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Are You a Builder, Dreamer, or Visionary? How to Know Your Season | FT JD Fomby | EP136 · Jess Ask

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  Speaker 3: Oh Jesus, we survive. You know, I'm just glad to
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  Speaker 3: be here. Jesus twenty twenty five took us thwell, took
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  Speaker 3: glad to be here. Listen. Yeah, I am super excited
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  Speaker 3: to transition to this year with you boo man, because
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  Speaker 3: twenty twenty five was amazing. We celebrated our hundredth episode
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  Speaker 3: with Missus Tabitha Brown. We we we did some episodes
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  Speaker 3: with some of our favorite people, like Coach d and
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  Speaker 3: like Erique Holmes. I mean, it's just phenomenal. It's just
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  Speaker 3: phenomenal things that have happened on last year. But we had,
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  Speaker 3: you know, we had to start this year off right.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, we had to start this year off right
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  Speaker 3: because you know, as we told you guys in the
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  Speaker 3: last episode, this year twenty twenty six, it's the year
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  Speaker 3: of the builder. Okay, the demand is builder build. How
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  Speaker 3: you feel about that, desiray. So the end of the year,
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  Speaker 3: it's interesting because before you release that word, the Lord
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  Speaker 3: had just begun to show me. Was just show me
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  Speaker 3: a little bit more about myself and kind of like
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  Speaker 3: the whole year, I feel like I have been stretched,
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  Speaker 3: I have been stretched in different areas. And once you
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  Speaker 3: released that word, I was like, oh, and then what
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  Speaker 3: came from that was the revelation of what I am
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  Speaker 3: and what I do. I'm a builder, right, and he's
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  Speaker 3: connected me to visionaries to help build divisions out. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: but the hard part is that what I had been
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  Speaker 3: used to is doing all the things? Yeah right, But
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  Speaker 3: as a builder, I'm not. Sometimes you will build and
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  Speaker 3: work in the in the in the vision, but sometimes
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  Speaker 3: you help build and structure the vision, and you have
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  Speaker 3: to train and teach the ones that are meant to
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  Speaker 3: that's called to work the vision, to work the vision.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So I think the struggle has been, uh, not wanting
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  Speaker 3: to do all the things when you're just used to
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  Speaker 3: doing all the things. Yeah right, So that that that teaching,
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  Speaker 3: training part of building is kind of where the Lord
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  Speaker 3: has me and in this season, and it's very uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 3: Delegation is what they call it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, so
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  Speaker 3: it's very uncomfortable. So when you said build, build, or build,
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  Speaker 3: it just begins to make more sense of what he's
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  Speaker 3: called me to do, which is still helping to help her.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah right, Yeah, yeah, I'm ready. I'm excited. I'm excited too.
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  Speaker 3: I think we here now, So we are here in
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  Speaker 3: a new year, all right, and it's speaking of builder build.
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  Speaker 3: I think we have the perst perfect person to come
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  Speaker 3: talk to you about building, because you know, the young man,
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  Speaker 3: come on, the men of God all my came and
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  Speaker 3: ripped down next a couple of years ago in his house,
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  Speaker 3: and now he's in our house, in my house, and
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  Speaker 3: he's gonna rip us again. I already know he's gonna
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  Speaker 3: rip us again. We talked about the mindset last time,
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  Speaker 3: and I'm really excited to talk about the builder and
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  Speaker 3: what he's doing and things that have changed.
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  Speaker 5: Y'all.
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  Speaker 3: This man has literally walked with us for a while now,
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  Speaker 3: technically four years, if you know, you know, technical about
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  Speaker 3: four years at least. And so we're super excited to
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  Speaker 3: have our coach, our leader, our brother, mister.
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  Speaker 4: J D from bad that my dog, then my dog,
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  Speaker 4: then my dog, that's my dog.
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  Speaker 3: This is why, this is why, coach, it's been a minute,
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  Speaker 3: so excited.
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  Speaker 4: That it's crazy, like look a look at you, at
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  Speaker 4: me now.
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  Speaker 5: Look at the man is gifted. But no, seriously, I'm
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  Speaker 5: so proud of you, like this was, this is and
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  Speaker 5: I think this and the theme of what you're talking about,
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  Speaker 5: like this year and being a builder, Like if anybody
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  Speaker 5: could just go back to day one with you, I mean,
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  Speaker 5: what else? What else do you need to say? I mean,
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  Speaker 5: I ain't gonna put you know, I got a short.
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  Speaker 3: But y'all, we're gonna lay up twice.
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  Speaker 5: You did that twice.
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  Speaker 3: I did it twice.
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  Speaker 5: You did it your own city, and I did it out.
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  Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying. Yeah, off of just an idea.
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  Speaker 5: So I'm super proud of you and Desert man. You know,
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  Speaker 5: y'all my home, y'all been to y'all been you know,
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  Speaker 5: a one since day one. I'm excited. Yeah, I'm really
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  Speaker 5: excited for what's next for you guys. You know, because
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  Speaker 5: if that happened, what greater? No, just wash my face.
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  Speaker 4: Just the case. You listen to the audio Jesus blew
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  Speaker 4: into the bike.
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  Speaker 5: It's like when you say Jesus, listen.
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  Speaker 3: That's you don't If you don't say Jesus like that,
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  Speaker 3: it's not real. It's not real, no foubt. We don't
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  Speaker 3: deal with power, powerful people over here. And thank you
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  Speaker 3: so much. We appreciate that.
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  Speaker 4: Man.
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  Speaker 3: It's been a minute. When you first came here, well,
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  Speaker 3: we weren't here yet. We came here the same year,
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  Speaker 3: but we weren't here yet. Not at bg TV. Shut
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  Speaker 3: out to our folks, b g TV. Listen, talk about building.
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  Speaker 3: I mean this the set was built. Okay, the set,
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  Speaker 3: the set was built excellent, and that's the Okay, let's
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  Speaker 3: go there. Let's go there. Let's just start right there.
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  Speaker 3: Because the thing about building, especially when you are you're
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  Speaker 3: not familiar that you are a builder. What are the
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  Speaker 3: first steps that we need to take when we're recognizing
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  Speaker 3: ourselves as builders.
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  Speaker 5: Well, I think the first step that you would have
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  Speaker 5: to take with you know, of course obviously finding out
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  Speaker 5: what is it that you want to build. And for me,
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  Speaker 5: the first step has always been who is doing it well?
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  Speaker 5: Who is doing it well? Who is doing it the
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  Speaker 5: way that I would want to do it if I
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  Speaker 5: knew what I was doing.
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  Speaker 3: Come on, that's so good.
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  Speaker 5: And I think that in this day and age, getting
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  Speaker 5: it out the Mud is more popular than trying to
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  Speaker 5: find a way to serve or sort of get around
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  Speaker 5: what you're trying to build. And because the story of
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  Speaker 5: getting it out the Mud and you didn't have help
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  Speaker 5: and you did it this way, that's the ones that's like,
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  Speaker 5: oh wow, he did about hmself. But be told, none
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  Speaker 5: of us did it by ourselves. So I think the
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  Speaker 5: first step is finding out what you want to build,
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  Speaker 5: and then find out who's doing it well. The second step,
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  Speaker 5: I would say is then you have to ask yourself
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  Speaker 5: what level of emotional bandwidth.
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  Speaker 3: Are you ready for let's talk about that. Give us
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  Speaker 3: some clearity around it, because I feel like I know
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  Speaker 3: where we're going with dad Boy.
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  Speaker 5: Building. When you think about it right, it comes with
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  Speaker 5: a level of structure or deconstruction. Both take hard work
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  Speaker 5: and breaking what you're used to.
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  Speaker 3: How do you know when you're in either one structure
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  Speaker 3: or deconstructure or which way you need to go?
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  Speaker 5: So I think it goes back to number one, what
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  Speaker 5: are you trying to build? And then when you get
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  Speaker 5: around who just doing it well? Then comes the level
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  Speaker 5: of emotional bandwidth because you have to find out what
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  Speaker 5: you may have thought it took, it takes way more
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  Speaker 5: or what you may have thought it took in the
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  Speaker 5: level of how you understood it is honestly, you're not
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  Speaker 5: willing to sacrifice what it cost to really give yourself
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  Speaker 5: to build it. And I think the Bible says that
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  Speaker 5: you know a wise man what man first build at
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  Speaker 5: the house and does not consider the cost, and that
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  Speaker 5: sometimes is lost in the level of when you're trying
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  Speaker 5: to build. I know I've been guilty of it. I
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  Speaker 5: think we all have at some point, like I'm gonna
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  Speaker 5: do this, and but I don't. I think that everybody
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  Speaker 5: should try and build something because I think building, even
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  Speaker 5: if it doesn't get to the level of what you
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  Speaker 5: want it, if it doesn't work, it was the best
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  Speaker 5: teacher to what it takes now to really build it correctly.
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  Speaker 5: That is so good And but goes back to emotional bandwidth.
