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Are You Autistic How To Tell Someone You Think You Are Autistic · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the ASPY world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism Ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  Are you autistic? In this video I'm discussing how
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  you can tell someone that you think you may be autistic.
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  This is very important. All that's coming up.
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  Hey guys, welcome back to the as we will.
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  My name is Dan. I've also them in ADHD, OCD, and
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  dyslexia and I make quick videos all about this stuff.
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  Guys, what's going on? This is very interesting because
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  I get asked a lot of times like people saying, hey, I think I'm
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  on the autism spectrum or I've done a test online which you can
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  get at the aspyworld.com. You can go and take the test on
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  that. I think I'm autistic.
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  How do I tell this to somebody, Like how do I place my mother or
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  my friend or my spouse or whatever?
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  And one of the things I would say to him is that you know
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  there are ways in which you can basically talk to somebody about
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  it, but we kind of need to clarify what is it that you're
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  kind of seeking A diagnosis for and you have autism, Does it
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  seem that way? So we're going to get into all
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  Let's get on with it. So the first thing to kind of
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  think about when you're thinking about autism is, you know, am I
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  autistic? Well, why do I come to that
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  conclusion? How about taking the test?
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  Well, you know there are some kind of basic traits of autism
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  that are very characterized The in things that you can see quite
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  clearly in people know one of them is a lack of eye contact or
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  a lack of true eye contact. So autistic people will maybe
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  avert eye contact and look away from looking directly into your
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  eyes while looking past you. So they're kind of just looking
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  past your ear or above your head a little bit.
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  And all of this is, is because looking into somebody's eyes for
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  an autistic person is quite an intense feeling or an emotion,
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  right. And if you're an autistic person
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  watching these, you don't know exactly what I mean.
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  Or if you're potential undiagnosed with self diagnosed
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  autistic then you'll know what I mean.
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  Now, issues with social interaction plentiful in autism.
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  You know, social cues, then the social conventions, small talk,
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  all the good stuff. OK, it's not really good.
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  It's all kind of like really difficult stuff to learn.
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  But those things are triggering and behaviors that are quite
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  difficult for autistic people to kind of inherently just know
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  from growing up in that situation.
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  You know, you have to really understand those things to kind
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  of be good at them. And neurotypical people or
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  normal autistic people will get these things naturally just
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  happen. But autistic people will take
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  extra amount of time to kind of learn these things if it's all
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  because it is quite a difficult thing to understand.
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  So other bits of things like you know rigid, strict, strict
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  routine, obsessive interest like obsessing over something like
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  completely like you know if you like books or something in
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  obsessible books or you just will like the Titanic or Marilyn
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  Monroe or something like that. And the other is a sensory
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  processing disorder. Now sensory processing disorder
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  or SPD comes come orbit meaning to occurring with autism almost
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  100%. As I'm I'm, I'm not really
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  coming across many asistic individuals who don't have some
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  sort of sensory processing issue.
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  Now that being said, OK you have all these things then what do
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  you do you suspect this criteria that you've kind of come up with
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  where do you go from there? Now you can go and do an AQ test
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  online, which is an autism culture test which you can get
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  from the aspyworld.com/autism test.
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  I will leave a link down below for that and then you can see
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  what you score. Now scoring on this test is
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  anywhere between 30, I think it's 30% and 50%.
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  Scoring between 33 and 50 of this point scoring process would
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  say that you're autistic or potentially autistic, but
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  scoring lower than 33. We kind of say that you just
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  have maybe some autistic behavioral traits that you could
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  have picked up all their behavior from social kind of
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  constructs. But it's not a complete accurate
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  test, It's just a first stepping stuzzle.
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  Bear that in mind, guys, when you're thinking about, do them
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  like this. Now, what do you do if you want
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  to tell somebody you're artistic?
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  So you've done all these things you got attached, you got the
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  results, and then you want to speak to somebody.
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  Now this the most simplest, honest, easiest way if you
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  wanted to talk your friends about it.
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  Pick the friend that you have most affinity for.
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  Affinity. A likeness for, you know, a
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  friend that you feel you're right with.
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  Really. Well, speak to them and tell
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  them your concerns. Say, look, I feel like this, I
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  think I might be autistic. What do I do to think?
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  Issue a secret diagnosis, blah blah blah.
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  Now if they are genuine friends, if they care about you and love
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  you, they will be supportive every single way and they won't
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  give you their opinion. They'll just be like, hey okay,
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  yeah, let's let's sort it out, Let's see what you want to do
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  and I'll support you. And the same goes for family
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  members. If you want to tell somebody,
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  somebody in your family, which isn't always easy because other
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  people who know you the best and they may be sometimes in denial
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  that there may be a newer neuro developmental condition going on
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  rather than just you being you. Because they know you want a
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  life to being like that. And I've had this experience as
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  well. And I would just speak to them
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  honestly and say, hey, I think I'm autistic, I want to go for a
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  diagnosis and just be completely honest.
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  When you're honest with people, when you're, when you, when you
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  say it as it is, they can't really go back on it because you
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  can't improve upon the truth. That's that's what it is.
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  And if they are your true family members and friends and the
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  people who love you, they will support you every step of the
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  way. Now there are many different
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  things you can do with the process to actually get
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  diagnosed. And I did a video which I'll
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  link at the end of this video where you can go and watch how
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  you know what are the three kind of pathways to get an awesome
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  diagnosis. And.
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  And some of the ways you can do that.
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  I have some free PDF downloads as well which will be in that
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  video. So definitely check that out.
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  Now in terms of telling other people, if you do have an
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  autistic diagnosis and you're wanting to kind of, you know,
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  your friends don't know yet and you're wanting to tell them,
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  it's like a newly diagnosed thing.
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  Like when I was 26, I was diagnosed.
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  So now my whole life kind of changes a little bit.
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  I go off to tell people different things, right.
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  So I basically was wondering what I should do.
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  And I had a very big rule for this.
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  If you're a close family member or a friend, I will tell you
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  directly off message. You would say, hey, I've just
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  had a diagnosis, this is what is going on with me.
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  This is what, what and who I am and everybody else had a need to
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  know basis. So when I was in work, if
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  something happened and it was causing me issues because of my
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  neurological difference, I speak to my work about it.
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  Or if I got into a discussion and I didn't understand
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  something and people thought I was a bit odd or they thought I
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  would be rude or narcissistic, I'd be like, look, it's not
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  narcissism, it's not reading this.
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  I'm actually unable to the spectrum.
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  Kind of very similar to the 2018 or 2017 Power Rangers movie
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  where Billy the Blue Ranger, he's dragging like something
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  across this kind of like a quarry outlet where they found
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  all the Power Rangers stuff and he says, oh, sorry, I'm on the,
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  I'm on the autism spectrum. And the guy's like, OK, cool.
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  So it's kind of like a need to know basis.
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  And this is super important. When you keep people on a need
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  to know basis, you protect your privacy, you protect your
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  validation and you protect the need for other people to just be
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  spying on you for no reason. You know your diagnosis is
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  personal to you. Now, if you are thinking about
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  having an autism diagnosis, drop me a comment down below.
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  I could probably point in the direction of some other things
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  that may actually help. Now if you're watching this and
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  you are an autistic person and you're wanting to know more
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  about talking to other people, drop your comment.
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  Say I want to stick. What up I'd Let's read your
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  comment. I read every single one.
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  Now I highly recommend you checking out this next video
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  that I recommend in here because this will be kind of like the
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  next step in this journey for you.
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  And don't forget to check the links down below that I've
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  mentioned. OK guys, I'll see you next time
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  Peace.