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SEASON2 EPISODE_128_DA CREW PODCAST_HOST TRIVEDA HARRIS · DA CREW Podcast

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  Speaker 3: Good evening and welcome to Believe in the Journey podcast
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  Speaker 3: where I'm your host Trevita Harris, and you know, each
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  Speaker 3: and every time we come to do this show, we
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  Speaker 3: cannot get started without going to God first. But I
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  Speaker 3: want to tell you a little bit about my guests
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  Speaker 3: who I'm going to have tonight, and that is mister
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  Speaker 3: Thomas Rooker, and we're going to talk to him about
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  Speaker 3: balancing it all being a husband, a father, and an entrepreneur.
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  Speaker 3: These are things that really takes a lot of planning,
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  Speaker 3: time management, and things of that nature to get all
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  Speaker 3: of these things done at one time and do it
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  Speaker 3: with ease. I don't know how well you guys are
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  Speaker 3: able to do that, but he makes it look very easy.
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  Speaker 3: But before we do anything, let's go to God in prayer.
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  Speaker 3: Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for bringing us together each
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  Speaker 3: as you do each and every time we are here
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  Speaker 3: in front of you. Let the words of my mouth
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  Speaker 3: hit the ears that need to hear. Let the eyes
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  Speaker 3: who are watching, let them take from what we do tonight.
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  Speaker 3: Let it bless them in the ways that you see fit.
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  Speaker 3: We always come to you because you give us the
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  Speaker 3: direction that we need to go. If anything that we
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  Speaker 3: say is impactful to the ears that are listening, let
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  Speaker 3: them take it and follow your path and your precious
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  Speaker 3: and holy name, Jesus.
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  Speaker 5: We pray. Amen. Please bring up.
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  Speaker 3: My guest, mister Thomas, and let's get this conversation started.
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  Speaker 2: How you doing for vida?
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  Speaker 5: I am good? How are you who?
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  Speaker 2: I'm good? I'm here.
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  Speaker 5: You had to take that little.
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  Speaker 2: Breath, but I'm doing good, you know, and I'm I'm blessed.
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  Speaker 2: Put it like that.
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  Speaker 3: That's the best way to be anytime we're on this side,
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  Speaker 3: We're always blessed to be in the space because he
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  Speaker 3: granted us another day, another opportunity to make the bettest
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  Speaker 3: judgments that we can and the best choices that we can.
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  Speaker 3: So I want to say thank you for having the
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  Speaker 3: time to spend with me tonight as we talk about
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  Speaker 3: how you balance being a husband, being a father of three,
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  Speaker 3: co owner and host of One Nation eight six four.
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  Speaker 5: Like, listen, I'm wrapping my shirt today.
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  Speaker 2: I see that. I'm glad. I'm glad.
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  Speaker 6: I see that it brings joy to me when I
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  Speaker 6: see somebody wearing the.
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  Speaker 2: You know, wearing your brand and everything.
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  Speaker 6: But I can honestly say this is a great topic
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  Speaker 6: because I could dive deep into it, and we're gonna
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  Speaker 6: have some fun with it, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna bring y'all into my life for a minute, and.
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  Speaker 6: I'm glad to be against I'm glad you thought enough
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  Speaker 6: of me to have, you know, have me on tonight
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  Speaker 6: and let's do it.
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  Speaker 5: Of course.
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  Speaker 3: Of course, now the first question I'm gonna ask, and
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  Speaker 3: that is how has been a husband changed you in
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  Speaker 3: a way as it was when you were single, because
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  Speaker 3: there are some changes that you go through as you know,
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  Speaker 3: you make that decision to have a partner.
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  Speaker 6: Right right, I can definitely say this, it's it's a
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  Speaker 6: big change. It's it's different because when you when you're single.
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  Speaker 6: Where I can speak for myself. When I was singer,
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  Speaker 6: I could do whatever I wanted to do, go wherever
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  Speaker 6: I wanted to go, do it however I wanted to
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  Speaker 6: do it. But when I decided to, Okay, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 6: make this next step in my life and ask this
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  Speaker 6: young lady to marry me, I can honestly say that
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  Speaker 6: part was easy. Where it got tricky, Where it got
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  Speaker 6: hard at was you you got to know somebody before
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  Speaker 6: you Actually I think you should know somebody before you
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  Speaker 6: actually married. You know, you should spend time with them.
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  Speaker 6: And I've known my wife my whole life. But what
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  Speaker 6: was so funny about it once we got married. It
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  Speaker 6: was certain things we didn't know about each other. And
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  Speaker 6: she was looking at me out like I didn't know
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  Speaker 6: that about you. I'm like, I ain't know that about
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  Speaker 6: you either, you know what I'm saying. So it was
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  Speaker 6: it took something getting used to so I'm gonna say
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  Speaker 6: those spurs two years. It was a lot of balancing out.
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  Speaker 6: We had to do a lot of things to get
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  Speaker 6: you know, get where we need to be. And it's
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  Speaker 6: changed me to the point where, you know, I think
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  Speaker 6: I couldn't have done this without her, you know what
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  Speaker 6: I mean. And if I was single trying to do this,
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  Speaker 6: I'm not gonna lie, I would have fell off the
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  Speaker 6: wagon a long time ago.
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  Speaker 2: But with her in my corner, I'm kind of.
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  Speaker 6: You know, you know, women kind of beat the backbone
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  Speaker 6: and give you that little that push you need, and
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  Speaker 6: you know, she know how to hit that.
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  Speaker 2: Button to make me do what I gotta do.
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  Speaker 6: So I owe a lot of my I guess you said,
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  Speaker 6: a lot of my time and a lot of the
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  Speaker 6: success that I do have to her.
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  Speaker 2: So it was a big joint for me to trust
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  Speaker 2: me it was it was something else.
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  Speaker 3: Well listen, I definitely know and understand that because when
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  Speaker 3: my kids, father and I, when we first moved in together,
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  Speaker 3: Like the thing with my dad, my parents and most
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  Speaker 3: of them, they were like, you know, I don't need
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  Speaker 3: to get to move in together and until you get married.
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  Speaker 3: Now that's the old fashioned way. But my idea was,
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  Speaker 3: if I can't live with them, then I can't marry them.
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  Speaker 5: And it was simply based upon this. He lived with
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  Speaker 5: his parents, I lived with my funds, and so.
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  Speaker 3: When he went home at night, I didn't know what
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  Speaker 3: type of person he was. And so that's what it
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  Speaker 3: comes down to. You don't know what a person is
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  Speaker 3: like at night when they go home, and then when
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  Speaker 3: they wake up. That's a whole different ballgame. And when
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  Speaker 3: you're doing this every set a single day, day in,
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  Speaker 3: day out, three hundred and sixty five days a year,
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  Speaker 3: and if that's a leapier, you know you got that
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  Speaker 3: extra day in there. And so it's like you went
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  Speaker 3: to bed this way, you don't walk up a whole
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  Speaker 3: different way.
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  Speaker 5: And I didn't do nothing. What the problem is? You know,
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  Speaker 5: That's one of those things that I understand.
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  Speaker 2: It was something else. Man. We we we made it through.
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  Speaker 6: But we I'm gonna tell you what, we learned a
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  Speaker 6: lot about each other.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm gonna say this too.
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  Speaker 6: It was one of those things where she could accept
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  Speaker 6: some of my flaws and I could accept some of her.
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  Speaker 2: So you know, we're all not perfect, you know what
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  Speaker 2: I mean?
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  Speaker 6: But where you draw the line that is where when
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  Speaker 6: it gets like disrespectful, we don't play that, we don't.
