Transcript

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I'm Stephanie.
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I'm Meredith.
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And welcome to This is My Circus.
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What's up, Stef?
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Oh, nothing.
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How are you?
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I'm okay.
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It's Sunday afternoon.
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You know, I don't have the Sunday afternoon, Depression where Monday has hit yet comes around like six, seven.
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Usually it comes after if, after my Sunday afternoon nap, I wake up and I'm like, Oh man, this again.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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Right.
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Absolutely.
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Yeah, it's hot outside, been working in the yard, enjoying getting some fresh air.
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We went to, the lacrosse this weekend.
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So it was, So hot.
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Yeah.
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Um, on Friday night it was hot, like really hot.
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There was no breeze, right?
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No.
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So, yeah.
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And then, yesterday it wasn't as bad because there was an overcast.
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So, yeah, it was hot, but it wasn't like the sun beating on you hot.
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Right.
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So, But it was cool.
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Like, it was a good time yesterday.
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There was a fight on the field.
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It was awesome.
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So we live for.
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Yeah.
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Um, and you know, it's not our kids.
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So it's like, we're invested where you got to go, you know, break up a fight or you know, one dude was just like dragged out from underneath like this, like the pile.
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It was, yeah, it was bananas.
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So it was that just a tournament for the weekend or are they, you said they're bringing them to Charlotte.
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Was that the same team that they're breaking?
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Yes.
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There was actually four, four games.
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Um, but the home team is called chaos and so they played twice.
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They played once on Friday, once on Saturday.
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but that is like professional lacrosse and so they do tour around.
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It's kind of like football, you know, they play in different cities or whatever.
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So, but it was really cool and good kids liked it.
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Yeah.
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So, yeah, but I think Dylan was just really tired.
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We had a lot going on this weekend.
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So besides that, so he was.
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You know, ready to leave a little bit early yesterday, because he was just exhausted.
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Yeah.
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And plus being in the heat like that.
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We've had a busy weekend too.
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I've not, I've had a busy weekend being Jackson's taxi transportation.
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And I don't even remember what we've done.
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I mean, yesterday he went to a friend's house.
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But it was about 35 minutes away.
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So by the time you go and then, yeah, drop them off and, you know, make sure that the parents, it's okay that it's not just random plans that the kids have made that you just, you know, yes, we've been there.
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that, you know, that took a big chunk of time and then, you know, just had to go back and get them today.
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He's at a football camp today.
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Oh, he is at Gardner web doing some drills and stuff out there for their prospect camp.
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So hopefully it goes well.
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I know.
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I know.
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So good.
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Like, like he is just like built for football.
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He is.
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And he's actually, I love the upperclassmen that he plays with.
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I just think they are amazing.
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Those kids were great to him.
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And, um, so one of them came and picked him up today and was driving him.
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Aww.
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And, yep, Peyton Root, Bubba.
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He'll be a senior, or he is a senior, I guess, since they're out of school.
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he came and picked him up and taking him and bringing him back.
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That's just so kind.
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Yes.
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So to bring a little punk with you, you know, it's just, so I can't wait to hear how that goes.
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Yeah.
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Some friends texted and they're going to see the new Bad Boys movie, which I want to see so bad, but I think he'll be too exhausted to go later.
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Yeah.
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Have you seen the previews for it?
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I did, but now I'm so like conflicted.
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I know.
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I know.
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Yeah.
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I know.
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I'm so conflicted I'm going.
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Oh, I want to separate everything though.
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I know, I do too, but then I'm like.
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But you can't.
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I know.
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No, like and I just, oh, I don't know.
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I'm very conflicted.
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It is tough.
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It is tough.
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I was blown away watching the previews.
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They look the same, but so different.
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I know.
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Like that surgery is or fillers or whatever they got going on.
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Yeah.
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They have not shied away from that, have they?
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No.
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Which, no judgment.
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Give me all of it.
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Oh, me too.
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Like, listen, I, I would, I have the money, I would be from head to toe, I would be redone, sucked, plopped, plopped, nip, tuck, all of the things.
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I was trying to say that slow because I didn't want some of those letters to get mixed up.
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My letters get mixed up a lot.
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Absolutely.
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Um, what'd you think of our book?
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Oh, well, I loved it.
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Yes.
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Cause you had already, did you reread it?
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No, I just, um Kind of like re I just like glanced through it.
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Yeah, I didn't like reread the whole thing So this was the kind worth saving by Peter Swanson, yes do you have a blurb?
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I do.
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A private eye starts to follow a possibly adulterous husband, but little does he know that the twisted trail will lead back to the woman who hired him.
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There was always something slightly dangerous about Joan.
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So when she turns up at private investigator Harry Kimball's office asking him to investigate her husband, he can't help feeling ill at ease.
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Just the sight of her stirs up a chilling memory.
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He knew Joan in his previous life as a high school English teacher when he was at the center of a tragedy.
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Now Joan needs his help proving that her husband is cheating.
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But Should be a simple case of infidelity becomes much more complicated when Kimball finds two bodies in an uninhabited suburban home with a for sale sign out front.
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Suddenly it feels like the past is repeating itself and Henry must go back to one of the worst days of his life to uncover the truth.
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Is it possible that Joan knows something about that day?
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Something she's hidden all these years?
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Could there still be a killer out there?
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Someone who believes they have gotten away with murder?
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Henry is determined to find out, enlisting help from his old nemesis, Lily Kittner.
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But as he steps closer to the truth, a murderer is getting closer to him, and in his hair raising game of cat and mouse, only one of them will survive.
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So much going on.
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So I listened to it.
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Yes.
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I listened to it twice, actually.
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Oh, okay.
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Because I wanted to go back and and re listen to a little bit of the part where he went back to see Lily.
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Because it's like, okay, he's working on this thing and all of a sudden he's like, I need to go see Lily and figure, help her, get her to help me figure this out.
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Yeah.
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I loved this book.
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So did I.
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I love this author.
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Right.
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I'm so glad we found this author because I actually just finished another book that he, yeah, he wrote.
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Okay.
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And it wasn't like part of this.
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Yeah.
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But it was just as good.
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Yeah.
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Like I love his writing style.
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I do too.
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What was your favorite part of the book?
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So, I loved that Lily came.
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to find this chick because she knew what was going on.
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Like she knew from the get go.
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Like she, I mean, I guess like minds, you know, know each other or whatever.
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And I love that.
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She like totally changed her look.
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Oh yeah.
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Like she went like all out.
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Like she had her stuff together.
