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270 - Redefining Strengths & Weaknesses with Human Design · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Nicole Laino: Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and today we're going to talk
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  about strengths and weaknesses.
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  How are we looking at this from a perspective that is more
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  damaging to us than helpful?
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  Because a lot of people come to me looking for help with human design,
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  obviously, because that's my specialty.
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  That's the main modality that I work through.
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  And I have people that come to me because they're curious about
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  it, and they say, I know that I can do a lot with human design.
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  I'm an entrepreneur.
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  I want to rebrand.
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  I want to take my business in a new direction and I'd like to
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  do it from a place of alignment.
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  Can you tell me how human design can help me?
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  That might be through their love relationships, their friend
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  relationships, just understanding how they interact with other people.
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  They might be coming to me looking for help with their teams or with parenting,
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  looking at their kids and trying to see what it is that their kids need from
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  them or who are their children so they can be better parents to those kids
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  and so they can honor who the child is.
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  In all of these scenarios we're looking at strengths and weaknesses,
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  gifts and shadows, always come up.
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  And this has been coming up.
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  We had a lot of new people join my business by design mentorship.
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  And I've been having a lot of calls with different people who
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  are interested in that program or interested in working with me.
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  I'm doing a lot of readings, definitely a lot of business readings and a lot
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  of human design foundational readings.
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  And I've been hearing these patterns where almost every single intake form
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  that I have says something about, I want to leverage my gifts and I want
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  to get out of my own way and human design absolutely can help you do that.
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  To me there's no better tool out there for helping you find those things.
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  And that's ultimately why I call the show Unshakeable with Human Design.
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  Because when you see your chart and you see how perfect it is just as it is.
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  It becomes less personal.
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  You're looking at the shapes and colors on the chart.
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  You're seeing your definition.
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  You're saying okay, this is me and it becomes a little less personal.
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  But usually when someone looks at their chart I get a lot of people who come to
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  me and they see challenges in their chart.
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  They're finding the challenges.
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  They've had challenges in life and they're hoping that the chart can help
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  them understand how to work through this.
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  Now I definitely see this, certainly with a lot of people who have a lot
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  of openness in their chart because there can be this belief that it's
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  going to be harder the more open I am.
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  And that's a myth I want to bust right here.
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  And that's really what I want to talk about in this.
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  We're talking about strengths and weaknesses and how you can
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  redefine those through looking at your human design chart.
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  When we're talking about strengths and weaknesses, we already are getting a
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  sense of gifts and shadows, good and bad.
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  Now, if you've been listening to this show for a while, then you've
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  probably heard me talk about how I see every single thing on the chart, the
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  centers, the gates, the channels, your type, everything, just like dials.
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  Little dials and big dials.
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  If you have a center that has three channels to it, it's going
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  to be a bigger dial for you.
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  Conscious sun's going to be a bigger dial because they just carry more
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  weight in your particular design.
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  But these are dials that are either turned up to a high frequency or
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  turned down to a low frequency.
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  Not good or bad, just maybe going to cause lessons if it's turned
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  down into the lower frequency and you'll be attracting more of what you
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  want, living more in your purpose.
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  Things will get easier.
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  Usually we like ourselves a bit more when we're in that higher frequency.
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  Why?
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  Cause we start to feel very, very different.
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  When people get into human design, when they start to really dive into
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  this, where I see people go off track a lot of times is they can
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  be really devoted to human design.
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  They can be really diving into it, but this good, bad
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  thing really gets in the way.
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  What are my gifts?
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  Okay, I've got to go be in my gifts.
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  And then they'll usually find something in their chart and
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  say, well, this is my weakness.
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  This is the thing that's going to make it harder.
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  True.
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  We have challenges and that is what human design, the chart
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  can start to point out for us.
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  Is what are the challenges that we are going to face?
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  But the challenges are often not necessarily what you think they will be.
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  To me, the challenges are where we have tension in the chart.
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  Where is one thing in your design pulling you one way, and something
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  else is pulling you another way?
