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336. TURNING THE PAGE: Emily's 'Great' Year In Review, Biggest Learnings From 2024 & Takeaways From The 'Bet On Yourself' Era · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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Speaker 1: When you here know it's actually a yes for something greater.
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Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily A Badi here, you are listening to
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Speaker 1: the final installment of the.
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Speaker 2: Turning of the Page series for this year.
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Speaker 1: Anyway un Hurdle a wellness focused podcast where I talk
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Speaker 1: to inspirational people about everything from their highest ties and
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Speaker 1: toughest moments to essential tips on how to live a healthier, happier,
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Speaker 1: more motivated life.
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Speaker 2: We all go.
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Speaker 1: Through our fair share of hurdles. My goal through these
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Speaker 1: discussions is to empower you to better navigate yours and
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Speaker 1: move with intention so that you can stride towards your
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Speaker 1: own big potential and of course have some fun along
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Speaker 1: the way. So it felt only natural that if I
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Speaker 1: was going to ask a bud of other stellar women
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Speaker 1: some of these questions about the year that was in
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Speaker 1: the next three sixty five, that I should answer them myself.
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Speaker 2: And so it's a solo today.
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Speaker 1: I'm recapping how I'm doing, really, what my word was
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Speaker 1: for twenty four, how that played out, what my word
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Speaker 1: is for twenty twenty five, what I want to stop,
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Speaker 1: start and keep doing in the new year.
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Speaker 2: What I'm most proud of from the previous year. So
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Speaker 2: much good stuff.
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Speaker 1: I mean, truly, when I think about the last year
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Speaker 1: of my life, it feels like a movie. I was
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Speaker 1: able to accomplish things that I dreamed about for so long,
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Speaker 1: and also do things that I couldn't even dream about
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Speaker 1: honestly because they weren't even on my radar. That is
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Speaker 1: truly why I feel so blessed going into the next
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Speaker 1: twelve months. I'd be remiss if I didn't say before
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Speaker 1: we get into it today that none of this would
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Speaker 1: be possible without all of you. Coming off of Hurdle's
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Speaker 1: seventh birthday celebration, I'm so proud. I never thought that
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Speaker 1: I would be doing this seven years later when I
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Speaker 1: started this podcast, and so to not only be still
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Speaker 1: behind the microphone, but also getting the opportunity regularly to
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Speaker 1: interact with so many of you, whether it be in
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Speaker 1: the DMS or in my inbox, and also irl around
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Speaker 1: the city, around the world. I mean, we had a
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Speaker 1: Hurdler meetup this year in Tokyo.
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Speaker 2: That is It's wild to me.
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Speaker 1: So without a doubt, I extend the biggest thank you,
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Speaker 1: the biggest thanks to all of you.
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Speaker 2: For supporting me, for listening regularly.
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Speaker 1: And for engaging with the show and Uh, yeah, it's
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Speaker 1: really really special. Make sure you're following along with Hurdle
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Speaker 1: over on the socials. It's at Hurdle Podcast. I am
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Speaker 1: over at Emily a body and with that, let's get
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Speaker 1: to it. Let's get to hurdling.
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Speaker 2: How am I doing? Really?
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Speaker 1: It's honestly one of those questions that I love to
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Speaker 1: ask because it makes someone stop and think for just
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Speaker 1: a second before going on autopilot with that.
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Speaker 2: I'm good.
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Speaker 1: Right, How many times in a day do you tell
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Speaker 1: someone I'm good and wonder if you actually mean it.
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Speaker 1: I do mean it when I say that I'm good.