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We need her to write the book on how to get away with these things.
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Well, when I said I wanted to go back and listen, like I forgot.
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that lily was a bad person or not a bad person she had committed crimes yes and until like she does these things and gets involved in the end i was like oh he's just wanting to go talk to this woman who has a crush on you know the friend and just and then i'm like well yep she's she's pretty naughty too well i thought it was so interesting that he basically helped cover up yes at the last right Like he, like smoothed all that over.
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Right, because that, so that first book, The Kind Worth Killing, that's where it ends, where she gets the call that all of her past crimes are gonna get figured out.
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Right.
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And yeah, it's revealed in this book that she tells him and she's like, you know, I had freedom and letting it go.
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It was not my deal anymore.
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And he went and he loves her.
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He loves her so much.
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He is like.
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And so do you think she loves him back?
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I do.
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I do.
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And I think in the last book, she said that she could see herself with him forever, but she had this horrible weight on her that she would never be able to tell him.
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Yeah.
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And she was falling for him in the last book.
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Yeah, you're right.
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I forgot about that.
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You're right.
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so I do think that she loves him and I want a third book.
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Yeah.
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Always where they get together.
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Yeah.
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Well, I was wondering cause you know, she's obviously got some some psychological stuff going on just wondered if she had the ability to love yeah Like if she could do that, cause you know, sometimes when, you know, when they are the psychopaths or the serious, yeah, whatever.
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Yeah.
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They don't have that ability to actually love somebody the way, you know, nor quote normal people can.
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Yeah.
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I do.
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I think she could, I think, I think, I mean, she said she was falling for him and that she could see herself with him.
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And I do, I think that she does love these people because she gets to see them.
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So attached to them, and then when they do her wrong Yeah.
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That's when she loses it.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So I do think that she has the ability to care in some way.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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maybe not in like the normals Right.
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Normal sense.
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Right.
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But I do think she could Yeah.
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Be in, in a relationship.
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Well, I don't think that she would do what she did if she didn't have some kind of feelings for him.
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Right, right.
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I think that that like proves.
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That, okay, she might not be able to love him in the conventional sense, like, like we said, normal people would, but she can kill for him or whatever.
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But, you know, like, he got kind of obsessive too.
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Oh, yeah.
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So, like, you know, he's got something going on too.
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Yes.
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So, they might be, like, the match made in heaven.
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Maybe.
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Hopefully, book three, Peter Swanson, we'd love to know.
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Love, love, love to know.
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You know, all his books sound really good.
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Good.
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Okay.
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My possibly new favorite author.
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Okay.
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Yeah.
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I really liked, I really, really liked it.
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I had to go back and listen to the beginning too, because I was like, wait, what?
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This is the, you know, I was like, it was a lot of back and forth still didn't get lost, but sometimes I zone out when I'm listening to stuff.
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And I just wanted to go back and make sure I was getting the people in the right place because there was a lot of characters.
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It was, but it was a good one.
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What did you think?
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Uh, the main chick Joan.
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She had a lot of problems.
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So where Lily does bad stuff.
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Right.
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We know that.
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Um, but I still think that she does it in her head out of like.
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For the greater good.
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Right.
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Um, Joan is just straight up like evil.
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She is like, she's like, well, you pissed me off.
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Right.
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And I want you gone.
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Right.
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It's, it's not like somebody did something bad to her and she was like her friend, like talked crap about her behind her back.
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And so that was like a reason to offer.
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Right.
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Very much so.
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So like you were saying as to where Lily just that was the way that she saw the world was that she could take revenge Joan just sees that she can just do this to people because she's evil.
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Like you said I don't even think Lily thinks of it as revenge I think that she thinks that like she is like judge jury executioner.
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Okay for like moral And it's okay for her to do that.
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Right.
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She doesn't see anything necessarily wrong with.
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Because she thinks that she's doing like the greater good of work.
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Yeah.
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where Joan, it was just straight revenge.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So her friend she made that was interesting, but it's kind of like you were saying, like kind of attracts like, and Yeah.
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Um, like he had that weird darkness in him too.
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He like, yeah.
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Absolutely.
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He made me kind of sad.
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I just wonder, I mean, he was obviously twisted and he didn't care.
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I'm sure he killed animals and played with fire and went to bed and all the things that they'd say.
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But I don't know.
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I just I wonder if he wouldn't have met John would he have still done all this stuff?
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No, I don't think he would have he was just and he was in love with her.
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Yeah, I am and she knew that and Manipulated every twist and turn.
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Yes.
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I'd yes.
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He's that for her own Okay, whatever not even gained.
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She didn't what does she even gain?
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question What did you, okay, and spoilers, we all know.
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Were you surprised with the book bag situation in the office with the detective?
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How that played out?
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I thought that he was going to do something, but I didn't see it.
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As what happened.
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Me neither.
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I don't want to say exactly what happened.
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I know, I know.
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I'm trying to be careful too, but usually the situations don't play out quite like that.
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Right.
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so I was very surprised that the author took that twist.
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Yeah, yeah, same.
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Which is another reason I love this guy, like you were saying, because he does things that are different.
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Yeah.
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What did you think about, The parents getting back in the same house.
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Oh my gosh that made me I mean that just was funny to me.
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So I like picturing this as a movie right when I'm listening like I envision like characters and like yeah, like and so I'm just like picturing this like little old like almost like, you know Like Sophia from Golden Girls As like the mom and like like I just picturing these like older, you know, right going back and forth So I like I loved that Kind of almost comic relief of it.
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Absolutely.
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For such a heavy Right.
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Topic, I guess.
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Well, and what I liked about that too is that because Lily does do these bad things, like her dad was like, I can't find my book.
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And she was like, have you looked on the yellow table?
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Like it was just so mundane.
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Just so everyday life.
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And then not let me go plan a murder or whatever she was going to do.
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But it definitely brought some lightheartedness in there.
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Yeah.
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The way that it was agreed.
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Yeah.
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It was, it was funny.
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So I, I, I love the book.
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I thought it was written so well.
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Yeah.
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And it tied the two together good.
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It wasn't like overly, harping on the first book.
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Right.
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Like trying to like, Bite off of it as much right, you know, whatever it was such a good spinoff.
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Yes I agree and a lot of times when you have you know books back in a series the second book or third fourth is the first chapter or two is nothing but explaining before and This one didn't even really start tying in the other book until yeah till later in it for a little bit.
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I was like wait What's what?
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but again, just the Scott did really well with that.
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But I think even if you read this book without reading the first book, you could have, you would be easy to follow.