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  Speaker 2: We don't do that. Now I can. I can tolerate
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  Speaker 2: her Texas and she do TEXI me a hundred times
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  Speaker 2: during the day. I'm like, God, Land.
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  Speaker 6: You supposed to be working, won't you just let me be?
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  Speaker 6: Or she could tolerate me when I need something done?
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  Speaker 6: Or hey, how you do this? Because she's very computer sad.
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  Speaker 6: I am too, but not on the lefl like her.
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  Speaker 6: And like I tell you, in a minute, if I'm
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  Speaker 6: doing something, I'll call.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, what is it not? Hey, come over here, help
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  Speaker 2: me do this? You already know I can't you just
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  Speaker 2: waiting for me to ask you? You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 5: So it's you, y'all.
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  Speaker 3: Men are so headstrong when it comes to that, and
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  Speaker 3: it's like, no, I'm gonna figure it out myself. But
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  Speaker 3: then we're sitting over there, were watching y'all because we
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  Speaker 3: know you struggling.
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  Speaker 5: We see it. We sitting over there in your corner
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  Speaker 5: looking at.
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  Speaker 3: You like he don't know what he doing, but he
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  Speaker 3: gonna wait till he get it. So messed up to
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  Speaker 3: where now I had to come over there and be like,
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  Speaker 3: have you just asked me in the first place.
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  Speaker 5: We want to be doing all of this, and yet we're.
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  Speaker 3: Gonna complain the whole time we're fixing it because all
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  Speaker 3: you had to do was let's a little ego, go
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  Speaker 3: for just a moment, and let us help you get
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  Speaker 3: it done a whole lot faster.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you a funny story.
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  Speaker 6: When I first started using my streaming service, I looked
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  Speaker 6: at it, you know, pick what package I want. I've
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  Speaker 6: done it off. It's the first day of the live stream.
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  Speaker 6: I'm going live to something like seven thirty PM, you know,
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  Speaker 6: and I'm over here trying to get something right. I
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  Speaker 6: forgot what well, I wait, all wait the seven five.
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  Speaker 6: If you hadn't just told me, I would have came
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  Speaker 6: over here done it for you. She came too, clicks
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  Speaker 6: and I'm just thank you, you know. But yeah, it's
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  Speaker 6: a lot of things that you know. We are headstrong.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not gonna lie about that, fellas. We are women, y'all,
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  Speaker 6: y'all have our back, and.
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  Speaker 2: We appreciate y'all for that, We really do.
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  Speaker 3: It's just one of those things that I know that
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  Speaker 3: to be true from my dad, my brothers, my cousins,
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  Speaker 3: and it's just like one of those things where it's
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  Speaker 3: just like y'all gonna try to do with y'all selves.
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  Speaker 5: Until you get stuck and be like, well, can you
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  Speaker 5: just come?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I know I could have asked you like
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  Speaker 3: twenty minutes ago, but I figured I could do it myself.
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  Speaker 3: But that's neither here another y'all eventually don't get it.
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  Speaker 3: I think I'm not quite sure, but I'm hopeful, you know,
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  Speaker 3: I'm really hopeful.
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  Speaker 6: You know, eventually we I say, we may get it,
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  Speaker 6: and you know, probably I ain't gonna lie nine times
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  Speaker 6: our team with me.
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  Speaker 2: If it's I put it like this, If it's come.
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  Speaker 6: To building something hands on, it ain't a problem, I
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  Speaker 6: got it. But when it comes to okay, I know
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  Speaker 6: my Microsoft, I know this, I know that, but the
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  Speaker 6: new computer skills, he't come on over here and get
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  Speaker 6: this put me.
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  Speaker 2: I can't. I can't do it. But yeah, it's it's been.
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  Speaker 2: It's been fun. It really has real. Yeah, I can
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  Speaker 2: definitely say that you.
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  Speaker 5: Seem like you have it all.
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  Speaker 3: Like I know there's gonna be hiccups here and there,
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  Speaker 3: but from watching you and watching your podcast and things
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  Speaker 3: of that nature. It seems as if the hiccups are
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  Speaker 3: not so many hiccups anymore, and that's a good thing.
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  Speaker 5: That's definitely a plus.
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  Speaker 6: Right Right when I first started, like I said, you
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  Speaker 6: followed me, and it was originally supposed to be three.
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  Speaker 2: It's supposed to be three of us.
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  Speaker 6: But some of my friends they kind of backed out
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  Speaker 6: on it, and that was cool, and I understood why.
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  Speaker 6: Then me and my partner wanted another one. My partners
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  Speaker 6: wanted to do it, but we couldn't get on the
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  Speaker 6: same page.
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  Speaker 2: So I was.
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  Speaker 6: Looking at this little five year old son of mine
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  Speaker 6: and I'm like, you know what, let's.
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  Speaker 2: See if we can do this.
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  Speaker 6: And you know, we went live on Facebook here and there,
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  Speaker 6: but Trebda, you know, like I know, a five year
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  Speaker 6: old attention span is not where it needs.
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  Speaker 2: To be, you know that. So I remember Vivily.
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  Speaker 6: I remember we was doing the live one day and
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  Speaker 6: he answered the question, just got up and walked off,
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  Speaker 6: and I asked him, you know, trying not for the
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  Speaker 6: people to see me. I was like, hey, well you
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  Speaker 6: go bathroom. Never seen him again. It was over. So
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  Speaker 6: I went from that to you know, just pumping it
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  Speaker 6: as much as I could on Facebook. The one thing
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  Speaker 6: I can say when it comes to topics, I like
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  Speaker 6: the way you do yours, Like you say, we're just talking.
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  Speaker 2: I want to let people know this, if you're doing.
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  Speaker 6: A podcast, don't overwhelm yourself with a million things, a
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  Speaker 6: million idea. I mean, just think about it. Because I
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  Speaker 6: tell my friends all the time, say, look if we
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  Speaker 6: had to had a camera in front of us from
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  Speaker 6: back in the day, so now I said, the conversations
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  Speaker 6: we had, I mean, people wouldn't believe. I mean, yeah,
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  Speaker 6: we can get silly and we'll cut up sometimes, but
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  Speaker 6: we've had some deep conversations. And that's what I try
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  Speaker 6: to tell everybody with this podcast. I'm like, look, when
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  Speaker 6: I get on here, I just let it flow. I
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  Speaker 6: don't really come up with a topic now talk that
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  Speaker 6: talk Thursdays I do.
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  Speaker 2: I let fellas know what we may talk about.
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  Speaker 6: But when it comes to motivational Monday we do or
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  Speaker 6: anything else, I just let it flow. But I can't
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  Speaker 6: say it's not it don't test me sometimes because.
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  Speaker 2: It do, you know. But I managed to kind of
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  Speaker 2: kind of make it a little easier.
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  Speaker 5: But it's not, it's not at all not I agree
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  Speaker 5: with that one hundred percent.
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  Speaker 3: Now my thing is this. You've known me for quite
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  Speaker 3: some time. For me to do this is very outside
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  Speaker 3: of my comfort.
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  Speaker 5: Zone because I am not this.
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  Speaker 3: Person, you know, and it's hard for people to believe
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  Speaker 3: every time I say that, I'm really a very introverted
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  Speaker 3: type of person. Like you know that I write poetry.
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  Speaker 3: And every time you will have like an event or something,
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  Speaker 3: you like, you're gonna do it, and I'm like, no,
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  Speaker 3: I'm I'm gonna read it and share it with you.
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  Speaker 3: But that's about as far as it's going. It's not
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  Speaker 3: going outside of that.
