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A GOOD MAN IS JUST AN AVERAGE WOMAN!! · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on relatables? What made you realize a good
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  Speaker 1: man is just an average woman?
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  Speaker 2: When I went on a date with a.
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  Speaker 3: Girl, Oh I saw so many.
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  Speaker 2: I saw getting a girlfriend after only dating men my
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  Speaker 2: whole life.
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  Speaker 4: Oh it must be mind blowy relatable relatables podcast.
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  Speaker 2: It is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka mister D
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  Speaker 2: and my partner in crime, Addie Clark aka missus m
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  Speaker 2: Yeah that's me and Addie is missus m short for
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  Speaker 2: mummy because he's the one you go to when you
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  Speaker 2: know you got some boy problems.
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  Speaker 1: And Jake is mister D short for mister Dick because
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  Speaker 1: he has a massive penis. Let's go what mommy's hyping
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  Speaker 1: you up today?
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  Speaker 2: And this is a relatables podcast where you come to
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  Speaker 2: find a sense of belonging now maybe today, maybe today?
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  Speaker 2: Who knows to be completely Hopefully we talk about something
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  Speaker 2: in a silly goofy mood. Yeah we don't. If we
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  Speaker 2: switch up the intro, we don't. Really. It's a bit
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  Speaker 2: of a free style. Yeah, but Oddie, I've asked for
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  Speaker 2: the tip top of today's episode because I have a story.
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  Speaker 1: Some would say the chop top, the chop top, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: not a fan of chalk Top podcast over.
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  Speaker 2: Recent like ice cream what like I need to be
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  Speaker 2: desperate for something about like you know the movies chop Top. No, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I've never like one of those.
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  Speaker 1: Trucks at the beach ice cream chop Top melts on top.
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  Speaker 2: Like, I need to be desperate if I have an
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  Speaker 2: ice cream desperate, I don't even care how hot it is.
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  Speaker 1: This tip top segment, you've got to start better, be good.
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  Speaker 2: I actually think you might like it. So I want
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  Speaker 2: to start off. It's a bit of a story of
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  Speaker 2: something that happened to me last week. It didn't actually
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  Speaker 2: happen to me, but I was semi part of it.
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  Speaker 2: But I need to think, so I need to preface
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  Speaker 2: or just let everyone know. Two things we as we
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  Speaker 2: know so Beth has had her license for six months,
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  Speaker 2: about about six months, right, And another thing that I
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  Speaker 2: would like to just have let everyone know is that
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  Speaker 2: Henry's Henry's dog bowl is a ceramic slow feeder that
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  Speaker 2: costs ninety dollars.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, what's a ceramic slow feeder?
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  Speaker 2: So it's a ceramic bowl, but it's a slow feeder.
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  Speaker 2: So there's things in the bowl where the food gets
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  Speaker 2: like wedged in, so it's it's hard for him to
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  Speaker 2: get it, so it's like a mental stimulation, and so
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  Speaker 2: he has a ninety dollars slow feeder. Okay, the two
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  Speaker 2: things everyone needs to know, Yeah, Thursday last week. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I'm at home as I am when I'm not here,
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  Speaker 2: going about my day.
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  Speaker 1: The two places Jake's ever the podcast studio and home.
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  Speaker 2: So we also just had a new roommate moving named Amy,
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  Speaker 2: and Amy and Beth work together, so do they? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: They they both work for the same married couple, and
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  Speaker 2: the wife of the couple owns the cafe that Beth manages,
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  Speaker 2: and the husband owns a different business that is ran
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  Speaker 2: at the same place with you, and so Amy's the
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  Speaker 2: manager of that. So they've been working there for a
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  Speaker 2: long time. And Amy, she has just moved in. So
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  Speaker 2: they go to work together now. And so Thursday morning
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  Speaker 2: they go off to work. I'm doing my thing at
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  Speaker 2: home obviously, just being a king, big dicked king as
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  Speaker 2: you would, as you might say from the start of
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  Speaker 2: the app and I mean Henry at chillin And then
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  Speaker 2: it gets to I want to say, about four four o'clockish,
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  Speaker 2: maybe I tell a lie seven seven o'clock. That's working
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  Speaker 2: late this day, right, So it gets to seven and
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  Speaker 2: I am about to just like, I'm waiting for Beth
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  Speaker 2: to get home, and I'm about to feed Henry okay
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  Speaker 2: in his ninety dollars dog bowl. And I get a
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  Speaker 2: phone call from Beth and I'm like, yep, oh hello,
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  Speaker 2: and she goes, Oh my gosh. She's like Jake. She goes,
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  Speaker 2: I've done the dumbest things I am. I'm such an idiot, right,
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  Speaker 2: And I hear her sister in the background, and I
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  Speaker 2: was like, because I sister works at the cafe, and
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, what what what? She goes, Oh, I just
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  Speaker 2: got back to my car after finishing work and I
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  Speaker 2: left it on all day, the car eight hours. She's
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  Speaker 2: left the car on for eight hours. Keep in mind
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  Speaker 2: Beth works on an island, so she drives to a jetti,
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  Speaker 2: gets picked up by a boat boat to the island,
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  Speaker 2: boat back. How do you leave your car on? And
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  Speaker 2: she's actually left it on for about twelve hours, No way,
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  Speaker 2: just sitting there. Yeah, surely the bat she would have
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  Speaker 2: died because it was a movie. So she goes, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it was just on and I was like, okay, I
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  Speaker 2: was like Jesus Christ, Like, you're lucky it was still on. Yeah. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: fel Beth and her sister love to fuck with me
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  Speaker 2: and they love to fuck with people in general. So
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  Speaker 2: she goes, she tells me that and then she goes
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  Speaker 2: so and I was like, okay, believable, Like how do
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  Speaker 2: you make this up? Yeah? So then she goes and
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  Speaker 2: but but now my car won't start, and I was like, liar.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, I was like, I like how you
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  Speaker 2: went with this. I was like, yeah, cool, that's fine,
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  Speaker 2: but you're not going to trick me, Like I know
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  Speaker 2: you just told me you're still on missed the big
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  Speaker 2: D Yeah, Like I know you just told me it
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  Speaker 2: was still on. Yeah, there was no Jake, I'm telling
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  Speaker 2: you the truth. Like Caitlin's giving me a lift home
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  Speaker 2: right now. That's her sister. And I was like, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: whatever whatever. And I didn't believe it. I didn't believe her.