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  Speaker 5: How do you see it as a failure or as
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  Speaker 5: a lesson?
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  Speaker 3: How do you test your emotional bandwidth?
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  Speaker 5: Okay, get around somebody who's doing it well, you will
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  Speaker 5: see what it takes to maintain it. And I think
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  Speaker 5: the level of maintenance when you're building something, and then
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  Speaker 5: once you keep building and building, and when you get
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  Speaker 5: to a level of maintaining it, there's a level of
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  Speaker 5: emotional bandwidth that you have to grow to because the
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  Speaker 5: maintenance sometimes is more intense than the initial build because
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  Speaker 5: not only what you build, and most people want things
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  Speaker 5: to grow well, once you have a foundation, let's go.
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  Speaker 5: So it costs more than what it costs to start.
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  Speaker 3: Ye, come on, you know.
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  Speaker 5: And I think that's what I have learned the most
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  Speaker 5: about well, those two lessons for sure. First understanding what
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  Speaker 5: it takes to get well three lessons I guess understanding
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  Speaker 5: what it takes or having the idea and the concept
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  Speaker 5: of what you want to build. Second, when getting around
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  Speaker 5: someone who's doing it well, or you can see yourself
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  Speaker 5: doing it the way that they can or kind of like, okay,
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  Speaker 5: I can see myself doing it that way, and then
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  Speaker 5: finding a way to either learn or get around that.
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  Speaker 5: If you can get around it, you can learn okay,
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  Speaker 5: how they started the story or whatever, and what it
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  Speaker 5: would take for you. And then alert The last one
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  Speaker 5: is which may be the most important, is really considering
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  Speaker 5: your emotional bandwidth, because what is it going to cost you, Like,
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  Speaker 5: do you have a family right now? Are you single?
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  Speaker 5: Are you in a relationship? Do they want to help
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  Speaker 5: you build?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 5: Are they're saying it's not worth what you're trying to give.
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  Speaker 5: So that emotion bandwidth can take a toll on sometimes
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  Speaker 5: the success of what you build or the failure of it.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's interesting. I want to expound on an
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  Speaker 3: emotional bandwidth a little bit because witnessing you, like I said,
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  Speaker 3: we've been knowing coach JD for at least four years now,
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  Speaker 3: and from the man that you were to the man
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  Speaker 3: you are now, we can see a drastic difference as
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  Speaker 3: far as your bandwidth when it comes. But the thing
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  Speaker 3: about it, Coach JD. From my understanding, you can correct
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  Speaker 3: me if I'm wrong. Like you were. You always knew
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  Speaker 3: that you were a builder? You always knew that? Or
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  Speaker 3: did you?
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  Speaker 5: Absolutely not?
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  Speaker 3: Why you say that?
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  Speaker 5: Absolutely?
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  Speaker 3: Okay? Let me tell you why I said that first,
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  Speaker 3: and then you can rebotal me fair all right, So
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  Speaker 3: let's let's think about just take one concept of you.
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  Speaker 3: There's one part of you. I think about the fitness coach.
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  Speaker 3: So you had a gym, right, you built that yourself,
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  Speaker 3: You had clients, right, and you took you once you
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  Speaker 3: got married. That the building of that kind of like
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  Speaker 3: went that went away, put on the shelf. Now we're
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  Speaker 3: dusting off the shelf. And now we got got a minute.
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  Speaker 5: Fits so quick?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, got a minute. You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: And so.
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  Speaker 3: That you made you've made it. And I'll touch on
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  Speaker 3: this real quick. Got a minute. I went and looked
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  Speaker 3: at the website. Not only do you did you pick
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  Speaker 3: it off to take it off the ship, but you
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  Speaker 3: the Lord has blessed you so much that I can
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  Speaker 3: see your heart beyond just the form of formality of payment.
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  Speaker 3: I can see that you're really trying to help people
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  Speaker 3: and enrich people where they are. So it's affordable, right,
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  Speaker 3: you have products to match what we're what you're doing.
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  Speaker 3: So it's a one it's it's every it's packaged in
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  Speaker 3: a one stop shop type of thing. And so I
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  Speaker 3: want to say congratulations and I'm proud of you. But
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  Speaker 3: that's why I say that. In my mind, you've you
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  Speaker 3: always always had the concept that you were a builder.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, well, okay I can. I can meet you halfway. Okay,
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  Speaker 5: I'll meet you half big Because for me, the concept
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  Speaker 5: always starts in my mind. I would say I'm a
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  Speaker 5: builder fifty but I'm a dream or the Okay.
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  Speaker 3: We get somewhere now, Yah, what's the difference.
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  Speaker 5: Oh man? I think for me it always starts with
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  Speaker 5: the dreamer. Sometimes my own detriment may spend too much
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  Speaker 5: time dreaming when I should be building something. But I
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  Speaker 5: think that it starts with the dream because I just
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  Speaker 5: I don't put any limits on God, and I see
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  Speaker 5: the world in such a wide space, like I feel
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  Speaker 5: like there's so many possibilities that you can do. So
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  Speaker 5: the first thing I always start with is, you know,
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  Speaker 5: I believe I can do anything, and I really truly
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  Speaker 5: believe that I can do all things through Christ, who
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  Speaker 5: strengthens me, and I think that that it always starts
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  Speaker 5: with that. So I believe heavily in that. The other
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  Speaker 5: part of the fifty percent builder is that I was
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  Speaker 5: always attached. I think Desiree said it earlier to Visionaries.
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  Speaker 5: My upbringing was I've seen my my pops build everything.
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  Speaker 5: He's in real estate. I'm now in real estate. All
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  Speaker 5: my family pretty much is all my brother's in real estate.
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  Speaker 5: So we have literally built, even sometimes when we didn't
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  Speaker 5: want to, so the know how it kind of stuck
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  Speaker 5: with us and what it takes in the process of building.
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  Speaker 5: So I think that I can speak to Yeah, fifty
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  Speaker 5: percent of that is a level of what Yeah, I
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  Speaker 5: naturally just kind of came up with as far as
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  Speaker 5: how I was raised. But I think the most interesting
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  Speaker 5: thing is even to speak to, you know, the new
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  Speaker 5: fitness thing now that I'm getting back into, because most
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  Speaker 5: people don't know I have actually, you know, a bachelor's
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  Speaker 5: degree from UAB in fitness. That's where I'm at this
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  Speaker 5: Ray two thousand and eight, but it was in that time,
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  Speaker 5: like I think that now what I have learned about
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  Speaker 5: myself from all way back then to now coming back
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  Speaker 5: and building it this way is that everything that you
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  Speaker 5: want to build is going to take a level of time.
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  Speaker 5: So for me, I had to learn how to not
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  Speaker 5: be That's why I used like you've always been a
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  Speaker 5: building A lot of times sometimes I was too busy
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  Speaker 5: dreaming when I should have been building. And I think
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  Speaker 5: sometimes it's easier to dream, which is why a lot
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  Speaker 5: of people talk about what they're going to do versus
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  Speaker 5: actually doing it, because it's much easier to just put
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  Speaker 5: a dream out there. It's easier to share that dream
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  Speaker 5: with someone then to actually get in the work of it.
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  Speaker 5: Because the work of it becomes mundane, it becomes routine,
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  Speaker 5: it becomes sometimes like exasperating in the level of effort,
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  Speaker 5: and it takes a special person to commit to the
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  Speaker 5: every day. That's why, you know, throw it back to you,
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  Speaker 5: shout out to you, because in these three years, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: the people see this now, but the level of consistency
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  Speaker 5: to build something it can it can, it can weigh
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  Speaker 5: on you. So I think that for me, there's a
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  Speaker 5: healthy level now of balance that I understand. Going into
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  Speaker 5: this year. My motto literally is three words, do the work.
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  Speaker 3: Do the work that I got a quick question, coach.
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  Speaker 3: So we've we've used a couple of terms. We've used builder,
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  Speaker 3: you used the term dreamer, but we've also used the
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  Speaker 3: word visionary. So is there a difference between being a
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  Speaker 3: dreamer and a visionary?
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  Speaker 5: Oh, that's so good. That's good, that's very good. I
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  Speaker 5: would say yes, because a dreamer, to me, can switch anytime.
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  Speaker 5: They kind of like they want to. They kind of
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  Speaker 5: can float like depending on the level of your discipline,
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  Speaker 5: it can get it can get very murky being a dreamer. Right,
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  Speaker 5: the Bible doesn't say without the dream, the people perish.
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  Speaker 3: That's so come on, help the people meet the people.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, he said, without the vision, the people perish. Why
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  Speaker 5: because the dream sometimes goes like this, It comes in
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  Speaker 5: this way and then it's it's gone. But a vision
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  Speaker 5: has to be come on, come on on, because when
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  Speaker 5: it gets time for he just.
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  Speaker 3: Did the writing.
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  Speaker 5: Remember audio, there's an audio I did it last. I
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  Speaker 5: was like, they can't see me, but they can. I
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  Speaker 5: was like, I was really heaving all the last time.