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  Speaker 6: Now.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna show up and I'm gonna support everybody else
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  Speaker 3: that's there but me at now, sir, that's not my face,
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  Speaker 3: that my porte.
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  Speaker 5: I can write it all today.
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  Speaker 3: I'm grateful for my mentor because she's got me in
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  Speaker 3: this space. And you know, every time this camera comes on,
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  Speaker 3: it's a whole different person. Like there's a different personality
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  Speaker 3: that shows up for me to do with this, and
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  Speaker 3: so I'm like, God, dam she don't got me outside
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  Speaker 3: and this this ain't my thing. But every person who
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  Speaker 3: comes on the show, they say the same thing when
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  Speaker 3: I tell them I'm really shy and they're like, Okay,
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  Speaker 3: tell that somebody else because I don't see it right.
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  Speaker 5: I tell you it is.
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  Speaker 6: It's not that I understand you're right, I know you,
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  Speaker 6: this is this is not this is new to me.
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  Speaker 2: I'm looking at you opening up.
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  Speaker 6: But that's a good thing because sometimes you got to
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  Speaker 6: get out your comfort zone.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 6: Once you get out your comfort zone, it opens your
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  Speaker 6: mind up to a lot of things that.
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  Speaker 2: You thought you couldn't do, but you can do, you
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  Speaker 2: know what I mean.
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  Speaker 6: And that's one of the things I'll applaud you on
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  Speaker 6: that because you're right. You brought up something with the
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  Speaker 6: poetry thing, ladies and gentlemen. She's a great poet, but
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  Speaker 6: I could not pull the life for me to get
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  Speaker 6: her to get up and read and speak none of it.
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  Speaker 6: And I can remember she came to an event we had,
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  Speaker 6: and uh, I.
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  Speaker 2: Was just I was just hoping that maybe, maybe, just
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  Speaker 2: maybe the day she get up to say.
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  Speaker 6: Said nothing showed up, show love and support love y'all
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  Speaker 6: got up out of them.
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  Speaker 3: That is today, Like, I will show up wherever you
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  Speaker 3: need me to be.
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  Speaker 5: I'm gonna be that. But if you need to be
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  Speaker 5: outside in a state.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know what it is when it comes to
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  Speaker 3: being in front of people that it's like.
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  Speaker 5: I clam up.
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  Speaker 3: But if it's just and I can't even say that
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  Speaker 3: because I'll speak to strangers and have a whole conversation
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  Speaker 3: like I don't know them forever. My kids think it's
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  Speaker 3: the weirdest thing in the world. But if you put
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  Speaker 3: me on the spot.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, now, I don't know how to function like that,
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  Speaker 5: and I think it's weird. But I cannot do that.
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  Speaker 5: And I'm like, don't put me on the spot.
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  Speaker 3: If you just asked me and we're just generalized conversation
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  Speaker 3: and what, I'm good. But if you put me on
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  Speaker 3: the spot to do something, yeah, my knees get to
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  Speaker 3: shake and my hands get to sweating and all kind
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  Speaker 3: of stuff.
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  Speaker 5: I'm like, you know, you don't want me to do that.
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  Speaker 2: I understand what you're saying.
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  Speaker 6: But let me ask you this though, How has it
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  Speaker 6: been since you've been doing your podcast? Cause, like I said,
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  Speaker 6: I'm looking at you now, I'm looking at two different people.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean, You're doing your thing. So
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  Speaker 2: how does that feel? Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: We feel it was very good and I'm grateful to
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  Speaker 3: be in this space, and you know, I never thought,
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  Speaker 3: like my first show.
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  Speaker 5: I'm gonna tell you.
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, God, look here, I don't know
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: what I'm supposed to be doing. I don't even know
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  Speaker 3: if I'm capable of doing this, but my mentor had said,
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: you can do it, so come.
• 19:23
  Speaker 5: On, you gonna You're gonna get it done.
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: And the first show I was just I was absolutely terrified.
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: Second show, I don't think I had a guess. My
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: first show, I had my best friend, and then I
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: had mister Frederick baby for he's an author and a
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: radio host, and so had him. And then I think
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: the third show, I really didn't have a guest, and
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: so I was like, Oh my gosh, what am I
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: gonna do? Am I gonna you know, am I gonna talk?
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: And so I did, and I was like, oh my gosh.
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: I actually made it through a whole little like fifteen
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: twenty minutes of a conversation just talking about my experience,
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: my testimony, you know, me having a stroke and having
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: Kerii malformation in those things, and made it through that
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: because I was just talking about dealing with the hand
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: that you were dealt, the cars that you like in life.
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: We don't know what we're going to go through, and
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: in times it's like, Okay, I didn't know I was
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: going to have a stroke at thirty I didn't know
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: that I was going to be able to not be
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: able to walk. I didn't know at the age of
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: thirty four I was going to have a major flair
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: and lose my ability to speak. I didn't have any
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: clue on any of those things. And so now you're
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: putting me in a space not only to where I
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: can share my testimony, I can have other people come
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: through and share with me about what they've been going
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: through and what they experienced so they got to where
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: they are, because I think sometimes we miss the journey
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: of what we're going through. And that's why I titled
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: it Believe in the Journey, because you have to go
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: through and stuff and get to where you are. And
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: people don't want to acknowledge their past, but their past
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: is basically connected to everything that they got going on.
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: It's the pieces of their puzzle that creates the bigger
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: masterpiece that God has already designed a.
• 21:14
  Speaker 5: Long time ago.
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: And so me being in this space, it's like, Okay, God,
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: you had me take a public speaking class in college,
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: and I'm like, what am I taking public speaking for.
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: I'm not gonna need that. Look at it, look at this.
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: So I needed that. I didn't understand it.
• 21:33
  Speaker 5: It made but the connection has been made.
• 21:38
  Speaker 6: Right, I like, I like what you said when it
• 21:41
  Speaker 6: came to Uh, I'm gonna be honest. I never thought
• 21:45
  Speaker 6: about having a podcast. Oh that was a friend of
• 21:49
  Speaker 6: mine's idea. But I was like, you know, once things
• 21:53
  Speaker 6: went left, I was like, I can't let the dream die.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: I gotta keep keep going, keep doing it. So it
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: was so funny.
• 22:00
  Speaker 6: I thought back to something my mother used to tell me,
• 22:03
  Speaker 6: and I used to be like, Mom, I mean, I
• 22:06
  Speaker 6: just don't get it, you know. She said, look, and
• 22:09
  Speaker 6: you're not understanding. She said, all you gotta do is
• 22:11
  Speaker 6: open your mouth and talk. I'm like, what does that mean?
• 22:13
  Speaker 6: You know sometime when your mom say things, you'd be like,
• 22:16
  Speaker 6: look here, I don't I'm lost, Mama, I don't know.
• 22:18
  Speaker 6: She said, you'll get it. So me and a partner
• 22:21
  Speaker 6: of mine we was I never forget. Was in greena
• 22:24
  Speaker 6: mom and there was a young lady and another guy
• 22:29
  Speaker 6: that was having a little situation, having an argument or whatever.
• 22:33
  Speaker 6: And for some reason, I stepped out the blue and
• 22:35
  Speaker 6: just started, you know, kind of calming the situation now,
• 22:38
  Speaker 6: and my homeboy said, bro, you can talk to anybody.
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, I did it. It hit me.
• 22:43
  Speaker 6: I say, am I gonna be nervous when I do
• 22:45
  Speaker 6: this podcast and read I'm not gonna lie? When I
• 22:48
  Speaker 6: got on, it just went like that, and I was
• 22:50
  Speaker 6: like and then I said, my mama always told me
• 22:53
  Speaker 6: if I opened my mouth, I would figure it out,
• 22:55
  Speaker 6: and she always would say, you got the gift. You
• 22:57
  Speaker 6: can just talk to anybody. I said, Now, yeah, I
• 22:59
  Speaker 6: got to have to talk to anybody, but I don't
• 23:01
  Speaker 6: know what I'm talking about, you know what I mean.
