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Remi Bader and Ocean's 1st Birthday · Untraditionally Lala

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Speaker 1: Hello, everybody, Welcome to the Give Them Lalla Podcast. It's
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Speaker 1: like an emotional day for me. I can't believe my
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Speaker 1: baby is one happy birthday.
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Speaker 2: Oh shit, this will come out the day after.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, we're recording today. How are you March fifteen?
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Speaker 2: Because I yeah, March fifteen.
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Speaker 3: I walked in here this morning and Lala is like,
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Speaker 3: I'm so emotional right now, and I said, why why
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Speaker 3: don't you tell us?
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Speaker 4: Why?
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Speaker 1: Because my my baby. It's been a year Like yesterday,
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Speaker 1: I was sitting there thinking, Okay, this is like when
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Speaker 1: I was in labor. This is literally the exact time
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Speaker 1: that I like got my IV this is what time
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Speaker 1: this happened. And then a year ago today at six
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Speaker 1: forty five am, I pushed out my little water baby.
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Speaker 2: I just got gooseby. I know, six forty five am.
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Speaker 2: So you had her, she was here, she's here baby.
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Speaker 2: Oh oh my god.
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Speaker 3: It's I mean, it's insane how much life can change
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Speaker 3: within a year.
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Speaker 1: I know, wild It's been the best year of my life.
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Speaker 2: Really, Okay, love that for you.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, like just having this beautiful baby, Who's the best
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Speaker 1: thing that's ever happened to me. Like, even though it's
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Speaker 1: been a year full of change, Like, yeah, that I
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Speaker 1: wasn't expecting. I don't think God makes mistakes. I don't
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Speaker 1: think the universe makes mistakes. I truly believe that. And
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Speaker 1: even though when we're placed in situations and it may
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Speaker 1: not make sense in the moment, there will be a
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Speaker 1: time that it does. And just as the days pass,
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Speaker 1: I realize, like my higher power has my back, and
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Speaker 1: more importantly, it has oceans back, you know. And she's
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Speaker 1: just like such an incredible baby, and I look at
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Speaker 1: her and know she's just gonna do like really incredible
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Speaker 1: things in this world. I just know it.
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Speaker 2: She was meant to be here.
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Speaker 1: She was. Yeah, she's just like and you know her
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Speaker 1: jass Like I know she's only one, but she's like
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Speaker 1: so curious and independent and like just such a bright spirit.
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Speaker 2: And so content.
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Speaker 3: Anytimes she's here, you're with her, Gigi's around, she'll just
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Speaker 3: sit watch people talking, just look around, curious about different things.
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Speaker 3: She's so good and sweet and like you look at
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Speaker 3: ocean and it's like that is goodness. That's like good,
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Speaker 3: that's like pure innocence and good and it's so and
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Speaker 3: I know that's in a lot of babies, of course,
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Speaker 3: but you know, people get older, and there's so much
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Speaker 3: shit that happens in this world and so many you know,
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Speaker 3: there's great things but also bad things. But then you
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Speaker 3: look at like these little innocent babies and a baby
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Speaker 3: like Ocean, and you're like, oh, there's like goodness, pure goodness.
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Speaker 2: Right, it's really beautiful.
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Speaker 1: Like all of these little ones just like embody everything
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Speaker 1: that's right in the world.
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Speaker 3: And you brought her like as a woman who's thirty,
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Speaker 3: I'm close to your age, Like I couldn't even imagine
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Speaker 3: bringing something into this world and being like, yes, look
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Speaker 3: I did this. How do you like? That's incredible, isn't it.
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Speaker 3: Do you ever just like stare at her and think that,
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Speaker 3: Oh I.
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Speaker 1: Stare at her daily. I cannot stop staring at her. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: and yes, I think, like, shit, I like made you.
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Speaker 1: And I'm one of those people that I've always been
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Speaker 1: this type of person where I'm like, all right, like
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Speaker 1: the dude like shot some sperm, good for you. Here's
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Speaker 1: your fucking gold star, like you know, like the mom
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Speaker 1: carried the baby, yeah for nine fucking months. Yeah, okay, hmm.
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Speaker 1: It's incredible.
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Speaker 3: I mean it's miraculous that even that word sounds like
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Speaker 3: so it doesn't do it justice. But like you felt, yes,
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Speaker 3: a human growing inside of you.
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Speaker 2: I don't know why.
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Speaker 3: It blows my mind, But the older I get, I'm like,
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Speaker 3: wait what.
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Speaker 1: You know what? I know? A doctor can sit here
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Speaker 1: and be like, well, this is how it happens. Why.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, bullshit, bullshit, it's a miracle.
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Speaker 4: Period.
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Speaker 1: You can give me your little scientific fact X Y
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Speaker 1: M plus two equals berth and I'm like, no incorrect.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yes, and then you give birth to this human
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Speaker 3: and then it feeds for some people from your body
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Speaker 3: or you just feed it like as you're holding this.
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Speaker 2: It's wild.
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Speaker 1: It relies on you.
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Speaker 2: It relies on you.
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Speaker 1: Yes, mothers are incredible, even if mothers don't carry their
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Speaker 1: own babies. Right. Yeah, there is something that happens to
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Speaker 1: a woman when she knows her baby is coming, no
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Speaker 1: matter how they get here.
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Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
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Speaker 1: You can't fuck with them. I will tell you what. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Her birthday party was over the weekend Ocean's birthday party.
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Speaker 1: Can we talk about it? Oh my god?
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Speaker 3: I was like Kyle, my boyfriend was like, wait, can
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Speaker 3: I have a can I turn one again?
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Speaker 2: Because like I need something like this.
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Speaker 1: It was it was fantastic. So I hired this company
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Speaker 1: called Picnic and Pedal and Glitz and Gather. Okay, so
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Speaker 1: I had heard amazing things. I told them what I wanted. Dude,
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Speaker 1: was it not insane? Ocean had a merch stage at
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Speaker 1: her birthday.
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Speaker 2: It was incredible.
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Speaker 3: And in case you I think they've posted photos their tags,
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Speaker 3: like their Instagram handle for Picnic and Pedal just at
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Speaker 3: Picnic Underscore and Underscore Pedal p E t A L
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Speaker 3: and then Glitz and gathers at.
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Speaker 2: G l I t z A n d g A t.
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Speaker 4: H e R.
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Speaker 3: But it was like my breath was taken away. Lala cried,
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Speaker 3: her mom cried, Oh I saw.
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Speaker 1: I couldn't believe it. Ocean's face was plastered everywhere. Ye
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Speaker 1: give them Ocean on merch. All of the kids had
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Speaker 1: so much fun.
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Speaker 3: They did.
