 4: When we came back to work, I didn't say anything
• 38:22
  Speaker 4: to her about the party. I pretended I didn't know
• 38:24
  Speaker 4: or care. And to be honest, I really don't. I
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: go back and remember what many people have said about
• 38:30
  Speaker 4: him trying to control her and get her to only
• 38:32
  Speaker 4: care about his opinion. And I can see it slowly
• 38:35
  Speaker 4: happening under the guise.
• 38:37
  Speaker 5: Of becoming the wife he deserves. Gross.
• 38:40
  Speaker 4: End of September comes and she is venting about how
• 38:43
  Speaker 4: James is very cold towards people and how she is
• 38:46
  Speaker 4: not like that. I saw this as an opportunity to say,
• 38:48
  Speaker 4: since you brought it up, James doesn't have to say
• 38:51
  Speaker 4: hi to me when he comes in.
• 38:52
  Speaker 5: I know he only does it for you.
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: That's crazy. She's like, James gives the cold shoulder to
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: a lot of people. And you go, yeah.
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: Gee willikers, I didn't notice.
• 39:01
  Speaker 5: It's been three months now.
• 39:03
  Speaker 4: I got a stare from her and she goes, James
• 39:04
  Speaker 4: says hi to you to be courteous. What a nice
• 39:07
  Speaker 4: little lad.
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: Y'all are gonna be so happy together because when you
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: get sassy with him, guess what he's gonna do? Give
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: you the cold shoulder.
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he is.
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: Enjoy that cold shoulder.
• 39:17
  Speaker 4: And I replied, I don't need the courtesy when it
• 39:20
  Speaker 4: wasn't even that long ago. I asked, what is he
• 39:22
  Speaker 4: even upset with me for? I already forgot. And again,
• 39:25
  Speaker 4: she goes, you were just really sassy and he didn't
• 39:28
  Speaker 4: like that.
• 39:29
  Speaker 5: I am used to it. and I know you are
• 39:31
  Speaker 5: not being mean. You were just expressive.
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: I said, okay, and dropped the combo. And again, Every
• 39:38
  Speaker 4: single time I would ask, the word sassy was brought up.
• 39:43
  Speaker 4: So in my opinion, James is an anti-queer person after all.
• 39:47
  Speaker 4: I go back and think of the comments she made
• 39:49
  Speaker 4: about me not being a stereotypical sassy attracted to the
• 39:53
  Speaker 4: same gender man. And to me, sassy means too much
• 39:57
  Speaker 4: or flamboyant in his brain. So her constantly saying I'm
• 40:01
  Speaker 4: too sassy is just code for too attracted to the
• 40:05
  Speaker 4: same gender.
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: So stupid.
• 40:07
  Speaker 5: Like if that's how you want to end a friendship, cool.
• 40:09
  Speaker 5: But like.
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: Cool. Going to HR.
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: One of them. It's so out of pocket to say
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: something like that.
• 40:14
  Speaker 3: You know what?
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: I am sassy. HR, get in here. James doesn't like me.
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: Like if we even want to like, let's break down
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: the stereotype of like being a man who likes men.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: Let's bring it all the way back.
• 40:26
  Speaker 4: Mm-hmm.
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: Ancient Greece. Wrestlers.
• 40:29
  Speaker 5: Biblical time.
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: Warriors.
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: That's the stereotype, is that you are a man who,
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: you know, takes skulls for the kingdom of Ithaca.
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: What are we talking about?
• 40:42
  Speaker 4: Tomorrow is Halloween, and after all this time, I still
• 40:45
  Speaker 4: love my friend for who she is.
• 40:48
  Speaker 5: Because I see glimpses of.
• 40:50
  Speaker 4: Her when we chat and can feel our laughs synchronize. However,
• 40:53
  Speaker 4: I will not be going to her wedding, but have
• 40:55
  Speaker 4: no intentions of telling her till the invites go out.