• 23:04
  Speaker 6: So that's where you got to find your I guess,
• 23:07
  Speaker 6: find your niche and find who you are, you know,
• 23:09
  Speaker 6: while you're on this journey, because like something you said,
• 23:12
  Speaker 6: you got to go through some things to get here,
• 23:14
  Speaker 6: you know what I mean. And I mean, I'm just
• 23:17
  Speaker 6: I'm blessed to, you know, be here man. And I
• 23:20
  Speaker 6: love to share my words and share my ability to
• 23:23
  Speaker 6: the world. I mean, it's just it's fun to see
• 23:26
  Speaker 6: people actually pay attention to what you're saying and actually apply.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: To everyday life.
• 23:34
  Speaker 6: And then they hit you with a testimation like I
• 23:36
  Speaker 6: got a message the other day, Man, you just don't
• 23:38
  Speaker 6: know what you said really helped me out.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: Thank you. That's all I'm you know what I mean,
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: That's what it's all about.
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: One person to hear what you're saying, and it changes
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: their perspective on and their outlook on many things. And
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: I don't think at times, I don't think we realize
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: the impact that we.
• 23:58
  Speaker 5: Have on people.
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: And it's our children who are close to us, and
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: our parents and our siblings or anything like that. We
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: don't understand that when it's somebody on the outside that.
• 24:09
  Speaker 5: You may not even know that has.
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: Clicked on something that you've posted or said, or seen
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: a little quote that you may have posted, or a
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: little video, a little something that you've posted, and it
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: changes how they view things. Now, I'm going to ask
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: you this question, Like you've entered into fatherhood, what was
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: that experience like with the first Because you got three
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: and you got two.
• 24:34
  Speaker 5: Girls, So I know.
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: That's a whole different ball game because I got one
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: girl and I got two boys.
• 24:44
  Speaker 5: So said.
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: We had a conversation with moms most of the time
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: about how they balance life being a wife, a mother,
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: and you know a nurse or you know, just their
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: work life. But it's different when we're talking to a
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: dad about how he balances it and how stepping into fatherhood,
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: how that has affected you in a way.
• 25:10
  Speaker 5: So go ahead, damn, We'll go back.
• 25:15
  Speaker 6: We'll go back to twenty fifteen when I had my
• 25:18
  Speaker 6: son February twenty first, twenty fifteen. By the way, that
• 25:22
  Speaker 6: was my mother's birthday too, So that's a big thing
• 25:26
  Speaker 6: to mean, you understand, you know I'm coming from that.
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: I was. I was scared.
• 25:32
  Speaker 6: I'm not gonna lie to you because he had some
• 25:35
  Speaker 6: complications when he was born, you know, and everything, and
• 25:39
  Speaker 6: I was for some reason, and they wanted her to
• 25:43
  Speaker 6: get her rest, of course, but I could be the
• 25:46
  Speaker 6: only the only person in the.
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: NICKI room with him.
• 25:50
  Speaker 6: So I actually went down there one night and beat,
• 25:53
  Speaker 6: I'm not gonna lie. You know when you had your
• 25:56
  Speaker 6: first child, and you know, I'm not thinking he's a way.
• 26:00
  Speaker 6: I stuck my you know how you can stick your
• 26:02
  Speaker 6: finger through the little like little people, and he reached
• 26:05
  Speaker 6: out and he grabbed it, and I kid you not,
• 26:08
  Speaker 6: something went all over me. I'm like, you know what
• 26:11
  Speaker 6: this is your child?
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: Like now?
• 26:13
  Speaker 6: Man, you got a big responsibility. It's over you now.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: All that you. It's all about you. It's all about this.
• 26:21
  Speaker 6: No, no, no, no, no, you know, it's about that
• 26:24
  Speaker 6: wife at home and this one. So we're gonna we're
• 26:27
  Speaker 6: gonna travel down the road right quick. So I'm grawing
• 26:30
  Speaker 6: into being a father, you know, and he's turning.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: I think it's just his second birthday and I'm learning things,
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: you know, whatever, and.
• 26:38
  Speaker 6: Boom, somebody tell me that pregnant again. Wait a minute,
• 26:43
  Speaker 6: hold of them now, it's just this ain't no, no,
• 26:46
  Speaker 6: you gotta be joking. So in my family, on my
• 26:50
  Speaker 6: dad's side, there's nothing but boys.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: It's not for boys.
• 26:52
  Speaker 6: I'm like, okay, I can handle these little rastlers. I
• 26:55
  Speaker 6: can handle him, you know. I'm I'm learning, you know,
• 26:57
  Speaker 6: and I'm I'm thinking I'm doing a good job.
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: Which to find out it's a girl.
• 27:03
  Speaker 6: So now let's stash forward a little bit more. I'm learning,
• 27:10
  Speaker 6: you know, I don't know. I don't care what you say.
• 27:12
  Speaker 6: I love my son death. It's something about them little girls,
• 27:15
  Speaker 6: and it just it just tears your world up as
• 27:17
  Speaker 6: a father.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: It's like certain things.
• 27:20
  Speaker 6: You try not to do that you can't do you know,
• 27:23
  Speaker 6: they just look at you and I'm like, oh, and
• 27:25
  Speaker 6: my son right now is at the age. Well, well,
• 27:28
  Speaker 6: you ain't say it to me like that. Why you
• 27:30
  Speaker 6: why you said to her like that? Man, It's one
• 27:33
  Speaker 6: of those things. So that's stashboard again. Two Thoy eighteen. Uh,
• 27:41
  Speaker 6: I'm pregnant, No way, Okay, you're joking again. And it's
• 27:45
  Speaker 6: the little girl and this is the baby, this is
• 27:48
  Speaker 6: the really just the leader out of the group, you.
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: Know what I mean.
• 27:53
  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, So.
• 27:55
  Speaker 6: I kind of balance my time with them because we
• 27:59
  Speaker 6: all got jobs.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: You know. I get up in the morning five o'clock.
• 28:04
  Speaker 6: I say a prayer for them before I go to work,
• 28:06
  Speaker 6: because most of the time before I go to work,
• 28:09
  Speaker 6: they're not even up there, you know.
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: What I mean.
• 28:10
  Speaker 6: So I say a prayer for them for I go
• 28:12
  Speaker 6: to work, prayer for me to get home and back
• 28:14
  Speaker 6: to them safe.
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 28:15
  Speaker 6: Now, you know how most people when they get off,
• 28:18
  Speaker 6: they say they, oh, I'll be glad to get off.
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: I can relax. I can do this now.
• 28:22
  Speaker 6: It's not that it's when I get off I'm focusing
• 28:25
  Speaker 6: on Okay, I got to get him the football practice. Okay,
• 28:28
  Speaker 6: she's still at work. I gotta do this for that
• 28:30
  Speaker 6: when I got to take them with me, and it
• 28:32
  Speaker 6: can become challenging a lot, you know what I mean.
• 28:36
  Speaker 6: And somewhere along the line, I've I'm not gonna say,
• 28:42
  Speaker 6: mastered it, but now to a point where I'm comfortable
• 28:44
  Speaker 6: with it. You know, it's just like, Okay, I know
• 28:47
  Speaker 6: what to do, I know what to grab.
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: I know this.
