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Season 2 - Episode 127 - You get to decide… perspective! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So I'm going to do something a little special for the next few
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  days. Not sure how long this is going
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  to go. Because you know, this is rather
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  random with me, but I want to talk to you all about.
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  You get to decide and the theme of the week.
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  You get to decide in many areas of your life.
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  And I know we seem to think that we don't get to decide, but we
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  get to decide a lot and more, pretty much everything we get to
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  decide. There are some things that show
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  up in our lives and we Will this just randomly happened to me?
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  But ultimately, they were previous choices that we made
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  that set us up for these things. So, today, we are talking about
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  taking back our perspective, taking back our perspective,
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  giving us a foundation for understanding that.
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  There's so much that happens around us and we get to decide
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  what it means. For some people you know you
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  hear some something simple and you say it's not going to rain
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  today. I'm so excited, it's not going
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  to rain other people are pissed off.
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  That it's not raining because they don't want to have to water
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  their lawn or their vegetable gardens or whatever it is
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  amazing to me how a condition, a simple condition of anything can
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  take that and put it into somebody's world and all of a
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  sudden they lose their mind over it or they become elated over.
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  I'm just so fascinated by the fact that people can choose to
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  hear and or see or be a part of something and kept completely
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  opposite perspectives. So, When we start to take back
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  our perspective, when we start to say, okay, I get to decide.
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  I am going to choose what this means to me.
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  We can't do it from the emotional state that we are in.
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  I know I talk about this often but I can't drill this into
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  everybody enough, our emotional states, dictate everything.
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  So when we start to have these conversations with ourselves,
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  like for instance someone says something and this happens
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  between me. My husband a lot.
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  Let me just say this because I have hot buttons as well,
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  because guess what? I'm human.
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  And so, there are not many things that push my buttons, but
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  my husband can push my buttons. So he will say something.
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  And immediately, I have an emotional reaction and then that
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  emotional reaction, dictates everything for me, moving
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  forward, as it does for him. So you can't Overlook these
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  things in yourself. But you also have to be super
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  careful about observing them from the right set of emotions
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  to begin with, you can't be skewed, you know, you can't be
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  off to the side and look for a perspective that's clean and
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  clear and straight on. So that means in the emotional
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  World instead of allowing yourself to be heated way up top
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  and trying to figure out what perspective you want to grab,
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  you have to come back down to ground.
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  Are you have to at least get to neutral?
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  You don't have to go all the way from Angry to Joy.
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  That's a huge jump and that's a big driver shift in the bus.
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  But if you can go from Angry to annoyed to neutral, that is
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  really, really good. You're shifting into different
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  places and when you're at neutral, you can then ask
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  yourself what really happened, what really happened?
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  And then guess what? Back to the theme of the week.
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  You get to decide what you want to make it mean.
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  Mmmmm. It could mean absolutely
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  nothing. I mean, I know nine times out of
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  ten when he says something to me, I take it in a way that he
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  probably didn't mean it, but guess what?
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  Because I have my perspectives, I'm going to take things a
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  certain way, and that's going to inflame the situation.
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  So you have to come back to the reality, the filters, the
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  drivers of the bus, dictate everything, and the very first
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  foundational piece. Of this is you get to decide
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  who's driving, you get to decide the perspective.
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  You want to take on, you get to decide the filter of what you
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  are putting into the world, into the situation, into those
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  moments. No one else can decide for you.
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  No one can make you angry. We make ourselves angry.
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  I make myself angry. Now is it validated?
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  Sure, there are times. Absolutely, it's validated and
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  The crazy thing about emotions, they are supposed to all be
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  there to work for you. You have moments where you were
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  completely validated in feeling the way you feel, but you don't
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  have to stay in that emotion. You do not have to stay in that
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  emotion, you can shift it, you can change it and then you can
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  learn from it. And then you can move on because
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  guess what? You get to decide.
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  So I'm going to ask you guys to really start thinking about that
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  this week. You you Get to decide.
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  Nobody else gets to decide, you get to decide and I really am
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  going to push this issue in every single topic this week
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  because I am telling you right now, there is so many people out
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  there that are talking, the talk about all this.
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  This person did this to me and this did this.
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  And that, that I thought that, and this mentality of being
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  overrun by what other people think.
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  And not what you decide for yourself, has got to come to an
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  end. So, I will see you guys
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  tomorrow. I hope you have a very blessed
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  day and a fabulous day and remember you get to decide by I
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  will see you guys tomorrow. I hope you have a very blessed
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  day and a fabulous day and remember you get to decide by