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  Speaker 2: And so then I go to feed Henry. And where
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  Speaker 2: where Henry's dog ball comes into play is I was
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  Speaker 2: getting him ready. I fed. I went over fed Henry
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  Speaker 2: and we like to train it. We've trained him where
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  Speaker 2: you put the dog bowl down and he waits for
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  Speaker 2: the release word of go, and so I got to
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  Speaker 2: put it down and he goes to go for it,
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  Speaker 2: and I was like, my pull up, motherfucker. I pull
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  Speaker 2: up and he sits back and I was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that's right, I gotta put it back down. It goes
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  Speaker 2: for it again. It was like, Henry, pull it too quick,
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  Speaker 2: flip it shatters. What's the correlation between death story and
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  Speaker 2: the door it, It's just something that happened. Okay, that happens.
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  Speaker 2: And so that shatters, and I'm like, oh, and I
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  Speaker 2: didn't pay for it, paid for it, bloody butterfingers over.
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  Speaker 5: It, and so I'm like, oh, what the fuck okay,
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  Speaker 5: and I just am like, Henry, get away from it.
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  Speaker 5: I had to go dish him up another bit of
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  Speaker 5: food in a different bowl.
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  Speaker 2: And give it to him, clean up the mess. And
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  Speaker 2: I was like, oh fuck, Like that's that's gonna be dead.
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  Speaker 2: She gets home and she's she walks in the door
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  Speaker 2: and like, she drives home. She walks in the door,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm like, d so she did drive home. So
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  Speaker 2: she drives home or door.
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  Speaker 6: And and I'm like, hey, hey, you idiot, you left
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  Speaker 6: your car here, go away. And then she comes over
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  Speaker 6: and I go, I need to tell you something, and
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  Speaker 6: I showed her.
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  Speaker 2: The dog bowl. She's devoed. She goes, but she's kind
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  Speaker 2: of like on a high from her car. Still she's like,
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  Speaker 2: I can't believe I did that. I'm an idiot. And
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  Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, I got to get I'll get
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  Speaker 2: you a new dog bowl. And so then at this
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  Speaker 2: point I'm just like fully thinking, yeah, she was just lying,
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  Speaker 2: Like you try to play prank of me, You're not
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  Speaker 2: going to get me. And then I go down to
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  Speaker 2: sit down to eat my dinner and her dad calls her.
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  Speaker 2: She says, hey dad, and he's just calling to say hi,
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  Speaker 2: and he goes, oh my god, I did the dumbest
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  Speaker 2: thing today. And he's like what, and she goes, I
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  Speaker 2: left my car on and and all day he goes,
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  Speaker 2: no way, no way. She goes, yeah, and now it
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  Speaker 2: won't start. It's still there. Caitlyn gave me a lift home,
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  Speaker 2: and I was like, you weren't lying. She goes, no,
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  Speaker 2: I wasn't lying. I'm telling you right now my car
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  Speaker 2: is not here. And I was thinking she's not just
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  Speaker 2: going to tell her dad the same life for no reason. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: not at all, And so turns out her car literally
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't start.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, right, so I assume it would have happened, like
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  Speaker 1: she got there, turned it off, try to turn back on,
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  Speaker 1: and it.
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  Speaker 2: Just wouldn't start. So then at fucking eight pm, by
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  Speaker 2: the time she's home, we've got to go out fill
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  Speaker 2: up a jerry can with fuel, drive to her car,
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  Speaker 2: which is, to be fair only five minutes away with
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  Speaker 2: no traffic, drive to a car, put it in the
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  Speaker 2: car so she can go get her a fucking car, right, okay? Interesting?
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  Speaker 2: Was she going to work the next day? Yeah? Okay,
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  Speaker 2: that's why. And I was like, you fucking idiot.
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  Speaker 1: Like she had like a semi new car, like it's
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  Speaker 1: brand new almost it's brand new. It is brand new
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  Speaker 1: for the Enginet, it would have just been idle petrol.
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  Speaker 2: It was just idle in the whole time. It locked
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  Speaker 2: in everything and everything.
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  Speaker 1: That's funny. Makes it funnier that she's on her red piece.
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  Speaker 2: It makes it funnier that she's on her red piece.
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  Speaker 2: And also like Beth is hands down one of the
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  Speaker 2: smartest people I know, but when it comes to like
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  Speaker 2: random sort of things, she's the dumbest person.
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  Speaker 1: But it becomes a point where a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: are really book smart, but I don't know if I
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  Speaker 1: want to call it life smart. But a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people miss a few social cues or miss a few cues.
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  Speaker 2: She just missed whatever this was. Yeah, the other day
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  Speaker 2: she asked me if she needs to bring her passport
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  Speaker 2: to Balley, not taking the piss, dead serious, aprocated bed.
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  Speaker 2: But he's sure she's one of the smartest people. You know,
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  Speaker 2: dead serious. Did you say, like, it's another country?
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  Speaker 5: I was like, so taken back, I was like, yes,
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  Speaker 5: you fucking need to bring it to fucking is it
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  Speaker 5: part of Australia.
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  Speaker 2: What are you talking about? That is funny, it was,
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, so I needed to tell the story about
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  Speaker 2: her fucking doing that. I could not believe it. That's Funnyways,
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  Speaker 2: how are you? I'm good man, I'm good. That was
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  Speaker 2: a good story to kick things off.
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  Speaker 1: I've got a little bit of a story.
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  Speaker 2: I might put mine in the.
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  Speaker 1: Dilemma category as well.
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  Speaker 2: Yours is he he ha ha. Mine is real life.
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  Speaker 1: Choices need to be made and I want to make
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  Speaker 1: them with you and the baddies.
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  Speaker 2: Sweet.
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  Speaker 1: So, as a lot of you know, a couple of
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  Speaker 1: weeks ago, it was my birthday and we're starting to
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  Speaker 1: realize that friends aren't putting effort in anymore, and on
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  Speaker 1: my birthday, out of harsh reality where one of my
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  Speaker 1: close friends didn't want to put any effort in anyways.
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  Speaker 1: So now here's where the dilemma comes in. So this friend,
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  Speaker 1: I guess.
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  Speaker 2: You could say, has done me badly, but it was
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  Speaker 2: just rude. It was rude.
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  Speaker 1: We haven't been talking and I haven't decided if I
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  Speaker 1: want to continue the friendship.
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  Speaker 2: Well, quick backstory, just in case anyone missed it is
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  Speaker 2: or he gave two months notice to everyone invited to
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  Speaker 2: his birthday. It was a one and one and a
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  Speaker 2: half hour drive away for everyone that lives around here.
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  Speaker 2: It was five minutes for me, which is graceful of you.
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  Speaker 2: But everyone confirmed, two months notice, confirmed, booking set right.
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  Speaker 2: And then the day of the birthday, this particular friend
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  Speaker 2: sent a message just saying, I have another job to
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  Speaker 2: go to don't know if I can make the lunch
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  Speaker 2: that and that's all he said, Happy birthday. Nothing.
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  Speaker 1: That's this a quick backstory. Yeah, which was like a
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  Speaker 1: harsh reality. Anyway, this is where the dilemma comes in.
