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Let’s Help Brandi Glanville Find A New Man! · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Hey, you're back with We're back with I do Part
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  Speaker 1: two and it's your favorites, Susan and Kathy from The
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  Speaker 1: Golden Bachelor. We are here to do part two with
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  Speaker 1: the one and only Brandy Glamville. We covered so much
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  Speaker 1: the first time, but now we're going to dig deep.
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  Speaker 1: So let's dive back into our conversation.
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  Speaker 2: So you've got to give me some good advice. You
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  Speaker 2: got to give listeners. You've learned so much.
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  Speaker 3: What's your colonel, what's your neuggative advice to people that
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  Speaker 3: might be going through this.
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  Speaker 2: Kind of thing.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, honestly, I.
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  Speaker 3: Don't die, don't give up? How about don't give up?
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  Speaker 3: Better days are coming well?
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  Speaker 4: I mean I had a dark days, Like I was like,
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  Speaker 4: what is my purpose? Like, yes, you know why am
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  Speaker 4: I here? I stay in bed all day. I've just
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  Speaker 4: spent all my money on my savings on doctors, Like
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  Speaker 4: I can't work at the moment, Like what is why?
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  Speaker 2: Why?
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  Speaker 4: In my ear? So now I'm like, I'm hosting dinners
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  Speaker 4: for my son and his girlfriend. I would not you know, baby, baby,
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  Speaker 4: it's gonna be I'm excited, Like I was excited to
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  Speaker 4: put on a pair of type jeans because I've been
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  Speaker 4: like roaming around in my COVID gear.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm just like, are you exercising?
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  Speaker 1: Can you actually get two weeks?
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  Speaker 4: No? I haven't. But like, I don't want people to
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  Speaker 4: hate me, but I'm just really naturally.
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  Speaker 2: I do hate you right now.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know. I'm like, I hate saying that, but
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  Speaker 4: the doctor actually told me this. He's like, normally I
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  Speaker 4: would want you to gain some weight first, but you're
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  Speaker 4: so thin that we we don't have like we if
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  Speaker 4: we took fat from an area, it would deform that
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  Speaker 4: area to put fat.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't do that.
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  Speaker 2: Bab Yeah, do you want some of my fat? Brandy,
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  Speaker 2: I've got plenty of share.
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  Speaker 1: I would love she does friends. Have you seen her?
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  Speaker 1: She's like a stick?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't, wouldn't. Whenever anyone says I'm fat, I'm like.
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  Speaker 3: Hooker Ready, I used to wait two hundred pounds. Trust me,
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  Speaker 3: Now I look like a sharp pay It's tragic.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, Well don't tell me.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like I like I'm ready to like. I
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  Speaker 4: did get a text last night from an old boyfriend. Ha, yes,
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  Speaker 4: randomly he ran into my son. Because the guy is
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  Speaker 4: thirteen years younger than me.
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  Speaker 2: So you go, girl, Yeah, no, I mean there's.
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  Speaker 4: Still the only guys that asked me out are younger guys.
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  Speaker 4: Good like I don't like everyone my age is dating
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  Speaker 4: like a twenty year old.
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  Speaker 2: So trust me.
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  Speaker 3: Can I just tell you, Brandy, it doesn't change shed
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  Speaker 3: just fault there.
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  Speaker 4: I'm very aware.
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  Speaker 3: I keep telling all the gold Olden's who are like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, fifty eight sixty. If you want to get
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  Speaker 3: married or you want to launch a relationship, luck it
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  Speaker 3: down now because you know the five years they're dating
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  Speaker 3: thirty year olds, right.
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  Speaker 4: Or move to the Midwest, you like, move like somewhere
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  Speaker 4: where they're I watched like a lot of true crime
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  Speaker 4: and a lot of these cops are hot.
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  Speaker 3: And you move to Queens. Move to Queens, Brandy, you'll
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  Speaker 3: have your you know, you can have all your pick
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  Speaker 3: of cops.