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  Speaker 5: But to speak to that being being only a dreamer
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  Speaker 5: And how do I know, because like I said, I'm
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  Speaker 5: fit dreamer and then fifty percent builder, I had to
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  Speaker 5: sometimes admit that I can be a visionary, but the
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  Speaker 5: level of my execution sometimes disqualifies me from being a visionary.
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  Speaker 5: Come on, And I'm okay with that because I know
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  Speaker 5: the truth of it now. And the truth is I
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  Speaker 5: am a dreamer. And it's okay if you're a dreamer,
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  Speaker 5: but you have to understand that your dream may be
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  Speaker 5: the execution of a visionary. And if your dream is
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  Speaker 5: execution of a visionary, it doesn't make you any less
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  Speaker 5: than a visionary because you're a dreamer. That's so good,
• 19:42
  Speaker 5: But you have to the only reason I said, back
• 19:44
  Speaker 5: to your point, Desiree, it gets murky. Being a dreamer
• 19:47
  Speaker 5: is because it's fun. It's fun to dream. It's so
• 19:53
  Speaker 5: fun to dreams, so fun to come up with what
• 19:55
  Speaker 5: could be, what could happen. And but visionaries are very intentful. Yeah,
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: because I'm not. I'm not dreaming. I'm executing what I
• 20:07
  Speaker 5: what I wrote down. And so I feel like the
• 20:12
  Speaker 5: difference between a visionary and a dreamer is that the
• 20:15
  Speaker 5: dreamer can take a vision and enhance it, but they
• 20:21
  Speaker 5: can't sometimes take the level of their own dream or
• 20:26
  Speaker 5: the dream and actually see it to fruition without a visionary.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: So do would you would you say that a dreamer
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: and a visionary need each other.
• 20:37
  Speaker 5: I'll tell you my wife and I I was about.
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: To say, that's the perfect example.
• 20:42
  Speaker 5: Shout out, shout out to my wife. Coach, defind me, doctor,
• 20:48
  Speaker 5: he found me, Mama. I told her, like, bro, what
• 20:54
  Speaker 5: is I told the other day? I was like, bro,
• 20:56
  Speaker 5: you say it cats, dogs, frog like universe, Bro, Like
• 21:00
  Speaker 5: she would be an avenger as possible. Different, She's definitely,
• 21:07
  Speaker 5: but she is a visionary.
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and.
• 21:11
  Speaker 5: I'm a dreamer. And I think that's why it works.
• 21:15
  Speaker 5: But there's a healthy level of balance that we give
• 21:18
  Speaker 5: each other, and then there's a healthy level of balance
• 21:22
  Speaker 5: that we have learned about each other over these last
• 21:25
  Speaker 5: you know, four or five years we've been together. And
• 21:29
  Speaker 5: I think that was probably the level of the definition
• 21:33
  Speaker 5: of how I found out the difference between a visionary
• 21:35
  Speaker 5: and the dreamer. Yeah, being married with her because well
• 21:40
  Speaker 5: married to her, because I saw the different levels of
• 21:44
  Speaker 5: how she moved and then the level of how I
• 21:47
  Speaker 5: could think of something. She was like, oh, yeah, let's
• 21:49
  Speaker 5: do that, and it would just keep enhancing. Thus the
• 21:52
  Speaker 5: link go to the link BHM dot com. All right,
• 21:57
  Speaker 5: So but we It started with just needing an office space,
• 22:02
  Speaker 5: and she just need an office space. And when we
• 22:05
  Speaker 5: walked in this spot where somebody's like, oh, well, there's
• 22:07
  Speaker 5: a building over here. So we went and looked at
• 22:08
  Speaker 5: the building. It's like, oh, we could put the office
• 22:10
  Speaker 5: right here. Oh we could do this, Oh we could
• 22:13
  Speaker 5: do that. Oh we could. Oh we could. Hey babe,
• 22:17
  Speaker 5: what if I Oh what if we? So because I'm
• 22:20
  Speaker 5: a fifty percent builder already, she's already like full visionary
• 22:25
  Speaker 5: slash builder, slash everything. So it was just like we
• 22:31
  Speaker 5: both understood what it took in process. But and I'll
• 22:35
  Speaker 5: say this about if you're a dreamer, it can be
• 22:40
  Speaker 5: frustrating because sometimes the level of patience it takes to
• 22:44
  Speaker 5: execute a vision lets it doesn't allow you to dream
• 22:49
  Speaker 5: as long as you would like to.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: That I was I was just thinking, I wonder if
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: you ever became intimidated by the level of vision of her,
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: can you tell me what does that look like? Because
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: this is not this is not a business partner, this
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: is not your friend. This is the lady that you
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: go to bed with at night. This is the lady
• 23:19
  Speaker 3: that you call your wife.
• 23:21
  Speaker 5: That's wife whole to death.
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: DU's part w h.
• 23:30
  Speaker 5: Whole, white, the whole. I think it was at first
• 23:37
  Speaker 5: because well actually at first, no, it wasn't because it
• 23:42
  Speaker 5: wasn't like we just was happy. We just with each other,
• 23:45
  Speaker 5: you know. It wasn't want no pressure. It was just
• 23:48
  Speaker 5: like using just in love and living life. I think
• 23:53
  Speaker 5: as I began to know more of how she moved,
• 23:56
  Speaker 5: I was like whoa.
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 23:59
  Speaker 5: Then I was like whoa, whoa. Then I was like Jesus.
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: But it was more because some people got social media busy,
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: but she be busy busy, like this ain't no joke at.
• 24:13
  Speaker 5: All, Like as we speak right now in twenty twenty six,
• 24:16
  Speaker 5: she's she's booked right now, watch this, bro who knows
• 24:22
  Speaker 5: in twenty seven.
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: I said, she'll play this. Ha, I know everything you said,
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: but I'm sitting here doing your pose text.
• 24:28
  Speaker 5: Okay, So there you go. That's a great example. So
• 24:31
  Speaker 5: that's one reason that I was kind of it. I
• 24:34
  Speaker 5: almost felt level of intimidation to a certain degree because
• 24:37
  Speaker 5: I was like, you can't really be doing that and
• 24:40
  Speaker 5: still listening to me and still like there's no way. Yeah,
• 24:43
  Speaker 5: but you execute a whole like website while you talk
• 24:48
  Speaker 5: to me, and you were engaged with me why you
• 24:52
  Speaker 5: do that?
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: Not normal?
• 24:53
  Speaker 5: Not normal. So it was intimidating to a certain degree
• 24:56
  Speaker 5: because I was like, Wow, she is really she's really something.
• 25:02
  Speaker 5: But then I had to learn to not let And
• 25:08
  Speaker 5: this is something that you guys should definitely like take in.
• 25:13
  Speaker 5: If you're around a visionary, they're not going to be
• 25:16
  Speaker 5: like you, and if you're a dreamer, they're not going
• 25:18
  Speaker 5: to be like you. But you can't allow the differences
• 25:22
  Speaker 5: to become places of where the enemy can call tools,
• 25:26
  Speaker 5: can cause tools and use it for spaces of division.
• 25:30
  Speaker 5: And I think that you have to be understanding of
• 25:35
  Speaker 5: whatever that person is like. However, you two guys work
• 25:40
  Speaker 5: in synergy. It's why it works, you know. And I
• 25:44
  Speaker 5: think that that's something that you have to understand at
• 25:50
  Speaker 5: a level that when you start something, you're able to
• 25:54
  Speaker 5: execute it in a way to where even if it
• 25:58
  Speaker 5: gets a little trepidous, I'm not too worried about it
• 26:01
  Speaker 5: because I know the other half of how I think
• 26:03
  Speaker 5: that's a full half over there, and maybe the other
• 26:06
  Speaker 5: half of how they think I'm a full way of
• 26:09
  Speaker 5: thinking over here. And it just helped. Like I said,
• 26:11
  Speaker 5: we're both builders. Back to the point of like building,
• 26:15
  Speaker 5: it was a level of just understanding that building takes time,
• 26:19
  Speaker 5: no matter what it is. Speaking to fitness, people don't
• 26:24
  Speaker 5: know I was two hundred and thirty pounds were I
• 26:27
  Speaker 5: was chubby? I was I looked full, but I was hungry.
• 26:30
  Speaker 5: That's crazy. You ain't never seen nobody like that. They
• 26:36
  Speaker 5: look full?
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: What you were always eating?
• 26:40
  Speaker 5: Bro bruh, always eating. But so it took time for
• 26:45
  Speaker 5: me to cut back down to what I am now.
• 26:49
  Speaker 5: And the crazy thing is, you couldn't have convinced me
• 26:52
  Speaker 5: it was possible at the time because I had totally
• 26:55
  Speaker 5: left fitness and I was in sales and marketing and
• 26:57
  Speaker 5: living in Memphis and Atlanta and all this other stuff.