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  Speaker 1: I guess so, and it's kind of like a reoccurring
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  Speaker 1: thing because I want to call it, I'm tired of
• 11:45
  Speaker 1: being the bigger person. So I found out this friend
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  Speaker 1: has had something happen to him where I would usually
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  Speaker 1: reach out and ask if he's okay. But usually I
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  Speaker 1: would just be the bigger person and call him and
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  Speaker 1: make sure he's okay. But I've been doing that for
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  Speaker 1: fucking my whole adult life with all my friends and
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  Speaker 1: putting the effort in, and this might be the first
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  Speaker 1: time where I'm like, I'm tired of being the bigger person.
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  Speaker 1: I'm tired of putting a hand out when they're not
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  Speaker 1: putting in the equal or the equivalent amount of effort
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  Speaker 1: for a relationship, which is what an effort, which is
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  Speaker 1: what a relationship is. So my dilemma is like, do
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  Speaker 1: I put my hand out and I know he's fine,
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  Speaker 1: but it's the nice thing and it's what a friend
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  Speaker 1: would do and say what are under the bridge and
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  Speaker 1: then reach out, or do I finally be like a
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  Speaker 1: little bit selfish I guess and be like fuck that
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  Speaker 1: he's a dog.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not doing anything going on with my life. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's I've been so I when I found out about
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  Speaker 2: what he went through, which when we say it, it
• 12:55
  Speaker 2: sounds super grim, but it's just like a normal thing
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  Speaker 2: everyone goes through. But it's like a life event, yes, right,
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  Speaker 2: and we don't want to be like too hell specific,
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  Speaker 2: even though if you listened to this he would know
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  Speaker 2: who it is. But anyways, when I found out, I
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  Speaker 2: was thinking, do I do I reach out? He's also
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  Speaker 2: your Yeah it's made as well. Yeah yeah, yeah, Like
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  Speaker 2: I was thinking do I reach out? Because I was like,
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  Speaker 2: fucking so off him from from doing that on your birthday.
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  Speaker 2: And then I said to Beth, I said, oh, you know,
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  Speaker 2: I think it was actually before, I think it was
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  Speaker 2: when we had our suspicions of what we thought happened,
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  Speaker 2: but it wasn't confirmed. I said to Beth like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: you know, I know, I know where I know. I'm
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  Speaker 2: off him for that, but what he did to Oddie.
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  Speaker 2: But I we're a bit sussed that this may have happened,
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  Speaker 2: you know. Maybe that's why he didn't go. Maybe that's
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  Speaker 2: why he didn't handle it. Well, I have no idea.
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  Speaker 2: And then I was like at the same time, fuck that,
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  Speaker 2: Like why is that an excuse? You know, why isn't
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  Speaker 2: it It's not a good excuse to be a ship
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  Speaker 2: friend and she was kind of like, no, I'm with you.
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  Speaker 2: I'm off that because she said like, did you up
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  Speaker 2: calling him? I said no, I didn't. She goes, yeah, no,
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  Speaker 2: I think it's just like the sitt excuse for and so.
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  Speaker 2: But now that it's confirmed, still I'm like, do I
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  Speaker 2: call him? And is the right thing to do as
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  Speaker 2: a friend to call him ask him how he is?
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  Speaker 2: But then also like just let him know that what
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  Speaker 2: he did on your birthday was super rude and just
• 14:29
  Speaker 2: be and and then at least it's not from you
• 14:31
  Speaker 2: and it's from me and so and just be like, yeah,
• 14:35
  Speaker 2: so he's gonna say he's okay. I know he's probably not,
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  Speaker 2: but you can do your best to try and talk
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  Speaker 2: to him and let him know you're there. Yeah. But
• 14:42
  Speaker 2: then I was thinking like do I do I call
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: him and say, hey, how would happen?
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  Speaker 1: How are you?
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  Speaker 2: And he's gonna say yep, good, cool, cool? And then
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  Speaker 2: do I just be like what was with Lotty's birthday?
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  Speaker 2: Like how can you did that? And he's gonna he's
• 14:56
  Speaker 2: gonna go oh oh. On the defense, I was busy,
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  Speaker 2: I had work, and then I'm going to do to
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  Speaker 2: give the classic you had two months notice, you could
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  Speaker 2: have got work off pretty fucking easily and then let
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  Speaker 2: him know that it's rude and then end it there
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: and then it's balls in his court, like you know,
• 15:10
  Speaker 2: if he apologizes to you, we apologize to you or
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  Speaker 2: do I Just my debate is leave, That's what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: And usually I would be the bigger person and call
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  Speaker 1: them and say all those things. And that's what I
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  Speaker 1: would usually do. But I'm getting to an age and
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  Speaker 1: just forgive the birthday and forgive it. And but I'm
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: getting to an age where I'm like, I'm kind of
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: like thinking, like fuck that, I'm over it. I'm ever
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: being treated this way. I'm over putting in the effort
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  Speaker 1: when no one else is. Yeah, And like I guess
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: we talk about it a lot more recently. The older
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  Speaker 1: we're getting, our friendships are starting to disappear. But I guess,
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  Speaker 1: is this one where I kind of have control because
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  Speaker 1: I'm tired of it? Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, let's say, I guess, playing Devil's advocate, if
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  Speaker 2: we put ourselves in his shoes and the same thing
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  Speaker 2: happened to us, I dare say it was within the
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  Speaker 2: week before leading up to your birthday.
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  Speaker 1: Lunch, if the same thing happened to us, I think
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  Speaker 1: it's more of a reason to hang out with your friends.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, at the same time, it's like deals with grief
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  Speaker 2: in their own way. Yeah, like trying to put it
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  Speaker 2: and you say grief. No one died, but like it's
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  Speaker 2: grief in a way. But at the same time, fuck it.
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  Speaker 2: He went through a breakup, guys, Jesus yea, it's hard
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  Speaker 2: to be around the bush. So if we went through
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  Speaker 2: a breakup and we had the same because I remember
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: having been through breakups where I had a heartbreak, and
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: sometimes you don't feel like doing anything, but then there
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: is times where it's like you do feel like doing something.
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  Speaker 2: So playing Devil's Advocate, does he have a leg to
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  Speaker 2: stand on? Because he was going through something he couldn't
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  Speaker 2: feel like he could He didn't feel as though he
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: could talk about it. Maybe he feels like he's been
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: a bit disconnected from you, so he didn't want to
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: bring it up. He didn't want to like tell you, oh,
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: here's why I can't come, and then you feel bad
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: for him on your birthday.
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't know though, but like even so, like
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: prior to this, I'd messaged him like three or four times,
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: with like different events to go to or when to
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: hang out. Yeah, I was just getting aired and having
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: shitty little responses through So I'm just like, fuck, I
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: was just like, I think I'm going to be selfish
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: and not doing anything I'm not.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't blame you at all. Yeah, you at all.