• 28:49
  Speaker 6: But if you had to have me to do this
• 28:52
  Speaker 6: years ago, I would have been completely lost. I don't
• 28:54
  Speaker 6: I didn't know nothing about Like when I had my son,
• 28:57
  Speaker 6: I didn't know nothing about chaint no diafle I ain't
• 28:59
  Speaker 6: no nothing I did. He had a feeble stuff like that.
• 29:02
  Speaker 6: So I had to learn over the years of what
• 29:04
  Speaker 6: I did. I just sat back and I studied him.
• 29:07
  Speaker 6: Learn what you know, what kind of make them tick,
• 29:09
  Speaker 6: what make them top? If they if they like this,
• 29:11
  Speaker 6: if they like that. That way, they didn't have to
• 29:13
  Speaker 6: question me. I knew off the muscle, you see what
• 29:15
  Speaker 6: I'm saying. So balancing three with a job and a wife,
• 29:23
  Speaker 6: entrepreneur podcasts and doing shooting the skits and doing the
• 29:27
  Speaker 6: T shirts, yeah, I.
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: Need time every time.
• 29:36
  Speaker 6: But I asked God to give me the strength every
• 29:38
  Speaker 6: day and to keep me level headed. And I think
• 29:40
  Speaker 6: he you know, I know, he's a major part of
• 29:43
  Speaker 6: why I'm making this thing look so easy, because if
• 29:45
  Speaker 6: you don't stay prayed up, you know, things can just shift.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 29:49
  Speaker 6: I'm a heavy believer in a man above, and I
• 29:52
  Speaker 6: asked him for his you know, for his for every
• 29:56
  Speaker 6: most importantly, I asked him for his help. I said God,
• 29:59
  Speaker 6: and I talked just like I would talk to all
• 30:01
  Speaker 6: my sons, because I speak life in my son too,
• 30:04
  Speaker 6: and I know beat Without him, I couldn't have I
• 30:07
  Speaker 6: couldn't have done this.
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: Look like I'm trying. Not.
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm tired, I definitely know, and I will say,
• 30:19
  Speaker 3: I don't envy you for the three right now. I'm
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: grateful that my three are grown and I got the
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: grand now.
• 30:27
  Speaker 5: But having to figure.
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: Out, Okay, this one has orchestra, this one has these
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: two football, this one, these two have baseball. This one
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: like it was one point with my oldest son, Oh
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: my god, he was from football season to basket to baseball, basketball,
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: then he wanted to do the gardening club, and then
• 30:50
  Speaker 3: he wanted to do a play at school. I said,
• 30:52
  Speaker 3: look here, le boy, listen, go ahead and take something
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: I'm tired. We taking a season off because look here,
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: you got.
• 31:01
  Speaker 5: Me running from here to there.
• 31:03
  Speaker 6: I'm tied.
• 31:04
  Speaker 5: I ain't got no energy. I don't have anything left.
• 31:09
  Speaker 5: I don't care about.
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: You want to play in this dirt at this gardening
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: center at the school right now.
• 31:15
  Speaker 5: We're not doing none else.
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: You're gonna do this play right here, and were taking
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: a break.
• 31:20
  Speaker 5: We're not doing nothing ness. And he looked at me,
• 31:24
  Speaker 5: But Mom, I really want.
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: To go dream about it because we do next.
• 31:31
  Speaker 5: I told you, I'm tired. I ain't got no energy.
• 31:35
  Speaker 5: I got to get up and go to work tomorrow.
• 31:37
  Speaker 5: You're still talking about some other club you want to join.
• 31:40
  Speaker 5: Don't you fill out? And the permission slipt. Don't you
• 31:42
  Speaker 5: even ask them about the club they got? Because we're
• 31:44
  Speaker 5: not doing nothing else. I'm tired. So he was to
• 31:49
  Speaker 5: say he did something. I said, boy, look here, God,
• 31:56
  Speaker 5: I said, God, look here.
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: I don't want you to come and get him, but
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: I want you to sit him down for just a minute.
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: I'm tied, and I don't think he understands what it
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: means for me to be tied.
• 32:10
  Speaker 6: Right They don't, They don't, They don't, man, And then
• 32:13
  Speaker 6: I tell you this, you know. So I told a
• 32:16
  Speaker 6: partner of mine, I said, man, look I say, and
• 32:18
  Speaker 6: like you said, play Jayleen was in the play, right,
• 32:21
  Speaker 6: so he's done. He's done some good in the play.
• 32:24
  Speaker 6: Now the girls want to be in the play. So okay,
• 32:27
  Speaker 6: you know, so now they're saying they want to be
• 32:29
  Speaker 6: in a play.
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: But this the thing, and you know this. They're in
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: different age groups.
• 32:34
  Speaker 6: So one gonna have a practice this time, one got
• 32:38
  Speaker 6: to practice that time, and then the other one doing
• 32:41
  Speaker 6: this and like you said, one playing football, these two
• 32:44
  Speaker 6: one to cheer lead. I of looked at the schedule.
• 32:46
  Speaker 6: They're not on the same time, they're not the same age.
• 32:49
  Speaker 6: So I'm thinking in my head, okay, how we're gonna
• 32:53
  Speaker 6: do this? And I told my wife, I said, look
• 32:56
  Speaker 6: what we're gonna do with Jalen got.
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: To I said, football games? Of course you're going.
• 32:59
  Speaker 6: I said, yeah, but this one chill leading and this
• 33:01
  Speaker 6: one chill leading, we're gonna miss something, you know what
• 33:04
  Speaker 6: I mean. So I'm really trying to figure that out
• 33:07
  Speaker 6: right now, you know, like how we're gonna balance that.
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: But when it comes to just and when it.
• 33:12
  Speaker 6: Comes to just balancing them with everyday life, I think
• 33:15
  Speaker 6: It's one of those things that you know, you just
• 33:17
  Speaker 6: get used to and once you once you get it
• 33:20
  Speaker 6: is it's all good. So I've been doing good so far.
• 33:23
  Speaker 6: Pray for me, though, I.
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: Gave myself whiplash one time. Come my boys was playing
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: baseball and that dunk and park. Now they had games
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: at the same time, so you know, they got.
• 33:36
  Speaker 5: The two pills. So I'm sitting all the time.
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: I'm going from this side to that side, and they like,
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: what are you doing? I got two kids playing I
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: need to be at because you know they're gonna be like, Mama,
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: did you see me right?
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: Right right?
• 33:54
  Speaker 5: I saw what I could see.
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: I ain't see everything, so I got I would have
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: from my phone. Now I'm trying to if I'm not
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: looking with my eyes, I'm looky. I got the camera
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: over there, so I'm like, and then I have my
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: daughter with me. I'm like, listen, you gonna sit on
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: this side over here, you tell me what we're gonna
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: recap after the game, and were gonna go that way?
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: Because my head hurts, my neck hurts, I'm doing this
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: the whole time. This is too much, But I would
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: not trade those moments for anything, and to look back
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: over all of that, and I'm lying. And I told
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: my kids, I'm like, look and when my boys they
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: were on the traveling football team, and so if I
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: could make it, like if I was sick or something
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: like that, I called my dad and my brother. Look
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: they playing in rock Hill, y'all in Charlotte. Get down
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: enough to the pill, Send me a pictures, send me
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: whatever you got going on. And I really don't care
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: what it is, but somebody be there to support them
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: because Mama can't go, and they always want somebody, don't
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: care who it is, to know that they got that support.
• 35:09
  Speaker 3: And I'm grateful for the support system that I've had
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: with my kids, and that plays a major part in that,
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: having that support system, and not just your wife, you know,
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: because that's that's number one, but having the outside sources
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: like aunties, grands. I don't really have my mom anymore.
