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- 0:37Think
- 0:37about
- 0:38this.
- 0:38You
- 0:39can
- 0:39swipe
- 0:39your
- 0:39card
- 0:40for
- 0:40your
- 0:40family
- 0:40in
- 0:41a
- 0:41heartbeat.
- 0:42There's
- 0:42no
- 0:42debate
- 0:43and
- 0:44zero
- 0:44guilt.
- 0:45But
- 0:46the
- 0:46moment
- 0:46it's
- 0:46something
- 0:46for
- 0:47you,
- 0:47all
- 0:48of
- 0:48a
- 0:48sudden
- 0:48your
- 0:48hand
- 0:49freezes
- 0:50and
- 0:50your
- 0:50mind
- 0:50starts
- 0:51accusing
- 0:51you.
- 0:53Today
- 0:53on
- 0:53this
- 0:53show,
- 0:53I'm
- 0:53going
- 0:54to
- 0:54talk
- 0:54about
- 0:54what
- 0:54you
- 0:54can
- 0:54do
- 0:55next
- 0:55to
- 0:55spend
- 0:55with
- 0:56wisdom
- 0:57without
- 0:57feeling
- 0:58like
- 0:58you're
- 0:58doing
- 0:58something
- 0:58wrong.
- 1:21Hello,
- 1:22friend.
- 1:22Ralph
- 1:23Estep
- 1:23Jr.
- 1:24Here.
- 1:24This
- 1:24is
- 1:25Financially
- 1:25Confident
- 1:26Christian,
- 1:26where
- 1:27every
- 1:27day
- 1:27I'm
- 1:27helping
- 1:28you
- 1:28break
- 1:28that
- 1:28cycle
- 1:29of
- 1:29financial
- 1:30shame
- 1:30and
- 1:31do
- 1:31it
- 1:31with
- 1:31confidence.
- 1:32And
- 1:33today's
- 1:33topic
- 1:33hits
- 1:34close
- 1:34to
- 1:34home
- 1:34for
- 1:35so
- 1:35many
- 1:35of
- 1:35us,
- 1:36and
- 1:36that's
- 1:37why
- 1:37spending
- 1:37on
- 1:38ourselves
- 1:38feels
- 1:39wrong.
- 1:39But
- 1:39bigger
- 1:39than
- 1:40that,
- 1:41I'm
- 1:41going
- 1:41to
- 1:41talk
- 1:41to
- 1:41you
- 1:41about
- 1:42how
- 1:42to
- 1:42choose
- 1:42healthy
- 1:43God,
- 1:43honoring
- 1:44self
- 1:44care
- 1:45without
- 1:45guilt.
- 1:46Well,
- 1:46let's
- 1:47get
- 1:47right
- 1:47into
- 1:47today's
- 1:48question.
- 1:49Listener
- 1:50wrote
- 1:50this
- 1:50Ralph
- 1:51I'll
- 1:51buy
- 1:52things
- 1:52for
- 1:52my
- 1:52family
- 1:53without
- 1:53hesitation,
- 1:55but
- 1:55the
- 1:55moment
- 1:55I
- 1:56think
- 1:56about
- 1:56getting
- 1:56something
- 1:56for
- 1:57myself,
- 1:58I
- 1:58just
- 1:59freeze
- 1:59up.
- 2:00Even
- 2:00normal
- 2:01stuff
- 2:02like
- 2:02new
- 2:02shoes
- 2:03or
- 2:03going
- 2:04out
- 2:04for
- 2:04coffee
- 2:05makes
- 2:05me
- 2:06feel
- 2:06guilty.
- 2:08How
- 2:08do
- 2:08I
- 2:09stop
- 2:09feeling
- 2:09like
- 2:09taking
- 2:10care
- 2:10of
- 2:10myself
- 2:11is
- 2:11wrong?
- 2:13I'm
- 2:14just
- 2:14going
- 2:14to
- 2:14pause
- 2:14for
- 2:14a
- 2:15second
- 2:15and
- 2:15say,
- 2:15wow,
- 2:17you're
- 2:17being
- 2:17super
- 2:18vulnerable
- 2:18and
- 2:19honest
- 2:19this
- 2:19morning.
- 2:19And
- 2:20I
- 2:20just
- 2:20want
- 2:20to
- 2:20thank
- 2:21you
- 2:21so
- 2:21much
- 2:21for
- 2:21that
- 2:21question
- 2:23because
- 2:23honestly,
- 2:24recognizing
- 2:25the
- 2:25situation
- 2:27is
- 2:27almost
- 2:27half
- 2:28the
- 2:28battle.
- 2:29So
- 2:29today
- 2:30I
- 2:30want
- 2:30to
- 2:30really
- 2:30lean
- 2:31into
- 2:31this
- 2:31about
- 2:31how
- 2:32we
- 2:32can
- 2:32make
- 2:32that
- 2:32guilt
- 2:33fade
- 2:34when
- 2:34we've
- 2:34really
- 2:34defined
- 2:35the
- 2:35difference
- 2:35between
- 2:36stewardship
- 2:37and
- 2:37self
- 2:38neglect.