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: And it kind of it's hard for me to accept
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: too that I'm doing that.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: But I think the older I get, the more I'm
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: starting to realize that the people around me are cherished
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: so much. And if you're not in my close circle
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: and you don't want to put the effort into the
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: amount I'm putting in, fuck you.
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: Look, I would one hundred percent agree. It is hard. Yeah,
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: I think with this particular friend it's been.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: I also want to leave it because he's a man
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: who isn't like us and wouldn't.
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: Be thinking about all these things. No, I don't think
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: you would think like, no, fit bad about No, he
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: just wouldn't.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: He'd just be like, I'm a bloke. I'm going to
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: get all my life. It doesn't matter. Yeah, I think
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: he is. Yeah, he's got that mindset and the fact
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: that he's like that. I'm just going to see what happens. A.
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: I think ye, if it was you, and like, for
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: argument's sake, say you did that, we would voice and
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: sit down and have an emotional conversation about how it
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: made me feel and how you did it and how
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: you were sad about breaking up.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: But I don't think he has a tool to do that. Yeah,
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: and it's just funny, like I'm not going to.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: Talk to him in that way and saying you hurt
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: my feelings by not coming to my birthday. I would
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: never say that to him. He wouldn't understand. He'd be like,
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: you're bitch.
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: But maybe it could make Maybe you could. And then
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: what it could be is like that's you actually again,
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: like you're being the bigger person but also standing up
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: for yourself. At the same time, you're letting him know
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: that what he did hurt your feelings. Sorry that you're
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: going through what you're going through, but what you did
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: actually hurt my feelings. It was fucked up, Like it
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: was just fucking rude. And then if he decides to
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: go down the route of like, oh, boohoo, fucking my
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: name's already that my friend didn't come to my birthday.
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: Fucked up being a bitch. Yeah, then it's kind of like, okay,
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: maybe your feelings were hurt even more. But then it's
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: also appreciate the fact that you did that, and then
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: he showed true colors, and then you know, like you
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: don't have to be thinking, am I making the right decision?
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: Not like you, there's no dilemma, you know what I mean.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: There would be no dilemma in whether or not you
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: actually reach out or not, whereas if maybe he would
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: apologize and then maybe you get to keep a friend.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: So that's another aspect because in that way, you it's
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: it's not someone you would voice your opinion to about
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: how they made you feel. But then at least you're
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: giving him the chance. I've done my part, so you've
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: done your part. You're being the bigger person but also
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: sticking up for yourself, and you're giving him the chance
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: to also show some sort of empathy. And if he
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: doesn't show it, and it's like, okay, well chance after
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: chance of chance, now you get none more chances.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: I do like that, and I guess that could be
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: the move that is giving him some benefit of the
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: doubt because I don't know completely what's going on in
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: his life.
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: No true. Someone left a comment I remember when we
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: first spoke about it, giving him the benefit of out
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: you don't know what everyone's going through and stuff. And
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: again I looked at it and I just thought, there's
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: no excuse to be a ship friend. Though. I just
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: I think that there's never an excuse to be a
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: ship friend where it's so easy to say I'm not
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: coming for this reason. I'm so sorry, happy birthday. We
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: wouldn't be having this conversation otherwise. Yeah, yeah, if he
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: even if we thought the reason wasn't very valid, but
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: he was like, I'm so sorry. If he called me
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: not feeling up to it.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: If he called me and said, like a birthday man,
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: hope you had a good day when you get up
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: to you had a five minute conversation and he said, oh,
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: by the way, i'm calling because I can't make it today.
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: Like I wouldn't even need an excuse. Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. Yeah, yeah,
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: just talk to me so like a human being. Yeah.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: Fuck, I'm wondering if it's worth it, not like I'm
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: your fucking boss. Make it today, sorry dude, Yeah, shit,
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: fuck off, it is. I do like what you said, though, Yeah,
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: I think yeah, trying to play Devil's ad. I think
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: that's maybe more the more mature.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: Response, maybe yeah, But I got to say, like, I'm
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: also the type to be like, yeah, fuck off.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: Interesting, I'm gonna dwell on a little bit more. I
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: do think I might link towards that, because you're right,
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: it gives the friendship the closure it needs, or the chance.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: To still be there. Yeah. Scary thing to do as well,
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: because I do value it. Yeah well I did, Yeah
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: you did? Yeah anymore? Alright, guys, Time for field versus field,
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: where we compare dating on regular apps.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: To dating on field, where the connections are way more
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: open minded.
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: Week one is firstge etiquet, all right. On regular apps,
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: it's just hey, or how's your weak? Super groundbreaking on field,
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: blindfolded dessert tasting dot dot dot you in mate, straight
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: to the good stuff, no small talk. Just here's what
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: I'm into. Let's go.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: Honestly, it's like really refreshing to hear that, hey.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: Fields where people are up front, coffee dates, rope workshops
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: or anything in between, they don't gate keep connection.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: In an age where dating apps create hurdles defining your people.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: Field is built differently, where they don't guide your desires.
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: It wouldn't be possible anyway. You will neither be punished
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: nor rewarded for exploring your desires unless that's your thing.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: Download Field and find your blind folded dessert partner, Baddie.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: Time for the IG question this week was a good one,
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: very good. Right before and get into it, I just
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: want to say quickly, over on Patreon, that's only five
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: dollars a month, and you get book Club early. You
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: get an extra episode every Thursday, and every time we
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: watch a show, you're going to get some live reactions
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: to the show and you can watch along with.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: Us, and if you're lucky, might get to see mister D.
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: You might get to see mister D.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Guys, technically, technically, technically, technically that as you will.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: Short and sweet, but it helps a lot. We really
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: appreciate it. It does help. But this week's question of
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: the week is what made you realize a good man
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: is just an average woman.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and this question actually has been in the back
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: of my brain for a while. I think someone commented
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: ages ago, a good man is just an average woman.
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: How to pose it into a question? Because it's so
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: fucking true.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: All these expectations of men are so low, and all
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: these women are doing amazing things, and then a man
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: will to do fucking all these things and like, well
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: he's a good dude.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: I mean, it's just yeah, they're just doing ordinary thing, Yeah,
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: ordinary ordinary things. Crazy. Do you want to go first? Okay,
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: this one, bro, when my male friends are praised as
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: hands on dads, but there's no such thing as a
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: hands on mum.
• 24:30
  Speaker 6: Yo.
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: That is a bit mind blowing. Actually.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: My first one, it's funny you pick that as your
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: first one, too, is when men get praised for babysitting
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: their kids.
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that is fucking kid, dude. That is swearing a lot.
