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CIMC 148: When You’re Afraid to Admit You’re Not Attracted to Him Anymore · Dr. Danielle Difference

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  Welcome
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  to
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  The
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  Crying
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  Podcast,
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  where
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  we
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  stop
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  settling,
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  stop
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  spiraling,
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  and
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  stop
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  living
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  in
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  bodies
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  and
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  lives
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  that
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  feel
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  too
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  small
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  for
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  who
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  God
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  created
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  us
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  to
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  be.
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  I'm
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  your
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  host,
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  Dr.
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  Danielle
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  Naturopathic,
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  doctor
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  Root
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  Cause
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  detective,
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  straight
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  talking
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  coach,
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  and
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  the
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  woman
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  who's
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  going
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  to
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  tell
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  you
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  the
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  truth
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  about
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  your
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  health,
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  your
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  habits,
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  and
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  your
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  spiritual
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  life,
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  even
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  when
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  no
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  one
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  else
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  will.
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  If
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  you're
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  exhausted
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  from
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  starting
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  over,
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  overwhelmed
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  by
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  symptoms,
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  no
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  one
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  explains.
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  You're
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  ready
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  to
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  take
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  radical
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  responsibility
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  for
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  the
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  woman
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  you're
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  becoming.
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  You're
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  in
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  the
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  right
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  place.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  faith
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  meets
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  physiology,
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  where
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  mindset
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  meets
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  metabolism
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  and
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  where
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  real
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  transformation,
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  the
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  lasting
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  kind
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  actually
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  happens.
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  Let's
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  get
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  into
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  two
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  days
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  episode.
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  All
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  right,
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  friend,
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  come
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  sit
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  with
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  me
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  for
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  a
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  second.
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  This
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  is
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  our
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  Friday
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  episode
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  and
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  I'm
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  gonna
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  take
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  Tuesday's
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  episode
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  a
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  little
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  bit
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  deeper.
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  So
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  if
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  you
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  are
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  not,
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  if
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  you're
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  tuning
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  in
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  and
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  you
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  did
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  not
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  listen
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  to
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  the
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  episode
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  on
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  Tuesday,
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  that's
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  fine.
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  This
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  can
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  be
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  a
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  standalone
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  episode
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  two,
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  but
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  I
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  go
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  into
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  kinda
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  the
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  physiology
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  of
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  everything
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  about
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  this.
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  Peace
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  behind
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  the
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  attraction
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  to
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  our
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  spouse.
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  And
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  so
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  as
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  a
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  Christian
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  woman,
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  that
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  is
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  like
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  a
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  huge
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  faux
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  pa,
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  right?
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  Where
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  oh,
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  it's
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  supposed
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  to
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  be
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  amazing.
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  And
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  then
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  like
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  add
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  in
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  the
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  whole
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  Instagram
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  influencers
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  and
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  you
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  see
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  all
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  these
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  people
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  like
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  having
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  such
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  amazing
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  marriages
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  and
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  their
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  husbands
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  do
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  all
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  these
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  things
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  and
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  they
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  don't
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  have
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  to
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  work.
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  And
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  excuse
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  me,
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  all
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  this
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  stuff.
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  And
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  then
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  you
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  see
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  the
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  Mormon
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  mommy
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  influencers
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  and
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  they
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  make
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  you
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  feel
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  even
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  worse,
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  right?
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  They're
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  always
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  all
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  completely
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  done
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  up.
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  But
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  I
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  just,
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  it's,
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  it's
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  a
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  faux
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  paw
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  to
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  even
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  talk
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  about
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  this.
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  And
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  so
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  I'm
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  gonna
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  talk
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  about
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  it
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  because
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  you're
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  not
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  gonna
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  keep
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  my
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  mouth
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  shut.
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  Um,
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  I
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  was
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  just
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  saying
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  earlier
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  today
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  as
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  of
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  recording
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  this,
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  I'm
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  like,
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  um,
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  you
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  know
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  what
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  makes
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  me
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  exhausted
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  is
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  not
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  being
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  able
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  to
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  talk,
• 1:36
  not
• 1:36
  being
• 1:36
  like
• 1:37
  having
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  to
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  keep
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  my
• 1:37
  mouth
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  shut
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  is
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  what
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  makes
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  me
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  exhausted.
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  So
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  let's
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  have
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  this
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  honest
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  conversation
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  because
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  I
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  wanna
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  talk
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  to
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  the
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  woman
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  across
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  the
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  table
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  today.
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  Uh,
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  the
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  women
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  or
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  woman,
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  um,
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  that
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  is
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  struggling
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  and
• 1:49
  carrying
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  this
• 1:50
  heaviness
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  in
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  her
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  chest
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  that
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  she's
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  not
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  saying
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  out
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  loud.
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  And
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  it's
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  this,
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  the,
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  the
• 1:55
  idea
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  of
• 1:55
  not
• 1:55
  feeling
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  attracted
• 1:56
  to
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  our
• 1:57
  husbands
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  anymore.
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  And
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  before
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  you
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  tense
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  up
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  and
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  shut
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  off
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  this
• 2:01
  episode,
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  just
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  stay
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  with
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  me.
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  Let
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  me,
• 2:02
  let
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  me
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  talk
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  through
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  this.
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  So
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  this
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  is
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  not
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  the
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  episode
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  about
• 2:05
  the
• 2:05
  physiology
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  of
• 2:06
  it.
• 2:06
  This
• 2:07
  episode
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  is
• 2:07
  going
• 2:07
  to
• 2:08
  be
• 2:08
  talking
• 2:09
  about
• 2:10
  like
• 2:10
  what's
• 2:10
  actually
• 2:10
  happening
• 2:11
  in
• 2:12
  in
• 2:12
  US
• 2:12
  and
• 2:13
  just
• 2:13
  kind
• 2:13
  of
• 2:13
  ex.
• 2:14
  Blurring.
• 2:15
  What
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  is
• 2:16
  the
• 2:16
  emotions
• 2:17
  and
• 2:17
  validating
• 2:18
  what's
• 2:18
  going
• 2:18
  on?
• 2:19
  Because
• 2:19
  I'm
• 2:19
  not
• 2:19
  here
• 2:19
  to
• 2:20
  shame
• 2:20
  you.
• 2:20
  I'm
• 2:21
  not
• 2:21
  here
• 2:21
  to
• 2:21
  diagnose
• 2:21
  your
• 2:21
  marriage.
• 2:22
  I'm
• 2:22
  not
• 2:22
  here
• 2:22
  to
• 2:22
  slap
• 2:23
  you
• 2:23
  with
• 2:23
  Bible
• 2:23
  verses
• 2:23
  and
• 2:23
  tell
• 2:24
  you
• 2:24
  to
• 2:24
  pray
• 2:24
  over,
• 2:24
  pray
• 2:25
  your
• 2:25
  way
• 2:25
  out
• 2:25
  of
• 2:25
  this.
• 2:25
  That's
• 2:25
  not
• 2:26
  what's
• 2:26
  going
• 2:26
  on.
• 2:27
  I'm
• 2:27
  gonna
• 2:27
  tell
• 2:27
  you
• 2:27
  the
• 2:28
  truth
• 2:28
  and
• 2:28
  I'm
• 2:28
  gonna
• 2:28
  tell
• 2:28
  you
• 2:29
  the
• 2:29
  truth
• 2:29
  that.
• 2:29
  You
• 2:30
  if
• 2:30
  you're
• 2:31
  listening
• 2:31
  to
• 2:31
  this
• 2:31
  and
• 2:32
  you
• 2:32
  are
• 2:32
  hearing
• 2:33
  this,
• 2:33
  that
• 2:34
  this
• 2:34
  has
• 2:34
  come
• 2:35
  up
• 2:35
  multiple
• 2:35
  times
• 2:36
  in
• 2:36
  my
• 2:36
  world,
• 2:37
  inside
• 2:38
  my
• 2:38
  clinic,
• 2:38
  inside
• 2:38
  Wilderness
• 2:39
  of
• 2:39
  Wellness,
• 2:39
  inside
• 2:40
  the
• 2:40
  quiet
• 2:40
  whispers
• 2:41
  in
• 2:41
  my
• 2:41
  dms,
• 2:41
  and
• 2:42
  I
• 2:42
  called
• 2:42
  my
• 2:42
  dms
• 2:42
  Quiet
• 2:43
  Whispers
• 2:43
  because.
• 2:44
  The
• 2:44
  amount
• 2:45
  of
• 2:45
  conversations
• 2:45
  I
• 2:45
  have,
• 2:46
  I
• 2:46
  think,
• 2:46
  I
• 2:46
  don't
• 2:46
  even
• 2:47
  wanna
• 2:47
  know
• 2:47
  how
• 2:47
  much
• 2:47
  time
• 2:48
  I
• 2:48
  actually
• 2:48
  spend
• 2:48
  in
• 2:48
  my
• 2:48
  dms
• 2:49
  every
• 2:49
  day,
• 2:49
  but
• 2:50
  the
• 2:50
  amount
• 2:50
  of
• 2:50
  conversations
• 2:51
  I'm
• 2:51
  having
• 2:51
  in
• 2:51
  there,
• 2:52
  I'm
• 2:52
  seen.