• 26:59
  Speaker 5: So for me, that was a great lesson in just consistency,
• 27:05
  Speaker 5: every day consistency, every day, consistency every day. Which is
• 27:09
  Speaker 5: why my model this year is do the work, because
• 27:14
  Speaker 5: twenty five was a very revealing year for me, very revealing.
• 27:19
  Speaker 5: We had a bunch of wins, but I think that
• 27:23
  Speaker 5: for me there was a level of revealing of where
• 27:27
  Speaker 5: I got back into the dreamer a little bit too much,
• 27:33
  Speaker 5: in a level to where I had already built. So
• 27:36
  Speaker 5: now I get to go back and dream.
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because the dreamer is It sounds like to me
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: that you're saying the dreamer's bandwidth had you have to
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: train the dreamer to stretch the band with.
• 27:49
  Speaker 5: Well, actually, depending on the level of it, I would
• 27:52
  Speaker 5: say almost in reverse, you have to condense the bandwidth
• 27:56
  Speaker 5: of okay, okay, because anything is possible, anything can anything.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, So dreaming, dreaming, these boundaries.
• 28:04
  Speaker 5: That's why they have a lot of them need a
• 28:06
  Speaker 5: visionary because they don't They're not gonna write it. They
• 28:09
  Speaker 5: don't happen because the next day it may be something else.
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: So dera what what Okay?
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: We in this conversation.
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna bring her yeah, because it sounds like f'm
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: based on what he just said that Jessica is what
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: a dreamer? I'm a dreamer. I would say, you're a dream.
• 28:28
  Speaker 5: What song is that?
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: Kim?
• 28:32
  Speaker 5: That's Kim? That is Kim?
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: So you would you would put me in the in
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: the space of a dreamer and a builder. I would say,
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: you're it's kind of interesting. I think you you're a
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: little bit of all three. That's what That's what I'm
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: trying to figure out, because it's like I hear because
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: desil Ray has to she's my boundary person.
• 28:49
  Speaker 5: So here's the thing. There's no definitive way that we're born.
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so I was.
• 28:56
  Speaker 5: Love pops. I was forced to be a child. Labor
• 29:01
  Speaker 5: laws were not in effect when I was born nineteen hundreds, but.
• 29:05
  Speaker 4: Those skills today, right, Oh, But.
• 29:08
  Speaker 5: It taught me a discipline of just follow through and
• 29:11
  Speaker 5: focused that did not care about nothing like And that's
• 29:16
  Speaker 5: usually what comes with building, like it's going to be monotonous,
• 29:20
  Speaker 5: it's going to be mundane. You may have to take
• 29:23
  Speaker 5: it down and start again. But to give it up
• 29:26
  Speaker 5: it doesn't make sense because of what the external circumstances.
• 29:31
  Speaker 5: I remember one time and I hope my pot see
• 29:33
  Speaker 5: this right, but I was so y'all, I was so cold.
• 29:40
  Speaker 5: I thought my dad was half insane. I said, this
• 29:43
  Speaker 5: man's insane. Nobody would be out here in these levels
• 29:46
  Speaker 5: of weather. And I'm meant to say these levels okay
• 29:49
  Speaker 5: of weather all incorrect grammar, because that's how I felt.
• 29:53
  Speaker 5: I'm like that what is going? And I remember I
• 29:56
  Speaker 5: kept like just you know, shivering, and we had to
• 29:58
  Speaker 5: like calk a house built a house in the cocker
• 30:02
  Speaker 5: house man, and it was so cold and the house
• 30:04
  Speaker 5: was so big. I don't know if y'all can just
• 30:06
  Speaker 5: fathom in your mind, like look at the house and
• 30:09
  Speaker 5: then imagine calking. What is a little gun put in
• 30:14
  Speaker 5: the corners like to close the seams of you have
• 30:18
  Speaker 5: a little white strip you may see. Yeah, that's used
• 30:21
  Speaker 5: like a tube. It's called cocks Okay a U l K.
• 30:24
  Speaker 5: It comes this little gun and you spread in there.
• 30:26
  Speaker 5: Then they normally wipe it down right.
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: A house, the whole house, the whole house.
• 30:32
  Speaker 5: W h old hold the whole And I was so mad, bro,
• 30:43
  Speaker 5: I was seething. I was so mad. And he could
• 30:47
  Speaker 5: tell like my attitude is gone. And I was just like, man,
• 30:50
  Speaker 5: I'm just up there and he just was like he
• 30:53
  Speaker 5: and he my dad's very you know, very strict, like
• 30:57
  Speaker 5: he's military, old military. Was very you know, right to
• 31:00
  Speaker 5: the point. And he I remember, he just like chewed
• 31:02
  Speaker 5: me out. He was like, you you doing all that?
• 31:04
  Speaker 5: What's that for? What is it going to change? What
• 31:07
  Speaker 5: is it going to change? He said, is that going
• 31:09
  Speaker 5: to change the weather? Do we still have to cack
• 31:12
  Speaker 5: this house? Are you still going to cack this house?
• 31:15
  Speaker 5: What other choice you have? Is not going to calt itself?
• 31:19
  Speaker 5: We ain't even started and you already there man. I
• 31:22
  Speaker 5: remember then it was just like it was a mind shift.
• 31:25
  Speaker 5: It was like, bro, just do it. It just got
• 31:29
  Speaker 5: to do the work and it but my hands end
• 31:32
  Speaker 5: up getting like raw from like just doing. But I
• 31:34
  Speaker 5: remember the lesson in that, and I think that that
• 31:37
  Speaker 5: was a major lesson. That definitely one of the major
• 31:42
  Speaker 5: lessons Jesus that helped define that I did understand that
• 31:47
  Speaker 5: building takes time, and I wasn't afraid to do the
• 31:49
  Speaker 5: work in the level of what was necessary to build something.
• 31:54
  Speaker 5: But that's how I was brought up. But I told
• 31:56
  Speaker 5: you that I'm a dreamer because while I'm up there,
• 32:00
  Speaker 5: I'm thinking about other things. I'm thinking about, Man, one
• 32:04
  Speaker 5: day I could do this, or one day I could
• 32:06
  Speaker 5: do that, you know. And so I think that to
• 32:09
  Speaker 5: speak to what desire said, you may be a combination
• 32:13
  Speaker 5: of all three. I think the trick that it would
• 32:16
  Speaker 5: have to be for you is to know what season
• 32:18
  Speaker 5: you're in. I'm just gonna say that to make sure
• 32:21
  Speaker 5: that you're not wasting time or you're repeating cycle. So
• 32:26
  Speaker 5: that's what twenty five did for me. Twenty six would
• 32:29
  Speaker 5: have been a repeated cycle if I would have kept
• 32:31
  Speaker 5: falling down the dreamer hole.
• 32:34
  Speaker 4: That's right.
• 32:36
  Speaker 5: But I'm I'm a visionary too to a certain degree.
• 32:40
  Speaker 5: But my wife is so freaking strong in her vision
• 32:43
  Speaker 5: and at our goals aligned. I think that's the great
• 32:45
  Speaker 5: thing about being able to offload the level of having
• 32:49
  Speaker 5: to be all three. Yeah, because if I have to
• 32:52
  Speaker 5: be all three, then I'm usually thirty three percent thirty
• 32:54
  Speaker 5: three percent. So dreamer only gets thirty three percent build
• 32:59
  Speaker 5: her on against thirty percent visionari is get thirty three.
• 33:02
  Speaker 5: But if you're fifty percent dream of fifty percent builder,
• 33:07
  Speaker 5: and then you got one hundred percent visionary, Oh man,
• 33:10
  Speaker 5: actually you at one hundred percent, I'm at one one Yeah,
• 33:14
  Speaker 5: I'm at two hundred percent.
• 33:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 33:16
  Speaker 5: So I think that understanding that what you got to say,
• 33:19
  Speaker 5: I just want to say what I'm what I'm.
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: What I'm thinking about is why it's so important to
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: who you're connected to, But why like, like you know,
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: being married to the right person matters, Why being in
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: the right business ships, business ships matter Because I'm just
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: thinking about like the dynamics of you guys. I'm thinking
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: about the dynamics me and Jess, even the dynamics gonna
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: be my guy, like come in. It's it's so dope,
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: because if I'm honest, I dream a little bit. But
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: as I'm sitting here and just kind of thinking, like
• 33:53
  Speaker 3: I'm almost I think I've been afraid to dream and
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: be a visionary because of the level of responsibility. Like
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: I was telling somebody today literally, she's like, so have
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: you written down your dream? I hardly ever do goals
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: for the year.
• 34:08
  Speaker 5: I'm doing that now.
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: I hardly ever do goals for the year. I just
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: go into the year and I just do the thing
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: because I'm a builder, like, I just do the things
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: that comes up that needs to be done. And so
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: as I'm sitting here thinking about it, it's We're able.