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  Speaker 4: I don't really. My brother is a cop. I don't
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  Speaker 4: want to date a cop because he's kind of a dick.
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  Speaker 1: I would never date it police.
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  Speaker 4: No, No, be either.
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  Speaker 2: A firefighter.
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  Speaker 4: I did date a firefighter that was hot.
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  Speaker 2: My son's a firefighter. He's hot.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, they're hot, like they don't but they're like frat boys.
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  Speaker 4: They're like, Hi, I love you, and they're going back
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  Speaker 4: to the frat house to do for sure and watch
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  Speaker 4: football until there's a fire, hang.
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  Speaker 1: With the boys, right, what type of guy would you want?
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  Speaker 1: You have a particular look, you know, honestly like self confident.
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  Speaker 4: I need the fun police because I am a little wild,
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  Speaker 4: so I need someone to kind of pull me back.
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  Speaker 4: So and I've had that in the past, and my
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  Speaker 4: friends were like, you know what, Yeah, you do need
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  Speaker 4: a little bit of.
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  Speaker 3: You know what, they say, opposite to track, opposites of track, brandy,
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  Speaker 3: but not too.
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  Speaker 4: Much of an I like, you need to be able
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  Speaker 4: to have a good time, not take yourself so seriously,
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  Speaker 4: take a joke. I love, I love funny people. It's
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  Speaker 4: all about chemistry for me. I mean, I've mostly dated
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  Speaker 4: very attractive men, but but not a comedian. No. God,
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  Speaker 4: I did date a comedian and that was the hell.
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  Speaker 2: It was so dark. I thought comedians aren't very funny
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  Speaker 2: in real life.
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  Speaker 1: They're right, And I always think they're big drinkers. Are
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  Speaker 1: they big drinkers? Yes?
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  Speaker 2: I mean not that we're generalizing here at all, of course, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 4: But I mean stereotops to cite our stereotypes for our reason.
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  Speaker 4: I mean that sounds horrible, but yes, like a lot
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  Speaker 4: of comedians are dark, you know, like when they're not
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  Speaker 4: on stage, they yeah, because they have to be They
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  Speaker 4: feel like they have to be funny all of the time,
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  Speaker 4: and so they do isolate, you know. Yes, then they're
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  Speaker 4: like in a bad mood because or do you think
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  Speaker 4: this is funny? Do you think you know? And it
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  Speaker 4: wasn't fun. I mean, he was very funny, but it
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  Speaker 4: wasn't fun when he wasn't on stage.
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  Speaker 3: All right, So here's what we know so far. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: you want tall so you can wear your heels.
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  Speaker 4: I don't care about tall. I don't need tall. I
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  Speaker 4: need sense of humor. I need them to be able
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  Speaker 4: to pay for dinner because I'm sicking, a sick of
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  Speaker 4: picking up a check. Like I've dated waiters and uber
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  Speaker 4: drivers like I don't you know, like what's the word? Like,
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  Speaker 4: I don't discriminate, Like if you don't, like as long
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  Speaker 4: as you're working in hustling, it's fine. But then you know,
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  Speaker 4: I dated a guy that was, you know, looking for
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  Speaker 4: a job, you know, and you know.
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  Speaker 1: I go out.
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  Speaker 4: I wouldn't eat a nice restaurant, So I'm d Once
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  Speaker 4: you start picking up the bill. It never ends, and.
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  Speaker 3: You don't want to go where the guy says, can
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  Speaker 3: we go to happy hour and split an appetizer?
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  Speaker 4: Oh yeah, that's not happening.
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  Speaker 1: What about actors? Are they off the table since your ex?
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  Speaker 4: Oh? Yeah, done, I'm done and done. I mean I
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  Speaker 4: dated a few and that was before him, and I
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  Speaker 4: dated a couple after him that happened to be his
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  Speaker 4: friends on purpose.
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  Speaker 2: That's called retribution right now.