• 2:52
  And
• 2:52
  so
• 2:52
  I'm
• 2:53
  gonna,
• 2:53
  I'm
• 2:53
  gonna
• 2:53
  talk
• 2:53
  to
• 2:54
  it
• 2:54
  guys.
• 2:54
  I'm
• 2:54
  gonna
• 2:54
  talk
• 2:54
  to
• 2:55
  what,
• 2:55
  what
• 2:55
  I'm
• 2:55
  hearing
• 2:56
  in,
• 2:56
  in
• 2:57
  my
• 2:57
  world.
• 2:57
  Okay,
• 2:58
  so
• 2:59
  let's
• 2:59
  just
• 2:59
  go
• 2:59
  ahead
• 2:59
  and
• 2:59
  like,
• 3:00
  let's
• 3:01
  breathe
• 3:01
  through
• 3:01
  this.
• 3:02
  Let's
• 3:02
  talk
• 3:02
  about,
• 3:03
  um,
• 3:04
  how
• 3:04
  we're
• 3:04
  gonna,
• 3:04
  how
• 3:04
  we're
• 3:04
  caring
• 3:05
  so
• 3:05
  much.
• 3:05
  We've
• 3:05
  been
• 3:05
  caring,
• 3:06
  caring
• 3:06
  so
• 3:07
  much
• 3:07
  for
• 3:07
  too
• 3:07
  long.
• 3:08
  Um,
• 3:08
  without
• 3:09
  support,
• 3:09
  feeling
• 3:09
  like
• 3:09
  we're
• 3:10
  not
• 3:10
  supported.
• 3:10
  Just
• 3:11
  let's,
• 3:11
  let's
• 3:11
  kind
• 3:11
  of
• 3:11
  just
• 3:12
  get
• 3:12
  into
• 3:12
  this.
• 3:13
  And
• 3:15
  I
• 3:15
  think
• 3:16
  it
• 3:16
  is,
• 3:18
  I
• 3:18
  guess
• 3:18
  what
• 3:18
  really
• 3:19
  hit
• 3:19
  me
• 3:20
  was
• 3:20
  that
• 3:21
  the
• 3:21
  commonality
• 3:22
  is
• 3:22
  that
• 3:23
  most
• 3:23
  women
• 3:23
  don't
• 3:23
  realize
• 3:24
  that
• 3:24
  they're
• 3:25
  not
• 3:25
  attracted
• 3:25
  to
• 3:26
  their
• 3:26
  husbands
• 3:26
  all
• 3:26
  at
• 3:27
  once.
• 3:27
  Like
• 3:28
  it's
• 3:28
  this
• 3:28
  slow
• 3:29
  fade.
• 3:30
  It
• 3:30
  shows
• 3:30
  up
• 3:30
  in
• 3:31
  little
• 3:31
  moments.
• 3:31
  It's
• 3:32
  when
• 3:32
  you
• 3:32
  pull
• 3:32
  away
• 3:33
  from
• 3:33
  a
• 3:33
  kiss
• 3:33
  just
• 3:33
  a
• 3:33
  little
• 3:34
  sooner
• 3:34
  than
• 3:34
  you
• 3:34
  normally
• 3:34
  do
• 3:35
  when
• 3:35
  you
• 3:35
  roll
• 3:36
  over
• 3:36
  in
• 3:36
  bed
• 3:36
  faster
• 3:37
  than
• 3:37
  you
• 3:37
  used
• 3:37
  to.
• 3:38
  Um,
• 3:38
  when
• 3:39
  you
• 3:39
  quit
• 3:39
  joking
• 3:40
  and
• 3:40
  teasing
• 3:41
  and
• 3:42
  the.
• 3:44
  When
• 3:44
  you
• 3:44
  get
• 3:44
  away
• 3:45
  from
• 3:45
  like
• 3:45
  snuggling,
• 3:46
  and
• 3:46
  I'm
• 3:46
  not
• 3:46
  a
• 3:46
  snuggler
• 3:47
  by
• 3:47
  any
• 3:47
  means,
• 3:48
  but
• 3:48
  I
• 3:48
  know
• 3:49
  when
• 3:49
  I
• 3:49
  like
• 3:49
  just
• 3:49
  need
• 3:50
  a
• 3:50
  quick
• 3:50
  moment.
• 3:51
  Um,
• 3:51
  it's
• 3:52
  like
• 3:52
  instead
• 3:52
  of
• 3:52
  giving
• 3:52
  that,
• 3:53
  that
• 3:53
  longer
• 3:54
  hug,
• 3:54
  that
• 3:54
  kinda
• 3:55
  lingers,
• 3:55
  it's
• 3:56
  that
• 3:56
  quick
• 3:56
  hug
• 3:57
  and
• 3:57
  goodbye,
• 3:57
  I'm
• 3:57
  done.
• 3:58
  It's
• 3:58
  when
• 3:58
  you
• 3:58
  stop
• 3:59
  flirting,
• 3:59
  it's
• 3:59
  when
• 4:00
  you
• 4:00
  stop
• 4:00
  feeling
• 4:01
  the
• 4:01
  spark.
• 4:01
  When
• 4:01
  he
• 4:02
  looks
• 4:02
  at
• 4:02
  you,
• 4:02
  it's
• 4:02
  when
• 4:02
  you
• 4:03
  stop
• 4:03
  getting
• 4:04
  excited
• 4:04
  that
• 4:04
  he
• 4:04
  comes,
• 4:05
  like
• 4:05
  you
• 4:05
  can
• 4:05
  see
• 4:06
  him
• 4:06
  pull
• 4:06
  in
• 4:06
  the
• 4:06
  driveway.
• 4:07
  It's
• 4:07
  when
• 4:08
  you
• 4:08
  feel
• 4:08
  guilty.
• 4:10
  Or
• 4:10
  you
• 4:10
  start
• 4:11
  feeling
• 4:11
  guilty
• 4:12
  that
• 4:12
  you
• 4:12
  don't
• 4:12
  miss
• 4:13
  him
• 4:13
  the
• 4:13
  way
• 4:13
  you
• 4:13
  used
• 4:14
  to.
• 4:14
  So
• 4:14
  it's
• 4:14
  these
• 4:15
  kinds
• 4:15
  of
• 4:15
  things
• 4:15
  that
• 4:15
  just
• 4:16
  slow
• 4:17
  fade.
• 4:18
  Okay?
• 4:19
  And
• 4:19
  then
• 4:19
  one
• 4:19
  day,
• 4:19
  maybe
• 4:20
  you're
• 4:20
  sitting
• 4:20
  in
• 4:20
  your
• 4:20
  car
• 4:21
  or
• 4:21
  you're
• 4:21
  folding
• 4:21
  laundry,
• 4:22
  you're
• 4:22
  washing
• 4:22
  the
• 4:22
  dishes,
• 4:23
  cooking,
• 4:23
  you
• 4:23
  know,
• 4:24
  the
• 4:24
  16th
• 4:24
  meal
• 4:24
  it
• 4:25
  feels
• 4:25
  like
• 4:25
  for
• 4:25
  the
• 4:25
  day.
• 4:27
  And
• 4:27
  this
• 4:27
  thought
• 4:27
  comes
• 4:27
  outta
• 4:28
  nowhere.
• 4:29
  Like
• 4:29
  something
• 4:30
  in
• 4:30
  me
• 4:30
  is
• 4:30
  gone.
• 4:31
  You
• 4:31
  panic
• 4:32
  because
• 4:32
  you
• 4:32
  don't
• 4:33
  want
• 4:33
  it
• 4:33
  to
• 4:33
  be
• 4:33
  true.
• 4:35
  You
• 4:35
  don't
• 4:35
  wanna
• 4:35
  hurt
• 4:35
  him.
• 4:37
  You
• 4:37
  don't
• 4:37
  want
• 4:37
  this
• 4:37
  to
• 4:38
  be
• 4:38
  your
• 4:38
  story.
• 4:39
  There's
• 4:39
  embarrassment,
• 4:40
  like
• 4:40
  what
• 4:41
  happened?
• 4:41
  You
• 4:41
  know,
• 4:41
  all
• 4:42
  of
• 4:42
  this.
• 4:43
  You
• 4:43
  just
• 4:43
  want
• 4:43
  someone
• 4:44
  to
• 4:44
  come
• 4:44
  in
• 4:44
  and
• 4:44
  tell
• 4:44
  you
• 4:45
  that
• 4:45
  this
• 4:45
  is
• 4:45
  just
• 4:45
  a
• 4:45
  phase
• 4:46
  or
• 4:46
  you
• 4:47
  want
• 4:47
  the
• 4:47
  excuse,
• 4:47
  you
• 4:47
  want
• 4:48
  someone
• 4:48
  to
• 4:48
  come
• 4:48
  in
• 4:48
  and
• 4:48
  give
• 4:48
  you
• 4:49
  the
• 4:49
  excuse
• 4:49
  of
• 4:49
  what
• 4:50
  this
• 4:50
  is,
• 4:50
  so
• 4:50
  you
• 4:50
  can
• 4:50
  like
• 4:51
  push
• 4:51
  blame
• 4:52
  elsewhere.