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: To me, it makes sense to wait to keep the
• 40:59
  Speaker 4: peace in the office in the meantime. Oh, and there's
• 41:01
  Speaker 4: a third update.
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: Do we think Opie's actually gonna get an invite?
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: No.
• 41:05
  Speaker 4: So, I feel like she would, because I feel like,
• 41:08
  Speaker 4: you know, I don't know, I would hope Jesse would stand.
• 41:11
  Speaker 5: Up for her.
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: Isn't it him?
• 41:12
  Speaker 5: Oh, sorry, sorry. Yeah, sorry. I would hope Jesse would
• 41:15
  Speaker 5: stand up for him.
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: We don't know your pronouns, Opie.
• 41:18
  Speaker 4: Update three, after eight months, 15 days from the last post.
• 41:22
  Speaker 4: So me and Jesse, drum roll, are not friends.
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: She chose the route of, I like the guy who
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: just has tantrums and thinks when people are sassy, I
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: can give him the cold shoulder. That's hot.
• 41:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: That's my future.
• 41:38
  Speaker 5: Go figure.
• 41:39
  Speaker 4: Their wedding was in June of this year, 2026, but
• 41:42
  Speaker 4: the story has to go back to around March and April.
• 41:45
  Speaker 4: The office between Jesse and I stayed tense some days,
• 41:48
  Speaker 4: really depending on how James acted when he came in
• 41:50
  Speaker 4: to see her. Every now and then, Jesse would ask
• 41:53
  Speaker 4: me about the wedding and I would give small input.
• 41:55
  Speaker 4: And she would occasionally ask if my boyfriend and I
• 41:58
  Speaker 4: would still be going. Every single time, I would decline.
• 42:01
  Speaker 4: It doesn't feel right for me to be there supporting
• 42:04
  Speaker 4: a man who openly admitted to not supporting me. That
• 42:06
  Speaker 4: would be met with something along the lines of, okay,
• 42:09
  Speaker 4: but do it for me.
• 42:10
  Speaker 5: I flipped it on her.
• 42:11
  Speaker 4: Okay, if or when I get married, will you attend
• 42:14
  Speaker 4: my attracted to the same gender wedding?
• 42:17
  Speaker 5: And her answer was no.
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: What?
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: Because James wouldn't go and I wouldn't want to go alone.
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: Boom.
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: She's in the Lulu land.
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: She's marrying a bigot. That's crazy.
• 42:28
  Speaker 5: God, how do you do that in this day and age?
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: And the fact that she says that with her chest
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: and goes, that's a good reason.
• 42:35
  Speaker 5: My husband wouldn't allow me to.
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: What the?
• 42:38
  Speaker 5: Are you all right?
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: Do you just hear what he said? That's not even
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: really what she said. Yeah, it's not.
• 42:42
  Speaker 3: She was like, I wouldn't want to go without my husband.
• 42:45
  Speaker 3: My husband would never go to your wedding.
• 42:47
  Speaker 5: Like, okay.
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: Then you break that down. You go, why would your
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: husband never go to my wedding?
• 42:53
  Speaker 5: Oh, why would that be?
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: Because I'm sassy.
• 42:55
  Speaker 5: You were sassy that one time.
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: He just can't handle the sass.
• 42:59
  Speaker 4: Over a year ago, you were sassy to him and
• 43:01
  Speaker 4: he still doesn't like that. And you never apologize. So
• 43:04
  Speaker 4: we won't be going to your J with a G wedding.
• 43:08
  Speaker 4: I thought that was enough to get her to understand,
• 43:10
  Speaker 4: but she just couldn't get over the fact that me,
• 43:13
  Speaker 4: her friend, could not put his beliefs aside for her beliefs.
• 43:18
  Speaker 5: Babe, I am J with a G. This isn't a belief.
• 43:22
  Speaker 5: This is my life.