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: You don't have yours either, but you know when we
• 35:32
  Speaker 3: did have them, when I had mine, I could say,
• 35:37
  Speaker 3: my mama let my kids get away with too much,
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: and I'll just be like, look, mom, look here, I said.
• 35:42
  Speaker 5: No, she'd be like majo business. And I see now
• 35:45
  Speaker 5: I'm the same way with mine.
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: Because my daughter says, I need to show her the
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: version of me that they had when they were growing up.
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: And I'm like, I don't know what you talk about.
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: I have absolutely I did what you're talking about. You know, yeah,
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: I don't know what you're talking about. Like my daughter
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: was complaining about her daughter coming in the bathroom with her,
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: and I was like, you're grown now and you still
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: come in the bathroom with me, So what's the difference.
• 36:15
  Speaker 5: I said that half the time, both of y'all come
• 36:18
  Speaker 5: in the.
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: Bathroom with me, and she said, but that's different because
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: you my mama. I'm still trying to figure out her
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: logic to that statement, because you can figure.
• 36:30
  Speaker 6: Out what's going on with it.
• 36:33
  Speaker 5: Out yet because she said you my mama. I understand, but.
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: She you her mama, and both of y'all still come
• 36:45
  Speaker 3: in the bathroom with me, and I'll be wanting to
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: escape and have my peace and quiet time to.
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: They don't have to do it. It don't happen.
• 36:58
  Speaker 6: I can tell you this though, that that piece and
• 37:01
  Speaker 6: uh in the household with three kids.
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: That ain't happening.
• 37:06
  Speaker 6: That's why I tell people, they say, man, how do
• 37:08
  Speaker 6: you do it? I said, what you mean I said
• 37:10
  Speaker 6: I have my piece, but I just don't have my
• 37:11
  Speaker 6: piece in the household. These three kids like what you mean.
• 37:14
  Speaker 6: I'm like, man, look, it's something every five seconds. If
• 37:19
  Speaker 6: they want this, they want this, they want that, and
• 37:22
  Speaker 6: then they're on this thing. If one get it, the
• 37:25
  Speaker 6: other two gotta get it. And I'm just like, look here, man,
• 37:28
  Speaker 6: this is getting too much. So my my wife, she'll
• 37:31
  Speaker 6: try to talk to them. They listen, but then again
• 37:34
  Speaker 6: it's like they're gonna ask her something and she say no,
• 37:38
  Speaker 6: they'll come ask me, and then I say no, they're
• 37:41
  Speaker 6: gonna as something like wait, man, y'all playing both sides.
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: This, ain't you know? No means no.
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: Front on that in the United Front. That was one
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: thing when my kids father an hour together, Lord have
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: mercy when I say they will always they could get
• 38:02
  Speaker 3: over on him a lot more than they could get
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: away with it with me.
• 38:06
  Speaker 5: But he would always be.
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: Like, did I come and ask you such a such
• 38:10
  Speaker 3: because I don't want to give her no answer if
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: you already told her no, And I'm like, oh.
• 38:16
  Speaker 5: She already she already know the answer is no.
• 38:20
  Speaker 3: That's why you're calling you because you know you are
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: weakling for it. You gonna give it to her, So
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: she trying. I said, you know what, the kids would
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: do that, but y'all definitely got to be there on
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: their United Front. And they kids, oh my god, they're
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: so sneaky when it comes to this, because they try
• 38:39
  Speaker 3: to make sure that you're not within earshot of hearing
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: what we asked for the other parents because they want
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: to get that. Oh my gosh, they want to get
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: what they want. They don't care that No, they want
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: what they want and they gonna try to figure out
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: get daddy to say yeah. And if I get daddy
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: to say yeah, I ain't got worried about what mama saying, right.
• 39:04
  Speaker 6: I mean, I'm gonna tell you my baby girl, she
• 39:07
  Speaker 6: got this thing man, and I uncoughed. I'm picked up
• 39:11
  Speaker 6: on it. I'm not. I'm not going for it no more.
• 39:13
  Speaker 6: I shut it off last weekend.
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: It's not happy. So when she want something, when she
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: wants something, I tell her, I say no. She said, okay.
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: She dropped her shoulders, drop her head. She walk off.
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: Well be them. Five minutes later, you're here. Oh you
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: know what, I'm like, what's long?
• 39:29
  Speaker 6: I fell, you know, be limping and going on here
• 39:33
  Speaker 6: and then somewhere in't it? When she talked to me,
• 39:36
  Speaker 6: I said, you, okay, yeah, can I have what I done?
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: Told her she couldn't.
• 39:40
  Speaker 6: Can I have an icy? And I get the feeling
• 39:42
  Speaker 6: sorry for her? So yeah, you can go ahead and
• 39:45
  Speaker 6: have it. So I'm gonna tell you what was funny.
• 39:47
  Speaker 6: Last week. She falls, messes up her ankle. She say,
• 39:52
  Speaker 6: got it down packed. She lifted through the house and everything.
• 39:55
  Speaker 6: So I'm kind of looking at him. I say, which
• 39:57
  Speaker 6: ankle is? She said this one? I said, okay, but
• 40:01
  Speaker 6: I ain't gonna say that. She said what I said,
• 40:03
  Speaker 6: look at her? She limping like it's the other one.
• 40:05
  Speaker 6: I said, she ain't.
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: She ain't gonna get me this time. Can I have
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: an icy? I said, no?
• 40:09
  Speaker 6: Vedam them ankles turned better, stump to the ground, ran off.
• 40:14
  Speaker 6: I said, see what I'm saying. I said, Man, these
• 40:16
  Speaker 6: kids right here, you can't trust these days. Ain't nothing
• 40:19
  Speaker 6: even wrong with the ankle. She was trying to.
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: Get me the you know. I said, yes if I
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: feel sorry for it. No, I'm not going for it
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: no moment. And so.
• 40:29
  Speaker 5: Listen, these kids, I swell, these.
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: I don't even know if they pandemic babies or what.
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: But I'm gonna tell you something. Listen, grand daughter. Let
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: me tell you. Oh my god, Lisa. She was about
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: three months old. I was babysitting her. You know, she
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: just wandering and crying and I'm like, okay, so I'm
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: I get over the tool. I don't see not one
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: tear coming out of her eyes. And so I look
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: at her and I'm like, you, donet made all this noise,
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: and there is your eyes ry, there's no tears, I
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: tell you now, She's only three months at this time.
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: The next time she started to cry and scream. Do
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: you know she was squeezing them eyes so tight until
• 41:09
  Speaker 3: tears started to come out her eyes. I said, you
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: don't been here before that. You haven't been here before
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: because in the world, you know what I'm talking about,
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: what you even know what.
• 41:20
  Speaker 5: A till looked like like you do.
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: And so anytime she cries now and this is the funny.
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: She's a year old now, and she fries and she
• 41:31
  Speaker 3: makes a noise or she gets hurt or something like that,
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: she looks to see if you're looking, and if you're.
• 41:38
  Speaker 5: Looking, she does this and then she'll go and I'm like,
• 41:45
  Speaker 5: I'm not buying it.
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: And so she got yelling and caring on the head
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: the other day and she just started I said, okay, listen,
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: let me ask you a question. What's all this emotion for?
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: What's the problem?
• 41:59
  Speaker 5: She looking like, are you really asking?
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm asking you what's the matter, because I need
• 42:05
  Speaker 3: you to tell me what you're doing all of this for.
• 42:07
  Speaker 5: She's gonna look at me and be like, I said,
• 42:14
  Speaker 5: what did you cut out? In noise out? Because you
• 42:16
  Speaker 5: ain't got no reason for you to be doing that.