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Speaker 1: The parents had fun, they really did. And I'm so
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Speaker 1: grateful for Jackson Brittany Yes letting me use their house
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Speaker 1: to throw Ocean her first birthday. They were so gracious
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Speaker 1: And it just goes to show like this group of
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Speaker 1: friends really is that tight knit. Yeah, we don't just
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Speaker 1: go on a TV screen together and like pretend like
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Speaker 1: we like each other. Like we're family. Yeah, and we
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Speaker 1: got a picture of all the babies, and you can
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Speaker 1: tell whose baby is who, just if you didn't even know.
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Speaker 1: You've got Summer Moon, who's like in the back because
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Speaker 1: she wouldn't sit still, just like Shena. Like I text
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Speaker 1: her yesterday, I was like, hey, do you want to
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Speaker 1: go to Universal for Ocean's birthday tomorrow? And she's like,
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Speaker 1: we're already back in San Diego. I'm like, what the fuck?
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Speaker 2: Just bopping everywhere, never.
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Speaker 1: Stays in one place. You've got crews who is just chilled,
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Speaker 1: like my little Kentucky muffin vibing. Ocean is zoned down
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Speaker 1: on whatever, Like she sees a shiny object and she's like,
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Speaker 1: what is it? How is it moving? What? I don't understand?
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Speaker 1: And then Hartford melting the fuck down because we told
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Speaker 1: her this is not your birthday, Hartford. She didn't like that.
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Speaker 3: I saw that photo and then I saw People Magazine
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Speaker 3: used it in their feature and I died.
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Speaker 2: I was like, this is the grit. I would get
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Speaker 2: that photo framed.
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Speaker 1: It needs to be framed, and Stossy. I kept telling
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Speaker 1: Stossy it's fine that she's crying, because we're going to
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Speaker 1: look back on this. In every photo that I have
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Speaker 1: with my two best friends that we were all born
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Speaker 1: at the same time, I'm sobby in every single ones
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Speaker 1: and every birthday they send me the photos.
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Speaker 2: And you know, I love that.
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Speaker 3: And you know what's amazing my mom and dad, who
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Speaker 3: have five kids, they said, when it's like hard to explain,
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Speaker 3: but your child, no matter what, has the essence and
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Speaker 3: the personality growing up becoming adults that they did when
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Speaker 3: they were babies.
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Speaker 2: So you guys are going to be able to look
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Speaker 2: at that.
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Speaker 3: Photo and be like, like in years, years years down
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Speaker 3: the road when their teens, when they're young adults, and
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Speaker 3: be like, wow, they have the same personalities. Yeah, like
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Speaker 3: this is of course this is the photo because this
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Speaker 3: is how they are now.
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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I know. I knew Ocean was a geniue.
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Speaker 1: I knew she was going to be a genius.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like pondering ways to save the world.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Well, and even when she's in her little jumper, like
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Speaker 1: she'll jump up and down and then she'll look up like,
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Speaker 1: how is this contraption holding me up and making me bounce?
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Speaker 2: Is she like future engineer?
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Speaker 1: She's a fucking genius. Rocket scientist, and she'll touch the
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Speaker 1: remote and look at the TV and then touch another
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Speaker 1: button and she's trying to figure out how is it happening?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, which is no, No, she is and you and she's.
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Speaker 1: So in my mind she's thinking that.
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Speaker 3: Well, it's a sign of intelligence when kids, so I've
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Speaker 3: heard I'm not a doctor, but when kids play by
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Speaker 3: themselves or in the corner and they're like being imaginative
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Speaker 3: and touching their toys and trying trying to figure them out.
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Speaker 3: And she's like lives life that way. Like you could
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Speaker 3: be in her face doing the thing and you play
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Speaker 3: with her constantly, but then like she's so content doing
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Speaker 3: her own thing.
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Speaker 1: She like she likes when I get in the playpen
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Speaker 1: with her. Yeah, obviously because it's fun. But for the
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Speaker 1: most part, I think she's looking at me like, you
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Speaker 1: don't belong here. Get out.
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Speaker 2: Excuse an mom, this is my space.
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Speaker 1: This is for children.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, what are you doing?
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Speaker 4: Yeah?
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Speaker 1: So yeah, that's the vibe. Ocean is one We're going
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Speaker 1: to universal today with Jackson Brittain.
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Speaker 3: Cruise so fun and really quick to take it back
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Speaker 3: to Jackson britt being awesome hosting it at their beautiful
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Speaker 3: home Britt had said to me we were at the
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Speaker 3: house and she said. I said something like, oh, do
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Speaker 3: you want me to move this over here? And Britt
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Speaker 3: looked at me and she goes, all I care about
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Speaker 3: is that Ocean has the best first birthday ever. That's
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Speaker 3: all I care about. So whatever you need to do.
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Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh, Like, what an amazing woman she was.
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Speaker 3: So she cared so much that Ocean and and had
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Speaker 3: the best day.
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Speaker 1: She was so cute because she was like, I made
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Speaker 1: sure that when you walked through the front door, you
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Speaker 1: were going to be surprised. And I was like, do
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Speaker 1: not allow her in the backyard until I'm down here,
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Speaker 1: because I know she's gonna cry.
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Speaker 3: Yeah I did cry, Gig did, and Gig cried, and
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Speaker 3: you had friends from home visiting.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, we were a sobby mess.
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Speaker 4: And my.
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Speaker 1: Best friend Canvas, we've been friends for over twenty five years.
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Speaker 1: When I was in kindergarten, I saw her and I
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Speaker 1: told my mom she's cute. I want to play with her.
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Speaker 1: And so my mom rolled up on her mom, Kristen,
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Speaker 1: and said, my daughter thinks your kid's cute. Can we
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Speaker 1: have a playdate? And we've all been best friends ever since.
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Speaker 1: But she Kristen said that during the happy birthday moment,
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Speaker 1: because I look over Kristin's sobbing during happy Birthday and
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I know, it's so sweet. But then she
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Speaker 1: told me later she was like, there was this light
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Speaker 1: that came in and it wasn't like coming from anywhere.
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Speaker 1: It was like this random, almost like a full ashlight,
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Speaker 1: like an orb that came through and like was surrounding
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Speaker 1: ocean that she saw. And I was like, oh my god,
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Speaker 1: my dad. I believe in that stuff, as you should,
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Speaker 1: but I felt it. I was like, there's no way
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Speaker 1: he's not here. That the room was full of so
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Speaker 1: much love. And there's so many times where I think, like,
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Speaker 1: you know, my poor kid. You know, she's already in
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Speaker 1: a quote unquote and it may just be in my
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Speaker 1: head in a broken home. And in that moment when
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Speaker 1: I was looking around him, like, my kid's not in
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Speaker 1: a broken anything. Look at the amount of love that
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Speaker 1: she's surrounded with. The men in her life who are there,
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Speaker 1: you know, bo my little brother, like these men who
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Speaker 1: like love and adore her. She's going to grow up
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Speaker 1: with that. She's going to grow up with amazing women
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Speaker 1: like my kid's gonna be fine. But as her mom,
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Speaker 1: I battle this guilty, you know, and I shouldn't because
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Speaker 1: I did nothing wrong.
