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Before I get into the show, I do
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want to give a shout out to Cabana
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Coffee in ...
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Oh, they're located in New Jersey, actually, in
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Glen Rock.
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So that's at 1016 Maple Avenue, Glen Rock.
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It's called Cabana, C-A-B-A-N
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-A, Coffee.
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And yes, it's a pretty interesting place.
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I had the opportunity to meet the owner
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not too long ago, actually going to be
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going back probably and seeing them again soon.
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But seems like a nice little friendly coffee
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spot.
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The people seem like they're attentive there, and
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I think it's going to be a nice
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place for us to have a show.
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So I'm reaching out to you at Cabana
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Coffee Company in Glen Rock, New Jersey, to
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go to jcmcademy.com and to click on
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the Contact Us page and to ask us
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to come and do a show.
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You can host us.
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It's completely free.
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At 15 minutes before the show, we get
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set up.
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After that, we start the show.
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It's about 27 minutes, give or take a
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few minutes.
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And then what we do next is we
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close the show out.
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Then we have an author talk for a
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half hour.
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We do a 15-minute Q&A, and
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then we do an author signing.
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So I would love to do that.
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Also would love to tell the story about
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Cabana Coffee.
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They seem like a very different kind of
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coffee place, but one that I think a
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lot of people definitely should check out.
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So again, hats off to Cabana Coffee Company
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in Glen Rock, New Jersey.
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So yes, hopefully they'll ask us to do
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a live show there.
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So this is Inspirations for Your Life, everyone,
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the master weekly topic that kicked off yesterday
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with Series 5, Show 32, build a life
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that truly matters.
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Yes.
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And so the granular is this for Series
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5, Show 32, basically episode number two, how
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to create more value every day.
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Yeah.
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Can you believe we're Series 5, Show 32
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already?
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Episode two, I can't believe that.
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So welcome, everyone, to the ever-popular Inspirations
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for Your Life show.
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So great to have you here.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montclair State University, passionate lifelong learner, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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Yes, it is such a privilege and pleasure.
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And yes, another book is coming out.
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I'll share that a little bit later, probably
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later this year.
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Many people believe success is something we pursue,
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but in reality, success is often something that
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follows the value we create for others.
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Whether you're helping a customer, supporting a coworker,
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encouraging a friend, or even solving a problem,
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every interaction is an opportunity to make a
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positive impact.
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And I think that's a very important thing
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that a lot of people don't realize.
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It's about making that impact, right?
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That impact is the key, guys.
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It really is.
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So building a life that truly matters isn't
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about collecting achievements.
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It's about becoming someone whose presence improves the
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lives of the people around them.
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Today, I'm going to explore 30 practical principles
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that will help you and others create more
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value every single day of their lives.
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Are you ready?
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I know I am.
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Number one, give your best daily, okay?
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Every day presents a new opportunity to do
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your best.
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You don't have to be perfect, but you
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should strive to leave every situation knowing you
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gave your full effort.
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Number two, focus on serving others.
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When you shift your attention from what you
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can get to what you can give, your
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relationships, opportunities, and influence begin to grow naturally.
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Number three, add value everywhere in everything you
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do.
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Whether you're at work, at home, or in
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your own community, always look for ways to
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make things better when you found them.
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Number four, solve meaningful problems.
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The people who solve important problems become valuable
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because they make life easier, better, or more
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productive for others.
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Number five, listen before speaking.
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Yes, listening demonstrates respect and helps you understand
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what people truly need before offering your thoughts
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or advice.
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Number six, build trust, guys.
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Trust isn't earned through words alone.
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Many people think they are.
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It's not.
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It's built through honesty, consistency, integrity, and doing
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what you say you'll do, right, whether somebody
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is watching or not.
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Number seven, be dependable and accountable.
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People remember those they can count on.
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Reliability creates confidence, okay, and it strengthens every
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relationship.
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Number eight, learn continuously.
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The more knowledge and experience you gain, the
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more value you're able to offer others.
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Number nine, encourage others.
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Sometimes the greatest gift you can give someone
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is genuine encouragement.