- 2:39And
- 2:39I'm
- 2:39going
- 2:40to
- 2:40tell
- 2:40you
- 2:40right
- 2:40now
- 2:40about
- 2:40my
- 2:41mom's
- 2:41holy
- 2:41underwear.
- 2:43Now
- 2:43you
- 2:43might
- 2:43be
- 2:43saying,
- 2:44ralph,
- 2:44did
- 2:44you
- 2:45just
- 2:45say
- 2:45what
- 2:45I
- 2:45think
- 2:45you
- 2:46said?
- 2:46Yes.
- 2:47So
- 2:47let's
- 2:47talk
- 2:47about
- 2:47what
- 2:48holy
- 2:48underwear
- 2:48is.
- 2:49Now,
- 2:49these
- 2:49aren't
- 2:49religiously
- 2:50holy
- 2:51underwear.
- 2:51These
- 2:51are
- 2:51physically
- 2:52underwear
- 2:53with
- 2:53holes
- 2:53in
- 2:54them.
- 2:55And
- 2:55it
- 2:55just
- 2:55when
- 2:56I
- 2:56got
- 2:56this
- 2:56question
- 2:56from
- 2:57the
- 2:57listener,
- 2:57it
- 2:57reminded
- 2:58me
- 2:58of
- 2:58my
- 2:58mom.
- 2:58And
- 2:58she
- 2:59passed
- 2:59away.
- 2:59It's
- 2:59been
- 2:59almost
- 3:00three
- 3:00years.
- 3:00I
- 3:00can't
- 3:00believe
- 3:00it.
- 3:01It'll
- 3:01be
- 3:01three
- 3:01years
- 3:02in
- 3:02March.
- 3:02And
- 3:03yeah,
- 3:03I
- 3:03miss
- 3:03her
- 3:03every
- 3:04day.
- 3:04But
- 3:04I
- 3:05remember
- 3:05as
- 3:05a
- 3:05kid,
- 3:05my
- 3:06mom
- 3:06raised
- 3:06us,
- 3:07my
- 3:07sister
- 3:07and
- 3:07I,
- 3:07as
- 3:08a
- 3:08single
- 3:08mom
- 3:08now
- 3:08my
- 3:09dad
- 3:09was
- 3:09around,
- 3:09he
- 3:10helped
- 3:10us
- 3:10financially.
- 3:11But
- 3:11my
- 3:12mom
- 3:12was
- 3:12one
- 3:12of
- 3:12these
- 3:12people
- 3:13that
- 3:13wanted
- 3:13to
- 3:13give
- 3:13to
- 3:14everybody.
- 3:15She
- 3:15gave
- 3:15to
- 3:16me.
- 3:16She
- 3:16gave
- 3:16to
- 3:17my
- 3:17sister,
- 3:17but
- 3:18she
- 3:18didn't
- 3:19take
- 3:19care
- 3:19of
- 3:19herself
- 3:20and
- 3:20she
- 3:20didn't
- 3:20buy
- 3:20the
- 3:21things
- 3:21that
- 3:21mattered
- 3:21to
- 3:21her.
- 3:22And
- 3:22I'll
- 3:22never
- 3:22forget
- 3:22one
- 3:22day
- 3:23I
- 3:23remember
- 3:24I
- 3:24was
- 3:24helping
- 3:24her
- 3:24with
- 3:24the
- 3:24laundry
- 3:26and
- 3:26we
- 3:26dumped
- 3:27the
- 3:27clothes
- 3:27on
- 3:27the
- 3:27bed
- 3:28and
- 3:28we
- 3:28were
- 3:28sorting
- 3:29stuff
- 3:29out.
- 3:29She
- 3:29goes,
- 3:29well,
- 3:29just
- 3:29Put
- 3:30my
- 3:30stuff
- 3:30to
- 3:30the
- 3:30side.
- 3:30I
- 3:31said,
- 3:31no,
- 3:31Mama.
- 3:31I
- 3:31know
- 3:32she
- 3:32wasn't
- 3:32feeling
- 3:32good
- 3:33that
- 3:33day.
- 3:33And
- 3:33I
- 3:33said,
- 3:33well,
- 3:33let
- 3:33me
- 3:33just
- 3:34help
- 3:34you
- 3:34fold
- 3:34things.
- 3:35It
- 3:35was
- 3:35probably
- 3:35a
- 3:35hot
- 3:36mess
- 3:36because
- 3:36I
- 3:37might
- 3:37have
- 3:37been
- 3:378
- 3:37or
- 3:3810
- 3:38years
- 3:38old
- 3:38and
- 3:39trying
- 3:39to
- 3:39fold
- 3:39clothes.
- 3:40Well.
- 3:40And
- 3:40of
- 3:40course,
- 3:40it's
- 3:41a
- 3:41little
- 3:41awkward,
- 3:41too.
- 3:41You
- 3:42got
- 3:42your
- 3:42mom's
- 3:42undergarments.
- 3:43Well,
- 3:43I
- 3:44pull
- 3:44up
- 3:44a
- 3:44pair
- 3:44of
- 3:44my
- 3:44mom's
- 3:45undergarments,
- 3:46and
- 3:46it
- 3:46looked
- 3:46like
- 3:46Swiss
- 3:47cheese.
