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Season 2 - Episode 228 - You get to CHOOSE what it means to you. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. Today we are talking about the
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  power of choosing who you want to be and not just falling into
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  the habit of who you are currently being.
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  You know, choice is something that I talk about a lot with my
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  clients in this podcast. It is just a never ending
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  conversation because the beautiful piece about being a
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  human being is that we have the power of choice.
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  Always. You know, people will say, well,
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  I don't have the power of choice.
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  I'm trapped in this marriage, or I'm trapped in this job or I'm
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  trapped here. And I'm like, no, you actually
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  do have the power of choice because you choose what it means
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  to you. And we go back and forth about
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  how in fact there was another podcast that's going up talking
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  about you get to choose your focus on this.
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  And I can't stress enough, you always get to choose your
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  perspective and the meaning. That is hands down.
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  I can't force it for you. I can talk to you till you're
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  blue in the face. Until I'm blue in the face.
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  And I cannot get you to see something that's different
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  unless you decide to. I mean, it would be great if I
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  could put a little chip in your head and just say okay, sure,
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  here I want you to be positive all the time.
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  But it doesn't work like that, because our experience in this
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  world is meant to to cultivate us for having faith, having the
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  ability to know that we internally.
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  Have complete control over ourselves and our beliefs about
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  where we are. So one of the greatest examples
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  of this, my favorite examples of this I should say, is the Man
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  Search for Meaning by Elie Wiesel.
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  He was in a concentration camp. Now if there was ever a time,
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  ever a time that somebody was being controlled by outside
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  forces, this was it. War between, you know, the
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  everyone in the world. People being chosen to go into
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  concentration camps for no crime whatsoever other than some
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  lunatic taking over and being watching everyone in their
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  family get murdered. Yet this man came through this
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  and had a perspective like no other.
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  And if you've never read the book, it is life changing to
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  read the book and. When you watch everything around
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  you crumble and you still have love in your heart, that is a
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  choice. We can always, always, always
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  come to this place where we get to choose our words, we get to
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  choose our thoughts, we get to choose our emotions and our
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  feelings, and we get caught up in the fact that we don't
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  actually have that ability, but we do.
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  And one of the most fundamental places that starts.
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  In in my world when I'm working with clients is always well, who
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  do you choose to be it. It's probably one of the top 10
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  most profound questions that you can ask yourself is who do I
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  choose to be in this moment? I know for myself that is when I
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  realized how I was showing up at when my son was small after I
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  waited so long. He's adopted.
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  We waited so long to have him and.
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  By the time, you know, we got him, I was, I mean, I was
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  thrilled. I couldn't have been more
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  thrilled, but I was completely caught up in my role of running
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  this team that was traveling all over the world and I wasn't
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  appreciating what I had worked so hard to create in my life and
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  have my son show up. And my son didn't come from
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  great conditions and I I just I was so caught up in external
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  forces. That I wasn't paying attention
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  to what I needed to pay attention to.
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  And this little soul shifted my entire world one day because he
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  was trying to tell me something. He was three years old, trying
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  to tell me something. And he grabbed my face and he
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  said, Mama, listen to me. And I wasn't listening to him.
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  And in that moment the question that I so I'm so grateful I had
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  programmed into myself for other things.
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  Well, who do you choose to be right now?
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  Went off in my head. Who do you choose to be right
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  now? The person that's reading the
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  paperwork to get ready for this trip or the person that listens
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  to this little soul that you waited forever for?
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  And I wanted to be the person that was his mother.
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  And I stopped and I paused and I said, holy cow, wait.
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  I have a choice. I get to choose how I show up.
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  I get to choose who I want to be.
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  I get to choose this. Nobody else, nobody else can go
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  in my head and do this. It's just me, myself and I.
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  So when I tell you that you can do this, you can do this.
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  But if you don't stop, if you don't take that moment to pause
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  and ask those questions that are so important.
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  Who do I choose to be? How do I choose to show up in
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  this situation? Is this the person I choose to
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  be? So if you are in a nasty.
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  State of mind If you are angry, if you are frustrated and you
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  walk in and you decide to spew that anger in your family or in
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  your work environment with your, you know, whoever you work with
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  because you had a bad morning, you have to stop and ask
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  yourself, is this the person I choose to be?
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  I mean, granted there are times when you do want to use that
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  part of yourself because it is helpful.
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  All emotions are necessary. As I've said before, and I said
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  it in the bus book, it is. 100% all emotions are useful, but not
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  at an extended length of time. You have to use them like salt
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  and spices. Overdoing it doesn't work.
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  So you have to ask yourself, you know, is this who I choose to
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  be? No.
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  Okay. Well then stop it.
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  Shift it, do something about it. So I want you to thoughtfully
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  start thinking about and asking yourself that question
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  regularly. Because greatness comes from
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  that, my friends. The more you ask yourself that
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  question, the more you have power in your life.
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  The more you have greatness in your life, the more you move
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  towards attracting everything you're looking for.
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  So I will see you tomorrow.