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WHY ARE WOMENS FRIENDSHIPS BETTER THEN MENS? · Relatables

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Speaker 1: Coming up relatables.
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Speaker 2: That's the issue. I have one that says girl friendships
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Speaker 2: hold one another accountable.
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Speaker 1: Yes they do.
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Speaker 2: Men do not hold each other accountable.
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Speaker 1: Relatable.
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Speaker 2: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka Daddy,
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Speaker 2: and my partner in crime, Addie Clark aka Mummy. And
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Speaker 2: he is Mummy because he's the one you go to
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Speaker 2: when you want to talk about your feelings.
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Speaker 1: And Jake is Daddy because he's hairy.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the young I haven't had that one yet.
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Speaker 1: And you guys listening other baddies, and.
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Speaker 2: You guys are the baddies. I was been thinking every
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Speaker 2: time I say Oddie is Mummy because he's the one
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Speaker 2: you go to when you want to talking about your feelings.
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Speaker 2: I was thinking, we've got to break the norm.
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Speaker 1: Break the norm. We've got to break the in a
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Speaker 1: sense of mend stereotype talking about their feelings.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you wouldn't often go to your.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's also because not only are they bad
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Speaker 1: are talking about their feelings, they're also just like not
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Speaker 1: very approachable sometimes and they don't ask. Yeah, they don't
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Speaker 1: ask mums. But we can change that. Mums want to
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Speaker 1: when we're fathers. Yeah, mums want the goss.
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Speaker 2: We got to change.
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Speaker 1: They want to tea Yeah, I think so.
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Speaker 2: I think mums always want all the info. But welcome
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Speaker 2: in to all the bodies and big welcome to all
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Speaker 2: the new badies if you.
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Speaker 1: Know, yeah, all the new ones. We want to say
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Speaker 1: that you are old, you're welcome.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, of course, of course. But straight up we're gonna
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Speaker 2: do I g question.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's kick things off of a bang ag.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. We thought maybe anyone that's new might not want
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Speaker 2: to just like tinker around and get bored and see
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Speaker 2: what we're about. Straight away, we're gonna heat with what
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Speaker 2: we do every week is an ig question.
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Speaker 1: It's kind of like we're going straight to the main
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Speaker 1: and then we're coming back for an entree.
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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, and who doesn't. Here's my
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Speaker 2: argument is the entree is the best part of the meal,
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Speaker 2: so you may as well get it over and done, like,
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Speaker 2: get the bad stuff over and done with. Right. I'm
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Speaker 2: not saying that what we're about to do is bad,
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Speaker 2: but you know, get the main out of the way,
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Speaker 2: because everyone's so happy when the entrees.
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Speaker 1: It's because you're still hungry after and you're looking forward
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Speaker 1: to more.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, are you happy when the entres come because
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Speaker 2: you're hungry? This is gonna ever so slightly curb that
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Speaker 2: or what's it called herba craving? And then and then me,
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Speaker 2: So maybe entre should always be at star?
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Speaker 1: Is this diminishing the I don't know what the vibe
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Speaker 1: of this podcast is. By putting the main first.
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Speaker 2: We'll let the badies be the judge of that, judge
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Speaker 2: of that. But the question this week was what have
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Speaker 2: you seen girl friendships do really well that boy friendships don't?
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Speaker 2: Kind of different it is, it's a different question that
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Speaker 2: than we would normally ask because these are kind of conversation.
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Speaker 1: Starts, very talkative. Yeah, you kick things off.
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Speaker 2: Okay, I tried to choose some talkative ones, but I
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Speaker 2: also tried to choose them I guess not so talkative.
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Speaker 2: So what have you seen girlfriendships do really well that
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Speaker 2: boyfriendships don't? Trips to the bathroom together? What's so fun
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Speaker 2: about the girls bathroom? Yeah? What's so fun about the
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Speaker 2: girl's bathroom? And are you making the girl's bathroom the
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Speaker 2: fun place because we're not allowed in there?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's interesting too, because how men view bathrooms is
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Speaker 1: the worst thing you could possibly do is like, I
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Speaker 1: don't know, look at someone while they're taking a piss.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a very common. Uh what's it called? The
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Speaker 2: etiquette in men's bathroom is if there's three urinals and
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Speaker 2: a stall with a toilet, if the two if you
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Speaker 2: go in there and there's all urinals are free, you
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Speaker 2: go to the outside one. Someone else comes in, they
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Speaker 2: go to the they leave the middle one. If a
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Speaker 2: third person comes into, we they don't. It's rude to
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Speaker 2: go into the very middle one. They will use the
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Speaker 2: stall ifs and if it's not open, you wait, you wait,
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Speaker 2: you have to, you have to. It's etiquette.
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Speaker 1: But girls two people in the store, I mean, men
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Speaker 1: just don't do it. Blessing and a curse though, because
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Speaker 1: having a urinal much quicker? Yeah?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, But is the men's bathroom quicker because of urinals
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Speaker 2: and we stand in there or is it quicker because
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Speaker 2: we're alone?
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Speaker 1: I don't know. It's a good point. I think it's
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Speaker 1: a combination of both.
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Speaker 2: I think to get because there's always lines at like
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Speaker 2: the airport and stuff, and I don't think there's two
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Speaker 2: girls going in there just having a chat.
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Speaker 1: Okay, what have you seen girl friendships do really well
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Speaker 1: that guy friendships don't. They meet up for things not
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Speaker 1: involving alcohol. Yeah, the half truth, the harsh truth of that.
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Speaker 1: Right now, Yeah, we're realizing.
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Speaker 2: I would say, I'm trying to think it's almost I'm
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Speaker 2: kind of jealous that. So I've said before that I
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Speaker 2: don't dislike the fact that men kind of need a
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Speaker 2: reason to meet up, like you and I doing this
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Speaker 2: podcast or going to play golf, you know, doing an
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Speaker 2: activity while talking. And but I will say I am
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Speaker 2: quite jealous that girls will just hang out to hang out,
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Speaker 2: you know, just come over, have a sleepover. Maybe I
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Speaker 2: don't know, just like literally hang out to hang out.
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Speaker 2: Like best's friends will come to our place for dinner
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Speaker 2: for no reason apart from the fact that they're just friends,
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Speaker 2: which is like, makes the most sense ever. But guys
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Speaker 2: just don't do that.
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Speaker 1: It's funny too. I was having a conversation with one
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Speaker 1: of our mates recently, and our thing is going for
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Speaker 1: a swim. Yep, and to us, that's super normal, just
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Speaker 1: going for a swim, chilling at the beach. I suppose
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Speaker 1: it's a little bit of an activity, but that's our thing.
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Speaker 1: And he said to me, the other. He's just like,
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Speaker 1: it's funny that I couldn't do this with a lot
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Speaker 1: of ourtherum mates. If I said to him, you want
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Speaker 1: to go for a swim, they'd be like, what the fuck?
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Speaker 1: What do you mean?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know it's funny, is it. Imagine if you
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Speaker 2: went one step further and this friend you go on
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Speaker 2: swims with, instead of saying you want to come go
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Speaker 2: for a swim, he said, you just want to come
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Speaker 2: over to my house for like twenty minutes. You'd be like,
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Speaker 2: you probably be thinking like, what the fuck?
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Speaker 1: We don't do that.
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Speaker 2: But at the same time, it's like he just is
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Speaker 2: a friend that just wants you to come over and
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Speaker 2: hang out for a bit. He doesn't feel like swimming today.
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Speaker 1: A good thing for men to think about and maybe
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Speaker 1: reassess their friendship groups is could you hang out one
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Speaker 1: on one with all of them without an activity or
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Speaker 1: a very very minimal activity just a walk.
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Speaker 3: Damn yeah, I walk a swim where it's very sure
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Speaker 3: it's not really an activity because I'll throw and you
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Speaker 3: can do a little thing here or there, just puss
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Speaker 3: things up because it's something you actually want to do,
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Speaker 3: because sometimes you don't just want to Sitalad.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, do you think men are kind of maybe naturally
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Speaker 2: like keep what's this?
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Speaker 1: I think they can't hold a conversation, is it? Yeah?
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Speaker 2: Do you think it's that that?
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Speaker 1: I don't think they can hold a conversation about something
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Speaker 1: going on in the background.
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Speaker 2: But it's funny, Like, so tonight I'm staying at your house,
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Speaker 2: and I'm staying at your house because we're recording three
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Speaker 2: days back to back, right, and we're kind of spread
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Speaker 2: it out a bit, so we stay chill and we
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Speaker 2: don't like force anything. But so like tonight you and
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Speaker 2: I could or we most likely will have dinner whatever
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Speaker 2: and then like both just sit down on your lounge
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Speaker 2: and like watch something and we won't care about that.
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Speaker 2: But if it wasn't because we had to do the
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Speaker 2: podcast back to back to back, we wouldn't do it.
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Speaker 1: No, it's funny.
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Speaker 2: It's funny because we would be like I just want
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Speaker 2: to be at hot Yeah, But at the same time,
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Speaker 2: it's like we can do it, isn't that interesting? I think,
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Speaker 2: you know, I think men actually can do it. I'm
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Speaker 2: thinking of friends I can do it with, and I
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Speaker 2: actually think there's friends that.
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Speaker 1: I could do it.