• 43:23
  Speaker 4: These types of conversations happened periodically leading all the way
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: up to the end of April when I left the
• 43:30
  Speaker 4: company and found a better job. It had nothing to
• 43:32
  Speaker 4: do with this fiasco. The money was just better and
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: it is a seven minute drive from my place. When
• 43:37
  Speaker 4: I told her I was leaving, she asked if it
• 43:38
  Speaker 4: had to do with James and her wedding. no it
• 43:41
  Speaker 4: just works out in my favor to choose this opportunity
• 43:44
  Speaker 4: she then followed up with this.
• 43:46
  Speaker 5: Means you can come to my wedding.
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: Right holy crap she's stupid yeah it's.
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: Like hey this actually has nothing to do with your
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: wedding but if anything.
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: I'm glad i don't have to hear about it anymore.
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: I this is where i just like hey you do
• 43:59
  Speaker 2: realize that you have no decisions in your life anymore
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: good luck uh your husband's a bigot he sucks uh
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: you suck because you're just a follower and a shadow.
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: But he's hot.
• 44:09
  Speaker 4: Oh no, he's hot. No, I am not going to
• 44:13
  Speaker 4: your wedding. Please remove me from your list.
• 44:16
  Speaker 5: LOL.
• 44:16
  Speaker 4: May comes and I'm at my new job trying to
• 44:19
  Speaker 4: see Jessie for a lunch, but she always has to reschedule.
• 44:22
  Speaker 4: And I started to feel like she was pulling away.
• 44:24
  Speaker 4: Instead of trying to extend an olive branch, I just
• 44:27
  Speaker 4: let it happen. June comes and it's the weekend of
• 44:29
  Speaker 4: the wedding. Posts start coming in on the socials and
• 44:32
  Speaker 4: I see all the stories, genuinely happy for her, but
• 44:35
  Speaker 4: I never sent a congratulations text.
• 44:37
  Speaker 2: You know what you should send? Happy Pride Month.
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you should, you should.
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: James, out of all the months, it's a congratulations from
• 44:44
  Speaker 3: your sassiest ex-coworker.
• 44:47
  Speaker 4: Monday rolls around and my heart feels bad, so I
• 44:50
  Speaker 4: decided to text Jessie to set up a lunch so
• 44:52
  Speaker 4: I can congratulate her and we can catch up.
• 44:54
  Speaker 5: I even thought about buying some flowers.
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: Hey, Keon here.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: three minutes of ads from our sponsors.
• 45:01
  Speaker 5: Ay yi yi, I'm just gonna keep going.
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: Ay yi yinga.
• 45:05
  Speaker 4: My iMessage doesn't go through and that text bubble is green.
• 45:09
  Speaker 5: Okay, let me look in the socials. I have been blocked.
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: No harm, no foul. Great.
• 45:14
  Speaker 4: Her family members who I followed blocked. So that's how
• 45:18
  Speaker 4: I found out I lost a friend. After rereading my
• 45:22
  Speaker 4: posts and what people were commenting, it all makes sense
• 45:25
  Speaker 4: that she never really cared about me. I was more
• 45:28
  Speaker 4: of a token for her until I wasn't useful anymore. Anyway,
• 45:32
  Speaker 4: my new job is great. I have way more time
• 45:34
  Speaker 4: to spend with my dog and my projects being so
• 45:36
  Speaker 4: close to my home.
• 45:38
  Speaker 5: And in other news, I plan on proposing to.
• 45:40
  Speaker 4: My boyfriend soon. So I will have my own wedding
• 45:45
  Speaker 4: to worry about. Hopefully my future fiance isn't anti-queer.
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, let's hope not.
• 45:51
  Speaker 5: Thanks for reading, everyone. Have a great week.
• 45:54
  Speaker 4: Truthfully, I'm glad you got out of there because what the.
• 45:58
  Speaker 5: Literally, what?