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Your words may help someone believe in themselves
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again, and that's priceless.
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Number 10, guys, stay generous.
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Generosity isn't only about money.
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You can be generous with your time, your
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knowledge, patience, kindness, and attention.
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Number 11, share your knowledge.
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Don't keep valuable lessons to yourself.
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Sharing what you've learned helps others grow while
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reinforcing your own understanding.
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Number 12, think beyond yourself.
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Ask yourself how your actions affect the people
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around you.
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Lasting success often comes from creating benefits that
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extend beyond your own interests.
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Number 13, build strong relationships.
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Meaningful relationships require time, honesty, trust, and consistent
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effort.
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Invest in people because they matter more than
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possessions ever will, all right?
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I think that's important to understand.
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Number 14, stay authentic.
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People appreciate authenticity more than anything.
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My new show that I just launched, A
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Day in the Life with Jon, it's a
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bi-weekly show.
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It's on Monday and Thursday, but I stream
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it at night.
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It's usually a 10 to 18-minute show
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roughly, and it shares what I did during
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the day.
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Be genuine, stay true to your values, and
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allow your character to speak louder than your
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words.
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That's powerful, guys.
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Make every interaction matter.
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Everyone, every conversation is an opportunity to leave
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someone feeling encouraged, respected, informed, or inspired.
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I think we do these things not because
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we have to, but because we enjoy the
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collaboration with other people.
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I think that's a real important thing for
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us to understand.
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Number 16, please create positive influence in your
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life.
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Every action you take sends a message, whether
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it's through voice, whether it's through just how
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you look, your body language, it sends a
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message.
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Your attitude, your work ethic, and your character
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influence people.
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Whether you realize it or not, they can
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tell the kind of person you are just
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by being around you.
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People that don't hang around you kind of
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know that they pick up that you're authentic.
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Maybe they're not, and they're afraid you're going
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to pick that up.
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Make that influence one that encourages growth, respect,
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and integrity.
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Number 17, help people grow.
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In our world, it's very competitive, I get
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it, but we should want to help others.
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We should.
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But a lot of times people don't want
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to help others because, well, let's just say
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that they're selfish.
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They are selfish.
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I think that's an important thing to understand,
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that sometimes people can be selfish.
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I think that's an important thing for us
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to know, but it's really, really important, guys,
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really, really important.
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So help people grow.
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One of the greatest ways to create value
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is by helping someone else become just a
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little bit better.
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Share your experiences, offer guidance, and celebrate the
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success of others as enthusiastically as you can,
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as it's your own.
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When we celebrate someone else's success and we
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join in on that, they enjoy that.
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And then when you have a success, they
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want to celebrate it too.
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So it helps with the energy, right?
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Helps with the fact that people being people.
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Number 18, stay grateful.
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Gratitude changes your perspective all the time.
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Instead of focusing on what's missing, appreciate what
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you've been given and use it wisely.
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Gratitude fuels generosity and strengthens relationships.
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Number 19, build community.
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Success is rarely achieved alone.
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Invest in the people around you, support your
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community, and create environments where others feel welcomed,
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valued, and encouraged to succeed.
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I think a lot of people out there,
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they try to talk the talk.
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But what I found is they really don't
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walk the walk.
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And there's a reason for it.
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It's a misalignment with their core values and
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acting and being authentic.
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There are a lot of people out there
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that are not authentic.
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They're in it for them.
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There's a couple of radio stations I want
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to tell you about.
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One is WIIFM and WIIFU.
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No, it's not what you think.
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WIIFU is what's in it for you.
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WIIFM is what's in it for me.
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If I'm only listening to the radio station
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WIIFM and not FU, people will notice that.
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And they're going to probably get sour after
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time because I'm not bringing value to others.
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I think that's a very important thing.
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But I know a lot of people out
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there probably say, you know, I'm just going
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to do what I have to do because
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that's just how it is.
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It's me first.
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I encourage you to be careful about that.
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Because if you live on that premise alone,
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you could miss some very priceless, valuable opportunities.
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There are good people out there, okay?
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Number 20, invest your time wisely.