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Speaker 2: I actually don't have an answer to that question. I
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Speaker 2: don't want to. I think it's because I don't want to.
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Speaker 1: I'm thinking I could do it with other people. I
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Speaker 1: think we're also out of the norm in the sense
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Speaker 1: of our relationship business partners, yeah, lovers, mothers and fathers, yeah,
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Speaker 1: but thinking about our other mates, like I could definitely
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Speaker 1: do it. I guess there's a line of I don't
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Speaker 1: want to do it, but also I think there would
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Speaker 1: be a little awkward line we would have to cross,
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Speaker 1: and that's maybe deterring me from wanting to do it.
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Speaker 2: Do you think it makes the relationship more of a
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Speaker 2: like maybe not using you and I for example, because
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Speaker 2: I would say we have a relationship that isn't that
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Speaker 2: is an actual relationship and more so than maybe most
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Speaker 2: men relationships. Because we spoke about how GOL relationships are
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Speaker 2: relationships and that's why if there's a falling out, it's
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Speaker 2: a falling out, and men just like don't have actual
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Speaker 2: relationships because they don't want to give the time and
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Speaker 2: effort to like have a falling out. So do you
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Speaker 2: think the reason we don't do that is because it
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Speaker 2: does break down that barrier and it makes you like
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Speaker 2: emotionally closer to that person or something. Isn't that like
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Speaker 2: a way to live?
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Speaker 1: I'm thinking about it too, because men mostly hang out
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Speaker 1: when they're drinking or when they're hungover hungover, and a
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Speaker 1: sense of that emotional connection is blocked with both reasons,
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Speaker 1: because when you're drunk, you're like, oh, it's talking. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: when you're hungover, you just don't have the mental capacity
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Speaker 1: to have those thoughts. So there's a mental block area
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Speaker 1: and you just need someone there beare just then. And
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Speaker 1: there are two times men hang out the most, drunk
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Speaker 1: or hungover. It's interesting. What about how do you think
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Speaker 1: you haven't drunk formost two years? Over two years? Two years?
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Speaker 2: No, it's it's just over two years, it's like bang
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Speaker 2: on two years.
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Speaker 1: How do you think that's affected your relationships purely out
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Speaker 1: of drinking early not drinking?
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Speaker 2: Well, I would say that it's affected my relationships in
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Speaker 2: a way that I don't actually have any same. It's
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Speaker 2: weird ey, I've gained Oh no, Harry, I've gained Harry
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Speaker 2: losing greens.
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Speaker 1: We gained him together.
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Speaker 2: He lives in Melbourne though it doesn't help, And then
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Speaker 2: I have also gained justin.
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Speaker 1: Is he real.
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Speaker 2: Is he real is the imaginary? Here's the thing with
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Speaker 2: Justin is I quite like him? We get along very well,
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Speaker 2: but like in terms of hanging out one on one,
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Speaker 2: like Justin and I only activity, like purely activity, Like
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Speaker 2: I wouldn't not want to invite him into my house
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Speaker 2: to just like hang out for a bit longer. But
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Speaker 2: there is something stopping me. It's interesting, and I know
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Speaker 2: for a fact he wouldn't feel comfortable to invite, like
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Speaker 2: he would probably think it's embarrassing.
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Speaker 1: I don't.
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Speaker 2: I can't speak for him, but I feel as though
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Speaker 2: he would think it's embarrassing to ask me to just
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Speaker 2: come and hang out in his house.
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Speaker 1: Going back to my childhood, every kid had sleepovers, right, yeah.
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Speaker 1: I always remember having sleepovers, and when they were at
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Speaker 1: my house, there came at point in time where I
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Speaker 1: was like, get the fuck out of my house.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah yeah. And I feel like if I've had
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Speaker 1: a party before when we're like twenty and there was
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Speaker 1: a point in the night where I was like, everyone
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Speaker 1: get the fuck out of my house.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I I that's funny. I remember that. I remember
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Speaker 2: that party, and I remember being like, I don't think
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Speaker 2: I drank that night.
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Speaker 1: No, you left early.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I left early and my girlfriend didn't want to
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Speaker 2: leave anything, and I was like, well I'm leaving. I
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Speaker 2: remember just leaving and everyone was maggott and I was like, yeah,
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Speaker 2: this is like if I stay here, I'm going to drink.
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Speaker 1: And I said I wouldn't.
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Speaker 2: But you know it's weird, isn't it.
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Speaker 1: It's weird. It's weird the effects of alcohol too, because
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Speaker 1: we didn't used to need that. We used to just
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Speaker 1: hang out and play. It supposed to be feels the activity. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: it's interesting how it's affect kids.
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Speaker 2: I'm trying to think. I had a lot of one
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Speaker 2: on one sleepovers with friends and you would go there
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Speaker 2: and you were just hanging out innocently as it's maybe
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Speaker 2: they're like there wasn't It was still I guess surface
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Speaker 2: level from because like from a young age, I can't
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Speaker 2: speak for women, but from a young age, I'm I'm
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Speaker 2: very sure like young girl relationships become quite emotional, I
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Speaker 2: think from a young age, and like boys like, what's.
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Speaker 1: The opposite of emotional? That's what we got.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, what is the opposite of emotion? Because we just
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Speaker 2: like talk shit is nonchalant, the opposite of emotion.
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Speaker 1: I don't know what the opposite is. Look it up.
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Speaker 2: I might quickly ask chachipt what the opposite of emotion is,
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Speaker 2: so it'd be a cool thing to know what is.
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Speaker 2: There's no single official opposite of emotion, but depending on
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Speaker 2: the context, it could be rationality slash logic old detachment. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: that's a good one, so stoicism slash attachment, I think.
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Speaker 2: And indifference is another good word, feeling indifferent towards something
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Speaker 2: or detached.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, men are detached. Yeah, we are very detached.
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Speaker 2: Interesting fuck, interesting conversation. Okay, what have you seen girl
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Speaker 2: friendships do really well that boyfriendships don't. Oh my god,
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Speaker 2: this is they treat it more like a significant other
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Speaker 2: versus guys who treat it differently. That's just what we
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Speaker 2: we just spoke about it at for like ten minutes.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, differently is the word to put it, because also
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Speaker 1: no one really knows how their male friendship groups are.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, like, guys treat the two of them differently. Sorry
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Speaker 2: I should say, yeah, I think that's what it said,
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Speaker 2: is like, yeah, guys treat a friendship as a friendship
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Speaker 2: and then a relationship as a like a significant other.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would even put the liner's acquaintances, I wouldn't
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Speaker 1: even call it a friendship most of them, I would
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Speaker 1: have to agree, do you think it is? But it's not.
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Speaker 1: It's hard.
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Speaker 2: It's like you could loosely throw the word friend around
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Speaker 2: anything to be completely honest, Like, but I guess it's
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Speaker 2: what your definition of a friend is. Like, I wouldn't
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Speaker 2: be unhappy or I wouldn't judge if someone would to
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Speaker 2: say they had because like using the word friendship makes
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Speaker 2: you feel less lonely.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I get a sense, like.
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Speaker 2: Imagine if someone goes like, how do you go socially
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Speaker 2: and you're like, I'm acquainted with a lot of people. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: other than that, I'm alone, and I'd be like, I
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Speaker 2: be thinking, like I should think about this more positive.
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Speaker 1: I actually had a little bit of a realization this
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Speaker 1: weekend was it was the first time I wanted to
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Speaker 1: We've had like a pretty big year in the sense
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Speaker 1: of grinding the pod.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I had a little itch where I wanted
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Speaker 1: to celebrate not necessarily get drunk, but I could have
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Speaker 1: a beer or two or something like that. It's been
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Speaker 1: almost a year since I drank, and I'm not only
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Speaker 1: sort of reason for not drinking. It's just because you
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Speaker 1: see it in my life that much you have. I
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Speaker 1: had a bit of an inkling to go for a
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Speaker 1: bee of be mates, message a couple of them, and
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Speaker 1: I only had like two or three I could message
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Speaker 1: and I was like, no, they're all busy, and I
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Speaker 1: was like, fuck, I don't have any mates.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. Like, if you think about it back when we
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Speaker 2: were younger, yeah, there was just always so many options.
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Speaker 2: There's people you just grow so far apart from that,
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Speaker 2: you're like, I didn't want to have a bet with them,
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Speaker 2: you don't want to have a beer with them.
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Speaker 1: Okay, what have you seen girl friendships do really well
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Speaker 1: that Guy friendships don't actually sharing meaningful moments where they
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Speaker 1: need support slash help.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, shit, guys won't bring that up.
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Speaker 1: No, they don't talk about the highs the lows. They
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Speaker 1: talk about the mundane, the meddle. Yeah, they talk about nothing.
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Speaker 2: Like I think you could probably script nine of he
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Speaker 2: could male friendship conversations in all honesty, whereas with a
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Speaker 2: two women in a friendship you could maybe one percent
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Speaker 2: of the time scripted, which is like a fucking pretty
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Speaker 2: crazy thing to think about, which is it's also like
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Speaker 2: I don't want to say the word unique. It's like
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Speaker 2: a special thing, a positive thing.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. And I think the three male friendships I've maintained,
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Speaker 1: I've been able to break that middle level and talk
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Speaker 1: about something that's troubling us, whether that be breakups, something
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Speaker 1: going wrong in our families, and it's you and two
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Speaker 1: other people, and have been able to maintain those relationships
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Speaker 1: because of that, and all the other ones I never
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Speaker 1: had those conversations with and now they're gone.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And you know what's funny is like it's one step.
