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Episode #295: Life Demands May Require a Pause · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, Welcome to tea time with Amy and Bev,
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Speaker 1: good day, good morning, noon, whatever it.
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Speaker 2: Is wherever you are. Hello, how are things?
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Speaker 1: Oh? Seems to be starting to settle down for me
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Speaker 1: a little bit, which is fabulous because now I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: get back into reigniting myself as far as my classes
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Speaker 1: and coaching. So start with classes online, teaching online classes
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Speaker 1: and just get the momentum going. So again, get the
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Speaker 1: momentum going again. So and it's okay. I'm okay with
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Speaker 1: it because I had to pull back. My financial situation
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Speaker 1: got a little tense, and so I was blocking myself
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Speaker 1: from receiving any kind of prosperity because I was too
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Speaker 1: focused on what I the debt that had built up
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Speaker 1: and my attention was too much on it. So to
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Speaker 1: ease that, I went and got a job well in
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Speaker 1: that I do forty plus hours a week and I'm
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Speaker 1: had have significant roles in an nonprofit organization I'm in
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Speaker 1: And so just took me a couple of years. I'm
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Speaker 1: two and a half years into my business. The first
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Speaker 1: year of sorry, two and a half years into my job.
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Speaker 1: The first year of my job, I tried to do
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Speaker 1: all three of them. And try to stay up on it,
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Speaker 1: which was exhausting, and I just finally had to take
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Speaker 1: some priorities and step back. And so the coaching and
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Speaker 1: classes was the one that I had to put aside
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Speaker 1: for the time being, knowing it was temporary. It is
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Speaker 1: still my passion, is still the thing I want to do,
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Speaker 1: and it was important for me to get some of
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Speaker 1: my debt paid off. And so but even in my workspace,
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Speaker 1: my job, I really enjoy it so and it's it's
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Speaker 1: still helping people and coaching people in a different way.
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Speaker 1: It's been interesting because in my business and coaching, you know,
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Speaker 1: I talk a lot about spirituality, all the things that
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Speaker 1: we talk about here, so very I have a lot
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Speaker 1: more freedom and how I talk because it's my business
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Speaker 1: and I get to teach the way I want to teach.
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Speaker 1: At my job, it's more structured, and so I have
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Speaker 1: to be mindful of the type of words I use
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Speaker 1: and how to explain something without being woo woo or
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Speaker 1: spiritual or talk about chakras or you know, and things
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Speaker 1: like that. So which has been great because now I know,
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Speaker 1: now I have more information, I'm learning and I love learning.
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Speaker 1: So this is it's been and and The other benefit
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Speaker 1: is I've been meeting people I wouldn't have met sitting
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Speaker 1: in my That's not a true statement. I've met a
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Speaker 1: lot of people quicker than if I would have just
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Speaker 1: stayed at home building a business have. I've met a
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Speaker 1: lot more people in our community, even outside of our
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Speaker 1: community that it would have either taken longer or may
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Speaker 1: have never had those connections. So I've learned so much.
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Speaker 1: I've met a lot of people and have expanded that
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Speaker 1: those contacts. And so that's kind of where I'm at
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Speaker 1: right now. So I'm going into twenty twenty six with
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Speaker 1: a renewal, if you will, of reviving, reviving, revitalization. How's
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Speaker 1: that reigniting my coaching and teaching?
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Speaker 3: Nice?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that because even if you're revisiting and
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Speaker 2: everything and going back to your you've already evolved everything.
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Speaker 2: So many things have changed even since you were doing
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Speaker 2: it before. Even though you still do stuff, but you're
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Speaker 2: still there's so much things that have shifted for you. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: which which also means that different people will be coming
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Speaker 2: to the gatherings. I was going to say, to the surface,
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Speaker 2: because there it is. And it's like even with your job,
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Speaker 2: it's such an opportunity to learn how to communicate a
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Speaker 2: lot of the same stuff with different vocabularies, you know,
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Speaker 2: speaking a different language even though it's the same language,
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Speaker 2: but you just learn how to speak to it in
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Speaker 2: certain groups.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's it was, for example, a learning curve
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Speaker 1: for me was, you know, when you step into the
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Speaker 1: a spiritual arena, it's easy to talk about freaky and
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Speaker 1: auras and chakras and sound healing and all those things.
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Speaker 1: But when you have somebody you're coaching who has a
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Speaker 1: religious background, you want to learn how to speak to
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Speaker 1: them and connect with them. So it's making me more versatile.
