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I Can Do It: Motivational Wisdom to Build Confidence and Strength · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: You're gonna fail. It's okay.
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  Speaker 2: To your knees, your skin bloody fail, and that's okay
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  Speaker 2: because you know what you know down deep inside of
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  Speaker 2: all of you.
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  Speaker 1: That's how you learn. You need to be motivated by failure.
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  Speaker 1: How did you learn how to walk? Or you crawled?
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  Speaker 2: Then you fell down, busted your tooth, got some blood
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  Speaker 2: in your mouth, get up and you walk.
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  Speaker 3: You will fail at some point in your life.
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  Speaker 1: Accepted.
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  Speaker 3: You will lose, you will embarrass yourself, you will.
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  Speaker 1: Suck at something. If you don't fail, you're not even trying.
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  Speaker 4: Failure is a part of the learning process, right. What's
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  Speaker 4: the risk of failure? What you'll be embarrassed or risk
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  Speaker 4: of failure? How do you distinguish failure from learning in
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  Speaker 4: your whole life? Failure implies that it stopped, that the
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  Speaker 4: game stops.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 4: If it's part of you're failing and then you learn,
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  Speaker 4: then that learning is part of the moving forward, Right,
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  Speaker 4: So that is what the process is like, fail learn,
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  Speaker 4: move forward and constantly do that because you're cutting edge,
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  Speaker 4: you're going where people haven't been before.
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  Speaker 2: Success is merely the hangover of failure, and that failure
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  Speaker 2: is an essential ingredient in creating a learning atmosphere for
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  Speaker 2: you so that you can accrue those learnings, those small
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  Speaker 2: incremental steps of failure, and collect enough learning so that
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  Speaker 2: you can arrive at success. Right. I think we're taught
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  Speaker 2: in the system that failure is something that you should
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  Speaker 2: be ashamed of. Failure is for dumb kids, because you
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  Speaker 2: get an F, you get a D. Right, you're not competent,
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  Speaker 2: you didn't comply, you didn't create the evidence of your worthiness.
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  Speaker 2: Success doesn't look like an A plus, it doesn't look
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  Speaker 2: like one hundred and ten in extra credit. And failure
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  Speaker 2: isn't as simple as an F and it's not always
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  Speaker 2: always a failure could be very gray, right, and being
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  Speaker 2: able to discern what you might arrive at an event
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  Speaker 2: or in your life where you think that, wow, I've
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  Speaker 2: succeeded and you're getting the affirmation from all these outside forces.
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  Speaker 2: But if it's not aligned authentically with to whom which
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  Speaker 2: you are, it could very much feel like failure.
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  Speaker 1: Failure is part of life.
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  Speaker 5: I mean. The difference for me, though, is I look
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  Speaker 5: at failure as a snupping stone to success. It's a
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  Speaker 5: speed bump. I know I'm gonna fail, but it's not
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  Speaker 5: failure if you learn something. And so gosh, I've made
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  Speaker 5: so many mistakes. I've screened so many things out. But
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  Speaker 5: every time I do, it just becomes it becomes away
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  Speaker 5: from me to explain to someone else.
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  Speaker 1: What it takes. You know, it's like, here's what I've done.
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  Speaker 5: And I think I have a building influence people because
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  Speaker 5: I talk about my failures. I talk about all the
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  Speaker 5: things that messed me up, but I show people that
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  Speaker 5: didn't let it stop me, and you don't need to
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  Speaker 5: need to stop you. And I think I think that's
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  Speaker 5: really the secret in that area.
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  Speaker 1: See, if you're playing it safe, you're not gonna win.
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  Speaker 6: If you're playing at safe like that old say, you
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  Speaker 6: know you're tough and you're a little girl. Better to
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  Speaker 6: be safe than sorry, Well that's a bunch of crap.
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  Speaker 6: It's not better to be safe than sorry. It's by
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  Speaker 6: trying things that you figure out how far you can go.
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  Speaker 1: You got to get outside the box.
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  Speaker 6: Like it's reported Edison tried three thousand ways before he
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  Speaker 6: built the incandescent light. He said he didn't bail three
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  Speaker 6: thousand times. He said there was three thousand different steps
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  Speaker 6: to building a light bulb. Well, there's different steps to
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  Speaker 6: get to where you're going. And I really do treat
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  Speaker 6: winning and losing exactly the same.