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Speaker 2: So we are more like we can talk about stuff
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Speaker 2: that's challenging us or we're struggling with but when we're
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Speaker 2: having a very happy, happy moment and we want to
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Speaker 2: share the happiness, yeah, we don't. We don't really do that.
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Speaker 3: No.
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Speaker 2: It's like, you know, you could ask maybe someone just
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Speaker 2: like got a new job or something like a guy
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Speaker 2: friend isn't going to come and be like, oh I
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Speaker 2: just got this new job and like share good news.
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Speaker 1: And we don't share good news. No, we don't.
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Speaker 2: I Like, I'm sick of instead of feeling sorry for ourselves,
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Speaker 2: we should start talking about how good it would be
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Speaker 2: to share good news, right.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I think the first step to getting better
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Speaker 1: or changing the norm is to talk about it.
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Speaker 2: Yeah and ah, what's something good that's happened to you lately?
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Speaker 1: Oh shit, what is something good? Okay? Actually, I've been
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Speaker 1: feeling better after being sick after BALI my health for real. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I'm happy for you and she's coming back. I'm like,
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Speaker 1: let's go, what about you?
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Speaker 2: I have been feeling good since my celiac diagnosis.
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Speaker 1: That's good.
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Speaker 2: Same thing Tommy wise. Yeah, no, yeah, I've been feeling
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Speaker 2: Yeah after that, I've been eaten. Just like strict cilia
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Speaker 2: can feel good.
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Speaker 1: Where do I go from here?
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Speaker 2: The moment's been and the moment is allowed to go.
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Speaker 2: We're allowed to let the moment come and go.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, what have you seen?
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Speaker 2: Girlfriendships do really well that boyfriendships don't into great partners
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Speaker 2: into the friendship group.
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Speaker 1: Oh shit, I'm bad at that. See, men don't do that.
17:58
Speaker 2: Reason being is we see a partner as a partner
18:01
Speaker 2: like a significant other, and we see a friend as
18:04
Speaker 2: a friend, so like surface level friend.
18:07
Speaker 1: That's how we see it.
18:08
Speaker 2: Even though we like, you know, I want to say
18:10
Speaker 2: we have good friendships and stuff, but like it's been said,
18:13
Speaker 2: women see both things as a relationship and that's why
18:18
Speaker 2: they like want to share that connection. They in a
18:24
Speaker 2: great way. They integrated all way better.
18:26
Speaker 1: And thinking about it too, when we were like fucking
18:28
Speaker 1: eighteen nineteen and anyone who had a partner in our
18:32
Speaker 1: group if they wanted to bring them to a dinner, but.
18:35
Speaker 2: Toxic as it's just for the boys. We like, we're
18:38
Speaker 2: toxic as.
18:39
Speaker 1: About it, and then we serogate them from the group
18:41
Speaker 1: and make their partner feel bad left out, like an.
18:45
Speaker 2: Yeah, and like you're making your friend feel like shit
18:47
Speaker 2: because they want to bring their girlfriend and everyone's like, no, no,
18:50
Speaker 2: this is for the boys. Saturdays for the boys. And
18:53
Speaker 2: then as the friend who has the girlfriend, you think,
18:59
Speaker 2: like you even think about it this way, Like let's
19:00
Speaker 2: say you're single at one point, another friend just wanted
19:03
Speaker 2: to bring a girlfriend and maybe you you don't have
19:05
Speaker 2: an opinion on it. You're like, yeah, whatever, I'm in different,
19:07
Speaker 2: like bring her, of course I want to meet her.
19:08
Speaker 2: But then all the other boys are saying no, so
19:10
Speaker 2: you're kind of like, yeah, yeah, nah, nah, don't bring
19:13
Speaker 2: boys and stuff.
19:13
Speaker 1: I have a really good one. Where is it?
19:16
Speaker 2: Okay?
19:17
Speaker 1: What what have you seen girl friendships do? Really well,
19:19
Speaker 1: the guy friendships don't telling your friends when they are
19:22
Speaker 1: wrong out of line instead of just yes, manning or
19:25
Speaker 1: observantly or quietly observing.
19:28
Speaker 2: That's the issue. Yeah, I have one that says girl
19:31
Speaker 2: friendships hold one another accountable.
19:34
Speaker 1: Yes they do.
19:35
Speaker 2: Men do not hold each other accountable.
19:37
Speaker 1: Men in accountability isn't a thing.
19:40
Speaker 2: It's not in the vocab.
19:41
Speaker 1: Yeah, fucking hell in that frontal lobe developer never develops.
19:45
Speaker 2: Like we spoke about last week, how we think. I
19:49
Speaker 2: think it was in a page. It's actually in Patreon
19:51
Speaker 2: that we did. He's a green flag, but so he's
19:56
Speaker 2: someone said he's a green flag but his friends aren't.
20:00
Speaker 2: And we were talking about how in hindsight, like thinking back,
20:06
Speaker 2: it's like a shitty thing to feel and admit, but
20:09
Speaker 2: at the same time as like hopefully we've grown. Like
20:12
Speaker 2: I would say that our friendship group back in the
20:15
Speaker 2: day as a group was pretty red flag. I think
20:20
Speaker 2: one on one, each one actually was alright, some maybe not,
20:23
Speaker 2: I don't know, you don't know. Like again, it was
20:25
Speaker 2: all pretty serviceful. So you don't actually know the in
20:27
Speaker 2: neds of someone that you were friends with quote unquote
20:29
Speaker 2: best friends with, but the ins literally, but um, what
20:41
Speaker 2: was I talking about? Oh? No, So like I think
20:45
Speaker 2: like as a there is friends I can think of that.
20:48
Speaker 2: I do think one on one they would be, but
20:51
Speaker 2: then in the group they're not. And I do think
20:53
Speaker 2: that makes us red flags that we would let ourselves
20:56
Speaker 2: be part of a group like that. And so I
21:00
Speaker 2: don't know, it's fucking it's tough. How do we get
21:04
Speaker 2: out here? Like saying people need to hold each other accountable.
21:06
Speaker 1: I've definitely gotten better in a sense of the problem
21:09
Speaker 1: is how men view women, and it's these little slurs
21:14
Speaker 1: or they're going on a date and what they want
21:16
Speaker 1: out of the day, or they're just saying these little
21:18
Speaker 1: things that will add up, and it's how they view
21:21
Speaker 1: women or what they get out of it. Let their alone,
21:23
Speaker 1: that be sex or how they're treating them or something
21:25
Speaker 1: like that. Initially, even though it's completely wrong, men think,
21:28
Speaker 1: oh it's not that, but dad, I'm not going to
21:29
Speaker 1: say anything. But that's where you should say, hey, yeah,
21:33
Speaker 1: you shouldn't just be looking to have sex with her.
21:35
Speaker 1: She probably really likes you. You should go into that,
21:37
Speaker 1: or tell her to be honest and open from the
21:39
Speaker 1: start that that's what you want, or don't lead her on.
21:42
Speaker 1: And I've been getting better at saying that because some
21:43
Speaker 1: friends still do it here and then I say, and
21:45
Speaker 1: I still do it in a joking way. I don't
21:47
Speaker 1: have the balls to say it outright. I'm scared of confrontation,
21:50
Speaker 1: but they do it in a joking way where I'm
21:52
Speaker 1: like kind of protecting myself, which is wrong.
21:57
Speaker 2: To be fair, the first step is to understand that
21:59
Speaker 2: that's wrong, and then hopefully in the next situation, like
22:02
Speaker 2: you know, instead of being like fuck, like you know,
22:06
Speaker 2: what's this convernation going to do to me, have the confrontation. Okay,
22:09
Speaker 2: On the topic of confrontation, Beth, actually great news to everyone.
22:15
Speaker 2: My girlfriend quit a job.
22:16
Speaker 1: I saw that. Though we're going to talk about congratulations, I've.
22:19
Speaker 2: Been having been before, say what I've been trying, exciting,
22:22
Speaker 2: long time coming. But so she quit a job the
22:25
Speaker 2: other day. The night before she was talking about it
22:27
Speaker 2: with like me, her mum and sister, are dad and
22:30
Speaker 2: so we were all very on board, supported her. And
22:33
Speaker 2: then the next day she said she's doing it. She
22:34
Speaker 2: calls me, She's like, I did it. I was like, fuck, yes.
22:37
Speaker 2: So I went and bought her to buy chocolate and
22:40
Speaker 2: some flowers, just like from IgA, like cheap, the thought,
22:44
Speaker 2: and I just wanted to give her a look congrats,
22:46
Speaker 2: you know, and the flowers from IgA and the d
22:49
Speaker 2: buy chocolate. I had to go to the chemist for right,
22:52
Speaker 2: And I'm in the chemist and there's a fella in
22:55
Speaker 2: the working in the chemist and I have flowers and
22:58
Speaker 2: he hears me buying to buy chocolate and you guys
23:00
Speaker 2: or someone's in trouble, and you know what was insane
23:03
Speaker 2: in my head. I didn't say anything. What I wanted
23:06
Speaker 2: to say was like, nah, I just love my girlfriend.