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Yeah.
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Absolutely.
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Even though they didn't dig too deep in the first one, you got enough that you knew what was going to happen or what had happened.
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Yeah.
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Um, loved it.
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What would you give it?
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9.
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5.
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Ooh! 9.
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5! Um, yeah, I'd give it a lot, too.
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9.
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47.
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Um, I like, yeah, I like that one a lot.
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Our, next book that we're going to read is called What Lies in the Woods.
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And so I listened to it when it first came out.
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And so, but I didn't remember it.
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Okay.
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I, as I was listening, I was like, Oh, I, I read, I know I've read this before.
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Okay.
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But, um, yeah.
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Okay.
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So you're already ready, ready for it.
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Um, and that's by Kate Alice Marshall.
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Yes.
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Okay.
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so that'll be, that'll be what we talk about next week.
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Are you, did you, you said you finished another one by Peter Swanson?
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Um, I started reading the Bridgerton series I really am into the bridgerton Show i've talked to you just for a second about that But I started reading the books just to because you know, the books are always better much more I wish I would have read the books before but I didn't know and here we are so reading those Awesome.
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Um, and okay, so I want to tell you about a couple of things I've been watching on the TV too.
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So I'll watch dancing for the devil.
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Have you seen the previews for that?
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I did.
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I saw the stuff on Tik Tok.
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That's like all over.
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Yes.
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The little clips.
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Yes.
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I don't understand to be very honest with you.
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So all these dancers on Tik Tok and that most of them from this group dance to older songs.
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And it's just usually one or two, maybe three people.
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And they're doing just a quick routine for, I've always loved to watch dancers.
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I danced when I was little and I just love, love it.
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Did you dance?
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No, but I want to see you dance.
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Oh, no, not anymore.
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You don't.
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I didn't the whole tap jazz ballet.
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Like I loved it.
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I mean, I did, I did like a couple of years, but like, yeah, I didn't stick to it.
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Yeah.
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I loved it.
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I'm not graceful.
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I can like, Booty shake.
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I did like bump and grind.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Um, give me some Usher.
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Oh yeah.
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I saw this thing the other day on Instagram.
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I think it was like, it's so funny how we've gone to clubbing and dancing to Usher to check in our plants at eight o'clock in the morning the next day.
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Life has changed.
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Um, anyway, it's only three episodes.
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And the main people in it are the sisters, Melinda and Miranda, I think are their names.
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And, Basically, one of them gets swept up in this cult that's run by this Preacher Who makes her isolate everybody?
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I don't, I don't understand.
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I'm gonna have to watch it again or watch it and not play Candy Crush or something because or whatever I was doing.
16:54
Yeah, same.
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cause some of those things are just like what?
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Why is this?
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What is going on?
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Yeah.
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So if you know more information, fill me in.
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If you can give me the dummy version.
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I don't, I just saw some clips of the documentary and then people like commenting on it, but I don't really know a lot about it.
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I ended up watching the, the Nick and Aaron car.
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I started watching some of that too.
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I didn't watch a lot of it, but did you notice Puffy was in it?
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Yes.
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Um, okay, but to our listeners, if you can give me like the dummy version of that.
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Whatever.
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Please let me know because I'm missing something.
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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Did you watch the whole thing?
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I did.
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Was it Fallen Angels?
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Uh, Fallen Idols.
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Uh, so it's four episodes.
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Okay.
17:35
and so basically the parents are horrible, awful people that just use their kids to pay their bills.
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Right.
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They're related to Brittany's family at all.
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Right.
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Yeah.
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and then they pin the kids against each other, Really?
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Like just created this horrible dynamic.
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And of course, you know, it goes into, all these accusations against Nick Carter, which are in court right now.
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So, now he wasn't in the documentary, right?
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Like the whole documentary was like basically everybody else talking about.
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So it was his accusers.
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Yeah.
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It was, one of their cousins.
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Okay.
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Um, it was some media people.
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Okay.
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that was like given, the media view of it.
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Yep.
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And, I'm not sure who else I think Aaron Carter's baby mama.
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Okay.
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but nobody from like Nick's camp is allowed to, or didn't want to, they gave, um, statements that were like put at the end.
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Um, and that, they're probably very generic.
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I didn't know much about Aaron Carter.
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Like, he was kind of like, after my time, you know, like, I grew up with the Nick Carter nation, you know, um, but, um, so I didn't really know a lot about Aaron Carter.
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And just listening to this story was heartbreaking, like completely heartbreaking.
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he started at like an age of seven and the music industry, or, you know, like really, really young.
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and I think he had an easy transition into it because of Nick.
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but his parents saw the dollar signs and pushed him into this career.
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So it's.
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Awful.
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once Nick was old enough to get out of the family, they then put everything on Aaron.
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Like you have to pay all these bills.
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You have to do this.
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You are, you are responsible for all of our well being basically.
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I don't remember what year he died.
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Do you?
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I'll swap your head.
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We'll google it.
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But he had a twin sister.
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Yeah.
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I'm not sure if she died.
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One of the other, one of their sisters also died.
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Yeah.
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I mean like so much tragedy in this family is, it's just unreal.
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Yeah.
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So it went in.
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2022 is when he died.
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So Aaron reached out to the accusers because he believed them like he saw.
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Okay.
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Yeah, supposedly and Was it a sexual that he was accused of younger girls?
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Okay, like 14 15.
19:48
Okay Um while he was not 14 15, right?
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Well, he was an adult, right?
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so Aaron reached said that he believed him.
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He was going to use his platform, you know, and he did, he called out Nick, on social media.
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He said that he believed these people.
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He went on interviews and then his family turned on him.
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The public turned on him.
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he was.
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an addict, he had gotten clean.
20:15
People were sending him like things in the mail, like to it was awful.
20:19
Like it was, it was like the saddest thing ever.
20:24
So then he, cause he couldn't take any more of the people saying stuff and like sending, you know, sending awful threats and all this, all the things, he recanted his statement, saying he believed the accusers.
20:38
Oh my goodness.
20:39
Like just to try to make it stop.
20:41
Yeah.
20:42
And then he really like relapsed and that's when he.
20:45
And makes me wonder if there was some, if it was an assisted suicide or, whatever.
20:52
I don't know.
20:53
Who knows.
20:54
Who knows?
20:55
He was on an Instagram live right before it happened.
20:58
Was he, like taking a bunch of stuff and like, it showed like the Instagram live.
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and it was like somebody called the cops, he's gonna die like's like, oh gosh.
21:07
And stuff.
