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Christmas Party Anxiety · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas, do you get
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  Christmas party anxiety? Well, let's ask our American mamas Alma Mama and joining
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  us now our American mama's Terry Edeville and Kimberly Burlison. You know, this
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  one's pretty easy to answer for me. No, I don't get invited to
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  Christmas party, so I don't think people have as many this. I don't
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  think people have as many Christmas parties as they used to. I don't know
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  if it was the pandemic, but I think that people have not. I
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  don't get Christmas party anxiety, but I get very I'm a very extrovert,
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  introvert person. I am very good in a party situation talking to people,
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  but when it's over, I shut down. I don't like to talk to
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  anybody because I have to recover, to recharge. Yes, so you're actually
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  an introvert who can adapt into an extrovert role. Exactly, Okay, exactly.
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  Yeah, No, I just hide it very very well because here's here's
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  the thing with me. Mike goes with you to everything, so you're never
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  alone. For someone like me, like my husband's either he's working or he's
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  hunting. So like this weekend, I went to two weddings and I had
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  to go by myself, and sometimes I'll have to go to holiday parties by
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  myself. It's very hard. It's the hardest thing in the world. I
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  mean, I'm sure the people look at me or because once I'm thrown in
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  that position, and once I make the choice and I go and I visit,
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  it's then I can, like, you know, get into it.
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  But I do get anxiety, like walking up to one of the weddings where
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  I knew I wasn't going to know anybody. Like the first wedding, I
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  knew I was going to have my son was going to meet me there,
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  but the second one, I wasn't going to know anybody, and I just
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  went and I sat there and you just kind of you feel uncomfortable. But
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  then after it's over, you know, you start seeing people that you recognize,
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  You have a conversations, and then I'm glad I win it. But
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  Summer and I were talking about this, and I said, it's so worth
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  it to go because the person invites you, you're letting them know you're so
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  special. I'm going to show up for your party, even if I'm by
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  myself. But it's hard. It's so hard. Let me tell you something
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  about Terry. Terry is a bait and switcher. She's horrible. So we
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  will be in a public situation and Terry will see me from across the room.
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  She's talking to Joe Smoe. It's just like Kimberlys, come here,
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  come meet Joe Smoe. He was telling me the most interesting thing about periodic
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  tables. So I act very interested. Oh, tell me, And then
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  she pretends that she sees somebody in the distance and she'll say, oh,
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  it's so good seeing you, Joe. I'm gonna go and I'm stuck.
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  Yeah, she's horrible. She was. If you had been there, she
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  would have steals. We it steals. Well, oh yeah, she's you
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  had Landy there. She's horrible. Wendy wasn't there at the wedding. I
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  thought I remembered hugging to her. I was Colleen. I went by myself.
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  See that's the thing is I actually I have no anxiety about that.
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  If I were to if I were to be invited to a wedding thing,
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  I have no problem going on my own. I'd rather Windy gum with me.
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  But that's not gonna happen if she doesn't know anybodether she's going. So
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  but I have no problem going. I don't feel any anxiety walking in the
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  door. I just walk in, I sit down. If I see somebody
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  start chatting, I have a conversation. Okay, So what about this?
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  So when I went to that first wedding and I sat down, I was
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  one of the first. I got there early, and people filled the robe
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  in front of me, behind me, all around me. I was on
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  one rode by myself, and then finally people came in and there was like
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  half of the They were like four seats away. And I was like,
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  do you feel like a pariah? So would that bother you? Or no?
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  No? Okay, I was like, I was going, oh my
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  god, See that wouldn't bother me either, because then I wouldn't have to
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  talk. Well, that's true. But the reason that I do, the
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  reason that I do the bait and switch is all the time. Not all
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  the time, all the time, Terry, it's so all the time that
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  like one or two times I did this. Wait, and now she has
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  given me the label of bait and switcher. Stephen Terry, your whole family
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  we all call her the beaten Switcher, and we all know that if she
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  starts yelling our name from across the room, you pretend you don't hear her.
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  Okay, I will say, Tristan and Summer ignore me at the games.
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  Now they ignore me and they laugh about it. And it really because
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  I really want to introduce them to these people that I'm talking to up there,
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  and so but I really think that if you, if you needed my
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  help, if you needed a bait and switch, I would come terry happily.
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  Okay, she's so wrong, she's so wrong. We have gone to
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  things and I have tried the whole beaten switch, and she knows and she
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  looks at me and she smiles. She does that smile like I'm not coming,
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  and I want to throat punch her because I go, I just don't
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  like to get locked in. I get locked in. That's exactly what you
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  do to all of us. I think you are so great at it,
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  and I'm so appreciative because there's other people I want to get to visit with.
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  Okay, one time, Stephen, one or two times, and now
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  I've got the label that's not really there. So the problem is your families
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  are quick learners. I know they ignore me, all of them. We're
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  stupid. It's taking us a long time to finally know what her game is.
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  She's actually, this is not true. I enjoyed the people I talk
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  to you, and I really want to introduce them. And then I really
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  do see other people that are like, hey, Terry, I'm like,
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  oh, I'll be right there. So I think what we've learned is if
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  you want to invite somebody from American Ground Radio to a Christmas party, invite
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  Stephen int Advite Stephen, He'll go. He'll go. You like to a
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  pusson, Go to our website Americanground Radio dot com, slash Mama's and click
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  on the ass of the mama's button. Terry Duteville can really brothers, and
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  thank you so much. Thank you