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That Gen X Friend - Who is Really Talking · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

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  Hello or welcome or welcome back to that Gen.
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  X Friend podcast. So before I begin, I want to
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  give a shout out to MB Radio for the opportunity to share.
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  You know, maybe sometimes I share too much, I don't know,
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  but thank you. I truly, truly appreciate it and
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  all those who are listening. So today's topic, which is
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  perfect, I think it's this point in our human development.
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  Today's topic is I want to talk about who's really speaking when
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  you're talking or when I'm talking.
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  Is it me? Is it really you?
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  Is it, for instance, like your past, what people said to you in
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  the past? Depending on the day, the
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  situation? Are you really speaking for
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  yourself? It's the voice that's being
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  transmitted through your vocal cords.
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  Is that you? I'm here sharing this because,
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  you know, it's been, for those who have not listened to my
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  previous podcast, I've been on this journey to sort of a
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  transition in life, moving, starting over because honestly,
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  it's, it feels like my whole life has been not me.
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  So I know, right? Wow, that's a that's huge.
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  That's too much. But in a way, it had to start.
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  It had to start with me moving, right?
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  I've lived a life many years now where I had a family, I got
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  divorced, so on and so forth. You know, I got married again,
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  blah, blah, blah. Yay, trauma dumping.
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  No, we're not going to go there. But it always felt like I was
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  some sort of like the movie Avatar, right?
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  Except at least the people who are the Avatars were their own
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  people, right? The people who are controlled
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  it, controlling it had the same emotions as the Avatar.
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  I felt like I was in an avatar controlled by somebody else.
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  You know all those, I guess games, right?
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  You're playing the character. But imagine as if you are in the
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  in the game, but somebody else pulling the strings or
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  controlling however they do it. I guess maybe sort of like The
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  Matrix. I've been on that thing too.
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  Well, memories. What a great movie.
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  So in a way it with all these things that are going on in my
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  life, my mind wanders. And sometimes when I'm speaking
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  to people, even as I'm saying things to people, I find myself
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  shocked. I'm like, what?
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  Did I really just say that? Did I?
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  No, that's craziness, right? You're like, what made me say
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  those things? It doesn't even, it's not even
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  me like a puppet, right? So, yeah.
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  So that's why I came on upon this topic and I've been
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  thinking about it for a while and looking back on some of
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  these podcasts that that I've done, I'm not saying it's not
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  me, but I find myself tripping over my words.
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  You know, there's many factors go that goes into why we trip
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  over our words. But a lot of the times it's not
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  just because I'm tired or I can't think straight.
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  I'm trying to find a word, but it feels like different things
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  like I listed like is it my past speaking for me?
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  Is it because I was in the Marine Corps that this whatever
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  point of a conversation I was having with you or this
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  discussion I was having that portion of me right, Or this
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  conjured up image of what a Marine should be came out and I
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  wanted to be snapping my fingers and doing the, you know, the
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  full metal jacket drill instructor routine, you know,
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  and so in some ways I have to stop myself because it's just
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  more of a stream of consciousness podcast.
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  I'm not. I write down my topics, but I
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  don't have specific fixed points that I'm going to discuss.
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  I let it flow because I think sometimes it's more natural and
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  how it develops. And also it comes out in a way
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  that it makes me think later too, rather than planned out
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  because I can write a paper, but that's seems very contrived in
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  some ways. I'm not saying people who have a
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  script is contrived, but I'm still trying to find my voice,
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  find my voice in this noisy, noisy world.
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  It's not. We live in unprecedented times,
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  right? It's not like our ancestors,
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  they didn't have the radio. Yeah, sure, they had TV.
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  They didn't. They had radios.
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  They had the newspaper. But it was encapsulated.
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  Today, our phones, our phones are with us 24/7.
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  It's always something It it's like we don't put it down.
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  We don't shut off these outside noises on top of what we already
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  have within ourselves like our past speaks for us.
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  For me, I'm going to relate this.
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  Growing up, you know, kids are mean, blah, blah, blah.
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  And they used to say how ugly, how horrible I was, blah, blah,
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  blah. And you can imagine the rest.
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  And sometimes when I'm speaking, especially in different
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  circumstances, that what's coming out of my mouth, what's
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  the words that are coming out of my mouth, right?
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  Is this little insecure girl that wants to be loved and don't
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  want to be told that she's ugly and she's dumb and all these
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  other things, right? So I now more and more, even
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  when I'm expressing these things to you, I'm now growing my
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  awareness. And Ashley, is this me?