• 42:18
  Speaker 5: Ain't nobody getting that to you.
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: You was in with the little blocks, and all of
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: a sudden you don't want to play with the blocks
• 42:24
  Speaker 3: no more.
• 42:24
  Speaker 5: So you mad at everybody else in the house.
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: That what it is.
• 42:29
  Speaker 5: I'm like, you can't be doing all that no today.
• 42:34
  Speaker 6: I don't know, man, these kids is different. I'm just
• 42:37
  Speaker 6: I'm holding in the role. I ain't got no choice.
• 42:41
  Speaker 6: I let them know. Look, Daddy'll never I'll never just
• 42:46
  Speaker 6: not help you in any situation. I do all I can,
• 42:50
  Speaker 6: you know, and i'ma love you regardless, you know, from
• 42:52
  Speaker 6: here to the moon whatever.
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: But y'all gotta y y'all gotta work with me a
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: little bit. You know what.
• 42:58
  Speaker 6: I mean every times up. I'm gonna tell you this.
• 43:01
  Speaker 6: I was doing a podcast one night. Now my wife
• 43:04
  Speaker 6: was gone. I let you know, she go out with
• 43:06
  Speaker 6: her homegirls or whatever, So okay, cool me not thinking.
• 43:09
  Speaker 6: I'm like, okay, I'm gonna shoot this podcast. And I'm
• 43:12
  Speaker 6: shooting it. You know, I'm looking at it. What no guests,
• 43:14
  Speaker 6: I'm just shooting it. And all of a sudden, they
• 43:18
  Speaker 6: running behind me, back your phone, and I'm just like,
• 43:21
  Speaker 6: you know, I had to delete it.
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: You know, I'm saying, y'all gonna sit down, let me
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: finish this. Okay.
• 43:26
  Speaker 6: I started that. It's I Jayalen running behind me. I said,
• 43:29
  Speaker 6: you know what I told the audience. I said, you
• 43:30
  Speaker 6: know what, y'all, this ain't gonna get this ain't gonna
• 43:32
  Speaker 6: happen to night. I said, this is all while I
• 43:34
  Speaker 6: talked to y'all. Lady faul getting off. One of my
• 43:36
  Speaker 6: partners was looking at it.
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: He said, man, tell them kids to sit there.
• 43:40
  Speaker 6: I said, man, them kids or something else. Man, I
• 43:42
  Speaker 6: don't know what I was thinking. Knowing darn well, I
• 43:45
  Speaker 6: wasn't gonna get no peace while I was doing the
• 43:47
  Speaker 6: podcast with them around here. But hey, that's that's them.
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: Kids.
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: For you know, I understand that completely. My granddaughter like
• 43:56
  Speaker 3: her my daughter, and they just left. Anytime I get
• 44:00
  Speaker 3: ready to do a podcast and she's here, she has
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: to show her face. She she knows what I'm doing
• 44:06
  Speaker 3: and she has to be a part of And so
• 44:09
  Speaker 3: I told her. I said I'm gonna see you tomorrow.
• 44:12
  Speaker 3: And I was like, grandma gotta do her podcast. And
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: she I was like, so, I'm gonna see you tomorrow.
• 44:17
  Speaker 5: She's like, I said, no, you gotta go home right now.
• 44:21
  Speaker 5: I got my podcast to do, she said.
• 44:25
  Speaker 3: I said, man, listen, I'm gonna see you tomorrow.
• 44:29
  Speaker 5: And her mama sitting up there and.
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: Said, okay, you cannot be part of your your grandma's podcast.
• 44:35
  Speaker 5: She gotta work. She looked at her and said, mm hmmm, wow,
• 44:40
  Speaker 5: oh wow. You go home. You'll see me tomorrow. But
• 44:45
  Speaker 5: this is the thing I had told her when she
• 44:47
  Speaker 5: was probably about six months old.
• 44:48
  Speaker 3: I said, listen, you're gonna be my secretary for my
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: publishing business.
• 44:53
  Speaker 5: I said, so you're gonna help me do that.
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: Now.
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: Anytime I open up this laptop, she comes and try
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: to get her stuff done. She had her little paper,
• 45:03
  Speaker 3: she got her little pen. Honey, she is ready for
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: the job.
• 45:09
  Speaker 5: Get this. She is very smart to be a year old.
• 45:12
  Speaker 5: And I'm like, look, I don't know where you done
• 45:14
  Speaker 5: came from.
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 45:16
  Speaker 5: I don't know nothing about where you came from.
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: But I got to be on my p's and q's
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: because this little girl will tell you what she needs
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: you to know.
• 45:24
  Speaker 5: She ain't got a few.
• 45:25
  Speaker 3: She knows, you know, a little bit of stuff her
• 45:27
  Speaker 3: kamlaying all the way there, but what she knows what
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: she want to tell you.
• 45:32
  Speaker 5: I get on the phone with her, and I swear
• 45:35
  Speaker 5: half of it. I don't know, but she'll come in
• 45:38
  Speaker 5: the house now. Like yesterday she came out and I
• 45:41
  Speaker 5: walked in. She was like, hey baby, right.
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: I see her Like if I'm coming home from work
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: or whatever, I'm like, hey baby, you do it.
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: So I walk.
• 45:57
  Speaker 5: Exactly what she said to me, Hey babe.
• 46:02
  Speaker 3: I was talking to one of my coworkers on the
• 46:04
  Speaker 3: phone and I was like, let me tell you about
• 46:07
  Speaker 3: what happened that work today, And so she was like, Sha.
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: You gotta you gotta to watch what you saying around them.
• 46:18
  Speaker 6: Oh goodness, because my kids, man, when they was like
• 46:23
  Speaker 6: when they was younger, you know, I tell people say,
• 46:27
  Speaker 6: he oh, don't don't do that.
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: They're like, what you mean? I said the same thing
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: you saying, They're gonna repeat it when you leave. You know.
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: I talked my son, my little girl, and my wife.
• 46:37
  Speaker 6: She'll she'll say something and then my middle child will
• 46:40
  Speaker 6: go right back and repeat it the same way.
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: I was like, no, no, no, don't say that like that.
• 46:44
  Speaker 6: You don't take that out of that and then put
• 46:46
  Speaker 6: it together, you know what I mean.
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: She's like, I'm sorry. I'm like, yeah, okay, but I
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: look at you like you just don't stop it.
• 47:00
  Speaker 3: Got They these kids are just like sponges. Whatever you
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: put down, they're gonna pick it up and absorb it.
• 47:07
  Speaker 3: And it's just a blessings that they're able to do that.
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: But at times it's like that ain't no. Because my granddaddy,
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: like she tries to help me. Was when I'm cooking
• 47:24
  Speaker 3: or whatever. And so I was at work earlier and
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: my daughter called me and they were here, and so
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: she was she.
• 47:31
  Speaker 5: Was crying about wanting one of her little way for
• 47:34
  Speaker 5: cookies off the.
• 47:35
  Speaker 3: Counter, and so I was like, well, why didn't you
• 47:38
  Speaker 3: give it to it? She was like I didn't know
• 47:39
  Speaker 3: what she was talking about she took me to the kitchen.
• 47:42
  Speaker 5: I said, well, she know what her slack said.
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: I said, so she told you.
• 47:45
  Speaker 5: Where it was.
• 47:46
  Speaker 3: And you getting mad at her cause she's telling you
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: to give you to give her what she asking for.
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: I can't do it. She's talking about.
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: She just doing too much, She doing too much, She
• 47:58
  Speaker 3: do too much over here at her t t house.