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Speaker 1: I have broader components to my communication skills now. So yeah, nice, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I agree.
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Speaker 3: It does make a difference.
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Speaker 2: And luckily I had a few people that came into
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Speaker 2: my experience to help me open up to be able
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Speaker 2: to communicate, you know, especially if they were more religious.
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Speaker 3: It helped me. It actually expanded me because I felt
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Speaker 3: like I was closed off for a lot.
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Speaker 2: Of those two a lot of those things because I
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Speaker 2: had my own dualities within myself about a lot of things,
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Speaker 2: and I recognize they were all on our own personal journeys,
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Speaker 2: and those journeys take us to wherever we're going in
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Speaker 2: our own unique ways, our own unique styles, and so
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Speaker 2: there is no right or wrong way, or a good
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Speaker 2: or bad way. It just is whatever works best for
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Speaker 2: each individual. And that took me a long time because
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Speaker 2: I even struggled with a lot of that with my
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Speaker 2: mom because she starts saying stuff and it's like, oh,
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Speaker 2: here we go. But and I recognize my kids would
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Speaker 2: do almost like the same thing. Oh her mom's getting
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Speaker 2: all philosophical on us right now, or she's whatever. However,
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Speaker 2: they would termin all or terminate the conversation as I
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Speaker 2: was having the conversation, probably mostly telling them or talking
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Speaker 2: at them about the information that I had because it
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Speaker 2: was all new stuff and it was so fun to
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Speaker 2: want to share it that I wanted everybody to be
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Speaker 2: able to understand, But how did I didn't even understand
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Speaker 2: at that time, honestly, And so that's all too so,
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Speaker 2: and it is in the continual evolution.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, So that's nice. You just God, And sometimes it sucks.
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Speaker 1: Ass, It really does, it really does.
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Speaker 3: I will tell you there. Lately, it's been so.
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Speaker 2: So heavy where I'm at, and it's it's allowing me
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Speaker 2: to reflect more and to go within and start asking
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Speaker 2: more questions and not have the conversations outside of myself.
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Speaker 3: It's actually which god dang it sucks.
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Speaker 2: Ass, But anyways, it's it's guiding me into myself to
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Speaker 2: be able to have those answers and those you know,
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Speaker 2: to go in for the guidance.
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Speaker 3: But it's not easy.
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Speaker 2: It's not easy when you're used to when you're familiar
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Speaker 2: with how our relationship has been, and all of a sudden,
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Speaker 2: the communication style it's like completely cut off. When that's
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Speaker 2: completely cut off, it's like I don't and I understand
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Speaker 2: it because I ask, why is it shown up for me?
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Speaker 2: You know, like what am I going to learn from this?
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Speaker 2: And I feel like a lot of it is to
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Speaker 2: guide me within. I would like some frickin' answers about stuff,
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Speaker 2: but it's like I also have to I'm learning patience
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Speaker 2: and I don't have to because the more that I
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Speaker 2: try to resist this stuff, the more that it's it creates.
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Speaker 2: Then I get stuck in the past, or I get
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Speaker 2: stuck in the future, and I get stuck in the
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Speaker 2: anxiety or in the depression areas, and so recognizing all
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Speaker 2: those things and really it's in for me right now,
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Speaker 2: it feels like it's forcing me to be in the
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Speaker 2: space of now that that's really because otherwise it's uncomfortable
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Speaker 2: because you can keep replaying the stories over and over
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Speaker 2: and over in your mind, or you could keep worrying
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Speaker 2: about what the future has got for you, or where
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Speaker 2: you're going to be or are you still are you
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Speaker 2: still going to be in the same place anymore, or
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Speaker 2: for your shifts or you're moved, And it's kind of
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Speaker 2: a scary replace. It's kind of a because it's so unknown,
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Speaker 2: and I recognize that I think a lot of times
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Speaker 2: I had well it's not even a lot of times.