• 4:52
  And
• 4:53
  I
• 4:53
  say
• 4:53
  that
• 4:54
  nicely.
• 4:55
  Pushing
• 4:56
  blame
• 4:56
  elsewhere
• 4:56
  because
• 4:58
  if
• 4:58
  you
• 4:58
  have
• 4:58
  something
• 4:58
  to
• 4:59
  blame
• 4:59
  it
• 4:59
  on,
• 4:59
  stress
• 5:00
  hormones,
• 5:00
  perimenopause,
• 5:01
  whatever,
• 5:02
  busyness
• 5:03
  season,
• 5:04
  all
• 5:04
  of
• 5:04
  that,
• 5:05
  then
• 5:05
  you
• 5:05
  can
• 5:06
  continue
• 5:06
  to
• 5:06
  ignore
• 5:06
  what
• 5:07
  is
• 5:07
  the
• 5:07
  actual
• 5:07
  problem.
• 5:08
  Does
• 5:08
  that
• 5:08
  make
• 5:08
  sense?
• 5:09
  I
• 5:09
  hope
• 5:09
  that
• 5:09
  makes
• 5:09
  sense,
• 5:11
  but
• 5:12
  there's
• 5:12
  something
• 5:13
  wrong
• 5:14
  here.
• 5:16
  And
• 5:16
  what
• 5:16
  I
• 5:16
  want
• 5:16
  to
• 5:16
  kind
• 5:17
  of
• 5:17
  pinpoint
• 5:18
  is,
• 5:19
  is
• 5:19
  that
• 5:19
  you're
• 5:19
  probably
• 5:20
  carrying
• 5:20
  too
• 5:20
  much
• 5:20
  of
• 5:21
  a
• 5:21
  load.
• 5:22
  Um.
• 5:23
  You're
• 5:24
  probably,
• 5:24
  the
• 5:24
  load
• 5:25
  that
• 5:25
  you're
• 5:25
  carrying
• 5:26
  is,
• 5:26
  is
• 5:26
  just
• 5:27
  too
• 5:27
  much
• 5:28
  and
• 5:30
  it's
• 5:30
  not
• 5:30
  like,
• 5:31
  I
• 5:31
  don't
• 5:31
  know.
• 5:32
  Lemme,
• 5:32
  I'm,
• 5:32
  I'm
• 5:32
  trying
• 5:32
  to
• 5:32
  be
• 5:33
  very
• 5:33
  sensitive,
• 5:33
  but
• 5:33
  also
• 5:34
  direct
• 5:34
  and
• 5:34
  not
• 5:34
  hurtful
• 5:35
  because
• 5:35
  I've
• 5:35
  been
• 5:36
  here,
• 5:36
  like
• 5:36
  I
• 5:36
  say
• 5:37
  this
• 5:37
  from
• 5:37
  like
• 5:37
  personal
• 5:38
  experience.
• 5:40
  I
• 5:40
  think
• 5:40
  when
• 5:40
  we
• 5:42
  forget
• 5:42
  to
• 5:42
  pray
• 5:43
  over
• 5:44
  our
• 5:44
  husbands,
• 5:45
  when
• 5:45
  we
• 5:46
  stop
• 5:47
  praying
• 5:47
  over
• 5:47
  our
• 5:47
  husbands
• 5:48
  and
• 5:48
  don't
• 5:48
  remember
• 5:48
  the
• 5:49
  last
• 5:49
  time
• 5:49
  we
• 5:49
  have,
• 5:50
  when
• 5:50
  we
• 5:50
  stop
• 5:50
  praying
• 5:51
  over
• 5:51
  our
• 5:51
  marriages.
• 5:52
  When
• 5:52
  we
• 5:53
  stop
• 5:53
  praying
• 5:53
  for
• 5:53
  desire
• 5:54
  for
• 5:54
  our
• 5:55
  spouse
• 5:56
  something,
• 5:58
  and
• 5:58
  I'm
• 5:58
  just
• 5:58
  gonna
• 5:58
  call
• 5:59
  it
• 5:59
  what
• 5:59
  it
• 5:59
  is,
• 5:59
  it's
• 5:59
  the
• 5:59
  enemy
• 6:00
  he
• 6:00
  knows.
• 6:01
  And
• 6:01
  so
• 6:01
  then
• 6:01
  that's
• 6:01
  when
• 6:01
  he
• 6:01
  can
• 6:02
  start
• 6:02
  setting
• 6:03
  in
• 6:03
  and
• 6:03
  putting
• 6:03
  more
• 6:03
  load
• 6:04
  on
• 6:04
  your
• 6:04
  shoulders
• 6:04
  and
• 6:05
  things.
• 6:05
  So.
• 6:07
  What
• 6:07
  actually
• 6:08
  hurts
• 6:08
  so
• 6:08
  much
• 6:09
  is
• 6:09
  that
• 6:09
  you're
• 6:10
  afraid
• 6:10
  of
• 6:10
  what
• 6:10
  the
• 6:10
  lack
• 6:11
  of
• 6:11
  attraction
• 6:11
  actually
• 6:12
  means.
• 6:12
  You're
• 6:12
  trying
• 6:12
  to
• 6:12
  put
• 6:13
  meaning
• 6:13
  on
• 6:13
  things.
• 6:14
  Uh,
• 6:14
  you're
• 6:15
  trying
• 6:15
  to
• 6:15
  put
• 6:15
  meaning
• 6:15
  on
• 6:15
  your
• 6:16
  feelings
• 6:16
  and
• 6:16
  not
• 6:16
  using
• 6:17
  feelings
• 6:17
  as
• 6:17
  indicators,
• 6:18
  but
• 6:18
  you're
• 6:18
  trying
• 6:18
  to
• 6:18
  put
• 6:18
  meaning
• 6:19
  on
• 6:19
  those
• 6:19
  feelings.
• 6:20
  You're
• 6:21
  afraid
• 6:22
  that
• 6:22
  this
• 6:23
  attraction
• 6:23
  or
• 6:23
  loss
• 6:24
  of
• 6:24
  attraction
• 6:24
  means
• 6:25
  like.
• 6:25
  I
• 6:25
  don't
• 6:25
  love
• 6:26
  him
• 6:26
  anymore.
• 6:26
  Is
• 6:26
  that
• 6:27
  really
• 6:27
  the
• 6:27
  case?
• 6:28
  Does
• 6:29
  this
• 6:29
  mean
• 6:29
  I
• 6:29
  made
• 6:30
  the
• 6:30
  wrong
• 6:30
  choice?
• 6:30
  Does
• 6:30
  this
• 6:31
  mean
• 6:31
  something's
• 6:31
  wrong
• 6:31
  with
• 6:32
  me
• 6:32
  spiritually?
• 6:32
  Does
• 6:32
  this
• 6:33
  mean
• 6:33
  our
• 6:33
  marriage
• 6:33
  is
• 6:33
  failing?
• 6:34
  Does
• 6:34
  this
• 6:34
  mean
• 6:34
  I'll
• 6:34
  never
• 6:34
  get
• 6:35
  that
• 6:35
  spark
• 6:35
  back?
• 6:36
  No,
• 6:37
  that's
• 6:37
  No,
• 6:37
  no,
• 6:37
  no.
• 6:38
  Like,
• 6:38
  no
• 6:38
  and
• 6:39
  no.
• 6:40
  But
• 6:40
  when
• 6:40
  these
• 6:40
  questions
• 6:41
  come
• 6:41
  up
• 6:42
  in
• 6:42
  your
• 6:42
  head,
• 6:43
  that
• 6:43
  is
• 6:43
  the
• 6:44
  opportune
• 6:45
  time
• 6:46
  that
• 6:46
  the
• 6:46
  enemy
• 6:47
  is
• 6:47
  going
• 6:47
  to
• 6:47
  start
• 6:48
  tempting
• 6:48
  you.
• 6:50
  And
• 6:50
  when
• 6:50
  you
• 6:50
  start
• 6:51
  like
• 6:51
  journaling
• 6:52
  these
• 6:52
  things
• 6:52
  or
• 6:52
  you
• 6:53
  start
• 6:53
  like
• 6:53
  thinking
• 6:54
  these
• 6:54
  things,
• 6:54
  you're
• 6:54
  gonna
• 6:54
  have
• 6:55
  evidence
• 6:55
  in
• 6:55
  your
• 6:56
  brain.
• 6:56
  Your
• 6:56
  brain
• 6:56
  is
• 6:56
  gonna
• 6:57
  find
• 6:57
  evidence
• 6:58
  that
• 6:58
  you
• 6:58
  don't
• 6:58
  love
• 6:58
  him.
• 6:59
  You're,
• 6:59
  it's
• 6:59
  going
• 6:59
  to
• 6:59
  find
• 7:00
  evidence
• 7:00
  that
• 7:00
  you
• 7:00
  did
• 7:01
  make
• 7:01
  the
• 7:01
  wrong
• 7:01
  choice.