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: I'm very passionate, Yeah, very passionate. Episode. There's only one
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: way to make get passionate out, and that's swearing. Yeah.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: I got a bit emotional before. Now I'm passionate. But no,
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: how crazy, Yeah that is crazy. It is. It's going
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: back to like.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: That nineteen hundreds mindset of like a man just works
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: and the woman's meant to do everything else, and when
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: he does do the most little thing, it's appreciated so much.
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: It is it's like he's doing extra Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, wow, wow,
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: people talk about hands on dads all the time. Have
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: you seen that trend where it's like I've seen so
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: many of the videos where it's like a quote on
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: the screen and it's and it goes, oh, your husband's
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: you know, so involved, and then the next one is, yeah,
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: I didn't fucking marry a dick. Yeah, I didn't marry
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: a loser type thing.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: Cassie did one Cassie said, doesn't your boyfriend care? You
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: always go solo traveling, and then she goes.
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: And then she goes, No, I didn't. I didn't date
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: a loser. Yeah, like I didn't start dating a fucking loser.
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah that's insane. Yeah, good way to put it.
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, what made you realize a good man is
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: just an average woman being busy with life but making
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: effort to see you is praised.
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: Facts, bro fucking hell. Yeah, it's weird. Hey, And there's
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: like that joke that every.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: Family makes that men can't multitask, and when they do,
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: it's praise so much. Yes, my every woman is so
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: good at multitasking, which they are. Yeah, but like that's
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: just girls for some reason, that's just women.
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: Dude, I don't know, it's yeah, I gotta say it's
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: also hard, like there's a blurred line of what the
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: bare minimum actually is now because there is people out
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: there that are wowed by the bare minimum. So some
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: people would classify X as the bare minimum, but it's
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: the But then some people would be like, oh my god,
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: I can't believe you did that type bare minimum like
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: this one. Yeah, when I ended up applauding him for
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: doing laundry and making dinner, standards were that low.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like being relatable for the counterpart and
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: the relationship that.
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: Becomes your normal.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and when something that is ordinary happens, you think
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: it's amazing.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: Exactly. Yeah, the new normal is him sitting around doing
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: fuck all, and then when he gets up and has
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: some initiative to do the laundry and do the and
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: cook some cook a meal. Yeah, you're like, whoa.
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: I want to be Devil's advocate to a sense, because
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: some people like that if that's all they do, If
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: that makes sense?
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: Does that make sense? I think it does. Some people
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: like that.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: Where we're saying both people in the relationship want each
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: other to do a lot of effort. I know a
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: lot of relationships where both people don't want to do
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: any effort. So this is when someone does do something like.
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: That, I guess it's their level. Yeah, that's their level.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: I don't want to shoot on anyone's relationship if.
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: That's what they like. Oh yeah, true, Yeah, you don't
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: want to get anyone spiraling. Yeah, should they just be doing?
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: Because I can appreciate if you don't want to put
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: it doesn't sound right. But if you don't want to
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: put any effort in either, and you both don't do
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: it together, you're a good team.
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: I guess. I guess, yeah, you made for each other.
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: It kind of sounds bad. I mean, I guess you're
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: trying to play devil's advertage. Yeah, it is what it is. Okay.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: What made you realize a good man is just an
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: average woman? When I went on a date with a girl?
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: Oh I saw so many I saw well, getting a
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: girlfriend after only dating men my whole life.
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: Oh, it must be mind blowing.
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: It must be different.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I know what sucks sometimes like dudes.
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: Oh, I reckon the worst. It must be the worst
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: thing in the world being a heterosexual woman. Yeah yeah, yeah,
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: what made you realize a good man is just an
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: average woman? When I'm organized and on top of things.
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: It's expected when my boyfriend is, it's above and beyond legit.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: That's the whole concept, the whole entire concept. Oh it's crazy.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: Hey, I don't like treating our own horn either, But like,
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: why are some men like that? And like is it
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: just down to how you how what makes up your DNA?
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: I don't know, man, Or like is it a choice?
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: I'd like to think it's a choice and these people
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: aren't making the choice.
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: No, it's a choice, yeah, you know, No, No, it's definitely
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: a choice. I think it's definitely a choice. I think
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: everyone knows what the bare minimum is. I think every
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: man knows what the bare minimum is. I do think
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: they do know that, and so I think that there
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: is an active choice made where laziness comes into play
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: and lack of effort and kind of that's not what
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: I do. And I am who I am. You started
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: dating me or you married me when I was like this,
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: why would I change? I think that's the mentality. Yeah,
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: you know, stubborn. It's not like I've gone downhill. I
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: was here the whole time, and now you want me
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: to go uphill, even though uphill is just to the
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: bare minimum.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: It's kind of like how you view relationships.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: I guess like that always work.
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: It's like you can always improve, you can always learn,
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: and you can also always change your standards.
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: Within a relationship. And can you grow together?
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: Or does one person think that that's just how I am?
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: That's crazy?
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: What made you realize a good man is just an
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: average woman? When a good man has a job, the
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: average woman is advancing her career.
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: Never thought of it.
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: Like that, wow, And we always see on all of
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: our questions like anything about the bare Minim'm all like,
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: what do you look for in a man? It's just
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: like a good job or like full time employment, whereas
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: girls are being boss ass bitches.
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: Damn bro, I mean the way I know, I never
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: thought of it like that. Ah, wow, that is good.
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: Well here's one on that. What made you realize that
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: a good man is just an average woman? When he
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: was proud of himself for working a whole forty hour week. Ah,
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: to be fair with what we do. That's kind of
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: me to be fair. Forty weeks for me, I feel busy. Yeah, sorry,
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: forty hours for me.
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: I'm like fuck, toxic big week, toxic mate, big week.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: Leave me alone. It's also different though, because like you
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: can't track when you work. It's funny.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: But also, okay, this one's good. What made you realize
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: a good man? It's just an average woman. When you
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: have a loyal man, you go around bragging like it's
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: an achievement.
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: Damn, what the hell? Yeah? Wow, I have nothing to
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: say to that. That's so true, you know, putting in
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: a pros and cons list, he's loyal even on the list.
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: Should be a should be default. Like what that's crazy?
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: That is so so true. Okay, what made you realize
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: a good man is just an average woman? When a
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: guy said, quote, a clean workout, don't smoke or do
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: drugs like every dating bio ever. Am I supposed to
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: be impressed? You mean you're just a human. Yeah, you
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: mean you live a normal human life and you're not
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: just a fucking Idiot's because the bar is so low, bro,
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: the bar has been buried. That's what's happened.
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: I saw some people comment saying, ah, you guys are
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: raising the bar now, there's no man.
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: Stop doing it. Do something toxic.
