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Season 4 - Episode 310 - It’s all about communication! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good Morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermind, set coach, creative strategist.
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  And also happened to be. A farmer.
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  This is my chicken coop and I come out here.
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  Every day to record a podcast to teach distinctions.
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  Possibilities, new ways of thinking and just bring some joy
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  into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. Let's talk about how we
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  communicate overall. So communication is a complex
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  subject to go through because it we want to believe it's like
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  words and it's simple, but it's way beyond words.
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  It's yes, including words, but it's how you say the words.
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  It's the energy and the inflection that go into it.
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  It's the tonality, it's the the accentuation of it.
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  It's also a lot about body language and how it's delivered.
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  So I can say a phrase to somebody as simple and as lovely
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  as I love you and I can say it, I love you and just sounds like
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  words. Or I can say I love you and then
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  all of a sudden they say, wow, that is really accentuated.
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  I can go I love you and then that really puts the point
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  across. Or I can be like love you and it
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  sounds like I could care less about them.
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  Now look at how those small, little tiny changes in that one
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  example of three words let you see the difference in how that
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  was coming across. I mean, just stop and think
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  about that. So the reason this is important
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  is because so often we as people get caught up in whatever we're
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  doing and we don't actually pause and collect ourselves
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  before words come out of our mouths.
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  And often, especially when I'm doing sessions with couples or
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  with teams, I see this happen where you can actually see
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  someone thinking about their comeback before they actually
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  like let it come out of their mouth.
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  They're formulating it. So they're not, they're not
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  listening. That's the first thing that's an
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  indication of you're not listening.
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  What you're really doing is preparing your answer.
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  You're, you're getting prepped. You're ready to react, but
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  you're not listening fully because the way our brains work,
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  we have plenty of time in that nanosecond to get our answer
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  ready. We don't need to to wait on.
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  We need to formulate something the whole time.
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  We can sit and wait, and we can wait until the person is done
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  and say OK and take a pause. It's OK to let that pause hang
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  out there in the air. Actually, it's it's very healthy
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  to let the paws hang out there in the air because it gives your
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  brain a chance to formulate. It gives you a chance to fully
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  listen and it allows the other person to slow down as well.
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  But why is this so important this time of the year?
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  Well, often this is, you know, everyone loves to say that this
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  is the magical time of the year. Whatever holiday you celebrate,
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  we've got lots of them and they're stacked on top of each
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  other and everybody is tending to be in a pretty decent mood.
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  So lucky us, we could really take advantage of that and say,
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  wow, this is such a great time of the year.
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  I'm going to start, you know, talking to more people,
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  connecting with more people. Now that's the bonus side.
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  The detraction of all of this is the fact that everybody is super
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  busy because typically we're trying to get ready for time
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  off, which would be over the holidays.
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  Typically we're trying to get things in order so that we can
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  enjoy the holiday, whether it's preparing the cooking, buying
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  presents, getting going to parties.
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  So there's a lot of hurry, hurry, hurry, rush, rush, rush.
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  And because of that, people tend to have shorter patience.
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  Now, the closer we get to the holiday that you celebrate, the
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  nicer we tend to be. So you see, the complexities of
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  all of this really tend to pile in and concentrate this time of
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  year. So it is imperative, imperative
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  that you slow your pace down right now.
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  You take a deep breath because rushing doesn't help you get
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  things done quickly. Planning helps you get things
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  done quickly. Being paced helps you get things
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  done quickly. And doing one thing at a time
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  helps you get things done quickly.
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  Not rushing. Rushing is the worst thing that
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  you can do. And you have to wire it into
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  your head right now that I have more than enough time.
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  Keep telling yourself, let the dialogue in your head be I have
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  more than enough time. I have more than enough time
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  because then you don't feel rushed.
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  You actually complete a task when you start it, which is just
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  so annoying because when you're rushing, you don't complete the
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  task and then you have to go back and do the task.
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  And it's just irritating, at least it is to me.
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  So take a moment, pause, plan what you're saying, plan how
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  you're going to do it. Plan your asks of people, plan
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  the way you're going to communicate in the day.
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  Get up and be like, no, I am so on fire.
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  I am connected. And remember, as of yesterday's
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  podcast, you are not doing things alone.
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  You are doing things to get. You are connected.
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  You are a connected being. So if you really believe that,
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  my friends, then you have to show up that way and know you've
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  got support. Even if you can't physically see
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  it, you can feel it. So communication, communication,
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  communication. It's not just about the words,
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  it's how you say, how you deliver your body language, all
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  of it. So own it and make somebody know
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  that when you're talking to them, you matter because you're
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  100% present. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.