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Speaker 3: If anything you did, in my opinion and probably many
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Speaker 3: people's opinion, something very right, right.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I will look back and I pray to
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Speaker 1: God every night. And I say that truthfully that I
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Speaker 1: pray to God every night, like, please allow me to
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Speaker 1: handle this the best way that I possibly can. Because
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Speaker 1: I'm in foreign territory. I don't understand, I don't know
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Speaker 1: what to do. There are times I may get petty,
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Speaker 1: there are times where I may overshare. I'm processing, and
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Speaker 1: I try to handle things the best way I can
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Speaker 1: while also protecting my kid. And I'll be the first
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Speaker 1: to admit I don't know if I'm doing it the
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Speaker 1: correct way. Yeah, but I know that if i'm not,
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Speaker 1: God in the universe will hold me accountable because they
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Speaker 1: always have and they always will.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: And I've told God this, I'm fine with you holding
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Speaker 1: me accountable. If I've fucked up or I make a
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Speaker 1: wrong decision. I know that you're up there and you're
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Speaker 1: gonna make sure that I pay for what I have done.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: And I think the first one of the first the
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Speaker 3: first thing that shows me you are doing it the
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Speaker 3: right way is being like open to saying I don't
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Speaker 3: know if I'm doing it the right way. It's just
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Speaker 3: like people with opinions or hey, this is what I think,
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Speaker 3: but I'm willing to change my mind if I get
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Speaker 3: better information. I always think those people are the smartest
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Speaker 3: rather than being stuck in their ways and be like,
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Speaker 3: this is what I believe, and I'm gonna preach it
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Speaker 3: and I'm gonna tune everyone else out. And then I
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Speaker 3: look at you and you're like, I'm open to like
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Speaker 3: doing it the best way. I'm not gonna sit here
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Speaker 3: and say like, I'm doing it perfectly. No one tell
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Speaker 3: me otherwise. I'm gonna feel it or I'm open. I
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Speaker 3: just want to be the best mom I can be.
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Speaker 3: And I think that's amazing. And I think that it's
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Speaker 3: funny you said the term broken home. It's not funny,
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Speaker 3: it's people use it all the time. And I get
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Speaker 3: what you mean by like that is tech the technical definition.
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Speaker 3: But I watch so many my very best friend. I
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Speaker 3: watched her be a certain way and emotionally just traumatized
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Speaker 3: for years because of her parents' relationships and then around
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Speaker 3: her parents' relationship together. They were married and then in
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Speaker 3: eighth grade they got a divorce and I literally watched
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Speaker 3: her heal and become like the most beautiful content version
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Speaker 3: of herself, and that really showed me like, oh, no,
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Speaker 3: the bad decision is would be to force a child
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Speaker 3: or force a relationship that is causing pain for everyone
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Speaker 3: around them. May It's like, it's just life, isn't that
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Speaker 3: way anymore. There's healthy co parenting, there's let me get
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Speaker 3: my child out of this because it's toxic. There's just
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Speaker 3: so many ways to do it, and there's not one
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Speaker 3: right way, you know.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that's so true. There is no one right way.
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Speaker 1: And Ocean will always be my number one priority period.
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Speaker 1: You know, anyone that comes into my life my home,
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Speaker 1: whether it's a friend or a boy, you know, she's
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Speaker 1: the first one I think about, Yeah, is this person
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Speaker 1: going to be around for a while? My daughter is
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Speaker 1: a luxury to be around. She is, even though she
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Speaker 1: won't remember you, I don't care. She's a fine fucking wine. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: And you're not just going to come in here and
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Speaker 1: be around her, no, Yeah, So my ultimate goal is
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Speaker 1: just to protect her at all costs.
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Speaker 2: I think that's beautiful.
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Speaker 3: And now I'm curious if it's Ocean's first birthday today
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Speaker 3: in seventeen years, when Ocean turns eighteen, if you were
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Speaker 3: to say to her one thing, she was to listen
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Speaker 3: to this episode or get a sound clip, what would
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Speaker 3: you say to her at eighteen?
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Speaker 2: You think, what would you want to say?
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Speaker 4: Now?
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Speaker 2: Like your hopes and dreams for her?
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Speaker 1: Oh, my hopes and dreams for her. Never take no
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Speaker 1: for an answer, Bust through every door if you want something.
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Speaker 1: Always be a squeaky wheel, Never be silent. Never yeah,
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Speaker 1: and you are Your voice matters, and your feelings matter.
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Speaker 1: And you know, I don't know what she's going to
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Speaker 1: grow up and want to do. My daughter will be
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Speaker 1: supported no matter who she chooses to love, what her
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Speaker 1: life path is. You know, if my kid, which I
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Speaker 1: don't think this will happen, if she says, you know,
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Speaker 1: stripping is my passion, best believe I'm gonna be in
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Speaker 1: there tipping her the big bucks because I will support
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Speaker 1: her no matter what. I will give her all the
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Speaker 1: advice that I possibly can, and then what she chooses
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Speaker 1: to do with that is going to be up to her.
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Speaker 1: But my biggest thing is You'll always be loved. You'll
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Speaker 1: always be safe and you will always be accepted.
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Speaker 2: I love it.
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Speaker 3: Thank you, It's beautiful, Ocean's lucky. And for any of
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Speaker 3: you out there that don't have the best moms, Lala
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Speaker 3: is your mom as well us.
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Speaker 1: I'm your mother. La to the Rescue. I'm excited for
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Speaker 1: today's podcast. Oh before I forget, we are going on tour.
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Speaker 1: If you've been living under a rock, my favorite thing
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Speaker 1: to tell people is you don't know this because you've
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Speaker 1: been living under a rock. Obviously, We're going on tour
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Speaker 1: Lalla Kent and the tour will be posted there. I
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Speaker 1: cannot wait to meet you guys. We have Remy Bader
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Speaker 1: on the podcast today. I am so excited. She is
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Speaker 1: what I think is a genius. What she just decided
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Speaker 1: to do during quarantine is pretty badass. So we're gonna
19:10
Speaker 1: figure out how to become geniuses like her. She's super
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Speaker 1: body positive. I'm into her. When we come back, we
19:17
Speaker 1: have Remy Beator. All right, you guys, we are back
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Speaker 1: with someone I am completely obsessed with. Her name is
19:28
Speaker 1: Remy Bator. And if you guys live under a rock,
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Speaker 1: here we go. You're coming out from under it.
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Speaker 4: Hi, Remy, Hi, uh, thank you for having him. So
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Speaker 4: I'm starstruck right.
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Speaker 1: Now, like I'm beyond so I feel like we're on
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Speaker 1: the same page. I have to say, you're pretty much
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Speaker 1: a fucking genius.
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Speaker 4: Oh thank you?
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Speaker 1: Do you get that? Do you understand that?
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Speaker 4: I don't know, Like I swear like nothing's ever hit
19:52
Speaker 4: me yet, Like it's only been like a little over
19:53
Speaker 4: a year, and I don't really know. I'm just going
19:55
Speaker 4: with it.