23:08
Speaker 2: But at the same time, I was thinking, like I've
23:11
Speaker 2: seen videos of men talking about that happening to them,
23:14
Speaker 2: but it's never actually happened to me, like I was.
23:20
Speaker 2: I'm like so mad at myself for not just being
23:22
Speaker 2: like you know, oh no, like just like fuck, it
23:25
Speaker 2: make the situation awkward. Like if I could go back,
23:28
Speaker 2: I would make the situation awkward and be like, actually, no,
23:30
Speaker 2: I'd just love my girlfriend. It's a celebration and just
23:33
Speaker 2: like straight face, it's like, I'm so upset that I
23:36
Speaker 2: didn't do that. But yeah, I couldn't believe he said it.
23:40
Speaker 2: I was like, I didn't say ye for example, like
23:43
Speaker 2: I didn't I just didn't say anything. But again, I
23:46
Speaker 2: wish I like confronted him.
23:47
Speaker 1: Was just that, and that's what does do because they
23:50
Speaker 1: don't know how to deal with confrontation, or because there's
23:54
Speaker 1: that in quotes friendship there you feel like you can't
23:56
Speaker 1: say anything. You know, I wasn't your friend, m dude,
24:00
Speaker 1: what's he gonna do?
24:01
Speaker 2: Fucking hit me? No, and like seriously, it's fucking I
24:05
Speaker 2: don't know. I was like, Wow, I can't believe that
24:07
Speaker 2: just happened.
24:08
Speaker 1: It was kind of like you said the other day,
24:09
Speaker 1: that embarrassment is under explored emotions. Yeah, four men, I
24:13
Speaker 1: think so was confrontation. There's been yeah, probably right, plenty
24:17
Speaker 1: of times where Cassie, my girlfriend's a really good at
24:19
Speaker 1: confrontation and it makes me terribly uncomfortable. But I do
24:24
Speaker 1: think sometimes yeah, there's not a time in a place,
24:27
Speaker 1: so they just be the bigger person. But there's definitely
24:29
Speaker 1: a time and a place, so it's hard.
24:32
Speaker 2: It's like there's certain situations where you're right, it's like, yes,
24:35
Speaker 2: confrontation could be needed, and then there's times where it's
24:38
Speaker 2: like are we bored?
24:43
Speaker 1: Okay, dokey, this one I think both genders do. Okay, well,
24:48
Speaker 1: I know they do. What have you seen girlfriendships do
24:50
Speaker 1: really well? The guy friendships don't talk about how hot
24:53
Speaker 1: each other's siblings are.
24:56
Speaker 2: Men do that. Men do that. We can tell you
24:59
Speaker 2: for nice hand men do that usually on a joking level.
25:02
Speaker 1: I actually don't.
25:04
Speaker 2: Maybe until recently. Okay, I don't know anyone that's gone
25:07
Speaker 2: for a sister.
25:07
Speaker 1: Did we?
25:08
Speaker 2: But I think very recently one of our old friends did.
25:11
Speaker 1: Did that? Eventually? I have no idea. He told me,
25:13
Speaker 1: do you know more than me? See I'm on the
25:14
Speaker 1: group anymore?
25:16
Speaker 2: Neither over?
25:17
Speaker 1: Did?
25:19
Speaker 2: That's a friendship ruiner if it doesn't go well?
25:21
Speaker 1: Awkward?
25:22
Speaker 2: Now, what have you seen girl friendships do really well?
25:26
Speaker 2: The boys don't tell each other we love each other.
25:30
Speaker 2: Girls do that more often than boys, you think, because
25:32
Speaker 2: boys don't.
25:33
Speaker 1: Do that in a friendship. Do you think love you?
25:36
Speaker 1: And you know how there's such a difference with love
25:37
Speaker 1: you and I love you? Yeah? If is it the
25:39
Speaker 1: same equivalent for a friendship versus a relationship? Like you
25:43
Speaker 1: need to say as a friendship, I love you instead
25:45
Speaker 1: of love you.
25:46
Speaker 2: I don't know. You can start with love you orgn thing.
25:49
Speaker 2: I don't even say to my dad steppingstone. Yeah, say
25:53
Speaker 2: to my parents only say. The only person I say
25:55
Speaker 2: it to is I say, and Henry.
25:58
Speaker 1: If mom and dad got on a big trip, I'll
26:00
Speaker 1: occasionally slip it out the mum.
26:01
Speaker 2: Yeah, but yeah, see I only say it to my parents.
26:09
Speaker 2: And so I said to my parents like maybe once
26:13
Speaker 2: a year, right, and on your death bed, like it's
26:18
Speaker 2: crazy to say, so, I reckon, I say, like maybe
26:20
Speaker 2: once a year, and we just I didn't say a
26:23
Speaker 2: bunch of growing up and by no means do I.
26:25
Speaker 2: It's not no sort of sob story. But when it
26:28
Speaker 2: is said, it's a happy moment for both parties. But
26:32
Speaker 2: you can also tell it's a little bit of like
26:33
Speaker 2: an awkward moment because it's like, whoa emotional Yeah.
26:37
Speaker 1: Even when, like especially, we're thinking about how they were
26:40
Speaker 1: brought up. Yeah, we're having the conversations now they didn't
26:42
Speaker 1: have the conversations at all.
26:43
Speaker 2: Yeah, and they didn't, did they?
26:45
Speaker 1: Okay, this one's good to rear to. Wait, wait, what
26:49
Speaker 1: have you seen? Girlfriendships do really well? The guy friendships don't.
26:53
Speaker 1: Women's friendships are face to face, and men's fresh men's
26:56
Speaker 1: friendships are shoulder at the shoulder.
27:00
Speaker 2: Damn That is so true.
27:02
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is so so true. Fuck.
27:07
Speaker 2: I read a book called Why Men Don't Listen and
27:11
Speaker 2: Women Can't Read Maps.
27:12
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they talk about this.
27:14
Speaker 2: Look. I don't know how like scientifically proven all of
27:18
Speaker 2: this is, but apparently apparently it's back. It goes back
27:23
Speaker 2: to when we were hunter gatherers, men hunters, women gatherers.
27:28
Speaker 2: The women took care of the children, you know, did
27:31
Speaker 2: all that thing they did, the gathering. I don't really
27:33
Speaker 2: know what it entails, but they would I guess, have
27:36
Speaker 2: conversations face to face. And then men would be constantly
27:40
Speaker 2: like tunnel vision hunting all day, come back tired, look
27:45
Speaker 2: at the fire, and then they'd sit next to each
27:48
Speaker 2: other looking at a fire, shouldered shoulder. They'd never have
27:50
Speaker 2: a conversation face.
27:51
Speaker 1: On Well, the equivalent now is gaming. Yeah, like the
27:54
Speaker 1: fire is now an Xbox or a TV. Yeah.
27:56
Speaker 2: Yeah, like you go to your fucking TV.
27:59
Speaker 1: Footy.
27:59
Speaker 2: Yeah that's what we're watching on there. Yeah, we just
28:04
Speaker 2: it's a huge day. I need to sit down and
28:06
Speaker 2: watch this TV. Yeah crazy, Okay, what have you what
28:15
Speaker 2: have you seen? Girl friendships do really well that boyfriendships don't.
28:18
Speaker 2: This is a simple one brunch, not brunch. Not enough
28:22
Speaker 2: guys do brunch. We guys don't go to brunch.
28:26
Speaker 1: We don't. Are we missing out on something there?
28:30
Speaker 2: What do you?
28:30
Speaker 1: What do you order it? A brunch?
28:32
Speaker 2: It's like, it's breakfast food at lunch. Brunch. I'm a
28:34
Speaker 2: mimosa and oh you see what it is? Is what
28:37
Speaker 2: it is. It's breakfast food at lunch but a little
28:40
Speaker 2: bit of alcohol.
28:40
Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like brunches are kind of like aesthetic.
28:47
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're They're kind of instagrammable.
28:49
Speaker 1: They're very appealing, aren't they.
28:51
Speaker 2: I'm a jealous of brunches. We can go to one.
28:54
Speaker 1: We can go to one. Alrighty, guys. Unfortunately I've got
28:58
Speaker 1: like five left and these conversations are really good. So
29:01
Speaker 1: what we're going to do is do the rest of
29:03
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29:16
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29:18
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29:26
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29:27
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you. I wish if someone looked it up
29:31
Speaker 1: that way, I could give them a discount. Oh, that
29:33
Speaker 1: would be so sick.
29:34
Speaker 2: Actually, you get a bit of a discount. Yeah, as
29:37
Speaker 2: long as you if you make sure you don't do
29:38
Speaker 2: it through an Apple app. Yeah, an Apple pay, Apple pay,
29:41
Speaker 2: yeah it make sure you don't do through Apple pay.
29:42
Speaker 1: Yeah. They get enough about money.
29:51
Speaker 2: Okay. That is, if you've been here for just a
29:54
Speaker 2: matter of weeks, then you'll know about my car update.
29:57
Speaker 2: If you've been here for this, this is your first time.
29:59
Speaker 2: Very quickly, a couple of weeks ago, my car made
30:03
Speaker 2: a crazy noise and for reference, I drive ahy, and
30:06
Speaker 2: I gets it's very very small.
30:07
Speaker 1: Let me make the noise.