• 45:59
  Speaker 4: Like, you're gonna sit here and act like, you know,
• 46:02
  Speaker 4: everything's fine and everything's cool and then, like.
• 46:06
  Speaker 5: Say those things to my face? Like, no.
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: You think everything's fine, everything's good, but it's not.
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: Like, if I was dating somebody and it came out, like,
• 46:15
  Speaker 3: we're engaged, but it comes out that they just relentlessly
• 46:19
  Speaker 3: hate Filipinos.
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: Okay, so that's not, we're not doing that anymore.
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: Honestly, I'd go, I would go, why? I would just like, honestly,
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: if I were in your shoes, why?
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah, first you go, why? Imagine she's like, well, my
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: great-grandfather is actually McCarthy.
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: No, no, General MacArthur. Who was the one who saved
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: the Philippines? It was MacArthur, wasn't it? Like, quote unquote, saved.
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: It was an American thing.
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: It was an American. But that also still wouldn't make sense.
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: Point being, don't marry bigots. Yeah. You weirdos. What are
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: you doing?
• 46:50
  Speaker 4: Well, actually, for me, technically, they do have to be
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: like accepting of everything. Like, it doesn't have to be like,
• 46:55
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 46:55
  Speaker 5: I guess that.
• 46:56
  Speaker 3: Don't marry anyone with hate in their heart for people
• 46:59
  Speaker 3: that are just different than them.
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: Yes, it's the.
• 47:02
  Speaker 5: Fear that drives them and it's just so.
• 47:04
  Speaker 3: You know, you should hate people on an individual basis,
• 47:08
  Speaker 3: not on a broad basis.
• 47:10
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: You can hate a guy who's J with a G
• 47:13
  Speaker 3: just not because he's J with a G, right?
• 47:16
  Speaker 4: You can hate him because he, you know, stole your
• 47:19
  Speaker 4: bike and sold it. That's a reason to not like someone,
• 47:23
  Speaker 4: but not because of their gender or sexuality.
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: Like, right.
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: And they didn't steal your bike because they're J with
• 47:31
  Speaker 3: a G.
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: They stole your bike because they're a thief.
• 47:34
  Speaker 5: Stop trying to blame it on everything else.
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: Let us, people just need to learn how to hate.
• 47:38
  Speaker 5: If you're going to hate, take my hate 101 class.
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: Take my one-to-one, my one-on-one coaching program. How to hate.
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: How to hate right.
• 47:46
  Speaker 5: How to hate with your heart.
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, sure. Let's start a one-to-one.
• 47:49
  Speaker 3: Coaching program where we deprogram racism out of people. Honestly,
• 47:53
  Speaker 3: we'd be doing everyone a favor. Yeah.
• 47:55
  Speaker 5: We would be doing the world a favor. We're starting
• 47:56
  Speaker 5: with old white men.
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: Actually, no.
• 47:58
  Speaker 5: They're going to die off.
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we don't need it. We start with the young.
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: That's the end of that story. We have another one
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: coming right up.
• 48:04
  Speaker 5: And we'll start with young white men.
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: Carl Jungus.
• 48:06
  Speaker 3: I shamed my friend for her tattoo and realized who
• 48:10
  Speaker 3: I was becoming. Oh no, I'm becoming my mother! I,
• 48:14
  Speaker 3: 25 female, have this friend, Alice, 28 female, who's pretty
• 48:19
  Speaker 3: inked out with tattoos. I've never seen much point in tattoos,
• 48:24
  Speaker 3: but to each their own. Alice is a huge gamer and,
• 48:27
  Speaker 3: for some backstory, she's had a pretty rough life.
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: So she's a real gamer.
• 48:31
  Speaker 5: So she's a real gamer.
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: So she played the game of life.
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: She's been playing League of Legends.
• 48:35
  Speaker 5: God.
• 48:36
  Speaker 3: Roughest life ever, League of Legends player, 2026.