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Speaker 2: A lot of times most of the time I had
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Speaker 2: fear of change. I'm still having fear of change. And
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Speaker 2: so it's learning how to try to walk through this
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Speaker 2: and I can't. I have my friends that I can
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Speaker 2: reach out to and talk to, but it's not the
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Speaker 2: same when you're familiar with something else. And so it's
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Speaker 2: also recognizing codependency. And there's a lot of different things
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Speaker 2: that I'm recognizing in my life, and it's it's on
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Speaker 2: my side, it's not something on somebody else's side. And
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Speaker 2: you know, wanting things to be a certain way, or
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Speaker 2: the communication styles to be a certain way and it's
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Speaker 2: just totally chopped up. It's just totally not there. So
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Speaker 2: it's been quite the growing. But this is shouldn't be
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Speaker 2: very uncommon for me at this point because it's been
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Speaker 2: going on pretty hard since April, with a couple of
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Speaker 2: times I come up to this surface to take a
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Speaker 2: breath and I die right back down right.
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Speaker 1: I feel that way too. It's like, Okay, I got
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Speaker 1: a breath, all right, here we go.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, now to get into a space where it feels
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Speaker 2: like I'm in control, but my cards keep saying I
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Speaker 2: need to let go of control.
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Speaker 3: And that's heavy too. You know, it's kind of hard.
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Speaker 3: It's kind of hard.
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Speaker 2: It's kind of it's kind of I have to rely
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Speaker 2: back on to the things that we've talked about, relying
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Speaker 2: back on writing, and I'm talking to friends, reaching out.
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Speaker 2: If I start, if I'm emotional, then I'm having a
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Speaker 2: conversation with people that I know that I can have
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Speaker 2: conversations with, which obviously I can have conversations with you too,
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Speaker 2: but it's there is just like a limited amount of people.
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Speaker 2: And then also recognizing during all this sometimes the things
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Speaker 2: that I might share or something that somebody else has witnessed.
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Speaker 2: They'll might have their opinions because they have their own
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Speaker 2: template about how things have been, relationships and such, and
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Speaker 2: it can create confusion, especially for the person that's an ampath,
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Speaker 2: which I am, and I would recognize that I could
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Speaker 2: start taking on some of that belief system, but I
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Speaker 2: would sit.
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Speaker 3: I carry my pendulum. I have my wooden pendulum.
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Speaker 2: I carried around with me everywhere I go because if
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Speaker 2: I have to stop on pull over on the side
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Speaker 2: of the road, I pull off the side of the road.
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Speaker 2: If I've got something that's really sitting in me that
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Speaker 2: doesn't feel right. I'm learning how to go neutral in
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Speaker 2: those spaces as much as possible, and sometimes I can't.
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Speaker 2: So it's like then it's asking from within, or I
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Speaker 2: get a message from a friend, or you know, something
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Speaker 2: along those lines. So it's really I think things are
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Speaker 2: going crazy right now for a lot of people.
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Speaker 3: There.
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Speaker 2: I saw something just recently it talked about people kind
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Speaker 2: of like flatlining not knowing, and I feel like that's
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Speaker 2: kind of what's going on in my experience, not for
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Speaker 2: me personally, but flatlining not having any emotions at all
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Speaker 2: about anything because they're in a different space and it's
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Speaker 2: hard not to take it personal, because I'll go back
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Speaker 2: to the impath thing. It's that's why it's so very
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Speaker 2: important for us to get to know ourselves and know
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Speaker 2: what the things are once needs and desires are, and
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Speaker 2: fulfill ourselves. And it's like and if we don't know how,
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Speaker 2: it's like learning how.
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Speaker 1: And it's interesting. I just had this conversation with a
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Speaker 1: potential client yesterday. He's came out he has an ex
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Speaker 1: wife and he had a recent breakup and he thought
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Speaker 1: everything was going well. But a reminder, and I have
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Speaker 1: to do this for myself as well. A reminder is
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Speaker 1: all relationships serve a purpose, and it doesn't mean they're
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Speaker 1: gonna last forever. And sometimes we when we're holding ourselves hostage,
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Speaker 1: we're also holding the other person hostage. So maybe it
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Speaker 1: is courageous making the choice to move in a different direction,
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Speaker 1: and then the unknown of well, what's next, it's not
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Speaker 1: for us to know. It's just to be like, Okay,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna open myself up to what is next, and
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Speaker 1: that next could be absolutely amazing. So yeah, those reminders,
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Speaker 1: and it is it's scary, it's not. It's one of
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Speaker 1: those things easier said than done, and just you know,
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Speaker 1: pros and cons. If I stay, here's pros and cons.
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Speaker 1: If I leave, here's pros and cons. So it's just
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Speaker 1: weigh in the options and seeing what you feel maybe
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Speaker 1: the best decision for you, not only you as BEV,
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Speaker 1: but you as the audience.
