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[EP25] How Can I Stop Listening To My Inner Critic · AWAKEN with Dylan Ayaloo: Inner Work, Healing, Yoga & Meditation

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  How can I stop listening to my inner critique? Feels like I'm always judging myself. Nothing is ever enough. I end up making choices that are harmful for me instead of the ones that serve me. Okay. So that's good awareness, right? You're aware that that's your pattern and that's what you do to yourself.
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  So rather than basing your life on the voice in your head, which by this stage, if you've
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  paid any amount of attention, we all know what the voice in our head is going to say.
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  It is the same thing in slightly different variations over and over and over again.
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  What's the stats?
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  90,000 thoughts, I think, in a day.
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  And I think 90 or 95% the same thoughts as yesterday and the last few days.
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  That means nothing really original.
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  right nothing is really that different it's the same theme the same story the same patterns
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  running and rather than letting that be the authority in your life and therefore you basing
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  your life on that interrupt that like what is it that you would like to create for yourself
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  or if it makes it easier i'll give you a slightly more tangible example
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  a version of you, a future version of you that you are constructing, right? Like the idea of manifesting.
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  Who is she or he, right? And what are the aspects of them? So if it's a certain level of health,
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  physical, emotional, mental, it's a certain level of abundance, purpose, or any other area in your
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  life relationship love joy peace right adventure whatever it is that you want what would that future
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  you say to your current situation or problem that you're facing that how did you how did he or she
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  get there how does she get there that future you because she's already solved your problems
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  right and sometimes i find that to be a useful exercise for myself when i lose myself in my head
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  which is normally what happens right we lose ourselves in our heads in our thoughts
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  and thoughts are not bad or evil it's just that it's going to say what it wants to say normally
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  based on fear or avoiding danger, right?
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  Survival most of the time.
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  So how can I stop listening to my inner critique?
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  It's a choice.
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  It's a conscious choice.
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  And you've got a level of awareness where you realize,
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  okay, I'm always judging myself
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  and always saying something along the lines of never good enough.
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  And that's not helping.
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  It's like having a relationship with someone who's abusive
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  and always talks down to you, right?
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  person, like an entity outside of you, if someone who's not you was to talk to you in that way,
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  would you choose to listen to them? Or would you choose to put your attention, energy, focus
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  into someone else? Right? Like someone else who is going to be helpful to you.
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  So you can externalize that even. And make you the authority in your life,
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  rather than the voice in your head.
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  Make the future you
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  or the future that you're calling forth
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  your advisor.
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  Or if you want to go bigger than that,
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  this is why we do it in our meditations.
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  For me, my authority in my life
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  is not my voice in my head
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  but my connection to the divine.
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  You know it's going to come to that, right?
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  What is your higher self saying to you?
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  your future self saying to you? What is your higher self saying to you? And in the eyes of
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  the divine, if you had a chance to speak to the divine, which by the way, we do every second,
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  every moment of our lives, and we've got instant connection, better than full fiber optic,
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  instant. What would the divine say to you? Am I good enough? Or if that's too much, right,
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  too big an idea or too crazy, and it's still going through your process of healing your
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  connection to the divine. Find this talk to your heart then. Close your eyes, put your
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  hand on your heart. What does your heart say rather than your head? Is it true that I'm not
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  good enough? It'll give you an instant answer. It won't think because it doesn't need thinking and it can't think.
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  The heart doesn't need thinking. It'll just tell you that's not true. What is the
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  truth? Well, I'm loved. I'm lovable. I'm enough.
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  I'm abundant. I'm expansive. I'm infinite.
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  Or something along those lines. And then it's a matter of your
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  choice of where and how much of your focus and energy you put into what which
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  voice so that's great you've got an awesome level of awareness now you can
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  see okay I base myself on these thoughts in my head and I always choose
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  something harmful or not useful to me and I'm not liking the result that I'm
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  getting I would actually like those results not these ones that I've got
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  right now okay what needs to be different without making it a big deal
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  like without making it a big drama because the head would want to make it a
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  like a soap opera
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  some of us
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  it's a soap opera
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  in our head
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  some of us
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  it's a thriller
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  some of us
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  it's a mystery
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  that we're solving
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  some of us
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  it's a combination
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  some of us
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  it's a romance
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  right
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  like horror rom-coms
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  which one's
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  running in your head
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  so
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  awareness
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  and then choosing
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  and then following
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  through
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  yeah
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  Actions match the decision that you make.
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  So where you put your time and your focus, your energy, your attention, the steps that you take, shows what you're committed to.
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  Where you put your resources, your time, energy, money, focus, shows what you're committed to in your life.
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  And the results that you have today is a reflection of what you're committed to or have been.
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  and you can change it anytime.