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Speaker 1: I don't know if I could tell you that in
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Speaker 1: this moment, I feel great, which is a little funny,
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Speaker 1: and we'll talk about that soon. And that's because I
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Speaker 1: feel like I'm lingering in a little bit of uncertainty
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Speaker 1: right now. I do send so much possibility and excitement
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Speaker 1: for twenty twenty five, but I am someone who really
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Speaker 1: likes to know what's happening next, and there's a lot
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Speaker 1: of things up in the air right now, and so
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Speaker 1: that gives me a little bit of anxiety. But I know,
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Speaker 1: oh that I have no reason to believe that it's
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Speaker 1: not all going to work out. I have no reason
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Speaker 1: to believe that just because I don't have all of
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Speaker 1: my answers right now doesn't mean it can't turn out
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Speaker 1: better than I even thought that it could be. And
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Speaker 1: so I'm sending in that and I'm good. That's how
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Speaker 1: I'm doing, really, And I said that being good instead
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Speaker 1: of being great is a little funny, because great was
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Speaker 1: my word for twenty twenty four, and oh man, did
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Speaker 1: it live up to the word. The thought process behind
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Speaker 1: the word great for me is that my family motto
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Speaker 1: is do good. And for so many years of my career,
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Speaker 1: and candidly, maybe over different parts of the last seven
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Speaker 1: eight years of entrepreneurship personally and professionally, I have been
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Speaker 1: okay with good. I've been working hard and doing things,
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Speaker 1: but not necessarily pushing the envelope, if you will. And
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Speaker 1: I wanted to in twenty twenty four up into great,
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Speaker 1: to do things that were on the next level, to
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Speaker 1: make bigger asks, to try things that really really put
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Speaker 1: me out of my comfort zone. And I can say
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Speaker 1: without a doubt that I did it. I really did it.
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Speaker 1: I really stepped into great in twenty twenty four. And
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Speaker 1: a big part of this there are so many different
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Speaker 1: events that were so special to me. I'm literally looking
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Speaker 1: at a list of like twenty six highlights of the year.
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Speaker 1: From shooting my first ever Birkenstock campaign, my first ever
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Speaker 1: campaign for anyone, but my first ever Birkenstock campaign, to
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Speaker 1: going to Orlando for the Marathon Trials, to sitting down
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Speaker 1: with Joe Bunoit Samuelson What a Goat, to giving a
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Speaker 1: keynote for Athleta, to traveling to Singapore and running the
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Speaker 1: Tokyo Marathon, going to Paris four different times, including the Olympics,
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Speaker 1: running Hut to Coast. I mean, God, like, the list
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Speaker 1: is endless. I will I will slow down. I'm a
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Speaker 1: slow mayroll. But so much amazing great things happened in
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Speaker 1: twenty twenty four. And they were things, like I said earlier,
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Speaker 1: that I didn't even fathom or dream of, because I
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Speaker 1: wasn't dreaming that big yet. And so twenty twenty four
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Speaker 1: taught me to dream bigger, to think bigger, to manifest bigger,
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Speaker 1: to say things that scare me, to write things down
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Speaker 1: that scare me, to get not only brutally honest, but
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Speaker 1: then like a little delusional when I think about the
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Speaker 1: things that I am after because they might not feel
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Speaker 1: within my reach right now, but that does not mean
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Speaker 1: that they are not within my reach eventually.
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Speaker 2: Right.
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Speaker 1: I think twenty twenty four was the year that I
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Speaker 1: really really embraced this idea that a no doesn't mean
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Speaker 1: no forever, and that when you hear no, it's actually
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Speaker 1: a yes to something greater. I'll say that one more time,
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Speaker 1: when you hear no, it's actually a yes for something greater.
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Speaker 1: And so when I think of the word great and
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Speaker 1: when I think of of twenty twenty four, I gave
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Speaker 1: you a list of really awesome opportunities, but I would
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Speaker 1: be remiss if I didn't say that the greatest of
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Speaker 1: them all was the bed on your self era to
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Speaker 1: a tee And that was my trip to the Olympics.
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Speaker 1: In an Instagram post earlier this year, in the summer,
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Speaker 1: I wrote, three weeks ago, I booked my own trip
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Speaker 1: to Paris for the Olympics, no tickets, no work, justin
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Speaker 1: inkling that I needed to put myself there. Four days later,
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Speaker 1: the planets aligned, and shortly thereafter I landed a job.
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Speaker 1: The job doing every single thing I journaled and dreamed
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Speaker 1: and talked about for the past two years, recording hosting,
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Speaker 1: storytelling gathering a true pinch me moment, one that I
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Speaker 1: don't take for granted. That was phenomenal. Landing the job
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Speaker 1: was phenomenal, and the job within itself was amazing. I
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Speaker 1: landed an opportunity to podcast in a space that Athleta
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Speaker 1: had put together at the Olympics and was able to
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Speaker 1: invite women that I admired that were in Paris to
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Speaker 1: come and sit down with me and talk about their experiences.