30:09
Speaker 2: That looks pretty close. And so I said to Odi,
30:13
Speaker 2: I brought the video in the noise, and I said, look,
30:14
Speaker 2: it's it's become a need, not a want.
30:16
Speaker 1: I need a new car.
30:17
Speaker 2: Now. Last week I in I both brought some cars,
30:20
Speaker 2: all right, and then we asked you guys to tell
30:23
Speaker 2: me if we should go down the sensible route or
30:25
Speaker 2: the fun route. And I haven't even looked at the comments.
30:29
Speaker 1: Now everyone's commenting, which Baddie one. There's none yet.
30:32
Speaker 2: Ah, fair enough.
30:33
Speaker 1: Everyone just says you need a new car.
30:35
Speaker 2: I don't think people care what I get. Yeah, So
30:38
Speaker 2: now I'm going to give a quick one more quick
30:41
Speaker 2: backstory on the Jimney situation. Okay, because the situation has
30:45
Speaker 2: grown developed, slightly, development in the situation since I've known.
30:50
Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't.
30:51
Speaker 2: Told you there's a development in the Jimney situation.
30:52
Speaker 1: There's no way this guy came back.
30:54
Speaker 2: So I was going to go get a Suzuki Jimney Sierra,
30:59
Speaker 2: very cool little car. Now it said it was thirteen thousand,
31:03
Speaker 2: five hundred, one hundred and thirty seven thousand k's. I
31:05
Speaker 2: go down to Woongong an hour and a half drive.
31:07
Speaker 2: I get in the car. It says it has two
31:08
Speaker 2: hundred thousand kilometers. So I was like, that's a crazy difference.
31:12
Speaker 2: Now to get this car off the market, I paid
31:15
Speaker 2: a two hundred dollars deposit and it's a refundable after
31:18
Speaker 2: I've taken for a test drive, and if I don't
31:19
Speaker 2: want the car, I get the money back.
31:21
Speaker 1: Sweet.
31:22
Speaker 2: So I was like, let's go.
31:23
Speaker 1: Now.
31:23
Speaker 2: I went down and then I tried to negotiate him down.
31:25
Speaker 2: He says no, no, no. He spent a couple of
31:27
Speaker 2: days texting me with things and I was like, no, good, like,
31:29
Speaker 2: don't worry about it. So that was two weeks ago,
31:34
Speaker 2: like just over two weeks ago. Haven't got my positive back. Really.
31:38
Speaker 2: I've texted him twice being like.
31:41
Speaker 1: Hey, hey, should I just name him?
31:43
Speaker 2: Hey Pete, Like, I hope you're having that good week.
31:46
Speaker 2: I hope you had a good week. It'd be like
31:47
Speaker 2: super nice. I hope a good weekend and stuff. Just
31:50
Speaker 2: checking on how that refund for like the deposit is,
31:54
Speaker 2: here's my details. If you've missed him, just airing me.
31:58
Speaker 2: He's notty and reading them. So I still haven't got
32:03
Speaker 2: it back, and he still hasn't replied. I've sent two messages,
32:05
Speaker 2: was like two like two k yeah, yeah, yeah, I'd
32:09
Speaker 2: be fucked. If it was too care I'd be so mad.
32:10
Speaker 2: I'd be driving down there and knocking on his door.
32:13
Speaker 2: But it's two on the buck. I was like, what
32:14
Speaker 2: am I going?
32:14
Speaker 1: I was this ceedy guy. He was so nice. He
32:19
Speaker 1: got me two weeks. Maybe I don't want to give
32:23
Speaker 1: him the benefit of that's funny though. I know he
32:25
Speaker 1: stole my money. Yeah, he stole my mom. I have
32:29
Speaker 1: faith in humanity? Really, man, cards yellows are weasels?
32:34
Speaker 2: Oh wait, I couldn't like he hasn't even read it. Bro,
32:40
Speaker 2: Oh my god, let me see what.
32:41
Speaker 1: We're call him right now? Should we call him? You
32:43
Speaker 1: want to connect?
32:44
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's call him.
32:48
Speaker 1: You did to connect. Let's call this guy pctice confrontation.
32:52
Speaker 2: Man, this is not the conversation I wanted. Let's see
32:57
Speaker 2: if I've got.
33:00
Speaker 1: Back you off, if your struggling, Okay, what are my nervous.
33:04
Speaker 2: Dude, I'm stressing. Here's the thing is, like, I shouldn't
33:07
Speaker 2: be stressing because he has my money.
33:13
Speaker 1: Okay, Let's call this guy. He's not going to pick
33:17
Speaker 1: up a leave him a message, though. Leave him a
33:19
Speaker 1: message has.
33:35
Speaker 4: Been forwarded to voicemail.
33:37
Speaker 2: The person you're trying to reach is not available at
33:39
Speaker 2: the time. Please record your message.
33:42
Speaker 4: When you have finished recording, you may hang up.
33:45
Speaker 2: Hi, Pete, it's Jake. I came and test drove that
33:49
Speaker 2: Suzuki Jimney Sierra a couple of weeks back, and you
33:53
Speaker 2: said i'd get my deposit back if I didn't want
33:55
Speaker 2: it after the test drive. I was just double checking
33:58
Speaker 2: on that. Give a call back me. That's fussing. You don't.
34:06
Speaker 2: He punted me in a voil.
34:08
Speaker 1: That's crazy, bro, that's you gotta leave a bad e
34:11
Speaker 1: mess with the wrong podcaster? Is you got leave?
34:15
Speaker 2: It was on car sales too, so there's a chance
34:17
Speaker 2: maybe car sales can help me out here. But it's
34:20
Speaker 2: trying to buy coming bothered.
34:20
Speaker 1: You also know the dealership because you went there.
34:22
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know where it is. Go on Google, so fuck,
34:27
Speaker 2: I don't want to. I'm opening on service so he
34:29
Speaker 2: doesn't come through. Oh here, I'll put myself on no
34:32
Speaker 2: Bluetooth and I'll actually leave my phone on if he
34:38
Speaker 2: calls me back. I'm not connected to it, but that's
34:39
Speaker 2: all right. It'll be funny anyway. Imagine if he calls
34:42
Speaker 2: me back. Okay, So that's that's the current update. And
34:45
Speaker 2: then now my I don't want to like talk about
34:51
Speaker 2: me for too long on this. But the other day
34:54
Speaker 2: my dad actually offered so here, my stepmum's selling her car.
34:59
Speaker 2: She's a nice vehicle. Here's the thing. It's it's honestly,
35:02
Speaker 2: it's worth about fifty thousand dollars. So he said to me,
35:05
Speaker 2: he said, look, we we want to keep it in
35:06
Speaker 2: the family because it is a really nice car. So
35:09
Speaker 2: if you just you can give me how much you
35:11
Speaker 2: can give me, and then you can pay it off
35:14
Speaker 2: over a couple of years. Like however, it's like it's
35:17
Speaker 2: it's really up to you. And so I was like, wow,
35:19
Speaker 2: that's generous, Like I wouldn't be able to afford a
35:20
Speaker 2: car like that otherwise. But I was thinking more about it, right,
35:25
Speaker 2: and I don't want to do it. You don't want
35:27
Speaker 2: to do it? No, Oh I don't want. I don't
35:31
Speaker 2: want to.
35:33
Speaker 1: I'm the only reason I.
35:36
Speaker 2: Would be able to do it is because of my dad,
35:40
Speaker 2: which is there's no, there's not. It doesn't mean it's
35:42
Speaker 2: a bad reason to take advantage of it. And like
35:44
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be taking advantage at all. I would be
35:46
Speaker 2: paying it off, just like anyone would be paying off
35:48
Speaker 2: a car.
35:49
Speaker 1: But I would prefer.
35:53
Speaker 2: To spend the money that I can spend on a
35:57
Speaker 2: car and own it out right and then not oh,
36:00
Speaker 2: like fucking you know, thirty thousand dollars extra.
36:04
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm going to say no to.
36:06
Speaker 2: Him, Okay, Yeah, I know that's it. It's like it's
36:09
Speaker 2: like it's I again, I realized, like how privilege of
36:12
Speaker 2: a situation it is. But I think that I would
36:16
Speaker 2: prefer my parents to just like sell it get the money,
36:18
Speaker 2: and then.
36:19
Speaker 1: I guess that's admirable. Yeah kind of.
36:21
Speaker 2: I'm doing it for me too as well. I don't
36:23
Speaker 2: want to be in debt, did you, because it's also
36:25
Speaker 2: a depreciating item.
36:26
Speaker 1: You booked inspection on another car that's still coming through.
36:29
Speaker 2: That's the third update waiting for that. So if it's good,
36:32
Speaker 2: I'm going to buy that car.
36:32
Speaker 5: Okay, So Zuoki Vatara, Yeah we went sensible what year
36:36
Speaker 5: twenty sixteen.
36:37
Speaker 1: That's pretty good.
36:38
Speaker 2: Cruise control, Yeah, Bluetooth. I think it doesn't have Apple
36:42
Speaker 2: Car Play, but I can get it.
36:44
Speaker 1: It doesn't have Apple carplation.
36:45
Speaker 2: I don't know. The best thing about it though, to
36:47
Speaker 2: me is the cruise control. I haven't had cruise control for.
36:49
Speaker 1: Like six years. Oh really? Yeah, because when you said that,
36:52
Speaker 1: I was about to say, welcome to twenty three.
