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Attitude of Gratitude... · Billy & Lisa in the Morning: The After Show

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  Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hello, it is the After Show. What up, guys?
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  Speaker 1: Justin here.
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  Speaker 2: It is a Monday, December one, after a long Thanksgiving weekend.
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  Speaker 2: December one, Whinnie's birthday. Happy birthday to Winnie. I'll always
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  Speaker 2: remember December first as her birthday. Hope she is doing well.
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  Speaker 2: I haven't spoken to her recently. I know her podcast
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  Speaker 2: dropped today, so shout out to her and happy birthday.
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  Speaker 2: I remember December first, it is her birthday. And then
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  Speaker 2: Gandhi who used to wear a car, and Taylor Swift
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  Speaker 2: have the same birthday. I always mess this up. December
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  Speaker 2: tenth or twelfth, Oh my god, I can't believe it.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's.
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  Speaker 2: December tenth anyway, or twelfth, I don't know. But December birthdays,
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  Speaker 2: and then Billy's birthday, of.
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  Speaker 1: Course is Christmas Eve.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, I'm here. I'm checking in. I had a
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  Speaker 2: great Thanksgiving weekend. I eat a lot of food, I
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  Speaker 2: watched a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Of stranger things. I had fun, I let loose. It
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  Speaker 1: was fantastic.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of family time, which you know isn't always
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  Speaker 2: the most fun when you have children, but you know
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  Speaker 2: you love the little buggers.
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  Speaker 1: We will get turkey toss. We already talked about that.
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  Speaker 2: On Wednesday, and then Thanksgiving we went to my wife's
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  Speaker 2: family's house in bill Ricker, her Auntie Lisa and Uncle Louis.
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  Speaker 2: That was great watching football. My dad came and the
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  Speaker 2: food was amazing. I brought that Ginger Betty's basket that
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  Speaker 2: listener Shannon sent. That was a big hit. And by
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  Speaker 2: the way, the cookies are fantastic. We brought the basket there,
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  Speaker 2: shared some of the cookies, then brought some home and
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  Speaker 2: I still have more at the house which I have
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  Speaker 2: to lay off from. But that was good on Thanksgiving.
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  Speaker 2: On Friday, I worked out in the morning. My gym,
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  Speaker 2: one of my gyms that I go to drive in Salem,
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  Speaker 2: New Hampshire, had a kid's fitness class. I brought my
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  Speaker 2: son there. He got to go around the gym and
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  Speaker 2: you work out a little bit. He's been showing some
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  Speaker 2: interest in working out, so that was good. And then
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  Speaker 2: Friday night we went to the Christmas Lights in Lichfield,
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  Speaker 2: New Hampshire. I didn't even know this place existed. It's
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  Speaker 2: where they have Spooky World every year, which I've been to.
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  Speaker 2: But it's really really cool. It's a it's a mile
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  Speaker 2: walkthrough very very elaborate. It's on the same path that
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  Speaker 2: the hay Ride at Spooky World goes through, you know,
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  Speaker 2: the Haunted hay hay Ride, and you know, they have
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  Speaker 2: a lot of good photo ops and really elaborate Christmas lights.
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  Speaker 2: It was so cold, but it was really good. It
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  Speaker 2: was really it was really fun. I'm glad we went.
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  Speaker 2: I posted a picture on my Instagram of my wife
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  Speaker 2: and I and in one of the places.
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  Speaker 1: But it was good. It was good. And then what
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  Speaker 1: do I do Saturday? Saturday?
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  Speaker 2: My wife took the kids to the parade, so I
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  Speaker 2: got to go to the gym for a while, and
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  Speaker 2: then uh, I had some barbecue Saturday night and Sunday
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  Speaker 2: we just relaxed and chilled out. So it was all
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  Speaker 2: in all a good weekend. You know, we're going into
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  Speaker 2: the holidays. It's it's crazy time here at work, it's
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  Speaker 2: crazy time at home. It's just busy, man, it's busy.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Super grateful, you know, I put I posted that, you know,
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  Speaker 2: set of pictures on Instagram because every Thanksgiving I always
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  Speaker 2: share about this. I used to go to a recovery
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  Speaker 2: meeting every Wednesday before Thanksgiving for years and years and years.
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  Speaker 2: It didn't happen anymore, but it was a tradition that
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  Speaker 2: you know, me and my friends all went to and
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  Speaker 2: I would share that story every single year that you know,
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  Speaker 2: I remember, like many holidays were ruined because of the
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  Speaker 2: stuff that I was doing. A lot of them spent
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  Speaker 2: in jail, a lot of them spent in programs, a
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  Speaker 2: lot of them spent on the street. But like one
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  Speaker 2: Thanksgiving in particular, you know, I had a restraining order
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  Speaker 2: at my house.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't allowed there.