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: We're able to do and be who God has called
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: us to be fully when we're connected to the right people. Yeah,
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: trust them with They're part of the plan to you
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. So it's so cool because I
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: think who you are is already there, but now who
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: you're connected to, it's really pulling it out, it's really
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: enhancing it. Yes, yeah, so good.
• 34:43
  Speaker 5: That's another thing I think that I found out about
• 34:47
  Speaker 5: myself that I had to be okay with is that
• 34:50
  Speaker 5: I wasn't going to always be the full visionary. Yeah,
• 34:54
  Speaker 5: I'm okay with that. Now. I haven't always been okay
• 34:57
  Speaker 5: with that because sometimes it left like a strong visionary
• 35:00
  Speaker 5: can make you feel inferious. Yeah, because it makes you
• 35:04
  Speaker 5: feel like, oh, there's only one way. Yea, they carry
• 35:07
  Speaker 5: there is no way. It's the way that's written here,
• 35:10
  Speaker 5: you know.
• 35:11
  Speaker 6: But I think for me ingle sorry, I'm sorry, she
• 35:20
  Speaker 6: got she got jingle bell socks on and I shake
• 35:23
  Speaker 6: my lesk O, yeah, jingle bell.
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry. I know y'all heard that in the mic.
• 35:36
  Speaker 3: It's a nervous thing. She's excited, like, who, I want
• 35:40
  Speaker 3: another turn? Let me speak again.
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: I want to who. I love this conversation.
• 35:46
  Speaker 5: I need a nervous I want one.
• 35:49
  Speaker 4: I'm I'm so sorry I want one.
• 35:57
  Speaker 5: But I think that you know, I learned that I
• 36:01
  Speaker 5: am an enhancer to a visionary. Come on, I can
• 36:04
  Speaker 5: enhance anything. Listen, come on, don't get me around a
• 36:08
  Speaker 5: good visionary. Listen a whole bunch.
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: Of stuff, because the enhancer is always needed. Now I
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: knew I was that. I didn't think of myself as
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: the builder. I've never considered myself as a builder. Now,
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: the Lord, even with this our motto, is creating safe
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: spaces for influencers, Decompress, Halflin and just As and I
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: was like, I was asking the Lord one day. I
• 36:29
  Speaker 3: was like, God, it seems like I'm trying to be
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: an influencer and you want me to do this. You
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: want me to show up here, and it's just not
• 36:36
  Speaker 3: moving away, you know what I'm saying. And the Lord
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: was like, but I called you to influence the influencer.
• 36:43
  Speaker 5: And so that's good.
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: I said, Okay, because you keep sending me to people
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: aka Tabitha Brown right twice. You keep sending me to
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: people like Britta Tabor right. You might not know her,
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: but she is phenomenal fire. Okay. You keep sending me
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: to people like David Shan. You keep sending me to
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: these great people, but I'm not. I'm the one. I'm not.
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: Just say sleep, Sleep is the suckers.
• 37:14
  Speaker 4: He don't believe that, no more.
• 37:16
  Speaker 5: He don't.
• 37:16
  Speaker 4: Okay, that's why that's why he changes Instagram.
• 37:19
  Speaker 5: That's how far back I do.
• 37:22
  Speaker 4: Yeah, David, he goes to bed.
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: He's a little bit too old not to be sleeping. Okay,
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: so he does not believe it. Please go to bed,
• 37:32
  Speaker 3: get your wrists. But no, so it correlates to me
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: for for me personally, because that when the Lord was like,
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: create this community. Shout out to the safe space community.
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: We love you guys, nineteen dollars a month on Patreon.
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: We meet every Monday, shameless plug. But when we were
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: growing this thing, we were building this thing literally, I
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: didn't want to do it for one with because of
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: the responsibility too. I was like, who am I help?
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: And who am I call to help? He says, you
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: help the builders, But it's like, Lord, how can I
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: help the builder? And I don't build like that? So
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: there was those kind of that type of dialogue, like God,
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: how can I help somebody with finances? And I mean.
• 38:15
  Speaker 4: Like it's kind of like something like that.
• 38:18
  Speaker 3: But the Lord is also teaching me, I'm gracing you.
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: If I'm calling you to these people, then obviously you
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: have to be the example, and I'm gonna make you
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: the example in front of them. I think that's the
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: biggest thing. Some of us are not prepared to be
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: the example out loud. That's heavy, Like if we really
• 38:39
  Speaker 3: think about it, we're not prepared to be exemple at
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: the example the living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God,
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: unto God, not man, because man would tell us we
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: have to have it together, we have to build the block,
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: but not for certain not for chosen people, chosen people
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: that He's gonna be like, No, I want you to
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: do this out loud. I want you to fail out loud.
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: I want you to break down out loud. I want
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: you to demolish yourself. I want to demolish the building.
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: I want to uplift the building. I want I want
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: you to do all these things in front of everybody.
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: And you're like, but god, now I feel crazy. Now
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: are they really gonna are gonna believe what's going on?
• 39:20
  Speaker 3: And so I don't want to miss this point though,
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: because you're bringing up a lot of people and one
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: of my favorite lessons from you, when I tell you this,
• 39:29
  Speaker 3: this lesson, just I feel like, yeah, real bad. The
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: biggest lesson I learned from you and that I'm taking
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: with me in my building season is knowing the people.
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: Not only knowing the people I'm connected to, but having
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: them in the right circumference.
• 39:50
  Speaker 5: Oh yeah, that was good.
• 39:53
  Speaker 3: Can we talk about that?
• 39:54
  Speaker 5: Man? I forgot about that.
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: What it was?
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: It was? It Darwin's what dunbar dumbar, dumbbar Dunbar's number,
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: learn us something real quick.
• 40:05
  Speaker 5: All right, all right, all right, So I like to
• 40:09
  Speaker 5: study about the mind and all that good stuff because
• 40:12
  Speaker 5: I like to say our relationships in psychology and different
• 40:14
  Speaker 5: things work. So Dunbar's number is Dunbar was a psychologist.
• 40:18
  Speaker 5: I forgot his first name, but he came up with
• 40:20
  Speaker 5: this number. And I think the number. Don't quote me,
• 40:23
  Speaker 5: but you can go look it up. It's I think
• 40:25
  Speaker 5: it's like one fifty one fifty. And it is in
• 40:30
  Speaker 5: our mental capacity to recognize, like physically and just like
• 40:35
  Speaker 5: know people like one hundred and fifty people we can
• 40:37
  Speaker 5: automatically recognize just from social media, the exposure of technology
• 40:42
  Speaker 5: and how vast it is. We're very quick to like
• 40:44
  Speaker 5: we can. You probably if we just sat here in
• 40:47
  Speaker 5: grillt you could probably name off one hundred and fifty people.
• 40:49
  Speaker 5: If somebody read off one hundred and fifty people, you
• 40:51
  Speaker 5: would know what they look like, You would know whether
• 40:54
  Speaker 5: you do. The brain has like sort of adapted to that.
• 40:58
  Speaker 5: So where the danger comes in is that there is
• 41:03
  Speaker 5: a level of circumference that only should and I'm paraphrasing
• 41:08
  Speaker 5: this whole thing just what Tom saying, But there's only
• 41:12
  Speaker 5: a select number that should have access to the most
• 41:17
  Speaker 5: important thing in your life. And hear me on this,
• 41:22
  Speaker 5: because if you understand this, you will understand so much
• 41:26
  Speaker 5: about why sometimes you may fall into a depression or
• 41:30
  Speaker 5: why you may feel this way about a person. It's
• 41:34
  Speaker 5: only a select few, and that numbers five. Only five
• 41:37
  Speaker 5: people should have access to the small circle of circumference,
• 41:41
  Speaker 5: where in that circumference of a circle, there's a little dot,
• 41:45
  Speaker 5: and that dot you draw a line out to the
• 41:47
  Speaker 5: side and you can write out the need and feeling
• 41:51
  Speaker 5: to belong. And so what happens is, because we're able
• 41:57
  Speaker 5: to socially recognize one hundred and fifty people, we want
• 42:01
  Speaker 5: one hundred and fifty people to accept us. I want
• 42:05
  Speaker 5: one hundred and fifty plus people to like me. And
• 42:08
  Speaker 5: then you see other people who are adored by thousands,
• 42:13
  Speaker 5: hundreds of thousands, ten thousands, sometimes millions the world, and
• 42:17
  Speaker 5: you can recognize at least one hundred and fifty of them,
• 42:20
  Speaker 5: but you feel like they don't accept you. And so
• 42:25
  Speaker 5: in that lesson, what I've learned is that I have
• 42:29
  Speaker 5: to really define the level of the five and be
• 42:33
  Speaker 5: very careful about unveiling that small circumference. Even though I
• 42:37
  Speaker 5: recognize a bunch, I see a bunch. We live in
• 42:39
  Speaker 5: a very you know, exposed world. There's nothing you can't
• 42:43
  Speaker 5: find out, there's nothing you won't see. But none of
• 42:46
  Speaker 5: it has to do with my five because I don't
• 42:51
  Speaker 5: have to care if they accept or feel a way
• 42:54
  Speaker 5: about me. If I know, I'm getting a certain level
• 42:57
  Speaker 5: of stability, like consistency, positivity, and there's one more I'm missing,
• 43:04
  Speaker 5: but it's like four root things that you get from
• 43:06
  Speaker 5: those five. And when those five are able to supply that,
• 43:12
  Speaker 5: it satiates your feeling to belong, so you don't carry
• 43:17
  Speaker 5: too much the weight of not being accepted by the
• 43:21
  Speaker 5: one hundred and fifty that you can automatically recognize. And
• 43:25
  Speaker 5: I think for me that was such an eye opener
• 43:27
  Speaker 5: because we all need affirmation, we all need that level
• 43:34
  Speaker 5: of acceptance. But there is a finite detail of how
• 43:42
  Speaker 5: you have to protect your need and feeling to belong,
• 43:48
  Speaker 5: because that is the most sacred thing that you can
• 43:51
  Speaker 5: carry with you as a person, because no one wants
• 43:54
  Speaker 5: to leave this world feeling as if they did not matter,
• 43:58
  Speaker 5: which means they will go to major extremes to make
• 44:01
  Speaker 5: you notice them, or they will go to such depths
• 44:06
  Speaker 5: of lack of self worth that they will destroy or
• 44:08
  Speaker 5: take their own life. So I think that there's a
• 44:13
  Speaker 5: level of learning that I had to sort of develop
• 44:17
  Speaker 5: because I love people. I love you know, I love joy,
• 44:22
  Speaker 5: I love being around folks. And when it started to
• 44:27
  Speaker 5: mess with my level of self worth is when I
• 44:30
  Speaker 5: had to start doing some more research of like, why
• 44:32
  Speaker 5: are you such a people pleaser?