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Speaker 1: And Yeah, I met a loss for words because when
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Speaker 1: I look back on it, truly it was a dream realized.
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Speaker 1: It was a dream realized, and it happened because of
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Speaker 1: that bet on yourself era a moment. It happened because
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Speaker 1: I said to myself, I'm going to put myself where
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Speaker 1: I belong, and I worked really hard to get to
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Speaker 1: a place where I had the capability simply to do that, right,
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Speaker 1: because betting on myself was like out of pocket hotels,
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Speaker 1: I used points for my flight, like I didn't know
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Speaker 1: what was going to happen once I got there. And
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Speaker 1: if I had to just like buy a bag at
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Speaker 1: a day and do baguettes and afford the luxuries of that,
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Speaker 1: I would have, right, But I bet on myself by
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Speaker 1: putting myself in Paris, and when I got there after
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Speaker 1: like confros this job, like all of the doors opened.
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Speaker 1: I was pitching outlets that I had also never written for,
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Speaker 1: so journalist Emily was coming to the forefront, and I
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Speaker 1: was writing and interviewing athletes that were putting it all
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Speaker 1: on the line themselves to go after their big dreams,
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Speaker 1: and then coming back to the studio space and recording
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Speaker 1: with someone else that I admired. Like it was, I
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Speaker 1: felt like my best self for those two weeks in Paris,
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Speaker 1: and that is the woman that I am right now
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Speaker 1: and the woman that I will strive to continue to
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Speaker 1: be and to make myself proud of in the next
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Speaker 1: twelve months and beyond period. The beutt on Yourself era, Paris,
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Speaker 1: the Olympics, and so many of the things that happened
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Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four reminded me of who the hell
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Speaker 1: I really am, and when I I'm smiling right now
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Speaker 1: thinking about this because I told you at the beginning
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Speaker 1: that I'm good. I'm not great, but I say that
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Speaker 1: and I am reminded of who the hell I am,
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Speaker 1: right and I I know right now that there is
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Speaker 1: more of the bet on myself, the bet on your
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Speaker 1: self era in front of me right now. I just
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Speaker 1: need to get back to this place where I am
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Speaker 1: truly living it because you have to be and I
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Speaker 1: know this to be true, your own biggest hype person.
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Speaker 1: If you don't believe in yourself, if you don't bet
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Speaker 1: on yourself, then no one around you is necessarily going
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Speaker 1: to be the person that does. It starts with you,
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Speaker 1: and that is something that was so hammered in for
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Speaker 1: me in twenty twenty four. It starts with me, and
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Speaker 1: it felt so so good. One of the questions I
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Speaker 1: asked the woman this week was what was my word
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Speaker 1: of the year. I told you it was great. But
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Speaker 1: my word for twenty twenty five is actually attention. And
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Speaker 1: there are a few words that I get thrown too
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Speaker 1: the mix here, but I'm going to focus on this
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Speaker 1: because where your attention goes, your focus grows. And sometimes
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Speaker 1: it can feel like our focus is specifically on something
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Speaker 1: that isn't serving us. Maybe it's a relationship or a frustration.