21:07
Yeah.
21:08
Um, oh my God.
21:10
And he's got a baby.
21:11
Like, it was so sad.
21:12
they showed the mom at the end, his baby mama.
21:15
Yeah.
21:15
With the, with the son and.
21:18
She was watching the Sesame Street episode where Nick and Aaron were on it together.
21:24
It was so sad.
21:25
That is sad.
21:26
Gosh, I hate it.
21:28
And she said like, this is all he's going to know of his dad and like, you know, whatever public record basically.
21:33
Right.
21:34
So, oh, it was sad.
21:36
I, again, didn't know anything about Aaron Carter.
21:39
Yeah.
21:40
going into this.
21:41
And then you hear these like girls.
21:44
stories.
21:45
some of them are very believable.
21:47
And then it's like one of them, I was like, you're right.
21:51
Yeah.
21:52
But I mean, of course you want to believe people when they do this, but there's also like other aspects, dollar signs.
22:00
Oh yeah.
22:01
So, it's still in court and litigation and, and we'll let that play out through the court system.
22:06
Oh my goodness.
22:07
do you know the Madeline McCann story?
22:10
Yes.
22:10
There was an update this week.
22:12
I did see that.
22:12
So just a quick little backstory.
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She was three years old.
22:17
Maybe four and it was in 2007 and her family was on vacation in Portugal with German Portugal I think and she got abducted while her parents were hanging out with other adults Basically, she was in the room That was their setup all the kids would stay in their rooms and the parents every so often would like do a walk by and Check on everybody they don't know if they missed a rotation or what, but anyway, she was missing.
22:44
And there was just the update this week was that they found some emails, on one of the guys they had their eyes on anyway.
22:50
Oh, he's, he is arrested for, saying that they did already find on his computer.
22:54
Okay.
22:54
He was already, in prison, I think for that child thing stuff.
22:59
Oh, well.
23:00
How does he tie into the resort they were at?
23:02
Do you know?
23:03
Was he a guest or did he work there?
23:05
I, I believe so, but he was on, um, like the CCTV or whatever.
23:09
Okay.
23:10
He had walked by or there was some kind of like Okay.
23:13
Well, that's, that's one of those cases.
23:16
It's always been like, this makes zero sense.
23:18
For real.
23:18
So, um Did you see the update in the Memphis Three?
23:22
No.
23:23
And I want to correct something I said.
23:26
I think I caught him like, I caught him something else when we were talking about the West Memphis Three.
23:31
I caught him like, I don't know.
23:33
I didn't catch it, but yes.
23:34
So it is the West Memphis Three, I think is what it is.
23:37
Okay.
23:37
No, tell me.
23:38
So the DNA.
23:40
Yes.
23:40
you know, they've been trying to get the DNA.
23:41
Yes.
23:42
DNA came back as one of the three's.
23:46
Stepfather?
23:46
Yes.
23:48
I know that was the.
23:50
Assumption that people were making, but it was, but they will not overturn the actual conviction because they, they pleaded guilty just so that they can get out of jail.
24:02
And I just forgot what that's called.
24:05
Alfred plea, yeah, yeah, now are they gonna be able to prosecute this dude I'm not sure that all it was was like this update a blur they came back and it was the stepfather But it makes me think that because the other dudes did I mean, as far as they, that's solved.
24:22
They pled guilty.
24:23
It's, it's closed.
24:25
Yeah.
24:25
Yeah.
24:26
So maybe they'll try to find something else, like a speaking ticket.
24:30
They can't get the scowl or something.
24:31
I don't know.
24:33
Yeah.
24:33
Crazy.
24:34
I was like, good grief.
24:35
Yeah, I hope they can figure that out.
24:37
Did you see that video?
24:39
Where the people were, you know like those drive thru zoos?
24:42
Yeah.
24:43
Like you could feed the animals.
24:44
Yeah.
24:44
Did you see the video where the giraffe picked up the toddler?
24:48
No.
24:49
Oh my gosh.
24:50
With like his lips?
24:51
Yes.
24:52
I mean how else would he do it?
24:55
What, what happened?
24:56
The kid was sitting in the back of the truck with the mom and like holding the, the food bucket, but was holding it like, here, Uhhuh and the giraffe picks up the kid by the shirt and the mom was like, Hey.
25:08
And I think it startled the giraffe and like.
25:10
She, I mean, she had the, she had the baby, but um, oh my gosh.
25:14
The video was so funny though.
25:16
And like you just see the kid like, oh my God.
25:19
I was picturing giraffes bent over, like their lips, like suction into the top of a baby's head.
25:24
No, like pulling'em up.
25:25
Like the shirt I think he got by the shirt.
25:28
That's crazy.
25:29
A video like whoever was like behind Right.
25:32
Had a video of it.
25:34
Yeah, that's pretty much it.
25:35
When I used to sub for Clover Schools, I went on a field trip, when I said that one day, like, that was like, it's like, this is great.
25:43
Yeah.
25:44
Yeah.
25:46
So, but, uh, a peacock, those things are huge in like, in real life.
25:50
Yeah.
25:51
And so we were setting up for lunch on the picnic tables and this peacock comes swooping in and like almost takes out like, Oh, and I was like, okay, that was no, no, no, no.
26:04
Oh my goodness.
26:05
It's a peacock.
26:07
It's like, oh, it's feathers, like, oh, wow.
26:09
It wasn't pretty though.
26:11
Or were you just to the facts, right?
26:13
You're like, Oh, that was a bird.
26:16
No, I have a funny story about, and I can't believe I'm going to tell you this.
26:20
So you probably don't have to take this out.
26:22
I took Jackson one day.
26:24
And, still during COVID, it was so busy.
26:27
Cause that was like one of the only things that was open.
26:30
Um, and just for people that don't know, it is a drive through zoo.
26:34
You can feed the animals and stuff, but you stay in your vehicle.
26:37
They sometimes have this thing where you can, get out and ride a wagon, but that was closed during the time.
26:41
So it was something to do, to get out of the house, whatever.
26:44
So Jackson on it.
26:45
It was back to back bumper to bumper traffic.
26:49
What was supposed to have been just probably a maybe 45 minute ride through ended up being like four hours.
26:58
We had bought these buckets for the food and we were like almost done.
27:05
I had to pee so bad.
27:08
Did you pee in the bucket?
27:09
I've tried.
27:10
And then I got stage fright because Jackson was like laughing so hard.
27:15
I tried to pee in the bucket while I'm driving.
27:18
It was so bad.