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 44:34
  Speaker 5: Why do you care so much about what they think?
• 44:37
  Speaker 5: And truth be told is because I love joy, I
• 44:40
  Speaker 5: love bringing happiness to others. But also in doing and
• 44:44
  Speaker 5: growing and even doing research and finding out about Dunbar's number,
• 44:49
  Speaker 5: it was understanding that, hey, that's because you're willing to
• 44:52
  Speaker 5: give at least one hundred and fifty people. Hey do
• 44:55
  Speaker 5: I belong with y'all?
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 44:57
  Speaker 5: All right, cool, then I'm gonna make one hundred and
• 44:59
  Speaker 5: fifty people feel good. That's not healthy because the moment
• 45:03
  Speaker 5: they cut the lamp off, you in a dart. But
• 45:06
  Speaker 5: for me, I think that now I carry that candle
• 45:09
  Speaker 5: very close as to make sure I protect it. And
• 45:13
  Speaker 5: I would encourage anybody who's trying to build anything that
• 45:17
  Speaker 5: the first thing you have to do is find out
• 45:19
  Speaker 5: what that level of circumference looks. Like for you and
• 45:23
  Speaker 5: sometimes here, here's the here's the here's the here's a shocker.
• 45:26
  Speaker 5: Sometimes they're not the ones that you grew up in
• 45:28
  Speaker 5: the house with you.
• 45:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah, they ain't.
• 45:30
  Speaker 5: They ain't just start there just it's and it's not
• 45:36
  Speaker 5: that's necessarily a bad thing. You just have to define
• 45:40
  Speaker 5: it for you. Yeah, And I think because here's the thing,
• 45:43
  Speaker 5: there's so many times we see in the world where
• 45:46
  Speaker 5: people are taken out by the ones that were closest
• 45:47
  Speaker 5: to them, how because there were signs and different things
• 45:51
  Speaker 5: that they were showing you and you decided to leave
• 45:54
  Speaker 5: them in your five instead of cast them to the
• 45:56
  Speaker 5: one fifty. So for me, I've I'm learning even more
• 46:02
  Speaker 5: especially this year six. For me, like I said, my
• 46:05
  Speaker 5: mottol is do the work. And I think that for
• 46:08
  Speaker 5: me it helps protect a level because I still deep
• 46:12
  Speaker 5: down want everyone to get their goals and if there's
• 46:16
  Speaker 5: any way I could help or want, you know, I
• 46:19
  Speaker 5: kind of that's that's what I want. But life doesn't
• 46:22
  Speaker 5: do it that way. Life like calls you this way
• 46:26
  Speaker 5: sometimes and you cannot go and stay with that person
• 46:29
  Speaker 5: due to a level of false sense of loyalty or
• 46:32
  Speaker 5: well they always been here, they always been this, and
• 46:34
  Speaker 5: this is how you can know that your five is changing.
• 46:37
  Speaker 5: I'll give you an example is when you start to
• 46:39
  Speaker 5: talk about your dreams.
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 46:40
  Speaker 5: Or you start to hang around visionaries and you start
• 46:43
  Speaker 5: to kind of move like you have vision, like you
• 46:46
  Speaker 5: have purpose, and you start to really like put something
• 46:49
  Speaker 5: together and they start to ridicule what you're building. They
• 46:51
  Speaker 5: start to joke on the dream, they start to you know,
• 46:55
  Speaker 5: cast down the vision.
• 46:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 46:57
  Speaker 5: And at some point you can laugh with them, or
• 47:01
  Speaker 5: you can understand that now there has to be a separation, yeah,
• 47:04
  Speaker 5: Or you can choose to how can too, Like the
• 47:09
  Speaker 5: Bible says, how can two walk together? Except they agree?
• 47:11
  Speaker 3: Agree?
• 47:11
  Speaker 5: And I think for me, because I was a dreamer,
• 47:15
  Speaker 5: I was always trying to evolve, and it caused me
• 47:18
  Speaker 5: to sort of lose a lot of those that when
• 47:22
  Speaker 5: we were here, yes, that was my dream, Yeah, and
• 47:26
  Speaker 5: you were the visionary of that and I enhanced it
• 47:28
  Speaker 5: and we were great and that was great. But before
• 47:32
  Speaker 5: Dunbar's number, I would I didn't even know that. As
• 47:35
  Speaker 5: I evolved, I kept trying to jump back and go
• 47:38
  Speaker 5: back and get this relationship. And a lot of us
• 47:41
  Speaker 5: sometimes end up in cycles. Not because God isn't given
• 47:45
  Speaker 5: us visions because we are a hop skipping and jumping
• 47:48
  Speaker 5: back to get back to the connection of where we
• 47:51
  Speaker 5: felt good about, that connection of the dream and the
• 47:54
  Speaker 5: friend that we talked about in the times we had.
• 47:57
  Speaker 5: And that's some of the toughest things, man, It's some
• 48:00
  Speaker 5: of the toughest thing is to leave a person when
• 48:03
  Speaker 5: you make sometimes those those lifelong connections and you're like, yo,
• 48:08
  Speaker 5: you know you don't cry with that person. You don't.
• 48:10
  Speaker 5: You donet been there, they ain't been there for you.
• 48:13
  Speaker 5: But it's time.
• 48:14
  Speaker 3: It is time.
• 48:16
  Speaker 5: And what's crazy is you can keep missing time and
• 48:18
  Speaker 5: miss your time. And I think for me, it's a
• 48:23
  Speaker 5: level of maturity that comes with not reacting out of
• 48:28
  Speaker 5: your emotions. It's real easy to stay in your emotions
• 48:32
  Speaker 5: about the relationship that you You will literally sit on
• 48:38
  Speaker 5: a vision. You will cast down to the dream and
• 48:42
  Speaker 5: you won't build anything for the sake of the emotion
• 48:46
  Speaker 5: that you can't take because of a separation. But there's
• 48:51
  Speaker 5: a scripture that comes to mind that the Bible says
• 48:54
  Speaker 5: he who is in Christ is a new creature, and
• 48:57
  Speaker 5: all the old things are as the way, and everything
• 49:01
  Speaker 5: becomes new. And I feel like the more we give
• 49:03
  Speaker 5: ourselves to Christ, the more He enhances our vision. And
• 49:06
  Speaker 5: the more He enhances our vision, the more the old
• 49:09
  Speaker 5: relationships become old. Come on, the old ways of doing
• 49:13
  Speaker 5: things become old, come old. The old cycles of how
• 49:15
  Speaker 5: you handle things become old. And that's kind of why
• 49:18
  Speaker 5: I think I'm more so now. I've always been a
• 49:21
  Speaker 5: very jokester type of like I'm gonna make everybody laugh
• 49:29
  Speaker 5: and different things. So for me, I think it's been
• 49:31
  Speaker 5: a hard shift for me to just commit to doing
• 49:34
  Speaker 5: the work. And that's because I feel like there's a
• 49:39
  Speaker 5: level of evolution that comes with what comes next for
• 49:45
  Speaker 5: what God wants for me, And it's my job to
• 49:49
  Speaker 5: not lose all the charisma or the natural way that
• 49:53
  Speaker 5: I am, but to find a balance in it that
• 49:55
  Speaker 5: I can become. What if this season is causing me
• 49:58
  Speaker 5: to be seventy five percent builder? I told you in
• 50:01
  Speaker 5: the beginning, twenty five ersa, heya, you dream a little
• 50:03
  Speaker 5: too much?