• 7:02
  Like
• 7:02
  all
• 7:02
  of
• 7:02
  these
• 7:02
  things,
• 7:02
  you're
• 7:02
  gonna
• 7:03
  then
• 7:03
  get
• 7:03
  tempted
• 7:03
  to
• 7:03
  read
• 7:04
  these
• 7:05
  female
• 7:05
  porn
• 7:06
  novels
• 7:06
  and
• 7:06
  then
• 7:07
  compare
• 7:07
  your
• 7:07
  relation
• 7:08
  to
• 7:08
  ship
• 7:08
  with
• 7:08
  him.
• 7:08
  I
• 7:08
  had
• 7:08
  a
• 7:09
  gal
• 7:10
  come
• 7:10
  in
• 7:10
  the
• 7:10
  clinic
• 7:10
  and
• 7:11
  she
• 7:11
  was
• 7:11
  like,
• 7:12
  I
• 7:12
  just
• 7:12
  want
• 7:12
  my
• 7:12
  husband
• 7:12
  to
• 7:12
  jump
• 7:13
  my
• 7:13
  bones
• 7:13
  and
• 7:14
  to
• 7:14
  like
• 7:14
  just
• 7:15
  lust
• 7:15
  after
• 7:15
  me
• 7:16
  and
• 7:16
  whatever.
• 7:16
  And
• 7:16
  I'm
• 7:17
  like.
• 7:18
  And
• 7:18
  I
• 7:18
  know
• 7:18
  what
• 7:18
  she
• 7:18
  reads
• 7:19
  and
• 7:19
  I'm
• 7:19
  like,
• 7:20
  babe,
• 7:20
  that's
• 7:21
  not
• 7:21
  gonna
• 7:21
  happen.
• 7:21
  Like
• 7:21
  you're
• 7:22
  trying
• 7:22
  to,
• 7:23
  if
• 7:23
  you
• 7:23
  want
• 7:23
  that.
• 7:23
  Have
• 7:23
  you
• 7:24
  asked
• 7:24
  him,
• 7:25
  have
• 7:25
  you
• 7:25
  said
• 7:25
  that?
• 7:26
  Is
• 7:26
  he
• 7:26
  able
• 7:26
  to
• 7:26
  do
• 7:26
  that
• 7:27
  after
• 7:27
  a
• 7:27
  really
• 7:27
  long
• 7:27
  day?
• 7:27
  Would
• 7:28
  you
• 7:28
  want
• 7:28
  that
• 7:28
  after
• 7:28
  a
• 7:28
  really
• 7:28
  long
• 7:29
  day?
• 7:29
  Like
• 7:30
  just,
• 7:31
  anyway,
• 7:32
  thinking
• 7:32
  about
• 7:33
  that
• 7:33
  and
• 7:34
  this
• 7:34
  attraction
• 7:34
  piece,
• 7:35
  it's
• 7:36
  like
• 7:36
  we
• 7:36
  easily
• 7:37
  get
• 7:37
  tempted
• 7:37
  and
• 7:37
  sidetracked
• 7:38
  into
• 7:39
  fantasy
• 7:40
  world
• 7:40
  and
• 7:40
  not
• 7:41
  reality.
• 7:42
  So
• 7:42
  let
• 7:42
  me
• 7:43
  give
• 7:43
  you
• 7:43
  a
• 7:43
  different
• 7:43
  possibility.
• 7:44
  Okay.
• 7:45
  Let
• 7:46
  me
• 7:46
  give
• 7:46
  you
• 7:46
  a
• 7:46
  different
• 7:46
  possibility
• 7:47
  of
• 7:47
  what
• 7:47
  is
• 7:47
  actually
• 7:48
  happening,
• 7:49
  and
• 7:49
  it
• 7:49
  could
• 7:49
  be
• 7:49
  that
• 7:50
  your
• 7:50
  body
• 7:50
  is
• 7:50
  shutting
• 7:50
  down
• 7:51
  because
• 7:51
  you've
• 7:51
  been
• 7:51
  shutting
• 7:52
  yourself
• 7:52
  down
• 7:53
  for
• 7:53
  years.
• 7:56
  Maybe
• 7:56
  the
• 7:56
  attraction
• 7:57
  didn't
• 7:57
  disappear.
• 7:59
  But
• 7:59
  maybe
• 8:00
  it's
• 8:00
  just
• 8:00
  smothered
• 8:01
  under
• 8:01
  exhaustion
• 8:02
  and
• 8:02
  resentment
• 8:03
  and
• 8:03
  being
• 8:03
  touched
• 8:04
  out
• 8:04
  and
• 8:04
  feeling
• 8:05
  unseen
• 8:05
  and
• 8:06
  constant
• 8:06
  emotional
• 8:07
  heaviness
• 8:08
  and
• 8:08
  blood
• 8:09
  sugar
• 8:09
  crashes,
• 8:10
  cortisol
• 8:10
  issues,
• 8:11
  spiritual
• 8:11
  depletion,
• 8:11
  identity
• 8:12
  loss,
• 8:12
  self
• 8:12
  betrayal,
• 8:13
  trying
• 8:13
  to
• 8:14
  be
• 8:14
  everything
• 8:14
  for
• 8:14
  everyone
• 8:15
  else,
• 8:15
  and
• 8:15
  attraction
• 8:16
  cannot
• 8:16
  live
• 8:18
  in
• 8:18
  this
• 8:18
  space.
• 8:19
  Desire
• 8:20
  does
• 8:20
  not
• 8:20
  exist
• 8:21
  when
• 8:21
  you
• 8:21
  are
• 8:21
  depleted
• 8:22
  and
• 8:22
  completely
• 8:23
  burnt
• 8:23
  out.
• 8:24
  Intimacy
• 8:25
  can't
• 8:25
  grow
• 8:26
  or
• 8:26
  resentment
• 8:26
  goes
• 8:27
  unspoken.
• 8:27
  Your
• 8:28
  body
• 8:28
  is
• 8:29
  trying
• 8:29
  to
• 8:29
  protect
• 8:30
  you.
• 8:30
  It's
• 8:30
  always
• 8:31
  gonna
• 8:31
  protect
• 8:31
  you.
• 8:33
  And
• 8:33
  here's
• 8:33
  the
• 8:34
  grown
• 8:34
  woman
• 8:35
  moment
• 8:35
  that
• 8:35
  I'm
• 8:36
  just
• 8:36
  gonna
• 8:36
  kind
• 8:36
  of
• 8:36
  throw
• 8:36
  this
• 8:36
  in
• 8:37
  here,
• 8:37
  that
• 8:37
  this
• 8:38
  version
• 8:38
  of
• 8:38
  you,
• 8:38
  the
• 8:38
  younger,
• 8:39
  softer,
• 8:39
  maybe
• 8:40
  more
• 8:40
  playful
• 8:40
  you
• 8:41
  who
• 8:41
  wanted
• 8:41
  connection,
• 8:42
  who
• 8:42
  looked
• 8:43
  at
• 8:43
  your
• 8:43
  husband
• 8:43
  and
• 8:43
  felt
• 8:44
  that
• 8:44
  pull.
• 8:44
  And
• 8:45
  if
• 8:45
  that's
• 8:47
  part
• 8:47
  of
• 8:47
  you,
• 8:47
  like
• 8:48
  feels
• 8:48
  so
• 8:48
  far
• 8:48
  away,
• 8:50
  it's
• 8:50
  because.
• 8:51
  That
• 8:51
  girl,
• 8:52
  that
• 8:52
  woman,
• 8:52
  that
• 8:53
  young
• 8:53
  lady,
• 8:53
  that
• 8:53
  young
• 8:54
  wife
• 8:55
  is
• 8:55
  buried
• 8:55
  under
• 8:56
  responsibility
• 8:57
  and
• 8:57
  she
• 8:57
  misses
• 8:58
  you,
• 8:58
  and
• 8:59
  your
• 8:59
  husband
• 8:59
  misses
• 8:59
  her,
• 9:00
  and
• 9:00
  you
• 9:00
  probably
• 9:01
  miss
• 9:01
  her
• 9:01
  the
• 9:01
  most.
• 9:03
  The
• 9:03
  softer
• 9:03
  parts
• 9:04
  of
• 9:04
  you.
• 9:04
  And
• 9:04
  this
• 9:04
  is
• 9:05
  like
• 9:05
  really
• 9:05
  saying
• 9:06
  some
• 9:06
  things
• 9:06
  from
• 9:06
  me
• 9:06
  because
• 9:07
  I
• 9:07
  am
• 9:07
  not
• 9:07
  a
• 9:07
  soft
• 9:08
  woman.
• 9:08
  Um,
• 9:09
  I
• 9:09
  am
• 9:09
  very
• 9:09
  hard
• 9:10
  and
• 9:10
  rigid
• 9:10
  and,
• 9:11
  and
• 9:11
  I
• 9:11
  know
• 9:11
  this,
• 9:11
  I'm
• 9:12
  naturally
• 9:12
  that
• 9:12
  way.
• 9:13
  And
• 9:13
  I
• 9:13
  was
• 9:13
  just
• 9:13
  talking
• 9:13
  to
• 9:13
  my
• 9:13
  son
• 9:14
  on
• 9:14
  my
• 9:14
  way
• 9:14
  into
• 9:14
  the
• 9:14
  clinic
• 9:15
  today.