27:19
The people in front of us were going so like, there are certain animals that are like wandering around, like there's pigs everywhere.
27:26
Yeah.
27:26
And at the end there was more pigs.
27:28
I was like, you've already seen all the freaking pigs just go.
27:31
I put that bucket under me in the driver's seat, my head all up in the roof of the car, and tried to pee.
27:37
And then I got stage fright and couldn't pee.
27:40
And then I think I did pee a little bit, but then it was just like so awkward.
27:43
But it was like one of those where I was just in so much pain.
27:48
So that's my story.
27:49
Will you take that out?
27:51
No, you won't.
27:53
If you want me to, I will.
27:55
Oh my gosh.
27:56
Yeah.
27:56
I saw the video and I was just like, oh my gosh, could you imagine like this freaking giraffe that you think is going to be like the kindest, sweetest animal?
28:04
Right.
28:04
And sucking up your baby.
28:05
Picking up all of your kid.
28:07
Oh my gosh.
28:08
Have you seen the videos of the chimpanzees and stuff though?
28:12
Those are amazing to me.
28:14
So the one that I really love is when they're up against the glass and there's a woman with a baby and then the um, yeah, he's like pointing like let me see, let me see the baby.
28:24
Or when there's another one where the guy's doing magic tricks and the monkey's like, oh, or chimpanzee, whatever.
28:28
I don't know what kind of species it was, but yeah, it was amazing.
28:31
It was hilarious.
28:32
There was one, um, a zoo that has like, I'm sure it wasn't supposed to be there, but it's like a little hole.
28:38
and so people were giving food and stuff to, and somebody had a soda and the monkey was like, And he's like pointing to the hole yeah, so they would put like a little bit in there and he would and he's like It was so funny, I love those yeah, but like they're so smart I know they are so smart.
29:02
Mm hmm.
29:02
But then I see the ones like the orangutans and those guys are mean Yeah, like they're scary mean they like yeah, they Grabbing people through the bars.
29:10
Like I would die.
29:12
Mm-Hmm.
29:12
I would like have a heart attack.
29:14
Well, and some of them have the big, huge fangs.
29:17
Yeah.
29:17
They're, they're too much.
29:18
But I wanna see the one where they're pointing to the baby.
29:20
The little, the little cute ones.
29:21
Yes.
29:22
They're adorable.
29:23
what else, what else we wanna talk about today?
29:25
So I was watching, I was on TikTok scrolling and it was like a Joe Rogan clip.
29:30
but he was talking about the cop in Florida that did a press conference and somebody shot, a burglar.
29:38
Okay.
29:38
that was trying to rob their house or whatever.
29:39
And, or, or a neighbor, somebody shot this person breaking into houses and I did get them.
29:46
Yeah, the press conference, the cop said that if something breaks into your house, just shoot them.
29:51
They actually prefer if you shoot them, it'll save taxpayers dollars.
29:55
They didn't know who shot this guy.
29:56
particular burglar, but he said that, um, to the person that shot the burglar, you're not in trouble.
30:03
Please come forward.
30:04
We, we have, we have, classes.
30:09
So that you'll have better aim next time.
30:11
Oh my gosh.
30:12
I was like, they offer shooting classes so that they can have better aim next time.
30:19
Do they want them to make them so they can never do anything again?
30:22
I, it says still save taxpayer money.
30:26
Gosh.
30:27
Florida's out there.
30:28
Listen though, like I bet you their robbery rate is way lower than anywhere else.
30:33
Probably.
30:33
You're probably right.
30:35
Like California, you can't do nothing.
30:37
Like they are welcome to take whatever they want, whenever they want.
30:40
And like, there's no consequences.
30:42
So I would prefer to live in Florida.
30:44
I know I'm not breaking into houses.
30:46
I have nothing to worry about.
30:47
California's got some crazy stuff going on out there these days.
30:50
I mean, that's pretty bold for them to say that.
30:53
Right.
30:54
That's crazy.
30:55
I was like, Holy moly.
30:57
Yeah.
30:58
Cause that was recently.
31:00
Yeah.
31:01
Wow.
31:02
But I love watching like the press conferences from Florida.
31:05
Like the cops there are hysterical.
31:06
I've never gotten into one.
31:08
Yeah.
31:08
Oh gosh.
31:09
Yeah.
31:09
You gotta like look them up.
31:10
Well, apparently Brian's taking, over my TikTok feed.
31:14
So I have like TikTok installed on the iPad and it's under my account and you know how it gets the algorithms by what you watch.
31:20
Well, apparently like it's all political now and I'm like, Oh, get this off of here.
31:25
Like, I don't want to, so I've been trying to search like things that I want to try to fix my algorithms.
31:29
You need to get off of this.
31:31
Create your own.
31:33
I don't want to know anything about hunting or politics.
31:37
Thank you.
31:38
Exactly.
31:38
Puppies and monkeys.
31:40
Puppies and monkeys and funny dogs.
31:42
Yes.
31:43
Yes.
31:44
So, scrolling.
31:46
there was like this thing about Lake Michigan.
31:48
I've seen some, well, I can't remember what it was though, but I've seen that a lot.
31:52
What's going, tell me the stories.
31:53
I searched Lake Michigan and then it was like all these things that I'm like, yep, never going to a great lake ever.
31:59
Like my toes will not enter.
32:01
What happened?
32:02
They found like a pyramid just like popped up in, in, in Lake Michigan, like in like the bottom of Lake Michigan, like a pyramid, like a pyramid pyramid.
32:12
What?
32:13
And hold on, it gets better though.
32:14
So it says that they tested the material.
32:17
I guess like they took a piece of it.
32:19
Sample.
32:19
And it's not no, a known substance.
32:22
Shut up.
32:23
From earth.
32:24
it doesn't match any known substance.
32:27
Shut up.
32:29
That's terrifying.
32:31
So then there's also a stone hedge at the bottom of Lake Michigan that is older than the one in England or wherever the other one is like the famous one.
32:41
It's 10, 000 years old.
32:42
And I know this because of the drawings that are on the, the, the rock formations of a animal that is 10, 000 years old.
32:51
And it's underwater.
32:53
Yes.
32:53
This is underwater.
32:54
Yes.
32:55
in, in Lake Michigan.
32:57
there's over 1500 shipwrecks in Lake Michigan.
33:01
There's like 300, 000 bodies of people that have deceased in, in the lake.
33:08
Yeah, like no, thank you.
33:10
Listen, that is crazy swimming pool.
33:13
Is it just fun?
33:14
It's just fun fine Yeah, and then they have what's called the sleeping bear dunes.