36:54
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I haven't had krius control for six
36:55
Speaker 2: years because I had a really old car.
36:57
Speaker 1: Then I got the gets that doesn't have it? My
37:00
Speaker 1: what gets you? Because my name that much? Not on
37:04
Speaker 1: the freeway, not even I don't even use that much.
37:06
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I love, oh my god. The best
37:09
Speaker 2: thing ever invented.
37:10
Speaker 1: Manuel. Yes, well, there's some good updates, Matt.
37:13
Speaker 2: So I think next week I should actually, if if
37:15
Speaker 2: all goes well, I should actually be driving that vehicle.
37:18
Speaker 2: Very good.
37:25
Speaker 1: Already, baddies, Welcome back to Week five of Things that
37:30
Speaker 1: Aren't Just for Boys. Week five. All right, I want
37:34
Speaker 1: to start off starting off strong.
37:37
Speaker 2: Ordering for the table. Okay, I actually have a story
37:44
Speaker 2: about this, Odie. I I can't speak for you, but
37:48
Speaker 2: I do think we've spoken about this before. I'm not
37:51
Speaker 2: a keen orderer, you know how. It's kind of like
37:55
Speaker 2: a thing where people say, you know, the man should
37:57
Speaker 2: order the food, the man should do this, Nor am I.
37:59
Speaker 2: I'm not a big I'm not keen on doing the ordering. Also,
38:02
Speaker 2: I'm very quick to choose what I want. But one
38:05
Speaker 2: thing I really really liked that Beth does number one
38:08
Speaker 2: is will often do the ordering, but she goes straight
38:13
Speaker 2: to all the restaurant's instagrams when we get there and
38:16
Speaker 2: looks at all the photos of the food that's on
38:18
Speaker 2: the menu. He knows what to get and then I
38:23
Speaker 2: have always kind of like given a ship for it.
38:26
Speaker 1: But I'm just kind of good, you know why. I
38:30
Speaker 1: don't like ordering pronunciations, Yeah, what's with a what's with
38:37
Speaker 1: a restaurant? And like, well, wait, where are you going?
38:41
Speaker 2: That has a hard pronunciations.
38:43
Speaker 1: Even I went to Toddy's on the weekend. There's a
38:45
Speaker 1: few passes I can't pronounce a couple other things. I'm like,
38:48
Speaker 1: I'm like, this is just embarrassing. I don't want to
38:51
Speaker 1: do that.
38:51
Speaker 2: Guy, But you're not even going to get a past
38:53
Speaker 2: her I did.
38:54
Speaker 1: On the weekend. What type I can't pronounce?
38:56
Speaker 2: It?
38:57
Speaker 1: Was it lamb rago? No, I tried something different. Oh,
39:00
Speaker 1: Cassie was forcing me.
39:02
Speaker 2: Was it was in it?
39:04
Speaker 1: She had passed it to my head. It wasn't spaghetti
39:07
Speaker 1: as well? Not maybe it was. Maybe it was that one.
39:13
Speaker 1: Maybe it was that wasn't good? It was actually pretty decent.
39:16
Speaker 1: I was. I was full after the bread, though, you.
39:19
Speaker 2: Go there for the bread. Okay.
39:24
Speaker 1: Number two?
39:26
Speaker 2: Are you thinking what I'm thinking?
39:27
Speaker 1: I think I got it?
39:28
Speaker 2: Energy drinks, bang on. Most energy drinks are made for men.
39:34
Speaker 2: They're all dark marcho, fake ingredients. I don't even know
39:40
Speaker 2: ninety of things on those cans.
39:42
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's pretty wild e. That's why Marissa created perfect
39:45
Speaker 1: healthy and energy drinks. She didn't even have us guys
39:47
Speaker 1: in mind when making it.
39:49
Speaker 2: Yeah, and they actually slap. Did you know that they
39:51
Speaker 2: are powered by Marcher and the ingredients are all natural?
39:54
Speaker 2: This apple raspberry best very nice. I'd say I'm more
39:58
Speaker 2: of a juicy peach guy at the moment myself. Where
40:00
Speaker 2: do you pick yours up from?
40:01
Speaker 1: Oddie?
40:02
Speaker 4: You know I'm a Coles guy. That's not even a
40:04
Speaker 4: question me too, all our baddies.
40:12
Speaker 1: Up next is dilemmas. If you want to get your
40:14
Speaker 1: dilemma read the link is in a description or linking
40:17
Speaker 1: bio on Instagram. Scroll at the bottom. There it is.
40:20
Speaker 1: And as we mentioned before, Patreon gets their exclusive dilemmas,
40:24
Speaker 1: so there's more of a chance they'll get read over there.
40:27
Speaker 1: My one, I'm trying to describe how I feel about it.
40:32
Speaker 1: It's a good feeling and I think it's an interesting perspective. Okay,
40:38
Speaker 1: because you and I will have a simple solution, but
40:42
Speaker 1: I think it's an interesting perspective.
40:43
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, in.
40:46
Speaker 1: Capitals, it's not a relationship dilemma.
40:49
Speaker 2: Oo.
40:50
Speaker 1: We'd love your thoughts. I'm a twenty five year old
40:53
Speaker 1: Indian Australian girl. I work as a doctor in Perth
40:57
Speaker 1: and I'm single. I recently moved out of my parents'
41:00
Speaker 1: house in July and I have never been more grateful
41:03
Speaker 1: for my freedom in brackets. Don't get me wrong, love them,
41:06
Speaker 1: but I can do things like bring guys who are
41:08
Speaker 1: like over to my place because culturally it ain't okay
41:12
Speaker 1: whilst living with my kind of strict Indian parents.
41:15
Speaker 2: Ah okay.
41:18
Speaker 1: I moved and started renting my brother and his partner's
41:21
Speaker 1: house with a friend whilst they moved to Melbourne for
41:23
Speaker 1: six months. They are coming back in January and they
41:27
Speaker 1: offered me to continue renting off them. I think it's
41:30
Speaker 1: kind of weird because I want the option of being
41:31
Speaker 1: able to bring guys home. They said they wouldn't really
41:34
Speaker 1: care as long as boundaries aren't crossed. Do you think
41:38
Speaker 1: it would be weird from a male's perspective if I
41:40
Speaker 1: told a guy I'm seeing and want to bring him
41:42
Speaker 1: back to my place that I rent off my brother
41:44
Speaker 1: and his partner. Would it be weirder than my other option,
41:47
Speaker 1: which is renting with a different friend and for other people.
41:51
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. Your advice
41:53
Speaker 1: and podcast has really changed my perspective with life and
41:55
Speaker 1: relationships and helped me through so much shit. Jake and
41:58
Speaker 1: Audi are absolute legends.
42:00
Speaker 2: Thank you very much, very much. I think if you
42:04
Speaker 2: want to stay with your brother and his sister, so no, they.
42:08
Speaker 1: She's in the house with one of the person renting
42:10
Speaker 1: off them. They're not in the house, but they're coming back.
42:14
Speaker 1: Yeah no, but they can keep renting it. Or is
42:17
Speaker 1: that how I took it as she would be alone
42:18
Speaker 1: in the house, Well, right.
42:20
Speaker 2: She's alone in the probably right right now, she's alone
42:22
Speaker 2: in her brother's house, her brother and his partner, and
42:25
Speaker 2: they're coming back, and they've said you can stay. And
42:29
Speaker 2: then she said I assume she said, yeah, what if
42:31
Speaker 2: I want to bring boys back and stuff? And they
42:33
Speaker 2: said that makes more sense. They said, well, you know,
42:35
Speaker 2: it's not as boundaries like we don't care.
42:37
Speaker 1: You have a life like you know.
42:40
Speaker 2: And then he says, she's saying, how would you feel
42:41
Speaker 2: as a guy if I was to say, you know,
42:45
Speaker 2: I live with my brother, I'd be like, that's so normal. Yeah,
42:51
Speaker 2: I'd be like, what that's so normal to live with?
42:55
Speaker 2: It wouldn't matter who you lived with.
42:57
Speaker 1: It's funny the mental back and forth you play, though.
42:59
Speaker 2: Yeah, look I can see the men like I would
43:03
Speaker 2: probably also have those questions. I think I would ask
43:07
Speaker 2: myself the same thing, But it depends as well, like
43:11
Speaker 2: how often are you bringing new men home? Because I
43:18
Speaker 2: think if I was to own a house and my
43:20
Speaker 2: sister was living there and she was single, I wouldn't
43:23
Speaker 2: care if every now and then she brought someone back.
43:25
Speaker 2: But if she was bringing like a bunch, that's when
43:29
Speaker 2: I would most likely set a boundary and be like,
43:31
Speaker 2: can we limit.
43:32
Speaker 1: It a bit?
43:32
Speaker 2: Actually, don't know how I would feel with you. I
43:34
Speaker 2: think that's how I would.
43:35
Speaker 1: Feel, And it sounds like she is very responsible and
43:39
Speaker 1: respective of the dude, She's not gonna be bringing back
43:43
Speaker 1: one a new guy every single week. No, I want
43:45
Speaker 1: to make you feel great about your situation too. The alternative,
43:48
Speaker 1: like me back in the day, I'm living with my parents,
43:51
Speaker 1: I'm a loser, Like come back to my parents' house.