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  It is this the current today's me or is this my past?
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  Is this some you know, is this someone influencer?
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  I like? I don't really like hold any
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  influencer to this God like status, but you are influenced.
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  We are all influenced by the things we listen to, that things
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  we watch, the things we read, so on and so forth.
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  So is it possible? Is it possible for us to still
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  be present, to be ourselves when we are speaking?
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  Right. If you notice the title is what?
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  Who is really speaking when you are talking?
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  So yes, speaking and talking are synonyms, but speaking is more
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  of it sounds more formal, but also it is more describing A1
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  way sort of conversation or the conversation is two ways but a
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  one way of speaking. Like there's no other person,
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  I'm speaking, there's nobody else listening, right?
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  So, but talking, you're having a conversation, you're speaking
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  with somebody and they're responding and so forth.
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  So speaking more identifies as this individual act.
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  And we're talking is a sort of communications mode where
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  you're, you're trying to convey something to others.
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  So, but you know, with podcasts, it's, it's a little different.
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  It's, it could be rhetorical, right?
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  Because I'm, I'm speaking into a camera, but I'm talking to you.
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  So see technology, wow. It, it, it mixes the, it blurs
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  the boundaries a lot. So but speaking, that's what I'm
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  saying when I'm talking even to the camera, because I'm
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  imagining this conversation, right?
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  I'm I'm having with you or whatever you're feeling, who's
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  actually speaking today? Today isn't me speaking.
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  But how do I even know who I am? Because I just expressed earlier
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  that I felt like I've lived my whole life prior to this, right?
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  Like a, an avatar that had no control of her own body, The
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  sort of things and the things I did or sort of puppeted.
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  But by whom? Who's actually, you know, I have
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  thoughts in my head. So we can speak vocally and we,
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  we can talk vocally, right, express ourselves.
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  But we have these voices in our head who then take turns into
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  almost unconsciously, some of us are more aware.
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  I'm not one of those people. I'm just learning now.
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  But unconsciously, we have different voices that will come
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  that will express themselves vocally through what we're
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  saying to others during on a daily basis when we're
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  interacting. Like last week's podcast is like
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  we let circumstances, we carry the feelings, the emotional,
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  these frustrations or whatever, we carry them through the next
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  interaction that we have, right? And it compounds or make you can
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  make things worse from zero to 100, right?
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  So in some ways, when we're talking to other people, whoever
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  is speaking, just imagine you're not just carrying the emotions,
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  you're carrying a almost a distinctive sort of character,
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  right? So if, for example, if I was in
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  a, let's say, confrontational circumstance, it doesn't have I
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  don't mean physical, just confrontational.
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  You don't agree with somebody, blah, blah, blah.
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  All of a sudden that Marine in mindset, right?
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  But it's not. Is it me as the Marine or is
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  this some character Marine like, you know, like the drill
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  instructor from a phone, phone on a jacket.
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  I want to do this bit, right? I want to make it so I deliver
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  this knockout, I don't know, speech like he did.
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  It makes you want to crack up. It shocks you and it brings
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  whoever in front of me into submission in that dominating
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  way. But where am I in that 'cause
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  we, so we have been especially most of us who are alive and
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  there, there are people who were alive during a time where media
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  wasn't so intrusive. And we choose this.
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  We chose Big Brother is watching and we chose it.
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  We in the name of convenience guys.
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  So there were a simpler time when our days were not filled
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  with constantly filled with voices from everywhere.
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  Now you got I'm, I'm not saying popular media is anything to
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  venerate like they're awesome. We all have our opinions about
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  those people. But I'm not saying influencers
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  are great either, right? They're just voices now.
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  Technology has multiplied exponentially.
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  The access we give to other people's voices, who knows their
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  where their voices go, who is speaking for them, right?
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  We can see it all over the Internet.
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  You know, this influence, who serves, who speak on dieting or
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  these crazy medications, who's speaking for them or who's
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  speaking through them. It's probably whoever's paying
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  them, right? Do they really believe this?
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  That's what I mean. So when we speak, if we're not
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  conscious of who's actually speaking through us as we're
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  talking to people we're engaging on a daily basis, maybe or not
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  even maybe, but often times who's speaking what, we are
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  talking to ourselves. Because we all know, to be
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  honest, I believe most of us have an internal dialogue where
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  sometimes we argue with ourselves, right?
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  But so who's, who's this other voice that's we're arguing with?