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  Speaker 1: I do not let it upset me.
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  Speaker 7: It wasn't as though in creating these companies that we
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  Speaker 7: thought that we would be successful.
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  Speaker 1: I thought that the most likely outcome was failure.
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  Speaker 7: But it was still worth doing even though the the
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  Speaker 7: odds of success were low.
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  Speaker 8: If you constantly remind yourself after every defeat, after every setback,
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  Speaker 8: every time you get knocked down. I've got a saying,
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  Speaker 8: if life knocks you down, try and land on your back,
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  Speaker 8: because if you can look up, you can get up.
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  Speaker 8: See a lot of people because of failure, they stop,
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  Speaker 8: they stopped believing.
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  Speaker 1: Let me share something with you. You will fail your
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  Speaker 1: way to success.
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  Speaker 8: Yes, eight out of ten millionaires have been financially bankrupt.
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  Speaker 8: You will fail your way to success. It doesn't matter
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  Speaker 8: how many times you fail. It doesn't matter how many
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  Speaker 8: times people tell you that you can't do it. It
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  Speaker 8: doesn't matter if you don't have a dime.
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  Speaker 1: In that bank. You will feel your way to success.
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  Speaker 9: Getting it wrong isn't that bad. That's the other thing.
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  Speaker 9: When when when we make mistakes, and we've made doozies
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  Speaker 9: like the fire phone, and many other things that just
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  Speaker 9: didn't work out. I could. We don't have enough time
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  Speaker 9: for me to list all of our failed experiments. But
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  Speaker 9: the big winners pay for thousands of failed experiments. So
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  Speaker 9: you try something like prime and it was very expensive
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  Speaker 9: at the beginning.
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  Speaker 1: It costs us a lot of money.
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  Speaker 9: Because what happens when you offer a free all you
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  Speaker 9: can eat buffet? Who shows up to the buffet first?
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  Speaker 1: The heavy eaters. It's scary.
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  Speaker 9: It's like, oh my god, did I really say as
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  Speaker 9: many prons as you can eat? And and so that
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  Speaker 9: is what happened. But surely we could see the trend lines.
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  Speaker 9: We could see that, you know, the different all kinds
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  Speaker 9: of customers were coming and they appreciated that service.
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  Speaker 6: Like if I'm into an idea, the ideal of losing
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  Speaker 6: never enters my mind.
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  Speaker 1: I have worked with giants.
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  Speaker 6: I had the good fortune of working with Sir Edmond Hillary.
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  Speaker 6: He was the first man to stand on top of
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  Speaker 6: the world. And I worked with.
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  Speaker 1: Him on three different occasions.
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  Speaker 6: And the only difference in ed Hillary and Bob Procter
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  Speaker 6: is in his size. Now he's gone now, but he
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  Speaker 6: was a big man. He shook hands with me, his
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  Speaker 6: hand wrapped right around mine. I felt like a dwarf,
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  Speaker 6: you know, and and talked to him like it never
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  Speaker 6: entered his mind.
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  Speaker 1: He wouldn't get to the top of the mountain.
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  Speaker 10: But he failed in nineteen fifty one, he failed in
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  Speaker 10: nineteen fifty two. There wasn't until nineteen fifty three that
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  Speaker 10: he got to the top of the mountain. Now people
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  Speaker 10: had died for centuries trying to do that.
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  Speaker 1: He said, I know.
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  Speaker 6: If I could see it in here, I get hold
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  Speaker 6: it out here still. A man wrote that in the
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  Speaker 6: book you can see it in your head, you can
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  Speaker 6: hold it in your hand.
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  Speaker 1: And that's right.
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  Speaker 6: And if you're not prepared to lose, you're never gonna
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  Speaker 6: win because you're always paying it safe and there's no there's.
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  Speaker 1: No rewarding that. I like micro failure. I like micro failure.
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  Speaker 7: I hate macro failure, like death of your business is
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  Speaker 7: bad to me. You know what's funny, I'll use a
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  Speaker 7: boxing analogy.
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  Speaker 1: My favorite boxing BA. I watch a lot of boxing.
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  Speaker 7: I think boxing is are very interesting and I know
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  Speaker 7: and I'm super into mixed martial arts, but I grew
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  Speaker 7: up on boxing. I understand it better and I like
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  Speaker 7: watching it because there's so many things that happen in boxing.