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  Speaker 3: Wait, I read an article recently, Susan, I think you
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  Speaker 3: and I talked about this that women are going to
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  Speaker 3: like medieval themed dinners so they can date the nights.
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  Speaker 2: Would you do that kind of thing?
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  Speaker 4: No, that sounds let's be on desperate to me, like
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  Speaker 4: what I mean the nights, Like, what do they look like?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't tell under the costume.
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  Speaker 2: Oh so now we're down to that.
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  Speaker 1: It look smatter to do You have to have a
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  Speaker 1: physical attraction.
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  Speaker 4: No, I have to have chemistry.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 4: I met a guy and he at first I was
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  Speaker 4: like I saw him, I'm like nope, I'm out, And
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  Speaker 4: then I sat through the dinner. I've never like left
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  Speaker 4: a date like I'm not that girl. I think that's
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  Speaker 4: just so horrible but the more we talked, I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: you're really you know, he's really smart. Then I found
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  Speaker 4: out he happened to have a private plane. I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: and you're my boyfriend.
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  Speaker 2: And how did that work for you?
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  Speaker 4: It was great for a year, and I loved him,
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  Speaker 4: but I wasn't in love. But he literally he saved
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  Speaker 4: my life. It was the year after my divorce, and
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  Speaker 4: he was like so fun. We went to he had
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  Speaker 4: properties everywhere, we were on planes, He's like, bring all
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  Speaker 4: your friends.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, he talked his number.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think he's dating a twenty year old. Oh god, yeah, so,
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  Speaker 4: I mean, but he was the first. He was like
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  Speaker 4: thirteen years older than me. And he's the only guy
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  Speaker 4: I've dated that was older than me. I mean my
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  Speaker 4: husband was the same, the same exact age, actually six
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  Speaker 4: months younger. So he always like to throw that out there.
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  Speaker 1: My ex husband did the same thing.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, like six months, but I was actually.
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  Speaker 1: A few months.
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  Speaker 2: That's a rounding air, but he.
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  Speaker 1: Would yeah, he would say, that's.
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  Speaker 2: A rounding air. That's like, you know, they got the
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  Speaker 2: dates wrong in the pregnancy test. I mean, who cares.
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  Speaker 4: I told him, like his mom had trouble like getting pregnant,
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  Speaker 4: and so she was on hormones, and so she gave
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  Speaker 4: birth to this like god, and they're like tiny little people.
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  Speaker 4: And he's like six to one, perfect looking. And I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, you're not real. You're like a hormone baby.
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  Speaker 1: It's like that makes it real.
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  Speaker 2: Not real?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, the real.
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 2: I just like for him because he's tooken like a
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  Speaker 2: woman scorned. Yeah, no, he is not real yep.
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  Speaker 4: And I told him his dimples were deformities. What if
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  Speaker 4: you look Nonetheless, simples are like deformities, and so I
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  Speaker 4: had to keep them down to keep them.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I have to say, Brandy, If that
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  Speaker 3: is the case, I love me a deformed many.
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  Speaker 4: Hello. I married one and both my boys have dimples.
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  Speaker 4: My son does too, like a dimple, Like I am
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  Speaker 4: a sucker for a dimple, but I I yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, Susan, Brandy's gonna need our help if her main
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  Speaker 3: feature for dating is a guy with the dimple, like
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  Speaker 3: you and I we got.
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  Speaker 4: To yeah, I'm honestly, like, I'm open. I don't have
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  Speaker 4: a like I usually go for. I've never dated a
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  Speaker 4: blonde guy like I usually go for a tall, dark
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  Speaker 4: and handsome. Yes, like I'm open. I've dated a couple
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  Speaker 4: of Jewish guys. I really, I really.
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  Speaker 2: Like Jewish guys will treat you like a princess.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, but I'm a and they'll never marry me. So
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  Speaker 4: it's like, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: My father did oh.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I mean that's rare.
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  Speaker 1: It is.