• 33:06
  Speaker 5: Yeah, hey, I tell you what that forty week one
• 33:10
  Speaker 5: living die, I'll be toxic living die.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: Work week for me is too much.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: Okay, what made you realize a good man is just
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: an average woman, not complaining when sick, just dealing with
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: the inconveniences.
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: It couldn't be me.
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: I'll put my hand up. I admit that that's me
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: as well.
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: I am not good at being sick.
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: I've been sick for like two weeks on and off.
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: I've just been complaining how hard life is.
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: This is unfair. Not one, not one part of me
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: sees the light at the end of the time when
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: I'm sick.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: Man flu See, we can be toxic to Yeah, we're
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: not perfect by any means.
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: Okay, what made you realize a good man is just
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: an average woman. I've never had to ask my friends
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: for something but had to repeatedly remind a man.
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, that's like fucking we experience that one too. Whenever,
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: like you pay for something and your mates who are boys,
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: have to transfer, you have.
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: To ask him like fucking ten fucking times. Oh I
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: always give up. Yeah, I'm a fucker.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: Whereas girls they do it before you even ask. Yeah,
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: simple analogy. It's so good day, don't do it right
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: then and there?
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, dandy and Cassie.
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: She's transferred me before we've even walked out, like where
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: I've just paid for it.
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: I still find it so funny that she refuses to
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: let you pay for meal.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: She does occasionally, Okay, I don't let me pay for
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: like expensive ones.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: That is the funniest thing to me. Yeah, I'm like
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: I would be. I would transfer it directly back to Beth,
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: but then in your case, Cassie would transfer it directly
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: back to you. Also, I also don't care.
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: Like we go shopping and like she buys her stuff
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: and I buy mind, I like, I'll pay for it,
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: and then she goes and looks at the receipt like
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: you don't have to do it, and she's.
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: Like, yes, I do. Just that is the funniest thing
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: in the air. I don't know why. I appreciate it.
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay to me, Yeah, what made you realize a
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: good man? It's just an average woman. When they wash
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: their hands after going.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: To the loop. Oh shit. I actually don't wash my
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: hands unless I poop. That's disgusting. I don't wash my
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: hands after a week. Do you touch your mister d obviously? Yeah, dude.
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: If I'm in a public toilet and I'm going in
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: there and the only thing I'm touching is my wien.
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: We're not going to go touch something else to wash
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: my hands. I'm clean.
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: Where you're going more a public toilet or your own house?
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: I was thinking about your house.
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: Oh, I don't do it in my house either, pretty chat,
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: I'm clean. I don't know, man, it's literally the equivalent,
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: you're It's the equivalent of doing this. You flush a toilet, Yeah,
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: you dirty dog? When are you talking abouts on that
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: fucking flush? What do you mean? I closed the lid.
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: I'm the one that told you about closing the lid.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: The button that you press after everyone's taken a shit.
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: So much bacteria on there. Wash your hands, dude, disgusting
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: my hands after I a piss, You're toxic. Not washing
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: my hands after a piss toxic. That's that's not toxic.
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: That is toxic, and it's not toxic. I'm not washing
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: my hands after a piss. That to me, that's insane, Rubbi,
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: it's not. I'm not pissing on my hands. Just wash,
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: wash them because also it just washes from day to
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: day life that you've just stop flushing when I pissed
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: then and I'll save water, and I'll only flush when
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: I ship.
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: I may as well save water if I'm getting while
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: I'm out. I see that argument. There, you got it's
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: very toxic. How is it toxic? It's not toxic that
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: I don't wash my hands after I WII. I watched
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: them after I pooh, You.
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: Being a man, has the conclusion to not flush the
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: toilet rather than just going to wash your hands.
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: Saving water, saving the planet. David Attenborough, he'd meddleed me
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: saving the bare minimum, saving them. This has not this
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: has nothing to do with bare minims, because there's nothing
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: to do with Beth or whoever else is the relationship.
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: I saw a video and it was like men when
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: they try and like touch their partners and like grab
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: their facing, kiss or something, and then there's like men
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: for the rest of their day, Like you're like fucking
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: touching like grass, like flush and toilets, like looking at
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: a dog pill and shit, like getting shit off the
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: bottom of his shoe, and then you go and grab
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: best's face to go kiss. That's you.
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: I can't believe it's some One time we did an
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: ig question no no, no no. I was looking at
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: our Dilemma's page where we choose dilemmas from. Because I've
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: talked about not washing my hands after a week before
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: and hill, I'm willing to die. And by the way, guys, clearly,
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: but someone said they had a dilemma and they go
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: I think the dilemma was something like one of my
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: favorite podcasters just admitted he doesn't wash his hands after
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: he goes to the toilet. And I don't know if
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: I can listen anymore.
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: Another reason to do it one listener, Sorry bad no, sorry, Maddie.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: I love every single one of our listeners.
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: You didn't wash your hand? Okay, I have one more?
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: What made you realize a good man is just an
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: average woman living with one true I will leave it
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: on that.
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: Baddies, we had my dilemma before, but now it is
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: time for.
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: All your dilemmas.
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: If you want to submit a dilemma completely anonymously, it
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: is linked in the description and also link in bio
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: on Instagram.
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: Score to the bottom. There it is, and also no,
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: not to be annoying, guys, but on Patreon we do
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: dilemmas and it's got its own page. It has way lesseners,
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: so if you have a dilemma that you does really
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: need to answer that Jake washes his hands on the
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: Patreon episodes. Should we should bring some? Ill tell you
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: what if I had hand sanitizer in my bathroom, I
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: would every time? What's the difference? I don't know, get
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: your hands where and like turn tap on, tap off,
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: pumping this so trying your hands afterwards? Stop talking? All right?
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: Dilemma times, Hi, boys, I would really value your opinion
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: on a current situation I'm in. Recently, my partner and
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: I have broken up after being together for a year.
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: There was no dramatic reason or anything as such. I
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: just felt as though the relationship had simply run its
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: course and no longer aligned. I was the one to
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: break up with them, and Brackett's reasoning being that they
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: couldn't give me what I wanted in the relationship, and
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: they fought and fought so hard for the relationship, but
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: I wanted nothing to do with it. Now, having been
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: a part for four months, I see so clearly the
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: role I played in our relationship and that it was
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: never their doing. If anything, they gave me the best
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: they had with what they had, and I.
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: Was simply the bitch.
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: What I was so obsessed that it was them that
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: couldn't show up for me in a way that I needed,
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: when really I was just rigid in my own beliefs
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: and lost them in the process. I've been feeling really
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: awful about the situation and have contemplated reaching out to
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: them to tell them what I've learned and take some
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: weight off their shoulders in brackets, because I would hate
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: if they were walking around for the rest of their
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: life thinking they were the reason the relationship ended and
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: I played no contribution. I want to talk to them
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: and explain that seventy percent of where it went wrong
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: was my fault. But I'm also aware that they may
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: not want anything to do with me anymore, as I
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: didn't handle things the best I could have. There was
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: a lot of hurt and damage done on my behalf.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: I'm aware they may be focusing on themselves and don't
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: want to reopen closed doors. I don't know if I'm
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: seeking their forgiveness when I should be seeking my own,
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: or if I'm now realizing what a great relationship it
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: was and I'm hoping there might still be a chance.