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Speaker 1: I myself can tell you that I have certainly been
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Speaker 1: in situationships and my focus was on this one person
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Speaker 1: and it wasn't serving me. And that can be a
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Speaker 1: very frustrating place to be. But with that said, we
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Speaker 1: have the opportunity to shift that focus, although sometimes it
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Speaker 1: might not feel that way. Just like we get to
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Speaker 1: react to our thoughts. So my word for twenty twenty
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Speaker 1: five is attention, because I want to continually remind myself
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Speaker 1: that I get to put my attention on the things
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Speaker 1: that serve me and by doing that, by taking control
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Speaker 1: of that opportunity, good things will happen for me. I
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Speaker 1: get to pay attention to the people that lift me up,
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Speaker 1: the people that show up for me in good and
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Speaker 1: bad times. I get to remind myself day in and
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Speaker 1: day out that I do not want to simply be
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Speaker 1: an option. And when I am an option or made
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Speaker 1: to feel like an option, that's probably not the situation
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Speaker 1: that I want to walk into. Attention, I get to
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Speaker 1: choose where my attention goes. In twenty twenty five, where
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Speaker 1: your attention goes, your focus grows. There are a lot
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Speaker 1: of things I'm focused on this year. For one, really
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Speaker 1: giving some energy back to the podcast and putting systems
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Speaker 1: in place that make this show the best storytelling vehicle
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Speaker 1: that it can be that For one, two, I've really
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Speaker 1: loved diving in to hosting this year and to gathering
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Speaker 1: as well. So two different things that I want to
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Speaker 1: invest my time in twenty twenty five. More hosting, whether
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Speaker 1: that be in too very large groups or small curated groups,
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Speaker 1: moderating storytelling in that way, and then gathering. I feel
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Speaker 1: like I mentioned like that Tokyo gathering we did the
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Speaker 1: Berlin gathering. I had the opportunity throughout the year to gather,
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Speaker 1: specifically gather with women, which is something that makes me
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Speaker 1: feel very purposeful. I feel like I can be a
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Speaker 1: conduit for connection. I love to connect people. One of
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Speaker 1: the most flattering compliments that anyone ever gave me was
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Speaker 1: telling me that I am a gracious connector, and I
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Speaker 1: am someone who firmly believes that good people should interact
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Speaker 1: with good people, and so I will never gate keep
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Speaker 1: my relationships. I'm just not that person. Circling back to gathering,
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Speaker 1: That's why it's so important to me, right because if
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Speaker 1: you can get a bunch of good people in one room,
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Speaker 1: then great things can happen. And so I am certainly
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Speaker 1: dialed in to how do I do more gathering in
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Speaker 1: twenty twenty five and culminate that with the hosting with
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Speaker 1: the podcast you get where I'm going here? What was
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Speaker 1: one new thing I learned in twenty twenty four Something
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Speaker 1: that's really resonant with me from twenty twenty four is
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Speaker 1: just this idea that nothing changes if nothing changes.
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Speaker 2: I've been coming back to it a lot lately.
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Speaker 1: I won't say that necessarily I learned it, but I
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Speaker 1: will say that I really stepped into it over the
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Speaker 1: past year. I made a list of folks that I
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Speaker 1: admire earlier this year, and I realized that all of
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Speaker 1: them had qualities or were doing things, whether it was
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Speaker 1: personally or professionally, that I wasn't yet doing, or maybe
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Speaker 1: a quality that I wanted to amplify within myself. And
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Speaker 1: there's the person that chooses maybe to be jealous in
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Speaker 1: a situation like that. And then there's the person that
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Speaker 1: says that person is doing something right. I admire you,
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Speaker 1: I'm going to keep up with you. I want to
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Speaker 1: ask myself, what is it that I can do to
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Speaker 1: get to where that person is, to maybe exemplify or
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Speaker 1: learn some of the skills that they have. Right Again,
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Speaker 1: you can choose to be jealous, or you can choose
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Speaker 1: to do something about it. There are two different types
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Speaker 1: of people here, and I am the person that wants
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Speaker 1: to do something about it.
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Speaker 2: Nothing changes if nothing changes.
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Speaker 1: So in my case, I've had the opportunity to sit
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Speaker 1: down with some of these people that I'm like, wow,
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Speaker 1: I really admire you, and so cool for me then
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Speaker 1: to be able to learn from them and then be
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Speaker 1: able to bring their knowledge to you right here on
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Speaker 1: the show. That's awesome. That's really awesome. But not everyone
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Speaker 1: is going to be someone that then comes on the show.