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  Speaker 7: First of all, what I love about boxing is there's
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  Speaker 7: nowhere to hide, you know, like it's super interesting, right,
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  Speaker 7: there's no.
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  Speaker 1: Where to hide.
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  Speaker 7: Number two, there's some there's a scenario boxing that I
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  Speaker 7: love the most. There's, for some reason, there's nothing more
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  Speaker 7: interesting to me than watching somebody get knocked down in
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  Speaker 7: the first round and then go on to win the
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  Speaker 7: fight easily. It's an interesting psyche, right, And I like that.
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  Speaker 7: And this is what I'm thinking about it, which is like,
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  Speaker 7: here's what's bad in boxing and in business. Going into
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  Speaker 7: a fight getting knocked the fuck out in the first
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  Speaker 7: round and losing the match bad. Getting knocked down and
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  Speaker 7: then having the adversity to readjust to what you got
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  Speaker 7: caught on and navigating it to easily win a fight
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  Speaker 7: is remarkable. That's how I think about entrepreneurship people.
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  Speaker 1: The reason so many.
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  Speaker 7: People struggle with entrepreneurship is you have micro failures almost daily,
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  Speaker 7: and they're very in your face. You can't hide.
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  Speaker 1: And I like that.
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  Speaker 7: I like failure because I think I deserve it. I
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  Speaker 7: hate when people don't respect the game. When I fail,
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  Speaker 7: it means I though, And I like that because I
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  Speaker 7: think people get audaciously.
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  Speaker 3: You don't make excuses for the failure.
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  Speaker 1: You grieve it. You feel the pain.
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  Speaker 3: You don't brush it off, you don't downplay it. You
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  Speaker 3: feel the pain, and you don't rush to feel better. Now, listen,
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  Speaker 3: this is the principle of life.
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  Speaker 1: I'm about to tell you.
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  Speaker 3: To get past it, you gotta.
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  Speaker 1: Go through it.
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  Speaker 3: That's true in so many areas, but it's particularly true
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  Speaker 3: with failure. To get past your failure, that failure in
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  Speaker 3: your eye, you gotta go through it. You can't go
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  Speaker 3: around your failure. You can't go over your failure. You
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  Speaker 3: can't go under your failure. You can't ignore your failure.
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  Speaker 3: You need to grieve the failure. You need to feel
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  Speaker 3: the pain. Now, we don't like feeling bad, but grief
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  Speaker 3: is a good thing. Grief is the way we get
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  Speaker 3: through the failure, and grief is the way we learn
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  Speaker 3: the lessons. So often we want to just when we fail,
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  Speaker 3: we want to just forget it, push it aside, stuff
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  Speaker 3: our emotions, and then immediately go to the next thing.
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  Speaker 3: When you stuff your emotions, when you swallow your emotions,
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  Speaker 3: your stomach keeps score. It's kind of like what if
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  Speaker 3: you t can of coke, and you shook it up
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  Speaker 3: for a long time, and then you put it in
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  Speaker 3: the freezer. What's gonna happen to it. It's gonna explode eventually,
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  Speaker 3: it's gonna come out sideways. And this happens in your
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  Speaker 3: life when you don't deal with your emotions properly. This
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  Speaker 3: is why sometimes six months after failure, a marriage falls apart,
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  Speaker 3: or six months after somebody gets laid off work, there's
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  Speaker 3: another problem, and there's a physical health problem. Things like this,
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  Speaker 3: because you've shaken up the can and you've got all
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  Speaker 3: these emotions feeling inside of shame and regret and fear
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  Speaker 3: and insecurity and all the things that come with failure,
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  Speaker 3: and you're not dealing with them, and so you shake
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  Speaker 3: it up and you said, we're just gonna put this
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  Speaker 3: in refrigerator, try to forget about it, and we're going
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  Speaker 3: to freeze it. And it's gonna explode, and it's gonna
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  Speaker 3: come out sideways in an affair or in wrong behavior,
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  Speaker 3: or in impulsivity or an addiction, or all kinds of
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  Speaker 3: other things. I have seen this thousands of times in
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  Speaker 3: people's life. You don't minimize it, you don't rush to
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  Speaker 3: feel better, to get past your failure. You've got to
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  Speaker 3: go through the failure