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Time is one of the few resources you
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can never replace.
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Spend it intentionally on activities, people, and goals
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that bring lasting value instead of temporary distractions.
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And I think when we start to understand
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and make that connection in life, it's like,
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oh my gosh, now I finally understand what
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this is about.
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people don't understand.
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They don't understand why something is a certain
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way.
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And a lot of times it's because somebody
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doesn't care enough to do the right thing.
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They're just about themselves, okay?
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And that can be hard.
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And that's a problem for a lot of
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people.
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And I think that's something a lot of
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people don't realize.
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They think if you just play and don't
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mean it, you can just get whatever you
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want, you know?
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You've got to give, then you can take.
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You can't just take all the time.
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Number 21, lead through service.
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I've known a lot of people on other
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podcasts.
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They have this rah, rah, rah, rah, rah.
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And they talk about service and servant leaders.
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And that's great, okay?
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But at the end of the day, it's
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not about roping somebody in to try to
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get them to pay you.
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It's not about telling people they've got to
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be in your circle.
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That's not true servant leadership.
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It's not about that.
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It's about you making a difference on the
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world by doing the right thing all the
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time.
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Now, these people may be very famous.
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They get to the top real quick.
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But really, they're doing a disservice to all
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of us.
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True leadership isn't about position or authority.
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You know what it's about?
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It's about helping others succeed.
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So when you help others succeed, and you
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do it without looking for a spotlight on
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you, it's okay if a spotlight gets put
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on you.
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But if you're only doing it for the
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spotlight, then that's not the reason, right?
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Removing obstacles and creating opportunities for those around
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you to grow is the key to success.
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But maybe like, oh, I just want to
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get in and get what I need.
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Yeah, get what you need, even if it
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hurts or harms other people, right?
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I think that's an important thing that many
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people, they just don't realize what that is
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or even what it's about, all right?
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But more people will recognize this in what
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they do, okay?
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They'll recognize it because they'll get a feeling
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that something is not 100% right.
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Ladies and gentlemen, number 22 is stay humble.
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I've said this before, but I can't say
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it enough.
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Humility keeps you teachable.
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No matter how much you've accomplished, there's always
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another lesson to learn and another way to
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improve it.
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Number 23, value people.
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Technology, money, and success all have their place.
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But people will always matter most, should treat
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everyone with dignity and respect and kindness, because
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every relationship has value, even if you haven't
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discovered it yet.
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You know, nobody wants to be an object.
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Nobody wants to be used.
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Nobody wants to think that they're in a
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friendship when they're just being manipulated.
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We've all been through that before, right?
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Number 24, focus on impact.
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Ask yourself one important question every day.
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You're probably wondering, what is that question?
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I'm going to tell you.
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Did I make someone's life better today?
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Creating meaningful impact is more valuable than simply
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staying busy.
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People think if they stay busy, that means
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that they're creating impact.
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Spoiler alert, it doesn't.
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But many people think it does.
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I think that's an important piece that many
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people, like, they just don't understand that.
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And that's important, right?
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And maybe you're going to say to me,
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John, you know, this is great.
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But I want to know, how do I
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make the world a better place?
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I think sometimes people just don't realize.
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They don't realize what's happening.
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And I say that to you because you'll
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do something because you think it's going to
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lead you down a pathway.
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And guess what?
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You discover after doing this for a while,
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it didn't get you down the pathway.
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It actually got you further away from what
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you wanted to do.
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Number 25, guys, keep improving.
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Personal growth never ends.
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Continue developing your skills, expanding your knowledge, and
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becoming someone who can contribute even more to
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others.
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Do you ever ask yourself, how can I
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help others in this world?
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Is it a donation of time?
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Is it a donation of money?
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A donation of knowledge?
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Okay, I think that's important, guys.
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I think that's a very important thing to
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be aware of.
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Number 26, guys, success follows value.
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People often chase success directly, but lasting success
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usually follows those who consistently solve problems, serve
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others, and create meaningful value.
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They don't get up on a, let's say,
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a big stage or a podium and saying,
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hey, I'm here to create value.