33:19
Okay, and I saw this and I was like, oh, that's not that bad Hold on.
33:23
Okay.
33:24
It's 500 feet long.
33:25
Okay It's at like a 90 degree angle.
33:29
This right?
33:29
This?
33:30
Yeah.
33:30
It's like straight up and down.
33:31
Like almost.
33:32
It's almost at 90 degrees.
33:33
So getting down isn't bad'cause like yeah, you just go down.
33:37
Yeah.
33:37
It's all sand like it's not like sturdy surface.
33:40
It's all sand.
33:41
Is this underwater too?
33:42
No, this is like above water.
33:43
Two.
33:43
Get to the beach.
33:44
Okay.
33:45
Um, and wait, wait.
33:47
That's the one I saw.
33:48
Yeah, that's the one I saw the video of.
33:50
Yeah.
33:50
And people like sliding down.
33:51
Yes.
33:51
Well if you go down, yes.
33:54
You have to get back up.
33:54
Right.
33:55
And.
33:56
It's 3, 000 per person.
33:59
If they have to, if you get rescued.
34:01
So they said that there is on average a hundred people every year that need to get rescued.
34:07
I would know better and not attempt.
34:10
Yeah.
34:11
So by all the money that I guess they have to pay, it goes back to the preservation of the lake.
34:17
So, I mean, it is what it is.
34:19
But could you imagine?
34:22
No, I don't like walking in sand like you're my calves right so bad Right if you go for a super long walk right stay I'm like, oh my god, it's not hard sand It's that sand that's just constantly moving.
34:32
So it feels like yeah the more I Hear about all the things that are that is crazy.
34:40
And then they said I don't remember which other lake it was but there is You Like the Black Plague was found.
34:49
In like a flea or something like that was like in the lake.
34:53
No, and I was like, yeah, no, no, thank you I'm good.
34:58
The only one I've ever been close to was when we were in Ohio We saw Erie, but I mean that was like just driving by kind of yeah.
35:07
No, I'm good.
35:08
Yeah Yeah, I think all this stuff that's coming out of the ocean Yeah, but I love the ocean.
35:14
I do too.
35:15
But Why is that all the animals trying to come out of the ocean like did you see like the swordfishes that were like trying to like Beach themselves.
35:22
No, and like all yeah, like there's like some weird stuff going on I don't know what's going on in the ocean, but there's some weird stuff going on.
35:31
That is crazy I mean, I know there's things in there that We have never ever ever seen like I know that there is But I feel like my little area where I swim is safe.
35:44
And then after that they can have it.
35:45
Yeah There was like three shark attacks in one day.
35:49
In florida.
35:50
Oh I guess they're saying All the patterns are not typical.
35:54
Yeah that are going on right now with like the shark Migration everything yeah, it's like all off You Great.
36:02
So, well, you know, with the cicadas and all the craziness we had, it's just another one of the signs of the times, I guess, swimming pool.
36:11
Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
36:14
So, you know I'm in Nicole Eaton's group, the Comeback Club.
36:18
Um, a while ago, one of her masterclasses was about human design.
36:22
Okay.
36:22
Have you ever heard of it or done?
36:24
So there's a website you can go to and you plug in like your birth date, the time you were born, your location of your birth, and it spits out this chart for you it's supposed to outline how you are uniquely wired and the best way to communicate and like get through work.
36:39
oh.
36:40
Relationships, yeah.
36:41
what your, different gifts are.
36:43
Mm-Hmm.
36:43
in life, to help you make decisions, right.
36:46
And stuff like that.
36:46
Right.
36:47
Like, if you're more intuitive, if, like, you should trust your gut or if you should, right.
36:51
Or analytical.
36:52
Mm-Hmm.
36:52
so I.
36:54
Did the class when she had initially done it and I just saw something like a couple weeks ago that reminded me of it I'm like, oh, this is so cool.
37:01
I like I'm so fascinated by all of this uh huh Oh, I remember reading a lot about birth order and different things like that.
37:08
Yeah, totally fascinated.
37:09
So, I started reading up a little bit more on it and My chart itself and like it's so spot on is it really it is so crazy.
37:17
So I downloaded an app I want to put me in we will do it when we get off Like yeah, on the app like I can do as many people as I want So I was like I was gonna do dylan next yeah But it's so fascinating to me tells you like all like the things that you're good at and like how you can use that in Your life.
37:34
Yeah to help you whatever, even your work, like, like, are you in like the right type of type of work?
37:40
If you're more nurturing, like, you know, are you in a nurturing type of role that you're going to flourish?
37:45
Because if you're not using your gifts, like you're suppressing them.
37:48
And I'm like, dude, like, this is so great.
37:50
Like, it's so crazy.
37:51
Yeah.
37:51
Yeah.
37:52
Yeah, that's so true though, because if you're doing something where you're not using your natural gifts, where you're even if you're not necessarily suppressing them, but you're not getting to use them, then, that's unfulfilling.
38:06
Yeah.
38:06
Yeah.
38:07
So, um, that was really um, Let's see, I think it's like my human design.
38:13
It goes through like everything and so if you got like the free version it only tells you like two things.
38:17
So I paid the 5.
38:18
99 for the month.
38:20
I don't blame you.
38:20
I've gotten, I've done that several times.
38:22
I wanted to See what like, yeah, dive more in depth, I guess.
38:27
And yeah, it was really cool.
38:29
so it's anybody out there is into like the woo woo or universal.
38:34
Right.
38:35
Did you, what did you find out about yourself that was surprising?
38:39
I've been like really like kind of doing a lot of like self.
38:42
We could like a ton of stuff like it's been a it's been a year but it tells you like what type of energy Functions you have like, do you suck energy or do you radiate energy and you radiate?
38:56
Your personality types like based off of it and like there's like your inner personality and then what other people perceive your personality Yeah, I feel like mine are way different.
39:04
Yeah, and so like it's just like It's to me, like, so fascinating because it was, again, so spot on, like, I didn't really see anything surprising.
39:11
Yeah.
39:11
Okay.
39:12
I haven't gotten through all of it, but I've like, even like the gifts and stuff, I'm like, it's so spot on.
39:16
That's um, what you just said to me that really stood out was that there's your, your personnel and personality, your inner personality and what everybody else sees.
39:25
It's weird to think that everybody's like that.
39:26
Yeah, like you think that everybody is just face value.
39:29
What you see is what you get Well, it's not the case.