19:56
Speaker 1: You're just rolling with it. I love that because I
19:58
Speaker 1: think if you were to realize everyone else is realizing,
20:03
Speaker 1: you may like get in your head about it, because
20:05
Speaker 1: I mean, bitch, you've been written about in Vogue, Harper's Bizarre,
20:09
Speaker 1: Like the list goes on and on, and I was
20:12
Speaker 1: I was watching your TikTok today. There was one where
20:15
Speaker 1: you were like, I never liked to respond to trolls
20:18
Speaker 1: or people trying to bring me down, and you there
20:20
Speaker 1: was comment that you responded to saying you don't represent
20:23
Speaker 1: the quote unquote plus size community. You basically told your story.
20:28
Speaker 1: You lost your job. Take me through where you were
20:32
Speaker 1: at a little over a year and a half ago
20:33
Speaker 1: to becoming a genius. You're a genius.
20:36
Speaker 4: Thank you. I was working at Title at the time,
20:41
Speaker 4: which is jay Z's music streaming service. I was doing
20:43
Speaker 4: partnership marketing. I was a coordinator, like my second job
20:46
Speaker 4: out of college, and then during COVID in the summer,
20:49
Speaker 4: I lost my job because of COVID. So I was
20:53
Speaker 4: very upset, like I had this whole like my I
20:55
Speaker 4: had a plan forever of like I'm going to be
20:57
Speaker 4: like this big PR marketing and whatever fashion or entertainment,
21:02
Speaker 4: whatever it might be. So I was really upset when
21:04
Speaker 4: I lost my job. But at the same time, I
21:06
Speaker 4: think it was almost a little bit of a relief
21:08
Speaker 4: because I think I convinced myself I've been happy at
21:12
Speaker 4: these jobs, but like now that I'm seeing it on
21:15
Speaker 4: the other side, and like I also so I don't
21:16
Speaker 4: know why I didn't mention this. So my first job
21:18
Speaker 4: out of college is.
21:18
Speaker 1: That BROP Wow.
21:20
Speaker 4: Yes. So I worked on the PR team like Jen
21:23
Speaker 4: Guyser was my boss, Like I worked there, and then
21:27
Speaker 4: it was way too corporate for me. You know, an
21:29
Speaker 4: assistant there's very corporate. I'm not a corporate gal, which
21:32
Speaker 4: is great now I know that. So that's when I
21:34
Speaker 4: went into the music industry and like, you know, I
21:36
Speaker 4: think I just convinced myself like, well, I have to
21:39
Speaker 4: be at these jobs, like these are big names, like
21:40
Speaker 4: I need to be happy, but realistically I wasn't. I
21:43
Speaker 4: think deep down, I always wanted to be on the
21:45
Speaker 4: other side, like I wanted to do the talent, And
21:47
Speaker 4: I think that's maybe why I worked with talent so
21:49
Speaker 4: like I could just feel close enough to it in
21:51
Speaker 4: my life. I just was like, this is never going
21:53
Speaker 4: to happen for me. But at the same time, I
21:55
Speaker 4: always felt like I had something to show the world,
21:57
Speaker 4: like I felt like I had a big personality and
21:59
Speaker 4: like a say, but I just kind of gave up
22:01
Speaker 4: on it so fast forward, lost my job, gained a
22:05
Speaker 4: lot of weight, not during COVID, like right before COVID
22:08
Speaker 4: to where my dad who works in the fashion industry
22:11
Speaker 4: was like, remy, I really think you should just try
22:13
Speaker 4: going for like plus modeling and see how it goes.
22:15
Speaker 4: Where I used to get so pissed when he would
22:17
Speaker 4: say things like that, were at this point, I was like,
22:19
Speaker 4: all right, I need to make money, like, let me
22:21
Speaker 4: just do it. So my dad's the one who like
22:22
Speaker 4: took pictures of me against the white wall, took my measurements,
22:25
Speaker 4: and we sent them to all these modeling agencies and
22:28
Speaker 4: I heard back from one boutique, small one in New
22:30
Speaker 4: York City. Signed with them right away as a fit model,
22:33
Speaker 4: and they're like, oh, you're pretty too, Like maybe we
22:35
Speaker 4: can try and do some actual modeling. Nothing happened was
22:38
Speaker 4: super slow. It's covid. I'm a new model, and I
22:41
Speaker 4: was bored as hell, and I was just like home
22:44
Speaker 4: in my apartment. And I came on to TikTok Onto,
22:46
Speaker 4: like the Kirby fashion side of TikTok that I never
22:49
Speaker 4: knew existed, and I was like, this is cool. And
22:51
Speaker 4: in my mind it was never like I'm going to
22:54
Speaker 4: make these videos and people are going to see it.
22:55
Speaker 4: I was like, let me do something creative because I'm
22:58
Speaker 4: losing my mind. How bored I am. I taught myself
23:00
Speaker 4: how to edit. I filmed myself. I remember my sister
23:03
Speaker 4: and my mom like coming home and being like, what
23:05
Speaker 4: are you doing, like filming myself, and I just didn't
23:07
Speaker 4: want to tell anyone. I'm someone that tells everyone everything
23:11
Speaker 4: I'm up to, and like I just like need everyone's opinion.
23:13
Speaker 4: And this was the first time in my life I
23:14
Speaker 4: just kind of like was like, let me just do
23:16
Speaker 4: this for myself and like and then it was like
23:19
Speaker 4: the fifth video I made that like blew the hell up,
23:21
Speaker 4: and then my life changed, Like I don't know, I
23:24
Speaker 4: don't even know.
23:25
Speaker 1: What was the fifth Like what was the one video
23:27
Speaker 1: that just blew up?
23:29
Speaker 4: The first four videos I did were like celebrity look
23:32
Speaker 4: alike in a SI sixteen body, Haley Beaver, Kloy Kardashian,
23:35
Speaker 4: whoever it was, and then I did it their outfit
23:37
Speaker 4: in my body. But that was something that was repeated
23:39
Speaker 4: on titchtok and I got from other people, so no
23:42
Speaker 4: one cared. But then it was really when I kind
23:44
Speaker 4: of gave up on it and I was like, all right,
23:46
Speaker 4: this is a lot of work to do yourself, and
23:48
Speaker 4: like no one's even seeing it, so whatever It was
23:50
Speaker 4: really the one that I came home and made for
23:52
Speaker 4: my friends as like a joke because I got this
23:54
Speaker 4: like huge package from Nasty Gal. I looked insanee, my
23:57
Speaker 4: boobs were flying out, like it was just like everything
23:59
Speaker 4: looked on me. So I was just like laughing at
24:02
Speaker 4: myself and like sending my friends videos. I was like,
24:04
Speaker 4: I'll just make a video of it. And I literally said, like,
24:07
Speaker 4: how can we order these things online? And no matter
24:09
Speaker 4: what size you are, don't never look like the model,
24:11
Speaker 4: and like we get mad at ourselves for it, when really,
24:13
Speaker 4: why are we blaming ourselves. It's these fashion brands that
24:15
Speaker 4: just don't get it right and that video that blew up.