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  Speaker 3: Well, he had to first marry my mother and then
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  Speaker 3: he was like, I don't care who she is, if
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  Speaker 3: she's normal.
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  Speaker 1: But at this stage of the game, at our ages,
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  Speaker 1: who cares about the marriage part. You want somebody to
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  Speaker 1: enjoy your life.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, the one that I love that like I could
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  Speaker 4: have I was still in my thirties. It was after
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  Speaker 4: my divorce. I could have, like I was, I loved him,
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  Speaker 4: I would have like like you know, I don't know,
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  Speaker 4: I think that it could have grown into something bigger.
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  Speaker 4: But then he cheated on me and I had.
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  Speaker 3: To go, I mean, you got I imagine you have
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  Speaker 3: trust issues around cheating, around cheating and around I'm cheating me.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, And I think I've actually scarred my poor boys
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  Speaker 4: because like they are like the biggest gentleman in the world.
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  Speaker 4: And my eighteen year old he's in acting and you know,
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  Speaker 4: he's in his acting classes. Any I said, you know what,
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  Speaker 4: you know what? You know he has a girlfriend as well,
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  Speaker 4: and I said, you know it's not natural, like for
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  Speaker 4: it's really hard to date an actor. Is Maggie going
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  Speaker 4: to be okay with that? And He's like, yeah, I
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  Speaker 4: just can't do any love scenes. I'm like, well, you
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  Speaker 4: need to quit acting right now.
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  Speaker 1: Then I can't do any love scenes.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, And I'm like, but wait a minute, how old
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  Speaker 2: is this sun?
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  Speaker 4: He's eighteen?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, do you really think this is the one
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  Speaker 2: he's going to end up with? You better hope not.
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  Speaker 4: I am not saying a damn word about that.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, well I can. I haven't met him.
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  Speaker 1: They might be listening.
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  Speaker 4: No, they really don't. Actually, they stop my social media.
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  Speaker 4: They know more than I know, because I don't even
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  Speaker 4: do my own social media. I'm someone that does it
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  Speaker 4: for me because I'm not social right now. This is
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  Speaker 4: kind of my first interview since like the doctor's.
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  Speaker 2: Office and just are we more fun than pulling the
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  Speaker 2: tooth or what? Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: I mean, I mean the anethesia part with the boobs
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  Speaker 4: was pretty fun. I'm not gonna lie until I got
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  Speaker 4: nauseous and had to have the medicine.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I love that. I call it the Michael
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  Speaker 1: Jackson drug. I go the first time I ever had it,
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  Speaker 1: it was like, do you have any of this to go? Right?
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  Speaker 3: I just don't understand why they don't tell you about
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  Speaker 3: stool softener. It's not to get you know, when I've
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  Speaker 3: had no Seriously, when I had breast lift and faced
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  Speaker 3: on like, they're like.
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  Speaker 2: Dear, you know, they don't tell you that.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I ended up in the hospital having animals
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  Speaker 3: for God's sakes.
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  Speaker 4: It's like it's I mean, I haven't had an issue,
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  Speaker 4: but I didn't take like, I didn't take any pain
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  Speaker 4: pills because they make me so ill. I mean too
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  Speaker 4: they I can't take them. And honestly, it wasn't in pain.
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  Speaker 4: It's just my arms are a little sore because he
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  Speaker 4: had to scrape. He had to scrape my lymph. Notes.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, when you're not do you go to the gym?
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  Speaker 4: Like?
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  Speaker 3: I know obviously right now you can. Are you a
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  Speaker 3: gym rat? What do you do to work out when
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  Speaker 3: you're no?
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  Speaker 4: No, I walk round?
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  Speaker 2: I have to coffee cup?
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  Speaker 1: What about your favorite food?
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  Speaker 2: Wait? You walk your dogs? That's your old exercise?
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  Speaker 4: What I wear five pound ankle weights almost all day long,
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  Speaker 4: every day.
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  Speaker 2: That's called lunch for me.