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  Speaker 2: You know, my dad had had tried everything, but I
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  Speaker 2: had you know, stolen and done so much damage that
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  Speaker 2: he had to file like a report, and so I
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  Speaker 2: wasn't allowed by law to go to my house. But
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  Speaker 2: my grandfather I would like, I would go there and
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  Speaker 2: he would sneak me things. He would sneak me money,
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  Speaker 2: or he would sneak me like food or whatever. And
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  Speaker 2: before Thanksgiving, like the day or two before, I think,
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  Speaker 2: he gave me some money and he said, come back
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  Speaker 2: on Thanksgiving and go through the basement and I'll lead
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  Speaker 2: a play. Leave a plate of food at the top
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  Speaker 2: of the stairs. And so that's what I did. I
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  Speaker 2: busted into the basement and I went up and I
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  Speaker 2: collected my plate of food and went downstairs and I
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  Speaker 2: was eating it, and my whole family was upstairs enjoying Thanksgiving.
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  Speaker 2: And you know, in the recovery like literature they talk about,
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  Speaker 2: you know, addiction, you reach animalistic levels. And I felt
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  Speaker 2: like that. I felt like an animal, like I wasn't
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  Speaker 2: allowed upstairs. I'm downstairs in the dungey ass basement eating
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  Speaker 2: my Thanksgiving mail. It was just awful. So I think
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  Speaker 2: about every Thanksgiving and it just makes me, you know,
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  Speaker 2: that much more grateful to be there for my family,
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  Speaker 2: and you know, grateful that I built this life, which
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  Speaker 2: you know, all starts with a day clean.
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  Speaker 1: Man, That's what it starts with. You know.
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  Speaker 2: It's it's a simple, yet it's so effective thing, right,
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  Speaker 2: no matter how long I've been and clean. And this
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  Speaker 2: is for people that are in recovery, or for people
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  Speaker 2: that aren't in recovery that don't really understand it. It's
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  Speaker 2: a one day at a time commitment for life.
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  Speaker 1: Right. It's an incurable disease.
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  Speaker 2: So every day I wake up and I make a
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  Speaker 2: decision of what I want to do, you know, and
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  Speaker 2: there's all these this work that goes into it, you know,
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  Speaker 2: like having people around you that love and support you,
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  Speaker 2: having other people that suffer with the same disease, doing
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  Speaker 2: things like praying or meditating, and writing and reaching out
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  Speaker 2: to people and talking about how you feel. All these
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  Speaker 2: things are all part of the formula to staying clean.
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  Speaker 1: And these are things that I do.
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  Speaker 2: You know, to this day, you know, pretty much all
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  Speaker 2: the people in my life are in recovery. And by
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  Speaker 2: the way, my wife celebrated eighteen years on November twenty seventh,
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  Speaker 2: which was also insane, insane. I remember I we had
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  Speaker 2: just started seeing each other and she relapsed. And you
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  Speaker 2: know the history of our relationship, you know, we go
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  Speaker 2: we met when we were teenagers and there was a
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  Speaker 2: connection there and then we went our separate ways.
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  Speaker 1: And I've told that story before.
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  Speaker 2: But when we reconnected, we had started dating a little
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  Speaker 2: bit and talking to each other, and she had relapsed,
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  Speaker 2: and you know, she came to me and she's.
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  Speaker 1: Like, I need to go get help.
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  Speaker 2: And I dropped her off at Danvers Detox and she
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  Speaker 2: went there for a week, and then I picked her
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  Speaker 2: up after her and brought her home. I remember she
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  Speaker 2: drew these drawings, like these lovey dovey drawings for me
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  Speaker 2: while she was in there, and that was November twenty seventh.
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  Speaker 2: I believe I dropped her off on the day. Maybe
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  Speaker 2: it was the twenty sixth actually, because she might have
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  Speaker 2: used that day eighteen years ago, you know, So that's uh.
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  Speaker 2: She always puts up a really like impactful post on
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  Speaker 2: that because for both of us, for anybody that's in recovery,
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  Speaker 2: you know, from alcoholism or addiction, it's important. You know,
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  Speaker 2: the date's important, and it's important to never forget you
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  Speaker 2: know where you come from and where you can go
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  Speaker 2: back to. You know, I learned that early on, like
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  Speaker 2: in recovery. You know, even when I've stayed clean for
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  Speaker 2: you know, a year, two five years, you know, there
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  Speaker 2: were people that had many, many years, decades clean that
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  Speaker 2: would relapse. You know, people that I look up to.
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  Speaker 2: I'll give you one particular example. There was a gentleman
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  Speaker 2: who helped me so much to get clean. He taught
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  Speaker 2: me so much about adulthood. He was the one that
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  Speaker 2: helped me get a bank account. How you know, he
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  Speaker 2: had gotten clean, he had bought a house, he had
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  Speaker 2: a house, and you know, in the city that I
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  Speaker 2: lived in. He was just a really great guy, soft spoken,
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  Speaker 2: but you could tell he was like a street guy,
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  Speaker 2: but that was, you know, kind of like the old life.