- 3:48I
- 3:48mean,
- 3:48there
- 3:48were
- 3:48holes
- 3:49all
- 3:49over
- 3:49these
- 3:49things.
- 3:50And
- 3:50now
- 3:51I
- 3:51said
- 3:51to
- 3:51my
- 3:51mom,
- 3:51I
- 3:52said,
- 3:52mom,
- 3:53what's
- 3:53up
- 3:53with
- 3:53these
- 3:54underwear?
- 3:54I
- 3:54said,
- 3:54my
- 3:55underwear
- 3:55is
- 3:55not
- 3:55like
- 3:55this.
- 3:57And
- 3:57she
- 3:57goes,
- 3:57son,
- 3:57I
- 3:58make
- 3:58sure
- 3:58that
- 3:58I
- 3:59sacrifice
- 4:00so
- 4:00you
- 4:01and
- 4:01your
- 4:01sister
- 4:01can
- 4:01have.
- 4:03And
- 4:03I'll
- 4:03tell
- 4:03you
- 4:03what,
- 4:03that
- 4:04defined
- 4:04who
- 4:04my
- 4:05mother
- 4:05was.
- 4:06She
- 4:06wore
- 4:07those
- 4:07holy
- 4:08underwear
- 4:09because
- 4:09she
- 4:09just
- 4:10didn't
- 4:10want
- 4:10to
- 4:10spend
- 4:11the
- 4:11money
- 4:11on
- 4:11herself.
- 4:12And
- 4:13that's
- 4:13really
- 4:13what
- 4:13we're
- 4:13talking
- 4:14about
- 4:14today.
- 4:15But
- 4:15I
- 4:15want
- 4:15to
- 4:15help
- 4:15you
- 4:16get
- 4:16past
- 4:16that.
- 4:17The
- 4:17first
- 4:18step
- 4:18in
- 4:18getting
- 4:18past
- 4:19that
- 4:19is
- 4:19you
- 4:20got
- 4:20to
- 4:20name
- 4:20the
- 4:21voice.
- 4:22Is
- 4:22this
- 4:22conviction
- 4:23or
- 4:24condemnation?
- 4:25Because
- 4:25there
- 4:25is
- 4:26a
- 4:26major
- 4:26difference
- 4:27between
- 4:27the
- 4:27two.
- 4:28Let's
- 4:28talk
- 4:28about
- 4:28that
- 4:29now.
- 4:30If
- 4:30it's
- 4:30conviction.
- 4:31Now,
- 4:31conviction
- 4:32as
- 4:32a
- 4:32Christian
- 4:33is
- 4:33a
- 4:33good
- 4:33thing.
- 4:34The
- 4:34Holy
- 4:34Spirit
- 4:35gives
- 4:35us
- 4:35conviction.
- 4:36It
- 4:37gives
- 4:37us
- 4:37conviction
- 4:38to
- 4:38make
- 4:38better
- 4:38decisions.
- 4:39If
- 4:40it's
- 4:40conviction,
- 4:40it's
- 4:41specific,
- 4:43it's
- 4:43gentle,
- 4:44and
- 4:44in
- 4:45the
- 4:45end,
- 4:45it
- 4:45leads
- 4:46us
- 4:46to
- 4:46a
- 4:46better
- 4:46choice.
- 4:47So
- 4:47first
- 4:47of
- 4:47all,
- 4:48name
- 4:48the
- 4:48voice
- 4:48that
- 4:48you're
- 4:49hearing.
- 4:49Is
- 4:50this
- 4:50conviction
- 4:51is
- 4:51very
- 4:51specific.
- 4:53Is
- 4:53it
- 4:53gentle
- 4:54like
- 4:54a
- 4:54shepherd?
- 4:55Is
- 4:55it
- 4:56helping
- 4:56you
- 4:56make
- 4:56a
- 4:57better
- 4:57choice?
- 4:58The
- 4:58other
- 4:58side
- 4:58of
- 4:59that
- 4:59is
- 5:00condemnation.
- 5:01Condemnation
- 5:02is
- 5:03vague.
- 5:04It's
- 5:04harsh.
- 5:06It
- 5:06sounds
- 5:06like
- 5:07this.
- 5:07You
- 5:07don't
- 5:08deserve
- 5:08it.
- 5:09And
- 5:09I
- 5:09think
- 5:10back
- 5:10to
- 5:10my
- 5:10mom
- 5:10now,
- 5:11and
- 5:11I
- 5:11wonder
- 5:11if
- 5:12it
- 5:12wasn't
- 5:12a
- 5:12little
- 5:12bit
- 5:13of
- 5:13both,
- 5:14because,
- 5:14honestly,
- 5:15looking
- 5:15back
- 5:15at
- 5:16it,
- 5:16we
- 5:16could
- 5:16have
- 5:16afforded
- 5:17for
- 5:17her
- 5:17to
- 5:17get
- 5:17new
- 5:17undergarments.
- 5:19So
- 5:19for
- 5:19her,
- 5:20was
- 5:20it
- 5:20a
- 5:20little
- 5:20bit
- 5:21of
- 5:21conviction
- 5:21yet?