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: I really don't know what to do. I've tried to
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: keep this short and simple for you. I hope this
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: makes sense.
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: I would really value a male's feedback if you find
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: the time. Thanks so much, baddies, I appreciate you.
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: Tough one. Wow, some self reflection. That's growth. That is growth.
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: That's growth. Last half full, last half full, that's growth.
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: That is growth. I'm gonna go straight away off the
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: bat and say, don't message you.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think we can make you feel better
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: about yourself.
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: I think it happens for both genders. Though he's not
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: going to be.
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: Blaming himself completely. A relationship is always two people. It
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: is always too I don't think he's walking around thinking like,
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: damn it, I fucking ruined that.
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: And he was perfect. If he is thinking that it's
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: up to himself to end up healing in a way
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: where he realizes that it wasn't just his fault. Yes, exists,
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: like you have and it's honorable, Like how much weight
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: you are taking on the situation. I guess OTHERWI she's like,
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: I'm just a bitch.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but it kind of like takes this to happen
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: to realize or else you never learn.
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: Like Jake said, growth, this is what life is about. Yeah,
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: like you make.
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: Mistakes exactly and you have to live with them and
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: the best thing to do for him and although you
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: probably want a little bit of close up, but she
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: also said I still stand on don't message him. But
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: what if she wants to make the relationship work.
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: I don't know. As the door closed, I think from
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: an outsider looking in, I'm going to say, I think
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: the door's closed. I think damage has been done. It's
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: only been four months.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: My opinion on breakups are they do happen for a reason,
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: and like Jake said, the damage is done and that
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: damage is never fully able to heal.
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. And like, I'm sure, definitely you
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: could work through it. There's definitely, I'm sure that ways
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: to work through it. If you're meant to be you're
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: meant to be right. But I just think that four
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: months of reflection and you've now realized what you've realized,
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: I just think that there's more to realize. I don't
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: think you're one hundred percent there yet. Obviously I could
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: be right, it could be wrong, but I think that
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: there is there's more time. And I think that when
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: you break up, you should break up. And I'm not
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: a big like everything happens for a reason. Guy. But
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: when it comes to this, my thinking is, if it's
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: meant to be, it's meant to be. So if you
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: are meant to be with him, it will end up
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: happening at some point, and it will happen when you
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: are both ready on its own course.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I I'm going to lean towards putting this down
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: to learning.
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I agree with Jake.
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: You still have a lot to learn potentially, but more so,
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: don't take what you've learned and then put it back
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: back into the person which you learned from. M Take
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: what you've learned into your next relationship, for that's really
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: what growth is about.
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: Fair you know yourself more, Yeah, you know what you
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: need more. And here's the thing is that you might
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: think that you will be in a bit, But at
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: the same time, you know, if he was giving everything
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: you had, then I don't know, like it sounds like
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: you were giving him an excuse for some behaviors that
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: maybe you didn't like at the time. Now you're thinking
• 44:27
  Speaker 2: that you might have been being unreasonable. We don't know
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: the actual situations, but there's a pretty good chance that
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: maybe you weren't being unreasonable and now you just feel
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: bad because you handled it like a bitch.
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: Everything has an equal and opposite reaction. And although upon
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: reflection you feel like a bit, he might have forced
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: you into that situation. You never know, like when all
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: your guards are up and there's like a bit of
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: an argument going on, Like he's put you in that situation,
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: or you put yourself together when you tour together.
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: That's what happened.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, although you want to take a most of
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: the brunt, you were both there.
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, look you've done. I think excepting that you were
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: a bitch is a good, good, good start.
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: And even even your mindset too. I would you said
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: it was seventy percent your fault, it was.
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: Fifty to fifty. It's always fifty to fifty no matter what.
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: It's two people, it can never be one person's more
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: fault unless the cheat.
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Unless what you've what you want in
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: a relationship is just it is, unless it is super unrealistic.
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: That would mean. But if if what you want is
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: actually pretty realistic and he couldn't give it to you,
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: I don't think that means that he was giving one
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: hundred percent, like anyone can you know what I mean?
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: Like he was giving one hundred percent of what he
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: could give. But if what you wanted wasn't unrealistic, then
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: that would mean that he could have given it. Yeah,
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: if that makes any sense.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: The fact that you said could give makes me feel
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: like you should go somewhere else.
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, we're saying leave it and take it down
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: to experience. Yeah, all right, mine's devastating. Okay, So, about
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: a year and a half ago, my boyfriend of ten
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: months passed away, oh, in a car accident. It was
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: really hard, and I've been in therapy and focusing on
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: healing ever since. I am a twenty six year old
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: female and I still want to get married and have kids.
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: One day I started dating again, but I'm scared that
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: people will judge me for moving on. To me, it's
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: not moving on. The love I have for him will
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: never go away. I see it as the same kind
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: of way you can love your mum with all your heart,
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: but that doesn't mean you don't love your dad just
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: as much. I know I still have more love to give.
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: I think I'm ready to try and find love again.
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: I will admit it's been lonely. From a guy's perspective,
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: is this considered serious baggage, and is it okay to
• 46:49
  Speaker 2: continue to honor him and remember his life even if
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: I end up dating someone else. How do I approach
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: talking about him to a new partner and being vulnerable
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: about the grief? I feel alone in this. I feel
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: alone in this because most people my age don't deal
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: with this kind of scenario. Well, firstly, Battie, so sorry,
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: sorry you had to go through that. That's heavy. I
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: really like.
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: How she's looking at it. The trouble with dating is
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: you have no idea how the men you're interacting with
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: will take that. But I think the only thing that's
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: important here is how you're dealing with the grief and
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: that you're comfortable with how you're healing and how you
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: remember him, remembering him, because some men will take that
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: as you can't get over your ex, toxic, who gives
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: a fuck, fuck him off. But the right person will
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: appreciate the situation for what it is. And I think
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: that little there's always going to be a piece of
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: him in your heart and you're going to remember that forever, forever,
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: and the right man can appreciate that because of the situation. Yeah, yeah,
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: And there's definitely gonna be some bad guys out here
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: who are toxic and don't appreciate.
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: That by any means, there will be.
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: But the only thing that's important is you're healing in
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: whichever way you see fit, and you can't control how
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: they react, So just do whatever you feel is right.
