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Letting Go of Sentimental Clutter - Clutter Challenge Day 3 Without Overwhelm · Overwhelmed Working Woman: Boost Productivity, Master Time Management, Overcome Overwhelm & Stop People Pleasing

• 0:02
  Speaker 0: you're listening to overwhelmed working woman with me, your host, michelle gothier.
• 0:06
  Speaker 0: I am coming back to you with clutter challenge week day three.
• 0:12
  Speaker 0: Today we are going to be talking about keeping things for sentimental reasons, gifts people have given you or things that belong to people who you love, that they have given you or passed down to you.
• 0:27
  Speaker 0: Don't forget to go to the link in the show notes and get on my email list so that you can actually participate in this challenge with us.
• 0:36
  Speaker 0: As you respond to my emails each day, you get entered every time into a drawing and the winners will get gift cards to the container store, which is the best store ever, or a coaching session with me, which is, I can't say, the best coaching ever.
• 0:52
  Speaker 0: That's.
• 0:52
  Speaker 0: That seems like I'm a little full of myself, but it's going to be great coaching.
• 0:56
  Speaker 0: You can get a free session and they're normally $250.
• 1:00
  Speaker 0: So get on my list, reply back to my emails, tell me what you've done for the clutter challenge that day and you could be one of those winners.
• 1:08
  Speaker 0: Okay, so let's jump into it.
• 1:11
  Speaker 0: I used to believe that if someone I loved gave me an item, no matter what the item was, I had to keep it forever.
• 1:17
  Speaker 0: Sometimes, keeping it forever might mean like in a bin in my basement storage, but I certainly could never get rid of it because it was from someone I loved.
• 1:27
  Speaker 0: And what I came to realize as I became overwhelmed with things that people would hand down to me was that loving a person and loving an item they gave you are two totally different things.
• 1:40
  Speaker 0: And as I lost two people who were very, very important to me both of my grandmothers on my mom's side and my dad's side I realized that the memories with them, with each one of my grandmas, didn't change or fade because I did or did not have like a tablecloth that got passed down to me from them.
• 2:01
  Speaker 0: There's a total separation between loving and missing someone and holding on to an item.
• 2:08
  Speaker 0: Now, if there's an item like I have a little teacup of my Nana's that I keep in my office, when I see it it reminds me of her and it makes me happy.
• 2:18
  Speaker 0: It's just one cup.
• 2:19
  Speaker 0: I have it sitting on a shelf.
• 2:20
  Speaker 0: I absolutely love it.
• 2:22
  Speaker 0: That's different.
• 2:23
  Speaker 0: But keeping something that you don't use or don't love just because it's from someone who you love is just a way to clutter up your house and sometimes we can't get rid of those because we start feeling really guilty about getting rid of them.
• 2:37
  Speaker 0: So I invite you today, as part of the clutter challenge, to think about what is it that I am holding on to that I don't really want, but I feel like I should, and then remember that when someone gives you something, a gift is a gift with no strings attached.
• 2:56
  Speaker 0: Your only job is to thank them and appreciate the thought behind it, and that's it.
• 3:00
  Speaker 0: If they expect you to keep it forever, that's not your problem, that's not your obligation, and you just need to remind yourself I can love the person and not love the gift, just like I have some gifts I love from people that I don't necessarily love.
• 3:15
  Speaker 0: Things and people are separate and we don't need to tie them together.
• 3:19
  Speaker 0: So go get on my email list so that you can answer the question of the day, and when you answer the question of the day, you get entered into the drawing to win those great prizes I mentioned at the beginning the container store gift card or a coaching session with me.
• 3:33
  Speaker 0: Double extra bonus points if you actually get rid of something that you have been holding on to out of guilt or obligation.
• 3:43
  Speaker 0: Okay, I'll see you tomorrow for more.