24:18
Speaker 1: It's so insane to me. And this is I tend
24:23
Speaker 1: to like take a step back and look at what
24:26
Speaker 1: people have built. You managed to take your amazing personality
24:32
Speaker 1: and just like lust for life and also partner with
24:38
Speaker 1: these brands because you're showing real life. And by the way,
24:41
Speaker 1: I hate the word plus size model because most of
24:44
Speaker 1: these bitches are so small. It's like, so is that
24:46
Speaker 1: a negative size model because she's half a person, So
24:49
Speaker 1: that doesn't make any sense to me.
24:51
Speaker 4: I mean, the names in general are all like, it's
24:53
Speaker 4: just obviously that's some There's so much I want to
24:56
Speaker 4: change so much that I think that it will.
24:58
Speaker 1: Be but you're doing it.
24:59
Speaker 4: I'm doing, and I think that's what I Yes, I've
25:02
Speaker 4: recently given myself more credit because I'm finally now going
25:06
Speaker 4: into twenty twenty two after building a platform, seeing the
25:09
Speaker 4: changes start to happen slowly, and now at least I'm
25:12
Speaker 4: seeing that I never was someone that was just like, wow,
25:14
Speaker 4: I have a following, like let me just keep building numbers.
25:16
Speaker 4: If I'm not doing something with it, then what's the
25:19
Speaker 4: point right now that I'm actually seeing stuff happen. Yes, No,
25:22
Speaker 4: I'm definitely proud of myself and it's great, But I
25:24
Speaker 4: don't think that the people some of the people that
25:27
Speaker 4: follow me, and I have people all shapes and sizes
25:29
Speaker 4: that follow me. I just don't think that people realize
25:32
Speaker 4: like it does take time and like I can't just
25:35
Speaker 4: snap a finger, and like I'm I want it to
25:37
Speaker 4: happen just as much as everyone else. But you know,
25:39
Speaker 4: I just announced that I'm working with Victorious Secret Pink
25:43
Speaker 4: to be their size consultant and brand ambassador to help
25:46
Speaker 4: them to expand sizes. Of course, I've been getting so
25:49
Speaker 4: much positive feedback, but also so much negative from people
25:51
Speaker 4: that are just like an XXL, that's all you can do,
25:55
Speaker 4: like you're doing nothing like and again those are I know,
25:57
Speaker 4: I guess shouldn't look at the negative, and it's not
25:59
Speaker 4: that many people, but realistically, it's like I want to
26:02
Speaker 4: prove everyone wrong and I always have wanted to be like,
26:05
Speaker 4: liked and understood. So it's very hard for me now
26:07
Speaker 4: being this sensitive person on social media wanting everyone to
26:11
Speaker 4: like see I'm trying to do good, but then getting
26:14
Speaker 4: those haters is very hard for me. Like, it's just
26:16
Speaker 4: hard for me, except.
26:17
Speaker 1: Of course you're You're still a human being, and no
26:21
Speaker 1: matter how much good you do, there's always going to
26:25
Speaker 1: be people who it's not good enough. I think that's
26:28
Speaker 1: a tough pill for most of us to swallow. So
26:31
Speaker 1: when you got that package from Nasty Gal, I remember
26:34
Speaker 1: seeing this. Now I know whatch when you're talking about
26:36
Speaker 1: because Katie showed it to me. Is that when you
26:39
Speaker 1: decided to kind of shift the way your TikTok was
26:41
Speaker 1: going to be, and you were like, not only am
26:43
Speaker 1: I going to bring my big personality, but I'm going
26:45
Speaker 1: to show these clothes and what they look like on
26:48
Speaker 1: my body, because you've really you've really been able to
26:51
Speaker 1: grab everything and put it into one TikTok. You know.
26:54
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's weird because I didn't have the
26:57
Speaker 4: thoughts then around it, Like I happen to have a
26:59
Speaker 4: pretty little I never shopped like I mean, I always
27:01
Speaker 4: like loved clothes, and but I did it in a
27:03
Speaker 4: way that was like once every two months, I would
27:06
Speaker 4: order like a million things online and just get it
27:09
Speaker 4: because it was such a stressful thing for me growing up.
27:11
Speaker 4: Like I literally if I shopped in person with my
27:13
Speaker 4: mom or something, I would just cry the whole time
27:15
Speaker 4: because it was frustrating. And then when I order things
27:17
Speaker 4: online it works or it doesn't work, but I usually
27:19
Speaker 4: would laugh at myself. So I had a pretty little
27:21
Speaker 4: thing package the next day because I did one of
27:23
Speaker 4: my big I'm going to order everything online. So I
27:26
Speaker 4: just made that video again but a little more like
27:29
Speaker 4: in depth, and tried making that one. People liked the
27:32
Speaker 4: humor on it. People liked that it wasn't so serious
27:34
Speaker 4: of like let's accept ourselves. And I'm not saying that's
27:37
Speaker 4: a bad thing, but like for me, that's not me,
27:39
Speaker 4: so for me, I always maybe I have been that
27:41
Speaker 4: kind of way my whole life, like making fun of
27:44
Speaker 4: myself in a way when in things like that if
27:47
Speaker 4: clothes don't fit me, but yes, also like being honest
27:49
Speaker 4: that like it upsets me at the same time. So
27:51
Speaker 4: I just like did it again. And then I don't know.
27:54
Speaker 4: I wish I knew what the moment was where I
27:56
Speaker 4: was like back again with a realistic call and decided
27:58
Speaker 4: this is going to be like a series and take
28:00
Speaker 4: over my life. But I don't remember. It just kind
28:02
Speaker 4: of it just kind of happened itself, and I yes,
28:05
Speaker 4: I took a little bit of like my frustration for
28:08
Speaker 4: the fashion industry, the humor I've always had, and then
28:12
Speaker 4: me just always loving to connect with people who have
28:15
Speaker 4: feeled the same way. And when I started seeing that
28:17
Speaker 4: all these people just feel the same way and like
28:19
Speaker 4: we're like connecting to what I was saying, I was like, WHOA,
28:22
Speaker 4: this is crazy. I'm just going to keep talking about it.
28:24
Speaker 1: I mean, like I said at the beginning, it's fucking genius.
28:27
Speaker 1: The brands that you've partnered with, I mean Stuart Weitzman, Lululemon,
28:33
Speaker 1: sax Off Fit, like all of these brands that people
28:35
Speaker 1: like me would die die to have them partner with me,
28:40
Speaker 1: and you're just a fucking genius. Like I watch your
28:43
Speaker 1: videos and you're making a difference in doing all of
28:45
Speaker 1: those things, and I get it, Like I don't care
28:48
Speaker 1: who you are, and I don't care how many people
28:51
Speaker 1: sit there and tell you look great, Like if you
28:54
Speaker 1: don't feel great, right, we all have those moments of like,
28:59
Speaker 1: I'm not come in this moment in my own skin.