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  It's like a a stupid skit. You know those terrible movies
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  where they make about schizophrenia or yeah, I hear
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  voices. I see dead people, except I hear
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  all kinds of people, right. In that way, it just drives you.
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  It can drive you crazy. Sometimes when I'm talking to
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  myself, I can honestly, now that I've grown more and more aware,
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  when I hear it inside my head, I'm like, that's, that's
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  actually not me. That was said to me by my
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  parents. And then repeat it and repeat it
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  and repeat it into like into existence within my own psyche.
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  Even though it's my voice. Because you're not hearing.
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  I don't know. Do you guys hear other voices
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  like in in other voices, other people's voices speaking in when
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  you have your internal dialogue? Me, it's my voice.
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  It's still this voice speaking, but it is the characteristics of
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  somebody else. So who was really speaking was
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  my parents. It could have been whoever,
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  whoever picked on me or whoever said the nice things about me,
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  like, you know, oh, you, you cook really well.
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  You you really make very good food or something like that.
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  Even when I'm by myself. So it's not, that's in a way
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  that I'm, I'm here, I'm here somewhere because to have that
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  internal dialogue or to be aware of, Oh my God, did did I just
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  really say that stuff like that, you have to be there
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  consciously. Like whether you are a small bit
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  in your mind or you have control of your mind, you're still
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  present. Because to be aware that I don't
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  know, that wasn't really me, you're there or I'm here, right?
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  I'm here. So how do I develop a more
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  authentic voice? Not because I cannot take on the
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  characteristics of my life. I was in Marine Corps, I was in
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  the military, so you know that is me.
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  But I don't when I speak, I want to speak as my my version of the
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  Marine that I was right. Not the full on a jacket drone
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  instructor who strung swear words together in such a
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  expressive manner. Man, that was one of my favorite
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  scenes before I went. I watched that movie so many
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  times before I went to boot camp.
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  Anyways, so I am sharing this because I'm starting to become
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  more more aware or just be more aware of when I'm speaking.
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  Is this me? Am IA even in there?
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  Or is this some caricature of somebody who I either had in my
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  life or want or listen to all of these factors who's impacting
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  what the words that are coming out of my mouth?
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  You know, I I want to express myself in an honest way that you
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  as a listener be like, OK, that's her.
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  She's not some second rate actor trying to be somebody else,
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  right? Why go and bother to be somebody
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  else when you are an original, right?
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  You are the best at who you are. You are the best person to speak
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  your own mind. You are the best person to do
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  whatever it is in your life because you're actually here.
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  You know, when when they there's a saying this, you know, walk
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  them out in somebody else's shoes.
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  Sure, you can walk them out in somebody else's shoes, but would
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  you really know the insurance and outs of it?
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  So I say that in a way to express, even if you think it is
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  actually effective to take on a character like a the
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  characteristics of somebody else's voice, are you doing
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  yourself a favor? Are you actually just being a
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  second rate actor mimicking what you think, what you think
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  somebody else would say? When in all actuality, you can
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  just say it as you as the way you want it.
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  People will connect it with connect with you based on the
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  honesty of how you express yourself.
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  I'm not saying they may like you.
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  Hell, they might hate you, right?
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  But if you're honest, you will find that the same people, the
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  same the people with the same sort of ideas will eventually
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  find you. I'm not saying it's going to be
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  easy or that's why I think there's so many.
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  Influencers or people who are on YouTube or podcasts trying to
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  express their express themselves.
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  I don't know about the authenticity.
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  I don't know if their thoughts are their thoughts or are they
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  just trying to get clicks. Obviously plenty of people are
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  trying to get clicks. Plenty of people are trying to
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  make money. But you know, the, the real, the
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  people who are really expressing themselves honestly in an
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  authentic way, I think most of us can tell, we can feel it.
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  They're not trying to pull our chain.
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  They're not just going into platitudes or whatever,
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  whatever, all the popular sayings just to get something.
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  They're really trying to express themselves.
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  And if in the process they earn money, great, right?
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  That's just one example. But in our daily lives, when we
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  unconsciously just go and say our first, first thing that
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  comes to mind, it doesn't have to be the first thing.
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  Heck, it could be the last thing that comes to mind.
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  And you're just like, what did I really say that I didn't mean
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  that? Well, that just slipped out,
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  right? Some of the examples I gave, so
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  many expressions like those tell the story of how sort of robotic
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  we are. We're just, we're automated.
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  We don't even think anymore. Things just come out.