• 48:00
  Speaker 5: You just let her get away with ever.
• 48:02
  Speaker 3: What was the mama act that I had that we
• 48:04
  Speaker 3: couldn't get away with her? I said, no, ma'am, just
• 48:08
  Speaker 3: give her her little snacks, and said she got some
• 48:10
  Speaker 3: little pump things in there too.
• 48:12
  Speaker 5: Just get her a little plate and let her have
• 48:14
  Speaker 5: her little snacks. So she gave her. So I'm on
• 48:16
  Speaker 5: the plate.
• 48:17
  Speaker 3: So I'm sitting here while she's talking about now she's
• 48:19
  Speaker 3: mocking me.
• 48:20
  Speaker 5: She over there sitting in the floor doing like that.
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: Oh God, I said, she's nice.
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: So every time my daughter would put the camera on her,
• 48:29
  Speaker 3: she'd be still. But she said, you don't see her,
• 48:37
  Speaker 3: she said, because you know she's gonna be in trouble
• 48:39
  Speaker 3: if you see her.
• 48:39
  Speaker 6: Doing I said, today, kids is whatever. I'm just enjoying them,
• 48:48
  Speaker 6: every every every day, every second. They're growing up so fast,
• 48:53
  Speaker 6: and it's one thing, one thing you can't do. You
• 48:56
  Speaker 6: can't slow down time. And I tell you, man, if
• 49:00
  Speaker 6: I could, if I could, I would because my son, Man,
• 49:04
  Speaker 6: you know, it just seemed like yesterday he was the
• 49:06
  Speaker 6: same little kid that was in the hospital. Now he's
• 49:09
  Speaker 6: growing up, going out in the world, got his new
• 49:11
  Speaker 6: new little friends and stuff like that.
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, well, you know, I was the same way.
• 49:16
  Speaker 6: And then it's crazy when you sit back and look
• 49:18
  Speaker 6: at him and you get on him sometime, but you
• 49:21
  Speaker 6: gotta think, wait.
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: A minute, and he get that from me, you know
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: I was. I was like that.
• 49:26
  Speaker 6: So I tell him now, you know, I try to
• 49:28
  Speaker 6: get him express his emotions a little better.
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: I'm like, he's like, what I do wrong? Hold up,
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: that's not your father.
• 49:34
  Speaker 6: I was the same way, I said, So what I'm
• 49:37
  Speaker 6: gonna do now is show you how to get over
• 49:41
  Speaker 6: these hanks, over these her because think about it, Jaylen,
• 49:45
  Speaker 6: he said what I say, I've been through it. I
• 49:48
  Speaker 6: think I'm the originator of it because you you got
• 49:50
  Speaker 6: it from me. So yeah, just listen to me and
• 49:55
  Speaker 6: we'll get over it. And then he'll still keep doing
• 49:57
  Speaker 6: it that way.
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: But then he'll come back. He'll be like, you know,
• 50:00
  Speaker 2: but yeah, I thank you.
• 50:01
  Speaker 6: Was right, I know, but it's gonna take for you
• 50:05
  Speaker 6: to see it, and you know when you see it,
• 50:07
  Speaker 6: you'll get it right.
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: So it is what it is.
• 50:10
  Speaker 3: Well, I want to tell you how much I appreciate
• 50:13
  Speaker 3: you for being here tonight. So I want to tell
• 50:16
  Speaker 3: you how proud I am for you to just to
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: see you grow and blossom into the space in which
• 50:22
  Speaker 3: you are right now.
• 50:23
  Speaker 5: I am just honored and grateful to be a part
• 50:27
  Speaker 5: of your growth, you know, So.
• 50:30
  Speaker 3: Continue to do what you're doing, continue to inspire and
• 50:33
  Speaker 3: reach out in any kind of way that if I
• 50:36
  Speaker 3: can help, let me know, and vice versa.
• 50:40
  Speaker 5: I'm sure.
• 50:41
  Speaker 3: But tell the people who are watching, we've had some
• 50:44
  Speaker 3: comments in there, and I know they've been laughing at us,
• 50:46
  Speaker 3: but I can't couldn't read all of it, but we'll
• 50:50
  Speaker 3: go back and watch it in comment at the when
• 50:52
  Speaker 3: we look at it.
• 50:54
  Speaker 5: But how they can get in contact with you?
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 50:58
  Speaker 6: Well, as y'all know, my name is Thomas Roofed. I'm
• 51:01
  Speaker 6: on Facebook, but I have a podcast called The One
• 51:04
  Speaker 6: Nation Podcast.
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: Ass fo. You can find us on Facebook YouTube.
• 51:09
  Speaker 6: Oh, also TikTok and you just typed it in One
• 51:12
  Speaker 6: Nation podcast ass for that's how you can find us.
• 51:15
  Speaker 6: We're also doing One Nation Designs dot Com. We're bringing
• 51:18
  Speaker 6: that back. You could find that on Facebook too. If
• 51:22
  Speaker 6: you ever want to be a guest on the podcast,
• 51:24
  Speaker 6: which I know who's probably gonna be my next guest.
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: I'm looking at it right now.
• 51:28
  Speaker 6: So if y'all be ready, you want to be a guess,
• 51:31
  Speaker 6: just shoot us a message or most likely we'll reply
• 51:35
  Speaker 6: back with you probably that same day, you know, not
• 51:38
  Speaker 6: even an hour later.
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: But that's where you can find us on all major platforms.
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  Speaker 3: All Right, well, I thank you, thank you, thank you
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  Speaker 3: so much. This has just been wonderful.
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  Speaker 5: This is how we do.
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  Speaker 3: This is just what we do anyway, and everybody who
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  Speaker 3: tuned in, I thank you for your time tonight. But
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  Speaker 3: you know I cannot end this show without saying this
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  Speaker 3: one thing.
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  Speaker 5: Go ahead and say something.
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  Speaker 6: I got say something though, Just as much as you've
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  Speaker 6: seen my growth, y'all'm gonna give her flowers tonight. So
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  Speaker 6: i'ma tell you something. When she says she's an introvert,
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  Speaker 6: she shot, yes she is. But I'm gonna tell you
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  Speaker 6: I'm proud of you. I see you doing doing the podcast.
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  Speaker 6: You got the book going through and I just watch
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  Speaker 6: you know everything if you've dealt with over the years,
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  Speaker 6: you know what I'm saying. Kids done, graduated now, your
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  Speaker 6: grandmother you know, and you went through the health issues,
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  Speaker 6: but you stay strong, you know. And that's why I'm
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  Speaker 6: mind about you. And I tell a lot of people. Man,
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  Speaker 6: you know, you gotta stay prayed up. And I know
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  Speaker 6: you want to, you know what I mean. And I
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  Speaker 6: just I appreciate everything you do. I be I been looking,
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  Speaker 6: you know, checking things out. You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 6: So I can't wait to, you know, collaborate with you
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  Speaker 6: in the future and I'll let you take it from there.
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  Speaker 2: But I had to give you flowers before we leave tonight.
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  Speaker 5: Well thank you so much for that. But the only
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  Speaker 5: thing I'm gonna say.
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  Speaker 3: Is the thing that I say before I end each
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  Speaker 3: and every show, and that is stay out of God's business.
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  Speaker 3: The only thing God needs you to do is be
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  Speaker 3: obedient to what He's called you to do. So until
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  Speaker 3: next time, I'll see you guys on August of twenty second.
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  Speaker 5: I love you.
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  Speaker 2: Bye. Pursings me. All things ain't one thing.
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  Speaker 1: Where in all the blue Sky's Boys
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  Speaker 3: Blow from the north of something well person