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  Speaker 4: No, like they really do. Because I did pilates for
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  Speaker 4: thirteen years. I know, like like you know, after babies,
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  Speaker 4: I could probably teach it at this point, but it
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  Speaker 4: is so expensive. It's like, you know, one hundred dollars session.
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  Speaker 4: I mean when you do privates because I have like
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  Speaker 4: a back issue. You know, I have all these issues,
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  Speaker 4: so I couldn't do the same as everyone else in
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  Speaker 4: the class. So I you know, I did pilates. I
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  Speaker 4: was a gymnast for nine years when I was young,
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  Speaker 4: so I feel like I have muscle memory. So like
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  Speaker 4: during COVID, I did gain twenty pounds and everyone including myself,
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  Speaker 4: was in shock. I was like I didn't know I could. Like,
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  Speaker 4: I was like, this is I mean crazy, And.
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  Speaker 1: Did you feel good? Did you feel good? No?
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  Speaker 4: Because I gained my weight in my mid section only you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I think it's hereditary, like my mom and my grandma
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  Speaker 4: like that.
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  Speaker 3: It's always after a menopause that's where they tend to
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  Speaker 3: put it. But here's the thing, men, here's the good
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  Speaker 3: news for you, brandy. Men. I have found don't care
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  Speaker 3: as you get older. Care about they do not care.
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  Speaker 3: They like a little something something. I'm telling you men,
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  Speaker 3: men say that all the time. Not all the time,
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  Speaker 3: but a lot of times. Menals say to me, you're
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  Speaker 3: too thin and I'm not and all my weights in
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  Speaker 3: my middle.
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  Speaker 4: Well, well everyone right now is so mooty, delicious and
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  Speaker 4: like everyone's all about like curves, and trust me, I
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  Speaker 4: wish I had them. I paid for them and then
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  Speaker 4: they exploded. So I'm like, okay, but I mean, I'm
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  Speaker 4: happy with my body. I'm happy with my figure. I
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  Speaker 4: have a little booty. It's cute.
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  Speaker 2: See there's the confidence coming back right there.
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  Speaker 4: You go there, I'm not like I've always felt lucky
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  Speaker 4: to not have to work out for after babies. I
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  Speaker 4: was like doing pilates because like pabic floor and all
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  Speaker 4: that fun stuff.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm going to tell you men, I'm telling
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  Speaker 3: you I am older than you, and men like a
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  Speaker 3: fit woman's a fit woman. So get back in the
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  Speaker 3: gym and start doing pushups when you can.
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  Speaker 2: When you can.
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  Speaker 1: That's hard. No, she won't be doing them for a while.
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  Speaker 2: I said, when you can.
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  Speaker 4: No, even when I'm not, I have like two pound pink.
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  Speaker 1: Weights, Brandy, I try to do them off the bureau, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: not on the floor working.
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  Speaker 4: Out like I love a horizontal life, like I like,
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  Speaker 4: walk on them, I walk on the beach, I like.
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  Speaker 3: And you know what, she has no shortage of men,
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  Speaker 3: and I work out. I am a gym rat and
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  Speaker 3: I have a dearth of men.
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  Speaker 2: So you know, all I want to say is I
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  Speaker 2: don't know, but stop working out.
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  Speaker 3: You have been It's a delight to meet you. You
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  Speaker 3: have been so transparent both about your health and where
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  Speaker 3: you are when it comes to love right now, and truly,
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  Speaker 3: Susan and I are rooting for you.
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  Speaker 2: You are fabulous. It's been a pleasure to meet you.
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  Speaker 4: Oh thank you. I wish I had more like advice
• 16:43
  Speaker 4: for I mean, after my divorce I had if you guys,
• 16:46
  Speaker 4: get my first book, Drinking and Tweeting, all the advice you.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: Need Drinking and Tweeting.
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: Yes, it's a New York Times number one bestseller.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: Oh okay, my.
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: Second one was the number nine best seller. Sorry to say,
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: but that one. Don't get that one is not helpful.