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  We don't know if we really meant it, Who meant it, Was it?
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  Were we influenced by somebody else's thoughts?
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  Not that even we agreed, but OK, just throw something in there.
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  The point is to be more conscious in the way we talk,
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  right? To to see, maybe catch, like,
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  hmm, I felt that. I felt that it was my mom, it
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  was my dad, it was that it was my old boss or whoever that was
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  speaking through my voice into whatever situation, right?
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  Or it could. It doesn't even have to be
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  people. It can be past experiences like
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  fear for people, you know, when you care about somebody.
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  Sometimes we let our fears, our own personal fears speak for us.
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  For example, like just say, just say you got an accident when you
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  were younger and you man, you are really afraid to get into
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  those accidents. Again, a car accident.
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  And, and there's certain situations like you don't like
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  driving near big tractor trailers or whatever.
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  Because for whatever reason, and anytime you're in a car with
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  somebody else and they're driving and they're fine, they
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  don't have this issue. Anytime you are near a tractor
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  trailer, although you're safe, you trust your friend or
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  whoever's driving you, this fear rushes into you and is speaking
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  for you. You're like, please be careful,
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  OK? I'm really afraid of I'm really
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  afraid of tractor trailers. And in in a sense, the fear
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  that's speaking through you, it's going to impact whoever's
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  driving. You may have just created a
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  situation, right? Because you let your fears speak
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  for you, not you speak for you. You can excuse me allergies,
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  man, they're crazy. You could express yourself in a
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  way that's OK in your own mind. Not everything has to be said
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  guys right that too. Sometimes even if some the fear
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  speaking for you, you who the real you that's seeing this.
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  Wow, that's that's weird. I'm letting what happened years
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  ago speak for me or making me crazy.
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  You can talk to yourself too. Hey, you know, I trust this
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  person. They don't have to drive.
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  So I'm going to tell you to stop.
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  I'm I'm not even going to let you.
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  I'm not even giving you a voice. I'm not going to do this.
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  So more and more as you notice, perhaps it's going to take at
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  first, man, I was so mindless at first.
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  It just felt like I had to apologize or I, I should have
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  apologized. I didn't, but I knew I was
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  wrong, right? So stuff like that, that started
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  me noticing. And then it's just I started
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  feeling like I had this different rush because when I'm
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  speaking for me in my own voice, which is very seldom, it was
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  very seldom. It felt different.
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  It felt natural. It didn't feel forced.
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  It felt like it was proper. Like when your joints fit
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  together, it's not like dislocated.
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  Oh, that that's the way it's supposed to be, right?
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  But I started noticing this feeling more and more when
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  others people's voices, like my parents or whatever, or an old
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  boss or a drill instructor or the fear or trends, social
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  media, what somebody else said. When I'm the voice that I'm
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  giving to whoever speaking is not my own, I will feel this
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  odd, like something's out of sorts.
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  It's not fitting, right? But those things had to be so
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  noticeable for me to actually feel it.
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  Because when we're mindless, it takes something big, right?
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  It's like when you're numb it, it has, it has to hurt a lot
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  more for you to feel it. So when I started to notice
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  those things, it it was usually like maybe during a fight, I
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  said something, man, that wasn't me.
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  But when I started to listen consciously listen to myself
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  more, what's coming at what is coming out of your mouth, what
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  I'm talking, I can overtime I was better.
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  I was able to discern better if that was me, that was somebody
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  else, that was my past. That was a fear and I I don't
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  have control over it. I now can identify at least now
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  I can identify some of this stuff, a lot of it because I had
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  internalized it. It is still, I still believe
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  it's me, but you know, there is an anchor that I want to share.
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  I don't have a solution. So this is just in this
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  transition portion of my life. I've there's so many things that
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  are, I'm learning so many things that are that are coming at me
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  all at once from different aspects of my life.
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  It it's kind of, it's kind of overwhelming sometimes, but I
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  have found one anchor. If you're a Christian, if you
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  listen to the word of God that's in correspondence of the Bible,
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  then you have an anchor of what is true, what is not, what is
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  the world coming in to tell you these things?
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  Because we're not fighting against against flesh and blood,
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  right? It, it, it's our minds are being
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  invaded. And if you anchor yourself using
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  the truth you know to be, it's easier to find a way back or
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  just to start fighting yourself. I'm trying to find my way back
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  to who God meant for me to be and just let go of all these
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  voices, these things that are that are speaking through me as
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  I'm talking to the world in my daily living tasks.