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Speaker 1: So I in some cases was able to grab some
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Speaker 1: time with these people. In other cases is I did
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Speaker 1: some of my own learning on these people right listening
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Speaker 1: to podcasts that they've been on, following them closely on
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Speaker 1: social media, and so yeah, I think that's been really
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Speaker 1: refreshing for me, that idea of ownership over nothing changes,
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Speaker 1: if nothing changes. Instead of just being like why not me,
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Speaker 1: that's not what I want, that's not who I want
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Speaker 1: to be, I want to come back to that through
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Speaker 1: line that I mentioned earlier, which is I want to
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Speaker 1: be empowered and determined and I want to keep up
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Speaker 1: the hard work knowing that I have never ever ever
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Speaker 1: regretted putting my all into anything, and that I am
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Speaker 1: and you are too, the most important investment that I
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Speaker 1: will ever make. I am the most important investment that
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Speaker 1: I will ever make, and everything I want stems from
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Speaker 1: that investment of self. And I think that's something else
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Speaker 1: that I'm really carrying with me right now into twenty
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Speaker 1: twenty five. I think about how I am the kind
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Speaker 1: of person that loves turning the page, that loves the
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Speaker 1: beginning of the new year. That's because it's an opportunity
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Speaker 1: for me to really embrace the fresh start on my
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Speaker 1: habits and my routines. I love, understatement, my morning routine
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Speaker 1: right now, and it is time consuming and can be
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Speaker 1: a little bit tedious, but it feels so fulfilling to
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Speaker 1: give back to myself in this way. I am in Washington,
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Speaker 1: d C. As you're listening to this, and before flying
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Speaker 1: to DC, I got up at four forty five because
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Speaker 1: I knew that if I didn't do my morning routine
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Speaker 1: and the things like the breathwork and the journaling and
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Speaker 1: the reading and the moving my body, that I wasn't
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Speaker 1: gonna feel good for the rest of my day. And
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Speaker 1: I had a nine thirty five flight, and so that's
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Speaker 1: what it took. I wrote earlier in the day on
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Speaker 1: Instagram and a note from my notes app that motivation
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Speaker 1: can wane, right, but what will never go away are
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Speaker 1: your values. Knowing your why, the opportunity to reach out
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Speaker 1: for support. Those are things that you can do. You
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Speaker 1: can take a look at your values. You can talk
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Speaker 1: to someone about what you're going through when the motivation
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Speaker 1: isn't there. I think that there's a common misconception that
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Speaker 1: people that are successful are just extremely motivated. Period. Those
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Speaker 1: people aren't always motivated. They just have a really strong
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Speaker 1: foundation for why they do the things that they do.
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Speaker 1: Some food for thought. So again, the thing that I
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Speaker 1: learned in twenty twenty four, I'd say that lesson that
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Speaker 1: I embraced in twenty twenty four, nothing changes.
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Speaker 2: If nothing changes.
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Speaker 1: my list now? If you are a subscriber to the
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Speaker 1: about this. There again the link to subscribers in the
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Speaker 2: I'm going to keep.
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Speaker 1: Strength training twenty twenty four was the year of strength
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Speaker 1: training for me. Strength training changed a lot for me,
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Speaker 1: not just physically but emotionally. It felt really great to
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Speaker 1: get back to a place for the first time since
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Speaker 1: Man twenty seventeen where I'm regularly lifting heavy and using barbells,
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Speaker 1: and so I want to most definitely keep up the
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Speaker 1: momentum in twenty twenty five.
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Speaker 2: When I think of the.
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Speaker 1: Strength goals that I have for the new year, I
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Speaker 1: want to get three consecutive pull ups. I want to
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Speaker 1: press one hundred pounds overhead, which feels very lofty right now.
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Speaker 1: And I really want to make sure that I'm continually
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Speaker 1: doing post deior work because running is still something that's
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Speaker 1: my bread and butter, and I want to do whatever
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Speaker 1: was in whatever is in my power to prevent injury.
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Speaker 1: So definitely keep strength training in twenty twenty five, I
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Speaker 1: want to stop. I want to stop the deadline mentality.
21:22
Speaker 1: I'm a career journalist. I thrive on a deadline, and
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Speaker 1: that means, for example, that sometimes my newsletter that comes
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Speaker 1: out on Friday mornings gets written on Thursdays. And so
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Speaker 1: one of my goals for twenty five is to be
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Speaker 1: better about getting ahead. I want to use time blocking,
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Speaker 1: and maybe I'll use either Notion or my planner for this,
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Speaker 1: but i want to work ahead so.
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Speaker 2: That I'm not working up to the why or so regularly.