• 50:04
  Speaker 6: Yeah?
• 50:04
  Speaker 5: Hey, yeah, you dreaming? Hey? Who who whoa whoa whoa whoa?
• 50:07
  Speaker 5: Hey Hey, hey, you know. And I think that for
• 50:11
  Speaker 5: me twenty five as many wins as I've had just
• 50:15
  Speaker 5: throughout life, I've had so many different sort of lessons.
• 50:19
  Speaker 5: I'm not gonna say losses. I like to say lessons.
• 50:21
  Speaker 5: I've had so many lessons that look like losses. But
• 50:24
  Speaker 5: now where I am today, I believe that there's another
• 50:30
  Speaker 5: unveiling of almost like a cocoon, and whatever phase is coming,
• 50:35
  Speaker 5: that's neackt. That causes me to have to make sure
• 50:38
  Speaker 5: I guard my five. Yeah, I don't care too much
• 50:41
  Speaker 5: about the one fifty. Yeah, I don't give too much
• 50:44
  Speaker 5: into what is comfortable for me for dreaming. But I
• 50:48
  Speaker 5: may have to give more to the vision, give more
• 50:50
  Speaker 5: to being the builder. And that's okay too, because you're,
• 50:55
  Speaker 5: like I said in earlier, you're not just defined when
• 50:58
  Speaker 5: you are born as all right, visionary dreamer make that
• 51:05
  Speaker 5: on a builder like that's it doesn't it doesn't matter.
• 51:08
  Speaker 5: You can literally become whatever because of the Bible says
• 51:11
  Speaker 5: I can do what all things through Christ. That's the key,
• 51:16
  Speaker 5: through Christ, who strengthens me. And I feel like when
• 51:19
  Speaker 5: we carry and we start to do things through our
• 51:20
  Speaker 5: own strength, that's when we start to lose the level
• 51:23
  Speaker 5: of how we start to get the evolution of what
• 51:27
  Speaker 5: comes next, because now we're just we're just doing whatever
• 51:30
  Speaker 5: we feel like and I think so I've been there before,
• 51:33
  Speaker 5: so now it's like, yo, stay all the way around
• 51:38
  Speaker 5: the five, do the work, and now become what is
• 51:42
  Speaker 5: calling you to the next level, yeah, versus what's comfortable
• 51:46
  Speaker 5: for you. And I think that that's kind of where
• 51:49
  Speaker 5: my focus has been and where it will be from
• 51:52
  Speaker 5: you know this point out.
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, when I tell you that, that was a pivotal
• 51:56
  Speaker 3: moment for me in twenty twenty five, I had, you know,
• 52:01
  Speaker 3: they know my business, not as deeply as you know it,
• 52:04
  Speaker 3: but you know details facts, so we know the relationship
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: that I, you know, removed myself from and that I
• 52:18
  Speaker 3: had put him in the five. And when I removed
• 52:23
  Speaker 3: him not knowing this concept, you know, hearing that gave
• 52:28
  Speaker 3: me language and I didn't hear a builder build until
• 52:33
  Speaker 3: I was removed. I had removed him from my five.
• 52:38
  Speaker 3: That was blocking my hearing for my next And it's
• 52:43
  Speaker 3: no shame, no harm, no foul. However, that's the I
• 52:50
  Speaker 3: feel like if I didn't, I would have continued to
• 52:54
  Speaker 3: feel bad. I like they they are very guilty because
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: you know, people be making you trying to feel guilty
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: because you growing.
• 53:03
  Speaker 5: And but that's a whole nother almost head butted his MC.
• 53:06
  Speaker 5: I don't know how much. You know how much it
• 53:08
  Speaker 5: costs listen, bro.
• 53:11
  Speaker 3: It's money spent in BGCV. Okay, money was spent, kidd.
• 53:16
  Speaker 3: But I didn't know that the language would free me
• 53:20
  Speaker 3: from the guilt, wow, of the responsibility of holding somebody
• 53:23
  Speaker 3: that didn't belong in my FID.
• 53:26
  Speaker 5: That's a blessing, man.
• 53:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so that lesson. I be evaluate my five all
• 53:31
  Speaker 3: the time, you.
• 53:32
  Speaker 5: Know why, because I don't like, you know, sometimes I've
• 53:37
  Speaker 5: I don't feel I think that's what makes God so amazing,
• 53:40
  Speaker 5: because like when you get to a certain place, you
• 53:43
  Speaker 5: understand that it's not you and the knowledge or whatever
• 53:46
  Speaker 5: like anybody, but in whatever God gives you in that moment,
• 53:49
  Speaker 5: you may not understand it, but it's our job to
• 53:52
  Speaker 5: release it because you never know who is for Yeah,
• 53:55
  Speaker 5: and it actually grows you because there's a level of
• 53:58
  Speaker 5: not even sure how this works. And but it's it's
• 54:01
  Speaker 5: a blessing to hear that. I'm glad that that happened
• 54:04
  Speaker 5: for you, because yeah, I think that that's what a
• 54:07
  Speaker 5: lot of people struggle with. Yeah, I struggle with it, camera,
• 54:12
  Speaker 5: I definitely struggle with it.
• 54:14
  Speaker 3: For she was over the dreaming. I was looking dead
• 54:19
  Speaker 3: at you over that dreaming. And I know the audience
• 54:25
  Speaker 3: is like, but he's talking you like he's talking. I
• 54:29
  Speaker 3: can't see him.
• 54:33
  Speaker 4: Looked over that like.
• 54:38
  Speaker 3: Over that dreaming.
• 54:42
  Speaker 5: It gets it gets murky man when you start to
• 54:47
  Speaker 5: when you start to really uh have to start to
• 54:50
  Speaker 5: replace your five. Yeah, that junk is hurt.
• 54:53
  Speaker 3: It hurts almost like the n b A. Like folks
• 54:58
  Speaker 3: lose contracts all the time, but or they retired.
• 55:01
  Speaker 5: Buddy, you're retired, or I go ahead and force you
• 55:03
  Speaker 5: into retirement. You just kept you just kept you just
• 55:07
  Speaker 5: kept cutting up on tea. Yeah, And I think that
• 55:09
  Speaker 5: is something that you have to look at if you can,
• 55:12
  Speaker 5: because here's the thing, like, once you condense it down
• 55:16
  Speaker 5: to at least five, you're able to kind of see
• 55:20
  Speaker 5: a little bit more clearly what affects you outside of
• 55:26
  Speaker 5: like mass hysteria. Yeah, fame, fortune, money, like popularity. These
• 55:32
  Speaker 5: are the things that people want, you know, and me,
• 55:36
  Speaker 5: me being one of them. I always wanted when I
• 55:39
  Speaker 5: when I was coming up, I want to be famous
• 55:40
  Speaker 5: when I want to do this and so much I
• 55:43
  Speaker 5: want it in the world. But I think that came
• 55:46
  Speaker 5: from mass hysteria. And what I mean by that mass
• 55:48
  Speaker 5: hysteria is like it came from the masses, being like,
• 55:52
  Speaker 5: if everyone knows you, then you're somebody.
• 55:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 55:54
  Speaker 5: If if everyone likes you, then you somebody. If you
• 55:58
  Speaker 5: can do this and everybody claps in your somebody. So
• 56:00
  Speaker 5: I think that for me, it's been a level of
• 56:02
  Speaker 5: understanding the fund to mental excuse me, fundamental action of
• 56:08
  Speaker 5: less is more, Yeah, and especially when it comes to
• 56:13
  Speaker 5: matters of the heart. Less is definitely more when it
• 56:17
  Speaker 5: comes to matters of the heart, because if too many
• 56:19
  Speaker 5: people have access to your heart. There's a scripture that
• 56:21
  Speaker 5: I love and I think that it's amazing because I've
• 56:27
  Speaker 5: not executed and I have executed it, and I've seen
• 56:29
  Speaker 5: the results of not doing it and executing it, which
• 56:32
  Speaker 5: is guard your heart above all, like guard your heart
• 56:37
  Speaker 5: with due diligence, for out of it flows the issues
• 56:40
  Speaker 5: of life above all. Guard your heart with due diligence,
• 56:43
  Speaker 5: because out of it flows the issues of life. And
• 56:46
  Speaker 5: when you look at due diligence in the world, it's
• 56:48
  Speaker 5: a very strict and critiquing, like long, sometimes excruciating process
• 56:54
  Speaker 5: because they really go through a lot, right, and I
• 56:56
  Speaker 5: think we let too many people pass that do deal
• 57:00
  Speaker 5: leigence process, and we let them judge our process based
• 57:04
  Speaker 5: off I mean, you acting like I'm trying to and
• 57:06
  Speaker 5: you acting like I'm I'm doing due diligence. I can't
• 57:09
  Speaker 5: just let you into my heart because the Bible says
• 57:12
  Speaker 5: that the heart of man is deceitfully wicked. Who knows
• 57:14
  Speaker 5: it but God who knows it. And I think that
• 57:17
  Speaker 5: when you start to look at that, you don't you
• 57:19
  Speaker 5: don't walk around be an apprehensive of relationships, so you're
• 57:22
  Speaker 5: not open to relationships, but you're very careful about the
• 57:25
  Speaker 5: ones you connect your heart with. Yea, because that's I
• 57:27
  Speaker 5: think it's Desrael was saying. It's it's very important when
• 57:30
  Speaker 5: you when you understand who you are, Like I said,
• 57:33
  Speaker 5: we talked about the Big three today, you know, visionary, builder, dreamer.