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: Lately, she's been playing some game.
• 48:41
  Speaker 3: I don't know the name, but a character has gone
• 48:43
  Speaker 3: through some sort of the same stuff she has, and
• 48:46
  Speaker 3: she decided to get a tattoo for symbolism.
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: Hmm.
• 48:49
  Speaker 3: I get tattoos are supposed to tell a story, but
• 48:52
  Speaker 3: I told her that.
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: Getting the tattoo was effing stupid because why would you
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: want your bad experiences tattooed on your body?
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: Why would you say that?
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: Comes down to execution, right?
• 49:01
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I feel like you didn't have to be so harsh.
• 49:03
  Speaker 3: The mugshot of the man who, like, unalived your family
• 49:08
  Speaker 3: because you're like, I want to remember them. it's like
• 49:10
  Speaker 3: okay why'd you get a tattoo of his face that
• 49:13
  Speaker 3: would be crazy but like imagine yeah like you lose
• 49:16
  Speaker 3: your family in like an accident and you get a
• 49:18
  Speaker 3: tattoo of them on you and your friend goes, why
• 49:20
  Speaker 3: would you get that tattoo? It's just going to remind
• 49:22
  Speaker 3: you of how much it sucks that your family's not here.
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: That's a little silly.
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: Any takes for what the video game character is? Terrible back,
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: like hard backstory. I mean, obviously Batman's a good one, but... Atreus.
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: It could be. It could be Kratos. Ellie?
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: Could be. Goofy from Kingdom Hearts 2 as a turtle.
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: Who went through things that we'll never fully understand ourselves.
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: That Goofy. We have to defeat the darkness, Sora.
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: Xemnas is coming.
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: Sora, what's a Xemnas?
• 49:50
  Speaker 4: I would like to say that tattoos can also mean nothing.
• 49:55
  Speaker 5: They don't have to have a meaning. You can just
• 49:57
  Speaker 5: be like, oh, that looks cute. I want that. And
• 50:00
  Speaker 5: that's all. It doesn't have to be like, oh, I
• 50:02
  Speaker 5: got this because of this tragic backstory.
• 50:05
  Speaker 3: I can wrap this whole person's perspective up into like
• 50:09
  Speaker 3: one statement. Why would you want to remember any of
• 50:12
  Speaker 3: the bad things about you? Shouldn't you be ashamed of that?
• 50:14
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: That's everything wrapped up in a little bow.
• 50:18
  Speaker 2: Listen, I have a tattoo. It's supposed to be negative
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: from a video game. I don't care. Yeah.
• 50:23
  Speaker 5: It's just you like it, and who cares?
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: From Halo.
• 50:27
  Speaker 5: It's not going on there, buddy.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: What is it called? Like the seal of.
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: The mark of shame.
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: The mark of shame.
• 50:31
  Speaker 5: It's literally the mark of shame.
• 50:33
  Speaker 2: Not really. It's a sick mark. The Arbiter gets it.
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what?
• 50:36
  Speaker 3: No one proudly shows off scars, so why draw that
• 50:39
  Speaker 3: attention to your body? Which, she told me that I
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: was being an a-hole and that I was shaming people
• 50:45
  Speaker 3: who went through hard times, but honestly, I don't see
• 50:47
  Speaker 3: it as anything to be proud of.
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: You're so stupid.
• 50:49
  Speaker 3: We argued back and forth, with her eventually saying I
• 50:52
  Speaker 3: have no right to tell people what they can do
• 50:54
  Speaker 3: with their bodies.
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from ViciousEvanette.
• 50:57
  Speaker 3: If you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 50:59
  Speaker 3: the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit and OP says.
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: I don't care what people do.
• 51:05
  Speaker 3: I just think you shouldn't draw that kind of attention.
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: To your body.
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: Sounds like you kind of care.
• 51:09
  Speaker 5: Yeah, what?