21:47
Speaker 1: And when I set a goal like this, I have
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Speaker 1: to ask myself the why, and the why is that
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Speaker 1: I don't want to feel anxious like I do regularly
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Speaker 1: right now in a way that is completely avoidable, and
21:57
Speaker 1: I want to create better and I know that if
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Speaker 1: I think ahead, it will empower me to do so
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Speaker 1: in the long run. And then for my start in
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Speaker 1: twenty twenty five, I want to start setting an alarm again.
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Speaker 1: Since the pandemic, I've really been team no Alarm. I
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Speaker 1: think many of us have, right, and I've loved the
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Speaker 1: relaxed approach to my morning routine, especially because I make
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Speaker 1: the rules and I just have a target period of
22:25
Speaker 1: time that I like to be at my desk, but
22:27
Speaker 1: it's flexible for the most part, and so when I
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Speaker 1: get up on the later side, or when I have
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Speaker 1: done that over the past year or two, sometimes the
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Speaker 1: things that I like as a part of my routine
22:40
Speaker 1: fall by the wayside in favor of just running into
22:43
Speaker 1: movement actually and just figuratively right. So, by setting an alarm,
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Speaker 1: maybe depending on the day, that alarms at six or
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Speaker 1: six thirty at the latest, I will have more time
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Speaker 1: to do the things that make me feel good. And
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Speaker 1: I have a really strong why for all of those things.
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Speaker 1: This is coming out on January fourth. I'm only four
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Speaker 1: days into the new year incorporating all of these fun
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Speaker 1: things of my morning routine. But it feels good and
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Speaker 1: I don't want to get rid of it, and I
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Speaker 1: want to set an alarm. So I'm going to start
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Speaker 1: setting an alarm again. And those are my stop start
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Speaker 1: and keep doing in the new year. What was I
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Speaker 1: proud of In twenty twenty four? I talked about the
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Speaker 1: bet on Yourself era, but I do want to say
23:31
Speaker 1: that there are a few tips that I can offer
23:33
Speaker 1: you if you two want to bet on yourself. The
23:37
Speaker 1: first thing really comes down to knowing who you are.
23:40
Speaker 1: And I get dms all the time when I talk
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Speaker 1: about doing a values assessment and asking yourself what's important
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Speaker 1: to you?
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Speaker 2: I don't even know who I am. That's the DM.
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Speaker 1: You can do a simple activity, which is go to
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Speaker 1: Google and put in a values list like Google like
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Speaker 1: what are core values?
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Speaker 2: And see what comes up, and then.
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Speaker 1: Write down the buzzwords that resonate with you, like family
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Speaker 1: or health or movement or finances, whatever those buzzwords are,
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Speaker 1: and then write on why each of those is important
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Speaker 1: to you. And it might feel a little silly in
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Speaker 1: the moment, but you will never regret putting in the
24:21
Speaker 1: work to get to know yourself better. So if you
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Speaker 1: want to bet on yourself, it starts by knowing who
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Speaker 1: you're working with and knowing yourself. The next pillar I
24:31
Speaker 1: will say is that in order to bet on yourself,
24:34
Speaker 1: you need to also choose to be a good person
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Speaker 1: to others. I cannot tell you how important it is
24:41
Speaker 1: to be a kind human, not just because it's a
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Speaker 1: good thing, period, but also because it will always, always,
24:49
Speaker 1: always always come back around. You want to be the
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Speaker 1: person that is good to other people. You want to
24:56
Speaker 1: be the person when you're not in the in the
24:58
Speaker 1: room that people have good things to say about. Period.
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Speaker 1: I think that so often there is this concern, well,
25:08
Speaker 1: if I'm a good person, then I'm gonna get walked
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Speaker 1: all over. That's not it at all. You can be
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Speaker 1: kind and good, but also firm, and so I believe
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Speaker 1: that in order to truly step on the bet step
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Speaker 1: into excuse me, the bet on your self era, you
25:22
Speaker 1: need to choose to be a good person and be
25:26
Speaker 1: kind to others. Something else, when it comes to getting
25:32
Speaker 1: into your own bet on your self era is getting
25:34
Speaker 1: used to know and knowing that no isn't the end all.