• 9:16
  I
• 9:16
  was
• 9:16
  like,
• 9:16
  my,
• 9:17
  we
• 9:17
  were
• 9:17
  talking
• 9:17
  about
• 9:17
  temptation
• 9:18
  and
• 9:18
  I'm
• 9:18
  like,
• 9:18
  my
• 9:18
  temptation,
• 9:20
  um,
• 9:20
  at
• 9:20
  this
• 9:20
  moment.
• 9:21
  Is
• 9:22
  to
• 9:22
  always
• 9:22
  work,
• 9:23
  to
• 9:23
  feel
• 9:24
  the
• 9:24
  need,
• 9:25
  to
• 9:25
  always
• 9:25
  get
• 9:26
  in
• 9:26
  and
• 9:26
  make
• 9:26
  something
• 9:27
  and
• 9:27
  support
• 9:27
  people
• 9:28
  and
• 9:28
  encourage
• 9:29
  people
• 9:29
  and
• 9:29
  all
• 9:29
  of
• 9:30
  that.
• 9:30
  And
• 9:30
  sometimes
• 9:31
  I
• 9:31
  forget
• 9:31
  that
• 9:31
  I
• 9:31
  need
• 9:32
  that
• 9:32
  for
• 9:32
  myself.
• 9:33
  And
• 9:33
  so
• 9:34
  I
• 9:34
  sometimes
• 9:35
  too
• 9:35
  much
• 9:35
  of
• 9:35
  a
• 9:35
  good
• 9:35
  thing
• 9:36
  is
• 9:36
  not
• 9:36
  a
• 9:36
  good
• 9:36
  thing.
• 9:37
  And
• 9:37
  so
• 9:38
  what
• 9:38
  I
• 9:38
  want
• 9:38
  you
• 9:39
  to
• 9:39
  understand
• 9:39
  is
• 9:40
  that
• 9:40
  when
• 9:41
  we
• 9:41
  have
• 9:42
  our
• 9:42
  softer
• 9:42
  parts.
• 9:44
  Cannot
• 9:44
  come
• 9:45
  alive
• 9:46
  when
• 9:46
  we're
• 9:46
  constantly
• 9:47
  in
• 9:47
  survival
• 9:47
  mode
• 9:48
  or
• 9:49
  when
• 9:49
  we're
• 9:49
  constantly
• 9:50
  doing
• 9:50
  and
• 9:50
  performing
• 9:51
  and
• 9:51
  trying
• 9:52
  to
• 9:52
  be
• 9:52
  the
• 9:52
  best
• 9:52
  or
• 9:53
  hear
• 9:54
  me
• 9:54
  out
• 9:54
  when
• 9:55
  we're
• 9:55
  constantly
• 9:55
  trying
• 9:56
  to
• 9:56
  keep
• 9:56
  that
• 9:56
  mask
• 9:57
  so
• 9:57
  people
• 9:57
  can't
• 9:58
  see
• 9:58
  into
• 9:58
  the
• 9:58
  brokenness
• 9:59
  that
• 9:59
  really
• 9:59
  is
• 9:59
  us.
• 10:02
  Your
• 10:02
  libido,
• 10:03
  your
• 10:03
  attraction,
• 10:04
  your
• 10:04
  desire,
• 10:04
  they're
• 10:04
  the
• 10:05
  first
• 10:05
  thing
• 10:05
  to
• 10:05
  disappear.
• 10:06
  When
• 10:06
  you
• 10:07
  stop
• 10:07
  feeling
• 10:07
  safe
• 10:08
  in
• 10:08
  your
• 10:08
  own
• 10:08
  body,
• 10:09
  in
• 10:09
  your
• 10:09
  own
• 10:09
  life,
• 10:10
  and
• 10:10
  it's
• 10:10
  not
• 10:11
  safe,
• 10:11
  like,
• 10:11
  oh,
• 10:11
  I'm
• 10:12
  in
• 10:12
  danger.
• 10:13
  What
• 10:13
  I
• 10:13
  mean
• 10:13
  by
• 10:14
  safe
• 10:14
  here
• 10:15
  is
• 10:15
  that
• 10:16
  you
• 10:16
  have
• 10:16
  not
• 10:16
  allowed
• 10:17
  yourself
• 10:17
  to
• 10:17
  be
• 10:17
  emotionally
• 10:18
  held.
• 10:18
  Or
• 10:19
  you're
• 10:19
  not
• 10:20
  getting
• 10:20
  emotionally
• 10:20
  held
• 10:21
  or
• 10:21
  you're
• 10:21
  not
• 10:21
  communicating
• 10:22
  to
• 10:22
  get
• 10:22
  emotionally
• 10:23
  held
• 10:24
  safe,
• 10:25
  as
• 10:25
  in
• 10:25
  supported,
• 10:26
  rested,
• 10:27
  regulated,
• 10:27
  a
• 10:28
  steady,
• 10:28
  connected
• 10:29
  to
• 10:29
  God,
• 10:29
  connected
• 10:30
  to
• 10:30
  yourself
• 10:31
  when
• 10:31
  life
• 10:32
  has
• 10:32
  just
• 10:32
  taken
• 10:33
  over
• 10:33
  and,
• 10:34
  and
• 10:34
  life
• 10:34
  is
• 10:35
  in
• 10:35
  control
• 10:35
  of
• 10:35
  you,
• 10:35
  and
• 10:35
  you
• 10:35
  are
• 10:36
  not
• 10:36
  in
• 10:36
  control
• 10:36
  of
• 10:36
  your
• 10:37
  life.
• 10:38
  That's
• 10:39
  what
• 10:39
  being
• 10:39
  in
• 10:40
  danger
• 10:41
  is.
• 10:43
  Attraction
• 10:44
  simply
• 10:44
  waits
• 10:45
  for
• 10:45
  your
• 10:45
  safety
• 10:46
  and
• 10:46
  a
• 10:46
  safe
• 10:47
  moment.
• 10:49
  And
• 10:49
  I'm
• 10:49
  not
• 10:49
  gonna
• 10:49
  give
• 10:50
  you
• 10:50
  a
• 10:50
  five
• 10:50
  step
• 10:50
  intimacy
• 10:51
  plan.
• 10:51
  I'm
• 10:51
  not
• 10:51
  gonna
• 10:52
  tell
• 10:52
  you
• 10:52
  to
• 10:52
  go
• 10:53
  on
• 10:53
  date
• 10:53
  night,
• 10:53
  and
• 10:53
  hopefully
• 10:54
  that
• 10:54
  magically
• 10:55
  fixes
• 10:55
  everything.
• 10:56
  That
• 10:56
  is
• 10:56
  actually
• 10:56
  one
• 10:56
  of
• 10:56
  the
• 10:56
  biggest
• 10:57
  annoying
• 10:58
  things,
• 10:59
  not
• 10:59
  one
• 10:59
  of
• 10:59
  the
• 10:59
  biggest.
• 10:59
  I'm
• 11:00
  annoyed
• 11:00
  by
• 11:00
  a
• 11:00
  lot
• 11:00
  of
• 11:00
  things
• 11:01
  to
• 11:01
  be
• 11:01
  honest,
• 11:02
  but
• 11:02
  one
• 11:02
  thing
• 11:02
  that
• 11:02
  really
• 11:03
  annoys
• 11:03
  me
• 11:03
  is
• 11:03
  like
• 11:03
  these
• 11:04
  people
• 11:04
  that
• 11:04
  are
• 11:04
  like,
• 11:04
  oh,
• 11:05
  you
• 11:05
  have
• 11:05
  to
• 11:05
  go
• 11:05
  and
• 11:05
  date
• 11:06
  your
• 11:06
  wife.
• 11:06
  Date
• 11:06
  your
• 11:06
  wife,
• 11:07
  date
• 11:07
  your
• 11:07
  wife,
• 11:07
  or
• 11:07
  date
• 11:08
  your
• 11:08
  spouse.
• 11:08
  Like
• 11:08
  it's
• 11:08
  usually
• 11:08
  men
• 11:09
  that
• 11:09
  are
• 11:09
  saying
• 11:09
  this,
• 11:10
  and
• 11:10
  I,
• 11:10
  and
• 11:10
  I
• 11:10
  get
• 11:11
  it,
• 11:11
  but
• 11:12
  for
• 11:12
  me,
• 11:12
  safety
• 11:13
  is
• 11:13
  not
• 11:13
  going
• 11:13
  on
• 11:13
  a
• 11:13
  date
• 11:14
  night
• 11:14
  often.
• 11:15
  Safety
• 11:16
  for
• 11:16
  me
• 11:16
  is
• 11:16
  having
• 11:16
  my
• 11:17
  family
• 11:17
  all
• 11:17
  under
• 11:17
  one
• 11:18
  roof,
• 11:18
  whether
• 11:18
  that
• 11:18
  be
• 11:18
  on
• 11:19
  a
• 11:19
  date
• 11:19
  night
• 11:19
  as
• 11:19
  a
• 11:19
  family,
• 11:20
  or
• 11:20
  whether
• 11:20
  that
• 11:21
  be
• 11:21
  on
• 11:21
  doing
• 11:22
  things.