- 5:22I
- 5:22think
- 5:22in
- 5:22a
- 5:22lot
- 5:22of
- 5:22ways,
- 5:23though,
- 5:23for
- 5:23her,
- 5:23it
- 5:23was
- 5:23condemnation.
- 5:24It
- 5:24was
- 5:24very
- 5:25vague.
- 5:25Just
- 5:25don't
- 5:26spend
- 5:26money
- 5:26on
- 5:26yourself
- 5:28to
- 5:28the
- 5:28point
- 5:28where
- 5:28you've
- 5:29got
- 5:29holy
- 5:29underwear.
- 5:30And
- 5:31I
- 5:31think
- 5:31if
- 5:31I
- 5:32was
- 5:32to
- 5:32ask
- 5:32her
- 5:33now,
- 5:33she'd
- 5:34probably
- 5:34say,
- 5:34ralph,
- 5:35I
- 5:35just
- 5:35didn't
- 5:36deserve
- 5:36it
- 5:36at
- 5:36the
- 5:36time.
- 5:38If
- 5:38you're
- 5:38feeling
- 5:39that
- 5:39same
- 5:39way,
- 5:39if
- 5:39it
- 5:39sounds
- 5:40like
- 5:40punishment,
- 5:42that's
- 5:42not
- 5:42from
- 5:42God.
- 5:43We
- 5:43don't
- 5:43have
- 5:43a
- 5:44punishing
- 5:44God.
- 5:45Yes,
- 5:45we
- 5:46have
- 5:46a
- 5:46convicting
- 5:46God.
- 5:47We
- 5:47have
- 5:47a
- 5:47God
- 5:47that
- 5:47will
- 5:48convict
- 5:48us
- 5:48to
- 5:49make
- 5:49better
- 5:49decisions.
- 5:51If
- 5:51we
- 5:51were
- 5:51talking
- 5:51about,
- 5:52for
- 5:52example,
- 5:53let's
- 5:53say
- 5:53all
- 5:53of
- 5:53a
- 5:53Sudden,
- 5:53my
- 5:54mom
- 5:54woke
- 5:54up
- 5:54one
- 5:54day
- 5:54and
- 5:55said,
- 5:55you
- 5:55know
- 5:55what,
- 5:55kids?
- 5:56I
- 5:56think
- 5:56today
- 5:57I
- 5:57need
- 5:57to
- 5:57go
- 5:57buy
- 5:57a
- 5:58sports
- 5:58car.
- 5:59She
- 6:00thought
- 6:00to
- 6:00herself,
- 6:00wait
- 6:01a
- 6:01minute.
- 6:01Now,
- 6:02that's
- 6:02conviction.
- 6:03That's
- 6:04specific.
- 6:05My
- 6:05mom's
- 6:05name
- 6:05was
- 6:06Lynn.
- 6:06Lynn,
- 6:06you
- 6:06don't
- 6:06need
- 6:07a
- 6:07sports
- 6:07car.
- 6:07You've
- 6:08got
- 6:08a
- 6:08car
- 6:08that
- 6:08does
- 6:09the
- 6:09job.
- 6:10But
- 6:11that's
- 6:11God
- 6:11speaking
- 6:12gently
- 6:12to
- 6:12us.
- 6:12You
- 6:12know,
- 6:12you've
- 6:13got
- 6:13a
- 6:13car
- 6:13to
- 6:13do
- 6:13something
- 6:14else.
- 6:14And
- 6:14it
- 6:14led
- 6:15to
- 6:15a
- 6:15better
- 6:15choice.
- 6:17Here's
- 6:17the
- 6:17second
- 6:17step
- 6:18in
- 6:18this,
- 6:18so
- 6:18name
- 6:18it.
- 6:19First.
- 6:19Second
- 6:19thing.
- 6:20Give
- 6:20yourself
- 6:21a
- 6:21yes
- 6:21with
- 6:22limits
- 6:22category.
- 6:23See,
- 6:24this
- 6:24is
- 6:24the
- 6:24thing
- 6:24that
- 6:24I
- 6:25think
- 6:25my
- 6:25mom
- 6:25could
- 6:26have
- 6:26learned
- 6:26from
- 6:26if
- 6:26I
- 6:26had
- 6:27been
- 6:27able
- 6:27to
- 6:27go
- 6:27back
- 6:27and
- 6:28counsel
- 6:28her.
- 6:29On
- 6:29your
- 6:30budget,
- 6:30on
- 6:30your
- 6:31spending
- 6:31plan,
- 6:32create
- 6:32a
- 6:33small
- 6:33line
- 6:33item
- 6:34called
- 6:34personal
- 6:34care,
- 6:35or
- 6:35dare
- 6:36I
- 6:36say,
- 6:36personal
- 6:36Joy.
- 6:38Because,
- 6:38listen,
- 6:39you've
- 6:39got
- 6:39to
- 6:39have
- 6:39some
- 6:40joy
- 6:40in
- 6:40your
- 6:40life.
- 6:40You've
- 6:40got
- 6:40to
- 6:41have
- 6:41some
- 6:41joy
- 6:41in
- 6:41your
- 6:42spending.
- 6:43And
- 6:43it
- 6:43doesn't
- 6:43have
- 6:44to
- 6:44be
- 6:44hundreds
- 6:44of
- 6:45dollars.