25:38
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's just a redirection, and like I said earlier, oftentimes,
25:44
Speaker 1: most always, oftentimes, most always, most always, period a no
25:49
Speaker 1: is actually a yes to something that's even greater. And
25:54
Speaker 1: that redirection may make you feel some kind of way
25:58
Speaker 1: at times, but trust me, and I tell you the
26:01
Speaker 1: knows are happening for you, so get used to them.
26:04
Speaker 1: I hear no a lot more than I hear yes.
26:08
Speaker 1: And sometimes it's easy to look at someone, especially with
26:12
Speaker 1: the highlights of social media, and think that all they
26:15
Speaker 1: hear is yes and compare yourself to that. Robin said
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Speaker 1: something really special in her episode earlier this week, and
26:21
Speaker 1: she said that so often, when you're shooting for a goal,
26:23
Speaker 1: you're comparing yourself at square one to someone that is
26:26
Speaker 1: in a completely different place than you. Her example was
26:30
Speaker 1: that you're starting to write the first chapter of your
26:32
Speaker 1: first book and you're comparing yourself to a New York
26:34
Speaker 1: Times best selling author who's like on their sixth and
26:38
Speaker 1: it just doesn't work like that. It's totally understandable that
26:40
Speaker 1: you're in that place of comparison, it's human nature, right,
26:44
Speaker 1: but that just isn't fair. So get used to know,
26:49
Speaker 1: understand that no is not a dead end, it's just
26:53
Speaker 1: a redirection, and allow that to roll off of you.
26:56
Speaker 1: You can feel your feelings in the no. I want
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Speaker 1: to make that clear. You are human, feel your feelings.
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Speaker 1: But then you owe it to yourself to stand up
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Speaker 1: and ask yourself what's next?
27:09
Speaker 2: Okay?
27:10
Speaker 1: And along with that, the last thing I will tell
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Speaker 1: you in this bet on your self era is be
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Speaker 1: willing to fail. And that is in quotation marks because
27:18
Speaker 1: failing isn't failing if you take the opportunity to learn
27:23
Speaker 1: from the misstep, the side step, the thing that went
27:26
Speaker 1: wrong right, it's a lesson and every failure is an
27:30
Speaker 1: opportunity for us to move forward with new information. And
27:35
Speaker 1: what a privilege that truly is. So again I reiterate
27:40
Speaker 1: on the things you should do, things you should know
27:43
Speaker 1: if you want to bet on yourself.
27:44
Speaker 2: One know who you are.
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Speaker 1: Two, be a good person to others, Three get used
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Speaker 1: to know, and four be willing to fail. I said
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Speaker 1: at the top of this episode that the bet on
27:57
Speaker 1: your self era also requires a certain bit of delusion,
28:02
Speaker 1: and if you don't aim high, you won't know what
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Speaker 1: you're capable of. I'll say that Again, if you don't
28:08
Speaker 1: aim high, then you won't know what you're capable of.
28:12
Speaker 1: So shoot right, like, go for the damn thing. You
28:16
Speaker 1: will never regret betting on yourself, period period. Oh man,
28:24
Speaker 1: what am I excited about for twenty twenty five. It's
28:26
Speaker 1: a good question, It's a really good question. I have
28:30
Speaker 1: some travel that I'm looking forward to this year. It's
28:32
Speaker 1: not booked yet, but I believe that twenty five is
28:35
Speaker 1: the year that I finally get to Sydney, Australia.
28:38
Speaker 2: I've never been to Australia.
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Speaker 1: I also believe that twenty twenty five is the year
28:41
Speaker 1: I go to Mexico City, so I will accept all
28:44
Speaker 1: recommendations on both of these destinations. I also believe that
28:49
Speaker 1: there is a Ted Talk in my future. I believe
28:53
Speaker 1: that there's a morning show segment in my future. I
28:55
Speaker 1: could list my lengthy goals that feel like I am
28:59
Speaker 1: shooting for the moon right now, and maybe that's one
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Speaker 1: way for me to manifest it right But I'm going
29:04
Speaker 1: to keep some of them close to the vest. Can
29:07
Speaker 1: I tell you that once I met a guy at
29:11
Speaker 1: the bar at Rios. If you live in New York,
29:14
Speaker 1: you know, If not, you probably know the pasta sauce.