• 11:22
  Now
• 11:22
  sometimes,
• 11:23
  um,
• 11:23
  my
• 11:23
  husband
• 11:23
  and
• 11:23
  I,
• 11:24
  we
• 11:24
  will,
• 11:24
  I'm
• 11:24
  like,
• 11:25
  Hey,
• 11:25
  can
• 11:25
  you
• 11:26
  meet
• 11:26
  me
• 11:26
  for
• 11:27
  appetizers
• 11:28
  after
• 11:28
  work?
• 11:28
  Let's,
• 11:29
  let's
• 11:29
  meet
• 11:29
  up.
• 11:29
  And
• 11:29
  we
• 11:29
  do
• 11:29
  that
• 11:30
  every
• 11:30
  now
• 11:30
  and
• 11:30
  then
• 11:30
  just
• 11:30
  to
• 11:30
  like.
• 11:31
  Be
• 11:31
  together
• 11:32
  and
• 11:32
  be
• 11:33
  and
• 11:33
  catch
• 11:33
  up,
• 11:34
  especially
• 11:34
  after
• 11:34
  really
• 11:34
  busy
• 11:35
  weeks,
• 11:35
  we
• 11:35
  will
• 11:35
  do
• 11:35
  that.
• 11:35
  But
• 11:36
  it's
• 11:36
  not
• 11:36
  like
• 11:36
  we're
• 11:37
  not
• 11:37
  having
• 11:37
  this
• 11:37
  full
• 11:37
  on
• 11:38
  date
• 11:38
  night.
• 11:38
  And
• 11:38
  I
• 11:38
  think
• 11:39
  there
• 11:39
  comes
• 11:39
  an
• 11:39
  expectation
• 11:39
  with
• 11:40
  date
• 11:40
  night
• 11:40
  too,
• 11:40
  that
• 11:40
  sex
• 11:41
  has
• 11:41
  to
• 11:41
  be
• 11:41
  there
• 11:41
  on
• 11:41
  date
• 11:41
  night.
• 11:42
  Date
• 11:42
  night.
• 11:43
  Like
• 11:43
  to
• 11:43
  me,
• 11:44
  I
• 11:44
  don't
• 11:44
  know
• 11:44
  if
• 11:44
  this
• 11:45
  is
• 11:45
  like
• 11:45
  TMI,
• 11:45
  but
• 11:46
  I
• 11:46
  don't
• 11:46
  even
• 11:46
  know
• 11:46
  if
• 11:46
  we,
• 11:47
  if
• 11:47
  we
• 11:48
  have
• 11:48
  intimate
• 11:48
  relations
• 11:49
  on
• 11:49
  date
• 11:49
  nights
• 11:49
  because
• 11:49
  it's
• 11:49
  like.
• 11:51
  I'm
• 11:51
  not
• 11:51
  going
• 11:51
  on
• 11:51
  date
• 11:52
  night
• 11:52
  with
• 11:52
  an
• 11:52
  expectation
• 11:53
  other
• 11:53
  than
• 11:53
  to
• 11:53
  connect
• 11:53
  with
• 11:53
  my
• 11:54
  spouse.
• 11:54
  Like
• 11:55
  he
• 11:55
  is
• 11:55
  the
• 11:55
  one
• 11:56
  that
• 11:56
  I
• 11:57
  want
• 11:57
  to
• 11:57
  connect
• 11:57
  with.
• 11:57
  He's
• 11:58
  my
• 11:58
  best
• 11:58
  friend.
• 11:58
  He's
• 11:58
  the
• 11:58
  one
• 11:59
  that's
• 11:59
  going
• 11:59
  to
• 11:59
  tell
• 11:59
  me
• 11:59
  my
• 11:59
  butt
• 12:00
  looks
• 12:00
  big
• 12:00
  in
• 12:00
  those
• 12:01
  in
• 12:01
  this
• 12:01
  outfit.
• 12:02
  Or
• 12:02
  he's
• 12:02
  gonna
• 12:02
  be
• 12:02
  the
• 12:02
  one
• 12:02
  that
• 12:02
  says,
• 12:03
  Hey,
• 12:03
  that's
• 12:03
  great.
• 12:04
  Or
• 12:04
  he's
• 12:04
  gonna
• 12:04
  be
• 12:04
  the
• 12:04
  one
• 12:05
  that
• 12:05
  like
• 12:05
  helps
• 12:06
  me
• 12:06
  do
• 12:06
  life
• 12:07
  well.
• 12:07
  Right.
• 12:08
  He's
• 12:08
  my
• 12:08
  biggest
• 12:08
  cheerleader.
• 12:09
  So
• 12:09
  if
• 12:09
  there
• 12:10
  is
• 12:10
  something
• 12:10
  that's
• 12:10
  going
• 12:10
  on
• 12:10
  between
• 12:11
  us
• 12:11
  that
• 12:11
  is
• 12:12
  not
• 12:12
  going
• 12:12
  well,
• 12:12
  I
• 12:12
  know
• 12:13
  it's
• 12:13
  the
• 12:13
  enemy.
• 12:13
  'cause
• 12:13
  my
• 12:14
  enemy
• 12:14
  is
• 12:14
  not
• 12:14
  with
• 12:14
  the
• 12:14
  flesh
• 12:15
  and
• 12:15
  blood,
• 12:15
  it
• 12:16
  is
• 12:16
  with
• 12:16
  the
• 12:16
  dark
• 12:16
  principalities
• 12:17
  that
• 12:17
  are
• 12:17
  are
• 12:18
  high
• 12:18
  and
• 12:19
  out
• 12:19
  there
• 12:19
  that
• 12:19
  I
• 12:19
  can't
• 12:20
  see.
• 12:21
  He
• 12:21
  is
• 12:21
  my
• 12:21
  biggest
• 12:21
  cheerleader.
• 12:22
  He
• 12:22
  is
• 12:22
  my
• 12:22
  person
• 12:23
  in
• 12:23
  the
• 12:23
  rear
• 12:23
  with
• 12:23
  the
• 12:24
  gear.
• 12:24
  He's
• 12:24
  going
• 12:24
  to
• 12:24
  provide
• 12:25
  me
• 12:25
  everything
• 12:25
  I
• 12:25
  need
• 12:26
  to
• 12:26
  be
• 12:26
  successful
• 12:26
  in
• 12:26
  life.
• 12:27
  And
• 12:27
  he
• 12:28
  does
• 12:28
  that
• 12:29
  if
• 12:29
  I
• 12:29
  communicate
• 12:30
  with
• 12:30
  him,
• 12:30
  if
• 12:30
  I
• 12:30
  am
• 12:31
  connected
• 12:31
  with
• 12:31
  him.
• 12:31
  And
• 12:32
  it
• 12:32
  takes
• 12:32
  that
• 12:32
  connection
• 12:33
  and
• 12:33
  communication.
• 12:33
  So.
• 12:34
  I'm
• 12:35
  not
• 12:35
  giving
• 12:35
  you
• 12:36
  a
• 12:36
  five
• 12:36
  step
• 12:36
  intimacy
• 12:37
  plan
• 12:38
  or
• 12:38
  this
• 12:38
  date
• 12:38
  night
• 12:39
  magical
• 12:39
  thing
• 12:40
  because
• 12:40
  life
• 12:40
  doesn't,
• 12:41
  and
• 12:41
  quite
• 12:41
  frankly,
• 12:41
  let's
• 12:42
  be
• 12:42
  real,
• 12:42
  I
• 12:42
  don't
• 12:42
  wanna
• 12:43
  get
• 12:43
  dressed
• 12:43
  up
• 12:43
  most
• 12:44
  nights.
• 12:44
  After
• 12:45
  a
• 12:45
  week
• 12:45
  of
• 12:45
  hard
• 12:46
  work.
• 12:46
  I'm
• 12:46
  not
• 12:46
  wanting
• 12:46
  to
• 12:46
  get
• 12:47
  dressed
• 12:47
  up.
• 12:47
  That's
• 12:47
  not
• 12:47
  the
• 12:47
  first
• 12:48
  thing
• 12:48
  I'm
• 12:48
  thinking
• 12:48
  about
• 12:48
  because
• 12:49
  I
• 12:49
  just
• 12:50
  wanna
• 12:50
  put
• 12:50
  on
• 12:50
  my
• 12:50
  sweatpants
• 12:51
  and
• 12:51
  go
• 12:51
  watch
• 12:51
  murder
• 12:52
  or
• 12:52
  a
• 12:52
  thousand
• 12:53
  pound
• 12:53
  sisters
• 12:53
  or
• 12:54
  sister
• 12:54
  wives,
• 12:54
  or
• 12:54
  I
• 12:55
  wanna
• 12:55
  go
• 12:55
  do
• 12:55
  a
• 12:55
  puzzle
• 12:55
  or
• 12:56
  I
• 12:56
  want
• 12:56
  my
• 12:56
  feet
• 12:57
  rubbed.
• 12:57
  Like
• 12:57
  I
• 12:57
  don't
• 12:57
  want
• 12:58
  anything
• 12:58
  fancy.
• 12:59
  I
• 12:59
  just
• 12:59
  wanna
• 12:59
  be
• 12:59
  home
• 12:59
  with
• 13:00
  my
• 13:00
  people.