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Speaker 2: Just.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, the unknown is always a fear for people, as
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Speaker 1: always is and always will be. I have that sometimes
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Speaker 1: as well. I have the fear of getting a job. Well,
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Speaker 1: if I get a job, then I won't be able
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Speaker 1: to do X, Y and Z, I won't have as
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Speaker 1: much freedom. I won't and what's that going to look like?
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Speaker 1: Like I had to go through that whole process too,
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Speaker 1: just getting a job, and and then I had to
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Speaker 1: look at well what are the benefits. Well, I'm going
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Speaker 1: to be in the community more, I'll be helping people
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Speaker 1: in a different way. I had to go through all that,
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Speaker 1: So just taking an inventory of what's what feels good,
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Speaker 1: what doesn't feel good, so to speak.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and all that being said, I hear, I hear
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Speaker 2: you very well. I've been trying to put more focus
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Speaker 2: into myself because that's the opportunity for that.
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Speaker 3: But it's like I asked my cards, and my cards
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Speaker 3: keep showing me.
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Speaker 2: The same like like this is like temporary, this is whatever,
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Speaker 2: and it's like it's I don't know what to do
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Speaker 2: in the temporary area, even if it is temporary or
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Speaker 2: not temporary. I think a big part of me feels
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Speaker 2: like there's a massive shift happening and I have no
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Speaker 2: control over it.
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Speaker 3: Because we're all changing.
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Speaker 2: But what it is guiding me into more is my
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Speaker 2: divine feminine is to realize is to go into that space,
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Speaker 2: because I haven't done that, So I'm exploring it. I
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Speaker 2: think I've talked about maybe once or twice, but not
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Speaker 2: really sitting in it and exploring it. So it's really
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Speaker 2: looking into that space. The other night, we were having
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Speaker 2: a conversation here at the house and it was brought
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Speaker 2: to my attention about how my tones could come across
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Speaker 2: quite harsh as a teacher or whatever, almost forceful, and
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Speaker 2: so I'm so much more open now. So I sat
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Speaker 2: and of course I like to have the conversations, and
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Speaker 2: so I sat with him and listen to what he
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Speaker 2: had to say about it. And then the way that
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Speaker 2: I interpreted it was it's me stepping into my divine feminine.
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Speaker 2: I've been in my masculine for so long, even still
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Speaker 2: that I try to gravitate back towards that because that's
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Speaker 2: my stability. That's what I knew to keep myself safe.
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Speaker 2: But I also recognize now I don't have to keep
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Speaker 2: myself safe anymore because I'm protected anyways.
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Speaker 3: That gives me goosebumps. See, that's the whole thing. A
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Speaker 3: lot of the stuff that.
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Speaker 2: I if I was talking about that it's time for
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Speaker 2: me to go, I have him in getting goosebumps. If
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Speaker 2: I've talked about it's time for me to stay, I'm
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Speaker 2: not getting goosebumps, you know what I mean. There's such
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Speaker 2: a neutral place there, so it's like that it's something
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Speaker 2: different than maybe what.
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Speaker 3: I think that it is. And it's just kind of
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Speaker 3: learning how to walk this path because this is so
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Speaker 3: unfamiliar to me. The divine feminine so unfamiliar to me.
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Speaker 2: Because that's being nurturing and loving and vulnerable. And I
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Speaker 2: feel like in my relationship I have been very vulnerable.
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Speaker 2: But I've also know that my child has kind of
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Speaker 2: run the show a lot of times because the child knows,
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Speaker 2: you know, just knows these feelings or these this. I
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Speaker 2: just don't like this, I don't like this, and she
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Speaker 2: wants to have her temper tantrum. But I know that
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Speaker 2: I can't have that temper tantrum because what it does
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Speaker 2: is it only pushes the other person away.
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Speaker 3: So it's me finding ways to look within self.
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Speaker 2: I've got several books that I'll go in and look
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Speaker 2: at her right and it's something I love to do.
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Speaker 2: I might even grab a book and just close my
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Speaker 2: eyes and ask spirit to guide need to what I
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Speaker 2: need to need to see in that book right now,
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Speaker 2: and I'll flip through and I'll feel like it stops.
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Speaker 2: It feels like the page kind of sticks right there,
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Speaker 2: and I look in there and it's like it's the
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Speaker 2: perfect message.
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Speaker 3: One of the things that came forward to me for me.
