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Self-doubt, say Goodbye to the Dragon! · Lavender Mind

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  Hey. Welcome to Lavender Mine podcast,
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  a podcast to help anyone remember.
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  How to live only in this moment
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  because, you know what? It's the only 1
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  we have. Hey. Welcome to Lavender mind. I'm
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  your host, Katie Bo blanc.
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  Years ago,
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  we took the kids, my... All my sister
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  law's,
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  we have a bunch of kids together. I
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  don't even know 5,
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  09:10,
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  11:12,
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  13, 14
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  kiddo,
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  and
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  we headed up to Dallas to the Great
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  Wolf Lodge. It's this indoor
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  water park with at night. You can do
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  these little adventures in the hotel. It's super
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  fun, especially if your kids are kinda young,
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  and you just need to get them out
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  of the house and let them run. You
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  and get all that energy out with some
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  supervision. So we were at the Great Wolf
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  lodge and my youngest
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  at the time had this great way of
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  saying things. And so we were doing this
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  little adventure where you take these ones and
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  you press the thing, and it'll open up,
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  like, you'll press each adventure you go through
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  and you have to follow the clues. And
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  when you press your 1 to different treasure
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  chest and everything, it'll make these, like, animated
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  characters come out and at the very end,
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  there was this huge dragon. And so my
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  youngest,
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  she was still in a stroller, but she
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  would tell the dragon,
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  no no big daddy, no no. And so
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  for years, we have quoted the no no
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  big daddy because
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  it was all about this huge dragon, and
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  she was really protective of her family. She
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  did not want that dragon to get us,
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  so it was no no big daddy.
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  And so
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  I often think about that when it comes
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  to self doubt because...
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  I think that it can come on. Big
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  and strong, just like a a big dragon
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  in our mind, and it becomes the loudest
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  voice in our brains.
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  And so today is all about, you, how
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  do we quiet that voice so that we
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  can do the things
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  that are a little bit scary and outside
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  of our comfort zone.
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  That there are ways to cultivate
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  mindset,
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  growth mindset so that we can do those
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  scary things and
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  create
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  a life that we want and create work
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  towards our goals every day. And so a
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  few ways to cultivate this type of skill,
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  and quiet that self doubt or to remember
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  the why
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  underneath the why and why are you there
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  in the first place?
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  My oldest daughter right now. She's in school
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  studying
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  day after day for a huge test, and
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  I would imagine that someday she wakes up.
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  And she is probably facing that dragon right
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  now because that test is steadily approaching, and
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  I would imagine that this dress is probably
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  building. And so I know that she's got
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  a lot of middle strength that really believe
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  in her, and I know she's putting
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  as much effort as possible to do what
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  she needs to do right now, but I'm
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  sure she probably sometimes has to remind herself
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  of what her why underneath her why is
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  and why she wants to pass that test
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  and move on in school
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  I know that when we have those drivers,
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  it helps us to show up even when
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  it seems like
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  nothing is happening.
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  I know with lavender mind,
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  there have been days when I asked myself
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  what the heck am I doing?
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  And then I have to think of my
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  why and
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  know that I've said before, but my why
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  is, hopefully, I'm planting some seeds too. Help
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  others manage stress and live life to the
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  fullest because life is so precious and personally,
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  I don't wanna die with my song inside,
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  and I don't want that for you either.
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  So that's my why for lavender mind, and
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  I'm sure you have your why? What is
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  your why underneath your y or something that
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  you're wanting to create right now Do you
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  ever ask yourself back? Because it really helps
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  to make this dragon a little bit more
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  quiet when the dragon in our head is
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  telling us,
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  No. You can't do that. You don't have
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  enough time. You're too old. You don't have
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  the skills. Whatever it is that your dragon
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  is saying to you. Just remember your big
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  why. And then I think the other thing
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  that really helps
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  to continue to show up is just
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  not only to remember what you're doing it
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  for, your big y,
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  you know, maybe that's financial or maybe you
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  wanna help your mom or dad,
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  or you want a vacation with your kids.
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  It doesn't always have to be a financial
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  why?
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  The other thing that really helps is to
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  find others that have done exactly what you're
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  doing and submerge yourself with their work,
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  follow them, see how they've done it, listen
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  to see if they have any tips, you
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  know, get the advice, get the the bullet
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  list to do what you need to do
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  and just keep showing up, doing that thing
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  over and over, even when nothing is happening.
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  Sometimes
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  perfection is often a stopper is well. It
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  can be a big dragon in our minds
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  because
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  we'll tell ourself that if I can't do
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  it perfect, I might as well not even
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  do it at all. I might as well
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  not even start the Sometimes progress over
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  perfection is the way to go.
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  Perfection
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  as Tony Robbins has said is often a
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  low... Standard because it actually causes us to
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  not even start or to stop when we
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  have started,
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  Perfection comes with doing that thing over and
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  over
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  1 small step at a time. We get
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  to that perfect. Or that perfection when we
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  show up daily, doing it 1 tiny bit
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  at a time and just continuing to show
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  up in that way. That's when
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  really comes. But in the beginning, you kind
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  of just have to have progress over perfection
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  because shouldn't nobody's gonna start off. Perfect. I'm
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  sure when my daughter started studying for this
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  big test.
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  She didn't know all of the things that
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  she needed to know and hopefully at the
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  and she'll
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  have practiced
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  all the things over and over
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  in a way that she'll have
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  or be closer to perfection at the end.
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  But it's in the showing up every day
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  and continuing to show up that
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  we are able to get closer to perfection.
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  You kind have to be a little bit
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  crazy and just keep going even if it
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  feels like nothing is happening,
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  You have to use your anchor of your
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  why you're doing this and just keep showing
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  up,
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  It will work if you keep doing the
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  work,
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  and remember to tell that big daddy dragon
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  in your head to be quiet.
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  I hope this helps.
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  And I hope together a weekend, plant some
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  seeds of resilience, and enjoy have an amazing
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  day.