43:55
Speaker 1: Whereas like a brother's cool. Yeah, it's like you help
43:58
Speaker 1: them with his mortgage.
43:59
Speaker 2: Probably it's like that one I would say when if
44:03
Speaker 2: you said to someone you're living with your parents, that
44:06
Speaker 2: a lot of people understand it because of the cost
44:08
Speaker 2: of living crisis. So they'd say, oh, I understand that,
44:10
Speaker 2: but they would think little, we'd go back to a
44:12
Speaker 2: parent's house like they would think that maybe, But as
44:16
Speaker 2: soon as it's anyone but your parents, people just think,
44:20
Speaker 2: like she just lives out at home.
44:22
Speaker 1: I also think you don't have to justify it or
44:24
Speaker 1: explain your situation. And if it comes up like he's
44:28
Speaker 1: the guy you bring over, sees your brother, he's like,
44:29
Speaker 1: oh that's my brother.
44:30
Speaker 2: Legit you bring him back?
44:32
Speaker 1: Yeah?
44:32
Speaker 2: Maybe as soon as you walking me like, oh, by
44:34
Speaker 2: the way, I rent my room off my brother. Yeah,
44:35
Speaker 2: like or like my brother owns his house and I
44:37
Speaker 2: just pay to live here. Yeah, like you pay to
44:40
Speaker 2: live there, it's also yours. Yeah, exactly. You have to
44:42
Speaker 2: think about it like that. It's like a lease, you know,
44:44
Speaker 2: it's it's also your house.
44:46
Speaker 1: What if she's bringing home heaps or does just for fun,
44:48
Speaker 1: but I still think she's in her right.
44:51
Speaker 2: Here's what I would say. I would say, as the brother,
44:55
Speaker 2: this is just me personally. I don't know how he
44:57
Speaker 2: feels about it. But if she, I would say, look,
45:00
Speaker 2: if you want to do that, maybe could you fifty
45:02
Speaker 2: to fifty? Like you go to their place sometimes they
45:05
Speaker 2: come here sometimes the car. I would be, yeah, like
45:10
Speaker 2: you the car, Maybe try and make it so they
45:12
Speaker 2: come in late and you're quiet and just there's actually
45:17
Speaker 2: also I think you need to talk to your brother.
45:19
Speaker 2: And like you said, as long as there's no boundaries crossed,
45:22
Speaker 2: but what needs to happen is the boundaries need to
45:24
Speaker 2: be very clear true. So it's like you can't just
45:29
Speaker 2: assume the boundaries. The boundaries need to be fucking stated.
45:33
Speaker 1: I guess too. It's always going to be that slight
45:36
Speaker 1: awkwardness between sister she brought home. Wonder when you were
45:41
Speaker 1: living together, were you there? Yeah, Yeah, it's this awkward
45:45
Speaker 1: that like sisters having sex. I didn't, I didn't hear anything.
45:50
Speaker 2: I would have left if I heard.
45:53
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's also the dynamic that's weird.
45:57
Speaker 2: It is a weird dynamic. But at the same time,
45:59
Speaker 2: it's just like I understand that this is what that's
46:02
Speaker 2: gonna happen, you know, Yeah, but it hurts you, it doesn't.
46:06
Speaker 2: It's just like a weird thing for both parties. Like
46:11
Speaker 2: when I started bringing Beth over because like I was
46:15
Speaker 2: single for a while while living with Joanna and my
46:17
Speaker 2: older sister, and then when I started bringing Beth over,
46:21
Speaker 2: same thing. But then once it's kind of obviously declared
46:23
Speaker 2: that it's like, no, Beth and I are we're boyfriend
46:26
Speaker 2: and girlfriend. It becomes a much more normal thing.
46:29
Speaker 1: Very true.
46:30
Speaker 2: Yeah, so let me try and think Joanna started bringing
46:34
Speaker 2: new men because where we lived it would be very
46:37
Speaker 2: difficult to hide it as well. She started bringing new men. Nah,
46:43
Speaker 2: but I wouldn't give a fuck. We won't know why,
46:46
Speaker 2: because I would just like it would be the funniest
46:49
Speaker 2: thing to me to bump into them, And it would
46:51
Speaker 2: genuinely be the funniest thing to bump into them. I
46:53
Speaker 2: think it would be.
46:54
Speaker 5: And we sort of knew this dude too, sort of, Yeah,
46:57
Speaker 5: he was suspect in the end, he was to suspect
47:02
Speaker 5: that guy, And so it was like so funny to
47:04
Speaker 5: hear all the stories and then like hear about you bumping.
47:08
Speaker 1: Into him at the gym or something, and then be
47:10
Speaker 1: being able to.
47:10
Speaker 2: Tell you what he does, like how he treats women,
47:14
Speaker 2: and you're like, oh, what the fuck?
47:16
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so I think you're completely fine and also
47:21
Speaker 1: sure twenty five year old doctor, must be must be broken,
47:26
Speaker 1: must be easy to put you're a doctor twenty five
47:30
Speaker 1: on the scale of careers at twenty five, Like, when
47:33
Speaker 1: I think of doctors. I think of fifty year olds.
47:35
Speaker 1: We're twenty five.
47:37
Speaker 2: We're nothing. Yeah, Jesus, very cool, all right, my diama.
47:43
Speaker 2: My ex and I broke up two years ago. I
47:45
Speaker 2: was very unhappy at the end of the relationship. We
47:48
Speaker 2: weren't communicating well anymore and kept a lot of things
47:50
Speaker 2: in which most of the time ended up in a
47:53
Speaker 2: big argument because one of us was fed up because
47:56
Speaker 2: of this, I was honestly relieved when we broke up,
47:58
Speaker 2: even though I was sad, I knew it was better
48:00
Speaker 2: that way for both of us. We haven't seen each
48:02
Speaker 2: other since we broke up. We went to the same college,
48:05
Speaker 2: but my ex hasn't showed up to the classes we shared,
48:08
Speaker 2: not even to our graduation. We have been texting on
48:11
Speaker 2: and off and live very close to each other, so
48:13
Speaker 2: I see him out sometimes. I've been doing very well
48:16
Speaker 2: these past two years until I recently saw an Instagram
48:19
Speaker 2: post of him and a girl who I assume is
48:22
Speaker 2: his new girlfriend or a girl.
48:24
Speaker 1: He is dating.
48:25
Speaker 2: It felt like we were breaking up all over again,
48:27
Speaker 2: and the feeling hasn't changed. I don't really know what
48:30
Speaker 2: to do about this. I assume that he has a
48:32
Speaker 2: new girlfriend, but.
48:32
Speaker 1: I'm not sure.
48:33
Speaker 2: I don't want to text him because I don't want
48:35
Speaker 2: to disturb his peace, but I really do miss him.
48:38
Speaker 2: He was my first relationship and we were together for
48:40
Speaker 2: a long time. Is it normal to feel this way?
48:42
Speaker 2: And should I do something about it or should I
48:44
Speaker 2: just leave it be? Oh, two years ago you broke up.
48:49
Speaker 2: Oh okay, and seeing him in front of him with
48:51
Speaker 2: a new girl has brought it back to Just like
48:53
Speaker 2: square one.
48:54
Speaker 1: First love is always hard to get over, no matter what, Yeah,
48:59
Speaker 1: I feel like, even if it's not the best relationship,
49:02
Speaker 1: it always just holds the weirdest little piece of your heart,
49:05
Speaker 1: no matter what it's like the first time you've experienced love.
49:07
Speaker 2: Fuck yeah, dude.
49:08
Speaker 1: And just because he's got a new girl, it kind
49:10
Speaker 1: of resurface those emotions. And because you haven't got a
49:13
Speaker 1: new boyfriend, it's kind of like, I don't know how
49:16
Speaker 1: to feel. I think you obviously know the answer is
49:18
Speaker 1: don't reach out, Like what do you want out of that?
49:20
Speaker 2: Be?
49:20
Speaker 1: Like, hey, is this your girlfriend?
49:23
Speaker 2: Like, in my opinion, you've had two years. The only
49:26
Speaker 2: reason you're now thinking of real like you've spent two
49:28
Speaker 2: years doing what quote you said? Very well? Right, I
49:32
Speaker 2: dare say you've maybe thought of reaching out a couple times,
49:35
Speaker 2: but then you've thought, no, it's better that I don't.
49:37
Speaker 2: But now you know that he has someone else. That's
49:40
Speaker 2: when you're actually considering it. So, in my opinion, all
49:45
Speaker 2: things considered, you should not message you.
49:49
Speaker 1: I think so too. It's a responsible thing to do.
49:52
Speaker 1: And I don't know.
49:53
Speaker 2: I always like to think a.
49:54
Speaker 1: Few steps ahead, like what do you want out of
49:56
Speaker 1: messaging him?
49:56
Speaker 2: Him?
49:57
Speaker 1: You're not gonna get anything out.
49:58
Speaker 2: Of it, And he asked yourself what you want?
50:00
Speaker 1: Yea, what do you actually want? And you'd be like,
50:02
Speaker 1: I don't know.
50:02
Speaker 2: If he drops everything and says it's get back together,
50:04
Speaker 2: is that what you want? Probably not? Probably not, probably
50:08
Speaker 2: not at all.