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Speaker 2: All for all this stuff was rejection, which of course
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Speaker 2: is that goes with abandonment as well, but it's another
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Speaker 2: form of things. So it's just I'm just saying all
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Speaker 2: this stuff because that's what I'm experiencing. I'm trying to
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Speaker 2: muddle my way through it. But I do have a
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Speaker 2: lot of tools that I can gravitate towards, and I
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Speaker 2: have a lot of friends that I can talk to
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Speaker 2: a handful of friends, and to me, that's probably more
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Speaker 2: than I ever had in my whole life because I
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Speaker 2: didn't stay in any where, any one place for very
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Speaker 2: long because I partied a lot. So most of my
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Speaker 2: friends came and went. If they were still in the
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Speaker 2: physical body, that's awesome. Most of them probably weren't.
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Speaker 1: So I just keep going though it's not it's it's
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Speaker 1: the opportunity to learn and grow and take another step. So,
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Speaker 1: whether it's in your case, relationship and in my case
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Speaker 1: a business that it's been my mantra my entire life,
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Speaker 1: keep going, Just keep going, Just keep going. And it
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Speaker 1: sucks absolutely like you said, it sucks ass like it.
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Speaker 1: Just there are days you just don't want to get
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Speaker 1: out of bed, and I get that. There were days
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Speaker 1: I was super depressed and didn't want to get out
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Speaker 1: of bed. But luckily for me, my spirit was stronger
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Speaker 1: than I was and kept me going because there were
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Speaker 1: bills to pay, there was a child to take care of,
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Speaker 1: there were things that had to be done, responsibilities adult
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Speaker 1: or responsibilities that had to be done. So I had
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Speaker 1: to keep keep showing up, which as you know even today,
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Speaker 1: that shows up for me, and just keep going, which means, yeah,
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Speaker 1: you went and got a job and you had to
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Speaker 1: make some adjustments within yourself and within you your environment
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Speaker 1: and such, and now you can do it again. It's
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Speaker 1: like relationships, well, now you get to nurture another one
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Speaker 1: and see how that turns out and see whether it's
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Speaker 1: first well, first and foremost it should be that relationship
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Speaker 1: with yourself. So every relationship gives us the opportunity to
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Speaker 1: see where we have within ourselves, the opportunity to grow.
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Speaker 1: Meaning it takes two to be in a relationship and yeah,
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Speaker 1: the other person has their baggage and yeah, you have
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Speaker 1: your baggage too, And if it doesn't work out, then
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Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, what am I feeling? What am I sensing?
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Speaker 1: What are my thoughts like? And for you, like you're saying, rejection,
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Speaker 1: rejection and abandonment. It's been huge for me with relationships
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Speaker 1: and then that in between relationships, it's an opportunity to
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Speaker 1: sit and go, Okay, this is what I sense, this
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Speaker 1: is what I feel, this is what I experience. This
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Speaker 1: is you know, you just lay it out, like you said,
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Speaker 1: with pen and paper, get a big old whiteboard, who cares,
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Speaker 1: Just something that where you can get it externally from
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Speaker 1: your head out in front of you so you can
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Speaker 1: look at it and go, Okay, a rejection is an
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Speaker 1: issue for me, And what's what's the issue with rejection?
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Speaker 1: Why am I hanging on to this story? What? What
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Speaker 1: am I feeling when I'm when I'm feeling rejected? What
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Speaker 1: brings up? What comes up in me? What what memories
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Speaker 1: come up for me? So it's just a whole process.
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Speaker 1: And Bev, I know you know all this and maybe
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Speaker 1: it's just a reminder, but just speaking to the audience
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Speaker 1: with all this is is relationships are an opportunity for
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Speaker 1: ourselves to grow. And this is going to be continuous
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Speaker 1: to the rest of your life unless you decide to
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Speaker 1: be a hermit in a cave and never talk to
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Speaker 1: anybody ever. Ever. Ever, as long as you're around people,
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Speaker 1: every person is an opportunity to help you grow in
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Speaker 1: one way or in another.
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Speaker 2: And I like everything that you said. I like that
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Speaker 2: you said it's a representation of myself. Really, it's a
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Speaker 2: representation of the relationship I have with myself. And I
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Speaker 2: agree with that because I haven't had the best relationship
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Speaker 2: with myself, not even knowing how to have a good
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Speaker 2: relationship with myself.
