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Fighting Kids · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mama's,
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  Speaker 1: how did you raise kids who don't fight with each other? Well,
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  Speaker 1: let's ask our American mamas.
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  Speaker 2: Alma mama, she.
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  Speaker 3: Said, and joining us now we are American mama is
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  Speaker 3: Terry Ediville and Kimberly Burleson. I know how we did it,
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  Speaker 3: but that it's I don't know if it's like just
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  Speaker 3: one thing, but how do you how do you all
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  Speaker 3: raise kids who didn't fight with each other?
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  Speaker 1: Who are you talking to?
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  Speaker 4: Our spot?
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 4: Recently had a sweet friend of mom, young mom, and
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  Speaker 4: she got three three children, and the first two girls
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  Speaker 4: like seven or nine, something like that, and she said,
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  Speaker 4: she sent me a text, She's like, I am you know,
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  Speaker 4: I'm nursing this one. And you know, Terry, your kids
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  Speaker 4: they just all love each other so much. They all
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  Speaker 4: they all get long. And my girls they fight like
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  Speaker 4: cats and dogs. And sometimes I just start crying, and
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  Speaker 4: my husband, I think, how we're failing? What did you do?
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  Speaker 4: And I rode back laughing, saying, are you crazy? My
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  Speaker 4: children fought too. I had to separate them like crazy
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  Speaker 4: all the time. But I did say, you know, whenever
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  Speaker 4: mine would fight, I would either, you know, if Kevin
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  Speaker 4: was there, Kevin handled it. So usually they would do
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  Speaker 4: this when he wasn't there. So I would either, you know,
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  Speaker 4: make them do something together, yell, scream, you know, or
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  Speaker 4: or reenact what they look like to make him laugh,
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  Speaker 4: because I would over exaggerate and say this is what
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  Speaker 4: you look like, and this is what you look like,
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  Speaker 4: and you know. But I said, but I will tell
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  Speaker 4: you this, And I told her this. I said, sisters,
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  Speaker 4: they will fight. I said, my sisters are my best
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  Speaker 4: friends in this world. I would do anything, die for them.
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  Speaker 4: But you got to understand. We fought like heck, we fought.
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  Speaker 4: We fought so hard, especially because if you borrow any
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  Speaker 4: of her clothes without asking her, well, I mean that
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  Speaker 4: a fight was on.
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  Speaker 1: Well no, if I borrowed any of her clothes without
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  Speaker 1: after her, I think the police reports are off.
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  Speaker 4: But I went on and I told her, I said,
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  Speaker 4: let me tell you something. Camerly and I were I
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  Speaker 4: was ninth grade, she was tenth grade, and we got
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  Speaker 4: in a fight so bad. On the bus. We were
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  Speaker 4: the first ones picked up. This is high school, Mississippi,
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  Speaker 4: and our bus driver was the principal. He was the
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  Speaker 4: principal school. Also the bus driver. We were fighting, going
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  Speaker 4: back and forth like punch and scratching all of that.
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  Speaker 4: He pulled that bus stop bus over and he walked
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  Speaker 4: up there and he was like, girls, stop, I'm my god,
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  Speaker 4: what would your what would your peers say? You just
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  Speaker 4: got elected to the homecoming court, both of you and
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  Speaker 4: you're fighting. And we were like, no, they all know
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  Speaker 4: we fight like this. This is what we do.
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  Speaker 2: They've seen it.
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  Speaker 4: We don't hid it. But I was making her feel
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  Speaker 4: better to know all you have to do like our parents.
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  Speaker 4: I said, if you really want to get to the
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  Speaker 4: nitty gritty of it, you say you cannot have friends
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  Speaker 4: over until you get along with her. You cannot go
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  Speaker 4: to anyone's house, You cannot do anything fun until you
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  Speaker 4: can get along with your siblings. And you love them.
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  Speaker 4: And if somebody ever says something about your sibling, you
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  Speaker 4: better stand up for them. You grow up like that,
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  Speaker 4: and you can't have your fights because that's natural. But nobody,
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  Speaker 4: if you said one thing about her or my other two,
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  Speaker 4: I will fight you.
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  Speaker 1: There's a story in my family of my dad broke
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  Speaker 1: his older brother's nose nine times, no, nine times. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: Stan's nose was awful God. But there was a time
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  Speaker 1: when my dad and his brother were fighting at school
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  Speaker 1: at recess and two other kids came in to pick sides,
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  Speaker 1: and my dad and a stand we're not having that,
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  Speaker 1: and they beat those kids up for taking side, for
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  Speaker 1: taking sides in their fight.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I feel like the biggest takeaway from our childhood
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  Speaker 2: because we Terry and I, we could fight. You got
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  Speaker 2: she was an idiot when she fought. She had no
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  Speaker 2: I think consequences. When I fight, Terry thought no consequences.
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  Speaker 2: She was in for the kill.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: She would put her head, her foot on my head
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  Speaker 2: and grab my hair, kimber my head.
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  Speaker 4: That's what I think you're exaggerating.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely not. That was the only time that mom came
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  Speaker 2: in and said do you love each other? And were
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  Speaker 2: like yeah, but what she said about having to play together,
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  Speaker 2: no friends, zero friends until we were in harmony. So
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  Speaker 2: with our hair, it was the exact same way, you know,
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  Speaker 2: even if it meant that I took one of Mike's
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  Speaker 2: ties and I'd wrap it around each arm and they'd
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  Speaker 2: have to stay connected to each other for a whole
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  Speaker 2: hour or two hours until they were I heard them
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  Speaker 2: laughing or they're playing a game together or something. Because
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  Speaker 2: the relationship with your sibling came before any other relationship.
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  Speaker 4: That's it. Even if you already had plans to go
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  Speaker 4: to a Slummer party, I'm sorry, Yeah, I told you
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  Speaker 4: the rule. Y'all got in a fie. You're going to
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  Speaker 4: spend this night together playing games. I've seen people that
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  Speaker 4: on on social media where they have an oversized shirt.
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  Speaker 4: The brothers in there to.
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  Speaker 1: Get in our in our household, we were fortunate because
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  Speaker 1: Bailey so wanted a younger sibling and he was so
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  Speaker 1: excited at five, like that was the best thing that
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  Speaker 1: ever happened to him, is that he had a baby sister.
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  Speaker 1: And Julia's favorite person in the entire planet is Bailey.
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  Speaker 1: But when they did things that made each other mad,
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  Speaker 1: as as a guest kids, Wendy would go to them
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  Speaker 1: and say, oh, you have to apologize and you have
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  Speaker 1: to forgive and we weren't moving until till that happened.
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  Speaker 1: Both of those things say I apologize, I forgive you.
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  Speaker 1: Both of those things had to happen before anything else happened.
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  Speaker 1: Turned out of Kimberly Brothers and thank you Souk, thank
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  Speaker 1: you