• 51:10
  Speaker 3: I don't care what people do. It's just I think
• 51:12
  Speaker 3: they're doing things wrong all the time.
• 51:15
  Speaker 5: I don't care, but I don't want them to do that, though.
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: And that's my opinion, but my opinion surpasses everybody else's opinion.
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: It's a bad look, in my opinion.
• 51:23
  Speaker 5: Oh my God.
• 51:24
  Speaker 2: Oh, these comments. I'm so, I want to read the comments.
• 51:27
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I was going to say, I cannot wait for
• 51:28
  Speaker 5: Reddit to just rip him.
• 51:30
  Speaker 3: Some people agree with me. Others are calling me an a-hole.
• 51:34
  Speaker 3: So am I the a-hole? And of course the answer
• 51:36
  Speaker 3: is yes, but let's, there's a little edit. I forgot
• 51:38
  Speaker 3: to add, it's some kind of mark the character has
• 51:41
  Speaker 3: and she got the design. I think it's stupid because
• 51:43
  Speaker 3: it's like she's branded herself now.
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: Is it my tattoo?
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: I think it might be the mark of shame, bro.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: Uh-oh. I want to look it up.
• 51:51
  Speaker 5: If it is the same tattoo, you have to show yours.
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: I'll show you a picture of it. Take me out
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: to dinner first.
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: It's on his chesticle.
• 51:58
  Speaker 5: I know. I've seen it before.
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 52:00
  Speaker 5: And I remember I was like, whoa, I had no
• 52:02
  Speaker 5: idea you had that. I've never seen it.
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: No one ever expects me to have tattoos because I
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: cover up my body.
• 52:06
  Speaker 5: It's just I've never seen you without a shirt on.
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: Little one inch man.
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: Boom.
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: The mark of shame.
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: Boom. Look at that.
• 52:13
  Speaker 5: That's sick.
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: Heretic.
• 52:15
  Speaker 5: Heretic.
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: Were you blinded by its glory?
• 52:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: And there's an update. For the past couple days, I've
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: been doing some thinking and deep reflecting.
• 52:24
  Speaker 2: Like getting an opinion?
• 52:25
  Speaker 3: It might take some time to really open my mind
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  Speaker 3: up a bit, but I see now that I was
• 52:30
  Speaker 3: actually really awful to someone who is supposed to be
• 52:32
  Speaker 3: my friend. Alice is a really kind, sweet, and strong
• 52:36
  Speaker 3: person after everything she's been through. I took her horrible
• 52:39
  Speaker 3: experiences and minimized them in a disgusting way.
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: And I don't know why I feel the way I
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: do about tattoos.
• 52:45
  Speaker 3: Maybe it's consuming way too much social media where people
• 52:48
  Speaker 3: pretty much do anything for attention.
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: But for some reason, I reacted so strongly. And I
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: think I need to explore that.
• 52:55
  Speaker 3: Um, my bet would it has be, um, I, my
• 52:58
  Speaker 3: instincts are telling me it has nothing to do with
• 53:00
  Speaker 3: the social media you consume and probably more with like
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: your upbringing and your parents.
• 53:03
  Speaker 5: That's exactly what I was going to say.
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: Also, I'm going to say your deep reflection was you
• 53:08
  Speaker 2: getting roasted in the comments.
• 53:10
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 53:11
  Speaker 2: I looked it up. It's roasting him.
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: After several days of deep meditative reflection.
• 53:17
  Speaker 5: After several days of everyone being like, you are the
• 53:19
  Speaker 5: worst person alive. Finally come to the conclusion, I may
• 53:22
  Speaker 5: not be right about everything.
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: Maybe it would help to talk to a professional.
• 53:26
  Speaker 3: Seeing comments of people agreeing with me and expressing their
• 53:29
  Speaker 3: disgust with tattoos made me realize that in 25 years
• 53:32
  Speaker 3: or so, I don't want to be that kind of person.