50:08
Speaker 1: And I think you know that. I guess the best
50:10
Speaker 1: thing to do is go back a couple of steps
50:12
Speaker 1: in your healing journey and be like, what did I
50:14
Speaker 1: do last time to help with this? Yeah? And it's
50:18
Speaker 1: just accepting that maybe you're not fully healed, which is
50:20
Speaker 1: hard to accept because it's been three years, but also
50:22
Speaker 1: well human, we will go through healing at different stages
50:25
Speaker 1: and it's like anything, like you could have been healed
50:27
Speaker 1: for a year, but this has resurfaced. The emotions, so
50:29
Speaker 1: you need another month to get over it valid as
50:32
Speaker 1: simple as that.
50:32
Speaker 2: That's valid.
50:34
Speaker 1: It's like fucking when people like relapse or anything like that,
50:36
Speaker 1: it doesn't mean all the two years prior was fucking pointless.
50:39
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you have just gone back a few steps.
50:40
Speaker 1: Yeah, and now we've got to back get back to
50:42
Speaker 1: the word prior to him getting a new girl.
50:44
Speaker 2: Think of this like a relapse, but don't judge yourself
50:47
Speaker 2: very hard on it, like, because obviously you aren't relapsing
50:51
Speaker 2: on that drugs, your arch or anything like that. But
50:53
Speaker 2: I think if you can kind of think of it
50:54
Speaker 2: in that way and then yeah, you go through the
50:56
Speaker 2: healing process again.
50:57
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you got this too. And it's just
50:59
Speaker 1: like it's just a little bit of a stab in
51:02
Speaker 1: that special place in your heart because there's always going
51:04
Speaker 1: to be there.
51:04
Speaker 2: Yeah, because for two years you've both been moving on slowly,
51:09
Speaker 2: but then the thought of actually moving on, Like maybe
51:14
Speaker 2: the thing that hurts is the fact that he is ready,
51:18
Speaker 2: Like there's a good chance you actually don't want to
51:20
Speaker 2: be with him, right, you do miss him, obviously, but
51:22
Speaker 2: there's a good chance you don't want to be with him.
51:23
Speaker 2: And what hurts is the fact that he is ready
51:25
Speaker 2: before you're ready, Like, maybe you're not ready yet even
51:28
Speaker 2: though it's been two years. So like what he said,
51:31
Speaker 2: just ask yourself what you want out of messaging him.
51:33
Speaker 1: Yeah. I also think it's kind of like an instinctual
51:36
Speaker 1: thing that everyone feels in a sense of the first
51:38
Speaker 1: person you have sex with, the first person you love,
51:41
Speaker 1: Like everything you go through together is so special in
51:45
Speaker 1: a sense, and like I don't think it means anything,
51:48
Speaker 1: but it's always going to be there.
51:49
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's kind of instinctual. So he can't help it. Yeah,
51:52
Speaker 2: so you're only human, But start healing again.
51:54
Speaker 1: You got it all right?
52:01
Speaker 2: Badies. So if you're new here, this is the part
52:04
Speaker 2: of the episode where we read comments from the last
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Speaker 2: episode or did I read a comment each or two each?
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Speaker 2: But I have an update. I have a text message
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Speaker 2: from Peter who has not given me back by two
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Speaker 2: hundred dollars yet. He said he texted me, So I
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Speaker 2: texted him on Tuesday last week. That was the last
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Speaker 2: time I messaged Jim. Hi, Peter, I hope you're will.
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Speaker 2: Just wanted to check on my on the status of
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Speaker 2: my deposit refund. Here are my details again, cheers Jake,
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Speaker 2: And then there's from then to now, I call him
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Speaker 2: leave that message that were left? He just he just
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Speaker 2: texted me.
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Speaker 1: Oh shit.
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Speaker 2: He actually initially unsent a message, sleigh mate. I sent
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Speaker 2: to Phil and sent it to again. Just now.
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Speaker 1: He is just old, mate, I am on it.
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Speaker 2: Oh so like he's acting annoyed.
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Speaker 1: Their finance person is old.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, why is he texted me like he's annoyed? It's
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Speaker 2: two hundred bucks?
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Speaker 1: What's it called? Oh, ask a pay or whatever it is? Fuck,
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Speaker 1: it goes through immediately these days.
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Speaker 2: What's he working with? Like?
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Speaker 1: Fucking?
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Speaker 2: I just don't understand why he's acting annoyed. Why isn't
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Speaker 2: he saying, oh shit, so sorry, mate, Senator, Like he's
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Speaker 2: saying to me the way he said that, the way
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Speaker 2: I'm reading that, the way he texted it is like,
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Speaker 2: so let's say asking you guys. Mate. He's saying it
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Speaker 2: like he's told me three times. Mate, I sent it
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Speaker 2: to Phil. I just sent it again. He's old. Just
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Speaker 2: he's old, mate, that's how he's saying it.
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Speaker 1: You should say, you should be like, he's got twenty
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Speaker 1: four hours.
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Speaker 2: I know to kill him in kindness, so appreciate it.
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Speaker 2: Thank you, fucking It's like you know who Phil is? Yeah?
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Speaker 2: What the fuck?
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Speaker 1: Alrighty, So I have Spotify comments of last week's episode.
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Speaker 1: First comment is I remember this name is rad He
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Speaker 1: She's commented before perfect timing. My flight is delayed stuck
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Speaker 1: in Switzerland. But at least I have this OO wasn't
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Speaker 1: delayed too long?
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Speaker 4: All right.
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Speaker 2: I have a comment from two weeks ago on YouTube
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Speaker 2: from Factual lens. Wrap the car, Wrap the car. They're saying,
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Speaker 2: keep the gets and wrap it.
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Speaker 1: We've always wanted to do it. We could keep it.
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Speaker 1: We could keep it and then like, but then you're
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Speaker 1: gonna like not get two K back.
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Speaker 2: I suppose I could true, or we could.
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Speaker 1: Wrap it and then sell it like a year later,
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Speaker 1: six months later when we move comment wrap the car
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Speaker 1: and if we get enough with yes, because they will
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Speaker 1: sales say that I've wanted to wrap it before. I
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Speaker 1: know so far to be fair, so I, yeah, it's
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Speaker 1: only a small car. Won't cost that much. It cost
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Speaker 1: like seven.
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Speaker 2: Sevenndred I don't even know if to cost that much. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: it won't be much. No brain made text.
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Speaker 1: Right off, and I've got one more, Diana said every
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Speaker 1: time a new episode is out, automatically makes my day.
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Speaker 2: How good?
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Speaker 1: Thank you, Diana.
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Speaker 2: All Right, last one. This is from a Dilemma's episode.
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Speaker 2: We did the first one last week. Now, I would
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Speaker 2: like to preface on the intro of that Dilemmas episode.
54:55
Speaker 2: I messed up. Instead of calling you guys the baddies,
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Speaker 2: I accidentally called you the babies. Oh yea, right now,
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Speaker 2: Odie gave me ship. The reason they called everyone the
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Speaker 2: babies is because I had just listened to Shits and Gigs,
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Speaker 2: and they call their listeners to babies. Someone comments, just
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Speaker 2: subscribe because you listen to SNG, hashtag s and g
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Speaker 2: cult baby fuck you. You're welcome to subscriber. I got
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Speaker 2: a subscriber. I accidentally messing up.
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Speaker 1: You mentioned Shits and Gigs all the time we had
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Speaker 1: them on our podcast, and we fell in love. We
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Speaker 1: were already in love with them. Yeah, we avid lovers
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Speaker 1: of them.
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Speaker 4: Haven't mentioned for a while, apparently because we just got
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Speaker 4: a new subscriber the we love who hadn't James.
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Speaker 1: Alrighty, it is now time for the baddie sign off.
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Speaker 1: If you want to get called by us, the link
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Speaker 1: will beat in the description. Today we are calling Rosie. Hello, Rosie,
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Speaker 1: it's jaking out from the Rolatas podcasts.
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Speaker 2: How's it going good? Thanks? How are you?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're really good. Thank you for picking up. Do
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Speaker 1: you know why we're calling?
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Speaker 6: Yes, oh my god, I can't believe.
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Speaker 1: We would like to ask if you could sign off
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Speaker 1: the episode please. You can do whatever you like.
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Speaker 2: Yes, of course.
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Speaker 6: I actually wrote something in my notes if you're gonna
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Speaker 6: call me, but I probably did.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. We love and prepared Baddy, we do.
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Speaker 6: Oh my god.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 6: I just have.
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Speaker 7: A quote that i've good bye, and it's be grateful,
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Speaker 7: be grateful for all of the closed doors details and
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Speaker 7: roadblocks that prevent you from the past and places not
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Speaker 7: meant to you and lead you to something better.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: That's insightful too.
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Speaker 5: I think.
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Speaker 6: From my personal experiences and I think that it is
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Speaker 6: meant to you, will not pass you by, and like, yeah,
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Speaker 6: it's not meant to you, it will take you somewhere better.
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Speaker 1: So it's like everything happens for a reason kind of Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that way of saying it.
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Speaker 1: Wells, Yeah you did very well. Thank you very much.
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Speaker 2: Yes, everyone be like Rosie, be a prepared baddie.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I enjoy the rest of your days.
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Speaker 7: An amazing day.
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Speaker 1: Bye, what about let go? Thank you for listening. Stay bad,