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  So, you know, it's I, I don't know how many people also feel
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  the same way and feel so sort of almost desperate to find our way
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  back to us who, who God created us to be.
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  I'm on that journey, man, this journey that I'm on has taken me
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  to down so many different roads. It's not even funny.
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  But nonetheless, it's it's, it's a journey, but I know there's a
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  destination no matter how many different roads I have to
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  traverse. I am trying to give back to
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  where God meant for me to be. Not lost in this world.
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  A sea of voices that has nothing to do with me and my purpose on
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  Earth if they're just mindlessly coming through because I my mind
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  has been so uncontrolled, weakened, you can say.
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  But it is my responsibility to actually get myself to decide,
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  hey, these, whatever, speaking through me.
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  Most often, it's not me. And I should be more conscious
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  and understand how important words are, especially when
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  we're, especially when we're talking to ourselves.
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  Yes, when we interact with other people, you probably, you're
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  probably more conscious in minding your words, unless
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  you're one of those people who just don't care.
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  Sometimes I'm one of those people when we're afraid to
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  offend somebody else. We watch our mouths right in
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  most situations. But when we speak to ourselves,
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  when we're talking to ourselves, who's speaking and why are they
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  speaking? Is it building you up?
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  Is it true? Is it what God intended for you
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  to hear? Or is it just distracting you
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  and leading you off track so you don't get to find your purpose,
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  find yourself, right? So that's what I wanted to
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  share. I know it's some of these things
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  that I share. I don't have solutions.
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  I just, this is just part of the journey, right?
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  I'm going to share different aspects of this journey and
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  hopefully they will one day come together in some clarifying way
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  for me, for for whoever is experiencing the same issues,
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  maybe it's not an issue, but the same things.
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  So next time when you speak, right, listen to yourself,
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  listen carefully to the words that are coming out of your
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  mouth and see or see who's who. Is it actually you who's
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  speaking? Because it should be you.
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  You're the best person to speak for yourself and not anybody
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  else. Yes, all of your life, all your
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  experiences influence you, but you don't have to be a character
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  of somebody else that's you've experienced your life, right?
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  You can speak as you and not the journal instructor from a full
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  meta deck, even though, even though he's pretty good.
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  But that's not you though, is it?
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  It came from him. So find yourself.
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  Maybe you're just starting like I'm just starting and it is it
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  is tough at first to recognize, hey, that's not me.
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  But as you become more and more aware, you will start to oh, OK,
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  you'll catch yourself most at first is from the mistakes that
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  you just made that caused you to notice.
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  That was not me speaking for me. That was something else.
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  I was feared. I was this, that and the other
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  that was trench. That was social media, that was
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  insecurity or even good things, right?
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  Even good things can be somebody else's voice that you haven't
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  learned to internalize and make it your own.
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  So what I'm saying is that understand who's really speaking
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  for you is a way of finding you. But also in the process, we have
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  to learn what we want, what we choose to internalize.
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  So when we do speak, it is authentic.
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  We don't forget about our life, right?
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  We're not going to be this, I don't know, neutral person that
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  never speaks out of turn or whatever.
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  It's not passion, I'm not saying that, but choosing how you want
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  to express yourself as yourself, not anybody else, as the way
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  that God made you to be. That's the journey that I'm on.
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  I'm really trying to, I'm trying to be more careful with my
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  words. And man, I tell you what, being
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  in the Marine Corps, well, I was like this before because we
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  won't go there, but definitely the Marine Corps didn't help.
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  I have a, a lot of times I pause during the podcast because I
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  want to swear because I can't find a proper way to express
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  myself. But that's not me.
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  That was a defense mechanism because it, I thought it made me
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  sound, I don't know, tougher. So I'm finding myself.
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  And hopefully what I'm sharing resonates with you.
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  And if you're trying to find yourself, just know that yeah,
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  it's going to take some work, but you are the best person to
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  be you and nobody else can compare.
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  God made you to you. God made you to be unique.
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  So next time when you're speaking, listen, be who God
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  meant you to be. And let's all continue on this
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  journey, right? What a, what a, what a journey
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  it is. Anyways, Until next time, a
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  couple weeks from now, I hope you guys are doing well.
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  I pray for you guys. There's a lot of things going on
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  in the world, but I think if we seek to become who God meant for
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  us to be, yeah, there's hope. All right, until next time, talk
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  to you guys later. Ladies and gentlemen, thank you
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