- 6:45Hey,
- 6:45you
- 6:45might
- 6:46say,
- 6:46every
- 6:46week,
- 6:47I'm
- 6:47going
- 6:47to
- 6:47put
- 6:47$5
- 6:48in
- 6:48my
- 6:49personal
- 6:49care
- 6:49or
- 6:50my
- 6:50personal
- 6:50joy
- 6:50account.
- 6:51If
- 6:52you've
- 6:52got
- 6:52more
- 6:52money,
- 6:53maybe
- 6:53$25
- 6:54a
- 6:54week
- 6:54or
- 6:54maybe
- 6:55each
- 6:55paycheck,
- 6:56you
- 6:56do
- 6:56that.
- 6:57Because
- 6:57when
- 6:58it's
- 6:58planned,
- 6:59when
- 6:59you've
- 7:00really
- 7:00laid
- 7:00it
- 7:00out,
- 7:00that's
- 7:01not
- 7:01rebellion
- 7:01anymore.
- 7:03That's
- 7:03stewardship.
- 7:05And
- 7:05if
- 7:05you
- 7:06find
- 7:06yourself
- 7:06in
- 7:07this
- 7:07same
- 7:07situation,
- 7:09ask
- 7:09yourself
- 7:10just
- 7:10one
- 7:11clarifying
- 7:12question
- 7:12before
- 7:13you
- 7:13buy.
- 7:13If
- 7:13you're
- 7:14in
- 7:14the
- 7:14checkout
- 7:14line,
- 7:16you
- 7:16get
- 7:16ready
- 7:16to
- 7:16get
- 7:17up
- 7:17there.
- 7:17You
- 7:17know
- 7:17the
- 7:17lines
- 7:18form,
- 7:18and
- 7:18you've
- 7:18got
- 7:18something
- 7:19in
- 7:19your
- 7:19hand.
- 7:20Just
- 7:20ask
- 7:20yourself
- 7:21this,
- 7:22does
- 7:22this
- 7:23support
- 7:23my
- 7:23responsibilities
- 7:25or
- 7:25sabotage
- 7:26them?
- 7:28Now,
- 7:28sometimes
- 7:29it's
- 7:29not
- 7:29that
- 7:29simple.
- 7:31Let
- 7:31me
- 7:31use
- 7:31that,
- 7:31a
- 7:31great
- 7:32example.
- 7:32If
- 7:32you
- 7:32need
- 7:33shoes,
- 7:34that's
- 7:35supporting
- 7:35you,
- 7:36you
- 7:36got
- 7:36to
- 7:36have
- 7:36shoes
- 7:37to
- 7:37go
- 7:37to
- 7:37work.
- 7:37You
- 7:38got
- 7:38to
- 7:38have
- 7:38shoes
- 7:38to
- 7:38do
- 7:38the
- 7:39things
- 7:39you
- 7:39do.
- 7:40But
- 7:41impulse
- 7:41spending,
- 7:43a
- 7:43lot
- 7:43of
- 7:43times
- 7:43that
- 7:43creates
- 7:44stress.
- 7:45It
- 7:45creates
- 7:45stress
- 7:46immediately
- 7:46and
- 7:46it
- 7:47sure
- 7:47creates
- 7:47stress
- 7:48later
- 7:48on.
- 7:48That,
- 7:49to
- 7:49me,
- 7:49is
- 7:49sabotage.
- 7:51And
- 7:51if
- 7:51you're
- 7:51aiming
- 7:52for
- 7:52peace,
- 7:53don't
- 7:53sabotage
- 7:54yourself.
- 7:54Listen,
- 7:55this
- 7:55isn't
- 7:55about
- 7:55perfection,
- 7:57just
- 7:57peace.
- 7:58Which
- 7:59leads
- 7:59us
- 7:59to
- 7:59this
- 7:59thought
- 8:00you
- 8:00might
- 8:00be
- 8:00feeling
- 8:00this
- 8:00guilt.
- 8:01That's
- 8:01what
- 8:01you
- 8:01said
- 8:01in
- 8:01your
- 8:02question.
- 8:03Replace
- 8:04that
- 8:04guilt
- 8:04with
- 8:05a
- 8:05simple
- 8:05spending
- 8:06rule
- 8:06that
- 8:06you
- 8:06can
- 8:06trust.
- 8:08Here's
- 8:08the
- 8:08way
- 8:08I
- 8:09would
- 8:09define
- 8:09that
- 8:09rule.
- 8:10If
- 8:10it's
- 8:11in
- 8:11the
- 8:11plan,
- 8:12I
- 8:12can
- 8:12spend
- 8:12it
- 8:13with
- 8:13peace.
- 8:14I
- 8:14put
- 8:15it
- 8:15in
- 8:15that
- 8:15joy
- 8:15account.
- 8:16It's
- 8:16in
- 8:16the
- 8:16plan.
- 8:16It's
- 8:17in
- 8:17the
- 8:17spending
- 8:17agreement.
- 8:18I've
- 8:18already
- 8:18said
- 8:18I'm
- 8:19going
- 8:19to
- 8:19do
- 8:19this.