• 13:02
  Date
• 13:02
  night
• 13:02
  also
• 13:03
  doesn't
• 13:03
  fix
• 13:03
  your
• 13:03
  cortisol.
• 13:04
  Mm.
• 13:04
  I'm
• 13:05
  just
• 13:05
  gonna
• 13:05
  say
• 13:05
  weekends
• 13:06
  away.
• 13:06
  Don't
• 13:06
  fix
• 13:07
  your,
• 13:07
  fix
• 13:07
  your
• 13:07
  resentment.
• 13:08
  Like
• 13:08
  we
• 13:08
  think,
• 13:08
  oh,
• 13:08
  I
• 13:08
  just
• 13:09
  need
• 13:09
  to
• 13:09
  get
• 13:09
  away
• 13:09
  with
• 13:09
  my
• 13:09
  spouse.
• 13:10
  Well,
• 13:10
  maybe
• 13:10
  you
• 13:10
  do
• 13:11
  and
• 13:11
  maybe
• 13:11
  that's
• 13:11
  a
• 13:11
  good
• 13:12
  thing,
• 13:12
  but
• 13:12
  it's
• 13:12
  like
• 13:13
  oftentimes
• 13:13
  I
• 13:14
  hear
• 13:14
  people
• 13:14
  tell
• 13:14
  me
• 13:14
  that
• 13:14
  they
• 13:15
  go
• 13:15
  on
• 13:15
  vacation,
• 13:15
  they
• 13:15
  get
• 13:16
  away
• 13:16
  on
• 13:16
  the
• 13:16
  weekend
• 13:16
  with
• 13:16
  their
• 13:16
  spouse
• 13:17
  and
• 13:17
  they
• 13:17
  don't
• 13:17
  even
• 13:17
  talk.
• 13:18
  They're
• 13:18
  silent
• 13:19
  and
• 13:20
  they
• 13:20
  just
• 13:20
  think
• 13:20
  that
• 13:20
  there's
• 13:20
  this
• 13:20
  magical
• 13:21
  thing
• 13:21
  of
• 13:21
  getting
• 13:21
  away
• 13:22
  that's
• 13:22
  gonna
• 13:22
  make
• 13:22
  people
• 13:22
  talk.
• 13:22
  And
• 13:22
  I'm
• 13:23
  like,
• 13:23
  no,
• 13:24
  A
• 13:24
  new
• 13:24
  bra
• 13:25
  isn't
• 13:25
  going
• 13:25
  to
• 13:26
  heal
• 13:26
  Your
• 13:26
  emotional
• 13:27
  burdens
• 13:27
  or
• 13:27
  sexy
• 13:28
  lingerie
• 13:28
  isn't
• 13:29
  gonna
• 13:29
  heal
• 13:29
  your
• 13:30
  emotional
• 13:30
  burdens.
• 13:31
  Hormone
• 13:31
  pellets
• 13:32
  are
• 13:32
  not
• 13:32
  gonna
• 13:32
  fix
• 13:32
  your
• 13:32
  nervous
• 13:33
  system.
• 13:34
  Oh
• 13:34
  my
• 13:34
  gosh.
• 13:34
  The
• 13:34
  amount
• 13:35
  of,
• 13:35
  if
• 13:35
  I
• 13:35
  could
• 13:35
  fight
• 13:35
  with
• 13:35
  hormone
• 13:36
  pellets,
• 13:36
  I
• 13:36
  would
• 13:36
  right
• 13:37
  now,
• 13:37
  because
• 13:37
  they
• 13:37
  make
• 13:38
  me
• 13:38
  mad
• 13:38
  now
• 13:38
  too.
• 13:40
  But
• 13:40
  here's
• 13:40
  what
• 13:40
  does
• 13:41
  matter,
• 13:41
  my
• 13:41
  friend.
• 13:42
  You
• 13:43
  learning
• 13:43
  to
• 13:43
  see
• 13:43
  your
• 13:43
  symptoms,
• 13:44
  even
• 13:44
  the
• 13:44
  scary
• 13:45
  ones
• 13:45
  as
• 13:45
  information,
• 13:47
  not
• 13:47
  an
• 13:47
  identity
• 13:48
  or
• 13:48
  not
• 13:48
  the
• 13:49
  reality
• 13:49
  or
• 13:49
  anything,
• 13:50
  but
• 13:50
  as
• 13:50
  information,
• 13:51
  if
• 13:51
  your
• 13:52
  attraction
• 13:52
  is
• 13:52
  low,
• 13:53
  here's
• 13:53
  what
• 13:53
  I
• 13:53
  want
• 13:53
  you
• 13:54
  to
• 13:54
  explore,
• 13:54
  okay?
• 13:55
  You
• 13:55
  might
• 13:55
  wanna
• 13:55
  write
• 13:56
  these
• 13:56
  questions
• 13:56
  down
• 13:56
  or
• 13:57
  hit
• 13:57
  save
• 13:57
  on
• 13:58
  this
• 13:58
  podcast
• 13:58
  episode
• 13:59
  so
• 13:59
  you
• 13:59
  can
• 14:00
  go
• 14:00
  back
• 14:00
  and
• 14:00
  get
• 14:00
  them,
• 14:01
  but.
• 14:02
  And
• 14:02
  we're
• 14:02
  about
• 14:02
  14
• 14:03
  minutes
• 14:03
  if
• 14:03
  you
• 14:03
  wanna
• 14:03
  save
• 14:04
  that.
• 14:04
  So
• 14:04
  we're
• 14:04
  about
• 14:04
  14
• 14:05
  minutes
• 14:05
  in
• 14:05
  this
• 14:05
  episode.
• 14:06
  So
• 14:06
  you
• 14:06
  can
• 14:06
  come
• 14:06
  back
• 14:06
  to
• 14:06
  this
• 14:07
  question
• 14:07
  section,
• 14:08
  but
• 14:08
  here's
• 14:08
  what
• 14:09
  I
• 14:09
  want
• 14:09
  you
• 14:09
  to
• 14:09
  journal.
• 14:10
  If
• 14:10
  you're
• 14:10
  feeling
• 14:11
  low
• 14:11
  in
• 14:11
  attraction,
• 14:12
  like
• 14:12
  your
• 14:12
  attraction
• 14:13
  with
• 14:13
  your
• 14:14
  spouse
• 14:14
  and
• 14:14
  even
• 14:14
  yourself,
• 14:15
  you
• 14:16
  can
• 14:16
  ask,
• 14:16
  where
• 14:16
  am
• 14:16
  I
• 14:16
  exhausted?
• 14:17
  Start
• 14:18
  listing
• 14:18
  them
• 14:18
  out
• 14:18
  and
• 14:18
  maybe
• 14:19
  you
• 14:19
  are
• 14:19
  so
• 14:19
  exhausted
• 14:20
  you
• 14:20
  can't
• 14:20
  list
• 14:20
  them
• 14:20
  out.
• 14:20
  So
• 14:21
  make
• 14:21
  a
• 14:21
  list
• 14:21
  and
• 14:22
  just
• 14:22
  come
• 14:22
  back
• 14:22
  to
• 14:22
  it
• 14:23
  as
• 14:23
  you
• 14:23
  think
• 14:23
  about
• 14:23
  it.
• 14:24
  Where
• 14:24
  am
• 14:24
  I
• 14:25
  emotionally
• 14:25
  done?
• 14:26
  Where
• 14:26
  am
• 14:26
  I
• 14:26
  emotionally
• 14:27
  done?
• 14:28
  Where
• 14:28
  have
• 14:28
  I
• 14:28
  abandoned
• 14:29
  myself?
• 14:31
  Where
• 14:31
  do
• 14:31
  I
• 14:31
  feel
• 14:31
  invisible?
• 14:33
  Where
• 14:33
  do
• 14:33
  I
• 14:33
  feel
• 14:33
  responsible
• 14:34
  for
• 14:34
  everything?
• 14:35
  Where
• 14:36
  am
• 14:36
  I
• 14:36
  spiritually
• 14:37
  dry?
• 14:38
  Where
• 14:38
  am
• 14:38
  I
• 14:38
  metabolically
• 14:39
  unstable?
• 14:40
  Where
• 14:41
  am
• 14:41
  I
• 14:41
  craving
• 14:41
  things?
• 14:43
  Attraction
• 14:43
  starts
• 14:43
  inside
• 14:44
  of
• 14:44
  you
• 14:45
  long
• 14:45
  before
• 14:46
  it
• 14:46
  ever
• 14:46
  shows
• 14:47
  up
• 14:47
  between
• 14:47
  you
• 14:47
  and
• 14:47
  him.
• 14:48
  So
• 14:48
  these
• 14:48
  are
• 14:49
  the
• 14:49
  questions
• 14:49
  I
• 14:49
  want
• 14:49
  you
• 14:49
  to
• 14:50
  all
• 14:50
  attraction
• 14:50
  issues.
• 14:51
  I
• 14:51
  literally
• 14:52
  use
• 14:52
  these
• 14:52
  in
• 14:52
  my
• 14:52
  clinic
• 14:53
  all
• 14:53
  the
• 14:53
  time.
• 14:53
  Like
• 14:53
  this
• 14:53
  is
• 14:54
  my
• 14:54
  framework.
