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PERSPECTIVE – How To Get It On Demand · The Missing Secret Podcast

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  Kelly Hatfield: We believe life is precious. This is it. We've
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  got one shot at this. It's on us to live life to the fullest to
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  maximize what we've been given and play the game of life at our
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  full potential.
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  John Mitchell: Are you living up to your potential? Are you
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  frustrated that despite your best intentions, you just can't
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  seem to make the changes needed to take things to the next
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  level. So you can impact your career relationships and health.
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  Kelly Hatfield: If this is hitting home, you're in the
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  right place. Our mission is to open the door to the exceptional
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  life by showing you how to play the game of life at a higher
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  level. So you're playing at your full potential, rather than at a
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  fraction as most people do. We'll share the one thing that
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  once we learned it, our lives were transformed. And once you
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  learn it, watch what happens. Welcome to think it be the
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  podcast. I'm Kelly Hatfield.
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  John Mitchell: Hey, it I'm John Michell. So the topic today is
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  perspective, the value of having perspective, and also how to get
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  it. So what do you think about that? Kelly?
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  Kelly Hatfield: I think it's so important, I think the value of
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  perspective, you can immediately shift your state, shift your
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  when you put things into perspective, and most likely,
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  you're not quite as bad as you think, as they see me as you
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  think they are when you use perspective as a tool to do
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  that. So I'm excited to dig in and talk about this today, John,
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  John Mitchell: right. Right. Well, you know, I tell you,
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  it's, it's interesting. I gave you an example in, in my life,
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  the power of perspective. And, and of course, you've lived
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  through this with me, but yeah, you know, what, but three or
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  four years ago, you and I create our course, and we're like, man,
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  everybody's gonna want to do this. Everybody wants to be more
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  successful, we got a 12 minute a day technique, we're gonna crush
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  it. So if we go, well, we don't crush it. We're like, you know,
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  why aren't people you know, lining up for this. And, you
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  know, I think back to you know, I know, I told the story about
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  meeting Darren Hardy and, and showing him all this in our
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  template and our told me today technique, and you guys, John,
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  people are aren't going to do this, they're not gonna spend 12
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  minutes today on on this. And, and he says, reason is because
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  for most people more success is merely a preference, merely a
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  preference. And he says, You got to show this only driven people.
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  And I remember him telling me that I'm like, Really, I you
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  know, okay, you know, more than I do about this, but I just find
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  that hard to believe. Well, he's exactly right. And so yeah, we
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  come out, we create our course. And, and we sell it, but it's
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  not near as many as we thought. And then we're like, Hmm, well,
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  maybe. Maybe we need to really just vet people for being high
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  achievers. And, and that seemed right. And it evolved to where
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  we started doing coaching in conjunction with our course. And
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  so we go to start, not not aggressively marketing it, but
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  going to EO groups, entrepreneurs, organization,
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  graves, were to be in the, in the group, they've got to have a
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  business, that's grossing a million dollars a year. And, but
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  only 5% of them are netting a million a year. And you and I
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  both think, wow, you know, this is perfect, because they're just
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  like you and me, were, you know, a few years ago, and we start
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  pitching it and, and people are taking us up on it, but but
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  they're not lining out the door for it. And, you know, I know,
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  both of us felt, you know, frustration a year or two ago,
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  like a couple years ago, and then we sort of have a change of
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  perspective, maybe maybe the change of perspective came from
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  just dialing in to what is reality, telling us and, you
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  know, then it it became more obvious. Okay, not only do you
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  have to only show this to people that are driven, you need to
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  show this to people that that innately want to play the game
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  of life at 100% That That alone is the driver and have control
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  over their life not necessarily A the money. And and you know, I
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  see today I'm more excited and happy with with think be it than
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  I've ever been. And it's happened from that change of
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  perspective that's evolved over the last probably three years?
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  And it just says that all makes sense.
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  Kelly Hatfield: It does and what was the so for you when you're
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  talking about perspective, when I think about perspective, I
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  immediately, you know, when we were talking a little bit about
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  this before we started recording, you know, I
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  immediately went to if, you know, like today, we're having a
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  roof repaired on one of our rentals, you know, and it's
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  like, you know, that wasn't an expense I was planning on. And
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  then I watched the news. And you know, in the Midwest, there's
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  tornadoes ripping through and their roofs ripped off their
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  homes, and I'm like, Okay, I'm gonna get the roof.