- 8:20We've
- 8:20Talked
- 8:21about
- 8:21this
- 8:21a
- 8:21little
- 8:21bit
- 8:21the
- 8:21other
- 8:22day.
- 8:22If
- 8:22you
- 8:22need
- 8:22to
- 8:22use
- 8:22a
- 8:23cash
- 8:23envelope
- 8:23system
- 8:24for
- 8:24your
- 8:24personal
- 8:25category,
- 8:25if
- 8:26this
- 8:26guilt
- 8:26hits
- 8:26you
- 8:26hard
- 8:27and
- 8:27you're
- 8:27so
- 8:27afraid
- 8:28of
- 8:28putting
- 8:28down
- 8:28that
- 8:29credit
- 8:29card
- 8:29or
- 8:29that
- 8:29debit
- 8:30card
- 8:30or
- 8:30writing
- 8:30that
- 8:30check,
- 8:31put
- 8:31that
- 8:32money
- 8:32aside,
- 8:32each
- 8:33paycheck
- 8:33in
- 8:33an
- 8:34envelope
- 8:34like
- 8:34I
- 8:34did
- 8:34with
- 8:34my
- 8:35grandparents.
- 8:35I
- 8:35told
- 8:35you
- 8:35about
- 8:35this.
- 8:36My
- 8:36grandfather
- 8:36had
- 8:37his
- 8:37fishing
- 8:37envelope.
- 8:39My
- 8:39grandmother
- 8:39knew
- 8:40she
- 8:40was
- 8:40going
- 8:40to
- 8:40put
- 8:40a
- 8:40certain
- 8:41amount
- 8:41in
- 8:42his
- 8:42fishing
- 8:42envelope
- 8:43and
- 8:43he
- 8:43could
- 8:43spend.
- 8:43He
- 8:44didn't
- 8:44worry
- 8:44about
- 8:44it.
- 8:44He
- 8:45didn't
- 8:45worry
- 8:45about,
- 8:45would
- 8:45the
- 8:46light
- 8:46bill
- 8:46get
- 8:46paid,
- 8:47would
- 8:47they
- 8:47have
- 8:47food
- 8:47on
- 8:48the
- 8:48grocery,
- 8:48none
- 8:48of
- 8:49those
- 8:49things.
- 8:50Because
- 8:50when
- 8:50you
- 8:51say
- 8:51yes
- 8:51today,
- 8:52your
- 8:53heart
- 8:53starts
- 8:53to
- 8:53learn
- 8:54safety.
- 8:54And
- 8:54that's
- 8:54really
- 8:54what
- 8:55the
- 8:55key
- 8:55takeaway
- 8:56is.
- 8:56You've
- 8:57got
- 8:57to
- 8:57build
- 8:57that
- 8:57safety
- 8:58into
- 8:59your
- 8:59heart.
- 9:01And
- 9:02finally,
- 9:02this
- 9:03practice
- 9:04receiving.
- 9:05Not
- 9:05proving.
- 9:06A
- 9:07lot
- 9:07of
- 9:07people
- 9:07get
- 9:07stuck
- 9:07on
- 9:08that.
- 9:08They're
- 9:08just.
- 9:08They
- 9:08can't
- 9:09receive
- 9:09something.
- 9:10You
- 9:10ever
- 9:10met
- 9:10somebody
- 9:10like
- 9:11that?
- 9:11Oh,
- 9:11you
- 9:11shouldn't
- 9:12have
- 9:12done
- 9:12that.
- 9:13But
- 9:13you
- 9:14got
- 9:14to
- 9:14practice
- 9:14that.
- 9:16And
- 9:16in
- 9:16a
- 9:16lot
- 9:16of
- 9:17ways,
- 9:17I
- 9:17don't
- 9:17want
- 9:17to
- 9:17speak
- 9:18bad
- 9:18about
- 9:18my
- 9:18mom,
- 9:18but
- 9:19you're
- 9:19not
- 9:19earning
- 9:20rest
- 9:20by
- 9:20suffering.
- 9:21My
- 9:22mom
- 9:22wasn't
- 9:22earning
- 9:23anything
- 9:23from
- 9:23those
- 9:24holy
- 9:24underwear.
- 9:25When
- 9:26I
- 9:26look
- 9:26back
- 9:26at
- 9:26it
- 9:26now,
- 9:27I'm
- 9:27like,
- 9:27that
- 9:27is
- 9:27the
- 9:27silliest
- 9:28thing
- 9:28ever.
- 9:29But
- 9:29it
- 9:29demonstrates
- 9:30today's
- 9:30point.
- 9:31Because
- 9:31when
- 9:32you
- 9:32take
- 9:32care
- 9:32of
- 9:32yourself,
- 9:34when
- 9:34you
- 9:34do
- 9:34what
- 9:35you
- 9:35need
- 9:35to
- 9:35do
- 9:35for
- 9:35you,
- 9:36and
- 9:36I'm
- 9:36not
- 9:36saying
- 9:36being
- 9:36frivolous,
- 9:37but
- 9:37when
- 9:37you
- 9:37do
- 9:37what
- 9:38you
- 9:38need
- 9:38to
- 9:38do
- 9:38for
- 9:39yourself,
- 9:39you
- 9:40show
- 9:40up
- 9:40stronger,
- 9:42you
- 9:42show
- 9:42up
- 9:42more
- 9:43determined.