29:16
Speaker 1: But there's this highly exclusive restaurant up in East Harlem.
29:21
Speaker 1: It's called Raos, and my dad was going there for dinner.
29:26
Speaker 1: He had like a business reservation, and I read that
29:30
Speaker 1: you could go to Raos and just sit at the bar.
29:34
Speaker 1: You can't eat that is reserved for the tables, but
29:37
Speaker 1: you can't go sit at the bar. And so I
29:38
Speaker 1: went to the bar and I said hi to my
29:40
Speaker 1: dad and I went into Raos. I had never been
29:42
Speaker 1: inside before. This is likely in twenty nineteen, I think.
29:45
Speaker 1: And there was a man who used to be a
29:48
Speaker 1: bartender at Raos called Nicki the Vest, So whenever I
29:51
Speaker 1: say this sentence close to the vest, close to the chest,
29:55
Speaker 1: I think of him. Anyway, I ended up sitting at
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Speaker 1: the bar with Nicki the Vest, who at the time
30:01
Speaker 1: was a man like maybe in his late eighties, and
30:04
Speaker 1: he told me so many stories of his days working
30:06
Speaker 1: at Rayos. And keep in mind, like this isn't impossible
30:09
Speaker 1: to get into restaurants, so the people that go there
30:12
Speaker 1: are super notable, high profile. If you will, what happened
30:18
Speaker 1: and then I'll you know, skip this sidebar. Is that
30:22
Speaker 1: someone that worked at Rayos walked up to me, looked
30:24
Speaker 1: at me and gestured for me to come with him.
30:27
Speaker 1: I looked at my dad. My dad said go with him,
30:30
Speaker 1: like he gestured the same thing. The man walks me
30:32
Speaker 1: to a back room and gives me a small plate
30:35
Speaker 1: of penny and meatballs. I am in a storage closet
30:38
Speaker 1: eating Rayos food because they don't let people eat at
30:42
Speaker 1: the bar, and they didn't want me in that restaurant
30:45
Speaker 1: without feeding me. That's like one of my favorite, favorite
30:49
Speaker 1: favorite stories I have of living in New York. Anyway,
30:55
Speaker 1: Oh man, I'm going off the rails twenty twenty four, y'all.
31:00
Speaker 1: It's going to be hard to top. I feel so
31:03
Speaker 1: lucky for what I had the opportunity to do. I
31:06
Speaker 1: think from an inventory perspective when I think about personally
31:11
Speaker 1: what I want for myself in twenty twenty five, I'm
31:14
Speaker 1: really manifesting really great love for myself. I mean that
31:20
Speaker 1: both by meeting someone but also continuing the journey that
31:25
Speaker 1: I've been on of self love. The last twelve months
31:29
Speaker 1: for me tested me in ways that I didn't necessarily anticipate,
31:36
Speaker 1: and I was able to come out on the other
31:39
Speaker 1: side having invested in myself. And I'm so proud for
31:44
Speaker 1: that that I was able to keep up my routine
31:47
Speaker 1: and ask myself what's best for Emily when the answer
31:51
Speaker 1: to that wasn't always an easy one to come to
31:54
Speaker 1: terms with or the most convenient right. And so personally,
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Speaker 1: I seed love for myself in twenty twenty five and
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Speaker 1: it feels good. I'm like sitting here smiling, which feels
32:09
Speaker 1: kind of cheesy. Is that it is that the episode
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Speaker 1: am I turning the page Attention in twenty twenty five,
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Speaker 1: Love in twenty twenty five, good things in twenty twenty five,
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Speaker 1: gathering and hosting in twenty twenty five, more goodness, more greatness,
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Speaker 1: more everything, more love, more life.
32:32
Speaker 2: Thank you, Thank you again.
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Speaker 1: I'd be lost without you, and I cannot wait to
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Speaker 1: see what happens in the next twelve and reflect on
32:44
Speaker 1: it again at this time next year. Like I said
32:47
Speaker 1: at the top, make sure you're following along over at
32:49
Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast, over at Emily Abadi Another Hurdle conquered.
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Speaker 2: Catch you guys, next time
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Speaker 1: You pay in my hair