• 53:36
  Speaker 4: Wait, him just seeing himself, he's like, ooh, oh my gosh,
• 53:41
  Speaker 4: that's how I sound.
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: I really don't like this.
• 53:43
  Speaker 5: That's hilarious.
• 53:44
  Speaker 3: It's like when you realize the kind of people who
• 53:46
  Speaker 3: are agreeing with you, you're like, oh, I don't want
• 53:48
  Speaker 3: to agree with those people about anything.
• 53:51
  Speaker 5: Am I one of them?
• 53:52
  Speaker 4: No.
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: Being a My Hero fan in 2025. Hold on. Oh, God.
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: This is OP right now. This was OP. Feel incredible,
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: but I don't like this. Oh, no. For our listeners,
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: it's Peter Parker getting the Venom symbiote from Spider-Man 3.
• 54:09
  Speaker 3: I feel like I'll be alone for the rest of
• 54:10
  Speaker 3: my life if I continue thinking the way I do.
• 54:12
  Speaker 3: It's not so much pressure or fear of being alone,
• 54:14
  Speaker 3: but worrying more about what kind of person I'll become
• 54:17
  Speaker 3: if I continue to insult the people I care about
• 54:20
  Speaker 3: and who care about me and have done nothing but
• 54:22
  Speaker 3: be there for me.
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: There's a little bit more here. I like OP, I guess,
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: has been shamed.
• 54:26
  Speaker 4: I think it has helped you open your horizons and
• 54:31
  Speaker 4: open your mind. All the different possibilities of being not
• 54:35
  Speaker 4: hateful towards the people that have always supported you and
• 54:38
  Speaker 4: have been there.
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: Good standardized practice to take.
• 54:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah. You're like, ew, gross, you're getting a tattoo memorializing
• 54:45
  Speaker 3: the trauma you experienced?
• 54:46
  Speaker 5: You're disgusting.
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: What are you, stupid and gross? Why would you want
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: to remember that? Put it in a box and put
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: it away forever, you little shame goblin?
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: I want to know the tattoo.
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: I'm going to.
• 54:57
  Speaker 3: Apologize to Alice and maybe ask if I can go
• 54:59
  Speaker 3: with her if she ever gets another tattoo just so
• 55:01
  Speaker 3: I can understand the process and get to know the people.
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: In the industry.
• 55:05
  Speaker 5: This has done you wonders.
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: Look at you being all ooey gooey empathetic.
• 55:09
  Speaker 5: Ooh, ooh, ooh.
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: You should get a tattoo of your face on your face.
• 55:13
  Speaker 5: Ooh, la la.
• 55:14
  Speaker 3: I'm also going to ask if I can play the
• 55:16
  Speaker 3: game she got the tattoo from with her if she
• 55:19
  Speaker 3: forgives me.
• 55:20
  Speaker 2: Aw.
• 55:20
  Speaker 3: I completely deserved the verdict I was given because I
• 55:23
  Speaker 3: acted unfairly. And thanks to people and DMs that were
• 55:25
  Speaker 3: patient and calm while I was completely awful. I can't
• 55:28
  Speaker 3: guarantee an overnight change, but I'm willing to try to
• 55:31
  Speaker 3: open my mind a bit and better give my friend
• 55:33
  Speaker 3: what she has given me in the years we've known
• 55:36
  Speaker 3: each other.
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: I'm going to try to do better. Hell yeah, dude.
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: That's what we like.
• 55:40
  Speaker 4: That was great because it's actually like really, really hard
• 55:43
  Speaker 4: for people to come to that conclusion of being like, oh,
• 55:47
  Speaker 4: I am in the wrong.
• 55:48
  Speaker 5: Let's change that. And let's take accountability and apologize.
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: And boom.