- 9:43That's
- 9:43not
- 9:43being
- 9:44selfish.
- 9:45That's
- 9:45just
- 9:46being
- 9:46healthy.
- 9:47So
- 9:48I
- 9:48want
- 9:48to
- 9:48encourage
- 9:48you
- 9:48right
- 9:49now.
- 9:49You're
- 9:50allowed
- 9:50to
- 9:50be
- 9:51cared
- 9:51for,
- 9:51too.
- 9:53You're
- 9:53allowed
- 9:54to
- 9:54have
- 9:54joy.
- 9:54You're
- 9:55allowed
- 9:55to
- 9:55have
- 9:55spending
- 9:56on
- 9:56you.
- 9:58You're
- 9:58allowed
- 9:58to
- 9:58have
- 9:59that.
- 9:59It's
- 9:59okay.
- 10:01So
- 10:01here's
- 10:01today's
- 10:02win,
- 10:02your
- 10:02single
- 10:03step
- 10:03takeaway.
- 10:03Today
- 10:04I
- 10:04want
- 10:04to
- 10:04encourage
- 10:04you
- 10:04to
- 10:04do
- 10:05something.
- 10:05It's
- 10:05kind
- 10:05of
- 10:05fun
- 10:06today.
- 10:06I
- 10:07want
- 10:07you
- 10:07to
- 10:07go
- 10:07out
- 10:07there
- 10:07and
- 10:07buy
- 10:08something
- 10:08for
- 10:08yourself
- 10:09today.
- 10:09If
- 10:10you're
- 10:10dealing
- 10:10with
- 10:10this
- 10:10guilt
- 10:11and
- 10:11you're
- 10:11like,
- 10:11oh,
- 10:11man,
- 10:11I
- 10:12don't
- 10:12want
- 10:12to
- 10:12do
- 10:12this.
- 10:12Make
- 10:13sure
- 10:13it
- 10:13fits
- 10:13in
- 10:13your
- 10:13budget.
- 10:14I'm
- 10:14not
- 10:14telling
- 10:14you
- 10:14to
- 10:14go
- 10:14buy
- 10:15the
- 10:15new
- 10:15Corvette.
- 10:15You
- 10:15might
- 10:16love
- 10:16that
- 10:16Corvette.
- 10:17It's
- 10:17not
- 10:17time
- 10:18to
- 10:18go
- 10:18buy
- 10:18a
- 10:18new
- 10:18Corvette.
- 10:19Doesn't
- 10:20have
- 10:20to
- 10:20be
- 10:20expensive.
- 10:21Just
- 10:21spend
- 10:21five
- 10:22or
- 10:22ten
- 10:22dollars
- 10:22on
- 10:23yourself.
- 10:24You
- 10:24deserve
- 10:24it.
- 10:24Go
- 10:25do
- 10:25it.
- 10:25Fits
- 10:25in
- 10:26your
- 10:26budget.
- 10:26Go
- 10:26do
- 10:27it.
- 10:27That's
- 10:27something
- 10:27fun
- 10:27you
- 10:28can
- 10:28do
- 10:28today.
- 10:29Well,
- 10:29let's
- 10:29get
- 10:29to
- 10:29our
- 10:29Bible
- 10:30verse.
- 10:30Today
- 10:30we're
- 10:30going
- 10:30to
- 10:31look
- 10:31at
- 10:31the
- 10:31Book
- 10:31of
- 10:31Mark,
- 10:32chapter
- 10:3212,
- 10:33verse
- 10:3331.
- 10:35And
- 10:35this
- 10:35one
- 10:35is
- 10:36ideal
- 10:37for
- 10:37what
- 10:37we're
- 10:37talking
- 10:37about
- 10:37because
- 10:37it
- 10:38really
- 10:38leans
- 10:38into
- 10:38what
- 10:39we're
- 10:39talking
- 10:39about
- 10:40and
- 10:40it
- 10:40says
- 10:40again,
- 10:40Mark
- 10:4112:31
- 10:42love
- 10:42your
- 10:42neighbor
- 10:43as
- 10:43yourself.
- 10:45See,
- 10:45God
- 10:46assumes
- 10:46that
- 10:46as
- 10:47yourself
- 10:48includes
- 10:49wise
- 10:49self
- 10:50care.
- 10:50God
- 10:51doesn't
- 10:51want
- 10:51you
- 10:52living
- 10:52in
- 10:52this
- 10:53guilt
- 10:53driven
- 10:53neglect.
- 10:55So
- 10:55just
- 10:55lean
- 10:55in
- 10:56that.
- 10:56Say
- 10:56love
- 10:56your
- 10:56neighbor
- 10:57as
- 10:57yourself.
- 10:58God
- 10:59wants
- 10:59you
- 10:59to
- 10:59take
- 10:59care
- 10:59of
- 10:59yourself.
- 11:00How
- 11:01about
- 11:01we
- 11:01pray
- 11:01together,
- 11:02Father?