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Speaker 3: So I mean that's like a huge part. Yeah, So
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Speaker 3: that's probably the part.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, for me lately for a while now, it's been
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Speaker 1: disappointment and again focusing on other people. This person disappointed me,
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Speaker 1: that person disappointed me is like, okay, well we keep
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Speaker 1: showing Well, first of all, showed up and yeah, I
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Speaker 1: know it's there, but not really internalizing it or processing it.
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Speaker 1: And then it keeps showing up over and over and
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Speaker 1: over again. It's showing me something. So what's the disappointment
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Speaker 1: in me? Well, I'm very disappointed in myself for allowing
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Speaker 1: myself to get into so much debt, and that stems
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Speaker 1: from other belief systems that I've had to work on
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Speaker 1: and change. I'm disappointed in myself. I haven't been to
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Speaker 1: the gym in over a year. I haven't done any
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Speaker 1: body consistent body movement and such, which means my eating
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Speaker 1: habits I have habits haven't been that great. So like,
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Speaker 1: just the disappointment in the external environment is a reflection
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Speaker 1: of the disappointment I'm feeling in myself. But I'm not
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Speaker 1: internalizing or wasn't internalizing it as self disappointment. Although I
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Speaker 1: am aware of it, I wasn't linking how much I
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Speaker 1: didn't realize how much I was disappointed in myself. And
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Speaker 1: so yesterday and I had to go to the grocery store.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, I got to start somewhere because
23:54
Speaker 1: here we are starting again, which is okay. I just
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Speaker 1: sat with chat GPT and I'm like, give me some
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Speaker 1: easy recipes for you know, some some foods that I liked,
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Speaker 1: So the meat and the vegetables and all that. Give
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Speaker 1: me some easy recipes that are quick, give meal prep
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Speaker 1: and and start with my eating habits. I have time
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Speaker 1: for that. I can fit that into my schedule. So
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Speaker 1: so I started there, went to the grocery store, got
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Speaker 1: a bunch of vegetables, already had the meat in the freezer.
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Speaker 1: So I'm good. So now today as after we're you know,
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Speaker 1: done recording, that's part of my thing today is prepping
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Speaker 1: some of those meals and then my next step will
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Speaker 1: be start incorporating moving my body more. So I'm just
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Speaker 1: it's and it's okay, take these baby steps in my business.
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Speaker 1: Right now. What can I handle? Probably one zoom class
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Speaker 1: a month. That's probably what I can definitely fit in.
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Speaker 1: I know maybe too, So you know it's not a
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Speaker 1: for me right now, it's not a I'm just going
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Speaker 1: to dive in today and change everything. No, it's a
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Speaker 1: where can I start? And what's at least one baby
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Speaker 1: step I can take right now? And you take the
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Speaker 1: step and you move, because what, yeah, what damages us
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Speaker 1: is when we don't move, when we stay stuck, when
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Speaker 1: we keep you know, rolling in the mud and staying
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Speaker 1: stuck in the quicksand and we're just there and we're
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Speaker 1: floundering around like a fish out of water. Where's floundering
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Speaker 1: around because we can't we can't get ourselves to do anything.
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Speaker 1: When you got you have to take step, got moves
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Speaker 1: in some direction in order to help anything change.
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Speaker 2: And one thing with all the stuff that's happening for me,
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Speaker 2: I don't I hardly sleep at all now. I mean
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Speaker 2: I might get a couple hours of sleep a night,
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Speaker 2: and I'm good with it. But I'll I get up
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Speaker 2: and I might go meditate, I might do several meditations.
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Speaker 2: I might come in channel right, I might come in
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Speaker 2: do a card reading. There's so many things that I'm
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Speaker 2: doing now that I'm which is if I look at
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Speaker 2: it from a non victim space, it's an opportunity for
26:19
Speaker 2: me to connect. It's a connect with spirits because that's
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Speaker 2: where it's I feel like I'm being guided. Anyways, I'm
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Speaker 2: so glad we're having this conversation today. Honestly, it's it's
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Speaker 2: it's nice to have these perspectives because it's because I
26:36
Speaker 2: have been on the move, like I do. I go
26:38
Speaker 2: out and I'll go hike the hill and it takes
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Speaker 2: me maybe fifteen minutes, and I'll come back and I'll
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Speaker 2: come do some kettle bills, and I've got my big
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Speaker 2: whiteboard and I've got my list of things that I'm
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Speaker 2: going to do that I know are good for me.
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Speaker 3: And some of it's like.