• 17:06
  Speaker 4: That was called drinking and Dating, which I realize now
• 17:10
  Speaker 4: when I read it back, I'm like, yeah, this is
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: not that's not gonna it's like like learn from my
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: Mistakes kind of book.
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, I want you to do one thing today
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: before you go to bed.
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: Okay, I want.
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: You to look in the mirror and say, I am beautiful,
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: I am enough, and I'm beautiful and I am worth it.
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: Just any any iteration of those words every day, every day,
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: starting to day.
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: If you're not going to do pushups for me, then
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: you got to do that.
• 17:42
  Speaker 4: I was excited the other day because I put like
• 17:45
  Speaker 4: this infrared like belt on and I like stood up
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: and I was not looking at my body before, and
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: I was like, my waist is snatched. I'm like humans,
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: no where to go.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: Oh well you will, though, Brandy, you will.
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: I think once I get my confidence up, I will
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: definitely be out like I have. All my friends they
• 18:07
  Speaker 4: want to go out. I'm just I'm getting there. I
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: just need this ringing in my ear to stop so
• 18:14
  Speaker 4: that I can hear them.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: I do have one question. You did mention that an
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: ex boyfriend ran into one of your sons and reached
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: out to you. What was that about? What was that like?
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: Do you have a plan to see them or make.
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: A fat No?
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: Okay, best sex of my life and it's a big
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: fat no three years come.
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: On, no, Like, yeah, no.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: It was what I've done, possibly tortuous.
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: I'll just say that, you know what, this is where
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: the nights kicks and you don't have to listen to them,
• 18:56
  Speaker 3: just do them.
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: I can't understand them anyways. Friends, I'm like, oh, what
• 19:01
  Speaker 4: are you saying? Shut up and do what you're doing.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: I know all about that.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: Are like Kathy, Yeah, yeah.
• 19:06
  Speaker 4: I love I love a European man. I do because
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: they're gentlemen. They open doors for you. Now like the guys,
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: they just they don't do it, and I just I
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: don't want a gentleman.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: Everyone should.
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and then I get Homie throws me on the bed,
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: and yeah.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: Then you can be rough, but in the meantime you're
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: a gentleman exactly.
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: Well, ladies, it was so good to meet you. And
• 19:30
  Speaker 4: I did watch the Golden Bachelor, but I like, my
• 19:33
  Speaker 4: brain is still fogged, but I do remember the one
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: lady that won, So I'm glad that you told her off.
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: No, she's she's fine, she's fine.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: You know, we love them all. Everybody's unique in their
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: own way.
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: Okay, I'm not gonna lie. I don't love all that.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: When you're ready to me too for a happy hour.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do it. We went like once this ear,
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: you'll know me.
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: Wait, you'll know me, Brandy. Susan will be the ones
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: with the perky boobs. Mine will be the ones sitting
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: on my waist.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: You won't, you won't.
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: You'll know who we are, and I don't know what
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: mine will be, but I do know that my my
• 20:15
  Speaker 4: sterile tape is like purple from my purple shampoo.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: Okay, purple nipples.
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: But I'll see you ladies later.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: Thank you again, love, Okay, we wish you the best.
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: Thank you so much.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: You feel better, okay. So Susan, Yes, that was quite
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: the interview. We've never met her. I kind of feel
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: like she's one of our tribe. What did you think? Like,
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: what what's your takeaway?
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: You know me and my I felt bad for her.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: I felt so bad for her. I mean, what a
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: dark place to be. It was one thing after another
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: after another, and not loving your own body. I mean,
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: your body's failing you because of something. At least she
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: was smart enough to take them out, but she still
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: not there.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but she's so I had a different take on it.
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: Everything I've read says that she thought the breast implants
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: caused the quote unquote parasite or plural.
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: We did.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: She didn't dive into that too much, no, she but
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: then she.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: Said maybe it wasn't that. So you know, that's like
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: the question of the hour. I'm curious Brittany.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: Had big blister, boiled pimple, and you didn't know why
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: she went through crazy.