• 55:53
  Speaker 4: And now you're going to be so supportive of your
• 55:55
  Speaker 4: friend that you want to, you know, you're going to
• 55:58
  Speaker 4: have a closer connection with people instead of, oh, no,
• 56:01
  Speaker 4: I hate her because she has tattoos or something.
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, really. The thing that got me is it's like.
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: People who have like scars, like don't show them off proudly.
• 56:09
  Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, not when they've been beaten into submission
• 56:14
  Speaker 3: by the society they live in to be ashamed of
• 56:17
  Speaker 3: anything they've ever done wrong.
• 56:20
  Speaker 4: Like there's no reason to be hateful. You can disagree
• 56:22
  Speaker 4: with people, but you don't have to make them feel
• 56:24
  Speaker 4: like crap.
• 56:25
  Speaker 5: To make you feel good. You just be like, tattoos
• 56:28
  Speaker 5: aren't my thing. Like, that's cool that you have them.
• 56:30
  Speaker 5: I don't know if I would ever get one, but.
• 56:32
  Speaker 2: I found the tattoo.
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: No way you did? Like for real, for real? He's like,
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: I think that's, I think that's it. The game is
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: Baldur's Gate 3.
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: No way. Yeah, you know exactly who the character is too.
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: I was going to say Splatoon. The character is Asterion,
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: which this is the tattoo.
• 56:45
  Speaker 5: Oh wow, that giant one on their back?
• 56:48
  Speaker 2: Maybe it was smaller, but that's probably what it was.
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: The symbolism and everything. Great story. Great game.
• 56:53
  Speaker 5: OP can suck it.
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: Well, we got some comments from the video.
• 56:55
  Speaker 3: My stepdad bullied me for years and mom finally divorced him.
• 57:00
  Speaker 3: This was posted on July 25th, 2026. TLDR1 OP is
• 57:05
  Speaker 3: a 19-year-old who had never gotten along with her stepfather.
• 57:08
  Speaker 3: But things got worse and worse the longer she lived
• 57:10
  Speaker 3: under his roof. He picked fights over the smallest things,
• 57:13
  Speaker 3: always waiting until her mother was gone.
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: Or not present.
• 57:17
  Speaker 3: He even banned OP and her mom from speaking their
• 57:20
  Speaker 3: native language in the house, claiming they might be talking
• 57:24
  Speaker 3: about him behind his back. Then, one day, Stepfather starts
• 57:28
  Speaker 3: an argument and threw something truly cruel.
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: In OP's face.
• 57:33
  Speaker 3: And if you're curious to know the full story, you
• 57:36
  Speaker 3: can go watch the full video.
• 57:38
  Speaker 2: I wonder what they threw.
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: You're probably like, your bangs look terrible today.
• 57:42
  Speaker 2: First one is from Jemima Kendall 6579 saying, this is
• 57:48
  Speaker 2: how older generation males behave when they are sexually attracted
• 57:52
  Speaker 2: to someone they know they can't sleep with.
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: Isha the creator saying, I'm gonna hit step pop with
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: the good old no comprende jefe, speaking their local language.
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: Another comment from CrystalNobody4689 saying, If I was the daughter,
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: not only would I only speak my native language in
• 58:09
  Speaker 2: front of him, but I would teach my friends to
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: do simple phrases as well and say bad words.
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: It's the fun of knowing multiple languages.
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: Like when you're learning a language, you're like, okay, let
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: me do the simple greetings.
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: Please.
• 58:20
  Speaker 2: Thank you. No. Yes. Give me all the bad words.
• 58:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: Now, how do I say mean things about your mom?
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: There's another comment here from Dimadre saying, I think he's
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: paranoid that they can speak about him without him understanding
• 58:31
  Speaker 2: because he knows he is bad and also wants to
• 58:34
  Speaker 2: feel in control. Maybe he should learn their language instead. Exactly.
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: Expand your mind.
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: But those are the end of the comments and the
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: end of this video.
• 58:42
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• 58:45
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