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  That's going to be the dance that you're here to learn in your life.
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  But I want to propose a new way of looking at strengths and weaknesses.
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  Let's take those terms out because that plays into more
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  of a shadowy theme, right?
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  More shame.
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  Okay, I have this gift, but I have this weakness.
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  I have this strength, but I have this weakness.
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  How do I get rid of the weakness is what we think because we think
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  that if I could just get stronger, then I won't be weak anymore.
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  And if we look at elements of our chart, like some are strong and some
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  are weak, that's going to cause you to operate incorrectly with that piece.
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  So let me give an example of what I mean here.
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  Most people look at gifts as things that are defined in the
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  chart, that are colored in.
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  And a lot of people who see weakness or see challenge, they see it in
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  the openness, which is not true.
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  I know people who are fully defined, who have eight centers defined, nine centers
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  defined, and they have a lot of trouble.
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  Strengths and weaknesses is not defined or undefined, but
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  that is a common misconception.
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  And I want to twist this around here and give you a new perspective on this that
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  I think will really help you in being able to see that the path is different.
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  So let me explain.
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  Someone who has a defined G center might think that one of my strengths is that
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  I know where I'm going in life, that I have the strong sense of direction.
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  So the potential is there for them to know their own sense of direction.
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  However, it might be out of alignment.
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  It might be unhealthy.
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  They may not have been able to follow their own intuition, to follow their
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  own inner guidance, to have trust and faith that they were going to receive
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  all that they needed to, that some inner compass within them would be
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  driving them toward the things that were safe, right, and good for them
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  in their life, toward their purpose.
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  It may not have been nurtured in that way in their childhood.
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  There might have been a really overbearing parent that was saying,
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  don't do it your way, do it this way, this is where you're going.
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  You're going to college here, you got into college, you got into
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  this school, you're going there.
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  Even if they're like, but I really want to go to this school and study this thing.
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  If the choices were taken away from you, if you weren't allowed to be your own
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  authority, then you're probably going to be in a weakened state of that thing,
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  of that particular potential gift.
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  You're going to be in an unhealthy state with that.
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  But that can all be changed.
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  So instead of seeing strengths and weaknesses, I'm proposing looking at
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  this differently and saying, why don't we look at it like consistency and openness.
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  Now, neither of those two things sounds bad, do they?
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  Because we want to be consistent, right?
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  We also want to be open.
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  And those two words give us a little bit more insight into what definition
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  really means and being defined or undefined really means in the chart.
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  What does that do?
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  That gives us a different avenue, a different way of
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  looking at how we operate, right?
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  Because if I know something is consistent in me, high expression or low expression,
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  healthy or unhealthy, it's consistent.
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  So I'm going to have a different relationship with that.
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  I'm going to look at that and say, this is something that I am.
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  So I really do want to focus on consistently being in alignment with this.
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  This is going to be operating all the time.
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  This is going to be a really strong frequency that I send out.
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  This is going to be something that I'm here to master in this life.
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  That's mine.
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  That's somehow part of the key to me living life according to my purpose.
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  In those places where I'm open.
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  I'm receptive.
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  I'm sensitive.
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  I know things.
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  I feel things without necessarily knowing what they are.
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  Now I need to hone that gift.
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  When you start trusting in these processes of balancing the way that we work with
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  our centers, our channels, our gates, all of our definition and openness,
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  you start to play a very different game rather than looking at yourself as good
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  characteristic, bad characteristic.
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  Good thing, bad thing.
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  Strength, weakness.
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  What are your weaknesses?
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  People used to ask that in interviews.
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  I wonder if they still ask that.
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  What are your five key weaknesses?
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  What's your greatest weakness?
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  I don't have any.
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  I only have openness and areas where I'm working on being more consistently in
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  a healthy expression of all that I am.
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  That's how I would answer that right now.
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  But looking at it through consistency and openness gives us this new framework
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  for working with the energy that is ours.