29:02
Speaker 1: You have those thoughts, I'm sure because you're a person
29:06
Speaker 1: as well. In those moments, do you still create content?
29:09
Speaker 1: Are those the moments where you say, you know what,
29:10
Speaker 1: fuck this, we're getting off our ass and we're making
29:12
Speaker 1: content to talk about it.
29:13
Speaker 4: When I'm actually most vulnerable is when I create the
29:16
Speaker 4: content too, because I'm like, I just want to talk
29:18
Speaker 4: to someone about it. Why don't I just share it
29:20
Speaker 4: to my over two point five million followers and just
29:23
Speaker 4: talk about it there. So, like some people are just
29:24
Speaker 4: like social media isn't your therapists and blah blah blah,
29:27
Speaker 4: Like well, in a way kind of kind of because like, honestly,
29:30
Speaker 4: I've become more confident in the past year because of
29:33
Speaker 4: the positive things that people have said to me, I
29:35
Speaker 4: don't let those heat comments bring me down as a person. Yes,
29:39
Speaker 4: maybe in the moment they upset me when people are
29:42
Speaker 4: like you're fat, You're fat businessness, Like, I already know
29:44
Speaker 4: the things i need to work on. I already know
29:46
Speaker 4: what I'm doing, so like maybe I'll be upset if
29:48
Speaker 4: I'm having a bad day already. But sometimes they don't
29:50
Speaker 4: even affect me. It's the positive things that my followers
29:53
Speaker 4: and people that have gotten to know me say that
29:55
Speaker 4: I like start believing about myself that I maybe always
29:57
Speaker 4: hated about myself or never like like hated my teeth,
30:00
Speaker 4: and then everyone just always comments how I have the
30:02
Speaker 4: greatest teeth, and now I like my teeth. Like it's
30:04
Speaker 4: kind of like we all don't like things about ourself,
30:06
Speaker 4: but I put myself out there in front of everyone,
30:09
Speaker 4: so I'm starting to see different things. But going back
30:12
Speaker 4: to what you said, yes, when I'm the most vulnerable,
30:14
Speaker 4: I do speak about it, and I get positive and
30:17
Speaker 4: negative feedback. Because going back to that video you said
30:19
Speaker 4: where that girl was like you don't represent this plus
30:21
Speaker 4: sized community, and I felt like I had to respond,
30:24
Speaker 4: like I was like, wait, I'm not trying to represent
30:26
Speaker 4: any community. I got a following from just being myself
30:30
Speaker 4: and now it turned into something. So I'm not just
30:32
Speaker 4: going to change what I'm doing and start being like
30:34
Speaker 4: this leader or like influential person that knows everything that's
30:38
Speaker 4: like right to do and have all these people follow.
30:40
Speaker 4: Like I'm still just like a mess of a person
30:42
Speaker 4: trying to figure it out. But I do think I
30:44
Speaker 4: have a lot of like honesty and things I just
30:47
Speaker 4: want to share and people seem to like it. So
30:49
Speaker 4: I'm not just gonna start I don't care if people think, like,
30:52
Speaker 4: you don't represent the plus size community, You're not big enough,
30:55
Speaker 4: you're this, you're that. It's like, what do you want
30:57
Speaker 4: me to do? Like I literally don't know what I'm
30:59
Speaker 4: supposed to do other than just like keep doing what
31:02
Speaker 4: I'm doing. But now that it's getting bigger, it's like
31:05
Speaker 4: people are putting me in like a place like they
31:07
Speaker 4: want me to be. Like, you know, when it's set
31:09
Speaker 4: on the Victoria's Secret thing remy to help plus size influencer,
31:13
Speaker 4: that pisses off some people that are considered in this
31:15
Speaker 4: plus size community and they're like, well, if she considers
31:18
Speaker 4: herself plus size, it's not true. In an XXL is
31:21
Speaker 4: and plus size. It's very hard. I don't care to
31:24
Speaker 4: put myself in a category, but everyone else is trying to, right.
31:27
Speaker 1: That's inevitable when you start putting yourself out there, people
31:29
Speaker 1: try to put you in a box and you obviously
31:32
Speaker 1: can't be put in a box. But the struggle is real.
31:35
Speaker 1: I mean I can relate to being put in a
31:37
Speaker 1: box and you try your hard is to break out
31:39
Speaker 1: of it. Now, when you say, like people are upset
31:41
Speaker 1: about the XXL, I'm gonna be honest, like I don't
31:44
Speaker 1: even know what size that would mean, Like when they say,
31:47
Speaker 1: like an extra small, what size? I need a number?
31:49
Speaker 1: So when you're creating these sizes and you're helping brands,
31:53
Speaker 1: do you go off of just the XXL or you
31:56
Speaker 1: know an actual number for what that means?
32:00
Speaker 4: Company and brand is different, so some brands to excel,
32:03
Speaker 4: some brands do numbers. The problem is and why it's
32:07
Speaker 4: like but people don't realize, like like I'm a sixteen, eighteen, fourteen, twenty,
32:12
Speaker 4: Like I literally that now that I've gone through all
32:14
Speaker 4: these brands and now starting to shop with Like now
32:17
Speaker 4: designers are starting to send me clothes and things like that,
32:19
Speaker 4: I'm like wow, like it's all across the board. So
32:22
Speaker 4: that's why I try and do the work for people
32:24
Speaker 4: where I'm trying it on and then you can see
32:26
Speaker 4: for yourself, like is this going to work for me?
32:28
Speaker 4: Is it not? Because it's so confusing, and I think
32:31
Speaker 4: that it's not even most brands go like XL XXL.
32:35
Speaker 4: It's like every brand is different, I would say, like
32:38
Speaker 4: most the frustration for someone like me is that a
32:41
Speaker 4: lot of these brands just stop at an excel that
32:44
Speaker 4: is like I would say almost like at this point,
32:46
Speaker 4: like a little bit smaller than me, and then like
32:49
Speaker 4: how many people are left out? Like there are so
32:52
Speaker 4: many people that then aren't allowed, that aren't able to
32:54
Speaker 4: wear clothes at all. And for me, I felt like
32:56
Speaker 4: I was always like I don't know the word trendy,
32:58
Speaker 4: liked fashion, and then the only clothes that were there
33:01
Speaker 4: for maybe some larger people are like frumpy and not cute,
33:06
Speaker 4: and like why does that relate? Like why can't I
33:08
Speaker 4: go get the same clothes that a skinnier person is
33:10
Speaker 4: getting just because my body's bigger. And that's why I
33:13
Speaker 4: think the first that I realized was Good American that
33:17
Speaker 4: Chloe was like the first that really started plus size,
33:20
Speaker 4: but like cool clothes that I noticed.