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  Speaker 2: And you know, over time, you know, he kind of
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  Speaker 2: like fell off a little bit and then he relapsed,
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  Speaker 2: and I don't know whatever happened to him, but I
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  Speaker 2: did see him after he relapsed. He got arrested, he
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  Speaker 2: was in jail, and he got out. I'll never forget
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  Speaker 2: the last one. Last time I saw him. He walked
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  Speaker 2: into this recovery meeting that I was in. It was
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  Speaker 2: the middle of winter, and he was homeless, and I'm like, dude,
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  Speaker 2: I'll bring you somewhere right now, like we'll get you
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  Speaker 2: in somewhere. I'll bring you to the hospital, I'll get
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  Speaker 2: you into detox, like you don't have to live on
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  Speaker 2: the street. And just the way that he was talking,
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  Speaker 2: I it was like I didn't know this guy. Like
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  Speaker 2: he was all talking kind of like street when he
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  Speaker 2: wasn't before, you know, drop, it was just insane.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, who is this guy?
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  Speaker 2: And he didn't want the help man, And so I
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  Speaker 2: walked outside with him and I'm like pleading with him.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, bro, come on, like let's go, like get
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  Speaker 2: in the you don't have to do this. Anymore like
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  Speaker 2: I'll help you. I'll be there for you. You were
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  Speaker 2: there for me and the power of this disease.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 2: He walked away, He said, now I'm good, and he
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  Speaker 2: walked away with his fucking little bag into the cold.
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  Speaker 2: It was probably about ten degrees and he had no
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  Speaker 2: place to go. Just really heartbreaking, heartbreaking stuff. But it
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  Speaker 2: makes me grateful.
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  Speaker 1: It makes me.
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  Speaker 2: Grateful that I got it, and then I continued to
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  Speaker 2: get it one day at a time, and and I
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  Speaker 2: get to enjoy these Thanksgiving holidays my family. It's it's
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  Speaker 2: it's really uh, it's really special. So I hope it
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  Speaker 2: was great for all of you. I hope you enjoyed.
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  Speaker 2: You can always join the after show. You can leave
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  Speaker 2: a talk back about anything that I share about I'm
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  Speaker 2: always talking about different things. You can leave a talk
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  Speaker 2: back and I will get to it later on. Obviously
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  Speaker 2: it's not live.
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  Speaker 1: Justin I am listening to the after show. It's Wednesday,
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  Speaker 1: and I cannot believe you've only seen one toy story.
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  Speaker 1: Please please please watch that with your kids. That it
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  Speaker 1: is so great.
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  Speaker 2: It's it's so great. Think number three is probably my favorite,
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  Speaker 2: but it's really really great. I don't know, maybe you
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  Speaker 2: have a different feeling now that you have kids and
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  Speaker 2: your son's overstaf. I'll watch it with Gemma. I think
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  Speaker 2: I've only seen one. She's getting to the age where
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  Speaker 2: she's starting to watch shows. I know she watches the
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  Speaker 2: K Pop Demon Hunters a little bit, but she likes
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  Speaker 2: just the music more. But she's getting to that age
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  Speaker 2: where she is gonna watch movies. So obviously Stranger Things.
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  Speaker 2: I loved. My son and I watched it. We turned
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  Speaker 2: it on eight o'clock on Wednesday, waited all day for it.
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  Speaker 2: Netflix crash took like thirty minutes to get it to
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  Speaker 2: work again, which was insane. But love, love, love love,
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  Speaker 2: love the new season, Love the four episodes, love the
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  Speaker 2: twists at the end, all the everything.
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  Speaker 1: I mean.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to give anything away, but it's just
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  Speaker 2: a fantastic show. So we're looking forward to Christmas. I'm
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  Speaker 2: sure my son will watch these ones over and over again.
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  Speaker 2: But anyway, I'm back this week. Nurse Fiona is coming
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  Speaker 2: in on Thursday. I'm going to see her tomorrow, so
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  Speaker 2: we should do this with Whinnie was here because Winnie
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  Speaker 2: and I both work with Nurse Fiona. Winnie more so
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  Speaker 2: because she did all like the you know stuff, other
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  Speaker 2: stuff I did, laser hair removal. I got some bowtox
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  Speaker 2: from her. But I'm going tomorrow hopefully with the weather
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  Speaker 2: with my wife, We're gonna do like a couple's day there.
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  Speaker 2: It's actually really cool. So she'll be in on Thursday.
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  Speaker 2: So if you have any questions for Nurse Fiona, anything MEDSPA,
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  Speaker 2: weight loss.
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  Speaker 1: That's a big, big topic.
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  Speaker 2: That's a big thing that people are talking about, is
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  Speaker 2: you know the weight loss that program she offers, botox,
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  Speaker 2: laser hair removal, and on all the facial stuff that
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  Speaker 2: I really don't understand. So if you could please help
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  Speaker 2: me out and leave it talk back with a question
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  Speaker 2: about the facials because I don't understand them at all.
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  Speaker 2: Hydro facials, I don't understand that stuff.
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  Speaker 1: But love Nurse Fiona.
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  Speaker 2: She'll be in on Thursday, so get your talkbacks in
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  Speaker 2: and we'll talk before that though tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: I peace