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: I would agree, and I think other people's judgment. So
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: I guess you're thinking maybe those close to you, his
• 48:26
  Speaker 2: parents and his siblings, his family. I think that if
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: you are ready, and who is anyone to judge, especially
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: with the way you're looking at it, in the sense
• 48:42
  Speaker 2: of you're not moving on. No, you know you still
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: love him, you will always love him, and yeah, like
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: you it sounds rough to say, but you also have
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: a life that you need to live now. I was
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: gonna say, like, you still have to be happy, you
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: still need to be still deserve love, you still deserve
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: to have that family. And then, okay, do men consider
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: this serious baggage? I want to say, yes, but not
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: in a bad way, you know what I mean, Like,
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: I see what you're saying, Like if this, you know,
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: baggage is always thought of as like this bad thing,
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: but if you just think of baggage as another thing,
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: where it's not good or bad. It's like, yes, this
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: is probably on the high end of serious baggage, but
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: it's just a it's a part of your story. It's
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: literally it's who you are, part of who you are,
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: and it's gonna be I guess, I guess it will
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: be up to you. It's gonna be up to you
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: to find the man that is I want to say
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: okay with it, or find the man that understands and
• 49:54
  Speaker 2: has empathy in the right ways.
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: I think it's also harder for you because, like you said,
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: a lot of young people don't experience this.
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: You are unfortunately very alone in this, and a lot of.
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: People don't have the tools to deal with the situation.
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: A lot of men don't have those tools. A lot
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: of young men don't have those tools.
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: And when does she bring it up? I think, like,
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: when you know you like someone? Yeah, I'm thinking like, so,
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: if you feel as though you can bring it up
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: on date one, go with your gut and bring it
• 50:32
  Speaker 2: up on date one. But if you think, I think,
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: I just want to like, just as soon.
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: As you're ready, Oh yeah, as soon as you're already
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: is the piece of advice I would give because every
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: single situation when you're dating comes up in a different
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: time period.
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: And when you open up to someone in that way,
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: it could be at first date, it could be three
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: months down the track. Whenever you're comfortable, is my piece
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: of advice.
• 50:56
  Speaker 2: I think it's totally up to you. Yeah, if you
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: feel like the person you're talking you right now is
• 51:01
  Speaker 2: is someone you could tell right away, then tell them
• 51:04
  Speaker 2: right away. But if you feel like I'm just not
• 51:06
  Speaker 2: ready to talk about it, like I'm having a good time,
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: this is this is, this feels right, I want to
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: say you'll figure it out too, like damn, yeah, I'm
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: so sorry. This is Yeah, it's it's a very very
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: hard situation. Yeah, I was. I don't even want to
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: perhaps I don't want to think about what it feels
• 51:25
  Speaker 2: though I wouldn't be able to. Now, you wouldn't wish
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: that on anyone, fuck me.
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: But I was trying to say, like, you've got it, baddie,
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: You've got it. You're gonna deal with some terrible men,
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: but you've got it either way.
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  Speaker 2: Agreed. Guys, It is time for comments.
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: If you want to get your comment read, just comment
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  Speaker 1: on this episode and we might get to it the
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: following week. I'm going to go back to back because
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: they both relate to each other. Okay, so I've got Spotify.
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  Speaker 1: Brooks said, you guys be raising the bare minimum standard,
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: making it harder to find a good guy.
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  Speaker 2: And then I don't know about this. This person's name
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  Speaker 2: is just D. Was this you? No, that was not me.
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  Speaker 1: D said, listening to you guys talk about the bare
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: minimum is super o opening. When I look back in
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: my past recent long term relationships, the bar is indefinitely
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: way higher.
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  Speaker 2: Now, love the pod. Thank you. That's so sweet. That's
• 52:24
  Speaker 2: very nice. I have one from Patreon. Okay, I have
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: two from Patreon. Patreon, Yes, and it's we spoke about
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: happiness on that, but the two comments talk really they
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: have good perspectives on happiness from Brookie I to some extent,
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: So I to some extent agree happiness is a choice.
• 52:45
  Speaker 2: But I see it from a different point of view.
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  Speaker 2: I think you choose your problems in life most of
• 52:49
  Speaker 2: the time. I think if you're faced with a problem,
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: you choose how to react to it. You can react
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  Speaker 2: by crying and saying the world is against me. You
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: can bear it and say it is what it is
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  Speaker 2: and deal with it, or you can ignore it until
• 53:01
  Speaker 2: you need to deal with it. How do you react
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  Speaker 2: to problems determines your mindset, which determines your happiness. I
• 53:07
  Speaker 2: like that point of you kind of a good take.
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  Speaker 2: And here's a new one, brand new from Hannah. I
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  Speaker 2: haven't read this one yet, sir, because she said it's
• 53:13
  Speaker 2: on the topic of happenings. On the topic of happiness
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  Speaker 2: is a choice. I think hormonal fluctuations need to be
• 53:21
  Speaker 2: taken into account because when women have severe PMS or
• 53:24
  Speaker 2: PMDD and hormones cause anxiety and depression or other mood
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: swings every month, sometimes twenty out of the thirty days,
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: it's kind of hard to be happy with life. So
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: that's another thing that is to be take into account
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: or completely agree PMS and PMDD can last twenty out
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: of the thirty fucking days.
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  Speaker 1: I would even say, like just a broad statement of
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: hormonal changes in general.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, fact, yeah, that completely affects your happiness. Okay, But
• 53:51
  Speaker 2: as time for the baddie sign off.
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: If you want to sign off one of our episodes
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: and get called by Jake and I the linkers in
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  Speaker 1: the description today we are calling Jelene.
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  Speaker 2: So the digital flat form.
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, is that Angeline? Yep, it's Audie and Jake
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  Speaker 1: from the Relatables podcast.
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  Speaker 2: How's it going?
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: Hi, guys, let's scream how are you guys?
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: Good? Thanks?
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: Are you in a classroom or something? We heard the
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: start of someone talking, Yeah, I'm in Uni.
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  Speaker 2: It's all right, guys, Sorry, sorry about that. Thanks all right,
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  Speaker 2: take the time you guys are more inportan. Thank you,
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: Thank you.
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: We're talling to see if you wanted to sign off
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: our episode, if you had some advice or perspective, a song, lyric, anything,
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: if you want.
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: To sign it off. Yep.
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: Can I just say I love you guys, and I
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: love your podcast.
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: I watch it so funny. Thank you.
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: So I want to say, follow your guts yea.
• 54:49
  Speaker 2: We love that. Yeah, we love that. Thank you so much.
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: That is a good. Thank you that great. Have a
• 54:53
  Speaker 2: good guy you do. Bye bye? Like started off by
• 54:59
  Speaker 2: something on and I was like that he's even picking
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: up at you, and she's like the worry. You guys
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: are more important. We love your baddy. Stay bad