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Speaker 2: Practicing going onto YouTube and finding me belly dancing, like
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Speaker 2: finding how to how to connect with my feminine body.
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Speaker 2: Some of the stuff is like the crea yoga, but
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Speaker 2: also it's Kundalini yoga because it's very important because that
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Speaker 2: connects you with the body, the sensulness of everything. So
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Speaker 2: it's like there's so many different things. I have an
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Speaker 2: opportunity now. So I'm setting me sitting and maybe watching
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Speaker 2: a bunch of videos or sitting and matching whatever he's doing,
27:19
Speaker 2: because not knowing what to do with myself, it's helping
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Speaker 2: me step onto my own path to explore all these
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Speaker 2: things I've got a guitar you bought me a few
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Speaker 2: years ago. I've tuned it a couple of times, that's
27:30
Speaker 2: about it. I've sat with it and listened to the
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Speaker 2: tone this a couple of times, but I haven't really
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Speaker 2: explored playing it. So there's all these different things that
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Speaker 2: are opportunities for me right now. And so I guess
27:44
Speaker 2: early in the conversation would have been if anybody's watching,
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Speaker 2: it would be me being more in that almost a
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Speaker 2: victim space to be honest with you.
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Speaker 3: And now I'm in the space of.
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Speaker 2: Because we've had the conversations and it's reigniting or reminding me.
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Speaker 2: I feel more empowered and I feel like I'm stepping
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Speaker 2: into like.
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Speaker 3: What are you talking about.
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Speaker 2: You've got all these opportunities to do all these things,
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Speaker 2: and you can do it right now. You're in a
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Speaker 2: safe place. There's nothing. I mean, I'm safe here. I've
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Speaker 2: got a roof over my head, I've got food, I've
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Speaker 2: got my dogs.
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Speaker 3: You know, I've got all this stuff that's here. And
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Speaker 3: he's still here.
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Speaker 2: But it's like it's it's a it's just from a
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Speaker 2: different view of viewpoint now and if I and also
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Speaker 2: spirit told me just recently. If I didn't, if it
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Speaker 2: wasn't happening this way, I wouldn't be growing the way
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Speaker 2: I'm growing right now. It has to happen this way.
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Speaker 2: Still stucks, ass, but it has to happen this way.
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Speaker 3: It just does. So now the next video will even
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Speaker 3: be that much better.
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Speaker 1: And we know that when we move through things like this,
28:44
Speaker 1: I seem very heavy that when we get on the
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Speaker 1: other side of it and look back, then the beauty
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Speaker 1: of it, the benefits of it, the gift of it,
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Speaker 1: was all worth it. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: So, and it's a constant gauge letting me know where
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Speaker 2: I'm at, where I'm at energically in that moment. Am
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Speaker 2: I being in a victim? Or am I being in
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Speaker 2: a frequency that doesn't feel good to me?
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Speaker 3: Because I can. I can change I'm the one that
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Speaker 3: makes the choice to change it.
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Speaker 2: It's not something outside of me that's supposed to do
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Speaker 2: a trick or something and make me all happy and
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Speaker 2: bring me back up.
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Speaker 3: It's it's totally up to me.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yep. And that was that was the end of
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Speaker 1: my conversation with this potential client, was I can give you, your
29:29
Speaker 1: other friend can give you, and other people can give
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Speaker 1: you all the tools in the world, like we could
29:34
Speaker 1: just lay it all out for you, but until you
29:36
Speaker 1: do something with it, nothing's going to change. Hammer doesn't
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Speaker 1: work if it's just laying there like it's true, you
29:46
Speaker 1: gotta pick it up and do something. So you got
29:49
Speaker 1: to pick yourself up. Really, you have to pick yourself
29:52
Speaker 1: up and do something different. So yeah, and give yourself
30:03
Speaker 1: permission to know that right now, where you're at, you're okay.
30:08
Speaker 1: I have to do that for myself as well. Give
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Speaker 1: myself permission right here where I'm at in this body
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Speaker 1: altll overweight, you know, lack of movement, still have debt,
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Speaker 1: I'm still I'm okay. I'm really even with all of
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Speaker 1: that package. My life is one hundred times better than
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Speaker 1: it was. So where you're at, you're okay. And if
30:38
Speaker 1: you want it to be better or different, then you
30:43
Speaker 1: gotta take You have to make the movement so and
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Speaker 1: nobody can do that for you. I know again, Bev,
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Speaker 1: I know you know that I'm speaking in general to
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Speaker 1: the audience that and it's it's a reminder for myself
30:55
Speaker 1: when I say things like this, I'm reminding myself too,
30:59
Speaker 1: so I do listen. When we have these conversations. I
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Speaker 1: do listen when I'm coaching somebody. I listen when I
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Speaker 1: when I'm having a class. What is touching me as well?