• 57:37
  Speaker 5: When you start to really understand the gift that God
• 57:40
  Speaker 5: has given you in each one, whether you you all three,
• 57:43
  Speaker 5: whether you're one singularly or you know you're two, or
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  Speaker 5: whatever the case may be, you start to understand the
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  Speaker 5: power of connection and how that can move a thing
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  Speaker 5: forward in a level of a pace where it's like wow.
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  Speaker 5: And I think that that's what the great ones do,
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  Speaker 5: even sometimes outside of God, like they look for, Okay,
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  Speaker 5: who can do this extremely well? I do this extremely well?
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  Speaker 5: Who can do this extremely well? I'm not even gonna
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  Speaker 5: worry about this part. I'm gonna just go ahead and
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  Speaker 5: delegate that there, and they do it based off of
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  Speaker 5: the strength of that person or how that person operates
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  Speaker 5: and moves. And I think when we're talking about, like
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  Speaker 5: you said, twenty six a year to build it, right,
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  Speaker 5: you're talking about building something in this year, be very
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  Speaker 5: particular about in whom you build it with and what
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  Speaker 5: they're bringing, not like beating them over the head with it.
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  Speaker 5: If you ain't like why you ain't do this, But
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  Speaker 5: it's more so all right, I trust you with that
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  Speaker 5: because we need both of these wheels to keep rolling.
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  Speaker 5: And I'm only fifty percent here or I'm only seventy
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  Speaker 5: five percent here, but I know you got one hundred
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  Speaker 5: over here. And I think that if you want to
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  Speaker 5: be successful in building something, the greatest thing you can
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  Speaker 5: have starting out is that level of patience understanding that
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  Speaker 5: it's going to take time, and being understanding of that
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  Speaker 5: puts you in a level to where you're not in
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  Speaker 5: comparison to what else is being erected besides you, and
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  Speaker 5: what else is happening here and what the one fifty
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  Speaker 5: are doing? Because I'm only connected to.
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  Speaker 3: Like to these five, these five, right, I think this
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  Speaker 3: was all of this was needed and I knew I
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  Speaker 3: heard the Lord tell me, Hey, you gotta have coach
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  Speaker 3: j D for the first one desire. I love to
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  Speaker 3: hear your thoughts before we wind down because our bg
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  Speaker 3: TV brother is out here, like when y'all gonna get
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  Speaker 3: done now, this is this is very good. I just
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  Speaker 3: keep you hearing the Lord, Bill build a bill. And
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  Speaker 3: I think it's just important. I think as we as
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  Speaker 3: this is the beginning of the year, is that you
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  Speaker 3: really seek the Lord on where do you follow in
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  Speaker 3: these three Because if you're going to be building, you
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  Speaker 3: have to make sure you're building in the right spaces
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  Speaker 3: with the right people the right way way because language matters,
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  Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. So when you understand who
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  Speaker 3: you are and what you call to do, I'm a builder, right,
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  Speaker 3: I'm okay with that, So let me build. You know
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  Speaker 3: what I'm saying. If you're a visionary, be okay with that.
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  Speaker 3: Write the vision, make it clear, make it plain so
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  Speaker 3: that those so that they can run with it. I'm day.
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  Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: I need I need the instructions.
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  Speaker 6: So this was so good.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you coach j D for uh for coming in
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  Speaker 3: and disgracing us with this wisdom. Man, It's always it's
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  Speaker 3: always like that's what I'm saying. That's why I got
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 3: caught up. I was over here. I was just like,
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 3: I mean, she just she so good. I'm like, bro,
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  Speaker 3: she forgot that she was producing. And I'm seeing my
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  Speaker 3: face and I was like, I'll be trying to have
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  Speaker 3: real moments. But they know, they already know, like I'm
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  Speaker 3: just gonna.
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  Speaker 5: Like she is.
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  Speaker 3: They socks, they socks, their socks. Man. So I know
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  Speaker 3: we've talked about several things, all in the concept of
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  Speaker 3: building and making sure we have the right relational circumference
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  Speaker 3: for building. But if they didn't hear, I know, you
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  Speaker 3: a profit. So I don't know if you came in
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  Speaker 3: here with a word or if you just want to
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 3: land a plane and make sure they hurt something that
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 3: you said the floor is yours. You speak to that
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  Speaker 3: camera right now.
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  Speaker 5: I would like to say this, and I said all
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  Speaker 5: the time, and I think sometimes I forget it. But
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  Speaker 5: as this year is upon you upon us. I want
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  Speaker 5: to encourage you with this statement. I can't actually remember
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  Speaker 5: when I heard it, but I hope that it speaks
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  Speaker 5: to you. We all have our own journey, and right
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 5: now you're on your journey. But I'm telling you this,
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  Speaker 5: Who you become on your way to achieving the goal
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  Speaker 5: during your journey, it's far more important than achieving the
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 5: goal itself. I'm gonna let that's it. Who you become
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 5: on your way to achieving your goals while you are
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 5: on your journey is far more important than attaining the
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 5: dream and the goal itself. What profit is the man
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 5: to gain the whole world and lose his soul. Don't
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 5: lose your soul for the things that you're trying to
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 5: work for. Enjoy the journey, enjoy the ride, and become
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 5: the best internal person that you can be that God
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  Speaker 5: can be proud of, so that the blessings of the
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  Speaker 5: Lord will make you meggar rich, but it won't bring
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  Speaker 5: no sorrow.
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  Speaker 3: That's it, Amen, Amen, y'all, this is I hope you've
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  Speaker 3: gotten your first word of the year all right over here,
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 3: just as we are, folks, is on build or build? Okay,
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 3: And if you want a journey with us. I want
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 3: to take this opportunity to invite you to the Safe Space.
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 3: The link is in the bio the information below nineteen
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  Speaker 3: dollars of like you do that in food, Starbucks fuel.
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  Speaker 3: Some of y'all need to stay at home and focus
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 3: on building, like like just the gag, just the gag.
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 3: You want to be around some builders this season, I
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 3: want to invite you to that space. We're meeting every
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 3: Monday via Zoom, but we have a family chat on Patreon.
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 3: It's been phenomenal, Okay, But I also want you to
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 3: know that people like Coach J. D. Funby are accessible
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 3: to the community like that. Right, So doctor D. Funby
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 3: has already talked to us. I know, I'm pretty sure
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 3: if I call him and say, hey, the Lord put
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 3: you on my heart, that's gonna be the people that
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna bring him to, right And so I'm pulling
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 3: I'm pulling him in before I know. I already got
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 3: a yes. Because I'm family.
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 4: I know I gotta yet, I just gotta go at
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 4: the right time.
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  Speaker 1: So, if you're on this journey of building, if you
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 1: need community, the Safe Space is a great community for you.
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 3: But Coach J. A. D. I want to say thank
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 3: you so much. It's just been an honor and a
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 3: pleasure and a privilege to be a part of your story,
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 3: for you to be a part of my story, to
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 3: see you grow. You have seen me grow and like no,
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 3: like real bad like you know the ugliest parts of me,
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 3: and you still give me. You've given me a yes
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 3: because you've seen you've reached for the guide in me.
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 3: And I'm thankful. I'm so grateful and so we love
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 3: you guys. That's a ray. We're about to have a
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 3: great building year. Absolutely awesome you guys. Until next time.
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  Speaker 3: Until next week, remember life could be much more simple
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  Speaker 3: if you just ask.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning in to this week's episode. Since
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  Speaker 1: you've made it this far, you might as well connect
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  Speaker 1: with us on all social media platforms at the Jessica S.
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  Speaker 3: Smith.
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  Speaker 1: No, I won't see you back until next week, but
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  Speaker 1: until then, remember to love always yourself and always thank.
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  Speaker 2: Thank God for one another day. Hey, Hey, I know
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  Speaker 2: we could be another way. Hey, pray thank God for
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  Speaker 2: another day. Hey Hey, I'm just thankful another day. Hey Hey,
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  Speaker 2: another day? Oh, another day, wise, another day to get
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  Speaker 2: it right, another day to rise up, another day living
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  Speaker 2: another Day We Loved ones I always remember hold it
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  Speaker 2: down for a ball one, yuh