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They do it every day in their life.
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Now, some people do get up on stages
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like myself, but we create value every day
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in our life.
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I think that's an important distinction, is that
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when you want to make someone else's life
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better, you're doing it because of your heart,
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not because of something someone's telling you.
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I think that can probably give people, let's
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say, an awkward feeling in them, knowing that
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they don't know which way to turn.
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Number 27, guys, leave people better.
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Whether someone spends five minutes or five years
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with you, please strive to leave them more
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encouraged, more informed, and more confident than before
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they met you.
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That's powerful, guys, but do you really do
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that?
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That's the question.
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You don't have to answer me.
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Answer yourself.
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Do you do that?
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If you don't, you might want to make
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the change, because what I found is that
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when you do a deal, Carnegie says, which
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is strive to become genuinely interested in other
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people, and first, don't forget to know their
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name properly.
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And if you don't know their name, no
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harm in saying, that's a beautiful name.
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How do I say it?
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I just did it the other day.
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I said, that's a beautiful name.
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I don't want to mess it up.
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And either they'll say, try, another person will
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say, oh, this is how you say it.
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But become genuinely interested in other people.
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Number 28, learn to build significance.
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Success is measured by what you accomplish.
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Significance is measured by the difference you make.
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Success, what you accomplish.
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Think about that just for a moment.
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Think about how that may resonate with you.
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Does it resonate with you?
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Success is measured by the difference, and significance
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is measured by the difference you make.
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Aim to build a life that matters long
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after your achievements are forgotten.
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Number 29, and this is a big one,
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influence with integrity.
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Now, you might influence with other ways, but
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guess what's going to happen?
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You're going to find that you are not
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actually having the impact that long.
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That's important to know.
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I think that's another important thing for us
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to understand.
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Okay, that's a very important thing to definitely
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understand.
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All right, influence with integrity.
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Don't manipulate people.
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People may remember your accomplishments, but they'll always
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remember your character.
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Let honesty, compassion, and integrity guide every decision
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and move you make.
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What did I say?
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Success can measure accomplishments.
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Significance can measure the difference you make in
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others.
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Number 30, great lives create value.
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At the end of the day, folks, a
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meaningful life isn't measured by what you collected.
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It's measured by what you contributed, every act
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of kindness, every problem you solve, every person
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you encourage, and every opportunity you create becomes
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a part of the legacy you leave behind
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you.
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In closing today, creating value isn't something you
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do once in a while.
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It's a mindset you choose every day, every
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conversation, every decision, and every opportunity gives you
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the chance to encourage someone, solve a problem,
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build trust, or make life a little better
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for another person.
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Do we think about other people often or
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are we thinking about just ourselves?
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I think that's an important thing to understand.
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I think that's important to know.
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As you continue building a life that truly
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matters to you and others, remember this, that
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your greatest contribution may never make headlines, but
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it can transform the life of someone who
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needed your encouragement, your knowledge, or your kindness.
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Please keep learning.
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Please keep serving.
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Please keep growing.
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And never, never, never, never, never, never, never
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underestimate the difference one person can make.
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I think that's something that we just need
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to pause for a moment and reflect on.
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I think when we can understand how life
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has changed for us or how we made
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someone else's life just a little better because
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of something we did for them, I think
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that's really cool.
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I think that's really, really cool to understand.
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Very, very important to note that.
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Very important.
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And maybe you may not get aligned with
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this day one, but you may come back
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and say, you know what?
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Now I know what John was saying.
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I didn't know before, but now I know
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what he's saying.
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Now I know what he's saying.
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And I know where this can go.
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That's important, guys.
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I think sometimes we get stuck on a
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pathway because that's the only thing we know.
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I thank you so much for joining me
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for another amazing episode of Inspirations For Your
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Life.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
27:30
Montclair State University, passionate lifelong learner, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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Really grateful for that.
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And ladies and gentlemen, until next time, remember
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that success isn't about becoming more important.
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It's about becoming more valuable.
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Keep serving, keep growing, and keep creating value
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every single day because when you make the
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Be well, everyone.
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Take care.