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  John Mitchell: Maybe this isn't the end of the world,
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  Kelly Hatfield: maybe this isn't that big of a deal. You know? So
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  immediately, when I think of perspective, that's kind of
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  where my mind goes, is the, it could be worse, kind of, yeah,
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  you know, so and so when you're talking about perspective,
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  you're talking about it from a different vantage point than I
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  think, when we first went into the conversation, then I was
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  thinking,
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  John Mitchell: well, and you know, think about this, I see
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  that gaining perspective happens one of two ways, either a comes
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  from the outside input of somebody else, or it, it comes
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  from you sitting down and thinking through something like
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  having lay, if I've got a challenge in my life, say with
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  the business, me just sitting down and thinking through what
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  is the challenge? How do I fix the challenge? What do I need
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  more information, you know, and I see that, that, that, that was
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  thinking sessions can be how you gain perspective, in fact, you
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  can almost act as as your own consultant for your business.
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  And you're sort of the ideal consultant for your business,
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  because you know, all the nuances that a consultant
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  doesn't know. And, you know, if you just ask yourself in your
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  thinking session, to act as your own consultant, and lo and
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  you're looking at your business from that third party
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  perspective, oftentimes, just that change your perspective can
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  cause you to see things that you won't see if you don't take that
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  outside perspective. And
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  Kelly Hatfield: 100%, I asked myself, like, as part of if I'm
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  having a challenge, working through a challenge, if I'm, if
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  I have an issue, and I'm having trouble working through it, one
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  of your superpowers is simplifying what may seem to
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  others as being complicated. So I will ask myself, What would
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  John tell me to do? Today, Hey, stupid just.
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  John Mitchell: Now Kelly, I think that's a very dangerous
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  thing to be asking yourself. So I would really be careful with
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  that.
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  Kelly Hatfield: To the point where you were just saying it
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  pulls me out of myself, right? It would I mean, and makes it
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  external and makes me think about it from a different
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  perspective or viewpoint because I'm too close to it, or too
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  emotional about whatever it is. And so when I asked myself that
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  question, then it's like, Okay, what's a simple way of thinking
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  about this, you know, is really what I'm asking myself because,
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  as I mentioned, that is one of your superpowers. So it's like,
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  Okay, what's, how do I simplify this? You know, I think I've
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  overcomplicated this or have I overcomplicated this? You know,
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  so it's, it's that outside perspective? And that's the
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  question I asked myself is what would How would John think about
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  this? And that helps me work through it.
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  John Mitchell: Right, that could also get you in prison, but But
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  you know, it's funny, we've canceled himself Kelly, you're
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  gonna have to shut down this business. You know, it was a
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  good run. But you did what John suggested then you're done.
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  Well, you know, it's funny how that I see that that
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  subconsciously worse because before we got on the air, just a
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  little perspective. I'm creating a new course at the University
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  of Texas that's going to be required of all the the 800
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  athletes to take and we're gonna teach him think it be it better,
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  but I'm gonna go deeper on a number of things because I have,
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  you know, a whole semester to teach him and I I was telling
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  Kelly, the, the titles of the the course the two titles,
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  because I'm too close to it to have perspective. And so I'm
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  blazing really close to what she's telling me and she gives
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  me her opinion, which, you know, was completely contrary to what
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  ginger told me is Ginger about it, and she, she didn't like it.
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  And so but that's the power of getting the wisdom of somebody
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  on the outside to, to give you their opinion. And, and like I
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  was telling you. Tomorrow, I'm gonna go see one of the faculty
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  members in the business school at University of Texas. And and
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  I've got the syllabus written and he's going to review it. And
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  you know, the reality is, I could think, all day long on how
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  to get this thing approved and move it forward. But I don't
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  have his knowledge. And so sometimes solving a problem
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  requires defining what knowledge do you not have? And where can I
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  go to get it? Yep, absolutely. So what's that tell it tell his
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  story in your business about where perspective changed and
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  the impact you had? Yeah,
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  Kelly Hatfield: I think the very first thing that comes to mind
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  is just having gone through the pandemic, you know, so in March
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  of 2020, we're rockin and rollin, you know, two of my
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  brands that I have are related to hiring, staffing, recruiting.
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  Well, of course, you know, what happened when everything shut
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  down? Jobs stopped, you know, and so, it was overnight, it was
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  within a week's time of kind of the shutdown, that revenue
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  stopped, you know, and it was like, you know, you know, so
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  going into that solution mode, but a couple of things. So the
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  first thing, as far as perspective was, we had to look
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  at doing business differently. And so one of those is obviously
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  our employees working remotely, which is something we talked
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  about for years, but it was like, Oh, we don't know how
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  we're gonna, like, I don't know, whether I want to do that I
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  like, you know, and so we just always back burnered It, well,
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  we were forced overnight to go remote, you know, and so our
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  perspective change quickly, around, you know, a meeting to
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  operate and change how we went about doing business, you know,
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  and to ask different questions of ourselves, like, okay, so
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  this is happening. So, you know, what is? Are there other ways
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  that we, how can we use this time that we have, you know, so
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  we worked on processes we worked on, you know, of course, we took
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  advantage of the PPP so that we can keep our employees are most
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  of them anyway, but, um, you know, but how I use it now. So
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  this goes back to kind of my example of the roofing issue,
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  right, is when a challenge comes up now. I'm like, we went
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  through the pandemic, this is no big deal.