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  So for all the projectors out there, for the reflectors, for the manifestors, for
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  the generators who only have a sacral and something else defined, you are very open.
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  So look at the strength that you have as what you perceive.
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  What you are pulling in.
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  These are your gifts.
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  They are not weaknesses.
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  You just have to operate and function with them differently.
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  You have to look at them differently so that you can start to honor
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  who you really are, rather than falling into the shadows of who
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  we've always been told we should be.
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  This is the game that we're playing and this is what human design does.
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  It gets us putting our trust someplace else rather than in the outside world.
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  What were we told we had to be?
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  How were we told we had to work or show up?
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  What were we told were strengths?
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  What were we told were weaknesses?
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  Someone with an undefined ego or will center, who was told to be
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  willful, to show up consistently, to go after what they want.
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  There's a great deal of shame when you try to do that and you feel like the fact that
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  you can't be consistent is a weakness.
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  No, it's part of your strength if you start looking at it differently and
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  get real curious about that space.
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  Get curious about your openness.
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  Get curious about other people in those open spaces.
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  Around what you feel and what you are able to pick up that nobody else can.
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  That other people who have it defined who have their own thing going on there
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  what they cannot pick up like you can.
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  Not like you.
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  So when you start to operate this way, this is where you
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  start to become unshakeable.
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  When you're making decisions from an empowered place when you're looking
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  at yourself as perfectly designed.
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  You just need to learn to balance the way that you are interacting with your energy,
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  the way you're interacting with the world.
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  When you start to do that, you start to become unshakeable.
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  Now, when I teach my full framework in my Business by Design Mentorship,
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  where we go through building a business according to your human design.
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  A lot of people come to me, they want to know, how can I build
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  my business by human design?
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  How can I use it in my branding?
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  How can I use it?
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  How can I sell from my centers?
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  You absolutely can, but this is the part that comes first, is learning how
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  to honor your design and live by it.
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  And if you're interested in that, I have something very exciting that is coming up
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  in the next couple of weeks, this is all going to be about embodying your design,
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  getting that foundation, because I have some people who look to join my bigger
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  program and start building their brand and doing all of that stuff by human design,
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  and honestly, what happens is they've got too much work to do in the embodiment
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  piece that they're not ready for it.
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  And I want to be honest with people that there's a piece that comes first, that
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  if you have that foundation laid, then you'll start to be ready for those other
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  more advanced parts of human design, like building your business by it.
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  So, I'm actually going to be teaching a program on embodying your human design.
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  It will be with me where you'll be able to interact with me through
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  Q and A's and through interaction with me in group settings.
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  And it's going to be really fun.
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  It's going to be really interesting and it's going to be transformative.
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  So if you are into that, if you are into embodying your human design and starting
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  to become unshakeable by your human design then DM me the two words embody waitlist
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  and that will get you on the waitlist for this program when it shows up.
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  That will get you on the waitlist that way you will be the first to learn
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  about this and get special pricing that will only be available to the waitlist.
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  Very excited about this.
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  So please send us that DM on Instagram.
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  I'm @NicoleLainoOfficial.
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  Send me embody waitlist and we will send you the info for that.
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  We'll put you on the waitlist.
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  Or you can go to nicolelaino.com/embodywaitlist and
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  you can sign up for it there as well.
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  So I hope you found this helpful.
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  I hope that you are enjoying the series that we have going on on the centers.
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  There'll be another one coming out this week, another episode for that.
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  Those will be on Wednesdays.
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  So I hope you're enjoying those.
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  I hope you enjoyed this episode.
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  I hope this is getting you to redefine the way you look at strengths and
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  weaknesses, that you're able to look at yourself as consistent and open
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  and how both of those are gifts.
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  They're all your gifts.
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  If you start to look at your chart through a different lens and you start to look
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  at yourself through a different lens.
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  So thank you so much for being here.
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  I appreciate you.
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  And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must
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  first become an unshakeable human.
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  So thanks for letting us help you become unshakeable with human design, everybody.
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  We will see you next time.
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  We'll see you there.