39:32
Yeah, um, I like to say I'm an introverted extrovert me too Yeah, I definitely need a long time time to recharge I do not want to be around people all the time, but I'm I have a great time when I'm with people But then I need my time.
39:46
I'm a walking contradiction.
39:47
Absolutely And that it's so funny because I always kind of related Dylan to be like an only child Mm hmm, because when he was done with like when he was even when he was little like when he was done He's like, can you send them home?
39:59
Yeah, like he was done he wanted like he's like quiet down He needed to be decompress and I just thought it cuz I grew up in a house with four kids, right?
40:07
You didn't get downtime.
40:08
No, it was like you Revolving door.
40:11
Yeah.
40:11
Like somebody always going inside, like friends are always over.
40:13
Yeah.
40:13
Like it was just like there was no downtime.
40:15
Yeah.
40:15
and I just kind of related it to him being an only child.
40:18
Mm-Hmm.
40:19
But like the older I get, I have the option Yes.
40:22
Downtime, or I have the option to decompress.
40:24
Yeah.
40:24
and I'm like, well, no.
40:25
Maybe that's the personality trait.
40:27
Like I don't, you know.
40:28
Well, and I think it's that.
40:30
Not only do we have the option to do it is that we realize it's okay.
40:33
Yeah.
40:34
Um, I think a lot of it too, as you have in your mind that you have to do all these things and it's okay To just not sometimes.
40:42
Yeah, it's there's nothing wrong with that.
40:43
Well very interesting.
40:45
Yeah, it's so cool I think all that stuff is really neat.
40:47
My interest is peaked.
40:48
Yes.
40:50
Should we do our Am I the a hole?
40:53
Yes.
40:53
Absolutely.
40:54
you mentioned the bad moms group.
40:56
Yes.
40:56
Can we read one from there?
40:58
Oh my goodness, for sure.
40:59
Okay So on Facebook, we are part of the bad moms uncensored group.
41:05
And most of it's anonymous posts asking for either advice or, kind of venting, or am I a bad mom type of posts?
41:13
So it's, Am I the a hole, but it's am I the bad mom?
41:16
Yep.
41:17
And, and just to throw it out there.
41:19
It says uncensored.
41:20
It is, it's got a little bit of everything and it is, there's no holds barred.
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Yes.
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And it is, it's very entertaining.
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Yes.
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Oh, there's also a Reddit that's just for advice.
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Cool.
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We need to give advice.
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We need to respond.
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Advice.
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Okay.
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So here is the advice.
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Read it.
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Okay.
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Uh, post.
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I, 32 female have done some changes in my life, such as I stopped drinking, started meditating, which I always thought was just straight up dumb.
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I've become so much more reflective on my situation and realized how lucky I am with my husband, 36 male.
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He treats me so well, is very respectful, successful, and has a great family.
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character.
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While I have never cheated on him, I have been complaining a lot about complete nonsense to him and usually have an attitude.
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I've changed these things over the last couple weeks and my husband has noticed it immediately.
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He seems so much more at ease, even got me the prettiest flowers ever.
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I honestly do not know why he stayed with me before.
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He is so out of my league considering how successful, humorous, and amazing he is at everything.
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Can we just pause here?
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Yeah.
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Is my husband writing this?
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That sounds like it.
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My husband's amazing.
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Somebody got hacked.
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Yeah.
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All right.
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like I know how many women want to be with him, but he just straight up ignores them.
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While I am proud of my changes and the fact I realized them on my own, I want to further improve as a wife.
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To all the men out there, what small gestures do you love your wife doing or would you love her to do more of?
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You can be completely honest.
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I already prepared myself that like 40 percent of those things might be sexual.
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I want to know what some of the comments are.
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Okay.
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Read them.
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Okay.
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Let's expand them.
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Okay.
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So Sparky 81 says, if you acknowledge the negative and are taking action to correct and improve, that's the most important part.
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Just be you.
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You're the one he married.
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Anything special you want to do should be tailored to what he enjoys, not other men.
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Yeah.
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And no, it doesn't have to be sexual.
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Sex isn't a penance.
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That was good advice.
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That was very good advice.
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I was going to say something like, Spark 81, you're amazeballs! So, Ru27 says, My hubby is a sucker for compliments.
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He turns all bashful, blushes and grins from ear to ear.
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It's hilarious.
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You should see him strutting around like he just won the lottery.
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Chest puffed out and all.
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And that's words of affirmation.
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So that's, that's the language.
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Willie apparently didn't read the post.
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No.
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Um, so that's gotta be a dude to get it.
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He doesn't even know what he's saying.
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I'm just kidding.
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Take accountability for your actions and make changes, which you seem to be on the right track.
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Okay.
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So kudos, but like.
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Take accountability.
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She did.
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Right.
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Whatever.
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Um, and simply be appreciative.
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Do small things that help him in his daily grind.
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Something as simple as having a cup of coffee ready for him in the a.
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m.
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Will go a long way.
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Affirmations as well.
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Men barely get compliments or genuine positive comments.
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Simple acts of affection as well.
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A random hug.
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Just hold him.
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Holding hands.
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Kiss on the forehead.
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Things like this.
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Also, you haven't been a crappy wife.
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Life gets in the way and we lose our focus at times.
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You're realizing what's really important and what's just distractions.
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Be kind to yourself first and same kindness will spread to those you love.
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That was, he redeemed himself.
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Yeah, I'm not as mad at him as I was when we started.
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Yes.
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I don't know.
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I don't know.
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I have a very bad, like, outlook on, on, on relationships right now.
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So, this is probably not, like, one that I should comment or give advice on.
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So Well, I just feel like, so I feel like and not that I'm an expert, but I feel like she's, you know, she's trying, she's making the effort, she's having conversations, she's trying to better herself in ways that she feels she needs to.
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Why does she have to do more than that right now?
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I feel like.
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Something has been said to her.
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Yeah.
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I think there's more to it.
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Like, she sounds like she has very low self esteem, um, as far as like, oh, well, all these other people want him and what do I need to do?
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Why do I, like, I think that, that, there's something else going on there.
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Yeah.
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Difficult.
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But Willie, good job redeeming yourself for your little comment.
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You know, like guys don't ever just do the, random hug, like it's always like a smack on the butt or like grab the boob as they walk by.
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And they think that that's affection.
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Like, it's like, we have such a different, I think view of, affection or like non, let's get it on affection.
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Yeah.
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I'm not a fan of the random butt smack.
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No.
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And I don't know how many times I tell Brian that he still wants to smack the butt.
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Or the random boob squeeze.
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Like why?
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What?