• 14:54
  This
• 14:55
  is
• 14:55
  my
• 14:55
  framework.
• 14:55
  No
• 14:55
  one's
• 14:56
  ever
• 14:56
  taught
• 14:56
  me
• 14:56
  this.
• 14:57
  I
• 14:57
  just
• 14:57
  know
• 14:57
  this
• 14:58
  from
• 14:58
  my
• 14:58
  own
• 14:59
  experience
• 14:59
  and
• 15:00
  experience
• 15:00
  with
• 15:00
  other
• 15:01
  people.
• 15:01
  Come
• 15:02
  back
• 15:02
  and
• 15:02
  start.
• 15:03
  Journaling
• 15:03
  those
• 15:03
  questions
• 15:04
  every
• 15:04
  single
• 15:04
  time.
• 15:05
  'cause
• 15:05
  you're
• 15:05
  gonna
• 15:05
  go
• 15:05
  through
• 15:05
  seasons
• 15:06
  that
• 15:06
  this
• 15:06
  happens.
• 15:07
  So
• 15:07
  it's
• 15:07
  like
• 15:07
  we
• 15:07
  need
• 15:07
  to
• 15:08
  have
• 15:08
  some
• 15:08
  kind
• 15:08
  of
• 15:08
  check
• 15:09
  and
• 15:09
  check
• 15:09
  checks
• 15:09
  and
• 15:10
  balances
• 15:10
  to
• 15:10
  go
• 15:11
  over
• 15:11
  and
• 15:11
  like
• 15:11
  figure
• 15:12
  out,
• 15:12
  okay,
• 15:12
  wait,
• 15:13
  let
• 15:13
  me
• 15:13
  just
• 15:13
  take
• 15:13
  a
• 15:13
  pause
• 15:13
  real
• 15:14
  quick.
• 15:14
  Let
• 15:14
  me
• 15:14
  check
• 15:15
  in
• 15:15
  with
• 15:15
  myself
• 15:15
  and
• 15:15
  see
• 15:16
  where,
• 15:16
  what
• 15:17
  is
• 15:17
  going
• 15:17
  on
• 15:17
  with
• 15:17
  me.
• 15:17
  Right.
• 15:18
  So.
• 15:20
  I
• 15:20
  don't
• 15:20
  want
• 15:20
  you
• 15:20
  to
• 15:21
  feel
• 15:21
  like
• 15:22
  you
• 15:22
  are
• 15:23
  walking
• 15:23
  life
• 15:24
  alone,
• 15:24
  even
• 15:24
  though
• 15:24
  you
• 15:24
  may
• 15:25
  have
• 15:25
  tons
• 15:25
  of
• 15:25
  friends,
• 15:26
  you
• 15:26
  may
• 15:26
  have
• 15:26
  a
• 15:26
  small
• 15:26
  group
• 15:27
  at
• 15:27
  church.
• 15:27
  You
• 15:27
  may
• 15:27
  have
• 15:27
  a
• 15:28
  community
• 15:28
  that
• 15:28
  you
• 15:29
  already
• 15:29
  have,
• 15:29
  but
• 15:30
  you
• 15:30
  don't
• 15:30
  need
• 15:30
  to
• 15:31
  walk
• 15:31
  this
• 15:31
  alone.
• 15:31
  And
• 15:31
  this
• 15:32
  is
• 15:32
  exactly
• 15:32
  some
• 15:33
  of
• 15:33
  the
• 15:33
  work
• 15:33
  that
• 15:33
  we
• 15:33
  do
• 15:33
  inside
• 15:34
  adventures,
• 15:34
  that
• 15:35
  identity
• 15:35
  work,
• 15:35
  that
• 15:36
  nervous
• 15:36
  system
• 15:36
  work,
• 15:36
  that
• 15:37
  resentment
• 15:37
  work,
• 15:38
  the
• 15:38
  metabolic
• 15:38
  work,
• 15:39
  the
• 15:39
  belief
• 15:40
  work,
• 15:40
  the
• 15:40
  spiritual
• 15:41
  alignment
• 15:41
  work,
• 15:41
  the,
• 15:42
  I've
• 15:42
  lost
• 15:42
  myself
• 15:43
  and
• 15:43
  I
• 15:43
  wanna
• 15:43
  come
• 15:43
  back.
• 15:44
  Work.
• 15:44
  And
• 15:44
  if
• 15:44
  you're
• 15:44
  listening
• 15:45
  to
• 15:45
  this
• 15:45
  thinking,
• 15:45
  yeah,
• 15:46
  uh,
• 15:46
  that's
• 15:46
  me.
• 15:47
  Um,
• 15:47
  I
• 15:47
  would
• 15:47
  really
• 15:48
  love
• 15:48
  to
• 15:48
  have
• 15:48
  you,
• 15:49
  you
• 15:49
  can
• 15:49
  look
• 15:49
  at
• 15:49
  the,
• 15:49
  at
• 15:49
  the
• 15:50
  show
• 15:50
  notes
• 15:50
  and
• 15:50
  join
• 15:51
  us
• 15:51
  and
• 15:52
  learn
• 15:52
  how
• 15:52
  to
• 15:53
  get
• 15:53
  logged
• 15:54
  in,
• 15:54
  get
• 15:54
  yourself
• 15:54
  supported,
• 15:55
  and
• 15:55
  start
• 15:56
  taking
• 15:56
  action.
• 15:57
  Because
• 15:57
  attraction
• 15:58
  isn't
• 15:59
  gone,
• 16:00
  desire
• 16:00
  isn't
• 16:01
  gone,
• 16:01
  softness
• 16:02
  isn't
• 16:02
  gone,
• 16:03
  your
• 16:03
  marriage
• 16:03
  isn't
• 16:03
  doomed.
• 16:04
  It's
• 16:04
  just
• 16:04
  you're
• 16:04
  tired,
• 16:06
  you're
• 16:06
  overwhelmed,
• 16:07
  and
• 16:08
  you're
• 16:08
  disconnected
• 16:09
  probably
• 16:09
  from
• 16:10
  you.
• 16:11
  And
• 16:11
  that,
• 16:11
  my
• 16:12
  friend,
• 16:12
  that
• 16:13
  is
• 16:13
  fixable.
• 16:15
  Thanks
• 16:15
  for
• 16:15
  listening
• 16:15
  to
• 16:15
  The
• 16:15
  Crying
• 16:16
  in
• 16:16
  My
• 16:16
  Cheesecake
• 16:16
  podcast.
• 16:17
  If
• 16:17
  this
• 16:17
  episode
• 16:18
  spoke
• 16:18
  to
• 16:18
  you
• 16:18
  even
• 16:18
  in
• 16:19
  the
• 16:19
  smallest
• 16:19
  way,
• 16:19
  don't
• 16:20
  keep
• 16:20
  it
• 16:20
  for
• 16:20
  yourself.
• 16:21
  Share
• 16:21
  it
• 16:21
  with
• 16:21
  a
• 16:21
  friend
• 16:21
  who's
• 16:22
  ready
• 16:22
  for
• 16:22
  real
• 16:22
  change,
• 16:23
  and
• 16:23
  listen
• 16:24
  your
• 16:24
  next
• 16:24
  steps
• 16:24
  matter.
• 16:25
  Check
• 16:25
  the
• 16:25
  show
• 16:26
  notes
• 16:26
  for
• 16:26
  links,
• 16:26
  resources,
• 16:27
  or
• 16:27
  ways
• 16:27
  to
• 16:27
  work
• 16:28
  with
• 16:28
  me.
• 16:28
  You
• 16:28
  can
• 16:29
  step
• 16:29
  into
• 16:29
  Adventures
• 16:30
  or
• 16:30
  Blood
• 16:30
  Sugar
• 16:30
  Explorers,
• 16:31
  or
• 16:31
  come
• 16:31
  hang
• 16:31
  out
• 16:31
  with
• 16:32
  me
• 16:32
  on
• 16:32
  substack.
• 16:32
  Or
• 16:33
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• 16:34
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• 16:34
  if
• 16:34
  you
• 16:34
  made
• 16:34
  it
• 16:34
  to
• 16:34
  the
• 16:35
  end,
• 16:35
  come
• 16:35
  tell
• 16:35
  me.
• 16:35
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• 16:36
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• 16:36
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• 16:36
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• 16:36
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• 16:36
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• 16:37
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• 16:37
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• 16:37
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• 16:37
  what
• 16:37
  hit
• 16:37
  home
• 16:38
  for
• 16:38
  you
• 16:38
  today.
• 16:39
  I
• 16:39
  read
• 16:39
  every
• 16:39
  single
• 16:39
  one
• 16:40
  of
• 16:40
  your
• 16:40
  dms.
• 16:40
  I
• 16:41
  am
• 16:41
  cheering
• 16:41
  for
• 16:41
  you.
• 16:42
  I'm
• 16:42
  praying
• 16:42
  for
• 16:42
  you,
• 16:43
  and
• 16:43
  I'll
• 16:43
  see
• 16:43
  you
• 16:44
  in
• 16:44
  the
• 16:44
  next
• 16:44
  episode.
• 16:45
  I.