33:23
Speaker 1: I watched that video you did of the black dress,
33:25
Speaker 1: and you said that it was a size five. You
33:27
Speaker 1: give like the turnaround to show how it looks, So
33:30
Speaker 1: that's good to know that you feel that good. American
33:33
Speaker 1: is like the first one to really make you feel
33:36
Speaker 1: good where you don't have to walk into a store
33:38
Speaker 1: and be like these are my options.
33:40
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I think that's what people too are like
33:42
Speaker 4: fascinated by, Like they see me that I've always been
33:44
Speaker 4: like kind of dressed like a little like I like
33:46
Speaker 4: to show skin and show my boobs and show like
33:49
Speaker 4: my stomach a little, so like people are like, oh
33:50
Speaker 4: my god, like I never knew I could dress like that,
33:53
Speaker 4: And then they get so excited and I could sell
33:55
Speaker 4: out the item in two seconds because they're like, holy shit,
33:57
Speaker 4: if Remy's wearing this and she's a size six eighteen,
34:00
Speaker 4: then I could wear this too. Like I think that's
34:02
Speaker 4: where a lot of people get the excitement from following me.
34:06
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I can imagine, because you know, there's so
34:09
Speaker 1: many people that are looking in so many aspects of
34:13
Speaker 1: life for that confidence and that push where who said
34:17
Speaker 1: that this person can show a little midriff, but this
34:20
Speaker 1: person can't. Yeah, I think you're showing people the way
34:24
Speaker 1: to do it. And here's the thing I always say,
34:27
Speaker 1: if if you walk out the door and you feel
34:29
Speaker 1: beautiful and hot, fuck what everyone else thinks. Yeah, So
34:33
Speaker 1: you're giving people so much confidence. And I think that
34:37
Speaker 1: I'm glad that you're realizing that because it's something where
34:41
Speaker 1: you're from New York. I'm from well, I'm originally from
34:44
Speaker 1: Utah and I live in LA and it's just kind
34:46
Speaker 1: of a different it's a different vibe out here. We're
34:48
Speaker 1: not from this small town where everybody's very judgmental, but
34:51
Speaker 1: those places still exist. They need someone like you to
34:56
Speaker 1: be out here giving them confidence. I think it's amazing.
35:00
Speaker 4: Yes, I am starting to see it more like I'm
35:02
Speaker 4: starting to give myself a little bit more credit and
35:04
Speaker 4: like seeing the what I'm doing. Like I mean, I
35:07
Speaker 4: think the biggest part is when people come up to
35:09
Speaker 4: me on the street, because that's you know, people come
35:11
Speaker 4: up to me crying like once a week, these girls
35:14
Speaker 4: that are like, You've changed my life, and I just
35:16
Speaker 4: I didn't understand for so long. But I think it's
35:19
Speaker 4: just yes, giving them this confidence. I think what's hard
35:22
Speaker 4: for me to get it is that I still lack
35:24
Speaker 4: a lot of body confidence. I would say I've always
35:27
Speaker 4: been an overall confident person, like mentally and like I'm remubator,
35:30
Speaker 4: this is what I'm doing. I'm not afraid to say anything.
35:32
Speaker 4: But when it comes to my body for the first
35:34
Speaker 4: time my life, I'm not confident in that at all.
35:37
Speaker 4: So when people comment and then come up to me
35:40
Speaker 4: and say, you've given me so much confidence, I don't.
35:41
Speaker 4: I think it's maybe that I don't want to feel
35:43
Speaker 4: inauthentic because I'm like, wait, I'm not that confident right now.
35:46
Speaker 4: I actually am like really not happy with my body
35:49
Speaker 4: right now. So it's like a you know, I think
35:51
Speaker 4: it's hard because then you're labeled like this influencer. We're
35:55
Speaker 4: like I said, I'm influencing these people. But I don't
35:58
Speaker 4: want to like be the one to say that I
35:59
Speaker 4: have all the answers or anything, because I really don't.
36:02
Speaker 4: Like I'm just as lost as anyone else.
36:04
Speaker 1: But I think that's why people gravitate towards you, Yeah,
36:07
Speaker 1: because that's relatable and I can relate to that on
36:10
Speaker 1: a lot of levels. Because I people will come up
36:13
Speaker 1: to me or slide in the DM and talk about
36:16
Speaker 1: how do I get your type of confidence? And I'm like, girl,
36:20
Speaker 1: I am faking this shit until it just happens for me.
36:24
Speaker 1: And maybe you do the same thing. I don't know,
36:27
Speaker 1: but whatever you're doing, people see you and they want
36:31
Speaker 1: what you have, and you're not just giving the curvy
36:36
Speaker 1: girls and curvy you know, men, women and everything in
36:39
Speaker 1: between that confidence. Like when I watch you, I feel liberated.
36:43
Speaker 1: You know, you're hitting both ends of the spectrum and
36:47
Speaker 1: everything in between, and you're very relatable. So I don't
36:52
Speaker 1: feel like you're being inauthentic by coming across as a
36:55
Speaker 1: confident person and then having your moments. I think that's
36:58
Speaker 1: just called being a person exactly.
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Speaker 4: And I think that's just it's such a rare thing
37:03
Speaker 4: to be a person on social media because everyone's so
37:05
Speaker 4: used to needing to show this like perfect side to them,
37:09
Speaker 4: and that's really that I think is something going back
37:11
Speaker 4: to when I started my videos that I did think.
37:13
Speaker 4: I was like, I want to show the bad and
37:16
Speaker 4: not only the good. Everyone only shows the good on
37:18
Speaker 4: social media and that fucks with me no, and it
37:21
Speaker 4: messes with a lot of people. I'm not as much
37:23
Speaker 4: of a picture person. I'm more of a video person.
37:25
Speaker 4: I mean, I like like taking my like modeling phos
37:27
Speaker 4: and stuff. But like in New York City, how people
37:29
Speaker 4: take like blogger photos on the street like I can.
37:31
Speaker 4: That gives me so much anxiety. And I actually just
37:34
Speaker 4: recently went on like a trip with like that was
37:36
Speaker 4: really like an influencer influencer trip with just girls that
37:39
Speaker 4: more do photos and not video, and it was like
37:41
Speaker 4: really another world for me, like seeing just how perfect
37:44
Speaker 4: everyone needs their feed to be and look and dress
37:48
Speaker 4: and act, and I'm like that world isn't something that
37:51
Speaker 4: I can see myself in or ever would want to be,
37:53
Speaker 4: And so like like that's great for other people, but
37:56
Speaker 4: like for me, I'm content with what I'm putting out
37:58
Speaker 4: there and what I'm doing, and I'm very interested to
38:02
Speaker 4: see where it will go. You know, Like every day
38:04
Speaker 4: I'm just kind of like I don't have a plan.