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  John Mitchell: That's a heck of a perspective.
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  Kelly Hatfield: Yeah. So it totally shifts your perspective
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  on like, if we can, and before that, like, we started the
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  business 14 years ago, in the depths of a recession. So it was
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  kind of always, like, we started this business, in a recession.
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  So um, you know, so that was kind of always our, our
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  perspective piece when we were going through difficult times.
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  And now it's like, literally, we went through a worldwide
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  pandemic, you know, where many of our competitors didn't make
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  it. And, you know, and so if we did that we couldn't do
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  anything. So for us, it was a real confidence builder. And
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  that's how we choose, we've chosen to use that as just fuel
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  for positivity, like, yeah, these are really lofty goals,
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  but look at what we've made it through, you know, so anyway,
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  that's how that perspective comes into play. For me anyway,
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  that was the first example that jumped out at me,
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  John Mitchell: right? Well, you know, I know in in terms of how
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  to apply our 12 minute day technique to this. I know in in,
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  in my visualization, I say something to the effect that all
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  challenges can be figured out either through outside input or
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  thinking through them is one of those two things and, and that
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  has been so incredibly helpful to me just that, that that you
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  know, synods because now, I look at everything very binary. It's
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  either I need to think about it, or I need outside input. And,
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  and, you know, I see every, every problem fits into those,
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  one of those two things. So,
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  Kelly Hatfield: no, I love that and and you're so specific,
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  which is so important because this methodology requires that
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  level of specificity, specificity, right? If If I were
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  somebody who was just starting, like when I first started to get
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  into this, so if you were looking for like a light
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  version, and you didn't have a whole process, a great way like
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  I, this goes through my head 20 times a day because it's part of
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  my visualization, which is the quality of the questions you ask
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  yourself and others determines the quality of your life. So
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  when I'm going through a challenge, I'm right away going
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  into how should I be looking at this? How else? What are? What's
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  another way I could look at this situation? What's up because
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  your brain will start to go to work on the solutions? Who else
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  should I ask about this? Right? So like I am, anytime a
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  challenge comes up or whatever, I'm just asking myself the how,
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  what I don't ask myself, why a lot, because that kind of takes
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  you because that can take you into a negative place. So I'm
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  asking how, what, and when questions of myself when I'm
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  looking at that. So that's one way so I would put that, like,
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  it's a mantra that I have the quality of the questions I asked
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  myself and others determines the quality of my life. And that's
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  just running through my head on you know, so I've got it up. I
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  used to I don't anymore up on my mirror in my bathroom. It's up
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  on my phone. It's a screensaver on a lake. So just as a reminder
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  to continue to program my subconscious to be asking myself
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  questions, meaningful questions. And that often gets you to what
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  we're talking about with perspective, but a simpler way
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  to go about doing it.
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  John Mitchell: Right. Right. Right. Well, and you know,
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  again, I, I just, I was just thinking about this the other
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  day. You know, ginger, and I were having our Sunday night
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  relationship talk. And I was telling her really two things I
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  was saying, you know, how I love mentally where where I'm at with
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  regards to think it be it and, and the evolution of it. Whereas
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  a couple of years ago, I was frustrated. Well, of course, I
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  was frustrated because I was pitching it to, to people that
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  weren't ideal for it. And whatever you whatever your
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  product is in your business, you got to really be clear about who
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  is my ideal client, because if you're pitching to people that
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  are not really your ideal client, you're going to be
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  frustrated. And and what a difference that perspective has
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  made. And, and you know, I was telling ginger last night, you
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  know, she I think I told you she broke her hand.
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  Unknown: Yep. Pickleball pickleball. Right.
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  John Mitchell: It was a tragic pickleball Yeah. And so, but she
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  broke a bone in her hand and so she had to have surgery about
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  three weeks ago and she just got the cast off a couple of days
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  ago. And of course, I've lived this with her and it was her
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  right hand which made all the worse and and I'm like ginge you
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  know now just just chill because I'm, I'm the big picture guy.
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  She's the as you know, the, the detail warrior in the group.
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  Yep. And, and I said now, just let's get back to we're living
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  the dream. You know, everyday we're living the dream. Let's
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  save her let's, and she's like, Yes, I needed to hear that. And,
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  and so again, perspective.
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  Kelly Hatfield: Yep, absolutely. I love that. So,
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  John Mitchell: okay, well, I hope you guys found this
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  interesting. So until next time, we'll see you.
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  Kelly Hatfield: Thanks for listening today. If you've had
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  your own aha moment from today's episode, send me or John an
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  email. We'd love to share your epiphany with our audience. So
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  email us at Kelly@thinkitbeit.com or
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  John@thinkitbeit.com. In the meantime, live the exceptional life