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Speaker 1: Where I'm like, oh yeah, I needed to hear that too.
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Speaker 1: And so we're all okay with where we're at. All
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Speaker 1: of us matters, We're all loved. And now what are
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Speaker 1: you gonna do? Right? What am I going to do?
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Speaker 3: Now?
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Speaker 1: What direction do I want to move in? Get a plan,
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Speaker 1: start something, write something down on a piece of paper
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Speaker 1: like Bev has stuff written on her board. I have
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Speaker 1: things written down on my a in a notebook. What
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Speaker 1: are the things you want to do? And then start
31:46
Speaker 1: creating that plan. And again, like I used chat JBT,
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Speaker 1: it's an AI platform. Use an AI platform to help
31:54
Speaker 1: you create that plan. I can tell I can tell AI.
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Speaker 1: I have a full time job where I work forty
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Speaker 1: to fifty hours a week. I have a home life
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Speaker 1: I take care of. I want to reignite my coaching business,
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Speaker 1: and I want to change my eating habits, and I
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Speaker 1: want to start moving my body more. And give it
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Speaker 1: some information. Then say okay, create a plan that works
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Speaker 1: for me within and you give it timeframes, time slots
32:26
Speaker 1: like give it as much information as you can't, and
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Speaker 1: it will lay out a plan and you will be
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Speaker 1: shocked because you alone in your humanness, with your blinders on,
32:39
Speaker 1: because you're so stuck in your head. This will just
32:42
Speaker 1: open things up and you will feel a sense of
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Speaker 1: reliefe like, oh yeah, I can do that. That's doable,
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Speaker 1: but it took something outside of you to get that
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Speaker 1: accomplished and help you see it. So so utilize the
32:55
Speaker 1: tools that are available to help you make changes. And
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Speaker 1: even if it's listening to other podcasters or books or
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Speaker 1: hiring a coach, the purpose of coaches is to help
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Speaker 1: you do things quicker. And you're not paying for the
33:13
Speaker 1: information they have because you can get the information anywhere
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Speaker 1: on the internet, even through AI, like you can get
33:19
Speaker 1: the information anywhere. What you're paying for is the time
33:23
Speaker 1: that they are giving you to help you move faster.
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Speaker 1: That's what it is. You're not paying me for my
33:31
Speaker 1: information because access to that is everywhere. You're paying me
33:37
Speaker 1: for my time because my time I can't get back.
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Speaker 1: So my time is valuable. So it's like I'm going
33:44
Speaker 1: to set aside time specifically for somebody. That's what you're
33:48
Speaker 1: paying for. So keep that in mind. If you decide
33:53
Speaker 1: that you're going to go hire a coach and they say, well,
33:54
Speaker 1: here's my price and this is the package. Remember what
34:01
Speaker 1: you're actually paying for. I'm gonna stop there. Awesome, all
34:11
Speaker 1: right friends. Do you have any final words? Bev?
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Speaker 3: I would just.
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Speaker 2: Say that when things are feeling so heavy, find the
34:17
Speaker 2: people that you can't talk to and reach out.
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Speaker 3: Don't just try to do it all by yourself.
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Speaker 1: Yep.
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Speaker 2: It's good that you're reiterating things that I do already
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Speaker 2: know about, because I still need to hear them sometimes,
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Speaker 2: because sometimes we can get lost in our stuff and
34:30
Speaker 2: we forget all that stuff because it's it's there's a
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Speaker 2: lot of emotions that are involved.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, awesome, all right, friends, this is a tea time
34:45
Speaker 1: with Amy and Bev. I don't even know what we're doing.
34:47
Speaker 1: Tea time with Amy and Beth. Be sure to, you know,
34:52
Speaker 1: share our videos and content or at least have conversations
34:55
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35:07
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35:13
Speaker 1: Share that with your friends and family and coworkers or
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Speaker 1: whoever else is talking and asking questions and eating and
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Speaker 1: seeking guidance. So with that, thanks for hanging out with us,
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Speaker 1: Tea time with Amy and Bev, and we'll see you
35:27
Speaker 1: next time.