38:05
Speaker 4: Like when I did used to have a plan of
38:07
Speaker 4: what I wanted my life to be, it went completely
38:09
Speaker 4: a different way, and I'm happy about that. So I'm
38:11
Speaker 4: literally just going with it. When I get an opportunity,
38:14
Speaker 4: like the Victoria's Secret thing or something comes my way
38:17
Speaker 4: and it sounds good to me. I'm like, great, let's
38:19
Speaker 4: do it. So I'm just kind of like taking this
38:22
Speaker 4: and seeing what happens. Like I just it's crazy. I
38:24
Speaker 4: don't know.
38:25
Speaker 1: Well, it's only been, like you said, a little over
38:27
Speaker 1: a year. I'm sure you're still processing everything. I mean,
38:30
Speaker 1: I'm in awe of what you've accomplished in such a
38:32
Speaker 1: short period of time, Like you were just meant to
38:35
Speaker 1: do this. Thank you, You're so welcome. First of all, again,
38:38
Speaker 1: if anyone's living under a rock, where can people find you?
38:42
Speaker 4: My Instagram and TikTok is just at my name at
38:45
Speaker 4: remy baitor r e m Ibader. Potentially might start a YouTube,
38:51
Speaker 4: but that takes a lot of efforts. So I'm just
38:52
Speaker 4: pushing it off and pushing it off. But I think
38:55
Speaker 4: there's gonna be a lot of very exciting things coming up,
38:57
Speaker 4: more exciting announcements than things that are happening in the
39:00
Speaker 4: next few months. And like I said, I feel like
39:01
Speaker 4: it's finally like things are actually happening, and that's like
39:05
Speaker 4: the most exciting for me.
39:07
Speaker 1: So it's beyond exciting. And before I let you go,
39:11
Speaker 1: I want to know, like what your parents think. You
39:13
Speaker 1: said your dad was the one that was like pushing
39:15
Speaker 1: you in a certain direction, like what does he think
39:17
Speaker 1: about all this?
39:18
Speaker 4: Oh my god, they're they're funny, Like it was interesting.
39:21
Speaker 4: So my dad's like the business guy and who I
39:23
Speaker 4: go to to talk about all that. He's like now
39:25
Speaker 4: my business manager actually, but I almost like wasn't getting
39:28
Speaker 4: anything from him at first, where I was like so
39:30
Speaker 4: confused and my mom was like, no, rem you don't understand.
39:32
Speaker 4: Like he brags about you on the phone to everyone,
39:34
Speaker 4: but to your face he acts like he's just he's
39:36
Speaker 4: just not as like much like that. He actually texted
39:39
Speaker 4: me for the first time the other day, like two
39:42
Speaker 4: days ago and was just like, not that he hasn't
39:44
Speaker 4: been showing how proud he is, but like he just
39:46
Speaker 4: he shows it in different ways. And he texted me
39:48
Speaker 4: two days ago like I can't explain how proud I
39:50
Speaker 4: am with you, Like you built this business, like you
39:52
Speaker 4: did everything on your own, Like it's really amazing to
39:55
Speaker 4: see where my mom cries every day, like she's just
39:58
Speaker 4: the emotional she's obsessed with you, by the way, but
40:00
Speaker 4: like she just like fries every day, Like it's like
40:03
Speaker 4: I can't believe this. Like these girls like on the
40:05
Speaker 4: street came up there and we're like, we love you,
40:07
Speaker 4: and like when they're with me and see that, they
40:09
Speaker 4: just like freak out every time. And like my mom
40:11
Speaker 4: was like, I just don't get it, like why do
40:13
Speaker 4: you think why? Like of course me, but she just
40:16
Speaker 4: like will question every I'm like, are you going to
40:18
Speaker 4: say that? Every single time? And she's like, I'll just
40:21
Speaker 4: never understand. But in the best way possible. She's just
40:23
Speaker 4: like she's it's just very surreal to her.
40:25
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm sure.
40:26
Speaker 4: And then my sister gets like almost like I think
40:29
Speaker 4: she's happy because she just gets the perks of going
40:31
Speaker 4: on the Revolved trips and doing whatever with me, Like
40:33
Speaker 4: we actually weren't weren't really as close before this time,
40:36
Speaker 4: where now that we're doing these trips and exciting things together,
40:39
Speaker 4: and she's always been into fashion and influencers and all
40:42
Speaker 4: this stuff, like this is just great for her. So
40:44
Speaker 4: like we're all super close and like kind of I
40:47
Speaker 4: want them And anytime something happens, an article comes out,
40:49
Speaker 4: I just put in my family group chat, like we're
40:51
Speaker 4: all very like into everything happening, but it's something new
40:54
Speaker 4: every day, Like it feels like it's just I'm wondering
40:56
Speaker 4: when that feeling will be over, Like I'm like, oh
40:58
Speaker 4: my god, it was just in Women's Word Daily like
40:59
Speaker 4: that crazy, Like is that going to be like over
41:02
Speaker 4: at some point? Or is there always things that are
41:04
Speaker 4: still exciting?
41:04
Speaker 1: Like I don't know, you know, I wonder that. I
41:07
Speaker 1: sometimes wonder that too, because I'm looking at everything you've
41:10
Speaker 1: been featured in and I'm like, I'm sure she's pinching
41:12
Speaker 1: herself daily, like is it ever going to get to
41:14
Speaker 1: a point where it's like, oh yeah, cover a Vogue whatever,
41:19
Speaker 1: you know, just another day.
41:21
Speaker 4: But even with you, like you, I'm sure at first,
41:23
Speaker 4: like well you started getting a following, and you probably
41:26
Speaker 4: were like what the hell is going on? But then
41:28
Speaker 4: like you got you have new exciting things, like when
41:29
Speaker 4: you wrote a book, you know, like a new excitement
41:32
Speaker 4: outside of that what you were doing. I guess, like
41:35
Speaker 4: I'm sure that there's always things to be excited about
41:38
Speaker 4: having a baby.
41:39
Speaker 1: I still pinch myself like how how did I get here?
41:41
Speaker 1: Like I was just on a couch in Utah watching
41:44
Speaker 1: Real Housewives of Beverly Hill, Like what am I doing?
41:47
Speaker 1: I feel like I was put into a time capsule
41:49
Speaker 1: or something.
41:50
Speaker 4: That's the feeling that I just like, I don't think.
41:52
Speaker 4: I can't answer the question. When people are like, how
41:54
Speaker 4: has it been, I'm like, I don't know. I literally
41:57
Speaker 4: don't know because I was sitting there taking press clips
42:00
Speaker 4: of you at the desk at Bravo, like you literally
42:03
Speaker 4: in my little like assistance to like like obeying the rules.
42:07
Speaker 4: So like I it was very like and now I'm
42:10
Speaker 4: like doing this.
42:11
Speaker 1: Now you're bigger than all these hopes. You're fucking killing
42:14
Speaker 1: it really wild. Well, it was such a pleasure to
42:17
Speaker 1: talk to you. Thank you so much for joining us.
42:19
Speaker 1: I'm so appreciative. Keep rocking the industry.
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Speaker 4: Thank you so much.
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Speaker 1: You're welcome, baby,