- 11:03God,
- 11:04you
- 11:04see
- 11:04the
- 11:04guilt
- 11:05that
- 11:05rises
- 11:05when
- 11:05all
- 11:06of
- 11:06us
- 11:06think
- 11:06about
- 11:06spending
- 11:07on
- 11:07ourselves.
- 11:09You
- 11:09see
- 11:09that
- 11:09inner
- 11:10voice
- 11:10that
- 11:10says,
- 11:11you
- 11:11know,
- 11:11you
- 11:12don't
- 11:12have
- 11:12needs.
- 11:12You
- 11:13don't
- 11:13get
- 11:13to
- 11:13have
- 11:13your
- 11:14needs,
- 11:15Lord,
- 11:15I
- 11:15just
- 11:15ask
- 11:16that
- 11:16you
- 11:16were
- 11:16placed
- 11:16at
- 11:17condemnation.
- 11:18That's
- 11:18what
- 11:18we're
- 11:18really
- 11:18talking
- 11:18about.
- 11:19We're
- 11:19not
- 11:19talking
- 11:19about
- 11:19conviction,
- 11:20we're
- 11:20talking
- 11:20about
- 11:21condemnation,
- 11:22Lord,
- 11:22and
- 11:22replace
- 11:23that
- 11:23condemnation
- 11:24with
- 11:24your
- 11:24truth.
- 11:25Give
- 11:25us
- 11:26wisdom
- 11:26to
- 11:26plan.
- 11:27Give
- 11:27us
- 11:28strength
- 11:28to
- 11:28hold
- 11:29those
- 11:29boundaries
- 11:30and
- 11:31the
- 11:31freedom
- 11:31to
- 11:31receive
- 11:32daily
- 11:32care
- 11:32without
- 11:33that
- 11:33shame
- 11:33and
- 11:34guilt.
- 11:35And
- 11:35I
- 11:35ask
- 11:35right
- 11:36now
- 11:36that
- 11:36you
- 11:36help
- 11:36this
- 11:37listener.
- 11:37Spend
- 11:38with
- 11:38peace,
- 11:38Lord.
- 11:39Love
- 11:39their
- 11:40family
- 11:40and
- 11:40also
- 11:41value
- 11:41the
- 11:41life
- 11:41that
- 11:41you've
- 11:42given
- 11:42them.
- 11:43Teach
- 11:43their
- 11:44heart
- 11:44that
- 11:44stewardship
- 11:45is
- 11:45not
- 11:46self
- 11:46punishment
- 11:47and
- 11:48that
- 11:48your
- 11:48love
- 11:48for
- 11:48all
- 11:49of
- 11:49us
- 11:50is
- 11:50never
- 11:51earned
- 11:51by
- 11:52going
- 11:52without.
- 11:53And
- 11:53we
- 11:54ask
- 11:54this
- 11:54in
- 11:54Jesus
- 11:55name.
- 11:56Amen.
- 11:58I
- 11:58want
- 11:58to
- 11:58encourage
- 11:59you
- 11:59right
- 11:59now
- 12:00you
- 12:01can
- 12:01spend
- 12:01with
- 12:01peace
- 12:02when
- 12:03it's
- 12:03playing
- 12:03with
- 12:03wisdom.
- 12:04So
- 12:05go
- 12:05do
- 12:05that
- 12:05today.
- 12:05Go
- 12:05buy
- 12:06something
- 12:06for
- 12:06yourself.
- 12:07And
- 12:08if
- 12:08you've
- 12:08got
- 12:08a
- 12:08question
- 12:08for
- 12:09this
- 12:09show,
- 12:09I
- 12:09would
- 12:09love
- 12:10to
- 12:10answer
- 12:10it
- 12:10on
- 12:10the
- 12:10show.
- 12:11This
- 12:11is
- 12:11what
- 12:12really
- 12:12feeds
- 12:12my
- 12:13passion
- 12:13for
- 12:13the
- 12:13show.
- 12:14Go
- 12:14to
- 12:14financiallyconfidentchristian.com/question
- 12:18i'm
- 12:18going
- 12:18to
- 12:18give
- 12:18you
- 12:18to
- 12:19you
- 12:19again.
- 12:19It'll
- 12:19also
- 12:19be
- 12:20in
- 12:20the
- 12:20show
- 12:20notes
- 12:21financiallyconfidentchristian.com/question
- 12:26so
- 12:26thank
- 12:26you
- 12:26so
- 12:26much
- 12:27for
- 12:27joining
- 12:27me
- 12:27today.
- 12:28Thank
- 12:28you
- 12:28so
- 12:28much
- 12:28for
- 12:29sending
- 12:29in
- 12:29your
- 12:29questions.
- 12:30I
- 12:30just
- 12:30want
- 12:31to
- 12:31encourage
- 12:31you
- 12:31now
- 12:31to
- 12:31stay
- 12:32financially
- 12:32savvy.
- 12:33God
- 12:33bless
- 12:33you.
- 12:34You
- 12:34have
- 12:34a
- 12:34great
- 12:34day
- 12:35and
- 12:35I'll
- 12:36see
- 12:36you
- 12:36again
- 12:36tomorrow
- 12:36on
- 12:37the
- 12:37show.