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That does.
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Right.
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Men.
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If there's any men listening, don't do that.
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No, that's not, that's not what we want.
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Well, it's not what I want.
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No, it's not.
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I'm sure there is, but it's just, I'm, I'm in there cooking dinner and I'm already thinking about, oh crap, I gotta pay the power bill or, uh, what time am I supposed to be at work tomorrow?
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And all of a sudden, quack.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I'm not a fan.
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Don't.
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It's so dumb.
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Oh, gosh.
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Yeah.
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So, I think that there's something else going on here.
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not that I am a psychologist, but for her to like, really be like, I, I don't deserve this man.
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makes me feel like there's something bigger or deeper in their relationship that she feels beneath him.
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there's definitely something else going on there.
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I don't know how bad it is, how deep it goes, but yeah, I agree.
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So, we're not very good at giving advice.
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I think I'm great.
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Tell him to go kiss your ass.
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That's true.
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I'm not in the relationship giving advice realm at the moment.
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So, I'm probably not the best person to do this.
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We should do um, funny one from Bad Moms.
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Yeah, Okay, here's the other one.
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This is kind of like a, It's okay.
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That birthday parties.
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Okay.
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No triggers.
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Uh, y'all, I need opinions.
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Would I be a bad mom if I chose not to do a party for my youngest birthday this year, but still planned on doing a party for my oldest?
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My youngest is turning two next month.
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I still plan on celebrating her birthday with a cake and presents and such, but maybe not inviting the whole family like I have been doing every year with my oldest.
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My eldest is turning five in September, and I want to go all out since five is a big year to me.
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I want to invite her preschool classmates to celebrate her birthday.
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My youngest doesn't go to daycare, so she doesn't have any friends except my own friends with kids.
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Money is tight, which is why I'm considering skipping a whole party.
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And just doing a small celebration for my youngest since she won't really remember her birthday anyway, but I can't help.
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I feel like this is super unfair.
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I've done a small party with family every year since my oldest 1st, birthday, inviting family from out of town.
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And most of the time they attend.
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What do y'all think?
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That's not fair.
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I feel like they need to be similar.
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Kind of feel like for a two year old.
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I don't think it's like a big big deal Kids are happy with a freaking box and wrapping paper.
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They are.
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I'm just thinking too of And maybe this is just my problem Are other people gonna think I don't favor or I favor one over the other?
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I mean and I'm also speaking as the So I have one sister my birthday's close to Christmas time and it sucked and my mom did everything that she could but you know It's just it's not the same.
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Right.
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so birthdays are sensitive.
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I told you this wasn't triggering I mean I always had a birthday party that was a birthday party But it's like the Christmas tree was always up already and people would give gifts in Christmas I need therapy for this.
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People would give me birthday gifts and Christmas paper or like a stuffed teddy bear with a Christmas dress on it.
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Like, I want something for my birthday.
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Yeah.
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Um, I know that sounds very selfish and like total first world problems, but I mean, I just feel like things should be fair.
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And, and, you know, You're right.
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Two is very young.
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So when they're older, for sure, this one might be okay.
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I wonder why five is such a big deal for her.
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And when this daughter is five and the other daughter is eight or whatever, what's she gonna do then?
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We started having big parties for Dylan when he started school when he started pre k, it, we invited the whole class.
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Yeah.
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And like, you know, that's when we like made like real like parent friends, you know?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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but I feel like probably that's why she feels like it's a big deal.
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Cause starting school, you're getting all your little friends, again, we invited the whole class.
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Yeah.
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and most of them came.
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Okay, that's fine.
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But when the two year old turns five and that one, Well, I would hope that the five year old is still a big deal for the mom, and she would do the big party.
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Right.
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A big one for that one, but not for the other one at that time.
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Well, I think once you start school, I think every year, like it starts at like, it starts being a big deal.
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Like, yeah.
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Again, it's like a transition year.
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I mean, it was for us.
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Well, and mom of only child, all of Jackson's parties have been too many people.
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Yeah.
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Well, and like we always had like family parties like when we were in Tennessee, we had, all of our friends over.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Um, but.
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When they're that little and they don't have like a friend friend group Yeah, don't have a couple little friends that like, you know from daycare or whatever.
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But yeah, I don't know I don't think it's a huge deal to have.
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Just want things to be fair.
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And this is about me being black and white with things.
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Yeah, that is a tricky one because I don't think the two year old Like you said they're fine with like a box and a you know a pot and a spoon but I don't know.
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I think as long as you have some kind of celebration, like I don't see like a huge deal at that age.
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I think if they're older and they know what's going on but I'm just really big on fairness and siblings.
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Oh Again I have underlying issues.
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Um, so we all do Only like eight comments where they say or just high level She's fine.
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She won't remember it.
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Nah, I don't feel bad.
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Sometimes I do parties, sometimes I don't.
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Sometimes I go all out.
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Sometimes money's tight.
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We all always make memories just within our means at the moment.
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Yeah.
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Next one is, it's fine.
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She won't remember her second birthday.
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Just take pictures of her with her cake, balloons, blowing out candles, opening a gift.
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Uh, the next one is I did one for my five year old, too, because she finally had a class of friends to invite.
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That's what you were saying.
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A two year old isn't going to remember whether they had a party or not.
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I just pick a cake or ice cream and head to the park.
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So I, again, I think, yeah, too.
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Yeah.
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Oh, wait, April said, so you want to go out for one, but not the others.
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Explain it like having a slightly cheaper party for your two year old is better than no party at all.
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Your oldest isn't going to remember you went out for her fifth either.
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Trust me.
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Hmm.
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Yeah.
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Speaking of parties I just told Dylan we were in the car and I was like, oh Dylan we should bring back shark week party.
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Oh, can we?
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When is that July?
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Uh huh What do you want?
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We want second week in July.
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Yeah.
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Well, I think they make it like shark month, but, but we always did it like the second week of July.
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Perfect.
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I'm free.
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And he was like, heck yeah, I love it.
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So, all right.
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Well, I think our advice, kind of was on point.
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I apparently have a lot of triggers about things that I don't realize are triggers.
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I'll start talking about them.
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Same.
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All right.
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Well, on that note, I think, we hit everything I think so too.
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And that was interesting hearing all those random stories.
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So yeah.
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I like that.
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Am I the a hole better?
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I'm not going to lie.
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Yeah, I do.
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I don't want to give people advice.
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I just want to judge you.
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Yes or no.
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Yes or no.
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Maybe we'll go back to am I the a hole next time.
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Maybe.
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