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: Things with the same I gotta say one thing about
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: her dating. Obviously she's not in a position now to date,
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: but you know, you know.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: She's coming back.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: She's talking about the belt around her waist, she wants
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: to wear her stiletto heels. You know, here's the thing
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: that concerns me. Even though this is a podcast about dating.
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: You and I are further down the road than Brandy
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: in terms of parenting, right. And when she was saying
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna be wherever my boys are, I was like, honey,
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: you have no idea, because you and I both know
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: oftentimes it doesn't work out that way and you can't
• 22:05
  Speaker 3: make your life your children.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: No, and your her ex husband is remarried and they
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: have a little family unit there, and that's probably torture
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: for her.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: I didn't get the sense she was over him either,
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: did you.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: I think he just shocked her when that happened. You know,
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: it's her world, Yes, it has, it has and I
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: think she is ready, like she probably hates him still,
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: she hates him now, but she's ready to find somebody.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: She doesn't want to get married, and which is fine
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: that when you're over fifty enough you don't have to
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: get married, but you do want someone in your life.
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: You know.
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: I agree.
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: The other thing, I was talking with the guy the
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: other night and he was saying, which was lucky for me,
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: that he has learned that he prefers to date a widow,
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: lucky for me. And I asked him, yes he did,
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: He said because many and he's divorced himself, but he
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: said he's healed. Of course, men always come out of
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: it unscathed. He said that the women he's dated who
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: have been divorced have trust issues, anger issues, and he goes,
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: you know, I'm like in an age, I didn't cheat
• 23:19
  Speaker 3: on her. I didn't, you know, I don't want to
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: spend my time no, but he's yeah, but he no,
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: he's talking about that. I don't want to be the
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: what he said that like the punching bag that wasn't
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: already used for a woman who's gone through a terrible
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: divorce because of cheating. And it made me wonder if
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: Brandy will ever I wanted her. I wish I had
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: said that to her. You know, you've got to find
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: a way to learn to trust again, because there is
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: no good relationship, marriage or otherwise if you don't have trust.
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: This is true. This is true. And I dated, well
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: sort of. It never really happens a man that was widowed,
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: and unfortunately I reminded him of his wife Kathy. When
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: I saw the picture, it frightened me. Really, we were
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: like clone, same haircut. She was a hairdresser, and we
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: had such great chemistry. He came to when I lived
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: in the city, to the condo and we went to
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: a big holiday party together and he was like, we're
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: very attracted to each other. But he said, I can't
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: do it, Susan, I'll compare you constantly. So it's a
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: it's a thing.
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: I mean, I haven't found that I haven't met men
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: in the in the dates I've had, and you know,
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: I'm starting to date a little bit more now.
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: I am not seen.
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: I actually try not to date men. I agree, that
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: remind me of my husband, but I haven't found that
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: to be an issue. But listening to Brandy, I mean, yes,
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: right now, she's healing. She's been through three years of horror.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: Yes, three years, that's a long time.
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: In pajamas, I get it.
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: But you can since she was out on Valentine's Day,
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: she's getting you Drew back, and it's going to come
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: time for her to put on those sexy heels and
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: have a date.
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: Those clothes and have a date.
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: And I guess, Brandy, if you're listening, which I hope
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: you are, First of all, you are a delight.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: I would love Susan. I would love to go out
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: with you in your life some time.
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: But secondly, do what you got to do to learn
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: how to trust again, because there is no good relationship.
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: I swear that's true. Do you agree with that?
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: Yes, I totally do. And it's hard. It's hard when
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: you were done wrong to trust.
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, well, we'll see, Brandy. Keep us up today, let
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: us know how things are going. And for the rest
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: of you, are you feeling stuck in chapter two? Email
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: us or call us. All the info is in the
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: show notes. We'd love to hear from you.
• 25:46
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• 25:50
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• 25:55
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